04x18 - Browning Family

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Tonight on "supernanny,"

Jo meets the br*wnings...

Stop. I mean it.[Laughs]

Like millions of other families,

They're divided by money. Who pays the mortgage here?

Dad's a preacher... When the bible says, "w*r"...

And his two stepsons don't respect him

Because he doesn't earn enough money.

He's put food in your bellies, put a roof over your head,

He's been there for you, right, or what?[Both laugh]

Huh?i think he's freeloadin'.

Mom ignores her baby girl

And leaves her to fend for herself at bedtime... What's this?

She's got a can of spray cheese.

Because she can't be pulled away from her busy job.

You're the big hustler on the phone--busy, busy, busy.

And the kids lie around all day playing video games

And never doing chores.

You've been playing since you woke up this morning.

Can jo get this family to shape up?

I wanna say I'm gonna k*ll her.

Will the family come together...

I'm thinkin' that this game is gonna help you

By keeping you quiet, keeping you out of my hair.

Or will things go too far? I know she pays all the bills around the house.

I don't know why she does everything.

Yeah, yeah, because she makes most of the money, right?

♪ Be good, be good ♪

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♪ Be good, be good, be good ♪♪ johnny ♪

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♪ Be good, be good, be good ♪

♪ Be good, be good, be good ♪

♪ Be good, be good, be good ♪♪ johnny ♪

♪ Johnny ♪

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Well, I'm here in sunny san dimas, california,

And I'd better take a look and see

What family needs my help now.

[Both] hi. We're the browning family.

I'm bernadette.

I'm charles. We have six kids--

Erek, who is ... [Burps and coughs]

Devante, who is ...what the heck?

Brett is ... sh**t.

Joseph is years old,

Charlette is ... Ahh.

And catalina, who's years old,

She's away at college. Let me get him.

[Laughing]

Someone needs to hold him so-- aah!

Five kids-- that's a full house.

I'm a real estate agent. Thank you. Bye-bye.

Oh. Oh, hello?

Bernadette is on the phone... [Telephone rings]

Literally from sunup to sundown.

Oh, my mom. Hold on. [Groans] [ring]

Oh, let me just see what she wants.

Yeah, everything else okay over there?

My vocation is I'm a minister.

When the bible says, "w*r," it means, "w*r."

Bernadette--her, uh, annual income is--

Is considerably more than mine,

And so she feels that because she makes most of the money,

That she should be able to make most of the decisions.

Even though she may call herself the breadwinner,

Man does not live by bread alone.

Who pays the mortgage here? Who pays the mortgage here?

Seems to me,

There's a lot of anger underneath this relationship.

And I try to raise my children

Using the principles of the bible,

But they always say that preacher's kids are the worst.

Let me hear what you just said about my kids.

Who's that?

Your church member talkin' about our kids.

Oh.

Erek and devante are my kids,

Uh, from a previous relationship.

I would like to have bonded a lot closer

With erek and devante. There's somethin' wrong with the sink.

What's wrong with it?

[Laughter]

That was supposed to be funny, right?

[Laughing]so funny, I forgot to laugh.

The number one thing about erek is, he's very selfish.

He doesn't take anything seriously and doesn't listen.

Hello? Excuse me?

Erek, I'm talking to you.

Devante, same thing.

Stop! I mean it![Laughing]

Go in the family room and help and clean that crap up!mom.

They all just don't listen and don't respect me.

Huh? So stupid.

If you weren't so di-disrespectful,

I'd let you go.

Supernanny, I really need your help.

I'm at my wit's end, and I'm pleading for you

To come help me to get my kids under control.

[Both] supernanny, please come help our family.

Well, I'll tell you what-- I've certainly seen enough,

And this family are in for a big wake-up call.

You'd better hold on.

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Hello.hello. How are you doing?

Very well. Pleased to meet you. Jo frost.

Nice meeting you, too. Charles browning. Come in.hi. Thank you.

[Jo] when I first arrived to say hello to this family,

I was greeted by charles,

Who was very smiley and pleased to see me.

So your wife--is she in?yes, she is.

Great. I'd love to meet the family, then, as well.

Okay, my wife is upstairs. I'll have her come down.

Okay. Hello.

We need help!

Bernadette stayed on the stairs quite a long time,

Which I thought was rather rude, to be honest with you.

