04x19 - Doyle Family

[bunniefuu]

Tonight, jo meets the doyle family. [Both] hello.

This young couple is in way over their heads

And failing parenting .

What quality time did they spend with you?

But -year-old sarah... [Screams]

And -year-old lizzie

Both have advanced degrees in mischief.

You are hurting me. [Bleep]

This is gonna go on all night. I don't have the strength.

[Cries] you'd better find it.

You have to stay. No! No! No!

Will these parents pass jo's test...

"What is lizzie's favorite color?" [Ding]

Blue.wrong.

[Ding] help mommy clean?

Oh, you are wrong.

I feel like he doesn't think of this stuff on his own.

[Doug] actually, we don't. Or is this family headed for a fall?

Whoa, whoa, whoa! [Crying]

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Now I wonder what family we've got here today.

Let's take a look.

Hi, I'm brandy, and this is doug, and we're the doyles.

We have three small children.

Sara is age lizzy is age

And andrew is months

These children are adorable. Brandy and I both work full-time.

I'm a lawn care technician. She's a leasing professional.

Young parents, and both working.

We're the parents. They terrorize us.

Stop it. Let him go.

No! [Doug] lizzie-- she's /.

[Screams] she is our biggest problem, I guess you would say.

[Crying]

She's a handful.

[Crying]

She throws temper tantrums.

She's just miles an hour, hours a day.

You're gonna pick every one of those up.

You're--hey!

[Cries] stop hitting me!

My oldest, sarah--

She's , and she is stubborn.

She will fight until the end

And fight until she wins.

She got a hold of the scissors

And decided that she needed a haircut.

These children have crossed the line.

[Brandy] andrew is months old.

[Cries]

Andrew whines a lot. [Whines]

From the time we wake up till the time we go to bed,

It's--it's nothing but screaming kids.

[Screams] [cries]

[Girls scream]

My word.

We definitely don't know where we went wrong.

Stop kicking me.

No! Ow!

[Brandy] we are close to giving up.

We've tried everything.

[Crying] mommy. No!

Supernanny, please help us.

Whoo! You guys need a back-to-basics class.

I'm on my way.

[Rings doorbell]

Hello.hello.

Can I come in?sure.

Pleased to meet you. I'm jo. I'm brandy.

I'm hoping that she sees that I am a young mother,

Years old,

And I am just inexperienced

And just need some help.

Introduce me to your brood here.

This is andrew.

Hi, andrew. Say hello.

Hello, sweetie.

And sarah. Hi, sarah.

You gonna shake my hand? You gonna shake my hand? No?

And then we've got lizzie, who's .

Hi, lizzie. Are you gonna shake jo jo's hand?

Wow, all under . That's a handful. Yes.

Well, today, what I'm gonna do is I'm gonna watch you.

So please carry on with what you would normally be doing.

Your partner's here, or...

Dad's at work. Okay.

Lay down on your pillow.

[Jo] soon after I arrived,

It was time for andrew to be put down for a nap.

So I went over to the girls, who were playing on the computer.

[Cries]

Tempers started to flare, and it hadn't been long.

[Cries]

Stop it!

It appeared that the girls had some sharing issues.

[Girl] mommy!

[Brandy] I don't allow sarah to play upstairs

When andrew's napping.

Unh. Put me down.

Mom got sarah downstairs, but she didn't wanna stay there.

You know what?

I'm gonna put the gate up at the top of the steps.

No!

Stop it.

You don't climb over this. It's dangerous.

You can go to your room then.

If you wanna stay up here, you can go to your room.

[Crying] no, no, no. Stay. Stay.

No.

I don't know what else to do. She won't sit in a time-out.

The first thing I'm thinking when I'm watching brandy

Holding that doorknob

And not allowing sarah out of the room,

"What are you doing?"

Calm down. No.

Sarah, calm down.

And then she starts to have a conversation through the wall.

Then she felt sorry for her, took her out of her room,

Brought her downstairs and made more fuss

Than the whole thing put together. You are hitting me.

