Jo visits a celebrity family--
Wendy wilson of the pop group wilson phillips.
♪ Hold on ♪
♪ For one more day ♪
♪ Things will go your way ♪
She's the daughter of beach boy brian wilson,
And her laid-back upbringing makes it difficult
For her to discipline her own kids... Stop. Stop.
Leaving her husband dan to take the reins.
If you don't start picking up at the count of three,
Then you're gonna have to have a time-out.
And with two rowdy boys and brand-new twins... [Crying]
Aah!they need to get on the same page quick.
Oh, jeez.
Can wendy get past her rock 'n' roll upbringing
And learn to discipline better?
[Cries] mommy, I was playing with it.unh-unh-unh-unh-unh.
And will jo help wendy get her life under control
In time for her to go back on tour with her sister carnie?
[Both] ♪ can you hold on for one more day? ♪
♪♪♪
♪ Be good, be good ♪
♪ Be good, be good, be good ♪
♪ Be good, be good, be good ♪
♪ Be good, be good, be good ♪♪ johnny ♪
♪ Be good, be good, be good ♪
♪ Be good, be good, be good ♪
♪ Be good, be good, be good ♪
♪ Be good, be good, be good ♪♪ johnny ♪
♪ Johnny ♪
♪♪♪
So we're in studio city, california.
Let's take a look at the family we've got here.
Hi. We're the knutson family.
I'm wendy. And I'm dan.
And we have four kids.
[Wendy] I'm from the band wilson phillips,
And, uh, in the early s,
We did concerts around the world.
People think that I have a glamorous lifestyle,
But it's really not. I am a housewife and a mom.
Slow down.we live and breathe children, and that's what we do.
Aah![Laughs]
[Dan] leo is .
Beau is .
And will and jesse are twins,
And they are weeks old.
Going from two to four kids overnight is a whirlwind.
Well, I gotta feed the babies. I'm in shock.
No, no, no, no.
It's like a circus here. I mean, they're wild.
[Cries] [gasps] oh, my goodness.
They get rambunctious. Whoa, hey.
[Cries] mommy, I was playing with it. Unh-unh-unh-unh-unh.
And they get loud.
[Cries] [laughs]
You add twins to the mix,
And it's just absolute lunacy sometimes.
So in musical terms, this family would be slightly off-key.
The way I grew up
Was the polar opposite to the way wendy grew up.
My father, brian wilson of the beach boys--
When I was growing up--
Wasn't around, you know, for the most part.
He just wasn't able to parent my sister and i.
We were allowed to do
Almost anything we wanted to do as children.
I think that structure was-- was missing in the household.
I think that that influenced me
Because I tend to be more liberal with my children,
And dan is just quite the opposite of me,
And, um, you know,
It--it does come into play with our parenting,
And we do have conflicts because of that.
[Dan] hey, don't throw an apple on the floor.
What are you talking about, you smell poo-poo?
Do you have poo-poo?[Beau] no.
We got poo-poo. In his underwear? Again?
Before the babies arrived, I was resolved
That beau, our year old, was gonna get potty trained.
You gotta go poo-poo on the potty.
Oh, my god. [Dan] he refused.
Now there's poo-poo in the water.
[Wendy] usually when he hides behind that table,
He's going poo. I'm over this.
♪♪♪
Look at this cheeky monkey.
He's springing a leak in the backyard.
And then bedtime-- I'd like to see wendy
Be able to put them into bed and be able to come out
And let them fall asleep on their own.
I don't want to go to bed. I want...mom.
And then between : and : a.m.,
They make their way to our bedroom.
Now that we have our twins,
It's hard to get any quality sleep at all.
It's an hour past your bedtime, buddy.i tend to baby the kids.
[Dan] we're just gonna move your bed right into their room.
Oh, this family certainly needs some rest, that's for sure.
Oh, jeez.
In a couple of months, my sister and I
Have shows planned that we're gonna do around the country.
I'm just a little concerned
About not being with my older kids
For--for that amount of time,
'Cause I've never done that before.
♪ Thank you ♪how are you tonight?
We've got some dates lined up, and four children is not easy.
And two newborns? Dan's working. She's gonna work.
We're all working, so this is the challenge.
[Wendy] hold on!
Supernanny, we--we're overwhelmed.
Please help us, uh, handle our children.
Mom and dad, you certainly got your hands full.
I'm on my way to help.
♪♪♪
[Rings doorbell]
Hello.
Hi. How are you?how are you? Good. I'm wendy.
