03x11 - Brogdon Family

[bunniefuu]

[screaming]

NARRATOR: They're every
parent's worst nightmare.

Don't bite!

-

You're gonna be sorry.

[screaming]

NARRATOR: Kids completely
out of control--

WOMAN: Give me the Kn*fe.

I want to k*ll you!

NARRATOR: --and taking
over the household.

[grunt]

Don't do that.

NARRATOR: These families have
reached the end of the rope.

How was I supposed to
know I was going to have

three kids in two years?
[scream]

NARRATOR: They're in
desperate need of help.

Shut up, everyone!

NARRATOR: They only have
one alternative left.

[scream]

NARRATOR: It's time
to contact Nanny 911.

[ringing]

Hello.

This is Nanny 911.

NARRATOR: We've gathered a
team of world class nannies

from all over the globe.

Each week from Nanny
Central, they will watch

a video of a family in crisis--

Stop it.

[grunting]

NARRATOR: --and decide which
nanny is best suited to help.

They will then have one week to
take our families from living

hell to a family bliss.

Give me my life back.

It's mine!

NARRATOR: Can these
families be saved?

I hate Daddy and Mommy!

It's an emotional
roller coaster.

Unless you get
this right, it's

all going to fall to pieces.

If you think you can do a
better job, get on with it.

NARRATOR: Parents of
America, help is on the way.

[ding-dong]

Nanny's here.

The nanny's here!

NARRATOR: Tonight--

[screaming]

NARRATOR: --it's the case
of the terrifying triplets.

[screaming]

Be good for Mommy.

[siren]

NARRATOR: Detective dad
fights felons around the clock

while mom's at home handling
their little misdemeanors.

[screaming]

Calm down.

NARRATOR: But when it comes
time for motherly love--

Mommy and Dave are
gonna have fun, fun, fun.

NARRATOR: --Angela Brogdon's
no monument to justice.

Wee.

Hey, Joe, why don't you rake
some leaves up for Mommy?

NARRATOR: One kid's
getting a raw deal.

And it doesn't take a
detective to figure out who.

Can Nanny cr*ck down
on this favoritism?

Get in your bed.

Dave's carried in his
room like he's the prince.

Get in the bed.

NARRATOR: It's crimes of the
heart tonight on "Nanny 911."

["nanny 911" theme music]

[screaming]

I'm Angela Brogdon,

I'm a registered nurse and
have four-year-old triplets.

What about me?

Love you.
CHILD: I'm in charge.

CHILD: I'm in charge.

My husband's a detective
and he's never here.

Be good, please.

CHILD: Bye, Dad.

David Brogdon, I'm 33 years
old, Gastonia Police detective.

The good Lord blessed
us with triplets.

Just knowing that I'm a police
officer doesn't scare my kids

one bit.

No!

It's a lot easier
dealing with people at work

than it is dealing
with my kids at home.

[screaming]

Don't scream like that.

Mama!

You're gonna eat it.

No.

I'd feel like I'm in the
middle of a three-ring circus.

It's crazy.

That is not nice.

I got to go three
different directions at once.

[yelling]

Total chaos.

Ah!

Dave is the
youngest of the three.

Dave is more timid.

No, don't go there!

He does have a temper.

When he's mad, he's mad.

He will stay mad.

He will hit himself,
scratch himself and just

scream until I give in to him.

Mommy!

Joe's the problem child.

Joe is the whiner of the three.

ANGELA: You don't want
the mashed potatoes?

Joe likes things his way,
otherwise, he just totally

melts down.

[screaming]

Joe's really bad about taking
whatever he's got in his hand

and just whacking the other
two in the head with it.

ANGELA: Did you just
hit him in the head?

No.

If somebody makes him mad,
he'll go right after them

and bite them.

You bit him.

Joe still poops in his
pants almost every day.

Don't go in your pants.

Joe.

Oh.

ANGELA: Beth is the
queen bee in this house.

Stop it!

She's very bossy.

No!

She's the bully of the three.

Ah!

DAVID: She's abusive too.

She's my little snitch.

She'll come back
and tell me when

the brothers are doing something
they shouldn't be doing.

He hit me on the head.

She likes to think that
she's always in charge.

Here, sit down next to me.

You can eat with me.

No!

He's leaving.

- It's all about her.
- No!

No!

She used to set off the
house alarm because she

would scream so loud.

