05x08 - Missing In Action

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Previously on "I am jazz"...

I'm going to send this picture that I just took over to him.

Jeanette: dr. Ting is gonna make a decision.

If she's gonna go back in the o.r.

Dr. Ting: I felt something go pop.

The whole thing had just split open.

Oh, my goodness.

We need to intervene to do something.

She didn't deserve this.

-Healing is coming along. -Yep.

It doesn't look like what I wanted to see.

It's gonna require a new skin graft.

Jazz: this news is just really devastating.

I just came through the most traumatic summer ever.

I don't want to do this again without you.

Jazz, griffen hasn't heard anything about philly.

He doesn't know anything.

There's a boy in the picture now.

He's very sweet, but jazz is diving right into this.

You guys think I should invite ahmir to florida?

-Yes. -Yeah.

You guys can meet him,

And we can fall in love in florida.

-Whoa. -Uh, slow down.

Slow down.[ Both laugh ]

He's here.

Aah![ High-pitched ] he's here!

You guys just be nice.

Ahh!

Hi.

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Ahh!

Hi.

I'm so excited that ahmir is down in florida,

And I'm really excited to introduce him to my life.

I'm used to not being accepted for being transgender,

But now I finally have the body that I've always wanted,

And I got my first boyfriend.

Are you excited to meet my parents?

No. Don't be nervous.

It's just so unexpected.

I just came out of this serious surgical complication,

And now I have a boyfriend already!

Like, it's a lot for my parents.

This is my home.

-Oh, there they are. -Hello.

-Hi. -How are you?

-Hi. Oh, I get the hug first. -I'm greg.

You can get the hug.

Because I know him. So nice to see you.

How was your flight?

Greg: jazz has gone on dates before,

But this is the first time that I've seen her

Head over heels for somebody,

So I really want to meet him

And just get a better understanding

Of who my daughter has fallen head over heels for.

Jazz has a guy. Aah! [ Chuckles ]

It's just weird.

I know jazz has been waiting anxiously for you.

-I've been waiting. -I'm really excited for this.

She's already got the blanket also.

I'm ready to lay down.

Being jazz's first boyfriend is definitely a big deal.

I want to make the right impression.

Meeting parents in every relationship is hard, so...

Especially meeting somebody's dad.

That's mainly the one you've got to impress, the dad,

Because dad says no then there's pretty much nothing you can do.

So, you have family down here?

Yeah, I do. My dad lives here.

Okay.

You met jazz at the health conference in philadelphia.

Yep.

How did you get in touch with jazz?

Through e-mail.

Had you tried to get in touch with her any other way?

I tried to contact her brother at first.

Jeanette: sander.

Did sander get back to you?

No.

So sander didn't respond to you?

No.

I got the urge to contact jazz after my brother

Ended up showing me one of her videos,

And after that video, I was just like,

"I want to talk to her."

Did you just graduate high school?

I graduated in .

You planning to go back to school?

Right now, it's all up in the air.

-No, don't close the door on me. -I hear...

Look what the cat dragged in.

Uh-oh. Prepare yourself.

Things are going to get a lot louder.

Sander: I'm uneasy over this whole ahmir situation.

Jazz gets her penis transformed into a vag*na,

And then, while she's basically stuck in bed,

Finds herself a boyfriend.

Just a little shocking, but I'm really looking forward

To getting to know him and to find out if he's genuine

And to make sure that he's the right one for jazz.

Ahmir, that's how you pronounce it?

-Yep. -Nice.

Ahmir: I'm definitely feeling reserved.

I'm feeling very reserved right now.

It's going to take a few days, at least,

For me to get used to this whole family situation.

He hasn't eaten anything tonight.

Will you guys, like, call in some food for us?

Just hook us up.

Sander: I'll put in a call. So what do you guys want?

Get some pizza, some chicken wings,

Some bread rolls, a meatball sub.

Greg: ahmir, what would you like?

-Pizza. -Pizza.

Greg: I like ahmir.

I like that he was a little nervous

Meeting the family,

But, I mean, this is somebody that's not from here.

They met on the internet, and so I have my reservations.

Do you want a tour of the house?

Sander, want to help me give ahmir a tour?

Are you asking me to be a tour guide?

All right. Fine. Ahmir and I

Will just give each other a tour.

Jeanette: jazz having a boyfriend is a catch-

Because we all were like, "we want jazz

To have a boyfriend. We want her to experience love."

But with jazz, everything is always, like, to the extreme.

I'm really excited you're down here.

I know we've been anticipating this for, like...

Forever.

It hasn't been that long, but...

