03x11 - McAfee Family

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Tonight on "supernanny"...

Jo meets the mcafee family...

Stop it!

And for the first time ever,

She's got a single dad on her hands. [Screams]

Silas. Stop it.

[Cries] knock it off.

Three girls with attitude...

Ellie, don't tease me. Just give it to me.

[Laughs]what are you laughing about?

One boy who's got no respect...stop.

Hey. Don't hit me. This dad's so beaten down...

I feel kind of like I'm a disappointment to them.

You know, like, they wanted a family. He's hit rock bottom.

I don't like being alone.

Stop, silas. Don't run out in the street.

Can jo give dad the confidence he needs to face the world...

I'd like you to give 'em a warning, please.

Or is it all just too much...

Come on, brian.

For one man to take?

No! Right now!

Never! I don't like you anymore!

You baddaddy! [Sniffles]

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♪ Johnny ♪

I'm in a seaplane in alaska on my way to the next family.

So let's take a look and see who we've got here.

Hi, I'm brian mcafee. I'm .

I'm a single father of four kids.

You wanna pout all day then?

There's eliana, who's . [Brian] ellie.

Silas is .

Kaia is . I want him here now!

And anna is .

I never expected to be a single father at .

I've been divorced for two years,

And I have my kids with me full-time,

And it has been difficult just being one person with four kids.

[Crying]do you wanna hold onto the cart, or do you wanna hold my hand?

I'm in over my head, and I don't know what to do about it.

Nice.

Where did you get that?

It's very difficult,

Especially with eliana, kaia, and anna.

They wanna talk about girl things,

And I'm just not into girl things.

Don't be putting any more on, okay?

Three girls and one boy-- dad's got his hands full.

[Brian] stop it.

Silas, that's not very nice.

My kids do not respect me. Stop standing on the bed.

They treat me a lot of times like I'm their brother.

They don't wanna listen to what I have to say. This man's so quiet,

These kids are walking all over him.

Put this in that.

Don't do that.

Eliana has a lot of mood swings. Aah!

She's also becoming very defiant.

You throw anything, and I swear to the living god

There'll be consequences. [Glass shatters]

Silas is very aggressive.

Leave me alone!

Dad needs to put his foot down.

He hits his sisters...

Stop it! [Cries] and I don't know what to do with his behavior.

Kaia throws way too many tantrums for being a -year-old.

[Cries]

[Cries]no!

When she does that, i-i kind of shut down.

I don't know what to do with them. [Sobs]

Anna's the baby of the family. I probably let her get away

With too much, 'cause she throws tantrums, too. [Sobbing]

I don't know how to discipline them.

I don't know how to run a household. [Crying]

Okay, I'm sorry he smacked your head.

Supernanny, I'm a single father of four kids,

And I just really need your help.

This single dad desperately needs my help,

But I'm on my way.

♪♪♪♪♪

Hi, I'm jo.

Hi, I'm brian. Nice to meet you.

Come on in. Thank you.

Hello. Who's this? This is kaia.

[Jo] hi, kaia. Pleased to meet you. How old are you?

. .

He's .silas.

I'm . He's .

Hi, silas. Pleased to meet you. Jo.

[Kaia] and that's anna. She's . Hiya. Hi.

One more upstairs. Ellie. Oh, let's go upstairs, then.

[Brian] having jo come to my house

Was a little nerve-racking.

You know, I didn't know what my kids were gonna do,

Or how they would react, and...

A little embarrassing, you know, a single dad should be strong,

Should know how to handle his kids.

[Kaia] she's years old. I'm jo. How are you?

So you lot must be getting ready for school, right?

We're all getting ready for school.

Get 'em all out the door here.

Okeydokey. Well, you know why I am here,

So, um, I'm gonna put my bag down, and, uh,

Just watch you guys get ready for school. Okay.

All right. [Eliana] get me out of here.

[Brian] kaia, are you done with breakfast?

[Kaia] I haven't even ate breakfast. Well, let's eat something.

No! Aah! Stop it.

Silas, come on. Let's brush your teeth.

Ow.

[Cries]

Right off the bat, I could tell that mornings

Were a real challenge for brian.

[Sobbing]

[Singsong voice] anna is a crybaby. Anna is a crybaby.

