07x15 - The Evans Family

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Tonight on "supernanny," jo meets a father

Left shattered by the loss of his wife to breast cancer...

It's not like we broke up. You know? She was taken from me.

And three little boys adjusting to life without their mother.

Do you think about mommy lots and lots?

I lost all my memories about her.

In the struggle to cope with their loss,

Rules have gone out the window...

They hit nonstop, they throw their toys,

They run in the house, they scream...

And the boys' behavior is spiraling out of control.

[Screams]

[Yells]

Can jo help dad master the basics...

You need to tell me that you're sorry for this behavior.no!

And get this family on the road to recovery...

They don't deserve what's happened to them.

Or is the heartbreak too much to heal?

To me, this is the end of the world!

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Captioned by closed captioning services, inc.

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I'm in houston, texas, ready to help

A single father, a widower, who has three boys,

And he does need my help. Let's take a look.

Hi, I'm gary evans. I'm years old. I have boys--

Michael, age , sean, age , and dylan recently turned .

We used to be a family of five, but about a year ago

We lost my wife to a battle with breast cancer.

Losing jennifer was very difficult on all of us.

She was a stay-at-home mom

And she was the anchor of this family.

Wow. That's very sad.

[Gary] sean and dylan were so young,

They didn't really know what was going on.

All of a sudden, their mama just wasn't around anymore.

Dylan probably does not have

Very many memories at all of mom.

What an awful situation for this man.

[Boys yell]come on, boys, that's right on the laundry.

Raising the three boys on my own has been very difficult.

Jennifer ran the house and I was working full-time,

So I didn't see the standard daily routine with the boys.

[Gary] bath now.the stress of being a single parent,

Combined with the stress of work--

I actually had to leave my job,

Because it was just too much for me to handle.

It's got to be seriously tough for this father right now.

[Both yell]fighting has become a major problem in the house.

They just fight nonstop...

[Boy groans]

And the volume can get deafening at times.

[Boys screaming]

[Gary] sean, stop kicking him.

I'm extremely frustrated with discipline.

[Cries]you know, I've tried everything I can think of.

Every method I've tried has failed.

[Screams indistinctly]

My word. We better sort that one out.

It's yuck!

[Gary] the boys are really not very adventurous eaters.

I won't eat this.it's very difficult

For me to introduce healthy foods to them.

[Gary] you gotta try it.no way!

[Gary] given the choice,

They'll choose fast food over a nice balanced meal.what a load of rubbish.

Gotta be teaching dad a trick or two in the kitchen.

[Gary] okay. I'll be out in one minute.dylan's not potty-trained.

Jennifer potty-trained michael and sean.

I was not a part of the potty-training.

So now with dylan, I really don't know what to do.

This is hilarious.

He's like a big baby bringing you his wipes.

[Screams]

I'm so mad!

[Boys yell]

Life in this house can be extremely stressful.

Stop it! Now! Cut it out!

I feel like I've lost complete control.

Supernanny, please, we need your help.

We've been through enough in the last three years,

And we really need things to get better in this familynow.

Gary, hold on there.

Some practical tips coming your way,

And we'll get through this together. See you soon.

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[Knocks on door]

No.hello. Pleasure to meet you. I'm jo.

Hello. Hi. Nice meeting you. I'm gary. Pleasure meeting you.

Hi, gary. Can I come in?come on in, please.

Hi!this is dylan. He's the -year-old.

Watch me! [Yells]hi, dylan. [Laughs]

This is sean.come and say hello. Shake my hand.

Say, "hi. Pleased to meet you." I'm jo jo.i'm sean. Hi.

Michael, you want to say hi?hi.

Hi, michael. Pleasure to meet you. Hi.hi. Pleased to meet you.

After meeting the boys, I started to look

Around the house, and I noticed immediately

That there was something tacked up on the door.

Who made the house rules up there?that was my wife.

"Keep your hands to yourself,"

"Do not throw your toys," "no running in the house."

So how many of these do you think...they follow now?

The kids do? Yeah.

"" Is about half the time. That's it.

They hit nonstop, they throw their toys,

They run in the house, they scream.

We were pretty consistent with the rules at first,

But, you know, as jennifer's sickness went along,

We kind of got more and more lax with them.

These days, those rules are not really being followed at all.stop it!

I think my--[grunts]

[Jo] soon, I got to see exactly what dad was talking about.