It feels like forever.

We're here! You're in my room right now.

Isn't that exciting?

[ Chuckles ] you could say that.

Ahmir: I've waited to see jazz again for a very long time.

I was excited, I guess. I was anxious to see her.

I told jazz it was like if you have a animal

Just waiting for the owner to come home, just waiting.

You just don't know what to do.

That's pretty much how it's been for the past few days.

I do want to take you around town,

Show you some of my favorite places.

We're going to eat our way through the city.

I want you to meet my friends.

And you got to meet my parents.

Weren't they cool?

Yeah, they were cool, but...

But what?

I'm pretty sure there's more questions.

There'll be a lot more questions.

Yeah, they'll ask more questions, but...

I mean, my whole family is going to want to get

To know you more and then...

Yeah, I'm sure they'll love you, though.

And if they don't, then I'm sorry.

You're out of my life.

I'm kidding. I'm kidding. I'm kidding. I'm kidding.

They'll love you.

Jazz is different.

I mean, obviously, jazz is different.

She's open, but I'm a very reserved person, and...

It takes a lot to get me to open up.

This is my basket of all my medical supplies

And my dilator.

This is the biggest dilator.

This is the size that I have to get to.

I've never dated anybody before that was transgender.

I mean, I tell jazz all the time,

"I don't like labels anyway," so jazz is a girl to me.

I see jazz as a girl, period.

I don't see anything else.

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-Good morning. -Good morning.

Thanks for making me coffee.

Mwah. Mwah.

What do you got behind you? It looks vaguely familiar.

Look at that! The top of our wedding cake!

It's years old!

It still has the chocolate cake on top.

Is that what that is?

I hope so.

Jeanette: it's our th anniversary,

And I can't believe how quickly it went by.

I feel like we just got married.

I don't look like I did then,

But I feel like it just occurred.

Is that a reminder that our th anniversary is coming up?

Yeah, yeah.i know it's coming up.

The question is, doyouknow what's going to happen

On our th anniversary,

Because I got you good last year?

You did. I can't top that.

Jeanette, this is the happiest day of my life,

For you are my world, my heart, my life.

Bride and groom may kiss.

-Wait a minute. -Holy crap!

-Whoo! -Oh!

So vow renewal is going to be a tough act to follow,

But no one's comparing.

[ Chuckles ]

So, you going to try to surprise me?

I have some ideas up my sleeve.

You just let me handle it.

Okay.

Don't surprise me with anything.

You let me pick out my own engagement ring,

And that's the way to go, so...

That was a cool story. That was fun.

Greg proposed to me on a chairlift in colorado.

He didn't want to bring a ring because he thought, number one,

He'd drop it, and he knew I'd want to pick out my own.

So my mother sent us to her jeweler.

And there was, like, numbers, like,

As if you were at a delicatessen.

But we knew we had a special appointment with esther,

So esther is like, "come on over,"

And all the women in the shop parted ways,

And we went, and she put two diamonds out.

One was bigger. One was smaller.

And all of a sudden, all the women in the room yell out,

"Take the big one! Take the big one!"

[ Chuckles ]

Jeanette: what did you think of ahmir?

Yeah, he's a nice guy.

He likes her.

He really likes her.he's respectful.

Yeah, he was very nice.

I'm sure he was a little nervous coming in.

In terms of her being transgender,

I think it's awesome that he looks past that

And he sees her for who she is.

That makes him special in and of himself.

But I do... I can't treat her

The same way as I did the other kids.

You know, she's just had this surgery.

I'm more protective of her than I am the other kids

Because her situation is very different.

And I can't treat this the way I treated the other ones.

I just can't.

But, I mean, you've got to give her the space to grow

And to live and to learn and...

I'm just going to be a little bit more cautious.

It's not just one thing.

Like, we don't know much about ahmir,

This is jazz's very first relationship,

And I don't want her to get hurt,

And she just found out she needs to return

To new york for another surgery.

Like, all that combined is just, like, too much, too soon.

Why do you have your wedding thing out?

It's cute, but what is that, though?

Is this, like...chocolate.

...chocolate?chocolate cake.

We had a vanilla cake.we're not % sure.

It's years old. What do you expect?

It gets a little rough around the edges.

It's cute. It's cute.

Where are you headed to?

On a date with ahmir.

Where are you going?

Korean barbecue.

Oh, I love those places.

How did he feel about meeting your family?

He liked you guys.

I think he felt, like, a little nervous, of course.

He was definitely quieter than he was...

He's very -- he's very quiet in new social situations.

He takes a little while to open up.

