07x12 - The Demott Family

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Tonight on "supernanny"...

Stop it.

Jo finds triple the trouble in the demott family.

[Man] stop hitting each other.

Dad's a tough cop by day...

[Both yell]

No!

But can't discipline by night...

Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, what are we doing here?

And mom can't even keep track of their triplets.

[Man] where's teddy? He's not back there.[Woman] teddy!

Older son timmy is left in solitary seclusion.

Then along came three-- not one, but three.it was hard on him.

Can jo tame this trio of tiny offenders...

Stop talking!no, I won't be stopped talking.

And get this dad back on the straight and narrow...

I cannot help you if what you are gonna do is sabotage this.

Or will jo have to lay down the law?

Give me one reason why I should still stay here,

Because there are thousands of families right now

That would want me helping them.

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Captioned by closed captioning services, inc.

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Well, I'm here in bayville, new jersey,

Ready to help a family who have asked me for backup.

Let's take a look.

[Both] hi, we're the demott family.

I'm teddy.i'm nancy. We have four children.

Timmy is .

-Year-old triplets-- teddy, milo, and giada.

[Speaks indistinctly][teddy] stop hitting each other.

[Grunts]

It's total chaos.

Putting holes in the walls, drawing on the walls...

They will destroy things.

We have three animals.

Look at these triplets. Triple the trouble.

I work as a police officer in berkeley township, new jersey.

I leave the house at : in the morning,

And my wife nancy has the kids all day.

[Screams]

I'm just so overwhelmed.

[Nancy] milo, what are you doing? Come on.

Keeping track of the triplets does get difficult.

What is this? I mean, what about the safety?

As far as discipline goes, we've tried everything.

[Cries]i've been trying to reason, tried time outs.

Nobody sits in time outs for us.

So because they don't listen in time out,

I started to lock 'em in the room.

Go.no! [Cries]

How does that teach an effective time out?

Dinner's in the oven.

I get home at :, and then my wife nancy,

She leaves to go to work at : at night,

And I take over.

Why are we knocking chairs over?

It's a difficult change from going from my job,

Where I'm actually in control,

To coming home having no control.[Teddy] get down from there.

I'm getting a cup.

It's tough to have year olds walk all over you.

You're gonna sit down right here,

And finish your--your dinner.

I'm just to that point where you just don't know what to do.

Boundaries. Consequences.

A warning.

Timmy's the older brother,

And he should be able to have some of his alone time,

And the triplets never give it to him.

I swear to god!

[Child cries]

I would like to have some one-on-one time with timmy,

But it is very difficult with the other three.

It's so exhausting that,

Even when you get time to do something,

Y-you just don't want to do it.

Be nice to see this older boy

Spending some time with his parents.

Must feel a little bit shortchanged, really,

With the younger ones.

[Cries]

This isn't a family life-- what we have right now.

I told you not to play with these doors!

Every day is just so stressful.

No!

You wake up-- same problems.

What do you want to do?get away!

And every day just eats at you more and more and more.

[Child cries]i don't see my husband lasting that much longer.

I mean, he's, like, at the end.

[Both] supernanny, we really need your help.

Sit tight, because, mom and dad, I'm on my way.

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[Rings doorbell]

Hello. Hi.[Nancy] hi.

[Teddy] hello.hi. Pleased to meet you.

I'm nancy. Nice to meet you.hi, nancy. Pleasure.

Hi, how are you? Teddy.very well, thank you. Pleasure to meet you. Hi, teddy.

[Nancy] I had tons of anxiety.

How many things is she gonna point out that I'm doing wrong?

This is timmy.hi, timmy. How you doing?

Good.good?

[Nancy] this is teddy.hi, teddy. Nice to meet you. You wanna shake my hand?

No? You don't want to? Hi.this is giada.

She's a little quiet. Everyone's quiet.and this is milo.

Hi. I'm gonna sit. I'm gonna watch.

I'm gonna take some mental notes. Most importantly,

Just get on with what you would do normally during the day.

Straightaway, mom started to get the kids involved

In some fun craft time...giada, are we gonna sit down and do this or what?

But it seemed like really nobody was having any fun.

Do want to finish your picture, giada?yeah.

Then... Take this off your fingers and stop touching it

And use the glue stick and make your picture.

[Teddy] what are you doing to her?

Well, we don't have the others here for her.

Are you gonna make your picture without it? Yes or no?