I don't like this.

I don't like that.

I cannot let you go up there. Your brother is taking a nap.

You can play on the computer later. But it didn't end there.

Because lizzie started to kick off... We're not watching cartoons.

Literally. [Brandy] nope.

No! Don't kick it!

If you kick it and break it, then we'll never have tv.

[Lizzie] no.

[Kissing]

Mom tackles discipline with kisses and tickles.

[Laughs] [giggles]

No lesson is taught here.

The children must be incredibly confused

With what brandy's trying to teach them.

[Giggles] nothin'.

To keep the girls quiet, mom sent them outside,

And I got a chance to speak to mom alone.

How much in control are you of their behavior?

I don't feel that I have any control

Over their behavior.

They don't listen to me, and they...

They hit me. That's embarrassing.

So what's it like when you've got friends around?

We don't really bring friends or anything around.

We don't want them to act out in front of other people.

I just don't want them to think

That I'm a bad mom

And I'm doing something wrong.

That must be very isolating for you, though.

I mean, you're a young mom.

Um, I don't even know who I am anymore.

All I am is a wife and a mom. Um...

That's all-- that's all I am.

She's not really enjoying motherhood.

It seems all a bit too overwhelming for her,

And at the moment, she's not in a good place.

And I just don't know what to do, how to change that.

Coming up on...

A door is left open to danger... [Crying]

And jo strikes a nerve...

But you're lazy when it comes to dealing with the kids.

I love my kids.

When "supernanny" returns.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

Later on in the day, mom brought the girls inside,

And I wanted to see what she had planned for them. No, no, no.

Stop!

No.

But what she had planned was nothing at all.

So do you just clean in the afternoon?

Um, I clean all day.

So it must be hard to deal with the children

When you're cleaning all day.

Yeah, but it has to get done.

Are you bored?

Mom spends a lot of time cleaning the house

Instead of her focusing her attention on the children.

There's some wonderful games here for andrew,

But he's not playing with them.

I think mom has this little voice in the back of her head.

It's like, "clean, clean, clean, clean,"

Because as she was going downstairs,

She'd left the door open...

And andrew was, like, inches away

From a very long staircase...

So I just grabbed him before he took that leap down,

And I just think it's incredibly dangerous

And completely naive of mom not to recognize

What she needs to do in order to keep andrew safe.

I get home from work, and jo's at my house.

Hi, doug, pleased to meet you. Hi, nice to meet you.

I'm jo. Hi. Hi.

I knew what she can do,

And it was definitely a sign of relief.

[Jo] just after I met doug,

He composed himself for a few minutes

And then he made himself comfortable on the couch.

Sarah, please stop kicking me.

My dad sits on the couch a lot

And watches tv.

[Doug] why don't you-- why don't you go play?

[Jo] the girls were trying desperately

To get dad's attention... [Whines]

And he wasn't paying any interest at all.

Get up.

[Doug] I'm tired.

Get up.

I'm tired.get up!

I just kept thinking of "wake up, doug.

"You've got three children,

And you haven't seen 'em all day."

[Doug] go get the game, and you and sarah can play.

The girls finally gave up on dad, and they started

To play a game together... Match.

No! But it turned chaotic.

If you guys are gonna fight,

I'm just gonna put the game away.

[Lizzie] no!

Then stop fighting! Just play--just play the game.

There is a lot of chaos going on in the living room.

Just put her in time-out. No!

And dad wasn't managing that very well at all.

[Doug] I work hard.

It's my break time to sit on the couch

And not have to deal with life, I guess.

I wanted to find out from brandy and doug

Who did what when it comes to raising their children.

You're both working parents...

Mm-hmm. But you spend the same amount of time

With the children, correct? Yeah, I would say we spend

About the same amount of time with them.

Would you agree with that? No, I would say I'm with them more.

No, you don't agree with that then?

Um, no. She takes them to school and picks them up.

