Guillermo:
'Previously on 90 Day Fiance...'
We're in New York City, baby, right?
You're home.
He's walking around
like he owns the place.
'My parents have offered to help
sort of get on our feet
a little bit...
We have to talk about the payments.
I definitely would have
gotten a cheaper apartment.
Neither of us really know,
long term,
how we're gonna
provide for the family.
Oh, family hug!
'I'm ready for motherhood
and I need to have these kids
liking me.
What do you want us to call you?
Maybe one day, Umi.
And Umi means mother, right?
Yeah.
'Honestly I don't know
how to feel about that.'
Tharan.
It's Mohamed.
It's Mohamed.
Yes!
Do you feel like you'll be OK,
like, if you're
the one who's gonna be with him
in the afternoons?
My concern is how you're gonna
take care of each other
because I mean you don't have a job.
Are you worried about that at all?'
I mean, I feel like
everything is just gonna be OK.
'I do believe that Guillermo
and Kara are a little naive.'
Gonna keep my eyes on you.
OK, I have to admit
this chicken is nasty.
Miona's trying and I'm trying.
'I wasn't necessarily hoping
that they not gonna like it.'
She really is
trying hard for this.
'But at least they know
what to expect from now on.'
Today's the day.
We're gonna be under one roof.
'It's a dream come true, but Thais
is not excited to live with John.'
Good morning.
You look beautiful.
So do you.
And you smell.
Well, I'm trying to
keep up with you, obviously.
Smell amazing. I got you a latte.
Oh, thank you.
'I've been in the United States
for several days,
and I just can't believe I'm here.
But I still need a real answer
from Bilal
when it comes to having children.
Like, there's no way
I'm going to marry a man
who doesn't want to have kids.
But I'm gonna let it slide for now
and definitely I will
be having a conversation again.
Can I drink it here?
Yeah I'm not...
I don't wanna make no spills.
..any room you want
you can drink coffee. You know?
You're so particular with your home,
you have an OCD problem.
No it's not...
Yes you do...
It's not OCD.
Yes you do, yes you do.
Babe, it's just certain things,
most people probably will want to
like, walk in their bedroom
without drawers being on the floor.
You know, just pick up your drawers.
Pick up your dirty socks, put it,
you know, in the laundry basket.
That's OK.
You're so particular. Love you.
I love you.
I love you, love you lots,
I love you so much you have no idea.
That's how much.
'Spending more time with Bilal
you know, he's pretty much uptight.
I think he has been single
for too long.
He needs to loosen up.
So...
Yeah, baby?
I don't wanna rush you, but
I don't want to be late for Jumah.
I would tell you this
out of everything...
Yeah.
..that is like a pet peeve for me,
like, being late for Jumah.
We wanna make sure
we go to Jumah on time
because there's
so much benefits in that.
Yes, of course, I will be on time.
'So, today is the first Friday
that Shaeeda's here with me.
So I'm taking Shaeeda to Jumah.
Jumah is a sacred time on Friday
that we put whatever business
we have going on,
whatever traffic aside,
and we pray
and it's very similar to what
a Christian may do on a Sunday
when they go to church.
Seatbelt on?
Of course.
'Shaeeda has met my children,
my siblings and even my mother.
Today she's gonna meet
my extended family.
Because the community
is the family to me.
I... I am anxious.
Anxious.
I remember you mentioned so much
about your community
and everyone who is a part of your
community is a part of your life.
It is.
'A Masjid is a place of worship.
And the Masjid that I attend
is the Masjid I grew up in,
and it's the Masjid that
my mother still attends to this day.
My father did before he passed.
My children and
my children's mother, my ex-wife.
Is there one other person to me,
and that's your ex
and I do look forward to meeting her.
I can't tell you,
like, not to be nervous
or what I can tell you is that...
..she's a cool person.
Uh-huh.
She has, you know, respect for me
as I do with her.
'Bilal's ex is part of his family,
they share kids together,
she's always going to be
a part of his family.
So my nerves are on high because
it's important for us to get along.
If she doesn't approve of me,
that negatively affects
my relationship with Bilal
because her negativity
will rub off on their children
and they would share it on me,
and I don't want...
I know in life, you can't expect
everyone to like you,
but this particular situation,
I kind of like,
I want everyone to like me.
Yeah, I get it.
Everything you're feeling,
I've been through the same stuff.
Yeah.
Remember, I met your people
before you met my people.
You have to understand
you came as a visitor,
I am coming here with the possibility
of staying here forever
and making my life with you.
You are.
These are the people
who I will have to coexist with
on a daily basis or weekly basis.
Right.
So my situation is different,
I'm anticipating meeting your ex-wife
and you just,
you kind of take away how I feel.
The point I was making was,
is that I can relate to you,
I was trying to connect with you.
'Bilal thinks I'm overreacting when
I say I'm nervous to meet his ex.
But I am literally shaking.
I am nervous to meet his ex-wife.
Bilal tends to lecture me a lot.
This is something
he did on the phone,
but since I've been here, I thought
he would have been more relaxed.
But he seems to be like,
always lecturing me.
I'm not looking for you to be my dad,
I looking for you to be
my supportive fiance
and speak to me like your fiance.'
This is my feelings, I want you to
respect it and say OK, I understand.
Yeah.
You're a bit nervous,
it's your first time.
If you can recall
what I just said was, wasn't it?
I literally just said that.
Those are your feelings,
I can't tell you how to feel.
OK, just making sure.
I would tell you one thing, though.
What's that?
You might wanna do...
What?
..before you meet her.
Mm-hm.
You just might... wanna get
that booger out of your nose
before you meet her.
I don't have no booger in my nose.
Yeah, you got...
No, I don't.
It's green and brownish.
Whatever.
Maybe you have something
stuck in your teeth.
..look like you got a hair on it.
No, I don't.
I'm getting sick and tired
of you pranking me
about this booger in my nose,
I hate this type of joke,
an American thing.
Babe, I'm gonna tell you...
Not a Trinidad thing,
and not my type of humour.
..I don't know where you come from,
but the environment I come from,
we keep our hands to ourselves,
all right?
So I can't do this?
So what I'm gonna tell you is, stop.
So I'm tell you is, first of all...
We are touchy feely type of people.
Yeah I...
We like to touch.
Don't do that to me.