Pleased to meet you. I'm jo.nice to meet you.
You know, as far as I was concerned,
I was going in to help a family, regardless to whether
They'd been in the limelight or not.
I was welcomed very warmly by wendy and dan, which was lovely.
[Jo] so two toddlers...
[Wendy] yeah.twins.
Quite a bit, right?oh, yeah.
A lot to sort out and lots to be done.
It's one thing to have two young, active boys,
But to have newborns as well,
It puts wendy into one of the toughest challenges
A parent could ever be in.
Leo and beau, I am talking to you right now.
The first thing that I see is the boys riding outside,
And mom desperately trying to get them inside,
But they're just ignoring her.
Hey, stop. Stop.
If you guys don't stop, you're gonna go to a time-out.
I felt extremely mortified, I have to be honest with you.
I was like, "my kids are not listening to me,
"And I don't have the respect that I should have
From my children."Leo.
This is very embarrassing.
I believe that-- that the way you're raised
Influences the way you parent.
I was raised with a very unstructured type of lifestyle.
We were allowed to do
Almost anything we wanted to do as children.
Let's start putting the puzzles away, okay?
You wanna help me? Come on. Come on.
I love the fact that wendy admits that she's a pushover,
And that when the boys play up,
She leaves it up to dad to deal with the discipline.
Hey, leo, you need to start picking up.
If you don't start picking up at the count of three,
Then you're gonna have to have a time-out,
Because this is getting silly. Let's get moving, please.
Thank you very much. Now get that puzzle put in its box
And don't stop until you're finished.
Wendy and dan both have very different parenting styles,
And that's okay, but I knew that I would have to get them
On the same page if they were gonna see eye to eye.
I-i do try to implement, you know,
Discipline with the kids,
But I know that i-i can be pushed.
[Mouths word]i'm the pushover, and he's the more strict parent.
Yeah, I have less tolerance, definitely.i mean, is that what you--
So i-i know that that's something I need to work on.
[Jo] has there been any regression?
[Wendy] yes, there has been regression. Yes.oh, yeah.
We got beau to the point with potty training
Where he was going on the potty, you know, every day,
And then he started going in his underwear.[Mouths word]
Regression is very common with toddlers
When there are newborns around.
It's basically when the older child goes back
To behaving how they did when they were younger,
And no sooner had wendy told me
About beau's potty training problems,
Dan caught him in the act.what are you doing in the office?
Come on out of there.daddy, please go away, please.
Are you going poo-poo? Let's go on the potty.but, dad...
Let's go to the potty.no, you have to go away, I said.
Buddy, I think you're going poo-poo right now.
Come on. Let's go to the potty, please.
[Wendy] dan hates changing diapers.
I mean, it makes him gag.ugh. Buddy.
[Laughs] oh, boy.
This is horrifying, buddy.
These aren't real accidents that beau is having,
Because he's already been potty trained.
He's just regressing because he knows
He can get mom and dad's attention,
Because right now, they're giving it all to the newborns.
You know what? If you didn't have man-sized poops,
It wouldn't be so disgusting.
Coming up on...
When total chaos keeps wendy up all night...
[Cries]
It's time for jo to lay down the law.
They are blatantly ignoring you,
But if you think they're doing that now,
What do you think they're gonna do when they're , wendy?
When "supernanny" returns.
♪ Be good, be good ♪
♪♪♪
[Laughs]
[Beau] no!
I'm looking at what I see around me--
I mean, you're a very successful, talented woman
In the music industry,
And is there-- is there a piece of you
That wants to get back out there doing it?to be honest with you,
My children are gonna be my priority forever.
You know, that comes first for me now,
But I do want to do something,
And I want--i mean, my sister and I
Are planning on doing shows this winter.okay. Mm-hmm.
And it's a lot of fun,
And it makes me feel great to be performing again,
You know, working, and that's another aspect of myself
That I don't get to see very often.
I went from career woman to full-time mommy,
But I do have an itch to work again as well,
Because I need-- I need time for myself, too,
And it's important, and--and when I work, you know,
I'm gonna--i'm gonna need to be away from them
For a little while.
I mean, I already know myself.
Once I start rehearsing, I'm gonna feel guilty
That I haven't been with my children.
Even if it's a couple hours,
I start feeling that guilt feeling, that trepidation.
You know, I'm really excited for wendy
Because she's excited about going back on the road
And--and doing what she's passionate about with her music,
And that brings more and more to the forefront
Of how they need to get things organized and in place
So that she can feel confident about doing that.
