02x10 - Tsironis Family

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Tonight on "supernanny"...

Jo meets the tsironis family... Come on in.

Whose troublesome twins

And -year-old daughter... Ow!

Have mom and dad teetering on the edge of insanity. Unh!

Thankful their twin preemies are healthy now,

These parents won't dish out the discipline.

I can't believe you just did that.

While their daughter is hurting for attention...

[Crying]

Jo surprises mom and dad with a new diagnosis.

Will they have what it takes to follow jo's remedies?

But he's four.

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Well, I'm really excited to see

What family we've got this week. Let's take a look.

Hi, we're the tsironis family.

I'm elizabeth. This is my husband bob.

You don't need to play with your food and make a mess.

We have three children.

Kate, who is , and twin boys--

Teddy and nicholas who just turned .

[Gasps] look at them.

I work in the securities industry,

And I probably get home around , : every evening,

And my wife works a couple days a week.

Our boys, teddy and nicholas.

Were born at weeks gestation.

The doctors didn't think that they had

A very good, um, chance of survival.

We are blessed with these two beautiful boys...

But they're naughty. Ow!

Oh. Get over here right now.

How do we discipline them,

Because we're just so happy that they're here

And alive and healthy? Do you wanna have a time-out?

Things are so bad lately between the boys,

And there's so much fighting--

They throw... Hyah!

They hit...

Hey.

They bite... Ow! Don't bite me!

Ow!these boys are gettin' away with far too much.

[Elizabeth] the other night, the boys were

Bouncing on the bed, nicholas stopped, teddy came up,

Pushed him, nicholas hit his leg,

And he ended up in a full leg cast.

I am exhausted from chasing teddy and nicholas,

And they're always off in two different directions.

It's just a big game for them. They run away constantly.

They're running around like headless chickens.

Dinner is...

A scene out of "animal house. "

[Bob] teddy! They're throwing their food

On the walls, on the floor, throwing their milk,

The next thing you know, the whole plate's on the floor.

[Elizabeth] shoving food into their mouths.

[Bob] right. Spitting it out on the tables.

You threw your spaghetti all over the place.

Feeding time at the zoo.

Kate is a big tattletale.

But she forgets to mention that she instigated it. No!

We're finding that, uh, um, they're controlling us

More than we're controlling them. Hello?

Hello? All done.

Lately, I'm not enjoying my kids.

I want to be having fun.

I want to enjoy their company. Aah!

Supernanny, we really, really need your help.

Just say you're done. Nicholas. Nicholas.

Supernanny, we are desperate.

Please come help our family.

Hang in there. I'm on my way.

[Boy whining]

Is this for real? Come on in.

I'm elizabeth. Pleased to meet you,

Very nice to meet you. Elizabeth, I'm jo.

Thank you very much for being here. Hello. What's your name?

This is teddy. [Crying]

This is teddy. Hi, teddy. [Whines]

Can you say hi? No.

Kate, could you say hi to jo?

Hi, pleased to meet you. How are you? I'm jo jo.

[Elizabeth] when jo walked into our house,

My insides settled immediately.

Jo is so calming.

She just brings this presence of warmth and calm.

Nicholas has had it. He's on the couch.

Nicholas is not feeling well. He's probably got a cold.

Today I'm gonna be here observing,

So I just want you to just carry on as normal with the kids.

I'm just gonna kind of take a seat back and just watch you.

Teddy, why don't we get you dressed?

No.yeah.

[Jo] the first thing that mom had to do for the day

Was to get teddy dressed, but he didn't want to.

Come here. Hey, teddy,

He runs a lot. He's a big runner. Teddy, come here.

He ran away. Where did he go? I know.

Teddy? Teddy, come here. [Kate] mama.

Teddy. Mama.

Yeah, kate? Look at the cookies.

Sweet. These are the bell ones.

Bells! Mm-hmm.

And there's the heart ones,

The little horsey ones, the rabbit ones.

[Jo] I'm starting to realize where mom's attention is going,

And it's not being shared with kate.

Teddy immediately was running away from me under the table.

It's a big game. "Chase me, chase me."