We hit.
That's disrespectful
where I come from.
Give you elbows.
So, keep your hands to yourself,
and watch your tone.
Because I can literally
pull over right now,
you'll be taking an Uber
the rest of the ride home.
You're not gonna do that to me.
Hey.
You know when you came to my country,
I treated you very well, right?
I did not say, I did not...
Did you not just...
did you not just
put your hands on me?
Yeah but it's,
it's not, in a serious way.
And not just once.
That's disrespectful.
Now I'm gonna give you
a serious hit.
Yeah.
You're about to
get off right here.
'Shaeeda is being aggressive,
and it's making me look at her
in a different light.
She's doing this as a joke,
but it's a joke that I don't play.
Yeah, this is the highway.
Just because I give you
a little tap?
Yeah. You thought I was joking.
[DOORBELL]
Hello! Hi!
Thanks for coming.
Porto Dan Plumbing,
I'm here to put your bidet in?
Yes, thank you.
'Mohamed has been here
for a few days
and I think
it's off to a good start.'
Thanks so much for coming.
Sure, no problem.
I really wanted to get a bidet
installed before Mohamed arrived,
I haven't been able to.
So I had to call in
the professionals.
These are the parts,
I hope they're all here.
Hopefully. If not I brought
some stuff too, so...
Oh, all right, sounds good.
Have you ever installed
one of these before?
Yeah, we've installed a couple.
Oh, hey.
We're getting the...
he's gonna install the bidet.
How you doing, sir?
I thought you were with Tharan.
Aren't you happy
we're getting the bidet installed?
I'm not alone. You're in the house.
I didn't know that I had to.
OK, well...
Well can I, like,
am I allowed to be in the house
if there's a, another man in here
or not?
Like, where am I supposed to go?
Like, outside the door?
Or like out of the room? Or where?
Is this social distancing
in the bathroom or what?
OK, I'm used to
taking care of everything by myself.
I'm trying to do
a nice thing for you.
'I'm really annoyed right now
because I feel like
I was being scolded
and I was just trying to do
something nice for the man I love.
OK, well, I'm just not used to that.
'I'm getting concerned because
I didn't know that that was a rule.
Am I not gonna be allowed
to be near strangers any more?
I don't wanna live my life that way,
so I'm kind of nervous.
OK, well, I made them too.
OK, well, I'm trying to learn.
I don't know, like, all these rules
for every single thing
there's all these rules.
I apparently better make a list so
I don't get in trouble or something.
I was kind of joking about that
actually.
Oh my gosh, are you kidding me?
You have to be, like,
a little more flexible
and just understand
I'm not, I'm not a Muslim woman.
No, I don't live, not from there.
I know, but you're in America.
I have literally been preparing
all these things,
even little tiny details to just get
everything as perfect as I could.
You didn't ask for that
and I went out of my way
to get it and order it.
You know, granted, it wasn't done
when you got here, but...
OK.
'I'm realising that I have
a lot to learn about Mohamed
in the next 90 days.
If he's not willing to be
a little more open minded
about how things are
in the United States
and tries to change me too much,
then it's not gonna work out.
position:50% 'I been in the US for a few weeks,
and it's definitely not
as comfortable
as I wish to live in this house.
I feel like
Jibri's parents are nice people,
but also strict a little bit.
Jibri went out to do the music,
but I expected Jibri to be with me
a little bit longer
before he leaves.'
Hey.
How are you?
Good.
It kind of looks like
you were cleaning in here.
I try to clean a little bit, but
we have a lot of stuff definitely.
But I also never realised that since
I had so much space, you know,
so now we have to
organise everything.
Everything is so different.
I was gonna ask that about, like,
what it's like adjusting to
not just the United States,
but Rapid, to our home?
What that's been like?
Yeah. It's been a little bit
of a struggle, I guess,
and some being away from my family,
I miss my parents.
It's been a little bit difficult.
How are they doing with you here?
I think they are sad,
I think they're really sad,
but I guess they will go through it.
I'm sorry.
It's OK.
It must be hard
to be so far away from them.
Yeah.
'I feel sad Miona is having
a difficult time adjusting,
I know that it can be a challenge
for anyone to move to a new place.
But we're trying really hard
to make her feel comfortable here.
So you've been here a little while,
shall I show you
how to do some laundry,
how to use the washer and drier?
Yeah, definitely.
I don't know if it's the same?
I don't know, let's see.
OK.
OK.
So with the washer, we're gonna,
we have to use
a certain kind of detergent. OK.
Oh, this is different.
Why don't you have temperature?
But it's just hot, warm, cold.
Wow, I guess I think ours
is a little bit easier,
I wouldn't even know
what temperature to put it on
besides, hot, cold, warm.
Let's put some stuff in, right?
OK.
Here is some of the...
What is that?
Like, for your hair?
No that, that's a top.
Oh.
Goes like this.
OK.
You don't like it?
I think it's, I think it's little.
But you can put it in...
OK.
I, it's, it's just interesting
to see some of the things because
when Jibri was first showing me
your, like, social media
and that kind of stuff
before you came,
I was a little bit nervous about
how you might adjust to Rapid City
because not a lot of people
kind of wear...
shirts that little here.
That's one more reason
for us to... to not be here.
Well, I want you to be here, I mean,
I want Jibri to be able to be here,
I want you guys to start out
on a good foot. Start out here.
I can try to adjust as much as I can,
but I don't wanna change who am I.
I mean my clothes
doesn't say anything about me
that I think that people
should know that in 21st century.
Mm-hm.
I think, I think you're right.
But I guess to be honest, like,
you, you seem, like,
really intelligent.
And I just worry that sometimes
wearing a shirt
like what you just showed me,
like, can take away from that,
can be a distraction.
I understand, but I want to
express myself how I want
and I want to learn
to be comfortable in my body.
So what gives me confidence
is owning my body
and saying f*ck you
to everybody who thinks that I can't
do whatever I want with my body.
'I don't want Miona
to have a negative experience,
but if Miona chooses not to adjust
the way that she dresses
in our home,
to me that is a sign
of a deeper issue of disrespect.
Why do her needs
Tr*mp everybody else's needs?
I want to be able to get dressed
like this and not to be judged.
I hear that
and I don't wanna judge you,
but I do wanna ask that, like,
when you and Jibri
are out doing your thing,
you can wear
whatever you wear, obviously.
