06x12 - The Johnson Family

[bunniefuu]

Tonight on "supernanny"...[Man] unh-unh-unh unh-unh!

Oh. Ow.uhh!

Jo meets a dad who thinks his wife needs to be fixed...[Woman] no, logan.

[Laughs]

But he's the one who needs help.

Hey! He's soaked.

It's not okay to talk to your wife that way.

[Man] hey! Unh-unh.and their three little boys are triple trouble...

[Banging]for anything or anyone in their way.

Aah!

[Makes expl*si*n sound][crying]

[Screaming]now mom and dad are in danger of losing the family business--

A kids' play center.

We're talking as if we've come out of "mary poppins."

Can jo teach these parents to take back the control...do not draw on the piano.

Did I sound like I was messing around?no.

And get mom to stick up for herself...

Roy does need to support you,

And that doesn't mean putting you down.

Step up for yourself,

Because nobody else is gonna do it, kate.before someone gets hurt?

[Thud]unh-unh-unh!

♪♪♪

So I'm in marietta, georgia,

Ready to help a family who do desperately need my help.

We'd better take a look.[Both] hi, we're the johnson family.

My name's roy.i'm kate, and we have three boys.

Denver, our oldest, is .

Logan is .and jack is .

All right, start here.aah!

[Roy] that's a silly-- logan!no!

Oh. Ow.uhh!

Logan!logan is our most violent child.

Uhh![Thud]

...i'll fold it and clean it.duh!

Logan'll cry, hits...

Punch you!hey!

He'll be playing happily and then throws

Whatever he's playing with at someone else's head.aah!

Yes!uhh!

[Roy] logan![Screaming]

[Logan shouting indistinctly]

That's got to stop.

No hits!i wasn't playing.

[Roy] hey! Unh-unh.

[Kate] no. Stop.

Denver's biggest problem is dealing with authority.

It's really hard for me to control him

And calm him down.[Grunts and laughs]

You're both gonna be in time-out if you don't stop it.i'm not.

Yes, you are.i'm not gonna stop.

Denver will just blatantly ignore

Everything that's being said to him...

Don't go outside.

And then turn and smile

As if he's not doing anything wrong.

Wow. So obviously these kids can do what they want.

Daddy!

About two years ago, we created our family business--

The coffee park, where parents can drink a cup of coffee

And let someone else watch their kids.

We wanted to have a place

Our children could enjoy with us.[Woman] hey! Denver.

What seemed like a great idea

And such a fun thing to do with our family

Has become almost a nightmare for us.

[Children speaking indistinctly]

[Woman] unh-unh, logan.

Whoops.[Thud]

We probably bring the kids to the coffee park

Less than once a week.

They cause all sorts of havoc.[Woman] ow!

They don't respect our employees.

Punch!ow!

They hit children and push them over

And take their toys away.[Child screaming]

Who's gonna want to bring their kids there?

We wanted to alternate between us--

One being at home and one being at our store.

[Kate] it turned into me having to stay at home

And doing all the office stuff.

Uhh! Uhh! He never--please stop.

The kids don't understand that I can't constantly get up.

I have to sit here and do some work.

Aah!logan.

I'm at my limit with my kids' behavior.

I've... Kind of been defeated.

Uhh!stop.

[Both] supernanny, please, we need your help.

Seems like you guys need

A little bit of help in the business

And a little bit of help at home.

Bear with me, because I'm on my way.

♪♪♪

[Door squeaks]

Hello.hi.

Hi. Jo frost. Pleased to meet you.kate johnson.

Roy is at work right now,

And supernanny jo is about to come and watch my parenting

And watch my kids.[Crying]

I'm terrified.[Jo] hi.

Hi. This is jack.hi. Hi, jack.

Say hi, jack.[Speaks unintelligibly]

And who's this?that's logan.

Hi, logan.[Crying]

Well, logan doesn't seem too happy right now.no, he's not.

And who are you?denver.

Hi, denver. Pleased to meet you.walking into the home,

I saw a house that was very unkempt.

There was lots of scribbles and artwork on the walls.

The house was in absolute disarray,

And quite frankly, so was the discipline.

Logan, stop! Don't rip the wallpaper off the wall.

Let's go in the living room. Come on.

We're going out of jack's room. We're going--logan! No!

When logan ripped the wallpaper off,

I was horrified.

[Logan, whiny voice] no. No!

Come on, jack.

No! No.

