05x10 - The James Family

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Tonight on "supernanny,"

Jo visits the home of nba star mike james...

[Cheering]

And she'll have her work cut out convincing mike

They're on the same team.

It's always easier

To deal with somebody else's children.

Oh, that is-- that is very arrogant.

You will never-- hold on.

You can't come to a better assessment about my family

Than I can.you're not even giving me a chance.

Mike's family, with four young girls,

Has just moved into a giant house

With lots of dangerous distractions.

[Girl] dad.whoa. Hey, ja--jadon!

[Crying]uh!

Will mom be able to take care of the kids

When dad leaves for the season,

When she can't even keep track of them in the family home?

Where is jadon?

And will dad keep cool enough for jo to help the family...

How come your plus always got to equal ...'Cause you al--

And nobody else know how to do math?

Or will jo have to give him a helping hand?

[Laughing]

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Well, I'm here in houston, texas,

Ready to help a family, so let's take a look.

My name is mike. This is angela.

And we are the... James family,

And we have four kids.

My oldest daughter, her name is jadon james.

She's years old.

My second daughter amaya, she's years old.

We also have michal who is months,

And we have mckinley, and she is months.

I'm going to my gym right now.

I'm a professional basketball player.

I play in the nba with the new orleans hornets.

My preparation for the season

Is very vital to me.

Mike spends most of the day training.

So I'm gone away from the family

The majority of the day.

And then when I leave for the basketball season,

I'm gone for six, seven months.

This is new because usually when he leaves...

[Cheering]

I just pack the whole family up, and we go where he is.

[Cheering]

This time, we're gonna stay here,

So it's new territory for me.

So now angela's gonna be the one

That the majority of the time

Is gonna have to deal with the kids.

Jadon and also amaya, they fight for my attention.

They fight for their mother's attention.

Stop!

Michal, she's picking up both of their bad characteristics.

No hitting.

[Giggling]

The parent that gets the most respect from the kids

Would definitely be mike.

Look what you've done! [Mike] hey!

You're gonna share, period. Jay, that's enough.

I guess because angela's with them more,

She tolerates more from them.

Our biggest problem, major problem with our children

Is they're very active. They are very energetic.

Whoo!

A big pool, and yet these kids are unsupervised.

You got to think of safety.

I'm a woman that wears many hats,

I guess, like most women.

Okay, let me call you back

'Cause the children are going wild.

Being an nba wife,

A mother of four--

We have a new construction company,

We formed two other new companies,

And I'm the vice president,

Writing checks, drawing up contracts

And dealing with the accountants--

I have a lot on my plate.

My money. Stop it.

Y'all, better stop. I'm not playing with you.

I'm feeling real chaotic right now.

I would love to have time for myself.

[Grunting]

This is when all the kids are hungry

And start going crazy.

No.

[Crying] mommy!

We try to do a regular schedule,

But we've got so many new things going on,

It's hard to get a schedule. [Michal crying]

Hey, mom, you know, it's too late for dinner

When they're falling asleep.stop!

Mom! Finally, it clicked--you're doing something wrong here,

So I've got to figure it out.

Mom's seriously stressed out here.

There's just no way she can possibly take on it all.

I need to help her.

You only get one chance to raise your kids,

And I want to do it right.

Supernanny, I would be so grateful for you to come

Into my home and help whip me into shape

And my kids.

Hang in there, mom and dad. I'm on my way.

Hello. It's jo frost.

It was certainly a different scenario,

Me turning up to this house

Because they have electric gates,

And I'm fully aware that I'm arriving

To help a family who are in the limelight.

[Police siren wailing]

Hello.

How are you? Hello.hi, jo frost. Pleased to meet you.

Jo, nice to meet you. Mike james.hi.

And this is my family.hi.

[Amaya] hi.hello.

Who's this little one here?this is mckinley.

Hi, mckinley.[Amaya] what happened?

And what's your name?amaya.

Hi, amaya. Pleased to meet you.

Are you gonna shake jo jo's hand?

Hi, pleased to meet you.

And is this your big sister here?jadon.

Hi, jadon. Pleased to meet you. Jo jo. How are you?good.

[Angela] when jo came,

I wasn't sure what to expect.

I didn't want there to be any presumptions,

You know, whether it's nba family,

Or--i just didn't want her to assume.

Hi, pleased to meet you.

Oh, I love it.

You're in for a good ride, aren't you buddy,

With these girls, yeah?yeah.

A nice little ride, a nice one.yeah.

I also got a chance to meet the nanny, too.