[Brian] stop saying that.

Brian's incredibly passive.

[Screaming]

Knock it off.

He doesn't say "boo" to a mouse, really.

They don't listen to him... Ellie, don't tease me. Just give it to me.

They misbehave when he chases them

So that they'll stop, they laugh at him.

[Giggles] what are you laughing about?

They really don't take him seriously.

It's like, brian, get a grip!

Sort these kids out. They've got no respect for you.

All right, look. Go get your shoes and stuff on. [Silas shouting]

Put your shoes on. Let's go! Let's go.

We're gonna miss the bus. Come on. Come on. Hmm?

This is where we wait, right here.

Oh, right. This is where it is?

Yeah. So literally a stone's throw away?

It is.

Stay out of the water, silas.

Do--do you know some of the neighbors?

Not personally, no.

[Jo] and you're involved in all the p.t.a.s

And all the other moms and dads?

No, I just--i'm not--just haven't got into that stuff.

[Jo] brian's doing this all on his own.

He doesn't know any of the other parents,

And he's not involved in his children's school.

Well, there you go--

Shipped on the bus until later on this afternoon.

Let's see what dad does with his time.

Uh-oh. It falldown-ed.

Mm-hmm. With the older kids on the bus,

I had a good chance to catch up with brian

And get to know him a little better.

So what's the most difficult thing about literally being

Put in this situation right now?

I mean, you and your partner are not together anymore.

What would you say is the most challenging for you?

The most challenging thing is finding time with each child.

They all want my attention.

I want them to feel, you know, a connection with me,

And it just kind of feels right now

Like we're just kind of coexisting.

[Brian] I never imagined myself being single.

It's very difficult just being used to someone,

And then to have that just all gone in what seemed like a day.

Uh, it was just very overwhelming.

Does it feel to yourself very much a lonely experience?

It does. It does. I feel very isolated.

I mean, uh, especially when I got divorced.

I feel like kind of like I'm a disappointment to them.

You know, like they wanted a family.

You know, mom and dad stay together.

So you personally feel that you're letting them down

All the time.i do.

Well, that puts a lot of stress on you every day, surely.

It does. It does. [Jo] I do feel sorry for brian

Because of the situation he's been put in.

It's a fact--brian's divorce has knocked him sideways.

Emotionally, he's very down.

But he can't go any lower than where he's at.

The only way for brian is up.

Coming up on...

Silas' room?

After jo finds out where brian's been sleeping...

What's the real reason that you're downstairs

In that bedroom? He admits his biggest fear.

When "supernanny" returns.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

Hey, man! Hey, man!

I'm right here.

Oops.

Well, kids home. [Brian] when the kids get back home from school,

I'm, you know, I just say to myself,

I don't know how to deal with it because

Here I am again, being pulled in four different directions.

[Jo] is that something--is that a challenge for you, brian?

Keeping up with all the homework?

Oh, yes. Like this, for example.

This is silas' work that he just stuffed in his cubby.

So I got a note from the teacher with a frowny face,

Saying that he stuffed this in his cubby instead of doing it.

And these are pretty typical. I'll show you what...

These are-- here are the times

That he's gotten in trouble for bullying.

"Silas pushed another child to the ground."

There are lots of wandering, it says.

So lack of focus here... He will not focus on anything.

And concentration. Brian obviously knows that there's a big problem here.

But I wonder what he's doing about it.

I hate this homework!

Dad! [Brian] count it out.

[Shouts indistinctly]

That's because you do the work. I'm not doing the work for you.

Homework time is just a major battle for me

Because I constantly have to fight with him,

And we just go back and forth and back and forth.

Silas, if you just do it, you'll get it done,

And it'll be over with. I don't... [Cries]

[Jo] there's silas really struggling with his homework,

And there's brian, not really recognizing

What he should be doing to keep his son focused.

Brian's approach towards silas' homework

Should be one of enthusiasm, and it's not.

[Shouts indistinctly]

[Brian] silas, calm down and finish it.

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[Jo] after observing silas

Really struggling with his homework,

I decided to take a look around the house.

Okay.

Silas' room. Okay.

With who?

Your daddy sleeps with silas? Right, okay. Hmm.

[Jo] I couldn't believe that brian sleeps

On his son's floor on an air mattress.