Are you gonna make your picture without it? Yes or no?[Whines] no.

No? Then that's it. We're done.

What's going on here?

I mean, this is meant to be a creative outlet for the kids,

And mom's just getting more and more agitated.

[Whines]

Yes? Then make your picture.

What's stressing you out right now?

The listening. My kids don't listen to me.

It's funny that mom claims that she loses patience with the kids

Because they don't listen to her, but in reality,

Shedoesn't listen tothem. All she does is yell.

How does your anxiety come out?

When I get to my--my point...[Child] mommy, I want you to...

I-i lock them in their room, I put a lock on the outside.

And they get to the point where they, um, they scream.

So mom locks them in their room until they scream.

How exactly is that teaching the kids right from wrong?

The things that go on in here...

I feel like I'm going to, like, have a breakdown.

Since craft time was over, mom decided that

She'd take the kids out to let off some steam.

However, when I went out a few minutes later,

Mom was nowhere to be seen.where is the family?

Well, there's one.

Hi. Where's mom?

Oh, you're digging a hole.[Teddy] I'm gonna go look for her.

This is a little bit concerning, to say the least.

There are two kids that are not supervised,

Mom's nowhere to be seen,

And no one knows where teddy's run off to.where is teddy?

[Jo] did mom not say where she was going?

Come on, I mean, this is a joke. I mean, you've got a backyard,

You've got a forest on one side and a road on another,

And these kids are not being supervised?teddy!

Coming up on...

All right, no more throwing stuff.

Dad gets caught in the cross fire...

Stop it.

And jo calls mom and dad out.

You're pushovers, the pair of you.

Without rules, behavior spirals out of control.

When "supernanny" returns.

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I'd barely started my observation

When teddy, one of the triplets, went missing.

[Teddy] where's teddy?

He's not back there.

[Nancy] teddy!

Teddy's here!

[Teddy] there he is.

[Nancy] wow. Now what's the problem?

[Jo] "what's the problem?"

You can't find one of your children,

Your kids don't ask for permission to go outside,

And when youare out with your kids,

You'renotsupervising them.

Come on. I mean, this is absolutely ridiculous.

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Yeah!red light, red light!

[Jo] now that we had all the kids rounded up,

We went back into the house, where it was playtime,

And I had a chance to see the triplets interact

With their older brother timmy.

[Nancy] timmy.

[Yells indistinctly][speaks indistinctly]

[Teddy] remember, you're .

I've caught him a few times, like,

Look in to see if anybody's watching,

Because he--he'll-- he, like,triesto hurt 'em.[Nancy] shake them.

You know, it's difficult for a firstborn

To acceptanynew addition into the family, let alone triplets,

So I was really curious to see dad's take on how he felt timmy

Has actually dealt with this situation over the years.

Obviously, it all changed when the--when the--

When the three came along.

All the attention went from him having everything...

Yeah.

To him having very little.

Didyoufeel that?of course.

What do you think he's losing out, with regards to what you

Can give him as a dad right now at this particular moment?

Well, he's losing out on a lot of quality time,

Lot of little things.

It's memories. M-memories that you have.

You know, that kind of stuff.

But that's emotional for you, 'cause I can feel it here.

You're feeling quite emotional about that. You really feel like

You're not able to have that with him right now.it's true.

We've had a kind of rocky relationship.

A lot of it's my own fault

For not putting in-- in more effort.

[Sighs]

Maybe you'll help us out.

It's gonna be really important for me to get dad's relationship

Back on track with timmy, because if we don't,

The resentment's just gonna get worse.

[Nancy] mommy's got to go, okay?

[Jo] that evening, it was time for mom to go off to work

And leave the kids with dad.

The one thing is, is, like,

They've been playing outside all day and they're dirty.

He doesn't... Do bath.[Milo] mommy?

He doesn't do bath.

[Teddy] no.who does bath?

Ionly give 'em baths. He's never given anybody a bath.i don't do baths.

You don't do baths.no.

He never has.it's too, uh... Too stressful.

[Jo] stress? But it's all right formom

To have to bath these kids beforeshegoes off to work.

What about a little bit of teamwork?

Bye, honey. Love you.

[Nancy] good luck. [Chuckles][teddy] thanks.

All right. Good night, guys. I'll see you later.mom was barely out of the door

When these kids started to kick off,

And it just made me realize that dad is way out of his depth.

Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, what are we doing here?

What are we doing here? Why are we doing this here? Come on.