Ahmir definitely has a wall up right now.

He is in this new place, and he has gotten to know me

But doesn't know me entirely,

And I think he is a little uncomfortable and shy

And not fully ready to open up.

However, I'll open him up.

All right, well, I'm gonna go on this date.

I'll let you guys know how it goes.

Keep in touch. Don't disregard us

If we send you a text and ask how you're doing.

Don't disappear.okay. I won't.

We're just checking in on you.

Don't disappear with ahmir.

It's really a fine line between protective and overprotective.

My gut tells me to be overly protective

And make sure that jazz makes the right decisions,

But at the same time, I just don't want to interfere.

Every time a kid goes through a relationship,

It always become stressful for the parents.

But she's been, you know,

Quite a handful, quite a challenge.

This is not gonna be smooth.

This is going to be like this.

Put your seatbelt on.

♪♪

-Is that him over there? -Yes.

Jazz: I can finally introduce ahmir to my friends.

What are your goals?

Like, what do you want to pursue?

I want to be president.

When it comes to kissing, it makes so much more sense

To actually do it rather than continuously talk about it.

I want a kiss.

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[ Ahmir chuckles ]

Jazz: we are on an official date at a local restaurant,

And I can finally just relax and get to know ahmir better.

I'm hungry.

Have you been to a place like this, korean barbecue?

I see what happens. I think we're cooking.

So, what do you focus on in a relationship?

What doifocus on in a relationship?

Since I'm super open, I look for someone else who is open.

You're honest, and I really respect your honesty,

But also, you're not, like, as open with me.

But you'll get there with me.

I mean, it's going to take time.

I think we're building a friendship

And a relationship at the same time,

But it's gonna take time.

So what are the deal-breakers for you?

Someone who can't see the world for what it is.

In a relationship, I need someone who's not fully stuck

In that reality, and you're not.

You see the world and, like, all the b.s.

Ahmir isn't the textbook definition of who I expected

I would go out with, but there's something about him

That I'm drawn to and I feel like there is so much to him

And I'm only scratching the surface.

So, you met my family. You like them?

I do. I like your family a lot.

Do you like sander more than griffen?

Do you like one more than the other yet?

They're literally the same person, so I don't really...

Don't tell them that.it's the same.

They're actually not the same person.

I feel like you should hang out with them without me

So you guys could have, like... You guys could bro down.

Does my cleavage look good?

[ Laughing ] yes.you're looking at my eyes,

But then your eyes are like...

I hope I like sex. [ Laughs ]

What? Like, what if i...

Don't like sex? Well, yeah.

Everyone likes it, but, like, what if I don't because of how,

Like, effed up my whole vag*na is?

Well, we got to try it first, right?

[ Chuckles ]

[ Laughs ]

Honestly, I'm a virgin, and my vag*na is still healing,

But it's really fun to tease ahmir.

I think sex talk embarrasses ahmir a little bit just because

I bring it up so openly and honestly.

It's, like, an icebreaker.

So am I starting to kiss better or no?

What, still not that good?

It's not...

You're right. Yeah, it's not that good,

But it's getting better.

You need to teach me how to do it right.

When the place is right.

Tell me how you're supposed to do it.

You just, like, put your lips...

Or do you have to do more, like...

I didn't know there was more to it until you started doing it.

You're just...i mean, it's just not normal for you.

Ahmir says our first kiss sucked.

It's kind of hard because you can talk about kissing,

You could watch it on tv and in movies,

But doing it in real life is a lot different.

I feel like I'm going through that , -year-old phase

Where you're just learning how to kiss

And you don't know how to do it and it's weird as hell.

Well, I didn't go through that phase when I was younger,

And I'm going through it now.

I have a question for you.

What?

Where do you want to see this relationship go?

Where do I want to see it go?

I never think about our future.

I just, like, focus on where we are now

And keep going from there.

I feel like there's no question

I will end up falling in love with you.

There's no question. I feel like I will.

There's nothing about her that I don't like.

I don't think she's fully ready for a relationship,

But I just feel that we're connected in some way,

But we also have different opinions,

Which opens our eyes together as a whole.

Ahmir, him thinking that he's falling in love with me

Is kind of... It's a little scary.

It's happening really fast for him,

And I don't know if our bond going over

Long distance is strong enough,

But I'm just excited to see where it all goes.

♪♪

[ Laughter ]

When I kick it, my toe goes the other way.

I miss soccer.

Are you sure you're okay, like, to play right now?

Like, do you feel okay?

I feel fine, but if I'm, like, starting to become in pain

Then, like, then I'll sit back down.