But what I found out afterwards was even more shocking.

What's this room here?

That's dad's old room?

That's the designated junk room.

I am only one person with two hands.

It's very difficult to manage the simplest things.

So this room represents stuff

That you need to deal with, but keep until tomorrow.

"Keep until tomorrow." [Laughs] yeah, that's right.okay.

[Whispers] kind of like brian's life right now--

"Deal with it tomorrow." Tomorrow never comes.

[Jo] the children don't live with their mom anymore,

But I'm really curious to find out

What kind of a relationship they've got with their father.

Hey, girls.

Does dad know what to do with you both?

Like, as you're girls, and you like to do girly things?

No? He doesn't do girly stuff.

He doesn't do girly things? No.

Really?

Dad, can we have some eye shadow?

This is another-- this is a girl thing right now.

Close your eyes. Oh, you've got the same as me now--blue.

That's the same as me.

Cool! I think that's going to be a real challenge for brian--

How he connects with his daughters.

But it's so important that he learns to do that.

Girly things! [All giggle]

Aah! Are you okay?

[Thunder rumbling]

No. Soon after my chat with the girls, though,

Things started kicking off again. [Screaming]

Stop it.

[Brian] when kaia throws a tantrum,

She's the one I usually just put in the room. Go to your room now.

No. I don't want to hear it, it upsets all the other kids,

And I don't know how to deal with it.

None! Pick one.

None!

Okay. I'll pick one for you. Room. No.

Come on. [Eliana] kaia's tantrums are really annoying

Because they're loud and noisy.

Let go. No!

[Kaia screams]

Stop.

Hey. Don't hit me.

Go.

Interesting.

Just stay in here until you can behave yourself, please.

Silas, what made you hit dad?

[Jo] is that normal behavior?

Yes. One child hitting you when the other one--

When you're trying to discipline the other.

He'll do it especially with kaia.

He thinks that I'm hurting her or something,

And he'll just do it. Brian's really struggling to cope,

But what I know he needs is parenting .

Brian, you're a single dad. You're raising four kids.

You're trying to pull everything together.

But I recognize, brian, that feeling sorry for you

Is not gonna move you on

To the place where you need to be

For yourself and your family.

Right.

Where is discipline with the kids, brian?

That's a good question.

Silas hits you in the back

When he sees you disciplining kaia.

They think it's okay to hit you

And do what they want,

And you do nothing.

You pity them like you pity yourself.

But where is that gonna get you, brian?

Nowhere.

Homework...

Homework is a joke.

Silas is so frustrated with his homework.

He really does need help.

There's no encouragement. There's no praise.

There's no "let me sit down with you, son,

And let's go through the homework together."

That's not the right approach.

Three girls in the house.

They wanna have fun doing girly stuff,

And that is what I would like to see you doing with them.

Ask them what they wanna do. Give it a sh*t.

You know, the feminine thing, that's hard for me to--to do.

But I'm willing to do it--

Whatever it takes to get them to reconnect with me.

The sleeping arrangements-- I've got to ask.

What are you doing in silas' bedroom?

You're a grown man.

It just seems quieter down there than it does in--in my room.

That's a load of baloney, brian.

What's the real reason

That you're downstairs in that bedroom?

I don't like being alone.

You're a -year-old man.

We don't want you slumbering down with the kids,

Like you're their brother.

You're their father.

You need to feel comfortable with being by yourself.

Right.

So are you really ready for change? I believe that I can.

I--i'm ready to get on with that whole...

I love my kids, and they're worth it.

They are very worth it...

And I'm worth it.

Are you ready to take that rope

And pull yourself out of this hole

And make a change?

Yes. Shake me on that then. All right, let's go.

Coming up on...

I will-- if you do not stop,

I will put you on the naughty bench. Kaia and silas tag team dad...

I'm putting you on the naughty bench because you're hitting me.

And he learns a hard lesson at silas' school...

Silas' behavior is disruptive to the other kids.

When "supernanny" returns.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

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[Jo] being a single dad for brian is very overwhelming.

I mean, his kids are not the naughtiest in the world,

But he definitely needs to learn how to discipline them.

You see this bench?

This is the naughty bench.

If they break any one of these house rules,

They're gonna be sitting on this bench.