[Children speaking indistinctly]

Now I'm chasing 'em, trying to grab one.

Pull the one, trying to grab the other one.

It's very frustrating.

Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.

Why is this like this?

What is that?i don't know. It's water.

Did you pee in here?

All right. Get out of here. Get out. Stop.

Stop it! Leave it alone!

No. Get out of here.

All right, no more throwing stuff.

No more throwing stuff at each other. Come on.

I tell you, I felt dizzy watching this dad.

I mean, he doesn't know whether he's coming or going.

Certainly got me work cut out here.timmy, what'd I just say?

[Timmy] he just threw something at me!stop it.

[Jo] eventually, dad just surrendered.

It's time for bed. Let's go.

No! [Cries]

Quite frankly, I've seen enough,

And I really do hope that mom and dad are ready for this,

Because tomorrow I'm putting law and order into this house.

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[Jo] hi.

Hi.

Going into the meeting with jo, I have a lot of anxiety.

I don't really know what she's gonna talk to us about.

You're both, as parents, feeling very helpless.

You've got not double the trouble, but triple, right?

[Nancy chuckles]yes.

I want to talk about safety, because, you know,

You should have locks on both your side and your front door

So that your kids start to learn to ask permission to go out,

And when they are, they're supervised,

So they're not just running out. They've got used to doing that,

Because they've had no follow-through

With any kind of rules that have been put in place.

No.

You're pushovers, the pair of you,

When it comes to your kids' behavior.

There is no discipline. There is no consequence.

They're not being guided by the pair of you

In your expectations of behavior.

Without rules, behavior spirals out of control.

You know that, teddy. You deal with it every day.

That's true.

Why don't you both want to discipline?

Because you don't do it.

It's not that we don't want to. We just--it's--it is...yeah. I do.

It's very difficult,i just don't do it the right way. I mean, I just put them

In their room, 'cause they will not sit in a time out for me.

Because you're not doing the time out properly.

Well, yeah, obviously. I haven't been doing anything properly.

Mm.that's why I just put a lock

On a certain side of their door and...

You're frustrated, tired,

And it's leading you to not have patience with the kids.

Giada, with the crafts yesterday, didn't feel

Encouraged by you because you came to the table thinking,

"It's gonna be disaster."

Not only are you shortchanging them,

But you're shortchanging yourself.

Just come to the table with a little bit more

Than what you're coming with right now.

Because if you can give a little bit more,

They'll give you a lot back.it's true.

Let's talk about yourself and the kids, ted,

Because I certainly see a lack of you really understanding

What they need, and just being able to manage them

And have the afternoon with them.

Yes, I walk around aimless and...

Confused, lost.

Yeah. Why do you think that is?

You know, I have a stressful job,

So, you know, I come home from that,

And I tend to be aloof, preoccupied, thinking about

Something bad happened or whatever, you know.

You're dealing with high-level stress.

It's a difficult transition, you know?

You know, from going from that to... You know, it's...

It's hard.it is, but you have to be able to realize

That you can do what you can do when you're at work,

And when you're home,

You need to be able to focus on your home.

Yeah. That's true.

Let's talk about timmy, because he is the eldest.

Certainly, for a very long time,

He'd been the apple of everybody's eye.

Then along came three-- not one, but three.

It's a lot.it's--it was hard on him.

He loves his brothers and sister,

But what I see is resentment that's fueled by anger.

He is angry.

But he's also a boy that needs his father.

He's a boy who needs a-a very positive role model.

What do you really want with--with timmy?

I want a normal father-son relationship--

Doing things together, going places together.

I'm telling you right now

That you can have that in a heartbeat.

It will take work, but you can have that.

'Cause timmy wants it. He just doesn't know it right now

'Cause he's lived so long with not having it.

Are we ready?

Yes, we're ready.think we are.

Yeah?i'm ready for it.

All right, good.

Coming up on...

Dad, stop it!

Milo's not going down without a fight...

Stop talking!no, I won't be stopped talking.

And jo lays down the law.

I cannot help you. If what you are gonna do

Is sabotage this, then I'm flogging a dead horse.

When "supernanny" returns.

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[Jo] safety's a really big issue in this house.

I mean, these kids are used to just running in and out,

And these parents don't know where these kids are.

Teddy!so before I started teaching inthe house,

I wanted to make sure that these kids couldn't getoutof it.