Kaci: jazz was looking great. She's active.

She's able to play soccer, and honestly,

I thought it would take more time for her

To get to this point, but it's actually really great

That she's able to actually be active with me.

How is it all healing?

It's healing okay.

I'm going to probably be getting another operation.

What they're gonna do is they're gonna take

Another skin graft from my butt

And, like, put it over the area that doesn't have skin.

Oh, my gosh.

The right side is where the majority

Of the wound separation occurred,

And it's not healing like the other side.

So I am getting this third operation,

This skin graft procedure, in new york.

I just have no idea when, and even though it's been hard,

I'm the passenger in this experience.

Everything is out of my control.

Who else is coming today?

Noelle and jojo are coming,

And then you guys get to meet ahmir.

Oh, look who's here!

-Hi! -Hey!

Hyah!

Do you like that she's like, well...

Oh, okay. Nice job. Nice job.

You can get that.

Jayleen: I'm excited to meet ahmir today.

I can't wait to talk to him and get to know him

And just see what he's about

Because I'm very protective of jazz.

She's not a normal teenage girl.

She's transgender, so I want to make sure that he's not somebody

That's going to potentially hurt my best friend.

Jojo, you have all the snacks.

Lay them out, girl.

Jojo: I have some cookies,

Some dehydrated what looks like mango.

Where's ahmir?

Jay, you don't even know what he looks like or anything,

Do you? -No.

Jazz: it is important to me that my friends like ahmir.

I really want them to be able to see what I see in him,

And I want my friends to be his friend, you know?

Have you guys spent any alone time together,

Like, since he's been here?

-Yeah, a lot. -Have you kissed him yet?

Yes, I've kissed him a lot.

-Okay, well... -Tell us the juice!

I want to know.

So, yeah.

I don't know how to kiss.

What?

Like, he doesn't want to do tongue, like,

Because he doesn't like kissing with tongue.

He's like, "if you can't even kiss without tongue,

How do you expect to kiss with tongue?"

Whoa!

-That's not nice. -That's really shady.

No, not, like, in a mean way like that,

But just, like, I think he's, like...

How's...is there a nice way to say that?

She might not be used to, like, little things

That guys do that are not nice

Because she's used to such mean people on a larger scale

That somebody saying something slick to her

Won't really catch her attention.

-No, it doesn't... -That's better left unsaid.

Like the little things that he does might not seem big to you,

But, like, us being in a lot of relationships,

We've seen things, and, like,

Just like those little things we can tell, like,

Somebody is going to be either a jerk or not.

I promise you guys, like,

He is a good guy.i'm not saying he's a jerk.

Like, I don't even know him yet.

I feel like my friends have a bad impression of him

Right off the bat, and I'm just hoping

That they still give him a chance.

-Is that him over there? -Yes.

That's him.

-Is that him over there? -Yes.

That's him.

Over here!

♪♪

Ahmir: I feel like jazz's friends

Will have a lot of hard-hitting questions,

And I'm kind of nervous for that.

-Hello. -Hey.

How are you? I'm kaci.

Nice to meet you.

-It's good to see you again. -You too.

Noelle: I got to know ahmir a while ago

When we were in philly together,

And I kind of like him just because

I kind of think he's a little bit like me.

We're both low-key,

We're both not very super energetic,

And we both used to play football.

If you want some food to comfort up to,

We have / cookie and remains of tortilla chips.

Just so you know, I might seem a little protective,

But it's because jazz is, like,

Our best friend in the whole wide world.

So I would never want her to get hurt.

So, how did you even, like, come across her?

Like, how did you meet her?

Oh, my brother, he showed me

One of jazz's youtube videos, and...

-Love at first sight? -No, no, no.

Just kidding.

I dm'ed her brother, and then I just e-mailed jazz.

Like, what are your intentions?

I want it to go far

Because everybody wants it to go far,

But I'm just going with the flow.

What are your, like, goals, like, your true passion?

Like, what do you want to pursue?

I want to be president one day.

-Really? -That's ambitious.

Very ambitious.

You want to be president, but, like, how...

Like, how do you get there?

Like, you can have goals, but you have to have a plan.

You always have to have a plan.

I think anybody can be president.

I mean, we all know that.

You just have to know people, have money.

Back in philly, my mom is friends with the mayor somehow,

So I feel like that could be somebody

Who can mentor me in some way.

What about your educational path?

You want to cross that path,

But how are you going to get to that path?

Saying that you have to be a lawyer or go to school

For, like, political science or history or whatever,

I feel like you don't really have to

Because nobody can tell you what's wrong

With the world besides yourself.