Hi, nanny v., Right?

Yeah, nanny v. How are you?hi. Nanny jo.

Nanny jo.hi, pleased to meet you.

Nice to meet you, too.all right.

[Angela] growing up, I didn't have a nanny,

And so I'm just used to doing it without much assistance.

But you burn the candle at both ends of the stick,

And it's not healthy.

We'll do the buckingham palace tour, shall we?okay.

[Jo] the first thing I did was to look around the property

Because it's very large, and I wanted to get an essence

Of really where everybody spends their time.

So my profession is being a ballplayer,

So why not have my gym in my backyard...yeah, for real.

So I can do all my training?

[Angela] this is mckinley's room...

Okay. Right. It looks lovely.

But I want to put michal and mckinley in this room

So michal would sleep there, and mckinley would sleep there.

All right, okay, so eventually you're gonna have both kids...

In the one room, mm-hmm.in this room, the youngest ones.

But at the moment, you just have...

Nobody up here.

Oh, right. Okay, nobody.

Right. Okay, so it's all set up, and nobody's in here.[Laughs]

All right, okay.

Okay, amaya, this is your room, is that right?yes.

Okay, so are you--do you sleep in your room then?

No, not yet.

All right, okay, so no one sleeps in their rooms.

Hold on a minute.

Where do they all sleep?

They sleep in the playroom.

They all sleep in the playroom?actually--

All right, we'll get to the playroom room then, will we?yeah.

So even though they have beautiful rooms

That are ready for them to go into,

They all sleep together in one tiny playroom.

And this is where they hang out and sleep

And do everything.

So all of them are here at the moment?

Michal, jadon and amaya.

Right, okay. And obviously the little one's in your room.yeah.

After everybody had settled for a little bit,

Dad went off to the basketball courts to practice...

I'll see you all later. Love you.

And mom went into her office to sort out some business

And take care of the kids, as well.

Don't put any tape on her mouth, baby. Sorry, christine.

Amaya, don't climb up there. You know better.

Now I'm confused. I'm in the company files.[Michal] amaya.

[Crying] amaya hit me.

And it's just these two, so we're good on the foundation,

We're good on the basketball experience.

Michal, get down.[Speaking indistinctly]

So you're trying to do business, and you've got the kids?

Uh-huh. [Laughs]

This is what it's like for you all the time?yeah. [Laughs]

They're okay right now

'Cause I know they're gonna look at the books

And just--i can see 'em.

Okay, now I'm gonna go back to "open and restore company."

[Machine whirring]hey!

Oh, sorry, christine.jadon did it.

No, no, don't play with that. Don't play with that.

After mom had finished doing her business in the office,

She actually had a bit of a shock

Because she couldn't find jadon.where's jadon?

Jadon!

You don't know where jadon is?mnh-mnh.

Amaya, where's jadon?

[Jo] it turns out that the nanny thought

That mom was looking after jadon,

And so neither knew where she was.

And they actually live on a really large property

With a swimming pool that's not protected or alarmed,

So it's a very scary, dangerous situation.

The kids are in the office. Mike's nowhere to be seen.

The nanny's over here. What--i mean, what's going on?

Coming up on "supernanny,"

Jo and dad get into a one-on-one battle...

You can't come to a conclusion on a situation

In less than hours.i'm about to show you how I can.

Bull crap. I refuse to believe that.

When "supernanny" returns.

You don't know where jadon is?mnh-mnh.

So I'm here working with

Nba basketball player mike james and his family.

[Applause]

Mom doesn't know where jadon is. Neither does the nanny.

Miss valda?[Nanny v.] Yes?

Did you see jadon?[Nanny v.] No.

Nobody knows where she is,

And we're on a property that's extremely large

With a swimming pool that's not protected.

Jadon!

So do you find yourself...you both have high heels.

Doing the old walk...oh, yeah.

Around the house trying to find the kids?oh, yeah.

Usually, she's here.

Yeah, she's good. Jadon, you're fine.

You just need to make sure you let me know you're down here...[Man] oh, supernanny.

'Cause I didn't know where you were.

There needs to be more communication of,

Who's got the kids and where are they right now?

So sometimes the--the girls, they'll--they'll go off

'Cause this is all their home...yeah.

And then you're left going, "where--where are the girls?"Yeah.

And that worries you...yeah.

Because you haven't-- you don't know where they are.

I-i don't like it when they do that

'Cause then you--you're sitting down at your desk for two hours.

[Jadon] mommy, I want to go on the playground.

And you look up, and somebody snatched your kids.right.