She'd asked for my help, and I've come,

And she was kind of just standing there sussing me out,

Rather than saying hello to me

And inviting me to be in her home.

Love to--love to meet up with everybody.great.

My first impression, uh, was, "is this a nanny?"

Because she reminded me of, like, a third grade teacher.

Okay, g*ng, can we, uh...[Boy] all right.

Interrupt the computers for just a second?hello. We have company.

I got introduced to the boys...

Or not, as the case may be,

As they were very busy playing with the video games.

[Bernadette] I just hope they're not too rude.

They normally are, then?yes, they're normally rude.

All right. Mm-hmm. Okay.[Boy] ahem!

Uh, there's no doubt that this family love technology,

But it's really stopping them from spending time together

And talking to one another.you've been playing since you woke up this morning.

You've been playing for four hours.[Boy] what? What's...

Like a lot of moms,

Bernadette really balances between being a businesswoman

And also being a housemom, but she seemed to have

That cell phone glued to her ear.

Shh. Be quiet. I gotta use the phone.

Hey, did you call me?my phone is dying. I can't let my phone die.

And that's san dimas.and this is?

My cell phone.oh.

I take it everywhere I go.where's my cell phone?

Do you have my cell phone?

The worst part

About mom constantly speaking on her cell phone

Is that her youngest child, charlette, often gets ignored.

Can you hold on a second, please?

Okay, hold on.

Come on.

[Crying]

She don't like me.

[Continues crying]okay, sorry about that.

Little charlette attached to me very quickly,

Because I was giving her the attention that she craved.

I sat at the dining table,

And little charlette wanted to climb up onto my lap

So that she could play with me...

Oh, hello. Hello.

And when bernadette saw that,

It certainly touched a raw nerve,

And she was trying to coax charlette to move away from me.

Wanna go upstairs and watch tv?

Hmm? Come on. Let's go watch tv.

[Speaking indistinctly]go on then. Down you get.

Wanna go up and watch tv?

Charlette just looked at her and--and thought,

"I do telly every day for hours.

"I don't want to do telly.

I'm having fun just being with somebody else."

She'd rather sit in there with supernanny

Than go watch tv, so...

[Sighs] I don't know. [Scoffs]

This is ridiculous.

I noticed that bernadette wasreally coming down heavy

On her kids most of the time.

I'm just sick of you guys just yelling back and forth

With each other. I'm thinkin' that this game is gonna help you

By keeping you quiet, keeping you out of my hair.

That's not even workin'.ah!

After seeing mom yell at brett,

I wanted to take the time to talk to the two older boys

To see if mom's behavior was quite typical.

So what's up with mom? She's mad down there.

Like, she's angry.

[Both] she's always angry.

She's always angry?

She's trying to make it seem like we're bad kids.

We don't do anything we're 'posed to do.

We're just out, and, nah, it's not even like that.

Mm-hmm.and charles--what's your relationship like with him?

I mean, at the end of the day, he's not your dad,

But, I mean, he's your stepdad. I mean, he's raised you.mm-hmm.

I can care less.he's put food in your bellies, put a roof over your head.

He's been there for you, right, or not?[Both laughing]

Huh?aw, I don't wanna-- I don't wanna say nothin'.

[Laughing]i don't want to say nothin' bad, but, I mean, like--

No, I wanna hear. I wanna hear.

I think he's freeloading, to tell you the truth,

And that's what I know not to be,

So you learn your lessons here and there.

And you're talkin' about that you don't feel

Like he's got a job, because, what, he's a preacher?

Well, no, like...that's a good job, but...

Yeah.i think he-- I mean, he could do that,

And he could do something else, like other people do.

Yeah, something else, just like...

So how much are you on board with this experience

Of me being here and--and changing situations?

I'm fine with it.yeah, I'm all the way.

So you're % in?yeah.

Yes.all right. I want a handshake on that, then.

All right. Good. I want a handshake on that, then.

All right. Listen, thanks for your chat, yeah?mm-hmm.

Coming up on...

A fight breaks out during dinnertime...

I know she pays all the bills around the house.

I know she does everything.yeah, yeah, because she makes most of the money, right?

And sparks fly during the family meeting. Well done.

I'm not gonna sit here and give you a gold medal for that.

When "supernanny" returns.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

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After speaking to erek and devante,

I realized that this family was all about the money,

And I saw with my own eyes,

Because a fight broke out over dinnertime.