So I wonder what happens around this kind of time.
You know, is it just--
Do you just grab your breaks when you can
Or, you know, is there any kind of structure
Or any kind of routine?not really. I mean...
I'd spent the better part of a day with this family,
And it seemed like there was no set time for anything
With regards to the kids or the newborns,
And that they just kinda did things
When they felt it should be done.
Are you hungry? Did you eat? You didn't eat. Okay.
[Mouths word]maybe we should plan dinner.
Yeah.yeah, you know what? I gotta cook dinner.
Okay, okay.what am I thinking?
[Baby cries]i wonder if I should bathe them and then have bottles ready.
That would just be a little too much for right now, I think.
Wendy and dan haven't kept track of the babies' feeding schedule
Throughout the day.
When was the last time they were fed?um, was it
What time are the babies supposed to eat?
Who knows at this point?that's what I'm saying. I forgot.
Yeah.when are your babies due for their feeds?
[Baby crying][wendy] apparently soon.
Yeah, probably.
[Crying continues]
♪♪♪
Typically, a lack of routine will follow into bedtime.
And now what we're seeing
Is the kids get up in the middle of the night
To go into their mom and dad's bedroom.
So what time do the kids normally go to bed?[Wendy] :.
:.[Dan laughs] yeah.
We try for :. We try for :.
That's their bedtime. I call it a soft :
A soft
Yeah.so then what time would you say--
Early hours in the morning-- you have company?
: Or :.
: Or :.yeah.
So : or : you feel a foot in the face?mm-hmm. There you go.
Oh, yeah. I've been kicked in the head so many times
In the middle of the night. Oh, boy.it's tough enough
When you're getting up in the middle of the night
Because you've got babies you constantly need to feed,
But now mom and dad have got boys
Who are jumping into their bed as well.
This family need to sleep.
[Dan] bedtime, boys. Bedtime.[Wendy] time to go to bed.
To your bed. You know what? I can't find your pacifier
Because it's not where we asked you to leave it today.
Do you know where one of your pacifiers is?
[Jo] first mom and dad had to hunt high and low
For beau's pacifier--
Something I think a year old shouldn't have anyway.
[Crying]
[Dan] this is working out great.
Dan, this is very odd. I don't see them.
So if you don't remember where the paci is, that's it.
You're out here hunting.yeah, it's pretty much-- it's come to this before.
I know. I know. I know that you want paci. I know that.
Found one. Ahh!
The achilles' heel of bedtime.
Once beau got his pacifier, he went straight off to sleep,
But then I saw leo demanding more time from mom.
And let's face it--you've still got two babies to deal with.
You must chill.
Okay?
I'll be back soon to check on you.okay.
Wendy feels really guilty about leaving leo alone,
So she engages him.
What she must do is set limits, leave the room
And not allow leo to make her feel so bad.
I love you. One more kiss. One more kiss.
We can only hope for him to just finally,
You know, fall off into oblivion.
Mom!
[Leo] mom. Come here, mommy. Come here.
You're taking a long time.
I have my hands full with so many children
That I don't have--i don't-- it's like I can't--
I don't have time for all my children at once.
You know, I have to pick.
So we have a family here that have got no routine,
Little discipline and not much sleep.
So I'm gonna head off for the night and make sure
That I come back with a good plan for mom and dad.
Get as much sleep as you possibly can between feeds
So that way we can have a good chat tomorrow.okay.
Thank you. It's been a very good observation day.
[Wendy] thank you for everything.
This family's got a lot of love in it
And really good principles for them moving forward,
But there's a lot that's got to be put in place
If mom's to feel good about going on tour.
♪♪♪
♪♪♪
So what I want to start off
Talking to you both about is structure.mm-hmm.
All right? Structure, you mentioned,
Is something that you both have been very, uh, free with.
However, that lack of structure
Hasn't led to you, now as parents,
To have framework with your own kids.
There is no consistency.
Well, the--the key
To being able to have the consistency is a routine,
Because it relates to so many different things.
It relates to a consistency with sleeping.
It relates to mealtimes,
And that is also linked with behavior.
So you see, everything fits into a puzzle,
And the boys do need structure...yeah, yeah.
And they're not brilliant at wanting to listen.
They've got selective hearing.
Yeah, they really do.oh, yeah. Mm-hmm.
They are blatantly ignoring you,
But if you think they're doing that now at and ,
What do you think they're gonna do when they're , wendy?
Because you've both got very strong opinions
And--and views of how you were raised
And what you feel is necessary,
But neither one is--is willing to step back
Or to push forward,
And that's where we get the good cop, the bad cop.