And i--no.yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Jo] the whole family have a long day ahead.

There's lots to be done, and there's no schedule.

There's no structure in this house

That supports the pair of them to keep them on the same page.

So, really, who knows what they're doing?

So there's no--there's no real set kind of routine?

Um...

I usually do have them in bed by :,

Between : and :,

And they--for all of them?

No.or--oh. Oh.

Just the oldest two who have to go to school.

When they get and having to go to real school,

Then I make sure...

[Jo] these kids go to bed far too late

Because these kids need at least ten hours,

And they're not getting it.

[Angela] come on.[Jadon] ew. Disgusting!

Nasty.so you're taking the kids up to bed now?

[Yells]yeah, we're just gonna hang out in the playroom,

Which is where they sleep, so...

[Speaking indistinctly]

[Jo] the family live in a really huge house,

And all the girls have beautifully decorated rooms.

However, they all sleep in this really small room.

Yeah.where's your blanket?

[Coughing][xylophone playing]

[Angela] I grew up with a very big family,

So it's not uncommon,

Especially in smaller homes with larger families,

That everybody just slept in the bed,

So it was quite natural, really.

What y'all doing?

[Angela] I'm just getting them down to bed.

[Jo] dad did come back from the basketball court--

Six and a half hours later--

And I really wanted to see

How he was gonna put the kids to bed.

I want a kiss. Mm, I want a kiss.kiss the beard.

[Jo] I don't particularly feel that the family

Recognized the importance

Of creating a calm environment

For the body to be able to unwind

And get into the sleep mode.

[Mike] okay, time for bed now. No more games.[Angela] come on.

Good night. Amaya, good night.[Kissing sounds]

[Amaya crying][angela] grab this one.

Daddy, she keeps doing that.[Mike] stop. Stop, jay.

[Jo] then they get in bed,

And the parents kind of scratch their heads

Wondering why the children are not going to sleep yet,

And they have to keep going into the room.

[Amaya] mom?yeah?

[Angela] boo?

[Jo] I watched dad put the kids to bed,

And after that, I wanted to sit down and talk to him

About his take on bedtime

And really what he thought about it.

So is it equally important to yourself as it is to angela

To have the kids sleeping in their own rooms

And having a bedtime routine?

I don't care.

It's not that important.

[Jo] you know, this-- this is not about mike james

And his universe.

You know, that this is about him acknowledging

Also the people that have supported him

And him becoming the success that he is.

So what challenges do you think angela's gonna address

Whilst you're gone?

Being away from me--

That's her-- that's her biggest challenge.

How did it make you feel

When you know that your wife's tired,

And--and she's depleted?

One thing I learnt is

Especially in this world,

First, there ain't no rest for the weary.

And I understand--i'm tired and depleted also.

But I understand that.i'm tired. But you know what? I'm tired of getting up

Every single morning, : in the morning.

But I'm asking--but I'm asking you about your wife.

But I'm just saying, you know, but what I'm trying

To explain to you is I'm--i'm--i'm doing

What I'm supposed to do on the court.mm-hmm.

She has to do what she has to do as far as with the business,

With the finances, everything else.

[Jo] he became rather combative with me.

It--it was just really uncordial to really behave that way

When you've only just met somebody.

So I see more than what you have seen

In the past hours-- not even hours.but--

You can't come to a conclusion on a situation

In less than hours.i'm about to show you how I can.

Bull crap. I refuse to believe that.

It's always easier

To deal with somebody else's children,

But until you have your own...

Oh, that is-- that is very arrogant.

You will never-- hold on, but--

It's very arrogant.no, it's not-- it's not. It's the truth.

You're not even giving me a chance.

You're not even giving me a chance.

This is what I find amazing that you actually have...i'm giving you a chance.

You actually had the control...i'm giving you a chance.

To make a decision to have me come here.you're here,

And I'm appreciating you being here.

You can't come to a better assessment

About my family than I can.

You can't.to help and resolve the situations,

That's exactly what I am gonna do.

Otherwise, I wouldn't be here.

Okay, I ain't got nothing to say.

I'm gonna keep... [Zipping sound]

Okay.

You know what you're gonna do?i'm listening.

You're gonna trust me.i'm gonna listen to you...

It would be good to do that.

And I'll come to that assessment for myself when I listen to you.

When you're trying to come into my family,

And now after a few hours, try to tell me

How I'm supposed to be with my family,

It's almost like, "hold on."

So tomorrow...mm-hmm.

We'll have a nice family meeting, all right?okay.