I don't like the idea.

It's not what we normally do.

This is not the naughty bench!

Trust me. As from now, this is the naughty bench. No, it isn't!

[Jo] it was sitting there. The kids were staring at it.

And then they thought they'd start playing up

And see what dad was gonna do about it.stop it.

I'd like you to give him a warning, please.

I will-- if you do not stop,

I will put you on the naughty bench.

Okay. She goes and he goes, straightaway.

No. No.

I hate that naughty bench.

[Both giggle] no!

Stop, silas. Come back in here, silas.

Don't run out in the street. Please don't. No!

That is dangerous. Now. Let's go.

[Singsong voice] you're not gonna get me. Ha ha ha ha.

Silas![Jo] the kids were running around for at least minutes,

But I deliberately stood back.

I wanted brian to prove to himself

And to the kids that I wasn't in charge of discipline--he was.

Stop running. When I put them on the bench and they just ran off,

I wanted to give up. I'm running around,

And my kids are laughing at me. I'm putting you on the naughty bench

Because you're hitting me. [Brian] I feel like I'm just the butt of a joke.

I feel like they don't respect me.

One child onto the bench. [Kaia crying]

[Screams]

[Jo] finally, kaia and silas stayed on the bench.

But I wanted dad to see

That he could manage all four kids on his own.

So I got him to set up a game to play with ellie and anna.

"Operation"! Here, daddy.

Okay. [Brian] thank you.

Aw, kaia needs to go straight back. She's come off the chair.

I wanna be good now! I wanna be good now! [Jo] all over a game.

I wanna be good now! I wanna be good now! [Sobbing]

[Jo] silas is being a good boy, okay?

You go back over to silas...

"I want an apology for your behavior."

I would like an apology.

Thank you.

It felt very good to see that it did work

And that they can listen, and they can respond

And that they can respect me.

I would like an apology.

[Sobbing] I'm sorry.

Thank you.

[Sobbing]

Would you like to come and play?

Daddy did it!

Oh, good try!

[Jo] this was the first time

That I actually saw brian disciplining his kids.

It was a victory!

♪♪♪♪♪

[Jo] as a parent,

If you know your child's having problems at school,

Then you should be talking to the teachers.

So today I had brian set up a meeting with silas' school.

Thanks for coming in today.

I know we wanted to talk about silas

And his behavior and kind of how he's doing in school. Yes.

So let pam start.

Silas is doing very well academically.good.

He does have problems with homework.right.

He often tells me he brings it in, but he doesn't. Mm-hmm.

His homework is important,

Because it's going to help silas become a better student.

It's going to help him to learn more.

[Jo] and not surprisingly, silas' homework

Was not the only concern the teachers had.

Silas' behavior is disruptive to the other kids.

He's, um, on the move all the time in the classroom.

If I'm standing in the front,

And I'm doing direct instruction during math or reading time,

He will be back there, rolling on the floor...

Hmm. Spinning in his seat, flipping his seat over,

Sitting on the top, rolling on top of the desk. [Brian] I felt embarrassed.

In, um, some ways, it was-- it was good to see that,

You know, he didn't just act this way at home.

But in other ways, it was-- it was embarrassing to know that

He rolls around on the floor... Distracts the class or whatever.

[Brian] I had no idea he was doing

The kinds of things he was doing here...

[Laughs] but it does parallel the things that he's doing at home, too.

So, um... Yes, it's just jumping in and saying,

"Okay, what can we do to fix this now,

And how can I work with the school?"

Brian, what do you need from the school?

I mean, personally, as a father?

I just--you know, I need to reach out to you guys.

Absolutely. That's what we're here for.

'Cause i-i think part of my problem has been also

My lack of enthusiasm for school. Mm-hmm.

Because I know school's important, you know.

That was instilled in me,

Even though I didn't believe it when I was a kid...

But, uh, and I want to instill that into them.

[Jo] silas' teacher said he's a good student,

So it's up to brian to make sure

That silas' academics continue at home.

Silas, come on. This is gonna be a fun time.

Let's go. We gotta do your homework. And sure enough,

As soon as we got back home, brian took the initiative. Here you go.

So...very good. Keep going. You did a wonderful job.