You have to be realistic, and you have to realize that,

Like, if you're standing next to somebody else

That has the opportunity to be president

And they have a degree in political science

And they look at you and you don't have any degree,

I mean, like, you have... Of course,

You have a brain full of, like,

Ideas and goals for our country.

You have to start taking steps now to do so.

You can't sit here with no job and, like, nothing.

Like, you have to start now.

Honestly, it really worries me that he doesn't have a plan.

I know jazz is an ambitious person,

And he's not gonna be on that same level

As her when she's going to school.

He's already years old, and he doesn't even have a job.

I've never seen a group of girls lay into one guy.

You know, I'm so sorry, but we just really care about jazz.

We're a lot more fun than this, I promise.

Jazz: my friends are a little harsh on ahmir, and I feel bad.

I think they really have high expectations

For whoever I'm with,

And ahmir, on the outside, doesn't fit the definition

Of the perfect boyfriend for jazz.

But they don't really know who he is,

And the way he expresses himself to me

Makes me know that he really is a great person.

So I am not really letting their judgment

Cloud my perception of him.

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Jazz: so, what do you think about where I live?

Do you like my neighborhood?

Your neighborhood is way better than philly, to be honest.

So, did you like my friends or no?

I mean, I guess they're cool.

I guess they did whatever they thought was right.

Well, don't let what they say get to you.

I'm not letting what they say get to me.

I feel like, at the end of the day, they don't know me.

So, you know, if they don't know me,

They don't know what I have going on.

Yesterday, kaci and jay were being a little hard on him,

And I need ahmir not to worry about what other people think,

Including my friends and everyone surrounding me.

The only person that he needs to worry about is me.

So in order to lighten the mood, I mean to change the subject.

So kissing... Kissing.

Kissing.

Okay. Do you not like kissing with tongue in general?

It's obviously different, but at the same time,

It's also messy as hell.

I feel like it's really unnecessary, to be honest.

Maybe you were doing it wrong in the past,

Or maybe who your partners you were with were doing it wrong,

So maybe we could learn together

And see if we could find the right way to do it.

Obviously, when it comes to kissing,

It make so much more sense to actually do it

Rather than continuously talk about it.

So the best way for me to learn is to just practice.

All right. Well, I want to kiss.

Let's do it.

You want to show me how to do it?

That's some jest.i know how to do it.

♪♪

You did it right.

Well, that was a quick little thing.

Well, you want to go again?

Do you want to?

♪♪

Keep going.

Jazz... Jazz wants more.

♪♪

Here comes your mama.

Oh, mom.

Hey.

What's up? -Nothing.

What are you doing?

Your cheeks are all red.

That's me.

What, you're just sitting in the driveway?

Yeah, we just made out.

Okay. I guess I'll go.

Bye.

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Jeanette: jazz is / years old, and she'd never kissed a boy.

Most of her friends and everybody she knows

Have done a lot more than kiss,

So, you know, it's no big deal for kissing.

They're just kissing. It's okay to kiss.

I felt like I was intruding.

We'll do it again anyway.

Okay.

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Jeanette, have you heard from dr. Bowers at all

About a date for the procedure?

I'm hoping she'll touch base this weekend.

I think she will.

I literally feel, like, nauseous thinking about it.

I don't want any more surprises.

I don't want any more incidents.

This time, dr. Bowers says that jazz is going to need

Another procedure, a skin graft.

It has to do with something that was supposed to take

And it didn't take.

Seeing her wheeled away again,

I have a pit in my stomach, just a pit.

Are you bringing all that this weekend?

I think so. That's why it's there.

Do you need that many outfits?

Uh, no.

But I'm the consummate overpacker.

It's our th anniversary,

And I have a very special surprise getaway for you.

This has been a very, very difficult summer for us

With jazz's surgery and then my dad's surgery scare.

Now jazz has a boyfriend, and it's just a lot.

Like, we need to get away from all this.

Yolo! Whatever.

[ Producer laughs ]

You have a favorite bathing suit?

Do you want me to bring my honeymoon bathing suit?

Yep, banana hammock city! Let's do it.

I did! I found it.

Don't let the boys see that.there you go.

[ Chuckles ] oh, man.

Those were the days, my friend.

Ahh!

Was that an award-winning dive?

[ Laughing ] it's great.

There's a hole in it.

[ Both laughing ]

Why do you still have the lime green bathing suit

That's probably years old? Why?

Because every now and then you ask me to put it on.

Where are we going?

I'm not telling you.

We leaving the girls home alone?

With ahmir.

What do you mean "with ahmir"?