Come on, logan. Stop.

[Crying] no!would you believe it? There was logan,

Behaving the way he was, and there was no consequences.

It's a wonder why he carries on and does what he does.

[Kate] logan, come on. Come in the living room.

[Banging]

[Kate] denver!

No![Whiny voice] yeah.

Oh, my word.

You are kidding me.

These boys like to clown around.

Logan was running around like a little tasmanian devil,

And denver was totally running mad.

[Kate] denver.[Door squeaks]

As soon as mom sits down to do some work for the shop,

The children get worse.

Look at jack.oh, gosh. Okay, no more markers.

No, don't point at him.

[Screaming]

[Kate] oh.

[Continues screaming]oh, okay.

Mama!no more marker. Come on. Let's wash your mouth off.

[Crying]

[Jo] these boys are obviously bored,

And misbehaving is a good way of getting mom's attention.

[Screaming]

[Wailing]

And obviously it's a vicious cycle.

No, logan, stop.[Banging]

[Kate] logan!

Okay. Well, we'll go to the coffee park

In a little bit, okay?

[Crying]

So how much work do you actually get done?

Not very much at all.

I'd love to be up there at the--the coffee park,

Making the coffee, enjoying the customers,

Making the food...yeah. Yeah.

And seeing what I put all this background work into.

[Logan crying]

[Jo] it's just a waste of a morning.

Mom didn't get any work done for the shop,

And the boys didn't have any fun with mom either.

You want to go eat some lunch at the coffee park?[Crying]

So... We're going to the coffee shop, is that right?yeah.

[Door squeaks]

[Child screaming]

Hello, hi. Jo frost. Pleased to meet you.

Hello. Nice to meet you. Roy johnson.

How are you? Good.doing well.

I think the coffee shop is a great idea.

As a parent, you get to hang out, have a coffee,

Whilst the kids play

Under supervision in the tree house.

But with the arrival of the johnson boys,

Things turned into chaos.

Hey!

[Roy] "you want to go to sleep?

Night night. And on that bed, there is--"

You bit his diaper?

[Kate] no, you don't need that. That's sugar.

[Jo] the first thing I noticed was that denver and logan

Run around the coffee shop like they do at home.[Kate] stop.

Come on.down! Down!

[Jo] what parent is going to want

To bring their kids into the coffee shop

When the owners' children behave the way they do?

[Screaming]and even worse, one of the employees told me

That the kids like to run around behind the counter.

That's dangerous.they come out from there. They come back here,

And there's so much hot--hot water and hot things

That they could get b*rned or somebody could get hurt.

Mom and dad are really allowing their kids

To jeopardize their business, but at the same time,

These kids are also in dangerous situations.

That just can't happen.

Coming up on...

Dad complains about his wife's housekeeping...if I clean up, she'll say,

"Well, I'm doing what you should've been doing all day."

And expects jo to take her to task.

[Laughs]

When "supernanny" returns.

♪♪♪

Having watched these boys run around

And spent time speaking to the employees,

I saw mom and dad arguing over something rather petty.

Mom forgot to bring up the diaper bag,

And so jack had leaked.oh, hey!

Watch! Watch. I want to show you.he's soaked.

Thank you so much.

And mom had to ask one of the moms

If they had a spare diaper.[Roy] have--did you not change him at all today?

Yeah, I changed him.well, he's covered in pee.

Dad was really heavy on her for that.

You know, he was quite mean with his choice of words.

So do you have other pants for him?

When roy criticized me, it didn't really faze me,

'Cause it happens a lot,

And I kind of just let it go now.

I'll look in my car, and if there's pants in there,

Then he'll have pants again.

[Jo] dad speaking to mom the way he did

In front of those kids is totally unacceptable.

These parents certainly need to work together as a team

So that they're able to run this business successfully

And come home as a partnership in how they raise their boys.

When we got home,

Dad headed towards the kitchen to get dinner ready,

And mom was left alone to look after the kids.

[Jack crying][kate] denver, let him go.

[Jack] no! No! No!

You don't like a hug?[Crying]

Kate, is this all the milk we have?

Well, we're gonna need some for jack.i know.

What are you gonna do?i was gonna use that for him.

Well, I need this for potatoes.logan! No. Time-out.

[Kate] I told you not to jump on the couch. Time-out.

No. No.[Jack crying]

You're okay, bubba.

What is it that you expect from kate

When you're at that coffee shop?