In the house and Brian's around
that kind of thing,
I'm just wondering if you might
be willing to
not change, like, your clothes,
but just wear some
that you already have
that's a little bit more modest,
a little bit more... covering.
OK.
It doesn't make me feel great,
but I'm gonna think about it,
after all it's your home, you know?
I have to respect that.
I appreciate that.
'I don't like being told
what I should do
or how I should look like.
This kind of makes me feel
like a kid again.
So honestly, she just pushing me away
to want to move out of here
even more
and I'm definitely going to
tell that Jibri after today.
Sometimes in families when
we are talking about hard things,
it doesn't always feel great.
Yeah.
But I still want us
to be able to talk about them
and be honest with each other.
For sure.
OK.
OK.
position:50% 'After what felt like the longest travel day ever,
Bini and I finally arrived in the US
and made it to our new apartment,
like, last night.
Bini was, like, passed out.
He and Avi passed out on the bed
to the point where, like,
there was no room for me.
And I just had to
crawl into the outside space
and, like, try and pull the last
little shard of covers over me.
Hi, guys.
How did you sleep?
I know you look tired even now.
So I decided to make you some coffee
American style.
Try it.
What do you think it is?
'This, this is not coffee, just
only the colour look like coffee,
but uh-uh.'
It's not as strong
as Ethiopian coffee,
but you also are not gonna have
heart palpitations from drinking it.
Yeah, I like hot water,
it is good hot water.
You like the apartment?
Yeah, it's good.
Your mom and dad just...
I know, I'm just stressed about,
you know,
they said that
they want us to start paying for it.
So I'm worried if
we're gonna be able to afford that.
Plus we have to pay, you know, the
Wi-Fi the electricity, everything.
I told my mom
that I only wanted a one bedroom,
but she insisted that
we needed the two bedroom.
And then you can't tell my mom no.
It's a year lease,
meaning they signed the contract
for a year already.
Yeah.
You know, I have my parent's help
more than a lot of other people,
but it's still not easy, you know.
I don't wanna stress you
on your first day here,
but I'm thinking about it, you know,
and I wanna share
my feelings with you.
Generally in our relationship
I handle the money side of things.
So when Bini makes any money,
he's always giving it to me
to handle.
'In the beginning
in the relationship with Bini,
I really appreciated that he
trusted me to handle the finances,
but now at this point,
it's a big stress on my mind
because everything's kind of
falling on me at this moment.'
You're so hopeful about the future.
But, you know, you pay for that.
Of course I have to do practice.
Bini believes that
anything is possible
and that's wonderful, it's lovely,
but I've done the research
and MMA fighters
really don't make that much money.
A lot of the money they make
goes back into their training.
If Bini wants to do this
because he loves it, that's great,
but to say that he wants to do this
because he wants to
support a family,
that doesn't seem realistic to me.
OK.
You wanna see my town?
Oh, I'd love to just...
Come on, we can change.
OK, let me get you a diaper.
Hey, hey, hey, poop,
oh my God it's stink.
Stinky stinky.
Oh my God. Oh.
This is the first time
you'll ever be driving with me.
Yeah. So cool.
So this is my mom's car.
I am psyched to show Bini
where I'm from.
I really have want Bini to see
my culture, see where I'm from,
and why I am the way that I am.
The pace of life is so much faster,
like, I'm blunt and direct,
that's the way we talk.
I think it's gonna be
an adjustment for Bini
to, like, speed up
and live the Jersey lifestyle.
That's beautiful.
It's beautiful, right?
Yeah, this is my town, baby.
Cool.
This is downtown area.
You can get coffee there
and then there's a bar here.
There's a bar.
I better not find you here
late at night.
Maybe, or kicking me out,
maybe you can find me here, yeah.
And then here
this is a fish restaurant.
Oh, I like fish,
you know I like fish.
Yeah.
Everything, honey.
'Princeton, like, so cool,
like, peaceful and I think...
This is a very nice.
This is, like,
a very nice place to live.
Oh, look at the house,
so beautiful, like, the design.
A house on this street
is a million dollars easily.
Really?
Yeah. So many like rich
and famous people have houses here.
Even, like, ex-presidents
have lived here.
Wow.
Don't worry,
I will buy you house, trust me.
This is a town for rich people,
baby.
OK.
'I don't understand what she want.'
After when I get my green card,
I think everything's easy,
I can help you.
Like just, I don't know.
I hope like this,
that my feeling is, you know.
Yeah.
Almost there.
Yeah!
[BOTH LAUGH
Wow!
So this is, this is my road.
So beautiful.
In person?
Yeah in person. Wow.
I'm finally here in America.
Your house?
Uh-huh.
[SHRIEKS]
It's a beautiful house.
Hi, John.
Hello.
Hello.
Welcome.
How are you?
Good, good.
You see the doggie yet?
Oh!
He already loves you.
Thais and I talked about
getting a puppy for a while.
And I think it's gonna be
really good for her,
I think she's gonna have a little
companion when I'm gone at work.
But I'm a little concerned
how Thais is gonna do here.
Especially living with John.
Is it champagne time?
[SPEAKING IN PORTUGUESE]
Oh!
One, two, three.
Three. Hey!
Yeah!
Oh, sh*t.
Yep.
Congratulations.
For everybody.
'She seems nice,
definitely new energy.
You know, it could go bad
or it could go good, you know?'
JOHN & THAIS:
Cheers.
'I'm definitely gonna have to
put my best effort forward
because it's important to him
and if it's important to him,
it's important to me.'
She's gonna hop in the shower.
You probably wanna put the TV on
or something.
No problem.
If you put it loud that would help.
Put it loud?
[LAUGHS]
Yes. This is our bedroom, best room.
Wow!
This is better than Christmas.
You want me to make you breakfast?
Yeah.
Best sex of my life.
She, I mean she...
I think he's out in the living room.
What's up?
What's up, bro?
I'm gonna make some breakfast
for Thais' first day.
Making her breakfast?
Yeah.
Should be making you breakfast.
No, I'm gonna make her breakfast.
Morning, John.
Good morning.
You want eggs?
Yeah.
What is this, what?
Beer.
Yeah, she knows what beer is.
A beer is...
There's beer in Brazil.
Just asking questions.