Uh-huh, yeah.right?
Yeah.where do we find that happy medium for us?
And that's something that I'm definitely going to be doing
With the pair of you throughout our teaching.
Now obviously, the--the newborns have come into the family,
And the--and the boys are--are wondering
Where they are in the mix of all of this.
You know, "ooh, we were the apple here,
And we've fallen off the cart," you know?yeah, yeah.
It's adjustment for everyone,
Not only for yourselves, but for the toddlers as well,
And what we see is the potty training.
It's not something that we have to over--be dramatic about,
But it's there. It's a natural thing for some children
That occurs when there are new additions into the family,
But the pacifier, I can definitely say,
Will need to go.okay.
Okay?[Laughs]
Just thinking about him makes me laugh sometimes.
I know. Me, too.
So I'm feeling really positive about the things
That can be done here. We up for it?that's good. Oh, yeah.
We're up for it.ready?
Yes.we better start some work then.
All right, okay.okay.
Coming up on "supernanny,"
Carnie comes by to rehearse with wendy.
[Wendy] oh, hi, carn. Hi!hey.
And later, wendy opens up about having a beach boy for a dad...
He's a very elusive p-- you know, person.
When "supernanny" returns.
♪ Be good, be good ♪
♪♪♪
Wendy was raised with an inconsistent routine,
And that suited her family down to the pound,
But with her own kids,
She needs to establish a consistent routine.
So let's place in our routine here,
One of those cornerstones, which are the kids' mealtimes.
Okay.all right?
Seeing the schedule makes me know
That we don't have to live in the chaos anymore.the babies' first feed
Is at what time in the morning?uh, :. : A.m.
Up here was a lot of clutter,
And when they started to place down on paper
How they could help themselves, it started to empower them.
What's an ideal time for dinner?[Dan] uh...
I'd say :, but it's not like a sit-down, formal thing.
I would for the children.right.
If the children haven't eaten, I would get into the habit
Of having them at the table.yeah.
What are your thoughts on that?that sounds like--
Like it's pushing it in the right direction,
Because that's certainly something i-i've noticed,
That when I grew up, my parents wanted me home for dinner.
You know, it was very important.
Yeah, and I had the opposite.
We didn't really sit down for dinner.
I mean, my--my mom did with us,
But it was never a family ordeal.
I was raised with a very unstructured type of lifestyle.
My father is brian wilson of the beach boys,
And, uh, my dad was--was pretty much absent.
Whether he was home or not, he was absent.
So you know, we were craving normalcy.
So let's go and stick it up...thank you.
And make it happen. You did--did really well here.
Very cool. Thank you so much.thank you.
[Jo] you did really well.when we made the--the day schedule,
It really became apparent, you know,
How we were gonna make our lives sane.
Once we had finished work on the family routine,
Wendy's sister carnie came around to rehearse.
Hello.[Wendy] oh, hi, carn.
[Wendy] hi!
Hey.
Hi there.
[Carnie] hi, everybody.[Jo] and she brought over her little girl...
This is my daughter lola.hi, lola.
Lola, look, it's jo jo. Can you say hi to jo jo?
Hi, lola. Pleased to meet you.
Wendy and carnie needed time to rehearse,
So it gave dan the opportunity to bite the b*llet
And give the girls the quiet time that they needed.
So plan of action-- we've got all these kids,
And what we wanna do is set up
Something for the kids to be able to do,
Perhaps in the backyard or in here.
When I was, uh, prompted to go watch, you know, the children,
I definitely felt, you know,
This is a situation that I have not been put in before.
Oh! I'm alone with you all.
♪♪♪
What key are we in?
♪ Now come on ♪
You guys doing okay?[Speaks indistinctly]
And--and who's doing melody? Me or you?
Me.okay.
Well, first of all, I've never been in that living room
Without screaming children running around.
It was probably the first time we had any quiet time on there.
It was almost awkward.[Both sing off-key]
Oh, s--oh, god.oh, no, no, no, no. It modulates, right? Modulates?
Yeah, um... [Sings indistinctly]
[Wendy] well, there wasn't really a lot of interaction
With our father as a child.
Carnie and I would try to play piano with him,
You know, and he would teach us little things,
And that's pretty much our real connection in life.
[Both] ♪ don't you know, things will change? ♪
♪ Things will go your way ♪
♪ If you hold on for one more day ♪
You guys are gonna--you're gonna need sunblock, aren't you?
What do you got going on?