Wh-what's her role? What do you expect her to be doing?

I would like to have-- see her keep the house clean

And do everything that a--

Someone who's a stay-at-home parent would do.

There are definitely times when I'll come home and say,

"Did you do anything while you were here?"

Because I don't necessarily see the results of what she does,

And then if I clean up, then I'll say,

"Well, I'm doing what you should've been doing all day."

[Jo] this dad obviously doesn't have a clue what it takes

To look after three young boys.

Ah-na-na-na na-na-na-na-na na-na.logan.

This is not about...

[Deep voice] "well, I do the harder job. It's me. I do."

[Normal voice] I mean, that's-- it--it's immature.

We've got two parents here who have to grow up

Pretty darn quickly.

They're raising three young human beings,

And so they're gonna need to step up fast.

[Kate] all right, guys. Let's get to the table, okay?

The boys sat down at dinnertime,

And dad didn't even try and correct their behavior.[Crying]

I've just reached a point where--

Of futility that...[Jack] da-da.

Why even try to make it different?

'Cause it's the same thing every night.

[Logan] whatever.

It's very clear that these parents

Are at their wits' end

When it comes to being at home and running the business.

[Logan shouting indistinctly]

Bye. I'll see you tomorrow.

Bye-bye! Bye-bye.

We've certainly all got our work cut out for us tomorrow.

[Laughs]

[Jo] so let's talk about boundaries, first of all.

If you were gonna set a boundary,

What would it be?i don't think we know where to start.

Let's take the shop.

The children go around by the kitchen area,

And that's a safety issue-- climbing up on the counters...yeah.

You know, opening up drawers that may have knives in 'em.

You know, rules--

We do not climb up. We do not go in here.

So let's talk about discipline.

There doesn't seem to be any here, does there?no.

Not consistently. [Laughs]not effectively. [Laughs]

N-not effectively, not consistently--

We're talking about the wrong recipe here, right?

You can't expect to have children

That are going to listen if you don't follow through.

Yeah. They never know the consequence

To what they're doing. It's--it's different every time,

And sometimes I give in. Sometimes I don't.

They're confused. One minute you said this,

Then you'd said that. I'm confused. I'm angry.

I'm getting mixed messages. Tell me "no" and mean "no."

Give me some rules, because I need 'em.

And it's very unsettling,

And we can see that from their behavior.

Let's talk about the pair of you.

You guys disagree on a lot of things,

But you don't resolve anything.

If you guys do not understand the importance

Of--of talking with one another

And resolving the issues that you individually have

As well as the pair of you as parents,

Nothing's going to get better. It's not.

It's going to get worse.

What is it that you need from roy?

I need him to back me up when I tell the kids no

Or when I say something to the kids

And then to respect what I do at home.

I might not get the whole house cleaned in one day,

But it's probably because I've been working at--

On the computer for the coffee park.

And respect that it's hard to juggle it all.

Mm. What about yourself, roy? What do you need from kate?

I need to know that she's gonna be there

And be able to do everything

That one would think that a wife should.

You both need the support from one another,

But you're a mirror reflection in that it's difficult

To actually have that conversation.

You're going to need to work together,

But we are not throwing the towel in,

Because that's not an option here.

That's not an option.

You know, you're both committed in raising three young children,

And that's themost important role

That you'll ever do in your life.

That's everything I've been wanting.

Mm. Okay. Good. So we're gonna get it. Thank you very much.

Thank you.thank you.

Coming up on...

No hitting.[Laughs] that's what I was gonna say.

Rules are made to be broken...[Smack]

[Smack]and mom opens up to jo...

Roy doesn't build my confidence.

I mean, he points out everything I do wrong.

I'm hitting my breaking point.

When "supernanny" returns.

♪♪♪

[Jo] come on. Let's get knuckled down with home rules.

The first thing that I wanted to do with the johnson family

Was to put in some rules so these boys would know

What was expected of them.

Short and simple. To the point. So number one...

No hitting.[Laughs] that's what I was gonna say.

The family very quickly had come up with seven rules

To be used at home and at the coffee shop,

But it wasn't long

Before the boys flouted rule number one--no hitting.[Smack]

Logan. Logan.no!

[Smacking]i had to show mom and dad how to do discipline.

In a very firm voice, turn around and say to them,

"I want you to stop this behavior.

"If you do not do that,

Then you will be going into time-out."

And then dad had a chance to give denver a time-out.