This side door, obviously, is one that they run out of,

And the front door as well, so what we should do is put a lock,

So at least if we're in the house, we know,

Especially with the size of this house, that once that's shut,

That it's shut, so we know they're in the house somewhere.yeah.

I've been wanting to do that for a while.

Unfortunately, that door is quite expensive,

And I didn't want to put a hole in it.

[Jo] a hole in the door? What about losing one of your kids?

You can't manage your kids.

And the first and foremost priority is safety.

So I can start drilling a hole in the--in the door.

Well, either that, mate, or you can be going down to the police

And try and look for a missing child, one or the other.[Teddy chuckles]

I'll tell you now,

I know which option I'm looking for--prevention.

I didn't want to drill the holes in the doors.

That's not something I want to do.

[Whirring]

[Speaks indistinctly]still hurting, aren't ya?

I'm--i'm happy that it's--they're--

I'm gonna stop 'em from leaving the house.

[Speaks indistinctly] definitely.

No, you're hurting. The door...

The door hurts.you're feeling it-- door hurts?

I just want to do something else.

You want to do something else? I'll tell you what.

Come on, then. I'll tell you to do something else.

If dad thought that putting a lock on the door was hard,

Oh, he's got another thing coming.

See that black car there?mm-hmm.

Now see where I am?yes.

Okay? If your kids get out the door 'cause you ain't

Got the lock on, that's what you're gonna be doing.

Give me ten of those. Run! Come on!

What?give me ten, back and forth, to the car!

Running?yeah! Ten! Move it! That's what you're gonna be doing

If your kids get out because you don't want to put a lock

On that fancy door! One, this is two. Come on, three!i'm an old man!

[Jo] and he looks at me like,

"You gonna cut me some slack here?" And I was like, "no.

Another one, and another one, and another one."

Hope you weren't running this slow in the academy! Come on!jo was proving a point,

And the point came through loud and clear.

So locks on the door-- should we take 'em off?[Panting]

Oh, my god.

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With dad now taking steps forward

To making sure these kids can't get outside,

I need mom and dad to restore some law and order inside.

"Rules"--they need 'em.

Because when you're able to give kids rules,

They know where the boundaries are.

So I had mom and dad come up with some rules

That they thought would be really important for the kids.

No hitting or biting each other.

What other rule is a no-no?

Going outside...yeah.

And--and going into the street.yeah, exactly, for safety.

We've established the rules, and it's really important now

For these parents to be able to convey those rules

To these little ones. They need to understand

Their parents have clear expectations of behavior,

And that if these rules are broke,

Then there'll be consequences.

See this? See all the green plates up there?

These are the new rules of the house.

"No hitting or biting."

But as soon as mom started to read out

Those rules to the kids, they made it very obvious

That they just didn't want to hear it.

Okay, guys, so the next rule here is,

You guys are not allowed to run outside

Without mommy or daddy with you.

Another rule-- you can't write on the walls.

You can ask mommy and daddy for crayons,

And you'll be able to sit at the table...stop it! Stop talking!

Sorry? What did you just say?stop talking!

No, I won't be stopped talking.dad, stop it!

No. No.[Nancy] teddy...

Don't--don't-- don't--this...[Milo] stop it!

This is--this is just him behaving this way,

Because this is the first time that the adults in the house

Have stepped up and said,

"Actually, we've got some expectations,"

And they haven't had that,

So, of course, these guys automatically have started

To react to what you guys are laying down here.

Things are changing in this house, and these kids

Are gonna put up some kind of a fight, which means that

That mom and dad have got to stand up strong together.

This is gonna be their time out bench.

They'll either all be sitting on it,

Or one of 'em will be sitting on it. If all three are in trouble,

You can either discipline all three of 'em at the same time

Or you can take turns.

As long as it gets done and you follow through,

Then the discipline has happened for each child.

I presented mom and dad with the steps of time out,

And to follow through with the sorries

And the hugs and the kisses.these steps all have a purpose,

So you can't jump from to or just go straight in at .

You have to start at the top and work your way down.

We tried a time out in the past,

And they've never been receptive to time outs.

I could be wrong.

It may work after we go through all these other steps.

I'm hoping, but I just have my--my doubts.

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[Jo] who did this?

[Nancy] I don't know.

The next afternoon,

Mom realized that one of the rules had been broken,

But she didn't know which triplet had done it.

Okay, who did the black drawing?

Who did the purple one?

Um...[Milo] I didn't.

Okay. And who put the water on the floor?