Well, he's still here.

Well, he's not staying here.

No. Well, ari's in charge.

You think ari is gonna keep an eye?

She better!

-How you going to... -What's up?

Oh, to what do we owe this pleasure?

Ari, you're in charge this weekend.

You're babysitting.do I get paid?

I knew you were gonna say that.

I was waiting.i'm just kidding.

I was waiting for that one.

I don't think of jazz needing a babysitter at this point,

But with ahmir in town,

It's possible she might do something

That would be against our rules,

Especially since we don't know him that well,

And jazz goes off and hangs out with him

Pretty much just with him.

There are a couple of rules that you must follow.

To reiterate -- number one,

You must leave your door open.

Two, you must not lock your door,

Which goes along with you must leave your door open,

And three, it's okay if you drive around,

But make sure that you have the car home by :, okay?

Jazz is slippery, sort of,

Like, sneaky sometimes.

Mischievous? Mischievous.

Yep, there you go. Thank you.

So yeah, slippery, sort of like a greased pig.

So, we can go away and relax and not have to worry

About anything going on back home?

Jazz: I have definitely done things in the past

That would make my parents mistrust me

A little bit, I guess.

I have taken the car and disappeared without asking.

Sometimes I just want to leave.

I don't want to be like, "oh, I'm going here. Blah, blah, blah,"

Because then my mom will track me on the gps

And look at everything and...

Yes, my mom has that app.

We'll try our hardest to enforce those rules,

And if we don't enforce them,

Well, I guess you won't know anyway.

♪♪

Sander: it's time to get cocky out here.

[ Bat clangs ]

I pressed set.

Coming for your head, pitcher.

♪♪

Griffen: sander and I have committed to

Hanging out together more, and what better way to do that

Than to be active and play sports?

I think you're a little behind. Swing it a little earlier.

We also decided to invite ahmir to join us at the batting cages

Because we want to get to know him.

Seeing that this is jazz's first relationship,

I definitely want to be cautious for jazz and her heart.

And he has to win us over, too.

This baseball thing is hard. Have you ever played before?

I have played before, but I'm not good at it.

So what have you been up to with jazz?

You guys been going on dates, whatnot?

Kind of, sort of, yeah.

Everything is going good?

I think so.

You guys are officially dating now?

How long have you guys known each other?

It hasn't been too long, to be honest.

It hasn't been that long.

Have you been in a relationship before?

Yeah.many or a couple?

Many. This is my first serious one.

Yeah, but how could it already be serious?

It's been two weeks.

Griffen: most relationships, you get to know someone

For numerous months.

You start becoming a little bit intimate,

And then things just take off.

With jazz, there was never really that beginning period.

It kind of just took off.

Why do you want her to be your girlfriend?

Like, why her?

I feel like jazz is able to open me up.

Nobody else can open me up besides jazz.

-Open you up? -Open me up.

-To what? -Just in general.

I'm a reserved person, but jazz opens me up.

♪♪

I'm a little confused why he says jazz opens him up

And that's what he sees in jazz.

When I think of why I'm a relationship

And why I love alexis, there's so many reasons,

And it's not because she opens me up.

And I want a better answer, honestly.

Did you formally ask her out, like,

That she's your girlfriend?

Well, we already are together. It's just...

Because if it's formal,

And you're going to ask her to be your girlfriend,

I feel like you should do it right.

You need to do it huge. I mean, they did it on facetime.

That's not how we roll.

Dude, he needs to do it again.

I need to see that you have a romantic side to you.

You've got to do something awesome.

Like, surprise her. Do something special.

Ahmir has potential, but I don't think it's there yet.

Griffen: I don't want him just to ask her out over facetime.

I want him to do something special for her.

Do you think jazz would even

Like something like that, knowing jazz?

-Yes. -She loves surprises.

Griffen: every girl likes a guy that's romantic, every girl.

♪♪

Jazz: I'm really excited to see what ahmir has in store

For our first real romantic date.

Whoa. What is this?

♪♪

Jeanette: okay, the next light, take a left.

Okay.

Are we going to...

The mall? [ Chuckles ]

Years we've been married,

And I have some surprises in store for you.

I like surprises, especially when they're,

Like, the kind of surprises

That jeanette seems to be alluding to.

This doesn't tell me where we're going.

There's, like, five stores here.

Here.

-Greg... -You want me to pet you?

...is a fan...

Of nice lingerie.of you!

Oh, okay. So, greg likes me a lot,

And he likes to see me in sexy lingerie.

So we're going to find some sexy lingerie.

