04x12 - McKeever Family

[bunniefuu]

Tonight on "supernanny"... Ow!

You do not throw that!let me go!

Jo visits the mckeevers' home, and for the first time,

The kids' aggression turns on jo. River, stop it.

These are two of the most badly behaved children

Jo has even encountered. Donot kick me, please.

She dodges punches and flying objects.

We need to b*at up that lady.[Woman] no, you don't.

Can she get dad involved

In his sons' lives before mom loses it? Don't walk away from me!

Will jo find the source of their anger?

'Causeeverything is due to you.

Or will it be too late? Corey.

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Here in southern california.

Let's take a look at the family I'm gonna help.

Hi! Hi!

We're the mckeever family.no, we're the butt family!

[Man] hunter! [Woman] stop that.

Aah! This is hunter. This is river.

This is river. I'm river. I'm corey.

Stop biting me. And I'm lucy.and he's diaper woman!

[Corey] hunter is . I don't want to be alive anymore!

River is . [Grunting]

What are you doing?

[Grunts]

Ouch!

Ow!

The main issue with river is... [Lucy] river!

His violent temper.yeah, he's very violent.

[River grunting]

[Lucy] come on!

Now he's picking up heavier objects,

And I'm afraid. [Lucy] don't, river.

[Corey] put that down now.put it down!

Put it down! You don't play with wrought iron!

Put it down!

Hunter is hyperactive.[Armpit squeaking]

[Corey] he throws fits... Oh, dad, you're not!

Big, cry, whiny baby!

Bites... Stop! Don't bite me.

He hits... [Lucy] hey, hunter!

He just is nonstop aggressive.

I don't care! [Grunts]

It's not funny. Let me go!

Sit down!

Oh, dear. We've got problems.

I own two companies. One is a recording studio.

I could work up to , hours a week.

Basically I take care of the kids hours a day,

So that's my life. Seems like mom's raising the boys here.

I think lucy sometimes has it easier, but-- how do you figure?

You don't have it hard.

I mean...

Uh... Oh, my god. What are you, nuts?

Get your bogus ass up and start hoppin'!

[Corey] hunter, watch your language.

Heck, hell, diarrhea, poopie.

That's disgusting.

These parents should be doing something about that.

They can weenie in my weenie.

You're an idiot. You two are so stupid, I swear to god.

[Hunter] a weenie. You guys are stupid.

How are your kids gonna have respect for you?

You've got no respect for them.

Don't even kick me.[Chuckles]

Why are these parents not disciplining their boys?

You know what a time-out is, right?

No.[River] no.

There's no discipline in this house because nothing works.

If you throw that, I'm gonna smack your butt.

All these empty threats and bribes.

Your kids don't believe you.

It's just getting really bad.

[Voice breaking] I don't want to go shopping anymore.

Corey wants to do stuff on the weekends.

I just say forget it, go without me,

Because I'm just so embarrassed.

Please, please just come. We really need you.

Yeah, you're right. You guys do need my help,

Because this is totally unacceptable.

I'm on my way.

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Hi!hi, pleased to meet you. Jo.

Hi. Nice to meet you. Lucy.hi.

Come on in.when jo first came in, she had this look in her eye

Like, "lucy, I'm not here to chitchat or be your friend.

I'm gonna be your warden."[Lucy] come here, riv.

Where are the boys?boys are in here.

What's your name? Why are you doing that?riv! Be nice.

As soon as I met the young boys, they decided to att*ck me.

Why--why are you punching me?that's not nice!

When river started attacking jo, I just wanted to die.

What are their names?that's river, and that's hunter.

River and hunter.

So you've obviously got issues that need to be addressed.oh, very much so.

And we will get to the bottom of those, trust me.

But today I need to look.okay. Do you want me to give you a tour of the house first?

Yeah, that'd be lovely.okay.

Here's their room.

[River] not in our room!yeah--stop it!

[Grunts]riv--river, no!

We went upstairs, and the boys were just going wild.

Stop that! Now! River!

River.

Stop it, riv. No!

River, stop it!

Jo's a guest.

I'll [bleep] your privates one day!

You don't say that! It's rude!

River!

So after getting punched, I thought, what's next?

And then the boys started throwing balls at me.

[Lucy gasps] river!

All right.

River, stop it!

I've visited a few families and been targeted,

And this was one of those families.

We need to b*at up that lady.

No, you don't.