It might be two, three times a month

I take 'em or pick 'em up.

[Laughs] I'm sorry. Two or three times a month

You take them and pick them up?

My husband is lazy, around the house

And with the kids.

I take care of everything--

What we're going to have for dinner,

Doing the grocery shopping, I take care of bills,

I take care of the kids most of the time.

I-i feel like the manager of the family,

Like I'm delegating,

"Doug, can you give the kids a bath?

Can you put the kids to bed tonight?"

I feel like he doesn't think of this stuff on his own.

My job is a lot more physically demanding.

I'm--i'm exhausted when I get home from work.

Is she breathing hard after she prints up a report?

Because I'm breathing hard after I treat a lawn.

And I didn't know she had a problem with it until now.

Whatever! We talk about that all the time.

Actually, we don't. [Jo] the pair of them start to argue

About how they're raising their children.

I don't get a break. I don't get

To sit on the couch and watch tv. You don't?

If I do, it's after the kids go to bed. It was rather awkward

Being in the same room with the pair of them

Whilst they were pointing the finger at one another

And blaming each other for their situation.

I don't know why we're going round and round

And round about this. Yeah, and we will.

Mommy!

Does this happen often,

What I'm seeing going on here?

Yes.yeah.

She got a pretty good sense of what brandy and I go through.

Um, a lot of arguing, a lot of bickering back and forth.

Does--does anything get resolved

Between the pair of you when you have issues?

No. He just, um, pretends that it didn't happen.

If I didn't do that, it would never be resolved,

Because you are the most stubborn person I've ever met.

Does anything get resolved? No.

No.

Okay.

It's time these two stopped running around in circles.

I need to sit brandy and doug down

And talk about changing the situation.

When I first arrived,

I walked into a home that was spic and span.

You provide a lovely home for your three children...

But...

You are a young couple.

Where is the enthusiasm

And the motivation

Where it should be?

And that's the children.

There is a complacency there, and there is a laziness there.

I don't feel that I'm lazy.

I mean, I'm doing something. I'm cleaning up something.

Do you hear yourself?

You don't think you're lazy because you're cleaning,

But you're lazy when it comes to dealing with the kids.

Let's talk about discipline.

Who's running this household here? [Doug] they are.

We try to put 'em down for, um, for a time-out,

And they just will not sit there.

How do you get 'em to sit there?

For a start, you recognize

That you're the parents in the house.

Lizzie, yesterday, brandy, was misbehaving.

She didn't listen to you,

And you actually went over to her and said,

"Come on, lizzie," and you tickled her.

That's mixed messages.

If she wasn't going to sit in time-out,

I was just trying to distract her from what she was doing.

That way, she-- she would stop misbehaving.

But what you do is,

You set yourself up to fail, the pair of you.

So that when you do go upstairs

And try to implement any form of discipline,

It spirals out of control

To the extent that you've gotta hold a door.

Let's talk about the structure of your day.

Yesterday, we spent more than hours

Together with the children,

But what quality time did they actually spend with you

Doing things where they were stimulated and having fun?

I-i don't know.

That's sad.

[Crying] that's really sad.

[Sniffles] I love my kids more than anything,

And I don't wanna neglect them.

And, brandy--

Brandy, I know that you love your kids,

And, doug, I know that you love your kids,

But if you're gonna love your kids,

Then let 'em see it...

And the way you show your kids that you love them

Is not just about making sure

That they're looked after

And fed and watered like a flower...

But to give them you,

'Cause that's what they want at the end of the day.

They want you two.

Jo made me feel like I don't spend enough time with them,

And I neglect them.

It hurts me to think that it could be true.

I don't wanna neglect my children.

Am I now looking at two parents

Who are prepared to accept what is going on in this house?

Yeah. And are now prepared to put the hard work in,

And let's start changin' it?

Yes, please. Absolutely.

Well, okay, let's get started.

Coming up on...

You do not hit your brother.

With lizzie on the naughty chair, mom's feeling the heat.