Hey, hey, hey. Not on the wall.

[Grunting]ow! Ow! Ow!

[Yells][gary] done with your sandwich?

[Grunts]ow.

Clearly, dad hasn't made an effort to follow through

On discipline with the boys since his wife has passed away,

And this was made very obvious

When the subject of lunchtime arose.

What do you want?i don't know.

All right. Do you want chicken? Fish sticks?

Ham sandwich? Turkey sandwich? Grilled cheese, like dylan?no.

What's the matter, buddy?

I am not happy right now.

What's wrong?

I don't know what I want for lunch.

You want a hot dog? Corn dog? Quesadillas?

Unh! You know what? Aah!

It just turned into

Probably the worst meltdown I've ever seen michael have.

[Groans]

[Gary] michael, what is wrong?i just don't want...

I just really...

[Groaning]

[Jo] is this quite typical if he doesn't get his own way?

He'll kind of go into this...

This is beyond anything I've ever seen with him.ah.

[Groaning]

Michael went upstairs to his bedroom.

I knocked on the door, went in.

Hi, michael. It's jo.

[Groans, sniffles]

I think I got to go somewhere where nobody can see me.

Y--you want to hide?

Yeah.

I'm looking at your pictures.

[Sniffles]

Who's this lady here?

That's our mom. She d*ed.

She d*ed?yeah.

Michael, sean said that mommy d*ed. Is that true?

Yes.

Do you think about mommy lots and lots?

Yeah.

She was very fun when she was alive.

And now, to me,

This is the end of the world!

[Cries]

To hear him open up his heart to talk about how he feels,

You just-- you want to take his pain away.

You want to be able to make things better for him.

The reality is, is that you know that you can't.

I think I'm gonna get out from under the bed.

I think that's a good idea. What was your mommy's name?

Jennifer.

Jennifer. I was thinking that maybe, while I'm here,

You can tell me about your mommy.

Well, I lost all my memories about her.

And how does that make you feel,

Losing your memories about mommy?

Terrible.oh, yeah.

Do you remember what she looks like?

No, not at all.

No.

And if you re-- could remember any of those,

Or if somebody could tell you stories about those things,

Do you think that would make you happier?

Yeah.

Michael is definitely grieving from the loss of his mother,

And heneedsconnection,

But I don't know if dad really realizes that,

So I wanted to talk to gary

Because I don't know where he is onhisjourney right now.

Do I feel I've moved on? In a way, yeah. Um, in a way,

I'll never move on. You know, it's not like we got divorced.

You know, it's not like we broke up.

I mean, you know, she was taken from me.

She's part of my life and she'll always be a part of my life.

You know, and she's their mom. She'll always be their mom.

She was the ultimate mom.were the boys told? I mean, what ha--

They were only told, um, a few days before she passed away.

You know, they were just still so young,

They didn't really understand the permanence of it.

You know, for a long time, sean would ask me, you know,

"When is mama gonna stop having d*ed?"

You know, when I look at them, i-i just, I feel,

Especially knowing how great their mom was with them,

You know, to feel they're not-- they don't have that anymore,

I just... You know, it breaks my heart,

And they don't deserve what's happened to them.

[Sighs deeply]

[Sniffles]

You know, it's a bond that can't be mimicked,

And, you know, they've-- they've lost that.

And it's definitely-- they've been robbed of it.

You know? They definitely don't deserve it.

I want to give you a big hug. Come here.[Sniffles]

I lost my own mother to breast cancer at a very young age,

And I know that gary feels incredibly sorry

For his children because they no longer have their mother around,

But there are things that do need to change

So that this family can move forward,

And I'm gonna help gary to do that.

Coming up on...

I want trick or treat!

With emotions running high, dylan lashes out at dad...

You think that's gonna help you get what you want?yeah.

And dad's at a loss with discipline.

Sometimes I feel overwhelmed by so much to do with them.

It's the difference between having children

Who know the difference between right and wrong.

When "supernanny" returns.

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Gary lost his wife to breast cancer.

He's just trying to pick up the pieces,

But there are, fundamentally,

Basics that need to be taught to his boys.

Yeah? You want a new diaper?

Dylan's a-a big -year-old,

And he knows when he needs to go.

[Laughing] he grabs the diaper and the wipes.

Thank you, buddy.