Do not draw on the piano.[Singsong voice] I can't hear you. [Laughs]

He's trying to control the situation,

So in a firm voice,

Give him clear instruction of what you expect him to do.

Denver, you need to listen to me

Or you're going to go to time-out.

Look at me and listen.

[Jo] what's he doing?all right, if you're not gonna listen,

You're gonna go to time-out. Come on.[Jo] all right. No talking.

Denver, you are going to sit in time-out...

[Jo] he doesn't need to sit down,

But he's in the area, and you're gonna tell him

Why he's been placed there.because you are not listening to me and you know better

Than to write on things that are not paper.

Daddy, I'm trying to watch-- I was listening to you.

Listen the first time.i was--

Four minutes.right. Move away. Set your timer,

And then you're gonna place him back.dad was consistent and strong

When denver refused to do time-out.

[Jack] carry...

Mama...

[Crying]

[Screaming]

But then denver made a break for it.

[Laughing]

Just watch him, because he's waiting

For you to play cat and mouse with him.

With denver running around in the backyard,

I showed dad exactly how to take ahold of their situation.

Denver, you're to come in this house

By the time I count to three, because if you do not,

You will be going to bed straight after dinner.

One... Two...

Tell me what I just did with him over there.

Using a firm voice?yeah, firm voice.

[Logan] he went inside.did i--did I sound like I was messing around?

No.and what did I give him, ultimately...

A consequence.from where we were here? Yeah.

[Jo] once denver knew that I meant business,

He stayed straight in time-out.

It gave me hope

That they do have it in them to listen

And made me realize that if I demand the respect,

That I should be able to get it from the kids.

[Jo] so then dad needed to follow through properly.

Denver, you are in time-out

Because you were not listening to me.

Do not write on the piano. You only draw on paper.

Do you understand?

Now can you say you're sorry?sorry.

Really? Are you?

Come here.

Dad did a good job when it came to handling the time-out.

Now the question is whether mom can do it.

Later on in the afternoon, we went to the coffee shop,

Where I showed mom and dad how to do discipline there

With a very simple tool.

This is your time-out wherever you place it to be.

Whether it's up on a wall or it's down on the floor,

This will be your time-out, okay?

As long as the kids realize,

Whether you're at home or you're at work,

That you will discipline when they misbehave,

You'll see a dramatic change in their behavior.

I still had to work on the boys not going behind the counter,

So I showed mom and dad a very simple, colorful tool

To use that even a -year-old would understand.

You see what that is? What is it?

A-a big line. You can't cross it.

A big red line, okay? And that--

You can't-- you can't go right there.

Come here. That is our red line to say, "stop."

We're not--we don't go in the kitchen anymore.

The kitchen is just for us, just for staff.

Okay. You understand the rules, logan?

Yeah.gimme five. All right.

[Kate] all right.

The boys immediately tested the red tape boundary.

[Roy] hey, come back.

Denver, you know that's against the rules, okay?

This is your warning.

You're going to go into time-out, okay?okay.

All righty.denver listened to dad,

And he started to respect the red tape boundary.

Then logan refused to stay in his seat at dinnertime,

And mom, for the first time, did discipline.

You need to stay in your seat, okay?

And finish your dinner. If you get up again,

You're gonna have to go to time-out.

[Screaming]

All right, logan, that's time-out.

I told you to stay in your seat through dinner.

You're gonna stand right here for three minutes, logan.

Let's go finish your dinner, okay?

[Indistinct conversations in distance]

Good. Great.[Denver] mommy.

[Woman] what's he doing back there?in time-out.

[Woman laughs]logan, you're in time-out

Because you didn't listen to mommy.

Look at me and tell me sorry.sorry.

Okay, now give me a hug.

Thank you. [Kisses] all right.

I think the "x marks the spot" time-out place is great,

Because it gives us a place to put our kids in time-out,

And I think we're gonna put it up

So that all of our customers can use it as well.

You followed through, which was amazing.

[Laughs]so just keep up with it.

Okay. [Laughs]'cause you're doing a good job. Just keep up with it.

I think mom did a great job when it came to

Holding down discipline, but dad's still not happy.

I'm gonna go put him in the tree house

And go get denver out of the bathroom,

And you get him to eat.roy's words hit kate really hard,

And I found her at the back of the shop,

Distraught over his attitude.

[Voice breaking] I feel like roy doesn't help me at all...