Can we turn some air conditioning on in here?

But jo won't let her burn out.

I mean, this is gonna go on all night.

I don't have the strength and the energy.

Listen to me-- you'd better find it.

When "supernanny" returns.

But first, a tip from supernanny.

Parents, it's not a competition

About who does the most housework.

It's about making sure that you get the work done.

Stick together and take on the responsibilities

Of sharing the chores.

If it helps, divvy them up and stick with it.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

♪ Be good, be good ♪

[Jo] the first thing I did was to place up a routine

So both parents could take responsibility

And know exactly what they are both going to do together.

Let's run through this routine.

All right, the kids are at day care

Through to the evening.

But at :, dad,

I want you to pick up the kids from day care.

Mom's got a big smile on her face.

That is a big help.

And at :, dad, you're home with the kids.

[Doug] my job is very physical.

I like that hour and a half, two hours of peace that I get.

Yeah, so I'm a little uneasy

About having to pick the kids up.

[Jo] doug stepped up.

He picked the girls up from day care,

And to make sure he didn't fall straight back onto that couch,

I set him and the girls up with some finger paints.

[Doug] normally, I would be sitting on the couch right now

Watching a little-- a little bit of tv

And barking orders at 'em while they're--

While they were playing and things,

And I haven't turned the tv on yet,

And i--to be quite honest, I don't miss it.

Say "bubbles."

Say--you wanna eat it?

Playing with the girls comes easy for doug.

He's just got to get off that couch.

With what you've learned,

You're now able to enjoy this time with him,

And you're gonna have this all the time now,

Because you've been able to put so much into place

In your own household, where you're now enjoying...

Your parenting,

And just enjoying being a father.

That is really pretty.

You wanna put this on the counter and let it dry?

And I'll take it to work and hang it up.

It felt good to me. You know, I devoted my time to the kids

And not just to the couch.

So I proved to myself and the world

That I can be a good father.

With my tongue in cheek with brandy,

I'd like to say she is definitely "mrs. Mop."

She likes to clean /, and the frustration

Of not being able to get out that dustpan and brush

Was getting the better of her.

I'm not very organized today.

You mean, you haven't spent so much time cleaning today!

So I don't know where anything is today. It's a good thing.

Jo pretty much told me I clean too much,

Which shocked me.

The house didn't need attention. The children did.

So I told brandy to go and find the children

And have some fun with them.

Girls, slap some shoes on.

We're gonna go outside and swing.

I put the cleaning supplies down.

I spent more time with the kids.

You know somethin' I know you guys would love to do?

[Girl] what?

Play dress up with your makeup.

Yeah! This is the kind of time

That mom should be putting into the kids, not the house.

They had a great afternoon.

I look like a baby. [Laughs]

Kissy break.

[Jo] look at mommy!

[Girls laugh]

Later on, while we was in the kitchen,

Lizzie started playing with a fork in her mouth.

Not very safe.

What you don't want lizzie to do is to be

Walking around with that in her mouth, okay?

In case an accident happens.

If you put that fork back in your mouth,

You will sit in the naughty chair.

And lizzie didn't listen, so it was time for the naughty chair.

You are sitting on the naughty chair

Because you did not listen to mommy

When she told you to take the fork out of your mouth.

You're her mother, and she does as she's told.

Okay. And if she doesn't listen to you,

Then there's a consequence that she's gonna have to pay.

[Jo] what brandy needs to learn is the basics of discipline.

She's never set any boundaries for the girls before.

She's gonna do as she's told, mom,

Because you're gonna make a difference tonight.

[Brandy] she got up again and again and again and again.

After the first five minutes,

I was worn out, I was tired, I was hot.

Can we turn some air conditioning on in here?

I'm just supposed to keep on and keep on?

What's happening? It's just gonna--

I mean, this is gonna go on all night.

I don't have the strength and the energy.

Listen to me-- you'd better find it.

It was really tough for mom.