Right. So did you do the drawing, though?

Did you do that bit?

Okay. Really?

Obviously, the triplets weren't going to admit to anything,

So I needed to use another tactic.

I want a serious conversation.

Okay, where do we draw?

Do we draw on walls or do we draw on paper?

Which is the right thing to do?

Paper.paper.

Paper's the right thing to do.

Do we lie to jo jo, mommy, and daddy,

Or do we tell the truth? What's the right thing to do?the truth.

Teddy, did you draw on the floor?

Um, no.no.

Did you put the water, though, on the floor in the bathroom?um, yeah.

You did. Milo, did you draw on the floor?um, yep.

You did. Giada...

Did you put water on the floor or draw on the floor?

Which one did you do?

You put the water on the floor. Giada, look at me.

I am really happy that you told jo jo the truth,

And that's really important, to tell the truth.

I never get the truth out of the kids.

My mouth, like, freaking fell on the floor.

I couldn't believe it.

But all three of you know

That you're not allowed to draw on the floor,

That you're not allowed to put water on the floor.

That's breaking the rules. We all know the rules, okay?

So this is what's going to happen.

You all three are going to do time out right now.

Do you understand me? Okay. Follow me.

All three of you in time out. Let's go.

Come on. We know to do the right thing.

You're here in time out

Because you know you're not supposed to draw on the floor.

It's not the right thing to do. Now you'll stay here.

Can we set the timer, please? Tell me what you just learned

From what you've just watched. Why did they decide

In the beginning not to tell me the truth,

And then to tell me the truth?she didn't accuse them.

She asked them their own opinion.correct. Exactly.

What it does is encourages each one of your children

To think about making the right decision.

Theystart to think. Theirbrains start to work.[Child whining]

And that's what we want them to do, as parents.

We want them to think for themselves,

So that later on in life, they know what's right.

Jo really set the lightbulb off in my head.

Icanget through to these kids.

Wecan--we can get through to these kids.

Mommy!

Mommy!after the kids did their four minutes,

I showed mom and dad how to finish a proper time out.

The reason why you were put on this bench

Is because you were breaking the rules.

I need an apology, please, from all of you,

For breaking the rules. What do you say?sorry.

Thank you, teddy.sorry.

Thank you, giada.sorry.

Thank you, milo. Come here. Hugs and kiss. Want to give you

Hugs and kiss. Want to give you hugs and kiss. All right.

I mean, let's face it. The penny's dropped now.

These kids realize when they misbehave there is discipline.

It's up to mom and dad now to follow through.

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[Nancy] you want orange salad dressing.

We say,

"We want orange dressing, please,mommy."

Okay? "Please."

Milo? Did you say that?

No, you didn't.yeah, I did!

[Jo] despite the rules and discipline that's in place,

I noticed at dinnertime that dad was still

Allowing these kids to disrespect him.

I didn't hear it.yeah, you did!

[Jo] I just couldn't understand why this man--a police officer,

No less--was allowing his kids to walk all over him.

Ted, come with me for a moment, please.

Until he starts demanding respect,

He's not gonna get nowhere.

So if you were on the street, and somebody disrespected you,

Somebody come up to you and went,

"You're a punk-ass policeman," what would you do?

I would start patting him down.

You wouldn't tolerate it.no, no.

But in that house you've got little kids

Who are shouting at you, and you think that's okay.

Where's your respect for yourself?

I'm just so used to it, I guess. And I just...

You know, y-you get to a point where you just...

[Groans]

I could see a glaze over dad. It's like he wasn't really

Present with the conversation that was being said.

I didn't understand why that was

Until I caught a whiff of his breath.how many--

How many beers or drinks did you have this afternoon?

Eh, a couple beers and a light lunch.

Yeah. Ted, I can smell it on you, mate. I'm here to help you,

But I've got you drinking while I'm trying to teach you.

That ain't working for me, ted.

I know that dad's under a lot of stress, but this is no excuse

For him to go off and have a couple of beers

While I'm there trying to help this family.

I cannot help you if what you are gonna do is sabotage this,

'Cause you're gonna go and have a drink somewhere and come back

And be intoxicated where I can't even penetrate through to you,

Then I'm-- I'm flogging a dead horse.

Give me one reason why I don't walk out of this house right now

And say, "I'm not gonna help you"?

Because if you can't take yourself seriously,

Then why should i? Why should I take you seriously right now?