At three years old,

Dylan ismorethan capable of being potty-trained,

But I don't know if dad's even tried.

Is this something you're... Wanting...

I have tried a few times... He's expressed an interest...right. Yeah.

I mean, he--he lets--typically lets me know when he's ready

For a change, but whenever I put him on the potty,

He just doesn't do anything.are you keen to move him on?

Oh, I'm--i'm--i'm absolutely ready. I'm--i'm sick of diapers.

I think that dad's stalling a little bit.

Had jennifer been around,

She would have taken care of all of this,

But now dad's gonna have to do it.

Michael! How many fish sticks you want?

[Michael] five!okay.

Sean? Two hot dogs?[Sean] yeah.

Dylan wanted... Macaroni and cheese. Okay.

At dinnertime, I saw

That dad does not have a healthy food plan in place.

Dad is just catering to these boys

Out of the freezer with highly processed food.

Fish sticks?fish sticks? They love fish sticks.

And the corn dogs...well, michael loves fish sticks.

Corn dogs, michael and sean love. Little mini cheeseburgers.oh, right, yeah.

These kids have got used to

Eating food that we know is really high in fats and sodium.

And if these kids are being fed on that constantly,

How are they actually having a nutritious balanced meal?

They don't really eat any...the kids eat vegetables?

No. I-i don't really know how to prepare vegetables.

I've always been a meat-and-potatoes kind of guy.okay.

Dad does need to be educated about the foods

That he should be giving his children, and really break

This behavior pattern that this family have got into,

And eating rubbish, quite frankly.

Dad, I want jelly beans.how about--

When it came to dessert, dylan wanted jelly beans,

But then he wanted some candy

That was in a leftover halloween basket.

[Gary] you don't-- you don't want jelly beans?

You already ate your jelly beans.

So he started to freak out.

I want trick or treat!yeah.

I want trick or treat!what did I say?

You chose--i know! I want trick or treat!

You chose jelly beans for dessert and you already at them.

[Screeching] I want trick or treat!i know.

[Screams]

[Screams]

[Screams]

He screams, and the next thing, he starts to slap his dad.

You think that's gonna help you get what you want?

Yeah.really? Has it ever?

I'll give dad credit for staying calm and not caving in to dylan.

Truth of the matter is, if he's getting used to

Screaming and hitting to get his own way,

Then that's bad behavior that's being taught,

And he needs to realize that that's not acceptable.

You all calm now?

Yeah.yeah?

Well, gary, I'm gonna leave you for the evening,

And come back tomorrow, and have a family meeting with you.okay. Okay.

My condolences, very much so.thank you. Thank you.

I think there's a lot I can do for gary and the boys,

So I'm really keen to go home,

So I can come back tomorrow and share my thoughts with him.

Hello. How are you?hello.

I know that she can help me with the issues that I've having,

So I'm just looking forward to hearing her input and hearing

How she can help me get things on track with our family.

A heartfelt situation has us meeting today,

One that I completely relate to,

And my duty, really, is to be able to look at how

You can stand on your two feet more confident as a parent,

And really feel that you're able to have achieved

What you would have done had jennifer been here.

That sounds great to me.

The first thing is discipline,

Because it's very important that you do have that in place,

So that these children are able to be raised

With acceptable behavior

And who become well-adjusted adults in society.

Right.when dylan, yesterday, decided that he was going to

Keep slapping you, what you see is the behavior

Spirals out of control and becomes worse,

Because it's not being put in hand that that's not acceptable.

You know, sometimes I feel overwhelmed

By so much to do with them nonstop, that I'm like,

"All right, well, this is kind of a minor infraction,

"So let me not take the five minutes it would take

To discipline it."Fundamentally, it's incredibly important.

It's the difference between, you know, having children

Who know the difference between right and wrong...right.

And actually making better choices as they grow up.

No, I definitely see it. Yeah. It definitely makes sense.

So let's move on to potty-training.

You've got dylan right now, at the age that he is,

He'smorethan capable. When your child's coming up to you

And they're basically saying, "there's the wipes.

There's the diaper. Can you sort this out, please?"

That's like a bucket of water over your face, like,

"Wake up. Can we just get on with this, please?

Don't really want to be wearing these."

You know, you're-- you're teaching dylan...right.

A life skill. I mean, it's a necessity,

And it's moving him on in his development.okay.

So I think we should just knock on with doing that.sounds great.