[Sniffles] build my confidence.

I mean, he points out everything I do wrong.

He puts me down all the time. He doesn't lift me up.

I just--you know, I'm hitting my breaking point.

It's been a long time.

Do you want the best bit of advice you're gonna get?

Yes, roy does need to support you,

And that doesn't mean putting you down.

He needs to be telling you, from his own heart,

What you need to hear.

And why you swallow it, kate...[Crying]

Why you take this c-r-a-p every day--

It's not gonna get better.

You're not meant to shut up and put up

And tolerate stuff that you're unhappy about

Because you're married. You need to go out there

And say to him, "we need to talk."

No, I know. I mean... [Laughs]

Then step up for yourself,

Because nobody else is gonna do it, kate. Nobody.

You hear what I'm saying?yeah.

I hear you. I hear you.[Laughs]

You can make this better, okay?

Yeah.

Come on.[Laughs]

Coming up on...

[Laughs]logan.

[Screams]looking after the kids isn't as easy as dad thought...

So how much work we get done?not very much.

And... Jo confronts dad.

It's not okay to talk to your wife that way.

It's not okay for anybody to.

When "supernanny" returns.

If mom and dad really want to get control

Over their children's naughty behavior,

Then they must work together,

And roy must stop putting his wife down.come on.

[Laughs]do what you need to do.

[Kate] hey, roy, come here for a minute.

You know, i-i need you to build me up, okay?

I-i need you to stop putting me down...okay.

And pointing out everything that I do that's wrong, okay?okay.

With everything. The coffee park is both of us,

So you need to recognize that

And recognize how hard it is for me and build me up.

You're right. You do a good job,

And I'm sorry for being so hard on you.

I'll try to... Do that.no, you can't try. You just-- you just gotta do it. [Laughs]

I will. Okay. I will.okay.

Roy's apology seemed a little less than sincere.

He apologized, but I'm used to hearing "I'm sorry,"

And it didn't seem like he really was being heartfelt.

After I saw roy's halfhearted apology,

I just knew I needed to step in.

You're k*lling her softly.

What is it, deep-rooted, that you're--

That you're feeling frustrated and angry with?

I don't know. I think that just--

The stress of the coffee park.

I just lash out at someone to blame, and...

Not really fair to her, I guess.put it right.

It's not okay to talk to your wife that way.

It's not okay for anybody to.

So apologize. Feel it. Apologize.

Show her that you can change that.right.

Talk to her. Put it right.okay.

It was hard to hear jo hit right at the core of the issue.

It was kinda one of those moments where I realized

That I really haven't been giving her

All the support that she needed.

I'm sorry.okay. Thank you.

I really am, and I know

That I haven't given you the support you need.

I'm sorry.

I'm sorry that I've just been tearing apart at your faults

And not helping you through everything.

Okay.

I'm sorry. I never meant to hurt you with it.thank you.

I love you.i love you, too.

Roy apologized again

And really, truly opened his heart up.

I really think that now we can work on the little things

Knowing that, um,

We've hopefully put this past behind us.

Ahh. [Laughs]

[Jo] all right.

So I've got something for the pair of you--

Two aprons.

Dad, you are going to be at home with the kids today.

Kate, you're going to work.

I think it's important that both parents have empathy

And appreciate each other's roles.

Dad clearly doesn't understand how difficult that is for mom,

And so what I want them to do is to experience

Walking in each other's shoes.i am going to work.

[Laughs] bye.[Jo] bye!

I was excited to get out of the house

And be able to talk with other adults.

[Jo] okay, so this is where you grow eyes

At the back of your head, roy.

I was a little worried on how the boys would act

And whether or not I would be able to handle it.

Dad was trying to get some work done for the shop,

And as usual, the kids were going mad behind him.[Screaming]

Welcome to mom's world.logan, no more throwing.

[Screams]

[Jack crying]

What happened?

You're gonna break that. Stop.[Continues crying]

Do you want more snack?

You want a snack, too?

Yeah.you want it cut? Okay.

Dad's learning. It's just not that easy

To look after three kids and run a business at home.

So how much work we get done?

Not very much.

Dad's certainly getting a taste

Of what mom has to experience every day.

I decided to go up to the shop

And see exactly how mom was getting on.

[Jo] can a girl get a coffee around here?

[Laughs][laughs]

Mom was clearly enjoying herself.

She was having a blast, actually.

I mean, smiling like I'd never seen her smile.