[screaming]

[shatter noise]

The kids constantly
hit each other.

They're constantly fighting.
[scream]

ANGELA: Stop.

Constantly, somebody is
unhappy about something.

But I don't want this.

[crying]

We'll turn the TV
back on in a little bit.

My children have a
very hard time sharing.

They're very possessive, feel
like everything is theirs.

No!

Can I play?

No!

ANGELA: You can share your ball.

ANGELA: Why?

Let's play dinosaurs.

No.

They are in three
different directions,

two upstairs, one downstairs,
one sneaking into the pantry

getting cookies.

You know, I don't
know what to do.

- It's like me?
- Yeah.

What is that supposed to mean?

A lot of times, Angela
and I don't see eye to eye.

ANGELA: I'm gonna let you do it.

I don't want to deal with it.

You want to let
me be the bad guy.

What?

ANGELA: Their behavior does
affect our relationship.

We rarely have time together.

[crying]

We both get very
frustrated with each other.

Why are you crying?

Hm?

We have a lot
of disagreements.

We just butt heads.

It's not funny.

ANGELA: We have
gotten into fights

in front of the children.

That's just not how we want
to behave towards each other

in front of our children.

What?

This is not what I
thought motherhood would be.

[screaming]

It's a whole different life
than what I envisioned it.

[screaming]

I mean, I just don't see
that it could get any worse.

I'm pretty much
desperate right now.

[screaming]

It's just World w*r III.

[screaming]

I need help.

Ah!

[screaming]

[music playing]

Well, ladies,
what do you think?

All that whining,
make it stop.

Please, make it stop.

We need to put a stop to
that dreadful noise right away.

Dad's a big tough cop, but
his kids have him handcuffed.

The balance of power is
way off in this house.

I think a dose of
Nanny Deb's even temper

is just what this family needs.

[ding]

Now, go and do us proud.

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER):
As I see it,

the Brogdon family desperately
needs some direction.

[crying]

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER):
Exhausted mom Angela can

barely control her triplets--

Stop, stop.

[yelling]

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER):
--while detective dad

Dave is too busy
solving crimes to solve

the problems in his own family.

Take care.

[screaming]

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER):
I hope I can

help this family get on track
before they lose their way.

[ding-dong]

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER): I'm Nanny
Deb from Holyhead, North Wales

and I've been a nanny
for over 24 years.

[screaming]

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER):
Nanny Lilian

has sent me to
Gastonia, North Carolina

to help a family in need.

ANGELA: You can share your ball.

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER):
This stay-at-home mom

spends her days refereeing
between four-year-old triplets

that can't share.

I'm here to restore order
in the Brogdon household.

[ding-dong]

- Hello.
- Hello.

Hi, I'm Nanny Deb.

I'm Angela Brogdon.

It's so nice to meet you.
- Nice to meet you too.

ANGELA: Come in and
meet the family.

Thank you.

ANGELA: I feel a
little intimidated

because I know that she's going
to point out all my faults.

Hello.

Hello.

It is a little scary because
we don't know what to expect.

NANNY DEB: You don't
have to say "hello."

Even nannies feel a
little shy sometimes.

Come here, sit up.

NANNY DEB: I'm just going
to say one thing quickly.

You're going to see me
today with this book.

And I'm going to be walking
around making notes.

But I need you to do
something really special,

use your imaginations and
pretend that I'm invisible.

DAVID: I think the nanny will
butt heads with Joe and Beth.

I think she's going to have
her hands full with those two.

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER):
As I begin my observe,

dad heads off to fight
crime, leaving mom to fight

with three unruly children.

Joe come--

[scream]

Joe, sit in her chair.

No!

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER): Mom
tries to sit the kids down

for breakfast, but
they would much rather

work on their art projects.

Listen, why don't
you sit in your chair

and let Joe sit in his chair and
then everybody will be happy.

[screaming]

Then you get up
and sit your chair.

And before I can
put pen to paper,

Mom and Beth are locked
in a battle of wills.

Look at me.

[screaming]

If you can stop being mad,
you can have your scissors back.

[screaming]

You can tell Mommy you're
sorry for acting ugly,

you can have your scissors back.

ANGELA: Elizabeth, you're
not going to behave this way.

Mommy, no!
Mommy, no!

[screaming]

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER): Beth's
tantrum is out of control.