Your spelling is great. I'm here if you need my help, okay?

[Jo] things started off really well.

Brian gave the girls an activity to keep themselves occupied,

So that he could concentrate with silas and his homework. [Groans]

What's the matter, silas? You need some help? [Jo] silasdid get frustrated,

But brian got him straight back to that table

And gave him lots of encouragement.

[Mutters indistinctly] but you're doing a very good job.

I'm very proud of you.

Look at what you've accomplished so far.

You've already done words. [Brian] sitting next to silas

And actually having him do his homework

And doing it together feels wonderful.

It was one of the best things I could have ever dreamed for.

I already finished all my homework.

You finished your homework! Whoo! You all done? All right!

Come here, buddy!

There you go. Oh, and look.

You see what he put for number ?

[Silas] "my dad is fun." Thank you very much.

That was very nice of you. You know what?

You're fun, too. All of you are.

Coming up on...

[British accent] would you like a little tea party? No!

[Brian] no? Jo makes dad find his girly side,

But ellie and kaia aren't amused... [Kaia] I'm not having fun!

Well, it's because you guys

Aren't giving me the a chance to have fun. [Whispers] down!

Then the kids have a surprise for dad. Hello?

[Children] surprise!

When "supernanny" returns.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

Brian's a single dad with one son and three girls,

So girly things really don't come natural for him.

So as silas was out with a friend,

I had a plan for dad and his girls.

What we're going to do this afternoon

Is have a tea party.

This is a chance for you

To be able to connect with the girls,

Talk about things that they like to do,

Discuss as women do at tea parties.

All right. All right?

[British accent] would you like a little tea party?

No. The hats. No? The little hats?

No?

We had a tea party, but I didn't like it, so I went to cry.

We don't ever play like that.

Don't you want to spend time together as a family?

[Kaia] I'm not having fun. Well, that's because you guys

Are not giving me the chance to have fun.

[Jo] dad wasso trying to reach out to his daughters,

But it's just something that ellie and kaia

Are just not used to. I see a little girl here

That wanted a tea party from the beginning.

[British accent] come, let's sit.

Tea for two and two for tea.

The other girls were really resistant,

But brian sat down and had a tea party with anna,

And her face lit up.

Excuse me, madam. Would you like earl grey tea

Or would you like english breakfast tea?

I don't know.

I thought, there's just two of them.

What I'll do is go along and serve them.

And before I knew it,

I saw kaia sitting at the table.

Oh, and now there's three on board here.

Um, excuse me, ma'am. What would you like--

The earl grey tea or the english breakfast tea?

She said "do you want or-oray tea or earl breakfast?"

I was making a real fuss in that kitchen,

Hoping to stir up some little imaginations in the other room.

[Brian] jo pretended to be the waitress, getting us tea.

By just doing that, I could feed off her imagination, you know,

And the girls did, and it was just great.

[Laughs]

I'm sorry, daddy.

When I turned around, there was ellie.

Five minutes ago, nobody wanted to be there,

And now everybody was at this tea party.

And there are some raspberries and strawberries

Just while you're waiting for the sandwiches. Okay. Thank you.

We sat there. We had tea, and we had fun.

[British accent] I do believe

I'm coming down with a little bit of a cold. [Ellie giggles]

The tea party for me was a bit of a challenge, you know,

But definitely worth it

To see them smile, laugh, giggle--is just priceless.

Would anybody like to spend the afternoon with me?

[Silas] yeah! Yeah.

Brian was making real progress touching his children's hearts,

But now I needed to move on to the next step,

But I needed him out of the house first.

[Girl] bye, dad. Bye, kids.

Well, as a surprise for daddy,

I thought it would be a wonderful idea

If we all got together

And we gave daddy his room back.

Oh, yeah! I'm going right in there right now.

I really wanted brian to take ownership of his room again

As a single man,

As I know it's been two years since he's been divorced,

And I know that I can help him move along and do that.

Silas, this will be cool because you'll have your bedroom back.

It was time to get rid of that mess and that clutter

Once and for all.

Big thing coming through.

Bend your knees and up. Good girl.

Where do we want it?

We were pulling out the boxes and vacuuming and dusting.

There was so much trash.

[Groaning] [laughs]

Do you think he's gonna like this?