I kind of got a little bit of my spark back

Being able to interact with my employees

And talk with other adults.all right. Well, listen, I'm gonna go back,

Because, uh, your husband's holding down fort.[Laughs]

Jo jo.[Door squeaks]

Jo jo!hello.

When I got back home,

The house was looking reasonable,

And the boys were happy.how did that work out with the, um, work

That you needed to get done within the shop?

I was able to get the schedule out finally,

When they calmed down a little bit.right.

It was refreshing for me to get to be at home with the boys.

You're going down?

So often I feel like I'm missing out on all the good times.

Mom!hi.

Hello.hi.

How was your day?it was good.

All right.both parents have a deeper appreciation

Of what the other one does, and so together,

We created a schedule they can equally

Take responsibility in raising their children

And running their successful business.

I'm gonna be at work monday, wednesday and friday.

But mom did have one concern.

A part of me says I want to be at home with my kids,

And sometimes I feel like that when the kids are with him,

They have so much fun and enjoy him and play

And then when I'm at home with them,

It's just a constant struggle to get them to listen,

And we don't have that fun.this is just a real shame.

What I want to do is to teach mom how easy it can be

To get out there and have fun with your boys.

How old are you?.

. I know you remember what it was like when you were younger.

Right? So we need to pull out that inner child,

And let's have some fun with these kids, okay?

Whoa! Look at this! Look at this big pirate hat.

She wanted me to really join

Their pirate adventure wholeheartedly.

Kate, take 'em through the jungle,

Go through the trees.

Ready?we're in the jungle, jack. Ready?

We're gonna just have to push right through the jungle.oh!

Push all the branches away![Speaks indistinctly]

Oh! Oh, get over that.ohh!

What I am seeing is that kate make more of an effort today

Than she has made since I've arrived,

And this is really allowing her to connect with the children

And to have a lot of fun with them.

Pirate play was definitely quality time with my boys.

♪♪♪

Let's talk about what's important

For while I'm gone for several days.

First and foremost, we need to be kind to one another.

Be mindful of your language with the time-out.

I want you to practice more on your tone of voice, all right?

I'm definitely very nervous that I won't be able

To follow the time-out techniques.

Follow through, be consistent,

Have fun with your kids and talk.

The toughest part, while jo's away,

Is going to be getting denver

To follow through the steps of time-out.mwah. Thank you.

Oh!i think this family have done very well,

But I'm gonna be very curious to see how much control

They have over their boys when I'm gone.[Boy] bye, jo jo.

I'm quite anxious to see.

Coming up on...

The boys continue their reign of terror at the shop.

Unh-unh-unh.

Can jo get mom and dad to put a stop to it?

That's scary. I mean, that could give a kid a concussion.

When "supernanny" returns.

And now...

How can you keep a bored toddler occupied

While you're busy in the kitchen?

"A," put them in a baby-proofed room within earshot

With toys to occupy them...

"B," put them in a playpen the whole time

In the kitchen while you work...

"C," fill a kitchen cabinet or drawer

With plastic containers and cups for them.

Find out the answer when we return.

And now...

How can you keep a bored toddler occupied

While you're busy in the kitchen?

"A," put them in a baby-proofed room within earshot

With toys to occupy them...

"B," put them in a playpen the whole time

In the kitchen while you work...

"C," fill a kitchen cabinet or drawer

With plastic containers and cups for them.

The answer is "c," fill a kitchen cabinet or drawer

With plastic containers and cups for them.

Keeping them busy in the kitchen

With stacking cups, plastic bowls and spoons

Will endlessly entertain.

♪♪♪

I've been away for several days, and, yes, I am interested to see

Whether the johnson family kept it together

And were they kind to one another.

Who's excited?all right, let's do it.

[Chuckles]all right. Let's take a look at the tree house.

[Screams]careful, bud.

[Giggles]

[Crying][roy] unh-unh-unh.

Crybaby.unh-unh-unh-unh-unh. No, no, no.

[Screams]oh. Hey, denver.

Hey, don't yell.[Denver] watch this.

[Screams]hey, hey, hey, hey. Denver. No, put it--pull it up.

Unh-unh-unh. You okay, bud? Come here.

Being a parent, you take your kids to the coffee shop.

You actually see that there is this little boy

And this other little boy-- they are behaving atrociously,

And then they are throwing toys at your child.

And then you realize after that,

They're the owners' children.