[Jo] I batted off a ball that came my way,

And as I walked down the staircase,

I braced myself...no, you don't!

Thinking that I was gonna have a big, bouncy ball

Hit me in the back of the head.river! That's wrong!

I realized I was gonna have to duck and dive a lot on this job.

We hit that lady on the weenie. [Laughs]

[Lucy] river, do not talk that way!i've dealt with plenty of kids

That have had potty mouths,

But these boys were certainly-- let's say creative.

Do you know why I'm here, river?

Yeah, to spit?

To spit? No.

These kids do know

The difference between right and wrong behavior,

But nothing's been reinforced.

But there are no boundaries because it's not being

Backed up by discipline.

River!

You don't do that!

[Bleep]

[Voice breaking] I'm sorry.

He doesn't usually disrespect more than i...

I'm very sorry.

Mom's desperate. She's totally lost control

Of dealing with the boys, and on top of it all,

She's mentally exhausted.all right. What would you normally be doing today?

Well, I was attempting to do their homework.

Okay, well, I'll let you continue to do that, then.

Okay. Hey, guys?

We have to do homework now.

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Homework time... Could have been a lot calmer.

Wait. What is this?

This is what a looks like right there.

These look like chicken scratch.[Laughs]

What is this supposed to be?a "g."

It's not. It's horrible. You know, you guys make

The homework last longer because you take so darn long.why?

For mom, it's all about rushing the homework

And getting it done.you're wasting my time. Look at that writing. It's horrible.

"And pants and shirt."You are an idiot. Come on! Get--

I'm sure we've been on this page for hours.

Come on.[Jo] mom loses her patience...

Do your homework! Enough!

[Jo] and keeping them engaged seems to be a real problem.

Listen, we're not playing with toys right now.

After watching mom attempt to wrangle the boys

Into doing their homework, I wanted dad to come home soon

So that I could see if he did a better job

In keeping the boys in line.

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[Jo] later that afternoon, corey came home.

Jo frost. Pleased to meet you. Hi.

Very nice to meet you. Thank you for coming.

How have the boys been today?

They're not on their best behavior, that's for sure.

[Jo] lucy told him how the kids had behaved,

And mom had asked corey to put river into a time-out.

Let's go in the--let's go in the room for a time-out.

If you're not gonna do it, let's go in the room.

Do not grab me there, river.aah. I wantdown!

You're not helping. Do not scratch me.

River didn't want to go in and started to hit his dad.[Grunting]

Stop now.

Stop it! Stop!

Let me go!no!

[Jo] and there was this full-blown fight happening

Between corey and his younger son.

Stop it.[Grunts] aah!

Wah! [Spits]

Was I really seeing this? I mean, could it get any worse?

[Grunts]

Coming up on...

River, don't even think about it.[Lucy] river!

The as*ault on jo continues.

Please go out the room.and jo lets the parents have it.

Their behavior is disgusting.

I don't know what else to do.

When "supernanny" returns.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

[Boys grunting, screaming]

Stop it, riv. Stop!

[Jo] river and his dad had been fighting for almost an hour,

And river had completely trashed the room.stop.

But when corey demanded that river pick up his mess,

That's when things got really disgusting.

Are you ready to clean that--clean this room up?

Never.then you're not gonna come out.

River, you're--now you're picking your nose?

That's disgusting.

Do not!

[River yelps]

[Corey] how dare you?

Let me go!stop it! You're hurting me. You're going back in the room.

No!and you're gonna clean that mess up.

Stop it, river. Get up.

Let me go!

[Corey] I'd be happy to if you stop kicking me.

[Jo] time-outs don't serve anything

But trouble for this family.you don't kick me!

Instead, it just validates how hostile

Each member are to one another.you're not coming out of this room.

It serves no purpose but a row in the house.

Let go of that! Stop. Stop. Stop, riv.

Aah!

[Grunts]

Listen, river, you're pissing me off.

This is while I'll just lay-- I'll just lay down with him,

And I'll hold him, 'cause this will be nonstop all--all day.

But--[grunts]

I don't know what is in his head that he does that.

Just makes me look bad as a father.

This whole episode-- oh, take a look.

Your son just scratched you on the neck up.

What got achieved here?

Nothing.

Right.that's what I feel. Nothing.

River, don't even think about it.

River, she's here to help us. Why would you hit her?

I'll tell you that tomorrow.

River has a strong personality, but he's been given

An enormous amount of power and control.

He actually doesn't know how to deal with that in a mature way

Because he's too young.