We'll sit down. We'll talk about what needs to be addressed...mm-hmm.

All right? So that we can knuckle down

And do some hard work, so I'll see you tomorrow.pump it up.

I'll see you tomorrow.okay. Good night.

[Jo] his statement is pretty typical

Of a parent who feels rather defensive

And insecure about my presence in their household.

I just hope that mike starts to grow some empathy

Towards his wife's situation.

See you tomorrow.thank you.

Good night. You're welcome. Thank you.good night.

[Jo] let's start off with this family meeting.

What I'd like to do is to go through

The issues that I feel need to be addressed.

Have you gone through, like, the safety of the house

With regards to, you know,

The areas that you really want them to not be in at the moment,

Places where they can't-- they need supervising?

You have a pool. Do you have, like, a safety alarm in there?

Like, what--what do you have? Because the house is big,

And it doesn't take long

For a fatal accident to happen in the swimming pool.

Michal, she--she's the only one right now...

That we worry about.and she--

But she wouldn't be able to get outside

Unless there's a reason for her being outside.no.

She can open that door by herself.

Right, okay. So I think what we need to really think about

Is being able to have a conversation with the kids

About safety, about no-zone areas,

Supervision, safety with the pool.

It's prevention.yeah.

The thing that I want to talk about is the bedtime routine.

There is a bedtime routine

In the sense that I try to get the girls in bed,

You know, by :,

At least the--the older two because they have school

I-i try to put the month old

In the bed with the older two,

But she's just-- hadn't been ready for that.

But you want her ready for it?yes.

Okay.i want all of them in the bed, :, :,

Downtime, sleep.she's more than ready for it.

She's just pulling the leg that's got bells on right now.okay.

She's doing that. You're aware of that, though, right, mike?of course.

Yeah, okay.

So explain to me,

Why is it not priority? 'Cause I know it is for yourself.

It is a priority 'cause she has to deal with it.

She's the one that puts them to bed the most of the time,

So she has to deal with them, so, of course, it's a priority.

I would certainly say making the bedrooms

More personal to the girls

By having little things up there that they're familiar with

Will allow them to feel quite snuggy-bug

Up in their bedrooms.

And if one added, for example, some fairy lights

Or something that they likedmm-hmm.

So, you know, there's lots of things you can do.

I-i don't think that a light is gonna make a difference.

It's just all we have to do is now just convince 'em now

Why this is where they need to be

Because they need to start sleeping in their bedrooms,

And I think it's gonna be all right.

I don't think that that light...

This--this house is-- is quite a big house,

You know what I'm saying?

It's a lot of space between, you know, everybody.

But I understand the personalization

Of the rooms.okay.

I respect that.

I have nothing to say. You're right.

So it's important that we get things

Into practice,

And that we have things running.

And as you know,

The james family are a team,

And not one player is above his team,

Right, mike?got to have a point guard and a captain, though.

All right.got to have a team leader.

I'm joking.okay, I'll tell you what, I'm gonna spend half this day

Chipping out his ego, aren't i?

Seriously.i was joking. I'm messing with you.

All right, but you know--you know what I'm saying, all right?

You know it takes a team.yeah, I'm up for that.

One, two, three, team.all right.

One, two, three, team. Where's a "who"?all right.

Coming up on "supernanny,"

Things heat up between dad and jo...

Mike, mike, always wipe from front to back.

This is my fourth daughter. I've got this right here, baby.

When "supernanny" returns.

I'm here at the household of mike james.

He's going off to training camp very, very soon,

And I don't have a lot of time to put things into place,

So every second counts.

This is yours for the office.

When you got four kids, you got to be flexible

When you're creating a schedule.

It's simple as that, really.

You leave at : to get the girls to school at :.mm-hmm.

Minutes that leaves for you to get all the kids up,

All the kids dressed, all the kids washed,

Bit of breakfast down them, of course.

I'd better get up at :.okay.

So kids go till when?the girls go until :,

But on three days, they have after-school activities.

Mm-hmm.and this is when nanny v. Will come in.

[Jo] looking at the list that angela wrote shows me

That this woman does need a schedule

Just to utilize her time.

I'm all done with my board.

Good for you. Go and play in your office.

[Jo] that's a good piece of work there, angela.thanks.

[Jo] now that's mom's on schedule,

I have a little something for dad.

We're gonna let mike take care of the girls,

All four of them, by himself

For about an hour,

So you get "me" time.okay.

Mike had mentioned to me in quite a hostile way

That he did have empathy.

He did know what his wife was feeling.