Oh no, no, no.
I live here too.
Hm?
I live here too.
Crazy, I no crazy.
No, no, no, no, no.
How you gonna say crazy?
Come on, come on.
No, no, no. Let's not do this.
You've arrived one day
I'm sitting here playing a video
game and you're gonna pull this? No.
It is a little early for some beer.
I don't know if
that's what it's called, but...
Well, this is gonna be
a nice awkward breakfast.
Yeah. Salud.
I love it.
'If I have a beer
at 11, 12 in the afternoon,
what does that matter to her?
We should be ourselves
and individuals
and if that's a problem,
you know, I bite.
How do you feel about us?
Being together as a family?
We'll give it a sh*t, figure it out,
I think you guys will get along.
You know, I want the best for you,
that's all that matters.
You know, I got a steak out there,
should I make it?
Would you share it?
Yeah, you wanna eat breakfast
together?
Well, I mean, just being family.
OK.
OK.
You got to trust Thais
with the steak.
Yeah.
That's for you.
Thank you.
Are you gonna use...
I'm cooking John eggs.
I was trying to help out
because he's cooking the steak.
Yeah, don't let her tell you
what you got to cook.
She wants me to eat with her.
You cook
what the f*ck you wanna cook.
[SIGHS]
It's a rocky start.
Both of them need to
respect each other as family,
not just point out every little
thing that someone's doing wrong.
And you know,
I think John's drinking
definitely makes my job harder.
It's not an everyday thing,
I think he's nervous about
having Thais in the home.
I think he's nervous for me,
or just being, like,
protective big brother
type of thing.
So I got, you know,
an uphill battle.
[ALARM BEEPS]
[COUGHS]
Oh, no. Your steak's choking her.
John, yeah, yeah, put the fan on.
It's called flavour.
No, you got to put the fan on.
It's called flavour.
You're gonna choke my fiance out.
What?
All right.
What? It's all that.
[LAUGHS]
What did you do? All right.
I flipped it on the ground.
That's all right, that's all right.
My day off, what does it matter?
That's not...
What does it matter?
I thought Brazilians drink
all the time. You know?
John, so you gonna make a new steak
or what?
No, we're gonna eat this one.
No, we're gonna eat the steak.
I think, yeah.
Why not?
It's off the ground.
No.
There's hungry kids in this world.
Yeah, bro, she's from Brazil.
No, I don't, exactly. Exactly.
She knows about hungry kids.
Exactly.
So therefore you're gonna eat.
Just calm down.
What, I gonna take some wet wipes,
and f*cking disinfect, it? No.
What, the steak?
No, not the steak, but the floor.
It is what it is.
For the dog?
You know if it's good for me,
it's good for you.
John is crazy.
line:75% position:50% You thought I was joking.
Can you drive the car?
You wanna do that one more time?
Can you drive the car, please?
'We're on our way to Jumah.
Bilal is still agitated
and upset that I hit him.
It was not even a physical hit large,
it was a tap. It was a playful tap,
but when he pulled over that's when
I realised the severity of it all.
I am playing, he's angry,
we are not on the same page here.'
Are you,
are you a violent person?
I'm not a violent person,
but I was just playing with you.
No, that wasn't a play.
God.
I'm k*lling your mood?
Yeah.
Because you touched me?
You pulled the side of the road
telling me to catch an Uber...
Yeah, but I also told you,
yeah for sure.
..you don't do that to people.
You don't hit people.
Where do you come from?
Is that what y'all do in Trinidad?
You lose a lot of points for that.
No, you lose a lot of points.
I'm thinking
you're actually a violent person.
And that's
what I'm not trying to be with.
Quiet right now, huh?
It's all jokes
until it get real serious.
It's right here?
Yup.
'There's so much tension,
you could cut it with a Kn*fe.'
I don't understand, like, Bilal
put me through this horrible prank
having me spend the night
at his old house.
I would think he would have had
a much lighter sense of humour
when it comes to me giving him
a little tap on the head,
but apparently, like, he's not
playful when it comes to him.
See, Bilal is not communicating.
He just, he just get out of the car.
He didn't say anything.
I am not feeling very good
right now.
And this is not the mood for me
to meet Bilal's community
and also his ex-wife.
Come on, guys.
'I felt disrespected
and I'm really irritated,
but the kids are here
and kids are innocent
and we keep their innocence.
So it's, like, you know what,
let me just be quiet
and let me try
to get through this day.
You know, we about to go to Jumah,
but it's like,
hey we need to,
we need to sit down
and have a conversation about this,
about what, what's taken place.
'This was the first Jumah
that she's gonna be at.
So this was like something
I was looking forward to
being happy, joyous, but the mood
was dampened dramatically.
We've been away from each other
for nearly two years.
And I'm seeing that we don't know
each other as well as we thought.
So it's kind of hard
to shake that off.
Frankly, it's kind of hard
to even concentrate
even in the Jumah service.
I'm doing well, how are you?
That's good, I'm doing well.
How's the family going?
At Jumah, I, I feel alone.
He is greeting his relatives,
his friends and his community
and I'm by myself.'
So, ready to go?
Yeah, yeah, yeah. Let's go.
OK, let's go.
So I'll meet you outside.
Outside, OK.
Be this way.
Yeah.
Good to see you.
'He's not trying
to make me feel better.
He is upset, he's keeping distance.
I'm trying to find ways
to fight against my anxiety
because I'm going to meet his ex-wife
right now.
And I'm trying to just,
calm myself down.
What's going on, sister girl?
And Shaeeda, this is Shahidah.
Nice to meet you.
And this is the lady of the house.
She wants a bean pie.
That's the one
who runs the house for Yusuf.
Yeah.
She's so pretty.
Nice meeting you.
How was your trip here?
It was long.
It was a very long trip.
How long was it?
Oh, my God.
It was not direct from Trinidad.
Oh, OK, OK, OK.
I had to fly all the way to
Panama...
then come to the United States
and take a next flight.
So what, so,
we got to get going because...
Because you have some...
..have some stuff. Yeah.
OK. OK.
It was nice meeting you.
Same to you.
We'll, we'll talk.
Of course.
We'll have a sit down.
Yeah.
All right.
We're getting outta here.
OK.
Yeah.
Babe.
So, you know, a little later...
Yeah?