I think dad's zoned out.

I think dad's just resigned to the fact

That he can't deal with anything anymore,

And he's detached himself.

[Screeches] out of the way!

Come on. Let's go. We're going up to bed now.

[Jo] emotionally, he's--he's--he's cut off.

He's been able to just detach.you're gonna get your pajamas on. Let's go.

Lay down! Get in bed! Get in bed! I'm done.

Lay down. Corey, get up here now!

Hunter, get in bed!can't hold him anymore!

[Jo] I believe that corey is fully aware

That if he doesn't change the way he's thinking

And the way he's behaving,

That his children are going to be the sacrifice.

What am I supposed to do? I mean, I don't know--

I-i just--i can't say anything. They don't listen.

There's nothing I can do. I-i mean, there's--

I'm sure there's maybe something--i don't know.

I don't know what I'm doing. I don't know what to do anymore.

[Jo] having seen enough for the day,

It was time for me to go,

Because the quicker I could leave,

The quicker I could come back to sit down with this family

And really discuss the severity of the issues

That needed to be addressed.

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The first thing I want to talk to you about is the boys.

Their behavior is disgusting.

Yesterday, I was kicked, punched,

Spat at, and they're cussing and swearing.

It was just an absolute nightmare.

I mean, anightmare.

I'm seeing things being broken, things being thrown.

They've got no respect for their home.

But it doesn't surprise me,

Because they've got no respect for the pair of you.

They've got no respect for anybody who's in it,

So why should they even respect their surroundings?well, I think I'm probably

More to blame with that,

Because I can't handle their behavior,

And, you know, I do bribe them with things.

Look at the price you're paying for it.

You're put in charge. I mean, let's face it.

You're not in charge, which brings me to

The next point--discipline.

Discipline is totally ineffective in this house.

Nothing is followed through. You undermine one another.

They come at you aggressively,

And you pin 'em down aggressively.

You're grabbing him by the ankle.

I don't know what else to do.

Homework-- it's done with impatience.

Yeah, it is done with impatience,

And I will sit here for two, three hours trying to get them

To do homework, and they won't. If I had another parent here,

Obviously we could each get help.

To me, it's like, okay, you gotta get this done

And take it to school.most of the time when she does their homework, I'm not here.

I-- it's done before I get home.

Even if he's home, he'll sit on the couch,

And I'm doing both boys, and he sees me dealing with it,

And nothing's done.it's not about who did what. This is about you together.

You know? I'm talking to you both as parents, together.

The boys feel the resentment.

They're caught in the middle.

Dad, you detach and remove yourself

From the situation

Because just choosing to do what feedsyou

Leaves you in a place where you're not dealing

With what needs to be addressed at home.

And that causes the hostility

That grows between the pair of you. They needyou.

They need their father.

You need to be present.

So we're not giving up.

No.no.

So are we ready for some hard work?

I'm ready.i'm ready.

Let's go.

Coming up...

When dad won't respond to hunter's remark...

Right now you look like a -year-old.

Jo tells him it's time for him to change.

Stand up and take responsibility

For what youchose to have in your life.

When "supernanny" returns.

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[Jo] when I arrived the next day, the first thing

That I wanted to address was that these boys

Are not held accountable for what they do--

Consequences for misbehavior

And, I feel, reward when they're behaving well.

So I came up with an idea to do just that.

So what we have... Are some smiley balls here.

Could we get 'em?okay?

Mom and dad, you hold the bags that have

The large amount of balls in there.

When they behave themselves, they gain a ball,

And when they don't, they lose one.

And based upon the amount of balls that they have

In their fishbowl, they're then given privileges

To do the things that they want to,

So that it's not taken for granted.and as you get more,

Mom and dad are gonna allow you to do the things

That you want to do.

These balls are to work for you guys.

Right.but the focus for these boys

Is for them actually adding them to their fishbowl.

[Corey] I think with the privilege balls,

What jo's trying to teach us is that if you're gonna

Get something in life, you have to work for it.

With the privilege balls being set up

For consequences for misbehavior,

It was really important now

To lay down these rules so the boys would know

Exactly what was expected of them.

What's being placed up here are rules--

Behavior that we don't want to see,

Otherwise it will equal discipline.

First one that's going up here...

"Not... Doing... As... You...

Are told."Yeah. What's the second one here?

"Name...

Calling."

Swearing. Not listening.

Talking back.hitting.