Yes, I think he's going to love it.

And then the children put the final touches in,

And the bed was made, and brian came home.

[Whispering] okay, everybody has to be very quiet.

[Whispers] down.

[Brian] hello!

Hi. How are you?

I'm good. How are you? Yeah, I'm fine.

I just sat on the chair

And made out very blaseé that everything was fine.

You might want to say hello to the kids.

They're just in there. They found some toys or something...okay.

In the spare room.

[Children] surprise!

Oh, wow. Oh, wow, my old room back.

[Giggles]

Yep, we all made it.

Oh, thank you very much. Oh. [Giggles]

I think brian was a bit speechless, really.

I think he was a little bit shocked

At what had been done for him.wow.

Yep. What a difference.

Going from this junk room to be--having my own room again

Was great, and I was very proud of the work that they had done,

'Cause I know that they helped, and they were so proud.

I have a room. That was great.

I have a room.

All right. Thank you, guys.

What it means to me to have my own room back

Is kind of like starting a new life,

And it was one of the best presents they could have given.

Let's get rid of it.

One, two, three.

But there was still one thing left to do--

Silas needed his room back.

This is your room now, you can do whatever you want with it

[Grunts]

Seeing how happy they all are

Shows me that this family is moving forward.

Brian has worked really hard

To accomplish what he has with his family,

And now it's my time to go and leave them alone.

I'm going away for a few days, but I'll be back.

[Brian] I'm scared. I'm nervous that

They'll try and break the rules right off the bat,

Try and push my buttons.

So while I'm gone, I want you to really pay attention

And listen to daddy, okay?

I know that brian has the tools that he needs to continue.

And I'll see you when I get back.

I just hope he keeps emotionally strong

And he's heading the game whilst I'm gone.

Bye. [Brian] bye-bye.

See you soon. [Girl] bye, jo.

Coming up on...

I'm not going!

With jo gone, the kids push brian to the edge.

Stop.no.

[Yells indistinctly] never!

You let me go, you bad daddy!

I don't like you anymore!

[Sniffles]

When "supernanny" returns.

But first, a tip from supernanny. ♪ Be good, be good ♪

Parents, here's a fun way to reward your children

For all their good behavior. Make a reward coupon book

Of all the fun things thatthey love to do,

So that when they behave well,

They can be rewarded with one of these coupons.

It's a great incentive.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

♪ Be good, be good ♪

Brian has successfully made tremendous changes

Whilst I've been gone,

But now it's time to see if it really paid off.

So, brian, are you ready to take a look

And see what's on this dvd?

Yeah, I am.

All right.

[Brian] come on. Okay, let's get your homework up here.

Well, you got plenty of homework to pick from.

What do you wanna do? You can do this one.

It says write a paragraph

Telling what you did over the weekend.

Actually, I want to do this one.

You wanna do that one? Plus ..

[Laughs] good job. All right.

Plus .

. Very good.

You did it. See, I know you're doing math.

Look how easy that is for you.

You never have any math problems that you can't do.

What I am loving here, brian, is that you were there

To support him and encourage him.

What have you learned about yourself

In teaching silas how to continue with his homework?

Patience-- just to be more encouraging

Rather than being so down on him. Yeah.

If I was in his position,

I would want my dad to encourage me,

Not to sit there and say "do it."

The pair of you are growing more and more self-esteem.

It's true.

So I think the next scene

Is all about pretending with the kids.

[Chuckles] I remember.

Oh, good. You've got the carpet sample. Let's take a look here.

So could you explain to me what we got going on here?

[Kaia] this is the color pink. That's a stripe. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

This is green. You know, I like what you've done here.

I'm loving this improvisation here, brian.

You're just rolling with it,

And the kids--just look at them--they're so engaged. Right.

Perfect. Yes, I'll take of those, please.

Those--those decals are simply divine.

Actually, this goes to our supplier here.

He'll tell you where he is.

Nothing says c.e.o. Power like butterflies in your hair. [Laughs] look at you all.

[Brian] ouch.

Well, they've really been craving

This kind of stimulation,

And they're now getting it.

I have never,never had a time like that with them.

Oh.

I didn't want it to end.

My eye's watering. [Laughs] it's brilliant.

Yeah. Thank you.