..we definitely need to talk about
that situation
that happened in the car.
I am thinking it's the next lecture
that he's going to give me.
Since I've been here he has been
lecturing me right through.
I don't think I have been able
to give much of my opinion.
I feel as if I've stepped inside
of Bilal's world.
In terms of having a voice, I don't
think I've had much of a voice.
OK, just calm down. OK?
We will eat now.
We'll eat, like,
what do you call we eating?
Freaking bagels, baby.
I missed my bagels.
I wanna see bagels
what it look like.
This is the shopping centre.
'I'm really excited to finally get
a bagel and lox after so much time.
Bagels, bagels.
Uh, uh. Bagels, bagels. Uh, uh.
Bagels, bagels. Uh, uh.
'Bagels and lox to me are like...
..a positive reminder
of my childhood
and the time that I spent
with my Jewish grandmother.
So I'm really happy to share
this experience with Bini.
So I think you should try like the
most Jewish thing that you can eat.
It's called a bagel with lox.
Hi, how are you?
How are you?
How are you?
Good, man.
We'll have one sesame bagel
with cream cheese and lox.
For me, I'll get a egg bagel
with just lox and cream cheese.
OK.
Let's, let's sit outside, OK?
Here.
I don't know if there's some food
that reminds you
of, like, your childhood?
Yeah.
But for me, like,
bagel is the thing. You know?
It's like, I was very close
to my grandmother
and every weekend
I would go to her house.
Yeah.
We'd always go pick up bagels.
Is it remind you of...
It reminds me...
..this flashback.
Yeah.
It was very important
for my father's family
to have me raised in the Jewish
faith so as not to lose my heritage.
Now that I'm older and I have my
own child, I totally understand it.
Oh, wow.
Egg with lox and cream cheese.
Looking amazing.
'There are Jewish traditions
that feel like home to me.
You know, when I hear certain songs
or eat certain foods,
it kind of brings me back
to that place in my childhood.
And they're really warm
and positive memories.
I wanna pass that on to my son.
OK, thank you.
Yeah.
Enjoy, guys.
Thanks so much.
This is bacon inside?
Bacon? No honey, this is bagel.
No, I'm saying inside, like.
This is salmon.
Salmon.
This is fish.
Fish, oh.
It's smoked fish.
That's fish.
And then, this is cheese.
Oh, the white one is cheese?
Is cheese, cream cheese.
No, it's like,
it's called cream cheese.
Oh, cream cheese.
It's delicious.
Are you sure it's not raw fish?
If it's raw will you eat it?
It looks raw, like.
Look, I ate it,
you know it's not poison.
No, it's fine.
It's not about poison.
Mm-hm.
I'm waiting.
Just wait.
Just wait? OK. I'm just looking.
One more bite.
That's good, I like it.
Yeah?
You're not quite Jewish yet.
[BABY SQUEALS]
Oh, OK.
OK.
[BOTH LAUGH]
position:50% Oh, it's, like, really cute place, actually.
Yeah, it's super cute.
I am definitely ready for a drink.
Oh, I see them. Hi.
Yeah.
'Tonight we are meeting
my really good friends,
Hillary and her fiance, Cooper.'
Hi, nice to meet you.
Nice to meet you.
'Hillary probably is
one of the more sceptical friends
that I have of Guillermo.
Could I do a vodka soda?
Yeah, of course.
'And is definitely gonna have
some harder-hitting questions
for Guillermo tonight.
She's inquisitive
and I think she, you know,
as a friend, wants to know the dirt.
The passion fruit gozer,
what's the alcohol in that?
That one's about a 6.2.
Oh, let's get litty.
'Maybe I am walking Guillermo
into an interrogation room,
but I'm interested to see how
he answers some of these questions.
Maybe I'll find out some things
that I didn't know.
Thank you.
We're really excited you're here.
Finally together.
You remember
when you came home and announced
you're like, "I'm getting married,"
I was like. "Oh."
Yeah.
Like, really?
Like, huh, interesting.
That is not the first thing
we'd expect to hear
out of your mouth
when you showed back up.
I mean, me either, but things change
when you meet the right person.
Well, thank you.
Yeah.
How do you feel about getting
married? You're, how old are you?
What do you think?
Like, why, like why?
Because, because we...
Us at 23 would have not been ready.
No?
I was a disaster...
personally, at 23.
[LAUGHS]
Yeah, but in some way
I'm not a disaster.
You know, like, I have been through
many things in life.
And...
Yeah?
..and I have been working
for myself, living for myself,
doing everything for myself.
I mean, you know, it happened
really fast for the two of you.
You know,
there's a bit of an age difference.
It's hard to get to know somebody
living in a foreign country.
Is there anything that Kara does
that just drives you, like, insane?
Erm...
When Kara drinks a lot...
Yeah?
..in some point she just want to,
like, keep going and never stop.
Right.
So bad to say that
every time that you drink,
I know almost exactly
how it gonna end.
How does it end?
Drunk, not remembering
what happened the last night.
I probably remember
the beginning of it.
The beginning, but I would love
to enjoy the whole thing.
'Kara is a very social person,
she enjoys going out with friends.
Going out like usually entails
cocktails or a bottle of wine.
She definitely lives her life,
like, on Kara's terms.'
Do you guys feel like you fight more
when Kara's drinking?
Absolutely.
Many times we had that conversation
and at the end of the conversation
she will say to me something like,
"I will change, I will be better."
There's always room for improvement,
you know?
But I mean what if she
just wants to, like, keep going?
Sometimes she know
what makes me feel uncomfortable
and she still wants to do it.
Like, if we go out, and I say,
"Hey I wanna go back home."
I never wanna go back home.
She never wanna go back home.
Do we have to be
the first ones to go home?
I hate being the first people
to leave a party.
When I, when I go out,
I'm, like, having such a good time,
and I love to talk to people
when I'm having fun,
and da, da, da, da, da, da,
but it's, you know, a learning curve.
So what is, like, the biggest fight
that you've had?
I could say that once in DR she
throw my clothes from the window.
Was it because
I read a message off that girl?
Oh, maybe.
Wait, what girl?
There's a Canadian girl.
What?
Before me.
Oh.
And he used this line with me,
picture of the moon,
and a phrase that says
'I wish you could be here,
to, like, watch this moon with me'.