Anything that's aggressive, that's striking out,

Will result inimmediate discipline.

'Cause if you choose to do them,

You're gonna end up with discipline.

Because of what? You want to be doing what with them?

We want to be doing fun things. We want to be having fun.

We want to be able to go places that we can all enjoy

And have a good time.

Corey, he's looking at you.

What do you have to say?

[Jo] and his dad just looked at him... Empty.

And he had an opportunity to turn around and say to his son,

"Yeah, we're gonna make some changes, son."

Excuse me, boys, one moment. Corey, come with me, please.

I had to take him into the bedroom and talk to him

About these situations, and I needed to do it

Away from the kids.right now you look like a -year-old.

You have one sh*t at being able to turn around

And tell your boy that, "you know what?

It's not all I care about. No, don't walk away from me!

And don't walk away from this, because your kids need you.

They're gonna bring more into your life

Than you ever imagined.

I was actually really pissed.

I don't want people to see me in this light.

I've been hiding all my life, and here is a time now--

There's a chance millions of people could see this.

All you're thinking about is yourself! You are selfish.

And now I am cross with you,

Because there are two kids' lives at stake!

I'm not selfish. No, you're right. I understand that.

Then stand up and take responsibility

For what youchose to have in your life.

It's a bloody blessing that you have two kids.

And you can't answer them

When they turn around and talk to you?

I'm never heard that out of his mouth before, you know?

Didn't feel good.

He needs to grow up. He needs to recognize his responsibilities,

And he needs to address those-- for his sake,

For his boys' sake, for his family's sake.

And he needs to start now.

Are you in, or are you out?i'm in.

Then go and be in.

After my stern talk with dad,

They saw that things were going to change,

And they were bound to act up sooner or later.

And sure enough, when hunter was refused a snack,

He started to trash the guest room.

What is going on?

Hunter, why did you do this? This is not acceptable.i'm hungry,

And you made me mad.

Hey, hunter, when we all leave this room,

I expect that this room gets put back how it's supposed to.

[Crying] I don't know even how to make this!

It's too heavy!

[Crying]

Aah!

It was crucial that hunter realize

That he would be punished for his behavior,

And once he realized

That he wasn't gonna be let off the hook,

He had no choice but to clean up that room.

This is hard.

Oh, why do we do this?

♪♪♪♪♪

It's done!

That's better. That's better.

Because you chose to break the rules,

You will be doing time-out in this room now.[Groans]

So you will be here for seven minutes.

I hate time-out.

[Beep]

Okay, you go and you explain

Why he was placed in time-out.

Okay.

All right? Then for him to apologize,

Hugs and kisses...okay.

All right? And then his ball.

So he sat in time-out for seven minutes,

But at the end of the day, he misbehaved,

So he still was gonna lose a privilege ball.

[Groans]are you ready to apologize to me now?

Okay, look at me and say, "mommy, I'm sorry."

[Mumbling] mommy, I'm sorry.good boy. Okay, come give me a hug.

Before jo came, the time-outs didn't really work well.

Now that jo taught us the proper steps, what to do,

I think it's gonna be a-a challenge,

But I think it will definitely work.

Give me a ball.

[Hunter crying] one more chance. Please!

No, no. We had a chance.

[Sobbing]

He's having these emotional meltdowns

Because he's never been told "no."

These boys ain't used to having consequences,

So ofcourse they're going to resist change.

So they're-- they're gonna know.right.

They're gonna know how to deal with that.

Coming up on...

The kids go after jo again. [Corey] you do not throw that!

And later, jo pushes dad to the breaking point.

Everything that is going on here is due to you.

When "supernanny" returns.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

[Jo] the next day, what I really wanted to do

Was talk to the boys about how they felt about their father.

And it didn't take long, really, to get an answer.

Would you like to play hide-and-seek with dad?

Dad doesn't play hide-and-seek.

Dad doesn't play hide-and-seek?

[Jo] when I first met the boys, they told me that they didn't

Like their father, that all he cared about was work.

He never spent any time with them.

[Jo] they never had any fun with him.

[Jo] look.the boys misbehave because they're denied the attention

They should be receiving from their father.

So I've come up with a really good idea

That would help improve their behavior

And their relationship with their father.

So I brought in a board that would visually show the kids

Exactly how much commitment they would receive

From their dad every day with regards to play.

All right, I've been talking to the boys

About time being spent with you,

And they're like, they want more dad time, right?