About eating healthy-- you and I both know

That for your children to grow up to be healthy and strong,

The food that you're cooking 'em right now?it's not doing it.

That's got to--that's got to go. We gotta get to a place

Where these children are able to have three healthy meals

And they're able to have healthy snacks in between

So that they grow up as young men,

Very healthy on every level.right. And that's exactly what I'm looking for, for them.

Which brings me to

The last subject that I do want to talk about,

And that is the spirit of mom.right.

The spirit of jennifer.right.

Michael, right now,

Is certainly feeling bereavement.

He needs to feel

That she's very much still present in his life

With regards to the essence of who she was as a woman.

Right. No i-i definitely agree completely with that.yeah.

What we could do, not only just for michael, but I think also

For sean and for dylan as well, and for yourself,

Is that everything that she did with the boys

Can continue to run through the veins of this house...

Right.okay? Of this family.

Absolutely. That--that is what I'm looking for.yeah. Brill. Okay.

Thank you.

Coming up on...

Right. You're going into time out.no!

Can dad put his guilt aside

And draw the line on discipline...no!

Or is it too much, too soon?

Stay right here.no!

When "supernanny" returns.

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Since gary's wife passed away a year ago,

I know that he hasn't been consistent

With regards to discipline,

And I believe it's because he's felt sorry for the boys,

Because they've been through so much already.

Sean, come and sit down, please.

What?but when I decided to get the family around

And talk to them, sean didn't want to listen, and I told dad

That he would need to step up and put discipline in place.

So the first thing that's important for you to do

Is to be able to establish a warning with him.

So the warning is coming down to a child's height,

It's giving them eye contact,

And it's having a very low, firm-toned voice.

Buddy, you're gonna come in. You're gonna sit down.

If you don't, you're going to get a time out.no. I already know...

Sean.everything about this.

What?no, you don't.

I could see that dad was getting dragging into a debate,

So I stepped in.look at me, please.

No.all right, we're going to time out.

No! No!

No!

No!

You're in time out because you are refusing...no! No!

Refusing to do as you are told.

No!

It's been a long time since sean's had a time out,

And he wasn't very happy about it.[Grunts]

[Jo] set the timer. Move away, because your brother's

In time out because he didn't listen.[Screaming]

He absolutely screamed his head off.

He was so beside himself that he was in time out.

We should have bought some earplugs, shouldn't we?

Aah!

Despite sean's screaming,

He did stay in time out for four minutes,

And then it was time for an apology.sean, I put you into time out

Because you did not listen to me.

You do need to apologize and tell me that you're sorry.

I'm sorry!

He turned around to the wall

And very begrudgingly said "sorry!"

So that's not an acceptable apology for me,

So we'll leave him in there to cool down a little bit,

And then we'll come back.no!

On some level, sean understood that a major change is

About to happen in his life.you need to tell me that you're sorry for this behavior...

No!properly.

No!

All right, then you'll stay there.

No!

No!

He was infuriated

That he was still being made to stay there

Until he could apologize properly.

[Sean speaks indistinctly]

No!michael, we could speak to sean

After he's out of time out, okay?sean acts a little silly.

Sean, you do need to tell me that you're sorry.

I'm waiting.

You're gonna have to stay there, then.[Screaming]

It was difficult.

He was crying, he's my son, and I love him...

[Sean continues screaming]

But at the same time, I know deep down

That what he did was wrong,

And he knew deep down what he did was wrong.sean, you do need to tell me

That you're sorry for your behavior.

[Crying] I'm sorry.

Okay, thank you very--i'd like to give you a hug and a kiss.

That's a-- that's a meaningful apology.

Thank you very much.

And with that, dad had taken the first step

To restoring discipline in his home.

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The next step was to get this whole family

Eating much more healthier.

And so, much like discipline, I was gonna start at square one.

Here is a chart, and written on this chart are

Some foods that are really healthy for us,

And it's important

That we have one or two of each

Of the foods that are in these color blocks, okay?

I don't like jo jo because she makes me have healthy food,

Not hot dogs or chicken nuggets.

So in the red block,

Which says "protein," dad,

Are things like chicken and fish and ham.

And then fruits are very good for us

Because they give us lots of vitamins, okay?

Can you think of a fruit?a grape.

Grapes, exactly.

It's important for us to have veggies as well.

Can anybody think of a vegetable?broccoli.