And you know,
I was like wow so sweet, romantic,
like, he wants me to be there
with him.
And then when I went back
in his phone sneakily,
he, like, had said
that same exact thing.
Not exactly the same.
Right.
You know it just made it
feel cheap to me.
Are you still checking his phone?
Not actively, like, no.
Oh yeah.
Not really.
Do you guys feel like
you can trust each other?
I don't know, babe, you go through my
phone more than I go through yours.
Oh, you go through her phone too?
Whenever I do it,
I do it in front of her. Because...
You want her to, like, know
that you don't trust her?
If I take her phone right now.
Yeah?
And it's like this,
and then I make a like this,
and she take it out from me,
something is happening.
And that's simple, so you know
what I mean, it's just simple.
It's a test.
'Going through each other's phones,
still mentioning past relationships,
and, you know,
getting upset enough
to throw out some of his clothes
out the window
doesn't necessarily bring me
the idea
that they're feeling secure
with each other.
But, I mean, how do you guys feel
just about all these things
to work out?
One side of me says, like,
"Don't worry it will be fine,"
and then the other side of me
is like,
"Holy f*ck,
that's a lot of problems."
It's just like, you know,
the whole 90 days to get married.
It's not a lot of time...
No.
..to figure those things out.
There's, you know, some things
we're not on the same page about
and we don't have a lot of time
to figure it out.
'And I don't wanna
be on my wedding day,
feeling like my future partner
isn't on the same page as me.
It's too hot.
You ready to go to New York?
I'm ready.
'We've been in the US for a few
days, and we're not sure, like...
what are we gonna do for money,
and what does our future hold,
but I'm trying to be positive
and not to think about
any of the negatives.'
Ready?
Ready. I'm so happy. I can't wait.
'Bini is psyched
to see New York City.
So my mom is watching Avi
and I'm super psyched to show him.
OK, babe.
Don't be scared,
hold my hand, I'll teach you.
Oh wow. This is first time train.
Cool right?
The train goes underwater,
it's underground.
It's underwater?
Yeah.
We go by water inside?
Is under water or...?
No, not now, baby,
there's the sky right there.
Of course, that's
what I'm saying just...
All right.
[HORNS HONK]
Welcome home!
Woo!
See, oh my God let me, wait,
my phone, let me take a picture.
I know, my gosh.
So cool, man.
Yeah.
Yeah, they have subway.
Cool.
I get like goosebumps
like, like, I'm so excited.
Oh, yeah. So cool.
What is this?
A water fountain, you don't know
what a water fountain is?
What does it mean?
For drinking.
I can drink this?
Yeah.
'But drinking the water fountain,
that's nice experience for me.'
You've never seen a water fountain
before, huh?
No, this is different.
Wow. That's cool.
Walk all the way.
Hi guys, welcome.
Hi.
Thank you.
Enjoy.
So, what do you think
about New York?
Wow, it's beautiful.
Different from Addis, right?
Absolutely different.
You wanna live in New York?
You know, it's not cheap.
Rent is crazy expensive here.
We don't even have jobs.
Yeah of course we don't have jobs,
but we can, we can,
we have to find a job. Like...
Like, you just got here.
I mean, I am so happy
that you love New York,
but you just got here and now
you already wanna, like, leave.
Of course I would love to
live in New York,
but I'm really stressed out about
how we're gonna pay for anything.
And now I'm like thinking, I feel
like you don't appreciate, like,
my parents, they got us
this great apartment,
and, like, they signed a year
contract, and already you wanna go.
Hey, just calm down, listen.
I hate when you tell me
to calm down,
like, that's the one thing
I f*ckin' hate
when you tell me to calm down.
What I'm saying is serious,
like, it's...
I don't think you understand, like,
so stressful thinking about, like,
all the stuff we have to pay for.
Everything we have to do.
'I spent
most of my adult life abroad.
I never, like, rented an apartment
in the US
or paid a utility bill in the US.
Even though I'm from this area,
we're both new to this situation
and to this life,
but it's kind of all riding on me.'
Please don't fight with me,
just today just no,
we staying for nice day, I don't
wanna for you to ruin my day, OK?
I'm the one who brought you here,
all this is possible
because of me and I ruined your day?
That's...
No, I don't want,
I don't wanna fight,
I don't wanna be stressed.
Oh, you don't wanna be stressed,
you don't need stress,
but me, I'm always stressed.
Like, you know?
I have to carry this whole family.
It's really hard.
This is small? This is, like,
the biggest thing ever.
If these things
are not important to you,
maybe I'm not important to you,
maybe we shouldn't get married.
Oof!
'It's very hard
to get another person to
understand your perspective.
I'm with someone who is
the total opposite of me.
And because he's always dreaming,
that it leads me to have to
always be the, practical one.
It doesn't leave a lot of room
for me to dream sometimes.
Because I'm too busy
bringing him down to earth.
Even if he can't contribute
financially,
he could, you know,
give me more support.
Or I don't think the relationship
will survive.
middle line:90% position:50% Come on.
I know, come on.
Hey.
Hey, Mom.
Can you shut that door, do you mind
shutting that other door?
Oh, OK. You all right?
No, I'm cool.
What's going on?
Honestly, I'm just gonna
get straight to it, I'm pissed off.
Because this is not
how I expected this to go,
and Miona
is not feeling comfortable.
Because you had
went through her laundry,
which I think
is completely irrational
and that's not appropriate.
So I was putting some stuff
in the laundry
and she was like,
"What kind of top is that?"
Why is she doing all of that?
She's like, "I don't want you
walking around the house in that."
And then she would mention
that she don't want me, like,
walking in front of Brian like that.
That was really weird.
She's taking it too far.
'It bothers me
that my mom is testing Miona
or maybe pushed some buttons
and that is not acceptable.
Miona does have a temper
and I just don't want her
to really go off on my mom
and it to get to a place
where the damage is not repairable.
I think there's some
miscommunication about what happened
because I didn't
go through anybody's laundry.
She feels like you're trying to
change her into somebody,
I don't understand
if you're trying to be
overprotective mom,
but I'm not 15 years old any more.
So, I don't know
what you're talking about.
When I was talking with Miona,
she didn't seem this upset.
Was that not real?