Every day I want you all to pick something

That you're all gonna do for the hour.

At the top there were lots of activities

That the kids could do, and underneath

A disk that would show them that dad would concentrate

Solely on the boys and do something that they want to do.

An hour every day. If, because of work,

You don't get that hour in,

You're gonna bring it over to the next day, okay?

That sounds good. I like it.

I like my dad's new routine.

I'm gonna put it on the wall up there so that you guys

Can see that nice and clearly, okay?

This is something that will help the kids realize

That their dad does love 'em, that he does want

To play with 'em, that he does care.i think that it's a good idea.

It makes me know that I have to stay on top of things.

I want the boys to choose...what do you want to do?

Something we can do this afternoon.

To impress the importance of dad spending time with the boys,

I just wanted to get him out of the housenow. What are we gonna do?

River, let's go!

[Jo] the boys wanted to go over to the park...

Good job!

And it was just nice to see all three of them having fun,

As any father with his sonsshould be.

When I'm playing with hunter and river at the park,

It feels great. I want to spend time with my kids.

I want to make them happy.i never really learned this from my dad,

But you taught me a lot, and i-i just want to say thank you.you're welcome.

I didn't know how to really be a great father.

I mean, it sounds like a cop-out,

But the thing is, no one ever taught me.[Jo] it's not rocket science.

Just play with your children. Give 'em the time

So that you're building a happy home,

And you've got contented kids.

Hey, you boys done homework tonight?

It was really wonderful to see dad spend some downtime

With the boys, but whilst it was calm,

I wanted to tackle

This family's biggest problem-- homework.

So the first thing we want to do with homework

Is to be very relaxed.and I went through the steps

Of being able to create just an atmosphere

That was nice and calm for the boys to study.

And then let's place ourself

In a situation here

Where we can sit next to the child and help.

Dad, whenever youare home,

I want you to find the time to be at the table,

Because if you can do one-on-one,

It's gonna be much better.

When river does homework, I want to be there to help him.

But when he starts acting the way he acts,

I just feel there's nothing I can do,

And, um, I guess that's why sometimes

I'd rather let mom do the homework.

Why don't you sit with one over there?

River, I'm trying to help you.

You gotta let me help you. I need to help you.

[Jo] come over to the side. Come sit down.

River, let me take a look at your paper, please.i'm not done yet.

River, look at me, darling.what?

Okay, three steps, okay?

[Lucy] no, honey, honey.

Look at me. Three steps. 'Cause look, he's sitting there

Trying to do it himself because you're not giving him

Any direction, okay? Talk to him clearly and directly.

All right? "River, this is what we're gonna do--

Three steps to this homework-- one, two and three."

Now the way you're talking to him at the moment is with tone

That is as if you're--it sounds as if you're turning off.

All right? This is about being encouraging, okay?

These boys are more than capable of doing their homework.

They just need alittle direction.

This is what we gotta do, okay?

No, that one's minus.[Corey] river...

It's . The zero's--yeah, okay. That's good.

Now what we need to do is the second thing

That daddy was talking about, all right?

So you go through those with daddy. Show him--me.

Oh, good boy. Dad, do the next one, number two.

Keep going from there.okay, what's this one?

"Set."Very good.

What I learned from jo about doing homework with my kids

Is that it is possible to break through

To a stubborn little boy like mine.

And then a nah. That's it! Good boy! Well done.

After homework, I thought everything was going okay.

But at dinner, river started to misbehave again.

[River] but you sit there!

I'm sitting right here. This is where I choose to sit.

Dad sat next to river, and river kicked off.

He didn't want his dad sitting there.

He wanted to control where his dad sat.

Uh, river, this is what's expected from you.

You sit your chair back in the place

Where you're supposed to and eat your dinner.

Do not--do not![Jo] do not shout.

You do not throw that!do not shout.

You know, when a kid's really angry,

It's better to remain calm rather than feed into the anger.

You get angry, too.please go out the room.

Believe me, it's no fun getting hit by these kids,

But it's not going to stop me helping this family.

You're getting angry. Jo jo's your friend.

There's no real magic

In knowing how to deal with a child that has anger issues.

My main importance with both parents

Was to allow them to recognize

How they were dealing with it now

And what it was doing to contribute to the way

River was continuing to behave.

See how he's trying to get your interaction?

He wants you to feed into his anger.

River, you don't throw that!