You've got a wife in there right now

Who desperately needs help from me.youneed my help.yes.

Your kids need the help.yes.

Give me one reason why I should still stay here,

Because there are thousands of families right now

That would want me in their house helping them.

Coming up on...

Can jo get dad to fall in line...

Whatever right now is making you feel that you need

To escape with what's going on, I can get you help.

Or will his relationship with timmy continue to suffer?

What he won't do

Is come up to you and tell you how he's really feeling inside,

Because he's too scared to do that.

When "supernanny" returns...

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Give me one reason why I should still stay here,

Because there are thousands of families right now

That would want me in their house helping them.

Seriously, this is no good.

Whatever right now is making you feel that you need to escape

With what's going on... Okay? We can get you help for. Okay?

I can get you help.

I know dad's under a lot of stress,

But I simply cannot help him

If he is not gonna be % focused right now.

Ted, I can't work with someone who's having a few pints.

It will not happen again.well, I need a promise, ted, because you know what?

You got my word. It will not happen again. I promise that.

She's right, absolutely, and while she's here

And while she's helping my family,

I'm gonna give her what she wants.

I'm gonna trust you on your word.

Tomorrow's another day for us.absolutely.

And I want you to get a good night's sleep tonight

So that you can learn from me...yes.

And that you can do your best. Let's go in.yes.

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Dad promised me that he was gonna step up,

And I really do believe him,

But I also understand that he's under a lot of stress,

Not just at home, but at work as well,

So when everyone had a good night's sleep,

I decided to talk to dad about him getting

Some professional counseling for his stress.

I've tracked down this number.

It's the state department of personnel.

As far as the job and its demands

And being able to talk about that with professionals,

I think would be really good for you.

When jo gave me the number, I did call 'em up.

Uh, my name is ted demott, from berkeley township.

I believe that it is a-a step in the right direction,

And in my profession, I believe

Everybody should have somebody to talk to.

You got out there, you made the phone call,

We'll wait for the people to call you back.

It's a start. Glad you're doing it.

It's gonna take a lot of stress off of him

And make him a better father, make him a better husband,

And I'm very proud of him.

♪♪♪

Timmy and dad's relationship is strained, and what I need to do

Is bring them both together to make their relationship better.

So I asked them both to sit down and write a list of activities

That they would like to do together.

So let's have a look then at what you've got.

"Going to the movies, playing soccer,

Play baseball, swimming, fishing." Ted, you've got here,

"Go outside and kick the soccer ball around,

Hang out, have pizzas and ice creams."

I believe we should do...

Is get this ball rolling.

What do you think about that, timmy?i don't know.

"I don't know." What do you mean, you don't know?

Well, have a think, and then tell me what youdoknow.

Timmy was a little bit nervous to talk about his situation

With his dad, which means that dad's gonna have to move in

And have this conversation with him first.

He's feeling like he doesn't know how to be able to connect.

What he won't do is come up to you

And tell you how he's really feeling inside

Because he's too scared to do that.

Yes.he doesn't know how you'll react.

Just bring him in, father to son,

And say, "you know? I want to spend time with you.

"I just felt like we've been distant,

And I love you very much."

A lot of it's my own fault for not putting in--in more effort.

This is on me. I-i have to do it, and... I want to do it.

You know things are changing, right?

As far as this stuff goes, with us spending some time together,

We need to really start doing this.

Okay.

I am hoping for my dad and me to do stuff in the future.

Give me a hug.

♪♪♪

Dad's really making some positive moves forward.

He's now getting professional help,

And he's making amends with timmy,

But the reality is,

Dad needs to learn how to handle these triplets.

Mom goes to work four nights a week,

And dad's been palming off for four years

Mom doing bath time.

Well, no more.

Giada.pajamas, towels...

Milo.round up the troops. Upstairs.

[Milo] are we taking a bubble bath or what?

[Teddy] clothes off.all right, come on, pants off. In you get, teddy.

All right. Get in, get in. Jeez, milo, what are you doing?[Speaks indistinctly]

We're gonna wash your hair.

Right, so now you can shampoo up this one.

You look like a rooster.

Use the washcloth.

[Children speak indistinctly]

You've just wiped his nose

And put snot all over his head again.i did?

[Laughs]

What's hurting?

My knees, my back, my head, my arms, my legs, my...

Ankles...

Oh, nah, I'm all right.