She's never followed through with discipline,

And I was determined that today, that was gonna change.

Walk.

No. Don't talk to her.

She will listen to you and do as she's told.

Back on the stool, all right?

And lizzie didn't like it. Her behavior escalated.

[Crying] do not bite me.

Oh. You all right?

I'm goin', I'm goin'. Are you all right?

I just don't know how much longer I can do this.

All right, you're gonna do it

For as long as you need to do it.

Why are you gonna do that for your kids? Why?

Because I love them. Exactly. Let's go.

Let's go. Exactly that.

[Crying] no.

[Crying]

After a -hour struggle,

Lizzie finally stayed in the naughty chair

For three minutes, and then mom asked for her apology.

Would you like to tell mommy you're sorry now?

Whisper it in my ear. Nobody can hear.

[Laughs] thank you.

I see why jo did it.

It was not about, "it was just a fork."

It was about being consistent

And showing lizzie who is boss.

I love you.

Coming up on...

Hi.

Lizzie and sarah put a curse on their play date...

[Bleep] it. You [bleep] it.

[Bleep] and send their friends packing...

This is why we don't have people over.

When "supernanny" returns.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

[Jo] mom's really afraid to have people over at the house

Because of the children's behavior.

It's gonna embarrass her.

So to build up their confidence,

I told mom and dad to ring up some friends

To arrange a play date.

Adam, um, question...

Would you and your wife be interested

In coming over for a play date?

The children need to learn how to share

And how to play with other children.

[Doorbell rings] hi.

Oh, look at gracie. She's gotten so big... Look at gracie's hair.

Since we've seen her. [Brandy] I was excited. I thought, "jo's here,"

You know, "we're gonna do it right. We're gonna be okay."

Hello, jo. Hi, nice to meet you.

I'm adam. Hi, adam, pleased to meet you.

[Brandy] things were going really smoothly, and I thought

It was going really well and we were gonna be able

To do this now.

And then suddenly, lizzie didn't share,

And her behavior got worse.

We do not kick. We do not kick.

When andrew puts it down,

Then you can get it back, okay?

[Whines] no. No hitting.

Even in company, mom had to put lizzie on the naughty chair...

No!

And as if that wasn't enough, sarah followed suit,

And dad had to put sarah on the naughty chair, too.

Hey, you do not pinch me. [Crying]

We have our friends over, and we have to end up

Putting our kids on the naughty chair,

And I thought, "here we go, the embarrassing part,"

And all hell broke loose.

[Crying] [crying]

No.

And their behavior just escalated

To the point where they were just swearing.

[Bleep] it. [Bleep] it.

[Bleep] mommy?

[Bleep] it.

Now I'm startin' to worry about

My year old

And the--the dirty words.

You [bleep] it. [Bleep]

[Both laughing]

This is why we don't have people over,

Because of the way our kids act.

Oh, I'm sorry, and I really hope that we can do this again.

Oh, we will. It'll be fine. Okay.

Finally, our friends ended up leaving

Because they didn't want their son

To hear that kind of language.

The swearing, okay? Is to get a reaction.

But I stuck with brandy and doug

And said to them, "just keep going,"

And they did.

The timer starts again.

I wanna hear you tell me that you're sorry.

Sometimes I don't like to say I'm sorry.

Now I want you to say that you are sorry to mommy...

Sorry. For that behavior.

Sorry.

Today, it didn't go as well as they hoped,

But if mom and dad can follow through with the discipline,

Their play dates are gonna get better for them.

I wanna hear you tell me that you are sorry.

[Jo] okay, hug and a kiss. Okay, hug and a kiss.

The girls certainly tested their parents today,

But mom and dad, they set some boundaries.

So play dates are only gonna get better.

Brandy and doug don't spend

Enough quality time with their children,

And I think they need to realize

That they don't know their children

As well as what they should. Okay, I've got you both here

Because we're going to play a little game,

And this game is "how well do you know your children?"