I was expecting a little bit more trouble
From the whole lot of them than really ever materialized.
One hippo to one kid.
It was refreshing to have that moment to myself
And to be with my sister and--and do what I do,
'Cause that's a passion of mine
That I've kind of pushed under the rug,
And I think I need to embrace that a little bit again.
♪♪♪
Before I went home for the night,
I wanted to tackle beau's attachment with his pacifier.
There's no need for him to have a pacifier.
He has a blankie,
And it's an emotional crutch, really, for him.
This is gonna be heartbreaking for me, I have to tell you.
When she said that we're gonna have to, you know,
Break the habit of the pacifier,
I had no idea what she was gonna do.
Beau, this envelope came from somebody very special,
And her name is penelope the paci-fairy.
Okay? And when she sees that there are boys in the house
That are very big boys, and they have pacies,
What she does is that she asks them, okay...[Beau] wait.
To put their pacies into the very special envelope
And to post it so that she could give them
To babies that would need them.
No.
And he kind of looked at me and I thought to myself,
Is he gonna do this or not?
I didn't know if he was really gonna pick up those pacies.
Oh, look at you. Penelope is gonna be so pleased.
Seal that down nice and tightly. Seal it down.
I was really excited that he was just really engulfed
In this whole story.you're gonna put it in the mailbox? Oh, my!
When he took those pacifiers to the mailbox,
I just felt very proud of him.
He's growing up when he does that.nice.
Yay!yay, beau! Yeah!
It felt like we were in--in a storybook.
And in the morning, you're gonna go to the mailbox,
And you're going to get out your very special own envelope.
You know, it just goes to show you,
When you're really confident
And you can bring a touch of magic into the situation,
That they actually take it in their own stride
And know that everything must be okay then.
Race you back in. Ready? One, two, three, go!
[Jo] quick, quick, quick, quick, quick, quick, quick, quick.
[Laughs] quick, quick, quick, quick.
♪♪♪
♪♪♪
Hello!
When I arrived the next day, I was curious to see
How beau had slept without his pacifier, so I asked mom.
[Beau] yeah.mm-hmm...
That was it?that was it.
Perfect.yeah.
[Jo] beau, have you been outside?
Beau, penelope the fairy's been here. Go and have a look.
And he went outside, and he saw the feathers and the glitter.
He's like, "the fairies."
[Wendy] oh. Oh!
Oh, my gosh.
And when he opened up that mailbox and saw that parcel,
His little face--
He was so excited that he'd been left something.
[Dan] here. I'll help you with this.
There you can go--wow!
[Wendy] animals?animals?
The fact that jo was able to get him
To part with those pacifiers-- i-i bow down to jo.
I was pretty surprised that she was able to do it.
Coming up on...
Dan opens up about his deepest fears...
I feel that in the end,
I'm going to alienate my kids to some degree.
And wendy opens up about life with her father...
I guess I never got the validation that I needed.
When "supernanny" returns.
♪ Be good, be good ♪
♪♪♪
With the pacifier gone, it was time to get wendy and dan
On the same page with regards to
How they were going to discipline the boys,
And to do that, they need to discuss
The limitations they feel as parents
Because they both had different upbringings.
So what we are going to do today is to write down the things
That we feel limit us.
I've never done anything like that before,
But my children are at stake here.
I want to have control over the kids
And always have, but in such a way
That I don't end up being the bad guy or the sergeant.
I feel that in the end,
I'm going to alienate my kids to some degree,
And I wouldn't want that.why?
Because it happened in my life.
So your limitation here would be the word "control."
Any of that comes to mind with yourself, wendy?
Well, I mean, there was no consistency
And--and hardly any boundaries in my family.
So that led you to feel what as a child?
It made me feel a little, like, um,
Lost and out of control, insecure.that's the word.
Insecure, insecure.that's the word.
I'm constantly trying to make sure I do everything
That I'm supposed to do as a mother,
And I don't want to mess up. Um...
So...to please for everything, right?
Yeah, needing for the children to--to accept me,
Or acceptance, you know?
Acceptance-- that's the one that had to do
Mostly with, um, with my relationship with my parents.
Well, first of all, when you have one--one parent not there,
You want their approval and their acceptance.
My father is brian wilson of the beach boys,
And, um, he's sold millions and millions of records
In his time.
Growing up was fun. I mean, we got to go on tour.
But it was also very lonely at times
Because we grew up in a really huge home,
And my dad was--was pretty much absent.