What do you do all day, charles?

I've been working all day long.

So basically, you stay home all day

Taking us places and on the computer

And watching the baby.when was the last time you took a trash can out?

Dang.when was the last time you picked up your socks and things?

When was the last time you did anything

Without your mother complaining

And you getting ready to fight over it?when--

When?when was the-- when was the last time--

[Scoffs] get outta here.yeah.

Words got exchanged,

And a lot of feelings came out that--that had been pent up.

Well, I know she pays all the bills around the house.

I know she does everything.yeah, yeah, because she makes most of the money, right?

Okay, listen.no, no, no. No, no, no.

No, you guys wanna do this. We're gonna do this.no. No.

The way that we communicate most of the time is yelling.

I would like to give you the opportunity, erek,

To voice your opinion with how you feel.

He hasn't provided as a man should--should provide

For his family.

It still seems like he's freeloadin' off of her.

There is some validity to this.

Can I just ask one question here?

As a family, is this what you want?

No.of course not.

[Charles] absolutely not.this isn't healthy.

I agree.

[Jo] it got really late, so I moved on

To watch mom put charlette to bed

And see exactly how she did that,

And I was shocked.

Charlette is in their bed.

What's this?

She's got a can of spray cheese and a bag of crackers.

She's lookin' at the can and hoping

That the cheese would end up on the cr*cker somehow.

[Man on tv] in a world where disobedience

Can get you stabbed,

And leaving the g*ng can get you k*lled...

Are you kidding me?

Do you think this is appropriate for her to be watching?

[Bernadette] I really don't know what's on.

My husband had that on.

There was a tv documentary about g*ng v*olence.

I mean, are you kidding me?

That's not what you want your toddler to be watching

Before they go off to bed.

Oh, no. She shouldn't be watching that.

She said, "well, I didn't know." Make it your business to know.

I wasn't paying attention.

I'm speechless at this point.

So she sleeps in this bed here?

[Mouth full] mm-hmm. She sleeps right here.

What bedtime routine do you have...

I give her a bath, let her play.for charlette?

Do you read stories or anything like that?occasionally.

What books does she like? What's her favorite?

Regular books. "Jack and..."

Every--every little one, like, has a favorite couple of books.

What--what would you say is her favorite two books?

I don't think she has any favorites.

You don't really read much to her, do you?mnh-mnh.

Do you know how much she misses out

On not having that interaction with you?

Mm, I wouldn't say she's missing out.

No?

No, because she's with me all day.

Sit on the bed, and I start to talk to mom,

And I think she's realizing

That I'm putting two and two together.

Would you say that you're quite defensive today with me?

I feel that you're making me feel like I'm...

I'm not doing an--an adequate job,

That I don't know what my kids' needs are,

And I do know, so...

Mm-hmm.but if you did know, I wouldn't be here, would i?

That's true. I feel that I need help.

And she knows that tomorrow, she's gonna get called out.

Okay.

I can't wait to speak to you tomorrow.

I'm looking forward to it.

God, not as much as I am.

I am so looking forward to speaking to you tomorrow.

I'm eager for the day to end so I can sit down

And really tell this woman about herself.

I'm eager to sit down and talk to charles

About what he needs to do to step up.

I'm eager to talk to them about their parenting skills

And what they need to do to change.

I'm scared.why?

I don't know.

I felt like when she left, she was like,

"I-i-i can't wait to see you tomorrow. I can't wait."

Like, like, oh, my gosh. Like, what's gonna happen?

Just one more day of conflict.

I don't think it will hurt us that much.we'll see.

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[Jo] we got issues.

Absolutely.i agree.

I wanna talk about responsibilities and chores

And exactly what these boys do.

There's no doubt that these boys have lazy-itis,

To say the least.

Mm-hmm.

They do not have the initiative to get up...

No.

And feel that "let me just do my bit around here."

I feel that there's very much a case

Of "each and everyone for their own."

They all have their own video games,

Computers and televisions.

These kids stay on the computer all day.

They're on the video games all day.

Who knows who's looking after charlette?

Well, she's just around the house,

And you're on the phone in your office,

And you're in your office reading your scriptures.

I may not be there /, you know,

Sitting down and reading books or playing games with her

But I still feel that she is being taken care of.

How do you define the word "look after"?

It'stotally unacceptable that you feel it's okay

For charlette to walk around and do as she please.