'When Jibri is telling me
that Miona is feeling att*cked
or uncomfortable,
I'm concerned that
Miona is being fake with us
because Miona's not
telling this to me.
So how am I gonna get to know her
if she's not gonna share
how she really feels
or what she really thinks?
I understand respect
and everything else like that,
but she just got here.
And I'm stressed out,
so I'm telling you please, like,
tone it down a notch
with the questions
and the rules and everything else.
I'm getting married, I got 90 days,
I got a lot of pressure.
She don't, she wanna get married
in God knows where.
And that's stressing me out.
And then I'm coming back here
and you're treating me
like I'm a 13 year old.
Talking about laundry.
Whatever y'all had of conversation
about laundry.
[SIGHS]
So Jibri,
what are you really upset about?
Because I think it's sounding
more like you're upset
about how you and Miona
are doing right now.
Yeah she's expecting
a lot of sh*t
and she's not willing to compromise
and she wants to stay a month.
I'm trying to understand are you
really saying what you're saying,
or is it her really
just trying to start something
so she can get out of here?
I don't know.
It's just a lot.
It's a lot of pressure.
Has she always
put this much pressure on you?
Oh, Mom, you twistin' my brain,
you're doing that therapy
kung-fu stuff again.
'My mom knows
all the tricks of the trade
when it comes to psychology
and therapy.
She knows it all, but
I don't want her to do that to me,
I want her to be my mom,
especially in this time of need,
and I don't need her therapy.
Jibri, I'm asking questions
that are about caring about you,
loving you, wanting you
to have the best life.
And wanting you to have a partner
that is good for you.
Not because I don't trust you,
but because love does
all kinds of things to us.
Love can keep us
from seeing some things.
That later on we're like, "Oh
my gosh how did I get into this?"
But I'm being slow on this process.
Marrying someone in 90 days is fast.
Right, but guess what,
I live a fast lifestyle.
OK, so...
That's how I've lived.
This is actually me slowing down.
So part, so part of
living a fast lifestyle, then,
you're gonna hear
from people who care about you
when they're concerned,
they feel like
you're gonna run into a brick wall.
If I run into a brick wall,
guess what's gonna happen?
I'm gonna pick myself back up,
dust myself off and keep running.
Like I'm not, this life is...
life could end tomorrow.
Jibri that is so...
that is so disrespectful.
It's not disrespectful.
It is.
It's just me Mom.
Because when you...
It's just me.
..fall and you get hurt,
that hurts the people that love you.
That's why we are asking
these questions.
That's why we're concerned.
I understand that.
You're not gonna always be there
to pick me up.
I'm not.
I got to pick myself up.
I'm learning this.
If Miona is the one
who's supposed to be there with you,
to be there
when you pick yourself up.
I gotta know that she can do it.
Do what?
Do the work.
That she's not gonna sit there
and expect everybody else
to do the work for her
because she's pretty
or shows her breasts.
Mom.
Jibri.
'I'm not sure I can support
Jibri marrying Miona right now
or even in these next 90 days
because I don't know Miona yet.
It makes me wonder
how real she can be with people
and I wanna know
that Jibri knows the real Miona.
Because if this is a person
that he's gonna marry,
he's got to feel confident
that he knows who she is.
Let me make the mistakes,
if you think I'm making a mistake,
which is how I'm taking this,
let me make it.
You getting ready?
Always beautiful.
Have you played golf before?
No?
No.
'So this morning
was an absolute disaster in my mind.
And you know I'm thinking of ways
of, like, try to make it better.
So I decided to take John and Thais
to play some mini golf
and hopefully
we're gonna have a good time.
OK.
OK.
OK.
[LAUGHS]
'I want John and Thais
just to drop their guard
and, you know, start, like,
kind of building a relationship.
John. All right come on let's go.
Yeah.
'Because beside for living together,
they're two really important people
in my life and they're family.
You guys ready to play some golf?
THAIS & JOHN:
Yeah.
I got the door, gentleman.
Thank you, John.
Cheers.
Cheers.
Cheers.
So, that's hole nine.
Is that one?
Huh?
So where the hell is hole one?
This one, no that's two,
this one's two.
Two.
Where we gonna start from?
We got to start with number one,
where the hell.
That's what I'm saying,
what are we doing?
John, you're no help.
Number one.
You see one?
John's John, you know?
Why is this so difficult?
No, it doesn't say one.
Not making it easy to find the hole.
Is it just me?
This is you, you lead the way.
I just follow.
OK. Ladies first. Come on.
OK.
OK.
No, no.
[LAUGHS]
That's what happens,
that's what happens.
Is it my turn?
You can go, yeah.
Purple on purple.
Asta manana, m*therf*cker.
[ALL SHOUT AND LAUGH]
Yeah, look at that.
Couldn't go any worse than that,
could it? No.
[LAUGHS]
Oh, sh*t.
[ALL SHOUT]
How do you defend?
I mean, how am I gonna defend that?
'Me Thais and Pat, it's a...
..it's a good,
it's a good dream, right?
To be kumbaya, everybody gets along.
And if she's willing
to put the effort in,
I'm willing to
put the effort in too.
No, no, no.
Adios.
[ALL GROAN]
'But we'll see how that goes.
What can I say, you got me.
Thais is winning.
You gonna take a loss.
You didn't win already.
Let's just wait for her
to come back, let's go sit down.
Still gonna defeat you.
I talked to Thais this morning
and I wanna, I wanna tell you
the same thing,
You were a little hard towards her
and, like, I'd really like you just
kind of back off a little bit.
Is that her interpretation?
Yeah, exactly.
Well, I'd like to hear it from her.
OK.
I'm in the middle
because she doesn't speak...
OK.
..she doesn't speak English.
Can I have an interpreter?
That's me.
Unfortunately, unfortunately...
I'm sorry if I'm on trial...
..that's me.
I don't trust you.
I need to hire my own interpreter.
This is me telling you, not her.
And I'm listening.
This is me, like, that
can't be every interaction.
I'm on both you guys' side,
I want this to work for everyone.
I don't want you to, like, make it
so I have to pick one or the other.
That would be
one of the worst scenarios
that I'd have to go through.
And this is just something that
we're gonna have to all figure out.
What we went through you know...
..bad times, good times,
you know, that's real sh*t.
And I love him.
Not being able
to be with my brother,
that would, that would be
a tough, you know, situation.