What--if you behave-- if you say that,

Then you set it up.[Speaks indistinctly]

The first thing I told mom and dad was to remain calm

So that temperaments wouldn't get worse,

And secondly, to tell river

Unless he's calm, he's not going to get the attention he wants

Or be heard.no, you're not allowed in this room

While you're behaving that way.[Grunts]

You have to be calm to be in this room.get out!

Hey!

No, you're not allowed in this room

While you're behaving that way.[Grunts]

When river wanted to spend time with hunter and mom

At the computer,

It gave me a perfect chance to illustrate this principle.

[Sobbing][lucy] put that down.

[Jo] when he's calmed down...mommy, I want to play!

Tell him what behavior you expect--

The two of you together. Unite together.

As soon as you decide you're gonna calm down

And be a good boy, then you may be in here.

But until then, I don't want you in here.

What river's wanting is his own way and attention,

And I taught mom and dad that if they can teach river

Just to calm down, then he'll get what he wants,

And he'll also be heard.

[Lucy] take a deep breath.

You're gonna behave?

Good. Great.[Lucy] oh, good.

Corey and i--we both came together, and river realized

That we were a team, and--and he realized that

Both of us weren't gonna put up with it.

We're really pleased to hear he's gonna behave.

The whole process was crucial, because it will happen again.

But as long as they keep following through,

They're always going to make river think

About the way he behaves and the choices that he makes.

[Lowered voice] I just wanted to say you're right.

[Lowered voice] yeah. Well done, the pair of you, okay?

I saw something very different here.

You laid down those rules, and you laid down expectations.

Yeah.and he saw that you agree-- you agree,

And you're on the same page, which was brilliant.

♪♪♪♪♪

So I am going to leave for a few days.

I want to leave you some homework.

Mom, I want you to follow through with discipline.

Don't give a hundred chances. Here's one warning,

And nip it in the bud straightaway

And follow through.

Dad--warnings. Low projection, no shouting.

And remember,

You're in it together.

When jo comes back and sees, um,

How we've changed and what we've done,

I think jo's gonna be very, very proud of us.

All right?thank you very much.

Be strong together.i want to stick to all the things that

She's put into place. I think we're gonna do great.see you in a few days.

[Lucy] okay. Thank you so much.you're welcome. Bye.

Okay, bye-bye.

[Jo] I'm concerned about this family

Whilst I'm leave them for a few days.

There's still a lot to be sorted out.

I just hope that they can keep their sanity

Before losing their tempers.

Coming up...

Everything that is going on here is due to you.

Dad breaks down during the dvd meeting

And decides he's had enough

When "supernanny" returns.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

Have shopping trips to the supermarket become a fiasco?

If so, give your kids a shopping list

And make sure they're responsible

For putting their things in the shopping cart.

They can look at the best-looking apples,

Weigh up some oranges,

Keeping them stimulated and out of your hair.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

♪ Be good, be good ♪

♪♪♪♪♪

[Jo] after leaving this family for several days,

I'm more than curious

About whether mom and dad have held up faults,

Or whether they've gone back to those bad habits again.

So who's looking forward to taking a look at this dvd?

A little nervous.a little nervous. Okay.

[Hunter] I hate this stupid-ass ball![River] hunter!

[Lucy] you guys, you just got a warning.

You know what, guys? This is a warning. [Bell dinging]

I'm warning you guys right now. This is your warning.

I'm giving you a warning right now.

I'm not. You're just mad because we play--

Warning. River, warning! Warning.

You can't tell me I didn't warn you. Hunter, warning.

River, warning. Warning. Warning. River, warning!

Not now. Hold on.warning, warning, warning, warning, warning, warning!

Hunter! Look at that. Even the kids are mimicking--

"Warning, warning, warning, warning."

! What are you thinking?

Empty threats lead you back to the same old place

You were before I arrived-- the place of no control.

You have been showing good progress.

Don't go back! Don't go back.

Yeah.

Would you--well, you pick what you want to do first.

Hunter, that is good. That's excellent.

Draw a line where you think would be a half of an orange.

Excellent.

"V"... "E"... You guys are doing really good.

Nice praise.

Good boy.

Let me just pause it there.

Seems like that went like a breeze.

Yeah, yeah. That--that was when I was by myself, and it did.absolute breeze.

Yeah.but you've obviously instilled the points of coming together

And setting the right mood. Nice note.

[Corey] why do you make

Something so simple so difficult?

It's not easy. You can do this, and you know it.