So here... Behavior.

Mm.

No more monkeys jumping on the bed.

Now make your bed back the way it was.

Jump on the bed again, son,

And I'll put you on the naughty bench.

Kaia, get off the bed

And put the covers back on the bed, please.

I'm putting it together!

[Brian] well, come on. Help. [Kaia] okay, okay, okay.

Okay. I'll make it. I'll make it. I'll make it.

Leave her alone.

[Ellie and silas] boo for dad! Boo for dad!

You two stop it, or I'll put you on the naughty bench, too!

No!

[Kaia] I'm gonna make the bed.

So they're actually riled up.

Oh, yeah.

As soon as you feel like that, I want you to do this.

And go, "what do I need to do

To get what I'm trying to achieve here?"

So that you can shift how you're behaving.

When you've thought about that,

Come back and try a different approach.

Kaia, get off of there. Come on, kaia. Get off.

Leave her off.

Do not talk to her. She's on the naughty bench.

[Ellie] I don't like you.

I'm not going! Aah! [Crying]

You leave me alone!

Do not hit me.

Leave me alone.

No.

No!

Stop throwing things.

No. No! [Grunts]

Stop.no!

[Yells indistinctly] never!

I'm not going back on there.

You let me go, you bad daddy.

You've been bad to us...

Mean to us...

Yucky to us. I don't like you anymore!

You're a bad dad.

[Sniffling]

What's going on with you and ellie?

I think maybe she's mad because we're not a--

All of us aren't together anymore.

Who's "all of us"?

Mom.

I think she... Takes stuff out on me

Because she's upset at the situation.

So you've both got anger

About the situation you've both been left in.

And you end up taking it out on each other,

But what it does is cause dysfunction here--

Between you and your daughter.

[Sniffles]

I'm sorry, dad.

I put you on here

Because you were being disrespectful to me,

And I would like an apology.

I'm sorry, dad.

What are you gonna do to move it on

So that you and ellie have a better relationship together?

What are you actually gonna do as her father?

Communicate with her, open that communication up.

Okay.

You've seen the dysfunction there in the relationship

And now that needs to be resolved, okay?

I'm feeling very positive about what I've seen.

It's remarkable, absolutely fantastic.

Well done. Give me a hug. Well done.

[Chuckles] brilliant, brian, absolutely brilliant. Thank you.

So let's get cracking. Off to work. All right. Good.

Coming up on...

I know that in the past you've been let down.

Dad opens his heart up to ellie, but will she listen?

Come here. Come here. And when jo takes dad out of his comfort zone...

Feel uncomfortable? Just having everybody coming over.

He starts to panic.

Come on, brian.

When "supernanny" returns.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

The divorce has had an enormous impact on brian

And his relationship with his children--

Especially his eldest, ellie.

So now it was time to build them bridges.

I just wanted to talk to you about something, okay,

That I feel that we need to talk about, all right?

Going into it, I didn't know everything to say.

I didn't know clearly what I was--should be said,

But I just kinda spoke from my heart.

I know that in the past you've been let down

By certain situations that we've gone through,

With your mom leaving and everything,

But I want you to know that I'm there for you.

And I've got this for you.

You see how this clip goes together and never ends? Mm-hmm.

This is like you and me, okay?

We're always gonna be there for each other.

I want you to know you can always trust me, okay?

I also want you to know

That I'll always be truthful with you, okay? Okay.

You--you can come to me anytime with anything, okay?

I love you.

I love you, too.

You're welcome.

It's very special,

The relationship a father has with their daughter,

And it was much needed

For the pair of them to sit down and to talk.

Brian's kept himself so isolated since he's been a single dad,

But I thought it was time for brian

To reach out to his neighbors for friendship and support,

Not only for himself, but for his kids as well.

Okay, brian, I told you I was gonna throw you

Into the deep end, because I think you're ready for it.

Right now you're ready to go knock on these neighbors' doors

And get to know who your neighbors are.

Jo said, "let's have this tea party.

"I want to break you out of the shell.

So let's go. Let's invite some neighbors over for tea party."

And I wasn't too happy about that.

Hey, uh, we're just across the way.

We're having a tea party.

Wondered if you wanted to come and join us? We'll come on over there.

I'm brian. We're--we're having a tea party over there, molly.