He understood everything. How could he not?

So I thought,

Let's have mike live a day in the life of angela

And four kids.

There is an instructor waiting in the gym

For you to do some yoga. Mm-hmm.oh, okay.

I was curious to see how it would play out

Because he deals with the older kids,

But he never really gets time to spend alone

With all four of the girls at the same time.

It's not as easy as I make it look,

Just like his job.

When I told dad about it,

He wasn't enthusiastic at all.

You're gonna look after the kids

And take care of them for an hour.

Do we have to stay here?now where are you thinking of going?

Take 'em somewhere to go play video games,

Take the girls, take nanny--

Yeah, that would be too easy.

It's just a little tough,

Especially for me, to have a stranger come in,

And I also don't like being pressed a certain way

And pushed a certain way.

[Jo] he had the opportunity to play with them

On the swing set.

Yeah, but she's...

Jadon was on the swing and knocked michal over,

And there you go, tears.whoa. Hey, ja--jadon!

[Crying]

Uh!

Come here, oh. Oh.

No, it's okay. It's okay.

[Crying]you got a little--oh.

[Crying]

[Jo] fortunately, michal wasn't hurt,

And dad calmed her down, and she was absolutely fine,

But mike wasn't done yet.

Oof! Oof!

I think mckinley got some doodie in her booty.

Angela!

[Meditation music playing]

Dad took mckinley inside to change her,

And she started squirming around,

And I actually just told dad

A useful piece of information,

But he got really defensive with me.

Mike, mike, always wipe from front to back,

So she don't get no infection.

This is my fourth daughter.

Please, I got this right here, baby.

All right, good.

Would you lay down?

Yo, why do you feel-- get your little--

[Jadon] daddy, can we go swimming?

You know what? Let me think about this one, jay.

Uh...[Jadon] no!

No.

I really couldn't believe that these girls were asking

To go into that large swimming pool

With their daddy on his last day,

And he didn't care about what they wanted to do.

He was really putting up a fight.

[Mike] amaya, find a movie.

No, movies later.[Speaking indistinctly]

Well, we want to sit down and watch a movie.

Well, that's easy for you.[Amaya] ooh, I go poopie.

[Jadon] I'm listening. It smells like it.

And your point is...and--and my point is jadon wants to do something.

Jay, what'd you want to do, jay?

[Jadon] go swimming.

You want to go swimming?yes.

I got mckinley. Who's gonna watch mckinley,

And who's gonna watch michal?

Okay, we're gonna watch a movie.

Who wants to watch a movie say, "yay!"

Who wants to go swimming?[Jadon and amaya] yay!

Oh, come on, let them go swimming.uh!

Let them go swimming with daddy.

I felt so sorry for the girls.

It was like pulling teeth

To get dad to do something

That these girls just wanted to do with their dad

Before he went away for such a long time.

[Mike] come on, let's go to the water.

Let me see how long you can stay underwater. You ready? Go.

[Jo] I mean, in the end, dad was happy

To be spending time with the girls,

And he really got involved with it,

But he was happy when he saw angela's face.hey.

[Mike] say, "hey, baby."Watch this.

[Angela] he kind of mentioned to me

There was some hiccups,

So he's like, "man,"

It wasn't very long, but it was long enough

To say, "okay, this isn't so easy."

[Mike] I'm learning, and I'm giving more of me,

And I'm allowing myself to just accept the situation

And not just deal with it but enjoy it.

Coming up on "supernanny,"

Dad starts playing offense...

You know what's funny, though?

Ever since you've been here, you've judged me.

What did you say about me earlier?

"I got an ego this big."[Jo] yeah.

I got an ego? You don't even know me.when "supernanny" returns.

How long should a bedtime routine take?

Find out after the break.

How long should a bedtime routine take?

The answer is...

Bath time, story time, kiss good night--

The routine should not take any longer than one hour,

So be consistent, go through every stage

As not to shortchange you or your child.

Mike got to see exactly how difficult it is

Looking after four children,

And now he's not so moody, I want to talk about safety.

All right, main house, pool,

Guesthouse and basketball court

And playground.playground.

All right, let's make it clear to the girls

When they can go into certain areas

And when they can't, when it's off-boundaries, all right?

So they know, and they start to learn.

It's important you guys know.

That way, you're kept safe,

And you know what you can and can't do.

[Angela] but you just can't go in the office.

[Jo] so let's circle it off and then put an "x" next to it.

No.[Mike] gentleman's room upstairs.