No, I'm not doing it. You're making this very difficult.

You want to be here all day?[Lucy] I thought you were doing the goose?

[Whines]come on, hunter, please don't do this to me right now.

Hunter? You wanna come back to that? Okay. Oh, my gosh, hunter.

[River] I'm almost done.

All right, how was your communication there with hunter,

Positive or negative?

I guess it's--it's negative.if you feed negativity in the beginning,

You--you're gonna set up that whole energy.

It's about saying, "I believe in you."

That's my point. Continue to watch.

He's doing great, but he's getting frustrated right now.

[Speaks indistinctly]so work it with him.

[Hunter] the answer is six. I know.

[Lucy] right. You should figure it out.

Of course you know the answer.

Okay. Where are you?

Oh, is that down here?

But how many more?

Nice writing.

[Jo] what are you doing over there?i sat down for one second.

I feel I didn't need to ask while she was handling him.

So to me, it wasn't a big deal.

You walked away, you sat over there, and lucy jumped in.

You talk about him not quitting? And you quit!

Good old lucy will jump in again and save the day.

Please do not huff and puff like a -year-old, corey.

Where are you?!i am--iam standing up.

I'm telling you, to me, it was the last question.

It wasn't a big deal. She was helping 'em.

Precisely, and that's why you're over there,

And that's why your wife is still there.

Because itwasn't that important to you.

I'm sorry. I don't see it that way, but that's--

Ofcourse you don't see it that way.i told you...

Of course you don't, because you're selfish.no, that's not true.

You're selfish.no.

It has to do with your lack of commitment.

You've been getting away with it for too long in this house.

So you want to sit here and sulk about the circumstances,

Then I suggest you take a good look at yourself first,

Becauseeverything that is going on here is due to you.

The next clip that we are gonna take a look at, dad,

Is your energy.

Okay?

[River speaks indistinctly]

[Corey] well, guys, what do you want to do?

Why are you guys so difficult?

You guys, what do you want to play?

Yah!

Hunter, why do you do that?

Because you always threw hard for me.

I don't try to throw it in--so i--so--

You're making me chase it. Makes no sense. Come on.

[River] get it 'cause the bouncing ball, dad.

Dad, it's under the car!

[Corey] I know. I don't want to get dirty.

Dad, kick the ball--i'm trying--i need to take a break. I'm just--i'm tired.

I just need to rest for five minutes.

[Hunter] dad, why can't you kick?

'Cause I'm just tired right now.

I'm just... Feeling-- I'm exhausted

For some reason.

Go ahead. I'm waiting for it.

This is what I saw--

A lack of willingness, a lack of commitment, enthusiasm.

"I'm tired. I don't want to get dirty with the ball."

I don't have a lot of energy. I don't.

And emotional energy? I mean, where do you think that is?

It's up and down, you know?

I have good days. I have bad days.

I do believe that you have a lot of internal emotional issues.

Yeah.because I feel that mentally,

They have you in a place that's heavy...

And dark.

[Chair scrapes floor]

Corey? Excuse me.

Coming up on...

You are not alone.

Jo tries to talk sense into dad,

But can she get him to come back to his family?

When "supernanny" returns.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

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[Jo] whilst watching the dvd, I confronted dad

About his lack of energy and interest with the boys.

[Chair scrapes floor]

Corey?

[Jo] he left the table in tears,

But I wasn't going to let him off the hook.

He keeps isolating himself, and it's no good.

[Knocks on door]

You are not alone, okay?

Do you think that-- that you're the first person

That I have met--

The first father, the first mother--

Who has had to deal with so much?

But I just feel like everything'shere.

Yeah.

See, don't you understand

That the way you feel mentally

About the issues that you need to address

Are coming out already with the way you play with your kids?

They're manifesting itself through energy.

Your lack of enthusiasm

Is because of where you're at mentally, emotionally.

There is stuff that needs to be processed.

There is stuff that you need to heal from.

There is stuff that you need to talk about.

[Jo] you know, I really felt his pain.

He can't see the light through the trees,

Because he's not been able to reach out and ask

For that help, for that support.

Recognize what you're not doing so that we can change it.

This is about change.

[Corey] as a father, you need to be there for your children.

You need to look 'em in the eye and tell 'em you care about 'em.

You need to hug 'em,

And I think the biggest thing, like, with my father,

Um, never really grabbed me and said,

"Hey, I love you," you know?

Yeah.

To have corey and his son

Build a better relationship,

I wanted to create an unforgettable memory.