Whether he was home or not, he was absent,
So it was hard for us,
Because we really lacked that fatherly love
And that figure in our lives.
With my father, I guess I never...
Got the validation that I needed.
Yeah, he's a very elusive p-- you know, person.
I think that the world got more from brian wilson
Than I did, yeah.
I mean, but I kind of realized
That he just wasn't able to do everything
And that's what he focused on.
I've really moved on, honestly.
You know, and I don't--i don't dwell on things like that.
I'm not as judgmental
Because now I see it through my children,
And I feel like I can forgive.
I guess in the beginning of the exercise,
I thought, "how is this relevant to our situation?
Why do we have to get so sappy right now?"
But then I realized it really was crucial and essential
To the whole process we're going through.
♪♪♪
[Jo] getting wendy to really open up
About how lonely she felt as a child
Really helped her to realize how difficult it is
To leave her own boys at bedtime.
[Jo] go put your pirate pajamas on.
You could say that I'm a little anxious about it,
But we really need our bed back and our--and our sleep back.
It's lights off, mom.
I knew that if wendy understood the importance of the boys
Sleeping in their own beds,
Then she just might pull herself away,
And it would make bedtime a lot easier.
[Lowered voice] if they really want you now,
Okay, what they're gonna do is they're gonna come out.
You're then gonna do the stay-in-bed technique,
Which is to take them back into their bed
And say, "it's bedtime, darling."
The second time they come out, you say, "bedtime,"
Put them back in.
And the third time you say nothing,
And you take them straight back into their bed, okay?
So that they're not rewarded with communication,
'Cause there has to be a cutoff limit, you know?
Bedtime is bedtime now.it's you.
So remember, no conversation, okay?
What's the first thing you say? "Bedtime, darling."
I want that. [Crying]bedtime, darling.
Okay.
[Leo and beau crying]
So this is what's going on right now.
They're in their beds, and they're used to calling,
Calling, calling all the time, and you going in.
[Jo] wendy was strong,
And she simply led them straight back to bed.
And even though they cried, within minutes,
They were fast asleep.
The question remains, however,
Will they get up and go into their mom and dad's bed?
So I curled up on the couch to find out.
Good night.good night.
Okay. Are you sure I can't-- can I get you anything?
I'm fine. It's a nanny stakeout.
See ya.all right. Good night.
When I went to bed, um, I was dreading the whole process
Because I knew that, you know, this was going to be, like,
Cold turkey for them, you know?
I knew that they were gonna have to actually sleep
In their beds the whole night.
[Jo] sure enough, leo and beau
Got up and headed
To their mom and dad's bedroom.
However, as tough as it was for wendy,
She led them straight back into their bedroom.
So it was a major victory for this family.
[Leo crying] I don't want anything.
[Wendy] you know, it was hard for me.
It was really hard for me, to be honest.
I had to change my ways and do it, and it was--
It was for the best, and I'm glad I did it.
The last time dan and I slept alone...
I can't even remember, to be honest with you.
[Jo] with this family snug in bed,
It was time for me to leave.
But if mom and dad don't keep up what we've put in place,
Then it just might come tumbling down.
Only time will tell.
Coming up on...
Can mom and dad rein the kids in without jo?
Did you hear what I said?yes.
Or are they in for a slap in the face?
Mommy, I don't want-- [cries][gasps] oh, my goodness.
When "supernanny" returns.
♪ Be good, be good ♪
♪♪♪
After leaving wendy and dan alone for four days,
I was eager to see how they did.
This is my favorite part.i'm frightened.
Are you?uh-huh.
Ahh... Let's take a look.
[Whispers] okay, time for bed.
In your bed now.
Get in your bed now. Beau?
Beau, you put that book down right now.
Beau, look at me.
I want to read one more book.did you hear what I said?
Yes.then lay down.
Sleep well.
Wow. What a marked improvement, huh?
Incredible, really.
I just love the way you've just been able to
You know, switch and change.
You've gone from being very calm and reading stories,
And as soon as they get up out of bed, you change your tone
And you say, "no, come on, that's enough."
Well done, the pair of you. Well done.
Come on, guys. Don't argue. Just do it together.
Leo wanted to do it the other way, okay?
Hey, mommy, I don't want-- [cries] [gasps] oh, my goodness.
Get--go to your time-out right now.
You do not hit your brother, ever!
Mommy--you never hit him like that.
Mommy, no.never!
Mommy, that was hurting me. You're gonna stay on this chair
Because you hit your brother.
I put you in this time-out because you hit your brother,
And that is notacceptable.