Okay, question number one--

"What is lizzie's favorite color?"

[Ding] blue.

Wrong. "What is your favorite thing to do with daddy?"

And I asked sarah.

[Ding] be pushed on the swing?

Wrong. Oh, wrestle, wrestle, wrestle. I bet it was wrestle.

"What is your favorite thing to do with mommy?"

And I asked lizzie this question.

[Ding]

Help mommy clean?

[Laughing]

Oh, you are wrong.

It made a game out of

Our embarrassing failures as parents.

And the next question--

"What flavor is lizzie's favorite ice cream?"

[Ding] chocolate.

Yay! About time. [Laughs]

And I thought, "oh, crap. We need to really

Get on the ball and get to know our kids."

Unfortunately, I won't be giving you

The answers to the questions...

And for homework, you're going to find out

A lot about the girls, and when I come back,

I'm gonna ask you some questions again.

Sound good?

Yeah. Mm-hmm.

Brilliant.

Jo jo's going now. Can I have a big hug?

Big hug. I'll see you in a couple of days!

Keep supporting one another, all right?

Remember, it's about sticking together.

Okay, and I will see you when I get back.

I am confident that I can do

The techniques that she has taught me.

I'm a little nervous.

So we'll see how it goes. Bye!

[Jo] I've given brandy and doug

A lot of information over the past couple of days.

So I hope they remember it all and use it.

Coming up on...

Andrew's flying high... Whoa, whoa, whoa!

And jo gives mom a pop quiz. They're takin' the pictures.

And you walk up and you go, "where did all the pictures go?"

Naughty chair or not?

When "supernanny" returns.

But first, a tip from supernanny.

Parents, if you want to arrange

A play date at your house, but you're worried

That your children may not share,

Then to avoid the tears and tantrums, compromise.

Allow your children to choose one special toy

And put it away in a safe place,

But be sure to let them know

They've gotta share the rest of their toys.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

♪ Be good, be good ♪

[Jo] the doyle family had a lot of information to soak up,

So whilst I've been gone,

I just hope that they've remembered it all.

Here goes then.

What's your favorite snack?

Strawberries and grapes.

Strawberries and grapes is your favorite snack?

Sarah's favorite number is...

.

Yeah! . I know.

[Brandy] what's lizzie's favorite snack?

Banana. Bananas?

What's your favorite thing to do with daddy?

Wrestle!

Wrestle!

[Jo] hey, that is just absolutely delightful to watch.

Well done.

I set you guys this homework, and you followed through.

It's brilliant.

[Giggling]

[Doug grunting] daddy, make sure he doesn't grab my...

Somebody! Whoa, whoa, whoa!

Andrew's on top of the table!

That's not good, is it?

[Giggling]

[Doug] are you on yet?

[Girl] hey, he's over there!

Heather, right?

What, is he having lessons in skydiving now?

As soon as I noticed, I ran over to get him.

If you didn't know now,

Youdo have to grow eyes at the back of your head

And be very aware that you havethree children.

Okay?

[Brandy] hi. How are you doing?

Sarah's gonna be so excited to see you.

Okay, sweetie.

Sarah is going to share all of your toys with her.

I know, but what if they hit the wall?

Everybody off the bed!

[Girl] now get off!

Sarah, this is your warning. This is your warning.

We weren't jumping. You need to get off the bed.

Mommy asked you to get off the bed.

[Brandy] I don't wanna do this now.

I got some of that blood on my face. Come on.

I want a snack. No, put me down!

Why did she get in trouble, mommy?

'Cause she didn't listen to mommy

When mommy asked her to get off the bed.

No. Yes.

We all make mistakes sometimes.

My friends were playing on the bed.

I had to stay on the floor.

[Speaking indistinctly]

If you don't want them to jump on the bed,

Then all you have to do is say to sarah,

"I don't mind you and the girls sitting on the bed,

But please, no jumping."

And walk out the room

And allow them to have fun together.

But more to the point,

You then become naughty chair happy.