[Angela] yeah.[Jo] gentleman's room, okay. Gentlemen's room off-bounds.

Okay, the pool area, all right?

Off limits! Off limits.

So after going through the map of the house,

I wanted to go through the pool safety.

First, we started off by putting alarms on the doors

That lead out to the pool.

Ready?

[Alarm sounds]

[Jo] and then I took the whole family out

To show them something I had bought

Especially for the pool.

There is an alarm in this pool.

If a child did fall into that pool,

There would be an alarm that would go off

That would notify you ... [Snaps fingers] like that.

Okay?

Because parents always say, "it was just--what--

"They were here just one minute.

They were here--they were here a second ago."

But they weren't there a second ago.

And what you're gonna show, mike,

Is that alarm, okay?

You're gonna jump into the pool now

And show these kids that alarm going off.

[Angela] when she introduced mike as far as him

Showing the girls this is what happens

If someone falls in the pool,

We didn't expect that.

He didn't expect it.

Jay, you want to go swimming?

All right, in we go, dad. Show the kids.

[Angela] come on, baby.[Chanting] daddy! Daddy! Daddy!

Baby, just jump right there.

[Jo] the kids were eager for dad to do it,

And he started to dip his toes in the water.

And I don't know whether I should do it.

I thought, "oh, just get in."

I know.get in.

[Laughing]

[Alarm beeping]

[Jo] he had a really good opportunity

To show his lighter side,

But then he walked off.

I mean, what's with that?

Mike, mike, mike, mike!

[Alarm beeping]here! Come here for a minute.

And it created a very hostile situation.

[Jo] so he storms off,

And I've only got a couple of hours left with mike.

I mean, does he really want this?

Come on, baby girls, it's time for bed.

So, mike, I'd like to do this thing with the kids

In putting them to bed in their bedrooms.

Is that--let me ask you a question.

Y'all want to stay in your bed tonight?

Huh? You want to stay in your bed?

What about you, jay?can we--

[Jadon] but michal gets...i hope he realizes this isn't about what mike always wants.

This is about responding to what his kids want

And meeting those needs.

You see how my child treats me?

Don't talk in front of the kids.

You see--but hold on. But hold on.

I'm not talking in front of the kids.

But what I'm trying to say is this right here, though.

I'm not talking in front of the kids.

We can go back over here then.

But did you see how-- did you see how my kids get me?i'm not talking in front--

Do you see how my children get me?

I'm not talking in front of the kids, mike.

It's disrespectful. This is not adult conversation.

Well, then I don't want to talk about it.

This is not children conversation.

Let me explain something to you, though. Please.coming up on "supernanny,"

Jo and dad's one-on-one face-off

Becomes ugly...

You're always right, mike. I mean--and you're always right.

Mike...how come you always get to be right? How come you're right?

How come your plus always got to equal ...

'Cause you al--and nobody else know how to do math?

When "supernanny" returns.

You see how my child treats me?

Don't talk in front of the kids.

You see--but hold on. But hold on.

I'm not talking in front of the kids.

But what I'm trying to say is this right here, though.

I'm not talking in front of the kids.

We can go back over here then.

[Jo] ideally what I wanted to do was to teach them

How to sleep into their own beds,

But mike wants to do it his way,

And he's doing it in a really aggressive manner.

That's not necessary.

What do you think I'm trying to do?

I'm trying to motivate my children

To stay in their bedroom right now.

How about something nice for them?

Jadon's scared about going in her room.

What you want to give her, a teddy bear?

Mike, no one--no one can tell you anything.

You want to get 'em a teddy bear?

You're always right, mike.and you're always right.

Mike...how come you always get to be right?

How come you're right?

How come your plus always got to equal ...'Cause you al--

And nobody else know how to do math?

Don't be--you asked me to come in here to help you.

You asked me to come and help you.go ahead.

You know what's funny, though?

Ever since you've been here you've judged me.

What did you say about me earlier?

"I got an ego this big."[Jo] yeah.

I got an ego? You don't even know me.

Well, be a little bit humble.

"It's this big. I got a big head."

Let me explain something to you.

I'm probably one of the most humble people you'll ever meet,

But you know what?stop trying to control everything.

That's not me. All I control--stop trying to control.

I'm listening.you asked me here to help you.

And I'm listening.let me do my job.

I'm listening. Stop saying that. Just do what you got to do.

I'm listening. I'm all ears, and I'm listening.okay.

Let's do it.all right, good.

[Jo] I hope mike realized that

This is not about whathe wants all the time.

This is about understanding

What his children would like and what would help them.