It's not taking care of her

In a way that allows her to grow.

Charles, let's just talk about you for a moment.okay.

The job that you do is dedicated.right.

That takes time,

For you to be able to... Preach,

But it's no good if the man who is giving those sermons

Is not recognizing the importance

Of his own responsibility as a man in the home.

I want you to stand up

And be proud of the work that you do

And be proud of the work that you do as a father

And not feel that you have to apologize for it.that's right.

Bernadette, let's talk about you.

You talk with attitude.

You're the big hustler on the phone--busy, busy, busy.

No, no, no, I just have a drive,

And that drive is to not end up in some little apartment

That doesn't hold eight people, and if I had a balance--

It's not about balance. You've got no respect.

You've got no respect for anybody else.

You live in your own bubble.

You feel time would allow you to be respectful.

Manners cost nothing.i can't change overnight.

You'll only change if it's a priority.

You claim, "I work so hard,

Because I want 'em to have a roof over their head.

I work so..." What, you and how many?

You and other million parents that do the same.

Well done.

I'm not gonna sit here and give you a gold medal for that,

But I'm willing to work with the pair of you,

If you want to change the issues that are in this house.

I can-- I can accept criticism.

Good.

So let's begin.

Let's get busy and start work, right?

Yes. Let's get busy.

Much ado. 'Kay.

Thank you.

Coming up on...

Will the family listen when dad opens up?

And I mean that from the bottom and the depths of my heart.

Today, no technology.and when jo takes mom's cell phone away,

Things get ugly. Oh, no way is my phone gonna stay in there.

When "supernanny" returns.

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[Jo] the first thing that I wanted to tackle

Was to make sure that charlette was gonna be taken care of

By at least one parent at all times,

So I wanted to get mom and dad together to make a schedule.

So the first thing we are going to do today

Is to work out our parental roles.

Two parents working,

Two parents "trying" to raise a family...

Nobody knows who's doing what.

We've got a young infant running around the house.

Nobody's taking care of her.

How many hours are the three of you just at home--

You two and charlette?

From : to :.:, , , , -- That's hours.

The next question is,

How are you going to divide your working hours

And take care of this little one?

Both parents need to spend the time

Working out who is going to do what,

So they find a healthy compromise,

So they can both be happy doing the jobs that they do

And be in sync when it comes to raising their family.

So this is what we do.

If you are spending a big amount of time

With charlette in the morning, okay?

After lunch, she would go down and have an afternoon sleep.

Okay.

And then the hour and a half where youare with her,

You can multitask.yes.

You can set up some proper toys for her

To role-play with and have fun with, okay?

And you can be doing your work at the same time.

Right.why haven't we figured this out before?

I don't know.the parental roles, I felt, was very good.

I didn't realize that I could possibly

Spend time with my daughter.

Very good. That's the tv we want 'em watching.

[Charles laughs]good work. Good work, the pair of you.

[Jo] with a plan in action for charlette,

The next thing I wanted to deal with

Was to get this family communicating with one another,

And I was gonna do something

That this family were not going to like.

This family have used technology far too long as a babysitter.

There's no communication in the house, so today it stops.

I'm stripping them of all technology today.

Mom, I'll have your blackberry.

Boys, I'll have your remote.[Laughing]

We will get in tune. Right, let's get in tune.

Remote controls in there, please. Television off.[Charles] thank you.

Off. Everything off. You wanna get in tune?

You can learn to hear each other's voices.boy, oh, boy, oh, boy.

I mean, they couldn't believe this was really going on.

Brett and joseph were running upstairs

With anything they could find to hide underneath the beds.

Right, all downstairs.

I really regret that we have allowed technology

To just consume every--almost every aspect of our family life.

All right. Everyone, come around.[Groans]

[Bernadette] jo brought in this clear jar

Where she put my cell phone.

I was panicking.

I'm like, "oh, no way is my phone gonna stay in there."Today, no technology.

All day?

Really, I wanna say I'm gonna k*ll her,

Because my life was right there in a cookie jar,

And I couldn't do anything about it.

[Cell phone vibrating]

Ohh! Oh, my phone is ringing.

I could hear it ringing inside the jar.

I can see the phone numbers lighting up,

And I could not touch it.

My cell phone's like a family member,

So when I couldn't reach out and touch it, I went to hug it.

[Cell phone rings]this is ridiculous.

How long do we have to do this? Did she say?