It's not so effective because

"Mom and dad put me in the naughty chair

For the most silliest of things."

I don't think jo thought we did as well as we thought we did.

There were some areas that definitely need improvement

That she was able to point out.

Are we ready to move on to the next stage? Mm-hmm.

Great. Well, I'm very excited to do so. Let's go, then.

Brandy came out of the dvd session a little unclear

Of when she should and shouldn't use the naughty chair.

I am just having trouble, I guess, judging the--

What deserves a naughty chair and what doesn't.

A lot of situations can be resolved

Without using the naughty chair,

And that's what I wanna show brandy today.

Okay, so, brandy, what's gonna happen now

Is you're gonna teach the children

How to share the stencils together

Between them, all right?

Mom and the girls in the playroom--

One table, two children, two pieces of paper.

Put your paper up here. [Crying]

Put your paper up here.

Lizzie, if you want to do the stencils with sarah,

You need to stop your temper tantrum,

And you can come to the table, and we can do stencils

And we will have fun.

Mom's instincts were correct.

She's looking to resolve the situation

Without using the naughty chair.

I honestly don't know what to do

Because if you put both of these papers down like I did,

That should be fine, right?

[Crying]

Or... Look, look. Watch.

Like that? Exactly, sarah.

Sarah recognizes what needs to happen,

And she very smartly moves the table around

So that each child can have an end of the table.

Fantastic. How smart is that?

But mom should have thought of that, too.

There you go. Look at that.

I didn't even think of that, and sarah did. She's so smart.

Good job, sarah.

Well, that was figured out,

But I wanted to give brandy a little test

To see how she would do in other situations.

The children are playing,

You've got another five kids here.

And all of a sudden, they're taking the pictures.

There we go, and you walk up, and you go,

"Where's all the pictures gone?" Naughty chair or not?

Quick thinking. No?

[Bell dings] you wouldn't give a naughty chair

Because, okay, they've taken the pictures off the wall.

But they're not being destructive.

This is no big deal. Okay.

If they werewriting on the wall,

Or if they were... Give me an example.

Fighting?

Then you would deal with it appropriately, okay?

Okay, let's go down to the next one.

Jo took me through to different rooms

And gave me different scenarios.

It's cuddle time, quiet time where you're reading,

And you've got the girls snuggled up to you either side,

And andrew's right on your lap.

And as you're reading a story,

You give another book to andrew,

And sarah keeps snatching that book from andrew.

What would you do, naughty chair or not?

No, no naughty chair. [Buzzer]

That does warrant a warning...

Okay. Because they're not sharing.

What's the lesson you're trying to teach your children?sharing.

Exactly. All right, let's move on to the next one.okay.

We're sitting down, and we're having lunch,

And andrew's having a field day.

His hands are going in the milk, and he's looking at it,

And he's fidgeting it around on his plate.

Naughty chair or not? For andrew?

Yeah. No.

[Bell dings] oh, you did get that one right, okay,

With andrew, because of his age.

Brandy caught on, and I think that she started to see

The bigger picture.

So now she won't be so naughty chair trigger-happy.

So remember, it's about being in control of the situation

And not controlling your children.

And that's a big life lesson.

Being left on our own

Brought up a lot of new questions,

And jo's reinforcement is definitely helping with that.

Coming up on...

The babysitter's not gonna want to babysit all the time.

With mom and dad out on date night...

[Screaming] elizabeth!

Lizzie tries to run the babysitter

Out of town...

When "supernanny" returns.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

[Jo] brandy and doug have worked really hard,

And they deserve a night out.

So I've arranged for a babysitter

To come and look after the kids.

There's one rule for the parents

In being able to come to a coffeehouse and chill--

Talk about yourselves

And anything else but the children.

This is nice. You look really pretty. Thank you.

[Screaming] elizabeth!

[Screaming]

[Laughing]

[Crying]

[Screams]

I'd like to see a movie.

Mm. Too soon.