What's the next thing you think?

The owners aren't in control.

Yeah. Why aren't they disciplining them?

My word, what kind of place is this?

How can I take my kids to a place like this

For them to enjoy when there's this child

And this child doing what they're doing?

One, it's not acceptable

For your children to behave that way,

But two, it's important

For denver and for logan to realize

That just because mommy and daddy own the coffee shop

Doesn't mean it's their castle.

This is mommy and daddy's workplace.

Because that's--that's scary.

I mean, that could give a kid a concussion,

Throw that big truck

And throw it at the back of someone's head.

When we see that behavior, we curb it straightaway.

So let's move on to the creative play.

[Denver] let's see if we can do a rules song.a rules song?

Yes.oh, that sounds good. I like that.

♪ No throwing tantrums ♪"johnson brothers band."

There you go.♪ No pushing people, no pushing people ♪

♪ No pushing people in the way ♪want to play the guitar?

Yeah!

[Kate] all right!

Who made the t-shirts?i did. [Laughs]

We kind of all decided to play rock star together.

It's absolutely fantastic.it was a lot of fun.

Did you get so much back from that with the kids?

I definitely did. It was fun to, you know, just take a break

And just play with them and not think about anything else.fantastic.

All right, so we're gonna look at yourself, kate,

Here with denver's time-out.[Screams]

[Crying]

Denver.

All right.

Time-out. I told you not to hit or kick,

And this morning I told you not to hurt your brother.

I was--you're in time-out because you are not listening to mommy.

[Boy] whoo! Whoo! Whoo!

I...

[Grunts]

I wasn't doing it. I am bad.

[Grunts]

Denver.what?

You got time-out because you didn't listen to mommy.

I need you to tell me you're sorry.sorry.

Give me a hug.

Will you tell logan and jack you're sorry...

[Speaks indistinctly]sorry, logan. Sorry, jack.

All right, so you did implement a time-out, which is great,

Because you made a decision--

"Well, that certainly needed time-out"--

And you went ahead and you did that.

But in the beginning, when you'd made a decision

To do a time-out, there was no eye contact,

And you didn't there and then say to him,

"You need to look at me right now

Because I am talking to you," so that he could see

That you, facially, were very serious

With your tone of voice as well. You then got up...

Yeah.and then he started to play cat and mouse with you.

So it's your warning, really, that needs to brush up.okay.

You get the warning down, then everything else will follow.

All right, and saying that, I'm gonna move on

To communication here.i did payroll.

Okay. You did it on here?

Yep.oh, good.

Did with play with the coffee park web site today?

Nope.

You can do it now. I'm sorry. You can do it now.

I know that that's important, too.

Okay.

Not good.

You just need to be honest with each other,

Yet you're still tippytoeing around each other

Because you're worried about how the other person will react.

So it's almost pretend. The pair of you are playing

This little, you know, verbal game between each other,

But actually, it's--it's not real,

And you've gotta be real with each other.

If you actually feel that roy's coming

And he's poking his nose in what you're doing,

You know, there are ways of being able to say,

"Look, right now I'm feeling this way

When you behave like this," you know, and vice versa.

All right?yeah.

So I have seen you recognize

The importance of being able to knuckle down with your kids

And really have fun and enjoy that time with them.

And the things that I believe we do need to work on,

Um, straightaway is certainly communication

And--and tree house behavior's gotta go. It's gotta go.

So are we feeling ready for that work?yeah.

Yeah.okay, good. All right, let's get on

And do some more work. Thank you.thank you.

Coming up on...

Mom has one last chance to get it right.

"Sit down there and do your time.

You did not listen to mommy." So let's try that again, please.

Logan,sitdown.

When "supernanny" returns.

This is my sword!my sword!

[Jo] it was very clear, watching the dvd,

That mom and dad are still struggling

When it comes to handling discipline in the coffee shop,

So I decided to meet them there

So I can give them some additional practice.[Speaks indistinctly]

Hey.

Denver and logan.[Denver] what?

You're playing in the tree house right now.

You cannot come out here unless we come to get you.

This is your warning.

If you come out again, you will go in time-out.

Mommy and daddy need to clean up right now.

Hey. Hey. Where are the kids? When you're giving 'em

A warning, where were they? What were they doing?

Correct. You remember the warnings?

Remember, eye contact, coming down, using that voice?

[Crying]don't let 'em walk way.

Hey. Denver, stop what you're doing.