[Vibrating]i'm not gonna last.

See, it's important. It's important.

[Jo] it was all drama in that house, you know?

The phone was ringing. She was like,

"I need the phone. Ineed the phone."

[Bernadette] but I understand what her purpose was--

To take my concentration off my cell phone

And put more on my kids.

♪♪♪♪♪

This family can no longer use technology now,

Which means that they're gonna have to come together

And have some decent conversation

And start having constructive conversations

With one another.[Jo] it seems that there's been a lot of stuff

That's been underneath for too long.

Nobody listens, and everybody talks over everybody,

So today I'm gonna bring in a soapbox,

Andeverybody can have their say.

Mom, why do you let joseph get his way all the time

Just because he cries or whines?[Devante] yes.

Another issue of mine is, instead of yelling,

Like, why don't we have more family meetings like this?

That soapbox just gave an opportunity

For the whole family to voice their opinion

On how they were feeling abouteverybody else.

I would really love for one day for you to be able to say

That I was there for you whenever you needed,

And I mean that from the bottom and the depths of my heart.

Erek, I'd like you to look at charles respectfully.

He's--he's been very truthful and honest here.

Sure.well, I think charles deserves the respect

For you just to tell him that.

We changed. Everybody's changing their ways. Why not?

For years, I have been treated

As though I'm just trying to live off of your mother,

But what has not been shown to you guys over the years

Is that, uh, I was there helping her do those things,

Even though I was in the background,

In the shadows.jo has definitely opened up my eyes to a lot of things.

Listening to charles and understanding charles

And, um, not trying to be such a boss all the time and...

I just want to say, you've done really, really good tonight.

You've done really good.[Bernadette] I never really listened

Until jo opened up my eyes and--and my ears.

I'm really proud of how well you've done tonight

Because I know how hard it was for you to swallow...

And just be...

It is. It's very hard.

Very, very composed.

It's hard.but it took that.

Coming up on...

Can dad and mom answer jo's hardest question yet? Why are you still married?

Later when jo's away, will mom decide to play?

I went and got my cell phone. Please don't tell her.

When "supernanny" returns.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

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The next day, to get this family more united

And the kids behaving better,

I would have to get charles and bernadette

And work on their relationship.

How long you been married? How long?

Years.that's a long time.

It's a long time.

Hmm. Tell me one beautiful thing about this woman

That did not make you hesitate to marry her.she was, uh, very forgiving.

What about yourself?the one thing that just won me over

Was the fact that he was a christian man.things have changed.

There's been bitterness, resentfulness.

There's certainly been a detachment,

And I think it's important for you both, at this stage,

To really look at the things

That you've been expecting from each other

That have been shallow.

But the things that you do remember and know

Are core.

I had mom and dad write

In two circles, "shallow" and "core."

The outside shallow values were

Their emotions of how they were feeling right now

And that had blinded the core values of why they met.

When I was writing them down, I was like, gee.

And I had to look at him like,

Yeah, you know, this is--this is my guy.

I thought it was refreshing

To--to just kind of backtrack

And look at what really brought us together.

Bernadette, you start off

With one of your shallow feelings.

No money. He never has any money.

Let's have one of yours.

Neglect is one of-- one of mine.

Give me three things out of your core.

He's honest,

He's patient,

And he has christian values.

Do the same.

Companionship,

Love and forgiveness.

Show each other yours.

I got a chance to reflect on, you know,

All the things that I really do feel about charles.

You know, it was a time to take all that negativity,

Kinda bring it back home,

Like, you know, this is why I married him,

And these things are still there.

Can I ask you both a question?yes, ma'am.

Why are you still married?i'm still married because I still love her,

And I think that maybe one day, that she'll begin to--to see

What--what--what...right.

The real me and...you still love her. Why are you still married to charles?

'Cause I love him.if you love each other, realize that as long

As you're gonna keep harping on

About the outside things here on this shallow circle,

That you're never gonna grow closer as a couple

To start seeing the reasons

Why you married each other in the first place.

Sometimes we get so busy with so many other things

That we don't reflect on those things, and it really

Made me feel good that she still remembered those things.

That's a lot to work on.please work on these.

That's a lot to work on.well, it's your marriage, basically.

That's right. Absolutely.this is your marriage.

On those two discs.

So listen, I just want to round everybody up.

What I have here are chore lists.

Next step--boys and chores.