Please!

NANNY DEB: I'm curious to
see how Mom handles time out.

[screams]

Calm down.

Nuh-uh.

Elizabeth--

[screaming]

Beth was very, very angry.

And watch out when
Beth is angry.

[scream]

Elizabeth Gail, you
don't throw the chair.

[screaming]

Beth.

ANGELA: I can't control every
little thing they do like I

could when they were babies.
[screaming]

And this is all just because
she's not getting her own way?

Exactly, exactly.

And Dad's not here.

So you have to do
this all day long

basically when he's not home.

[screaming]

Mommy!

Mommy!

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER):
Later, Mom takes the boys

outside for some playtime.

Dave, let's go swing.

Swing, swing.

We get to have fun.

Mommy and Dave are going
to have fun, fun, fun.

Wee!

You want to go in the red one?

OK.

NANNY DEB: Mom was treating Dave
differently than the other two.

Joe, Dave wants to swing.

You have to be consistent
with your children.

You can't treat one
differently than the other.

Hey, Joe, why don't you
rake some leaves up for Mommy?

Joe's the oldest.

ANGELA: You going high, Dave?

ANGELA (VOICEOVER):
Dave's the baby.

It was absolutely
heartbreaking to see

Joe being treated differently.

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER): After
playtime, the kids had worked

up an appetite for some snacks.

Why don't you go get in
your chair and you guys

can share a pack of cookies?

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER): But no
sooner were the cookies handed

out than they began to crumble.

Well, I won't have enough.

Mine!

Mine!

I have two.

He's not sharing.

Look, you need to share your
goldfish with your sister.

You don't need to eat all those.

Here.

I constantly give in to
them because it is easier.

Look, you're never--

The sharing issue in this
house is quite shocking to me.

[screaming]

CHILD: I want my own.

I want my own.

I've been an only 24 years
and I've never seen a sharing

problem quite this intense.

And Dave is by far the worst.

I only have two.

[cries]

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER):
As the day progresses,

so do the problems.

Dave begins to pick on Joe.

Look, there we are.

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER): And
when Joe can't take it anymore,

things quickly get out of
hand as he fights back.

[screaming]

[crying]

Here, put your pants on.

Let me go deal with Joe.

Come on.

Joe.

Did he hit you, yes or no?

Yes.

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER):
And even though Joe

and Dave are both hitting, Joe
is the only one in trouble.

Come on, you're going to
have to sit in time out.

Mommy will set the timer.

When you hear the timer go off--

[screaming]

--you can get out of time out.

You're in time out.

[screaming]

ANGELA: Four minutes.

You can get out when
the timer goes off.

NANNY DEB: I don't
think at all that Angela

is favoring Dave intentionally.

But he's starting to be
really, really aware of it.

And it's going to
affect his self-esteem.

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER): It's
been a long day for Angela,

and when Dad returns home, I
hope to see her get some help.

I just want to
shake him and say,

this is really hard for me.

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER):
But unfortunately,

Dad doesn't offer any relief.

[crying]

Here.

The nighttime chaos
usually begins at bath time.

ANGELA: Stop it.

Now.

Stop.

Do not hit your brother.

It is absolutely the
worst part of my day.

Sick of it.

[chuckling]

We'd be at home every night.

DAVID: I'm glad I'm not
because it'd drive me nuts.

ANGELA: I know it would.

I wish I could
go back to work.

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER):
And despite Mom

practically begging for help--

Goodnight.

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER): --she's
left to face bedtime alone.

Good night.

BETH: But Mommy, wait!

What?

What!

Beth, it is bedtime.

[babbling]

[crying]

ANGELA: I thought
once I had kids,

I'd want to be home with
them 24/7 , but I don't, not

the way things are around here.

[crying]

Are you gonna stay in the bed?

[crying]

No!

Bedtime is a two-hour-long
process of the kids

pulling on Mom's strings.

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER):
I've seen quite enough.

It's time to have a serious
chat with Mom and Dad.

It's a little scary
because, you know,

somebody's coming into
our home and telling

us what we're doing wrong.

OK, so at the end of the
day and it's been a long day.

There are several things that
I've seen today that were

really out of control.

ANGELA: If the nanny has
thoughts on things that she

thinks may work for my family,
if I don't think that it will,

I will let her know that.

NANNY DEB: Mom, you
have a real problem

with disciplining the kids.