[Jo] tonight, you're gonna sleep in your own bedrooms,

But this is what I feel would be a really good idea.

What I want you to do is to collect

Some of those things that you really like

Like your cuddlies and stuff like that, okay?

And then jo jo's got this-- christmas lights,

Like fairy lights.

So we'll put them in your room, okay,

So that it'll be cozy for you.

Y'all ready to go to bed now?yes.

Come on.

[Mike] it wasn't about trying to be in a battle

Or trying not to see eye to eye.

It's just that you have to see from my point of view, also.

Give me a kiss.good night, daddy!

I love you.

Everyone always think that I put up guards.

They think that I'm trying to fight something,

But at the end, I'm just being myself,

And I cr*ck jokes. I love to have fun.

You gonna be a big girl?come on.

[Amaya] yeah, I want a good-night kiss.come on, mike-mike.

And you got-- look at the lights, though.

The lights are crazy cool, right?that's cool, yeah.

I know mike's really gonna miss his girls when he's gone,

So I want to give him a way to be able to reach out to them

Whilst he's gone for so long.

This is what I do with some businessmen that go away,

All right?

They literally record the stories,

And then, like, it's a surprise for the kids

Because when they don't see you, they, like, listen to the dvd,

And it's, like, here's daddy's voice telling them a story.

So if you find the time tonight

And you want to do a couple of stories,

Even though you're not physically here,

You are here 'cause they're hearing your voice.

That'll be fun.yeah, it'll be comforting for them, as well.

[Mike] this is a very important, you know, situation because

It can help me be a better husband, be a better father.

I think that what she's doing is great.

I think that she's-- she does a good job.

She's--she's a professional at this. She's an expert.

I've given the family time to be alone before mike leaves.

I'm just hoping that he's gonna find the time

To tape these stories for the girls,

But I don't know if he will.

♪♪

Hi![Michal] jo jo!

Hello!

Mike had already left for training camp when I arrived,

So now my concentration is purely on mom.

But I want to find out how these kids slept in their beds.

[Kisses] how are you, darling? How you doing today?

You did? Give me five!

Give me five! Yes! Give me five!

Sleeping in my room was really fun

Because when I wake up, I have a good sleep.

Well done.

That's fabulous, angela.

Oh, yeah.it's great.

I was walking around. I didn't know what to do with myself.

[Laughs]

I am really looking forward to these girls

Watching the tapes tonight,

But first, I need to teach mom the basics.

So come over with me.

I taught her how to follow through with discipline...

All the idle threats are hot air.[Angela] all right.

[Jo] how to give a proper warning...

Come down to the child's height and use eye contact.

Anything towering is intimidating.

[Jo] and how to set up a realistic bedtime schedule.

So at :, you start that whole process.

What comes first?quiet time.

The quiet time, exactly.just letting the girls settle.

And before I left for the evening,

I had a wonderful surprise to give to these girls

For their dad's first night away.

So I have a dvd here

That is very special.

Hey, baby girls, I love you.

You know I wish I was there to see you while you go to bed.

[Jo] and what a result.

Dad had taped the stories

Just like I'd asked him so these girls could watch that.

So here goes one. You ready?

It's called the "king of the birds."

"A bear and a wolf were walking together in the woods."

[Jo] amaya, jadon and michal

Were kind of, like, looking at the screen like,

"That's daddy. He's reading us a story."

And they were really excited.

"'That is the king of the birds,' said the wolf.

'We must treat him with great respect.'"

[Jo] but it was bittersweet for them, as well,

Because it reminded them of how much they do miss dad

And how difficult it is for this family

Because mike is away so often.

The moral of the story, baby--

Don't be greedy.

Be thankful for everything you have in life

And make the best of that situation.

I love you, baby girls.

I love you.

[Jo] enjoy, jadon?

[Jadon] it was good, actually.

I started crying because I missed him so much.

Even though it's sad,

It's cool--it's cool that daddy's doing that, right?

It's okay to feel sad.

It's okay to cry.i'm sorry.

It's okay.

[Jo] she just burst into tears, and my heart just poured.

♪♪

I am gone for several days.okay.

If you don't get this down,

You're gonna become more overwhelmed.

It's gonna be stressful.

[Angela] when jo leaves, I don't want to go backwards,

You know what I mean?

Like, it's as much painstaking for me to have change

As it is for the kids.

Their supervision is gonna be crucial

Because that's all about safety.yep, got it.

It's crucial that angela implement everything

She's been taught

If she wants to succeed whilst mike's gone.