I know. What's--
Now you can a--you go apologize to your brother.
[Speaks indistinctly] no!
[Wendy] all right. Thank you for doing that, leo. Okay.
Of course you did the right thing. He hit his brother.
Of course he was gonna go on that naughty chair.
So leo and beau recognize, "I do this, and I end up...
In time-out on the naughty chair."
Very good.well, I'm feeling frazzled
Because I'm not getting enough rest.
We're trying to stay on this schedule,
But the babies are making their own schedule.
So I'm figuring at : maybe we'll feed the twins.
I wouldn't necessarily wake 'em up to feed,
Because if they can end up
On that :, :, :, : schedule, that would be best.
Okay. All right.
[Laughs]this is proof that I really,
Uh, I have a big question mark over my head.
I want to get on schedule and don't know how.
When I did your schedule, it's a -hourly feed,
And they're gonna start to sleep longer during the night
And go through with that.
And if it means that they wake up at :, great.
You're gonna start your three hours from then.
We still have really tried to stick to the schedule,
And even if we're off a half-hour,
It still seems to be, like, a wonderful thing, you know?
And it's been really-- it's been great for us.
For two people that had no schedule...
Right.it's been good for the pair of you with kids, right?
Even with the schedule, it--it's very--a demanding day.mm-hmm.
Yes.but still, it makes it a little more doable.
Mm.
Do you have poo-poo in your diaper?no.
Really? Mnh-mnh.
I'm gonna look, okay?
'Cause if you're dirty, I want to change you.
You have a big load in your diaper. Huh.
Let's take off the dirty diaper. Come on.
This is where diapers are changed.
And you're wearing a diaper.
Why? It's because you demand
That you're not gonna go poo-poo on the potty.
Getting rather good at that now, dad.
[Chuckles] yeah.
So we need to start the slate clean again
With this, and what I'm going to do
Is just very clearly give you some guidelines
That I want you to just be able
To start from the beginning and finish.
So I'm gonna be working on those particular things with you,
And I'm gonna be tweaking everything.
So are we good with what we've seen?
Yes.yep. Any questions?
Okay. So I'm eager to get cracking, so let's go.
Okay.all right.
Coming up on...
Can wendy and dan control the boys in public?
[Child shrieks]
Don't do what that kid just did.
Or will chaos reign?
I'm not ready.[Wendy] oh, boy.
When "supernanny" returns.
♪ Be good, be good ♪
Exhausted from childbirth?
Feeding like mad?
Can you remember what side your baby last fed on?
Well, this will help.
Keep a rubber bracelet on the wrist
Of the side you last fed on
So that when you change, it will help you to remember next time.
♪ Be good, be good ♪
♪♪♪
Mom and dad have become more confident,
So I want to be able to show them how they can
Step outside the box and handle any situation if it arises.
This is what we're gonna do. We're gonna have an experience
Of taking the whole family to a restaurant.
One of my bigger fears with having four children
Is going out to dinner.
I'm going to teach you guys on the get-go once we're there,
Things that are gonna make it easier for you all to go
As a family to the restaurant.dan was actually worried.
He could feel himself getting tense,
Like, "what is this gonna be like?"
They're so quiet, maybe they should hang out...
All right. Come on in.and eat their bottles on the sidewalk with the traffic.
So we pulled up to the restaurant,
And I could see that dan was alittle nervous.
So the first thing that we could do is set up expectations.
So, leo, beau, I'd like you guys to stay in your seats.[Child screeches]
Okay? We don't want you running around, and we don't want you
Yelling out and making big noises, okay?
For dan, it's more about he--he doesn't want
To disturb other people.
[Child shrieks]
Don't do what that kid just did.[Jo laughs]
Lemonade, too.[Woman] lemonade?
Thank you.beauy, I don't want you to play with the silverware.
You guys want some bread?yes, please.
Unh-unh. Beau?beau, please don't make any loud noises.
Hey, let's not play.
Can you sit--can you sit and just... Be without playing?
By implementing the direct talking approach,
Where you get down, and you look at your kid in the eye
And you tell him what you're expecting of him,
That--that makes all the difference.
I'm not ready.[Crash]
[Wendy] oh, boy.[Jo] somebody will come over.
I just want you to remain calm about it.
'Cause at the end of the day, that's what happens.yeah.
[Fork clatters]beau, your choice is this--
Sit still and be quiet, or you can eat your quesadilla.
[Fork clatters]
After dad had to tell beau to behave himself a few times,
He had to make it very clear
That throwing silverware was not on the menu.