You're allowing them to
constantly walk all over you.

You're not commanding
respect from them.

[screaming]

Beth.

You need to share your
goldfish with your sister.

CHILD: I want my own.

I want my own.

NANNY DEB: It's not a
healthy environment.

Right.

ANGELA: I think it's gone
so far that the kids,

they know they can get away
with anything when Mom's here.

And they push me to
the absolute limit.

Also, I'm seeing a bit of
favoritism with the children.

Everyone needs to
be treated equally.

Joe, Dave wants to swing.

Hey, Joe, why don't you
rake some leaves up for Mommy?

Honestly, I've made sure
that I don't play favorites.

And Dad, I know you
have to work a lot,

but Mom is overwhelmed and
needs more of your help

at home with the children.

Stop it now.

Stop.

[crying]

What?

What!

[screaming]

DAVID: With my job, it's
really nothing I can do.

I can't just leave work
in the middle of something

and come home.

Another thing I see
is you're creating

three very selfish people.

Mine!

Mine!

Mine!

The fact that they won't
share and they're triplets

is just unbelievable to me.

I mean, I've worked with
many, many multiples

and I've never seen the extreme
case that these children

have of "mine."

My fear is that you're going
to raise these children up

to be people that
you're not going

to want to hang out
with because they're

going to be so self-centered.

ANGELA: For someone to tell me
that my children are selfish,

that is a hard thing to hear.

It was just like
a blow to my ego.

And it makes me
feel like a failure.

I've been at this
point for a long time.

I mean, I've called
him all the time

upset because I can't
get them to do what I

need them to do so I can rest.

I mean, I'm just--

I'm exhausted.

And I can see that.

I can see that.

And that's why I'm here.

Well, I'll see you
in the morning.

And I'll have my plan of action.

It broke my heart
and it made me cry.

Because, you know, it does, it
makes me feel like a failure.

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER):
After a day of observation,

the problems with the
Brogdon family are clear.

Hey, say good
morning to Nanny Deb.

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER): Dad
spends too much time solving

crimes to solve his
problems at home,

and Mom has absolutely no
control over her children.

So today, I'm giving the Brogdon
family their own set of rules.

This is my big nanny book.

Today, I'm very nervous.

She'll have to kind of
set the rules for how

we're going to deal with them.

In this book, I have
some rules for your family

that's going to
make it work better.

I think Nanny Deb
is probably thinking,

this lady has got
three kids that

are totally out of control.

I know I'm not going to
agree with everything she says.

And to be honest with you,
I don't know that I'll

do everything that she says.

NANNY DEB: So rule
one says "no whining."

Who makes that sound [whining]?

Who talks like that sometimes?

Oh, look at Dave over there.

Dave's like, oh,
no, no more whining.

I have two.

I think the children are
going to have a hard time

with the no whining because that
has been how they have learned

to get everything they want.

NANNY DEB: The second one
is "no aggressive behavior."

No hitting.

ANGELA: Elizabeth.

NANNY DEB: No biting.

Ow.

NANNY DEB: No kicking.

Ah.

NANNY DEB: No punching.

NANNY DEB: No pushing anyone--

And don't throw
a rock in your eye.

NANNY DEB: That
would be terrible.

We wouldn't want to throw
rocks in somebody's eye.

That's called
aggressive behavior

and we don't like
that kind of behavior.

And the third rule is no toys
in the bedroom at bedtime.

Putting them in
their room is the worst

thing you could do to them with
all their toys out of there.

NANNY DEB: And the last rule
I want everyone to work on

is sharing.
- No!

No!
- You have to share.

Mine!

ANGELA: They have a
very hard time sharing.

They're very possessive, feel
like everything is theirs.

So does everybody
understand the rules?

Yes.
NANNY DEB: We do?

OK.
So--

DAVID: It'll be tough at
first to make that transition.

You know, they're going to do
what they want to do anyways.

So we have lots of
things to work on today.

Is everybody ready to work?

OK.

ANGELA: The nanny does have
her work cut out for her.

These kids are a nightmare.

[ringing]

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER):
But before the family

could give the new rules a
go, Dad was called into work.

Be good for Mommy.

CHILD: OK.

ANGELA: Staying at home
taking care of my kids

is 100 times harder
than going to work.

You can't even compare the two.

Bye boys.

Be good, please.