Are we only allowed out-- what, every six months?

[Laughs]

The babysitter's not gonna want to babysit all the time.

[Crying]

[Woman] I was overwhelmed.

And I didn't know how doug and brandy was gonna react.

You know, I didn't want them to be mad at me.

[Crying]

So you guys ready?

Mm-hmm. Both of you better get back, right?

Yeah.tea time and the kids and stuff.

Little did we know while her parents were out,

That lizzie was making the babysitter's life hell.

[Screaming]

Hey, what's going on?

[Brandy] when we came home,

I immediately felt like we shouldn't have went out--

Like I had failed in my job as a parent

And given that job to somebody else to take care of

When I should have been the one doing that.

This is why we don't go out and leave the kids

With a babysitter.

Explain what's happening

So that we can deal with this situation.

Oh, my word. I just felt so--so sorry

For deanna and what she'd gone through.

She's pinched andrew, she has bit him, she's bit me.

She has bit sarah.

I'm sure lizzie thought that she'd got away

With her behavior.

Fat chance. I wasn't letting her off the hook.

That isabsolutely appalling.

You are on the naughty chair... Stay calm.

Because you behaved naughty while we had a babysitter.

Brandy was very concerned with the thought

That maybe lizzie was regressing and behaving worse.

What she's done is she's seen deanna,

And she's thought, "oh, I'm gonna try now

"And see if deanna's going to take this,

Or whether she's gonna put me on the naughty chair."

Jo definitely put my mind at ease.

She let me know that, no, this is just a new situation,

And lizzie was testing if mom would follow through

Because it happened with the babysitter.

Say that you're sorry. Sorry.

For a woman who never even implemented discipline

In her house, I'm really impressed

That brandy has got the confidence now

To follow through with the naughty chair,

And she's doing fantastic.

You fought deanna. You didn't listen to her.

You need to tell her you're sorry for that.

For your behavior. For your behavior.

I accept your apology,

But now no more misbehavior like that because...

"I." Speak for i--i willnot tolerate that behavior.

I will not have any more behavior like that.

So can I have a big hug because jo jo's going home now?

[Laughing]

I wish jo jo could stay forever.

Remember, no hurting one another.

Okay? You play nicely together.

We kiss and hug our sisters. Exactly.

And you need to do that with your brotherand everybody else.

Bye-bye, sweet pea.

So two young parents who didn't know where to turn

And didn't know what to do have learned a lot.

Keep communicating, get out as a couple,

But at the same time, I wanna see you spending

That quality time with your family.

Let me give you a big hug, brandy.

Listen, you take care, okay?

Thank you so much.

You are welcome.

I owe jo everything.

She has changed our life.

Take care, take care.

Thank you so much. You are welcome.

I was really worried about whether or not

Her techniques were gonna work on our family in particular,

But they really have, and I'm really grateful for that.

Take care. Bye-bye.

I leave this house feeling very satisfied

That I've been able to make two young parents

A lot wiser over a short period of time.

[Laughs]

[Doug ] do that one.

[Brandy] my whole family life has changed.

Our household is happy,

And things have improved so much.

Every day is better than the day before.

Okay, hold your arms up like this.

Jo made me realize that the family I wanted

Was here all the time.

[Brandy] doug and I work together,

And we actually have house rules now.

Look. Look.

The girls are sharing, and they do as they're told.

Andrew, you pet the lamb?

Looks like a baby puppy, right? Good job, andrew!

We're not kids raising kids any longer.

We are two adults that have put our foot down

And decided that we are in control

Of the situations that go on in the house.

[Doug] I am looking forward to the future,

And I am looking forward to being the kind of dad

That my kids deserve to have.

Look, sarah, look at the pony.

My mommy and daddy play with me more.

My kids are sharing. They're saying "please."

They're saying "excuse me." It's great. Here she goes.

[Doug] I have the family that I've always dreamed of having.

I'm looking forward to raising awesome kids.

You want some water?

[Laughter]