Coming up on "supernanny,"

Jo has one last surprise up her sleeve...

Oh!

When "supernanny" returns.

One of the things that I noticed

Was that mckinley was forever on mom's hip.

Come on, wait.

You guys ready for bed?

[Jo] so it was important for me to teach mom

Just to let that baby go.

Oh, mckinley.tummy time!

Look at this. Look.

Mckinley must have thought,

"Wow, great. I've got floor space. Let's go for it."

And she just darted across.

[Jo] what's she doing?

Yay, she's crawling.

Mckinley was like a little wound-up baby

On a cartoon, you know... [Makes squeaking noises]

And then off she went like this.

She went really, really fast. Mom was like, "mckinley?"

Go back by the door and then take this ring.okay.

Let her come and get it. So go and see mommy, get the ring.

[Angela] I was very stunned at how fast mckinley took off.

And I had seen her crawl a little bit but not that fast.

Mckinley being put on the floor and having tummy time

Allows her to strengthen her neck muscles

And her forearms here that prop her up

That start the development of her crawling.

[Jo clapping]yay!

When she was young, she'd only see

A couple of inches in front.

Now all of a sudden, she's having to focus,

So her visual tracking is important.

Come here, baby. She's stalling.

Keep her attention. Keep her attention.mckinley.

Mckinley is really ready to take the next step,

And being on my hip was a hindrance

More than it was a help.

But in my eyes, her being on my hip

Was a sign of me loving her.

But now I know I can put her down and love her also.

Was that fun? [Making kissing sounds]

Want to crawl some more?

Come with mommy because mommy's got something to show you.

[Giggles]come on.

[Jo] the kids had watched dad do the video stories,

But I wanted to give them another thing

To make 'em feel like they were connecting more with dad,

So I took them into mom's business room

So that they could communicate with him via the web cam.

Oh!

Hey, baby.

See, look, daddy can see us in that box.hi, daddy!

[Speaking indistinctly] [jo] you know, they were so excited.

They were all trying to talk over each other.

I was breaking out a sweat. It was like, "hold on a minute."

Calm down so daddy can hear you.

I love you. I love you, too.

[Amaya] don't leave yet![Angela] for them to see him on the other side in real time,

Oh, they were amazed.

I mean, you could hear them screaming and michal--

Like, they all wanted a piece of him.

Mom, in order for this to work efficiently,

So the both of you are not frustrated, okay...[Michal] it's daddy! Daddy!

Is that you want to get the girls

To speak one at a time. So you'll have

To instill that with the girls when you're sitting down.

Dad!are you surprised to see me? Oh, that's beautiful.

It's for you!

Oh, thank you. [Angela] you know what I said to myself

When I saw him on the web cam?

I said, "okay, I can do this.

I can be away from him and not feel so far apart."

It--it was a different kind of connection.

Yeah!

Okay, babies, I love you.

I love you, too! [Kissing sound]love you.

Okay, bye-bye. Bye-bye!

Bye, daddy.daddy!

Time for me to leave

Because you don't need me anymore now,

Right?right.

Mom has been very open.

She's been very receptive to learning,

And, for me, that's important

Because angela is left to hold the fort

With their family.

I know that she can certainly be that backbone

For when mike's not around.

Jo jo!jo jo.

[Angela] I've made a lot of strides.

I've taken everything that I've learned,

No matter how big or how small,

And I'm making them my own.

Yeah, bye-bye. Oh, bye-bye.[Angela] oh.

Look at her rubbing all over you. Aw.bye-bye.

Hey, angela, take care.thank you so much.

You're more than welcome. Send my love to mike.mm.

Mike and jo with

Their "special relationship," I call it.

[Laughing]

[Mike] I am proud to see the transition,

And I'm grateful for that,

And I'm gonna continue to take steps forward.

[Jo] underneath the hard exterior

Is a very sensitive man, you know,

And he's a man who's on top of his game professionally.

And all I would want for that man

Is to be on top of his game personally.

Thank you.okay, bye-bye, sweetie.

Bye, jo jo!bye-bye, darling.

Bye-bye.bye-bye.

You want to sh**t one?

Where from?behind the line.

You know what?

Wherever you aim that ball and you finish your hand,

That's where the ball's supposed to go.

There it is.yeah. Ooh!

Now you just need a little bit more--little more oomph.oomph.

[Grunts]

Yeah.

Yeah!

Yeah!

She off the chain.

Here, put a hand here.got it!

She gonna be a hooper after this.

Hey, supernanny, wnba, you better get ready.