Sweet. [ Laughs ]

We need something pretty and romantic and sexy.

Okay.

Ooh.

-I was thinking less material. -Oh.

She's showing me, like, these flowy, frilly kind of slips.

Like it was our th anniversary.

Like, he doesn't want a muumuu or a slip.

Oh, that's what he likes.

Actually, I like the blue one.

[ Laughs ]

Into the crotch. [ Laughs ]

Hold on. Let me just...

Let me make sure I could do that for you.

That'll work.

Jeanette: I think it's fun to shop together

Because it's so out of the norm for greg

To be in a women's underwear shop...

So, what are these things called?

Bustiers or something?

...let alone, you know, shopping for something sexy

For his -year-old wife.

It goes way cleavage-y. You could help me.

Greg: is that a bad thing?

Yeah, I'll come in this way.

[ Laughs ]

Take a peek.

Ooh, nice.

I don't know if the girls are fitting right.

Jeanette: my boobs are mammoth.

Greg: and I can attest to that.

Sexy.

[ Both laugh ]

Even on me, sexy?

It's especially sexy on you.

Thanks. Oh, somebody's in a good mood today.

[ Both laugh ]

-This was fun. -Happy anniversary

And many more.

Yes.

Hopefully, I'll be in before the th.

I love to surprise greg,

So I don't want him to know which one I chose,

And he'll figure it out when he sees it on me.

Bye, sally.

[ Laughs ]

♪♪

♪♪

Jazz: whoa. What is this?

"Jazz, tonight the world is ours,

And it starts with something sweet."

I think it's really cute that

Ahmir is taking the time and effort

To surprise me for our first real romantic date.

It's really awesome that he's coordinating this.

Okay, come on. Go.

I'm really excited to see what he has in store.

♪♪

Jazz: what's up?

Did you see me park?

What is all this?

Ahmir has set up this whole little thing.

There are flowers and sweets and him.

It's just so cute!

I mean, I know you don't like surprises, but...

This is incredible, and I feel like

I finally understand the beauty of a surprise.

I think your friends will love it, too.

Did you set this up for them or for me?

I set it up for you.

Good, and don't worry about satisfying everyone else.

I know that you want everyone to perceive you well,

And you want to feel good and be happy,

But by being you and doing what you want to do,

Their perception will naturally rise.

We work well together, and I don't know.

It's just, like, I like that you're taking my hand

Throughout this whole process and that you're understanding

Of, like, the pace that I go at and the emotions that I feel

Because it's hard for me.

Like, I don't even know where to begin in a relationship,

But there is no beginning,

And there doesn't have to be any ending.

It's whatever you make of it.

I feel like we established at the start

That we would be going at your pace

Because it is your first relationship,

And I would hate to, like, take charge and just take over.

I love that ahmir is very respectful of the fact

That this is my first time dating,

And I feel like we have this potential

To evolve together at the same pace.

Did you like the food?

The food was good. Yes. The food was delicious.

One more place that I want to take you.

Date part two?

Part two. [ Laughs ]

I brought you here because I felt like

This would be the perfect place to ask you the proper way.

[ Cellphone chimes ]i'm afraid to look.

Wait. Jazz is missing.

I'm calling ari. I'm sorry.

Jeanette, not on camera. Get off the camera.

♪♪

-Keep going straight. -I'm excited!

Turn.

Turn left here? Yeah.

Ahmir: this night is going great with me and jazz,

But it's not done yet.

This is only the beginning.

-This is it? -This is it.

This is beautiful.

When her brothers came to me

And told me that it's not official

Until I do something big for jazz,

I felt like they were right,

And I just want to make it special for her.

So, what made you pick this place?

This is absolutely incredible.

I wanted to see the sunset.

You really have made this a romantic day.

I brought you here because I know

We talked about it on the phone a lot,

And I know I originally asked you on the phone,

But I felt like this would be the perfect place

To ask you to be my girlfriend.

Mm.

Proper, official, whatever you want to call it.

Will you be my girlfriend?

Yes, I will. I'll be her.

♪♪

Jazz: I feel giddy and excited inside.

It just feels so right,

And the connection that we have right now

In our intimate moments is super, super powerful.

I'm really just excited for it all.

Are you excited? I'm excited.

I've been excited the entire time.

I know. Me too. Me too.

You know, I feel like there's more.

I feel like this is only the beginning.

Day by day, I see him opening up more and more,

And even though it's going to be challenging being

In a long-distance relationship, I do want to make it work.

Aww, it's so bright and warm.

I like it here. I don't think there's a sunset

Like this in philly at all.