This is your last chance.
This is your last chance to-- to do what we're asking.firm voice, dad.
Now you sit straight in your chair,
And you stop playing with silverware,
And you eat your quesadilla.
I was proud of how dan spoke sternly and directly to beau.
And I know that as long as this family
Are armed with techniques,
Then they're always gonna be able to eat out at a restaurant
With confidence and in peace.
Dan, what came out of today?
Give me all the positives that have come out of the experience
Of being in a restaurant today.um, well, I think that wendy and I are learning
How to handle situations that arise
Every time we go out to eat.yes?
And we're--we're gonna get to a point where they know
That we actually mean business, and we're gonna be consistent
With--with the things that we tell them.
Before jo gave us the tools to work with those things,
It would have just degenerated into "don't do this!
Don't do it. Hey, stop doing that! Pick that up!" You know?
And we would've gotten nowhere. It would have been just,
You know, a constant struggle.
[Jo] this family have done extremely well.
But the one thing that I haven't been able to address yet
Is beau's potty habits.
So I want to be able to leave them with a few tips
For when I'm gone.he feels ashamed now,
Or he lies because he doesn't want to get into trouble.
And that's because we've gone the route of being nice
And then scolding him for doing that, you know?
You speak to beau like the big boy he is,
Because he's very capable
And able to go to the toilet.
No doing poo-poos in your pants. You're a big boy now.
Walk off now.
Okay? So that he realizes that you know that he can do...
[Clunk]
[Dan] you gonna go to the potty?
Are you gonna go to the pot--no!
Just after I explained it, beau got up,
And he marched straight into the bathroom.
It was great and a real surprise.
Oh, my goodness.[Applause]
You're on the potty. What a big boy!yay!
He--he surprised me by getting in there
And--and doing his business.
[Jo clapping] yay![Wendy] wow, beauy!
[Jo] well done!
My little beau listens to everything,
And he wanted to show everybody what a big boy he was,
And I was so proud of him. I really was.
♪♪♪
I'm gonna leave you guys.
Just keep up the work, okay?all right.
Just keep up the work. Give me a big hug.
Thank you. Oh.
Jo changed our lives. We've really been given tools
To really help our family.
Give us a hug, then.thank you very much.
Jo has really helped us a lot already, and I'm looking forward
To reaping the rewards in the future.
Mm. And a hug. I'll give you a hug.
Hey, you live and you learn.
Wendy and dan were both raised very differently.
But it hasn't stopped them from recognizing
What they need to do for their own family.
And that's what's important. They make a great team.
Take care.you, too.
Take care. Bye, boys!say bye-bye.
Bye-bye.
♪♪♪
[Acoustic guitar playing]
♪ I've been workin' on the railroad ♪
♪ All the live-long day ♪
It's been such a rewarding experience for us,
And, um, meeting jo, and I think we've gained so much from this.
And, uh, I wouldn't trade it for the world.
♪ Can't you hear the captain shouting ♪
♪ Dinah, blow your horn? ♪
I'm definitely noticing a-a change in my family.
Um, specifically leo and beau.
♪ Dinah, won't you blow your horn? ♪
The boys have grown immensely in such a short period of time.
It's incredible.[Laughing]
We have grown
Because we had to look within and see how we parent
And how we're affecting our children.
Are you gonna play in the sand, too?[Dan] I really appreciate
The way that she related to wendy,
Because wendy really--really needs that kind of a person.
"If you were my duckling, and I were your mama duck,
"I'd paddle toward the shore at sunset,
And you'd follow right behind."[Baby screaming]
[Wendy] I really do believe that we're gonna continue
With this journey that we're on with the boys.
I think it's working for us.
I mean, why-- why stop a good thing, you know?
One more story, and then it's lights out.
Really, she's set us on a path to success in a lot of ways,
'Cause it's all there if-- if you're ready to learn.
Overall, it's-- it's just a huge positive.
♪♪♪
Lola, I need to change your diaper, baby.
Now come on, let's change you. Let's go talk to your mommy
About getting your diaper bag, okay?
Dan is gonna change lola's poopie right now?
Yep. There he is.he might--he might gag.
I might gag.if you gag, you gag.
[Carnie laughs]
Hehates changing diapers. I mean, it makes him gag.
So it just cracked me up to see that.
Good girl! Wow.wow!
Dan, do you want me to get that poop for you?
It's going right outside. Come on, sweetie pie.
I did fine. Thank you.
Yeah. [Laughs]it's--it's a job. It's a job.