Broccoli.a bean.

And a bean. Exactly. Well done, boys. That's wonderful.dad, I think of bean.

They were pointing things out that they already eat,

Like, "hey, I like that, and that's a vegetable"

Or "hey, I like that, and that's a carb."But it's important for us

To have these blocks throughout the day

And sometimes all in one meal.

And now that the boys were really excited

About the food groups, it was time to head to the store.

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These are clementines.

As a snack, you know?

Right. Right.

That's a mango, yeah.

Any berry--blackberry, blueberry...these are raspberries.

We've got zucchini here.these are a different tomato.

Do you know what this is, sean? It's a coconut.

Shake it. See if you can...[Jo] the boys really got into it.

I mean, they were seeing things they had never seen before--

Fresh fruit and veg, fish.

Do we have everything that was on that chart?

[Boys] yeah![Jo] I think you have.

That was good. I don't know what to do with a lot of this, but...

No, but that's the next stage.

Now you gotta learn how to cook it.

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What I'm doing is,

I'm actually putting the carrots in first because...

They take longer.they take longer. Exactly. You've got it.

And back at home, I taught dad a very simple recipe

That he could just knock off any time

That did include all of those food groups.

Okay, dad, you're gonna add that rice dish

And throw it into that pot.[Boy screams]

And in just the same amount of time that it would have

Taken dad to defrost something from the freezer, he cooked up

This really wonderful, healthy meal for the kids.

Daddy, I was here first.sean, can you just sit over here? Wanna sit next to michael?

Whatever it is, it doesn't look good.ew!

You said it smelled good.

[Sean] I don't want to eat it.yuck!

But as soon as the food hit the table...i don't like it!

The boys started to complain.

I don't like it.[Gary] yes, you do, dylan.

[Jo] good boy, sean. You see? Look. Sean's doing.

What do you think? Pretty good, huh?

Well done.yep.

Give me five. That's what I'm talking about.and after some convincing,

Michael and sean started to eat, and they liked it.

But dylan? He dug in his heels.no. I don't like it.

[Dylan screams]

[Imitates plane engine roaring]i don't like it!

Dylan, if you complain about this, trust me,

You'll be going into time out.[Screams]

That's your warning.i don't like it.

Dylan was trying to take a lot of control with the situation,

And at that point,

Gary needed to step up and show dylan who was boss.

Dylan, come on.

Right now.all right, so dylan needs to go into time out.

Okay, be firm with him, okay?no! No! I don't want time out!

He needs to realize that he cannot get away with it.i don't want time out!

Stay right here.

No! [Crying]

I don't want to.

He needs to go back and then just reset the timer again.

No!

[Jo speaks indistinctly]

No!

I don't want to!

[Jo] dylan put up a fight,

But eventually, he stayed there for his three minutes.

[Dylan] daddy!

Dylan, I gave you a time out

Because you weren't listening to me over there.

Okay? You need to listen to me. Do you understand?yeah.

You need to eat your dinner. Do you understand?

Yeah.okay. And, uh, what else do you have to tell me?

I'm sorry, dada.kiss and hug.

[Jo] lovely, gary.and you're gonna go eat?

Yeah.okay.

Afterwards, dad brought dylan back to the table,

Where he encouraged all the boys to eat.

Now you like it?

It's amazing what a time out can do, gary.

Now he likes the dinner. Good boy.

It's all about control, yeah.very good job, dylan. It's delicious, right?

Coming up on...

[Singsongy] big boy pants!

Can jo get dylan to ditch the diapers?

No!

And jo tries to keep mom's spirit alive.

And I know everyone knows this picture.[Sean] it's with all of us.

That's right.

When "supernanny" returns.

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Before gary's wife jennifer had passed away,

She had successfully taught the older two boys

How to be potty-trained.

And now dylan's years old,

And potty time is here.

Look what we've got here.

[Singsongy] big boy pants!

Big boy pants!

[Laughs]

Aah! Big boy pants!

The first thing we really need to do is

To get dylan excited about being potty-trained,

And he was very happy when he realized

That he was gonna be wearing big boy underwear.

Oh, you know what? All these are falling down already.

Let's just go ahead and take 'em off.no!

But when I said to dad, "take the diaper off,

Put his big underwear on," he put up a fight.no!

Dylan really was upset about taking his diaper off

And putting the big boy pants on.