CHILD: Bye Daddy.

I find myself stressed out
more at home than I do at work.

[radio chatter]

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER): With
Dad off at work, it's up to mom

to stick to the
rules at playtime.

Immediately, I could
see that Dave was having

a problem with the sharing.

So to help him, I gave them
a five-minute time limit.

All right, Dave, you go.

You've got five minutes.

I know it's hard to share.

But that's what we're going
to do when the timer goes

off because that's the rule.

And how do you say no
to that cute little face?

NANNY DEB: I understand.

But that's the way
it works from now on.

You're probably down
to four minutes by now.

NANNY DEB: Yeah.

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER):
I was hoping

that mom would see how important
it is that your children learn

to share.

Still driving.

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER): But when
mom wouldn't enforce the rules,

I had to jump in
and take control.

Oh, that's it.

Do you want to--

excuse me, sir.

Excuse me, sir.

What do you want to play next?

What do you want to play next?

It's time to come out.

Oh, I know you can do it, Dave.

[whining]

No!

It makes me feel
like a failure

when I have Nanny
Deb standing over me

watching when I don't know
how to handle this situation.

NANNY DEB: Dave's having
a hard time with sharing.

Dave, you have a choice.

Either you come out now and
take the things with you

that you want to
take or Nanny will

have to take you
out of the truck

because your turn is over.

ANGELA: Dave.

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER):
Dave did not want to share

and he stormed off
into the house.

Come here, buddy.

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER):
Instead of disciplining him,

Angela just gave up.

This family may be a lot
harder to help than I thought.

Later that night, with Dad
still not home to help,

I hoped mom would
toughen up for bedtime.

I sat her and the
triplets down to go

over the new bedtime rules.

I'm going to talk to you
guys about your new bedtime

and then Mommy's going to
listen too so everybody knows.

I am pulled in three
different directions at bedtime.

I dread it.

It's the hardest thing that
I've ever been faced with.

Number one, get into bed and
you can have books in your bed,

but no toys anymore in the bed.

Toys are for daytime.

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER):
Mom sets up their room

like a veritable toy store.

Bedtime isn't
about going to bed.

Bedtime is just getting
your room and play,

but please be quiet and
shut the door so I don't

have to deal with you anymore.

[ringing]

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER):
But before we

could put the bedtime rule
to the test, the phone rang.

ANGELA: When I was
putting the kids to bed,

David called and he's like,
there's been an armed robbery.

There was sh*ts fired.

And I've got to go
interview these victims.

Well, it totally infuriates me.

[crying]

ANGELA: It's like, you know,
you were supposed to be home.

I can't even describe
how it makes me feel.

It just bothers me to
no end because you're

supposed to be coming
home so I can get a break.

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER):
So without Dad's

help, Mom and I removed the
kids toys from their bedrooms.

OK, so Dave, we're going
to clean up your toys now

and we're to put
them in the bins

and then we're going to take
the bins out of your room.

NANNY DEB: OK, listen.

NANNY DEB: OK, listen.

We're going to talk to you.

It'll be hard
for David, the fact

that the kids don't have
the toys in their room.

NANNY DEB: Beep beep,
see you in the morning.

Say, see you in
the morning, city.

You know, Dave was,
I think, in shock.

It's like, where are my things?

NANNY DEB: No toys in the
room, just a hug and a kiss

and moves on to the next child.

Night-night, baby.

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER): Joe
and Beth were both in bed,

but it wasn't long before Dave
was up and whining to mom.

[crying]

[screaming]

Mommy!

Mommy!

Mommy!

[screaming]

NANNY DEB: Dave is a
master manipulator.

He knows what strings to
pull to get what he wants.

It's a very hard thing for any
mother to hear their children

crying like that.

[crying]

[banging]

[screaming]

ANGELA: If Nanny Deb
had not been there,

I know I would have caved.

I just wanted my husband here
to help me get them to bed.

[screaming]

Mommy!

Mommy!

Mommy.

If Nanny Deb had
not been there,

I know I would have caved.

I just wanted my husband here
to help me get them to bed.

[screaming]

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER):
The next day, I

decided that after Mom's
difficulty with bedtime,

I needed to have a
serious talk with Dad

about helping out Mom more.

Unfortunately,
you've been gone

for a large part of this
process so far with work--

Right.

--and that's really
having a negative impact

with the children and Angela.