It is important that you guys are all mucking in

And doing things as well.

It's respectful to be in a house and to make sure

That you're taking care of your own quarters,

Your own bedroom, as well as making sure

That you help towards keeping this house in order as well.

These kids have got lazy-itis, don't like to do a lot of work.

Perfect.each child has the same chore board,

And on that chore board

Are a list of expected chores for them all to do.

Every day, I want you to delegate their--their chores.

Okay? "Today your chore will be to make sure you do

This and this. Today I'd like you to do that."

They've got the chores, so they know they're gonna

Be asked to do one of those things.okay.

Devante, can--can I see you for a minute?

Can you, tonight, wash the--the dishes?mom, can I wash the dishes?

And you're going to put 'em away.

Okay, would you guys like that?

Or we could trade. Me and joe can trade.

You wanna wash?and I'll put 'em away.

You put 'em away. Okay. Go ahead.all right.

[Joseph speaks indistinctly]

That's it, joseph. That's it. Put your stuff in, love.

Brett, get your stuff from underneath the bed.[Brett] mm, mm, mm.

[Charles] the chore boards are absolutely fantastic.

I was very impressed

To see that my kids were following the chore charts.

You did a good job.with a little bit of, you know, follow-through,

I think it's gonna work.

No little kid time.okay.

Some older time. So we're gonna go and sh**t some pool.

Now the boys are doing more chores.

What I need to focus on

Is charles' relationship with his two older stepsons.

Charles would like

To very much have a friendship with the older boys.

So I set up for the three of them

To go down to a pool hall and to sh**t some pool.

So the reason why I thought it'd be cool to hang out here today

Because you've always got the younger ones around

And don't get enough time just to, like, hang out together,

You know, and do things that are older.

Well, this is a-- this is excellent

Because I wanted the opportunity for this for a long time.

For the three of us to--

And to just sh**t a few games of pool

Was, uh, to me, a start toward making things better.

When you and bernadette got married...mm-hmm.

You said-- you said yes to her,

But--but you said yes to these two as well, didn't you?

I saw bernadette as, at the time, a single mom...[Jo] yeah.

And I married the whole package of wife and kids.

Game!ooh!

I win. I want my money-- cash. [Laughs]

Cash money.shut up. Cash money.

Yeah, cash.

♪ Cash money ♪

I win. I don't want to hear you crying about it.

So what do you guys think? Good start?

Yeah.

Something as simple as playing pool--it's a step

Toward the unity that we should have in our family.

Now that dad and the older boys are connecting more,

I want to pay attention to charlette

Having a proper bedtime in her own new bed.

What isthis?

And no spraycheese.

[Jo] look at this.

Look at that!

This is your bed.

We all love charlette's bed. [Laughs]

She looks like a little princess.

It's very pretty.

Isn't this pretty?

We're gonna set up the bedtime routine

Where you're gonna place her into this bed...okay.

Okay, read her a story,

Kiss her good night,

And we're going to walk out of the bedroom.

I kind of felt that jo really was there for me.

She was just very understanding

About me not really understanding

How to put my -year-old to-- to bed,

And she really, honestly wanted to help me.

See the people being blown away by the dog's sneeze?

See? It's together.

It was sweet to watch mom tuck charlette into her new bed

And read her stories.

I just hope that this family keep up the hard work

Whilst I'm gone.

There is lots of work to do while I'm away for several days.

I wanna see two parents

Who are gonna put everything into making this change.

I'm gonna miss her during these three days,

But also I know that I have to get myself in gear

To raise my kids

And to be the wife that my husband wants me to be.

[Bernadette] you guys wanna say, "thank you, jo"?[Boy] thank you, jo.

[Charles] thank you. Good night.see you soon. Good night.

Two seconds after she walked out the door,

I went and got my cell phone. Please don't tell her.

Coming up on...

Get down here now!

You understand me? You're gonna be my shadow.

After watching her in action... Come here, son.

Jo gives mom some career advice...

If you ever give up your day job,

There will be a job at san quentin prison,

That's for sure.

And later, someone gets a pie in the face...[Laughs]

When "supernanny" returns.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

♪♪♪♪♪

After three days on their own, let's hope

That the browning family have really pulled things together.

[Jo] let's get straight to business.

What we're gonna do, bernadette and charles,

Is take a look at the first clip here,

Which is all about family time. Let's take a look.