Dad was a little bit overwhelmed,

But, I mean, overall, he did really well, and I just hope

That he finds bath time more enjoyable, so that he recognizes

This is a time when he can have fun with the kids.

I feel like itook a bath.

[Jo laughs]

I am going away for several days. Not one of you,

Both of you have got to take turns in giving discipline.

Safety of the house, got to have eyes at the back of your head.

Hopefully, it goes really well, and we follow through

With everything that she's taught us so far.

Dad and timmy time-- that went really well today,

And I'd like to see more of that.it's gonna be difficult

And we're gonna have to just get through it.see you later. Bye-bye.

Have a good night.the demott family have made a lot of progress,

But they're not out of the woods yet.

I know that when I'm gone for several days

That these triplets are gonna test their parents,

So I guess I'll get to see how they did when I get back.

Coming up on...

Where is milo?

Milo goes m.i.a...

Milo?

And mom puts teddy on probation.

This is gonna be your warning.

Now, put this in the box, or you go sit in time out.

When "supernanny" returns.

♪♪♪

I've been away from the demott family now

For several days, and, yes,

I am very keen to see how well they did without me.

[Nancy] I'm scared about watching this dvd with jo.

I hope we don't get yelled at. [Chuckles]hi.

Morning.i'm sure that we've made a lot of mistakes,

But it'll be a learning process.let's take a look at dad and bath time.

Yeah. Can't wait.

Whew. Yeah. This is fun.

Aah!come on. I'm not chasing you guys.

This is just a washdown. Where's that soap at?

[Giada] I got it.

Wash that on your body. Wash that on your body.

[Speaks indistinctly]

Don't splash.

Don't splash. Come on. Who's getting out?

Aw, come on. It's-- it's time to calm down.

[Laughs][laughs]

Tell me about bath time.

Trauma.but you're saying it with a smile on your face.

Yes.what's that mean?

It's chaotic, you know? They want me to chase 'em.

You know, they got no clothes on.

You know what? You did a good job.

It is going to be chaotic, but embrace it.

I mean, that's bath time.right now, it's new for them.

Yeah, it's new.and it's new for you.

Yes, it's, uh, very new.

But manageable or not?oh, yes, uh, I could do it.

Good.

Let's take a look at dad and timmy.

[Laughing]

[Nancy] traveling.

Yay!

[Laughs]

Oh!

No!oh. Easy.

[Laughing]

That's nice to see.

You just hang out. Right?yeah. Yeah.

You've shown a willingness, you know, a commitment

To actually carving that time out to spend with him.

You bond and you build a relationship,

And this was the beginning of that,

So I'm really proud, actually,

That you realize how important this is.

I feel like he is coming around and so am i, of course.

I'm pleased to see it, because you know what? He needs you.

He really needs you.

All right, let's take a look at awareness here.where is milo?

All of a sudden, he's gone.[Child speaks indistinctly]

This is locked.

The door is locked. He couldn't have gone outside.

Milo!

Not in there.

I don't like you doing that.

Don't hide.

Your kid's gone missin'.

It happens so often that we--

It's like-- kinda like second nature.

You've got locks on the door so you know that your kids are

In the house, however, you've still gotta count heads.

You gotta still know where your kids are.right.

Right? Mom and discipline.

[Nancy] uh, teddy, put that in here.

I want to play.

Teddy, the game is over right now.

Please put that in here.

I-i didn't play.

I'm speaking to you. Put that in here.

[Teddy whines]

This is gonna be your warning. Now put this in the box

Or you're gonna sit in time out.

You need to listen to mommy the first time.

Being a good listener is part of our rules.

Do you understand? Now sit here.mm-hmm.

No.

No!

No!

Teddy, mommy put you in there

Because you weren't paying attention during the game.

Do you understand?huh!

So tell mommy you're sorry.sorry.

Give me a hug.

Mm.

The looking away from you and the "huh!"--

That's attitude, so that's what we need to nip in the bud there.

So what do you do at that point?tell him to look at you.

Before we even continue to talk, he has to make eye contact.yeah. Yeah.

And use your firm voice. "I said look at me right now.

I'm talking to you. You're in time out."

Okay.you've done a good job compared to where you were

When I first arrived, but we're not out the woods yet.

I do wanna work on discipline.

So are we ready to do some more work?yes.

Okay. We better get crackin' then.okay.

Coming up on...

Teddy continues to cross the line.

Look at me while I'm speaking to you, please.

Can mom win this battle of wills?