But tonight, what I want to
do is have you do bedtime.

Oh, wow.

NANNY DEB: Dad was very shocked
when I told him that tonight

was his night to put
the children to bed

by himself without Mom.

Angela's at the
end of her rope.

Let's give her an evening off.

A night off.

DAVID: If I was here with
them 24/7 like she is,

I know it would
drive me batty too.

Stop it.
Now.

[screaming]

What?

[crying]

You're new to this with them.

They may see you
as an easy target.

And that's why I'm
going to be right there.

I mean, I can do it, but it's
just going to be tough for me

too.

And that's your job.

Yeah.

All right.

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER): I hope
Dad realizes how important

it is that he helps out.

Because if he doesn't
get it, things

are never going to change.

No sooner had I finished
talking with Dad

than Beth started
having a tantrum.

ANGELA: Put them on.

What's wrong with red pants?

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER): It was
time to see if our little chat

had had any effect.

It's only pair of
pants I have downstairs.

You need to put these on or go
upstairs and get another pair

yourself.

ANGELA: I'm not.
BETH: Yeah.

Come on.

You can go sit in time out.

Sit.

[crying]

Four minutes, Beth.

No, sit, sit.

[crying]

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER):
I was curious to see

if Dad would help or just
sit on the sidelines.

If you keep getting
up, the longer you're

going to have to sit here.

[crying]

Don't move.

I get like so anxious inside.

[crying]

Beth Brogdon, you better
get in your seat right now.

Your time's not up.

Now, where's your pants?

They're in the laundry room.

Come here.

Put your pants on.

You got to put them on.

[crying]

Put them on.

All right, go ahead.

[crying]

When Dad is home with
the kids, they listen.

And it bothers me.

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER): There's
a big difference between how

the children respond to when
Mom asks them to do something

and when Dad asks
them to do something.

Next, it was time for bed.

I was anxious to see if
Dad would stick around

and help with that as well.

- You will?
- Yeah.

ANGELA: I couldn't believe it.

I was like in shock.

Time for myself is--

I never have that.

Hey.

[crying]

Don't move.

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER):
While Mom put the toys away,

Dad got to work putting
the kids to bed.

I love you.

I'll see you in the morning, OK?

Amen.

Amen.

Mwah.

Sleep tight.

See you in the morning, OK?

You did very good, big boy.

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER):
And, of course,

he has no trouble at all.

NANNY DEB: Dad is much more
consistent in how he parents

these children than mom is.

Even though he's not home a
lot, they know when he says it,

he means it.

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER):
But to my disappointment,

as soon as Dad is off to work,
Dave is out of his room again.

ANGELA: Yes.

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER):
Dave came downstairs

and asked for his toys back
and mom actually gave in.

I couldn't believe it.

NANNY DEB: Joe is
very aware that mom

was being very inconsistent.

Where's my trailer?

It's in there.

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER):
Meanwhile, back upstairs, Joe

was obeying the
new bedtime rules

and heard mom giving
Dave all his toys back.

And he's in his room being good
and doesn't get anything back.

ANGELA: Good night.

NANNY DEB: I kept
saying to myself,

how does that little boy feel
when he sees that his brother

is allowed his toys back and
his brother is getting hugs

and kisses and he's
just sitting there

with his little binoculars
knowing that he's not getting

his stuff back 'til tomorrow.

Get in the bed.

[crying]

[screaming]

My stuff!

My stuff.

ANGELA: I gave you about
a million warnings.

Please!

ANGELA: Go get in your bed now.

You're not getting
your stuff back.

[screams]

ANGELA: Joe, you cannot stay
in your bed like I asked.

You're not getting
your stuff back.

NANNY DEB: Mom was
treating them differently,

and it was affecting Joe.

Joe's self-esteem
was getting crushed.

No.

JOE: [screams]

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER):
I absolutely

have to talk to mom about
her relationship with Joe

and the impact this is
having on both of them.

Get in the bed.

[crying]

[crying]

My stuff!

My stuff.

I gave you about
a million warnings.

Please!

Go get in your bed now.

You're not getting
your stuff back.

[crying]

ANGELA: Joe, you cannot stay
in your bed like I asked.

You're not getting
your stuff back.

Mom was treating
them differently

and it was affecting Joe.

Joe's self-esteem
was getting crushed.