Just say, "look, you know, just cut it out.

Behave yourself."You want to go get some new underwear?

No.yes.

No.that's it. All done.

Once we got dylan into his big boy underwear,

We just needed to frequently ask him if he needed to go

And then wait.

[Gary] do you have to pee?[Dylan speaks indistinctly]

All right, let's go.a little while later,

Dylan told his dad that he needed to go for a pee,

And at that stage, I said to dad to just keep it

Very casual and just get him onto the toilet.

Oh, I can't pee!you want to sit, then?

No! I can't pee.i think you probably could if you try.

But then dylan suddenly changed his mind.

I don't want to sit down.

Let's just try it, buddy.

No!

No!

I didn't want it to turn into a fight

Or for dad to try and force him to go,

But it was really important that dylan understand

This is where he needs to go.you need to tell me where pee goes

Before you can get out of here.

I don't know!well, you need to know.

I don't know!

This is a big change, and kids will resist at times,

But this is where you need to stand your ground.

That's okay. I understand that.

Dylan, you've told me other times.

See, that, to me, is just pure defiance.you want to answer my question?

No!

He ended up being in there for probably a good or minutes

Before he finally relented.we need to go pee-pee and poo-poo. Where do we go?

In the potty.good.

[Speaks indistinctly]okay, you cannot go in your underwear.

If you do it in your underwear, I will not be happy.

Do you understand that?yes.

Dylan did finally acknowledge

That he knew where he needed to go,

So now we've just gotta wait for nature to call

And let him follow through on it.

In the meantime, I do have a project for dad.

I know from talking to the boys and gary in observation,

It's incredibly important

That we keep the spirit of jennifer alive,

And so I've asked dad to collect photos from his computer

To put onto a dvd to show the whole family.

And we could sit, like, on the sofa

And just see these different images...yeah. Yeah. No, absolutely.

And you could just give a one-liner about 'em, you know?i absolutely can.

Gary's a really keen photographer.

He's got some amazing photos on his computer.[Jo laughs] I love it.

Once I see, it brings stories back.

Now I remember that day completely.dad made the dvd,

But before we had a chance to show the whole family,

Dylan had an announcement.

[Gary] come on down, buddy.

[Dylan] I just don't want to pee.dylan, if you can't pee,

You need to sit for a couple of minutes.i just don't want to pee!

Okay, well, then you need to sit for a couple of minutes.

You go, and I'll come back and see you in a minute.

I didn't want dylan to feel pressured, so I asked dad,

"Just give him a little bit of space and back off."

And what do you know? As dad walked away into the kitchen,

He called out...

Did you pee?yeah.

You did? [Gasps]

[Laughs] he'd gone for a pee, which was victory, obviously.

[Jo] we're happy.

Good job, buddy. [Kisses] you made me so happy.

Well done, dylan.

I'm a big boy now!

Flush the toilet.

Oh, you washed it away. Say, "bye, pee-pee."

Bye, pee-pee.

Yeah.

It's the smallest thing,

But it's a very proud moment in any parent's life.yeah.

And on that successful note,

I asked dad to gather the boys around

Where they could all watch the dvd of mom

And just keep that spirit so much alive.

That was me!it's the rabbit, the bunny rabbit.

Yeah, that was me.[Michael hums]

Degrees out. We spent two hours picking blueberries.

And then sean and michael dumped their buckets out

Right in the dirt.

[Jo laughs][sean] yeah!

That is michael.

How many years or months old was i?

Right around a year.

[Jo] their faces light up, and that choked me to watch,

Because michael would have this smile on his face,

And you could see that he was thinking about that memory.

The slide show helps bring back memories.

And I know everyone knows this picture.

It's with all of us.

That's right.yeah.

I want to watch the slide shows with dad again.

You know, it keeps very much--

The essence, the spirit of--of jennifer...

Yeah.with you guys always.

As tragic as it is for this family

That they have lost a loved one to cancer,

They have some beautiful memories,

And that you can't erase.

I'm gonna be leaving for the next several days,

And my concerns with gary

Is making sure that he can follow through.

Okay, we're gonna set you some homework--

Following through with the discipline,

Making sure that we can do

A very nutritious meal, potty-training.

The biggest challenge is probably still gonna be

Discipline and the food. I guess we'll see how it goes.

Thank you very much.all right. You're more than welcome.