You know, I'll have to,
I'll have to deal with that,
but, I, you know, I hope not. Yeah.
I want her to see,
like, you know, that...
..you're a good person
and that the guy who, you know,
drinks a six pack before noon
isn't really the real you.
You know, once she sees who you are,
she's gonna love you just like I do.
'I feel like
John puts up the hard exterior
because just knowing how we grew up.
Our family was not a family
of unconditional love
and it was rough.
So it's hard for him
to let anyone get close to him.
He definitely has
his own personality
and he has, you know,
his way of dealing things,
and for most people, it,
it might not rub them the right way,
but if Thais can understand that...
..if you can understand
how someone grew up...
..it makes, a,
just makes a big difference.
I want everyone to just be a family.
'When you love someone,
you have to understand
or take their baggage
that they come with.
That's why I need her, you know,
to love John too.
I love you, too.
line:75% position:50% We'll see you later.
'After Jumah,
I am just feeling out of place.
I wanted Bilal to introduce me
to people at the Mosque,
but I stood there just by myself.
He seems like he wants his space.
So Bilal dropped me
back at the house
while he take the kids to practice.
Yoga tends to help, you know,
calm my nerves
and help against anxiety and stress.
So I'm hoping it will make me
feel better.
And I just wanna
have a conversation with Bilal.
He is upset, he's keeping distance,
it's a lot right now.
I am thousands of miles
away from home,
so it's like,
I can't just take a taxi and go home.
I have to stay here
and figure it out.
[EXHALES]
You look nice.
I guess you're dressed up for...
I know supposedly we supposed to
go out, have a date night.
But I really kind of don't feel
like it, to be honest with you.
Still kind of taken away
for, like, what happened in the car.
I was playing with you, it was not
serious. It was not serious.
I mean playing
it was, like, you know,
if you could have did something
like that one time.
And then I was taken off guard,
and I was like,
"OK, did she just do
what I thought she did?"
Then after I told you,
like, that wasn't cool,
you know, where I come from, sign of
disrespect, and you did it again.
And then you even like tried
to grab my face, I'm driving.
I was just playing.
Turning my face.
I was just playing with you.
About to, about to wreck.
Then I was like, "If you do that
again I'm like pull over,"
and then you did it again. Like,
you hit me three different times.
I just feel like that's how I behave
with my brother-in-law
it's, like, it's not a big deal.
We romp with each other,
we hit, give each other elbows.
That's one thing, elbows,
I'm good with all that.
We hit each other
behind the head as...
Hitting each other in the head?
..as a playful,
was it an abusive hit?
You hit me pretty hard
on the back of the head.
It was not pretty hard,
how was my countenance,
how was my face,
how was my expressions, was I angry?
Or was I smiling,
was I looking for laughter?
I think there's
a cultural differences.
It wasn't meant to offend you because
I would have never done it again.
I literally told you
it was offensive.
I'm the biggest jokester that it is,
so I get all of that
fun and humour and all that,
but then there's also a time
when you do something
and somebody's like,
"You overstepped your boundaries."
It's like, "My bad,
I didn't mean it that way."
But then for you it was just like,
you know,
just, you kept, you kept, you kept.
'I realise, definitely
Bilal and my sense of humour,
it's different.
He played a prank on me,
and I moved forward,
it was not the best of pranks
you know, coming to a whole country
having your, having me work so hard,
and to see something
I was not expecting.
And for him to not give me
the same allowance,
he's not willing to move on
from something so petty.
I feel like, Bilal,
he tends to get hurt so easily.
Where I come from, we say things,
we offend each other, and we move on.
If I was expecting that reaction,
I would have never have done it.
But if I did something
that was offensive,
like, let's say if I do,
do a joke later on, to you,
the reality is
that if I did hurt you,
I would be sincere in it, apologise.
It wasn't that serious,
but I understand,
it's an offence to you
and I will not do it again,
but at the same time,
when it occurred I felt isolated,
you ignored me,
I was standing outside the Masjid
for a while before you came.
This is not my place,
this is not my country.
I mean, obviously
I don't want you to cry,
but it was, it was
pretty hurtful to me. You know?
And sometimes the best thing to do
in a situation is to be silent.
So it was best for me
to think about it
and... be able to talk to you
after the fact.
Now I feel like I'm being punished
because you cancelled our date night.
I didn't say
I'd cancelled the date night.
I said I didn't really
feel like going
because we needed to
talk about this.
I mean, everything was just,
the day did not go
the way that I hoped it would go.
I'm very, very sorry
and I will not do it again.
'I grew up play fighting
all the time, we play fight,
I play fight with the kids,
so it's not about play fighting,
like being playful.
That's that's one thing.
But it's about, you know,
hey, when somebody tells you,
like, "Don't do that."
Then it's kind of like don't,
you know, you kind of, you kind of
disrespect me.
If you're sincere...
I'm very sincere.
..then I accept the apology,
you know.
I'm glad we were able to,
to talk about this.
Yeah.
You know.
'Shaeeda's apology
is very sincere,
but the reality is
we do need more time
to be with each other, more time to
get to know each other, much more.
Right now we are not ready
to walk down that aisle.
[SIGHS]
The coolest grandma in the world.
I really hope my grandma like Miona.
Come here, baby.
So what do you think
of Rapid City so far?
I want to move from here,
definitely.
But it's a good place to save money,
so don't speak for both of us.
What's your name?
Nice to meet you, Guillermo.
Tonight is the high school reunion.
I haven't seen my ex-boyfriend Chris
in ten years.
We were in love bad.
But what happened?
I'm going through
her text messages,
she was like, "It was so good seeing
you, like, that kiss was amazing."
It's my car, I'm gonna drive.
So are you gonna
get in the car or not?
Oh, my God.
What you thinking about?
Just feeling so overwhelmed
and happy.
I feel as if
I've met the right person.
Yeah.
You understand?
Maybe the person
I'm meant to be with doesn't exist.
Nice to meet you.
Oh, my God.
I know my family may be
a little apprehensive of Bini
because they saw how bad
things were going before.
I understand it's now a problem
for her to wear a bikini.
Like, is this freaking you out?
Got a lot of it going on.
You met me, the first picture
you ever saw was of me in a bikini.
No, I did not say that!
You're, that's bullshit, Mohamed.