No.

NANNY DEB: I kept
saying to myself,

how does that little boy feel
when he sees that his brother

is allowed his
toys back and he's

just sitting there
knowing that he's

not getting his stuff back?

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER):
Today, I need to talk to Joe

and see how he's feeling
about all this favoritism.

I wanted to talk to
you about something.

Remember yesterday when Mommy
took the toys from your room?

Yeah, and she supposed
to give them back.

Yeah.

But she didn't give them back.

And you were
peeking out the door

and you saw mommy
take Dave's toys away.

Yeah.

And then what happened?

Did Mommy give Dave's toys back?

If one kid gets the toys back
and the other kid doesn't, do

you get angry?

Yeah.

NANNY DEB: It was absolutely
heartbreaking to see

Joe sitting there.

It's got to impact
his self-esteem

and make him feel
not good enough.

You and Dave are
both the same, right?

Because it makes you feel
happy when you and Dave

are treated the same, right?

Yeah, right.

Because it's not
fair if one kid--

it's not fair if one
kid gets the toys

back and the other one doesn't.

No?

It was a nice
little chat with Joe.

He's a great kid.

Can I give you a hug?

Oh, I love you, mwah.

Hey, good job.

Thanks for our talk.

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER):
Later in the day,

I wanted to talk with mom.

But before I could, I noticed
mom and Dave were playing.

[giggling]

Come here.

Is this a ticklish turtle?

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER):
And it seemed as if Joe

was being left out again.

So he tried to join in and get
some of his mother's attention.

Did you just bite him?

You did.

JOE: No.

I think that you were just
playing when you bit him,

but the rules are no biting, OK?

You're not supposed
to bite at all.

You need to go sit in
time out for biting.

He knew immediately he
had done something wrong.

He takes off running
through the house.

We're not going to bite
in this house, Joe,

even if you are playing.

[screaming]

Joe.

Sit in the chair.

NANNY DEB: It was so hard for me
not to intervene at that moment

because my heart was
bleeding for Joe.

He's gonna hit me.

He is not going to hit you.

And you're going to sit in the
chair for biting your brother.

No biting.

[crying]

You're going to sit in the
chair for biting your brother.

Mommy's going to sit with you.

[screaming].

No!
- Leave him alone.

Sit.

ANGELA: Joe tends, if things
don't go exactly his way,

he just melts down and
just whines and whines.

And it grates on my last nerve.

NANNY DEB: Dave is treated
like the little prince

and that leaves Joe kind of
out in the cold in a way.

ANGELA: He is a special turtle
and I love him very much.

Your time is not up, Joe.

When you hear the buzzer go off,
you can come out of time out.

[beeping]

OK.

Come here, sit down.

Joe, you need to come tell
your brother you're sorry.

Come here and let Joe apologize.

What did you say?

No more biting, OK?

NANNY DEB: I absolutely
have to talk to Mom.

That little boy is
going to grow up

feeling like he's not good
enough and that's not true.

There's one thing I want
to talk to you about.

And I feel like I
wouldn't be doing

my job if I didn't bring it up.

There's been a lot
of babying with Dave

and it's really impacting
Joe in a negative way.

OK.

You do treat them
very differently

and I don't think
you're aware of it.

No.

The other night, you took
toys away from both of them

and you gave Dave his back.

Mm-hm.

NANNY DEB: And Joe
was at the door.

And he saw all of it.

ANGELA: I love you.

[crying]

NANNY DEB: And then later, you
took more toys away from Joe.

[crying]

It was clearly favoritism.

And that's going to
really affect Joe.

I had no idea that
I was doing that.

And it just, it broke my heart.

I can only imagine how
that made him feel.

And it just, it
really bothered me.

And I wouldn't be
doing my job, Angela,

unless I made you aware.

It's just been something
that's evolved buried too deep

for you to notice.

So now you're aware of it, I
know you're going to change it.

OK?

- OK.
- All right?

Thank you.

You are really good.

You are a good mom.

Thank you.

ANGELA: I never wanted
to hurt my kids.

And I never meant to do
anything to hurt Joe.

I'm going to make sure
that I treat them equally.

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER):
After we finished our talk,

I left mom on the
porch to contemplate

what we had discussed.

What's going on, baby?

Hm?

What's wrong?

[softly sobbing]

[sniffling]

And I've been favoring Dave over
Joe and I didn't realize it.