Look at me.no.

When "supernanny" returns.

♪♪♪

Today teddy's gonna follow through

With seeing the professional counselor

So he can leave that stress at work, where it belongs.

I want to get some games for you guys.okay.

I think we should just kind of play in here.

With dad gone, it gave me a wonderful opportunity to have

Playtime with mom and the kids, where they would all enjoy it,

Which is something that mom used to struggle with in the past.

Are you gonna make your picture without it? Yes or no?

So who's ready to have some fun?[Milo, giada, and nancy] me.

Okay. Right. All of us.[Teddy]me!

Yeah, thank you very much, teddy. We heard you. [Laughs]

Hi, timmy. Wanna play?[Timmy] sure.

Four kids, four buckets.this is gonna be your bush, milo--

The blueberry. Teddy, you're gonna have the apple tree.[Speaks indistinctly]

We were playing for maybe not even five minutes,

And teddy didn't want to listen, just being disruptive.

Teddy, put it back.

They're broken.uh, you know what, teddy?

[Whines]what--teddy, look at me, please.

[Whines]if you can't play the game--

Teddy, look at me while I'm speaking to you, please.

If you c--

See that? You see that?

He's laughing.yeah. He thinks that he can behave this way

And get away with it. Nuh-uh. Not happening.

Jo said, "just don't tolerate that.

He goes right into time out," so that's what I did.look at me.

We're playing a game, and you're fooling around.

Now sit down and you're going in time out.

No.

You put teddy down in the chair, he wants to stand back up,

Just wants to be defiant.[Jo] don't even worry about that.

Okay, come back over here and set your alarm.

[Jo] teddy tried to provoke mom...

Just push it back.[Nancy] milo.

But she kept her cool, and he did his four minutes.

Teddy, do you understand why I put you here?

[Jo] firm voice.

Because you weren't paying attention to mommy

While we were playing the game. Do you understand?

Tell mommy you're sorry.sorry.

Give me a hug.

Would you like to play the game now?

Okay, go sit inside in front of your bush.

Now that teddy knew that his mom meant business,

He stopped playing rebel and just started to play.

[Jo] all right, come on then, teddy.

Two.two.

Two apples.

The techniques that jo showed me will definitely help.

Like anything else, after a while, it'll just get easier.

[Teddy] I got one.again. Put the one in there.

You've got one. All right, teddy. Attaboy.

Put the apple in the bucket.oh, yeah.

♪♪♪

Later on, teddy got back from his therapy appointment,

And I was really excited to see how he got on, as was mom.

What happened today when you went?

I just--i just told what was going on here,

And it was a real good experience.so do you feel committed

That it's a place that you're gonna go to every week

And--and--and talk to him and feel comfortable going?

Yes. I'm gonna--i'm gonna do it, go on a regular basis.

This is just the beginning.

Of course there's-- there's a lot to talk about.[Singsongy] it's a start!

Yes, it is. We're heading in the right direction.

Yeah, we are.

I'm very proud of teddy in taking that step forward today

And going and speaking with someone,

Because it's really gonna help him out.

[Chuckles]

[Sniffles]

[Crying] it's gonna be good.oh, don't. You're gonna make me cry.

[Nancy and teddy chuckle]nancy is very proud of that,

As far as going to talk to somebody.

She's been asking me for a while now.

That really made her happy.this was necessary.

You know, everybody needs to reach out every now and then

At some stage in their life. You've got each other as well,

And that's--that's what's important, with everything

That you're learning here together.

This was a really big step for dad.

It's not easy to ask for help at times,

But I think he realized how muchheneeded this

And his family. I'm really proud of him.

Keep it up.we will.

Well, I want lots of cuddles

Because I'm going now. So... [Kisses]

I wanna say good-bye. Where are you? Where are you?

Where... [Laughs] aah![Nancy] oh.

Bye, jo jo.

You behave yourself, all right?

Thank you, jo, for giving me and my dad

A chance to actually bond with each other.i'll never forget you.

I won't forget you either.

Saying good-bye to jo was very difficult.

Hey, big man.

I feel like jo has left us in a very good place.

She has taught us so much.thank you.

Hey. You're welcome.[Sniffles] I know from here on in,

My family's gonna be a lot different.take care.

When I first arrived, I saw a family

That were under a lot of stress and a mom and dad

That just didn't know how to handle triplets.

And now they've learnt the techniques and the tools

To put in place for them to have a brighter future.