[ Bernadette] charles, come on. It's movie time.

Joe, come on. Join the family. Bubbas, hurry up.

[Boys speak indistinctly]

[Laughs]

[Bernadette] oh.

[Man speaks indistinctly on tv]

[Beeping]

That's our family time.

I tried.

You want to climb under the table?

What could you have done

To have more fun on your family time?

If you ask them what they wanna do,

Then it--it usually goes--

Reverts back to sitting with the video games

And playing video games alone.

It's the st century babysitter--

Video games...right.

Television.right.

It has been convenient, no doubt,

For the pair of you to have your children

Watch television and play on the video games.

But they need convincing.

Just suggesting is not enough.

And it's sad more than anything.

You guys have been robbed of enjoying

The time that you could be having with them

And really enjoying parenthood.

[Bernadette] go upstairs and--and bring me a diaper.

Go ask daddy to change you.

Is she wet? She's saying "ateet."

That must mean she's wet.yep. Seems like she's been wet for some time.

[Boy] how do you that she's wet? What does that mean?

"Ateet," to her, means "change me."

It's baby language.

She was just trying to explain to her dad,

I guess, that she was wet.

But he said he's gonna wait till commercial,

And there's no commercials on a dvd, but--

So that means he'll wait. [Boys laugh]

So she was wet for a couple of hours.

I was trying to not--not interrupt my time with the kids.

I was trying to have family time and told charles,

"Hey. Go change and come back down."

I thought he wasn't having a problem with it

Until he started making those--those jokes.

I think I had cooked something,

And I just sat down to catch my breath, and she tells me

To go run up and change a diaper. Well, you know...you didn't cook. We had pizza.

Well--well, whatever it was,

That I went out and got the pizza

And--and something else.

I haven't seen an effort that has shown a willingness

Or % commitment from one another,

Together, with this.

I know that I'm committed,

But i-i can only speak for myself,

And that's where the problem lies

Because I'm not sure what degree

That bernadette is committed to the same thing,

And that's--that's probably where the problem lies.

That's me--that's not saying that she won't.

I'm not trying to put her down.yes, I understand.

I'm just saying that--

We have--that hasn't been communicated yet.

Let's take a look at the last but not least clip here,

Which is all about armchair parenting.

That's gonna be me.

Joseph, get down here now!

Sit down.

You're gonna be next to me until I get ready for bed.

Everywhere I go, you go. You understand me?

You're gonna be my shadow.

Brett, come here.

Come here, son. [Brett] I am.

Come closer. Go back up to your room

And spend another minutes. See ya.

Look at me.

Turn it off.

Now.

Well, if you ever give up your day job,

There'll be a job at san quentin prison,

That's for sure.

But this is a prison here.

I mean, you know, these kids are not listening.

These kids need me to be the warden.

There's no love.

There's--there's no side of bernadette

That we know is deep down in there somewhere.

It's very well said that these kids need to listen

And do as they're told,

But then I don't see the balance.

Positive attitude creates an energy in a house...

That allows successful results.

Today what we're gonna work on is having some fun.

It's about muscling through the "I don't want to do this."

When they see you doing it, they're like, "okay, well,

We'll give it a go. We'll try."Okay.

Okay.okay? All right. Let's get busy, then.

Coming up on...

Who will win the family food fight?

[Erek] keep flinching.

And dad opens his heart in a sermon...

I'm determined to do better in the future.

But will his family open their ears?

When "supernanny" returns.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

Well, to get the kids involved whilst cleaning,

Well, get busy.

Make animals out of old socks for dusting.

Put them on their little hands,

And they can have fun whilst helping.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

♪♪♪♪♪

The dvd clearly shows me

That this family still need working on,

And dad's a pastor, so I asked him to prepare a sermon

That would allow him to speak from his heart about his family.

So I thought we'll round the family up,

And we'll go and listen to it outside on the front lawn.

His sermon?[Jo] yeah.

I've never had to preach directly to my family.

You guys, come on. We're gonna go out front.

We're gonna have church.i thought it was a interesting twist.

Okay, the text I'm using is from a book

That's in the poetic books of the bible

Called thesong of solomon.

"They have made me the keeper of vineyards,

But mine own vineyard have I not kept."

First of all, I'd like to just take the first three words--

"They have made me."

God has made me a husband.

The scriptures tell us that what god has joined together

Let no man put asunder.