What's prettier, my eyes or the sunset?

♪♪

Your eyes. Liar!

[ Both laugh ]

We have to break up. If you said, "my eyes,"

I was going to break up with you.

I... I'm sorry.

Don't tell me what I think.i don't talk to liars.

You can leave, but I'll keep your keys.

[Bleep] you do have the keys.yep.

It's so cool to feel like someone really understands me

And I understand him and we have a great connection.

So I love where it's going.

So, how's my kissing game now?

It's the best I've ever had.

Really?

You're being for real?

I'm serious.

[ Quietly ] yes.

♪♪

♪♪

Cheers to...

Happy th. I love you.

... Years. Love you, too.

Jeanette: I always felt like I wanted to be a mom.

Since I was little, I loved babies, so I'm like,

"I want to make sure that I'm a mom before I'm ."

Did I picture having identical twins and a transgender child?

Absolutely not.

Having a transgender child

Sometimes can pull couples apart,

But it started with love, and that's what it's all about.

So, this is from me to you.

[ Chuckles ]

Will you celebrate our th anniversary with me?

[ Gasps ] ah. Do you like it?

I love it.

Greg: I just knew that if you had that love as a foundation

That it really didn't matter where you were

Or what you were doing.

It just -- it was all going to be good.

Oh, that's cute.

We could have never charted this path.

We could have never known the things that we know now.

This is so delicious.

How did you come up with all these ideas?

Like, what made you think of...

Well, I get the lingerie part.

[ Chuckles ] but...

[ Cellphone ringing ]

Mm, mm, mm, mm.

Marci bowers.

Were you expecting this call?

-Hello? -Hi, jeanette.

It's marci, dr. Bowers.

We're in a restaurant.

Hey, marci. I'm here with greg.

We're in a restaurant. Can you hear us?

Yes, I can.hi, dr. Bowers.

Hi, greg.

Listen, is there any way that you could bring jazz

Here to new york while I'm here this week?

I know that's a big ask.

♪♪

And have the skin graft at that time?

No, no, no.

I'm thinking we need to examine her as a team,

And I'm trying to figure out how to do that.

Just so I'm clear, are you saying that you want

Jazz and jeanette to fly up to new york

So that you could all put eyes on her,

And then you want her to fly back to new york,

Potentially, a week later and then do the procedure?

I'm, like... Jaw on the floor.

Does this mean I have to, like, go home,

Pack up, and fly to new york?

This is very difficult from a timing standpoint

To have to go back and forth, back and forth.

I think an exam would be --

In-person would be really beneficial.

What if I was to come down to you

And you wouldn't have to leave at all?

Okay.

I would come in on thursday night,

And what I'd really like to do

Is facetime with dr. Ting.

Oh, that would be great.

I'm going to work on that. I've got to run.

-Okay. -And thanks for your patience.

Hopefully, I'll see you on thursday night, okay?

Okay. I hope so, too. Thank you very, very much.

-Bye, dr. Bowers. -You too. Bye, greg.

-Bye-bye. -Bye.

Yeah, let's just hop on a plane to new york.

That could k*ll romance right away. [ Chuckles ]

Yeah. I...

Am aggravated at this point.

[ Cellphone chimes ]

I'm afraid to look. Oh, it's just ari.

Wait. Jazz is missing.

She was with ahmir or...yeah.

I can't track jazz's...

Do you have any idea what they're doing?

No. She doesn't even know.

I'm calling ari. I'm sorry. Sorry.

Not on camera, jeanette.

She should have been back by now.

Hey.

I can't track her without her...

Unless she has her phone on her.

Jeanette, not on camera.

Get off the camera. Get off the camera.

Okay. Go. Shut down.

Pull your mic.

Jeanette: when I hear that jazz is missing,

I totally worry.

I mean, it's scary sometimes.

When she gets upset, she wants to be alone,

And she'll disappear.

She's got a boyfriend, and we don't know much about him.

She's hanging out with him.

She still has just had surgery.

What if there's some kind of problem?

Like, it totally threw me for a loop when she told me

She has no idea where jazz is.

All right. So ari...

♪♪

She can't locate her.

She's not answering the phone.

Try to call jazz.

[ Phone ringing ]

♪♪

Woman: your call has been forwarded

To an a*t*matic voice messaging system.

I'm, like, inside just going, "what now?"

Not picking up.

I hate this feeling of uncertainty,

And I don't want my mind to go places

Because if I do, then I'll have a nervous breakdown.

So trying to remain calm, but it's not easy.

Literally, like, thinking about it --

It's just stressing me out just talking about it.

I hate this.