We'd love to have you come over. Okay.

Right. Okay, come on. We've got a tea party to organize.

Quick, quick, quick, quick, quick. Okay.

Let's have some direction here. We're heading up a tea party.

As the pretend party went so well,

I thought, why not have a real tea party?

Coming, guys. You better hurry up.

[Jo] but just as the neighbors were about to arrive,

Brian went pale.

What's up? I'm not used to this.

Does it feel uncomfortable? Yeah, you know, very.

Come here. Come here. Feel uncomfortable?

Oh, just having everybody coming over at once,

Not being prepared for it.

I-i get nervous when I'm around too many people,

And it just is totally out of my zone,

And it was not something that I really wanted to do.

Come on, brian.

It was difficult to see all these people

Coming into my house. I'm thinking, what am I gonna say?

What can we talk about? Come on in.

Trish and... Greg.

Greg.i was concerned that brian would shy away,

But he gathered up his courage, and he came out of his shell.

Maybe you can teach me. Even though I have no kids,

That would be probably good for me.

Hey, I'd love to. That would be no problem.

I went from being so isolated and standoffish

To giving them advice,

And being able to talk with other adults was wonderful.

I don't know how you do it. Very polite, very quiet.

That many girls-- I don't know how you do it.

I think brian felt, "hey, these guys

Are actually interested in what I have to say,"

So he became more confident. You could see him glowing,

And as I was pouring the tea, I was just looking over at him,

Just feeling really proud that he'd embraced the situation.

We've got some sandwiches and some pastries here.

It was great to see the kids socializing

With the other kids in the neighborhood

Because they don't normally do that.

But they had fun

I just wanted to say thank you, guys, very much,

For coming over and being a part of this

'Cause it's good to know you guys.

Know who my neighbors are and that I'm not just the guy--

Number one--with the four kids.

[Laughter]

So, um, I think my work's done here.

You've given me great instruction.

Right here.

Very good instruction.

Give me a big hug, okay? I want a big hug from you.

I am so proud of you.

What he is doing is showing his children that he cares

And he loves enough to want to change the circumstances

That they've all been in, and that, to me, is gold.

Stay focused, stay committed

And remember, it's because you love enough.

All right?okay.

What jo has brought to me is the hope and the knowledge

That family doesn't have to be mom and dad.

It can be whoever. As long as there is a commitment there--

That's a family.

Kids, nanny jo jo's going now.

You're leaving forever? I'm going now, yes.

I'm gonna miss jo jo. I like her in my house.

Bye-bye, sweetie.

I think jo is a wonderful person

And really respectful.

I'm gonna miss you, too.

I feel that brian's gone through many transformations

In the time that I've spent with him.

I think that he's recognized

What each and every one of his children need from him.

Take care, brian. Take care. You, too.

Brian's proud--

Proud of being a father who has four beautiful children,

And I'm proud of him for feeling that way.

[Engine roars]

Yippee!

You're doing good. Look at you.

I feel like my kids see me as more of a dad

That--than a brother and a better dad than I've been.

I need those copies. Where are those copies at?

And the fact that they look forward to spending time with me

Is just priceless. Thank you. Burgundy, okay.

Silas is doing better with his homework.

Oh, that's what I'm here for. I'm here to help you.

I give him encouragement, and he feeds off it.

Okay, dad, ready?

Ellie has just blossomed.

She has gone from being kind of quiet to herself like I was,

To seeing--by my example, that to be open--

That she's being more open with me.

[Laughing]

We're not really fighting and stuff like that.

Kaia. It's great to have

That father-daughter relationship back.

You know, the challenge of having to

Raise four kids by myself is always gonna be there.

I definitely have hope

In seeing even the small changes that have taken place,

And I know that what the future holds

Can only be something that would bring me joy.

No! I have no teeth. [Muttering indistinctly]

Whoosh.

Aah! Oh! Zoom! Boom.

Ooga. Ooga. Ooga. Aah!

Scramble. Ew! No, no, no, no.

I ain't running. Oh.

Crazy! Aah! All these people.

That, that, that, that.

It's getting in my head, and I had enough.

[Babbling] fun. Oh. Ugh.

Did you say no?

Aah! Get off! Get off! [Screams]