Corey, how do you fancy teaching your son

How to ride his bike without the stabilizers?

I'd love to. I-i'm ready.

[Jo] hunter's been wanting to take

His training wheels off of his bike to ride,

And today he was able to do that.

You gotta use your arms, okay?

[Corey] well, at first when jo suggested,

"Let's take the training wheels off,"

I thought, okay. [Chuckles]

We want a flat surface, but this allows him

To practice his balance from left to right,

Right to left.[Corey] you have to learn how to use your handlebars.

If you don't learn how to use your handlebars,

You won't be able to do it.[Grunts]

[Jo] and it was so important that they have this time

And that hunter be taught by his father,

Because they don't have a relationship at the moment

That is particularly good.

If i--if I go like this, see how you start falling?

You have to--you have to hold these tight, okay?

So hold these tight.why can't we go down there to play in the park?

Hold these tight.

[Jo] hunter's confidence wasn't sky-high,

And he was worried about falling off of the bike.

And so it meant listening to dad and trusting him on his word

So that he would be able to ride his bike by himself.

Let's do it. Let's do it. Come on. Let's go. Here we go.

[Jo] come on, pedal! Come on, hunter!

All you now, hunter.keep pedaling! Good! Keep pedaling!

You can do it! Keep going!keep pedaling! Come on, hunter! Just keep pedaling!

When hunter got on his bike and started riding,

I thought, "wow, he can do it."

[Jo] hunter was just over the moon.

I mean, his face just lit up,

And he was just, like, going in the wind.

I mean, it was really beautiful to see.

Dad was pleased with what he was seeing...whoo!

And he realized that he had been a big part of that,

And hunter was beside himself.

That was hard.

There you go. Give me some skin.

That made me very proud when hunter started riding the bike.

Now I understand with the positive reinforcement

And the communication, you can get through to anybody.

It's all you.[Lucy] corey never had that,

And now I'm realizing why corey has some

Of the faults he does-- 'cause he didn't have that.

And so as much as it's helping hunter and how happy hunter is,

I can see it in corey's eyes. I mean, that was huge for him.

Come on, hunter! Do not stop! Keep going!

You're doing amazing, awesome.

Keep going, hunter. You're doing fantastic.

Go, go, go, go, go, go![Jo] so having dad teach hunter how to ride his bike

Will go a long, long way, because he'll remember

That his father taught him how to ride his bike.

[River] wanna play?

Yeah, this-- this has been priceless.

I-i can't thank you enough. This is--i'm just so excited,

Because i-i'm gonna take everything,

And I'm gonna do this.

I would like to tell jo

That this has just been a huge family change.

I think you're a fantastic lady. Um, you really know your stuff.

I really appreciate you,

And you have helped our family tremendously,

And--and I can't give you enough thanks.

Bye, river. Come on, give me one of those high fives.

Do it. Okay, go on, babe. Ready?real easy.

All right. Okay. Give me a high five.

Give me a low five. Give me an ugly five.

[Corey] very grateful that jo came into our lives.

She's made a huge difference in our family.

I think she's wonderful.thank you so much.

[Laughs] you're welcome.i appreciate it.

Take care of yourself, okay?i will. I will.

Thank you.okay. Keep up the work, hey? Work, work. You're welcome.

[Jo] the time's flown by with this family.

There's been much intense work,

But I do know that they have the tools and the techniques

And a more broad understanding of why

Things happened in their family

And why it got to the stage that it did,

And the greatest thing that came out of working

With this family was communication.

Thank you, jo jo.

You like picnics, riv?

Oh, watch out. Can you put the water on top real quick?

I really think

This whole experience has been a wake-up call.

You know, I think it's gonna take a while,

But I think there's gonna be a lot more change.

[Corey] now that I look back, I realize iwas selfish.

I can't turn back, and I want to put a smile on my kids' faces.

I think it's an amazing gift what jo did,

Making corey try to become the father figure

That the boys want.

Okay, one, two, three, smile!

[Corey] I believe with time, things will change,

And I can see the change already in--in my kids.you like my hair?

My dad plays with us more now.he's going higher and higher! He's going...

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[Hunter] yeah? Hold these.[Knocks on door]

Who's there?[Falsetto voice] supernanny.

Oh, dad, that's you.

[Laughing]

I cannot believe that trick.

[Laughs]

I cannot believe you just did that.

[Laughing]

Oh, boy.