Look at me. Come here, logan. Look at me.

Come here. Right here.

Turn around and look at me.[Whines]

Logan, you need to stay in the tree house.

If you come out again, you will go to time-out.

That was % better.[Chuckles]

That was a proper warning.

But logan decided to carry on with his misbehavior,

Knocking down denver's blocks

When mom had already given him a warning.

He knocked it down again after you told him not to!

Logan, you need to take a time-out...what?

Because I told you not to knock down denver's tower.

You are not playing nice. You are going to time-out.no!

You're in time-out,

Because you did not listen

And you knocked down denver's toys. Look at me.

[Raises voice] stand on the "x" and look at me.no.

Sit down.

No!

Kate? [Raises voice] we're talking rather like this,

As if we've come out of "mary poppins."

[Normal voice] when you gave him a warning, you gave him

A low tone voice, and that's exactly what you want.

[Raises voice] it's not "mary, mary, quite contrary."

[Normal voice] it's "sit down there and do your time.

You did not listen to mommy." So let's try that again, please.[Metal thuds]

Logan,sitdown.

You're sitting in time-out because you didn't listen

And you didn't play nice with denver.

[Jo] okay, three minutes.

You see the difference?

[Grunts]

Logan, you got time-out because you didn't listen.

You need to tell me you're sorry.sorry.

Thank you. Can you give me a hug?oh!

Mom's certainly a little bit wobbly

When it comes to time-outs, but she does know the steps.

I am very optimistic, with more practice,

She's certainly going to nail it.

Okay.

So, kate and roy, I've brought this in for the pair of you.

Okay, it's dinner tonight here.

Kate and roy did say to me in submission,

They want to enjoy themselves

As a family within their business,

So I'm gonna show them exactly how to do that.we're gonna have a picnic.

Would you guys like to help me spread out the blanket?[Denver] yes.

All right.mom, we get to spread out the blanket.

All right. Good job, guys.

Guess what? All the customers are gone,

So we can have fun and have a huge picnic...daddy!

Hey, jack jack.in the coffee park, can't we?

Just our family.let's see.

Look at all this yummy stuff.wow!

When we had the family picnic, it was great.

It was a lot of fun to have our kids at our coffee shop

And be able to really enjoy everything that we had built.

Really sweet. Who's enjoyed their picnic this evening?

[Grunts]mm, jack. [Chuckles]

Everybody did.[Jo] yeah, they did, right?

It's nice, isn't it, just to take a moment, right?

[Kate] mm-hmm.

[Jo] you're enjoying your family? [Laughs]

That's when you know you're on the right road.

When you hear something like that from your kids,

You know you're doing something right.the point of our picnic was

To show us that we can do family things at the coffee park

And it doesn't have to be all about stress and discipline,

That we can still have a good time there.

And so it was very refreshing. It was fun.

I didn't want to leave the johnsons

Until I had a final word with kate and roy back at home.

I wanted to give you one last thing.

I think it's really important for kate and roy to understand,

That as a young couple,

They are on this business adventure together,

They are on this parenting journey together,

But together, they're also a very young couple.

I think it's important for you to have these around your house.

Those times that get tough is

The times when you need to look at these pictures

And go, "I know that I'm in love. And we're going through

"A little bit of a blip in the road,

But we'll get through it together."

The picture of kate and I is going to help us stay grounded

And remember the good times.

On the days when it gets hard to be able to look at that picture

And see us both so happy,

It's gonna be really encouraging for me.

So it's time for me to leave.

I've really had a wonderful time

Working with you both.

You've been so receptive

To everything that has been taught, really.

Listen, you take care.[Kate] jo's had a great impact on my family.

I was sad to see her leave, but also happy that now

I can take back control of my home

And implement what she's taught me.take care, okay?

Thank you.i've learned a lot about myself

And how the way that I act in any situation

Affects kate and everyone else,

And I can't take anything for granted.

Come here! Let me say good-bye! [Laughs]bye-bye, jo!

Bye-bye. Bye-bye, denver.bye.

I love aunty jo because she helps families.

Oh! Bye-bye.

[Singsong voice] bye, logan.bye, jo jo.

Oh, here, kissy-kissy. [Kisses]

Are you gonna blow me a kiss?

Oh! Caught that one.[Laughs]

I believe that the johnson family

Will have a brighter future because they now have balance

When it comes to running a successful business

And being successful parents with their boys.

♪♪♪