So god is the one that makes us husband and wife.

As I look back

And look at our experiences over the last week or so,

I see that I've been very negligent

And very slack and--and lackadaisical

In--in--in those areas.

It was really poignant to hear charles talking about

Wanting to become a better father,

A better husband,

So that he could take care of his own vineyards.

These are the vineyards that I've kept,

Uh, and I look at them in relationship to my own vineyard.

My own vineyard have I not kept.

I was touched because finally, this man is, you know,

Reaching out to us through a sermon.

I've not kept many promises that I made to my children,

Which is a-a--i'm seeing that's adversely affecting them,

And I've not kept an open lines of communication.

Wow, it was deep. [Laughs]

I'm determined to do better in--in the future.

I do feel that, uh, I need to strive

To keep all of those hats

And all of those responsibilities

In--in some type of balance.

[Laughs][bernadette] that was good.

Good job, dad. Best sermon ever.good job.

I must say, I was really impressed. I really was.yeah, that was good.

All right.and so I'm really hoping that charles will lead

A very good example to his sons and his daughters.

I didn't realize some of that...

[Jo] it is.until you read it.

Mm.yeah, I like you.

I like you, too, woogy.

The sermon definitely brought mom and dad closer together,

And I wanted to take advantage

Of really bringing out mom's fun-loving side,

So this family could do something together

And have a lot of fun.

So we are gonna play

A knockout game right now, okay,

Which takes two teams.

The whole idea of this exercise was to get the family

To loosen up and have some fun, not escape from one another.

One member of the family on each team

Have to complete this puzzle.

This puzzle will lead you to the next step.

The losing team gets pied.[Charles] okay.

On your marks... Get set, go!

[Bernadette] no this-- spread it out. Spread it out.

The middle piece inside, the middle piece.okay, but where?

It goes right there."Go to backyard."

[Erek] we're done.[Jo] all right, go to the next stage. Quick!

After the puzzle, both teams had to rush out into the backyard

And use a water-squirting g*n to reveal a message.

[Jo] you've gotta spray off that foam with a water g*n.

Right there. There you go.come on. Aim, joe. Come on, brett. Aim!

[Erek] go, joe. "Go to front yard."

Okay, keep going! Keep going! Keep up, brett! Keep up, brett!

Moving into the last leg of the game,

It really was neck and neck.whatever piece of paper says "the winner" is the winner,

And the rest get pied.[Bernadette] wow!

Got it! Ha!no!

[Devante] no![Charles laughs]

[Bernadette] I can't believe you got that.

Line up.

It was erek who found the label,

Which meant that bernadette, brett and devante

Were up for a pie in the face.

On your marks, get set, go!

All right. Good.

[Erek] keep flinching.we got pie in our face--

I mean, literally in our face like this...

Get down, boy. Ah!

[Both laughing]

It just showed that both parents were willing to have fun

And mess around to this level,

Which I was really pleased to see.

I can't believe that we did this.

We would have never thought of this.

It's about loosening up sometimes

And letting your hair down and having fun.[Laughs]

I think that it was an excellent way to end our time with jo.

[Charlette] daddy![Jo] all right. Come give me a hug.

Give me a hug because I am going now. Huh?

Go ahead.i leave the browning family knowing that they are

Certainly going to think about what they've been taught

Over the last two weeks.

Look, I just want to say to all of you as a family

That the key is having a laugh, loosening up,

Communicating, listening with one another.

And I just hope that they make those decisions

That enhance their family quality life together.

[Bernadette] thank you for everything.bye-bye.

The thing that has changed the most is

The willingness to pursue a better course.

Bye-bye.need some help. She's my help.

Bye-bye.it is now time for me to pick up the pieces

And put the puzzle together.

Bye-bye.come on. Come on. Come on.

I just want to say, jo, thank you.

I want to tell you that I am going to follow through.

I am not gonna be lazy. I'm not gonna be an armchair parent,

And I'm gonna do my best for my kids.

[All] bye, jo.

I got something I can do outside.

I wanna see. Come on. Show me. I wanna see.okay.

Let's see where we can find some bees.

Oh, well, back to the drawing board.

[Bernadette] what are you looking for?trying to find some bees.

A bee so you could sting the kids?

No, i-i used to catch 'em like that.

You know, put a little thing, then catch 'em in there?charles.

[Laughs]

That's the way I used to do.