I'll see you in a couple of days.

And I'll find out if dad's gonna be able to stick with it

When I get back in a few days.

Coming up on...

[Dylan] no! No!

Can dad handle discipline on his own?

Dylan hurt me first, so I hurt him back.

And dad faces his first potty predicament.

I'm not happy about it.

When "supernanny" returns.

And now...

When do you know your child is ready to be potty-trained?

"A," when your child can tell you they want to go,

"B," as soon as they're sleeping through the night,

Or "c," when you see good cognitive skills

And there's a dry diaper after an afternoon nap?

Find out the answer when we return.

And now...

When do you know your child is ready to be potty-trained?

"A," when your child can tell you they want to go,

"B," as soon as they're sleeping through the night,

Or "c," when you see good cognitive skills

And there's a dry diaper after an afternoon nap?

The answer is "c."

When you start to see good cognitive skills

And your child wakes up with a dry diaper

After an afternoon nap,

There are pretty good indicators

That it's time to start potty-training.

Look out for this from months onwards.

♪♪♪

[Jo] when I first arrived,

The evans family certainly were grieving

From the loss of jennifer.

To me, this is the end of the world. [Cries]

They don't deserve what's happened to them.

This really had put gary in a tough situation

Of not wanting to discipline his boys...i'm so mad!

[Screams]and it's gonna be really important for me

To see exactly how well gary's done with his sons

Whilst I've been away.exciting time.

You get to have a look at yourself here and the family.

The first thing we are gonna take a look at is meals.[Clicks button]

[Sizzles][sean] I don't want it.

But this is the--this is the sausage you love.i don't like those peppers.

Just try it with the sausage, sean.

It's meant to go with pepper-- meant to go with sausage.no!

So you want to wind up going to bed, losing your dsi tomorrow?no.

Are you ready?

Yeah.

Want me to separate it?

[Kisses]

What I like is you actually said to sean,

You know, "do you really want to be going for a situation

Where this will happen, and I'm not threatening."

Well, I just-- I just wanted him to know

That, you know, there are consequences to him not eating.

And you know that you'll just do it...

Right.and the kids sense that, and it brings you to a place

Of being able to then set up those scenarios.

You're like, "we don't want that, do we?"

Right.which is a lovely place to be.

Let's take a look at the time outs.

Stop.

Ow!

Dad. No!

No! [Crying]

Dylan hurt me first,

So I hurt him back.

I warned you before, the next time

You bothered sean, you were getting a time out.

Now you'll do your time out.

No.

No!

No!

[Gary] when you're done here, you're getting a time out.

[Beeps]

What are you sorry for?

For hurting sean.

That's right. Give me a hug and kiss.

[Sean growls]

[Kisses]

I'm done with my raspberries.

You owe me a time out. I hope you know it.i know.

[Beeps]

I'm sorry.sorry for what?

Hitting dylan.that's right. You need to tell him you're sorry, too,

And give me a hug and kiss.so it is good

That you're doing the time out, but both kids are screaming out

That one of em's done something to the other.

First things first-- bring them both together.

Let them both tell you their side of the story.

Okay? You give them the talk...

Mm-hmm.

And then you put them into time out.right.

So potty-training it is.

[Gary grunts]

Oh!

You don't to right now? Is that what you're saying?yeah.

[Gary] dylan.

Where does pee and poop go?

Um, in the potty.

Okay, it's one thing to have an accident, dylan,

But this isn't an accident. You were just sitting on the potty,

And you went upstairs to go do this.

I'm not happy about it.

[Coughs] right here.

Bye-bye, pee-pee.

Perfect.

I have to say that your voice was--was absolutely brilliant.

Your tone--it was very firm,

It wasn't by any means scolding him,

But it was very much showing you're not happy with this,

And when he sat on the potty,

It was really nice because he kind of looked up to you,

You know, like, "hey, I've done it."

All right, let's look at spirit of mom.

[Gary] we're gonna make mama's banana bread.

Yeah! Banana bread.

All right, mike, you just mash away.

[Dylan] mash away!

Love it.

Okay, dylan, put the sugar in here.

Good job.

[Sean] yep.[Boy] whoo!

[Sean] mmm! Mmm! Mmm! Mmm!

[Gary] is it ready to go?[Boys] yeah!

Boys, I think the banana bread's done!

[Boy] mmm!

Delicious. Mm-hmm.