And I never meant to
treat him like that.

It breaks my heart.

It's hard with three of them.

Just look at him.

He's so sweet.

Maybe I could take him somewhere
for a little bit tomorrow.

ANGELA: If I spend
special time with Joe,

maybe he'll see how
much I love him.

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER):
And the next day,

I was happy to see mom
spending some time with Joe.

Yeah, we made it.

Oh, you got us some sticks.

Shall we break them
up and throw them in?

Yeah.

Now, that's an
awful big stick.

ANGELA: We had the best
time running around

and playing with just
me where he didn't

have to share me with anybody.

You think that's enough?

No.

It was good for him, but
it was also good for me.

Guess what?

What?

We can do things like this
all the time, just me and Joe.

Does that sound like fun?

Yeah.

Yeah.

Joe was really excited to
have one-on-one time with Mom.

And so it was really
nice and very important.

Can you hold my hand?

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER):
In the coming days,

I began to see many
small improvements.

Made a new friend,
didn't you, Beth?

You did a good job.

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER):
Mom started

treating the kids fairly
so all the kids were

getting along much
better and sharing

was much less of a problem.

ANGELA: Beth, thank
you for sharing.

That's really nice.

Sissy.

Thank you, sissy.

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER): Now
that Dad is helping out more,

there's less stress
on Mom, which makes

for a better relationship.

But before I left, there was
just one thing I wanted to see,

Dad taking time off work
to be with his children.

DAVID: Go way out there.

They love crackers.

To be able to connect
with Beth or Joe

or Dave is great, take
'em out and bond with them

and just talk with them or
play with them or whatever.

It's good for us and
it's good for them.

They're hungry.

Look at them.

We're feeding the ducks.

[squawk noise]

There you go.

DAVID: They were out
walking with the ducks

and having a good time and
there wasn't any whining.

And to see them playing
together and actually

sharing and being excited about
everything, it's nice to see.

NANNY DEB (VOICEOVER):
And all that's left to do

is say goodbye.

Hi.

DAVID: Hello.

ANGELA: Hi, Nanny Deb.

DAVID: We are sad that
Nanny Deb's leaving.

Who would have thought
that a lady from far away

could come in and turn us
completely around as a family?

It's really worked.

Today's the day I have
to say goodbye to you guys.

I take this job
incredibly personally

and I get very attached.

It's been an emotional journey.

We've had a busy
week, haven't we?

And you guys have
learned a lot and done

a really great job for Nanny.

And that makes me what?

Happy--

CHILD: Happy.

--yes.

But Nanny has to go because
we've done a lot of work

and we've learned a
lot of new things,

but there are other
kids that still

have a lot of things to learn.

ANGELA: The words can't
describe how I feel about Nanny

Deb giving me my life back.

I feel like these three
kids are the most wonderful

gift that I've ever been given.

I hadn't always felt that
way before, but I do now.

I'm going to come over
and give everybody a big hug

and say "Thank you."

Part of my goal here was
to create more independence

for these children.

You know, we're preparing
these children for life.

We're not just taking
care of them for now.

To walk away is a
very difficult thing.

Having any Deb here
has meant a lot to me.

Bye-bye, Nanny Deb.

DAVID: It's made me a
better person and a better

father and a better husband.

OK.

Thank you.

Thank you for helping me be
the mom I knew I could be.

I knew you could do it.

I knew you could.

The past four years,
there have been many times

I've been ready to give up.

I am a totally
different person now.

I think the kids have a lot
more respect for me now.

And we're ready to move forward.

You guys be good
for Mommy and Daddy.

See you later.

NANNY DEB: My hopes
for this family

are really that
they can maintain

the work they've done--

DAVID: Bye-bye.

Bye-bye!

NANNY DEB: --that they
can continue on the path

that they're on right now
and that they continue

to be a happy, loving family.

You've got important stuff?

What's your important stuff?
Hold on.

Hold on tight.

Let's go.

You can hold on to
the wheel if you want.

Ready?

Hold on.

How fast do you want to go?

Super fast?

Whoa.

Whoa.
Hold on tight.

Hold on tight.

Hold on tight.

Hold on tight.

Hold on tight.
Are you done?

Mom!

I want to go on.

Oh my goodness.

All right, you want to go on?

I have muddy shoes.

You want to go fast?

You want to go--

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