Absolutely fabulous.

What brought you to the point of thinking about banana bread?

She used to make it all the time,

Um, you know, before she passed, so we haven't had it...fabulous.

In a year and a half almo-- a year and three months or so.

You know, it was just something she always did with them,

And she always used to let them mix

And, you know, "throw this in"...yeah.

And so, you know, I made sure I did it that way as well.exactly. Absolutely fabulous.

Well done.thank you.

You've worked really hard, and it goes without saying

That the results are there because of that.

So let's move on to the next level.

Okay, great.fantastic.

Coming up on...

[Michael] "your ship has crashed on an alien planet."

Jo shows dad a new way to bond with his sons...

[Screams]

And the boys pay tribute to mom.

You've got mommy's cheeky smile.

[Giggles]

That was me.

When "supernanny" returns.

♪♪♪

Dad has done a fantastic job whilst I've been away,

So I just want to take him to the next level,

Where we can just fire his imagination with the boys.

So I created a game for them

So they could all have fun together.

You are all space cadets,

And today you have a mission.

Read what the mission is, michael.

"Your ship has crashed on an alien planet.

"You must work together to collect energy rocks

To fix your broken engine."Okay.

"You will find hints along the way

To lead you to the rocks."

Which means you're gonna need to put space outfits on.

It means your commander is gonna need to put an outfit on.

Okay, follow me.

Follow me.

When I saw my costume, I figured, okay,

I knew it was gonna be something pretty embarrassing for me.

This is our first clue.

"Go to the backyard to find the first energy rock."

All right, cadets, let's go.

[Jo] good luck. Good luck.you feel a little silly going through it,

But I think it's good that they see that I support

That type of play.i found it!

Good job, cadet sean.

Place the first energy rock on our engine

For our spacecraft here.

"Here is a clue to find the next energy rock.

"You must work as a team.

Look behind the alien box that is green."

[Gary] all right, there's a green alien box.

I think it's incredibly important

To spark that imagination...[Jo] be careful. Be careful on this planet.

For them to be able to socialize together as siblings,

[Grunts] got it!

Hey, you got it!the third clue!

[Gary] good job.

It was great to do something with the boys

And let them use their imagination.

Just the excitement in all their voices--

It was just great to see.rock! I found... [Speaks indistinctly]

You could see dad was participating

In this imaginative play and actually enjoying it.

When I open it, run away quick.

Go! Oh!

[Michael] we found it.[Sean] we found it!

It was very fun.

"Congratulations. You found all the energy rocks."[Gary] sean, hit the ignition.

Mm.all right, follow me.

And then dad led his boys on a space flight

Through the backyard.[Gary] it was definitely fun

Doing something like that together.

The mission was absolutely a success.to the door.

Mission completed.

♪♪♪

Boys, I have something for you.

These boys have absolutely loved

Recapping memories of themselves with their mother

On a slide show,

But because they're grieving, I do want to give them

Something just a little bit more personal.

I thought I would give you your own photo album.

Thanks.michael, sean.

[Dylan] where's mine?and, dylan, this one's yours.

That was me crying.

[Jo] look how tiny you are there.yeah.

Look, you're on mom's shoulders.

I think it's a great idea

To have their own personal photo album.

If they're feeling a little sad or, you know,

Just want to see pictures of their mother,

I think it's great that they can just go grab the book

And just flip through pictures of them with their mom.you look like mommy.

Yeah.yeah. You've got mommy's cheeky smile.

[Laughs][laughs]

They were perfect.

And that was me.

It's been an absolute pleasure, coming here

And being able to help you. It really has.

I can't thank you enough. I absolutely will.

An absolute pleasure. Thank you so much, gary.

Thank you so much.it's sad seeing jo go. She helped us out with so much.

The future looks great from here on out.bye-bye, love. Keep in touch.

I'm gonna miss you.i'm gonna miss you, too.

I'm gonna miss jo jo because she was a really nice girl.

Bye, darling. Can I have a big hug and a kiss?

Bye-bye, jo jo!bye-bye, jo jo!

Take care. Bye, gary. Bye-bye.so long, jo. Thank you.

I believe the evans family are gonna be totally okay.

You gotta take your hat off to a parent

Who puts that commitment in and that effort,

And gary's done that with his family.

I certainly believe that there is one proud mother

Looking down from above at her husband and certainly her boys.