Let's not chase you all day. [Whines]

Come on, teddy. Let's get your shoes on.

Come on. You wanna wear your white shoes or your gray shoes?

Why don't we put on our school shoes? [Whines] no.

You don't want your school shoes on.

Just give him two choices and move on.

Why is he so cross now? [Teddy screaming]

Teddy. What do you want with the shoes, teddy?

I don't know what you're trying to--you want your rain boots?

Great idea. Let's put the rain boots on.

There. ♪ Ta-da ♪

Okay, come on. Let's go outside

And play in the beautiful weather.

[Jo] while mom was outside with teddy,

I went downstairs to have a chat with kate.

Wow, look how big this is.

Do you tidy up down here?

I clean here, and I clean there.

I clean everywhere.

Well, you--so you're just very hardworking.

Cleaning everywhere.

Imagine the fact that she was talking,

And as we were communicating,

I felt like I was having a conversation with a teenager.

Do you get time to play with mommy and daddy?

Daddy doesn't really play 'cause daddy's lazy

Because he wants to watch his own movies.

Really?

My mom plays with me,

But when the boys cry,

We can't play our card games.

You only get to play with mommy and daddy

When the boys are behaving well. Mm-hmm.

[Jo] kate told me in a nutshell that she doesn't get

Any of mom's time because she's too busy

Having to deal with the twins when they play up.

Well, nicholas doesn't come out at time-outs.

He doesn't? Only--only teddy.

He doesn't understand

That he has to stay in his time-out

'Cause he did something bad.

All right,

And are you a good girl? Do you stay in your time-out?

I don't go in time-outs...

You don't? 'Cause I don't do anything bad.

Well, that's just fantastic then.

Okay, let's go upstairs. [Kate] okay.

[Jo] kate's very smart,

And she's very mature socially,

And I could see those wheels turning around in her head

When we were talking together.

When I got outside,

Mom was having a hard time communicating with teddy.

What do you need? [Teddy whining]

Would you like to sh**t hoops? No.

Teddy, use your words

And tell me what's wrong. Do you feel sick?

Use the words, honey. I don't know what you want.

Do you want your shoes off?

Say, "off, mommy."

Say, "off, mommy."

Jo could see the frustration on my face.

That's my life. My life is frustration lately.

Do you think you're as frustrated as the children are?

On a different level. I'm more frustrated.

I'll go outside when I get away from the kids, and... [Teddy whines]

Do you have any me time? Yeah, I have, you know,

A twins group that I go to once a month. [Whining]

Honey, what's wrong?

You just want me to hold you?

See, now katie just has to go off, because she knows

He won't let me alone.

We were all in the backyard... Where do you wanna go?

And mom was on the hammock with teddy,

And she started to explain the boys

And their birth and how difficult that was

And the traumatic time in her life.

They were about a pound ,

They got down to about / ounces.

Okay, they both had ileostomies,

They both had p.d.a.s, they had heart surgery...

Um, broviacs, chest tubes, the whole nine yards.

They were see-through. Their eyes were fused shut.

You could see their organs through their skin.

They didn't have skin yet.

We didn't know for about two months

If we were gonna be able to bring them home or not.

So that's where a lot of the frustration comes from.

You know what I mean?

You've got these babies that made it, and they don't

Have eye problems, they don't have cerebral palsy,

They don't have any of the things

That preemies are supposed to have.

And that's why when they, you know, do something,

If I yell at them or get really angry, it's hard

Because they're here, you know? They're god's gift to us.

[Jo] it's an exceptional story. I mean, it really is,

And I feel that mom's inner frustration

Comes from the fact that she's just so grateful

That her little boys are alive, but at the same time,

She's having problems trying to control their behavior.

I'm not dealing with this situation very well.

I'm so frustrated,

'Cause I'm not happy right now.

Coming up on...

While mom and dad search for answers...

Not only does a foot cramp just appear,

But it also just goes.

It's never crossed my mind.

Kate and jill have a heart to heart...

Is your foot hurting you? Mm-hmm.

Is it, or--or is that something that you tell mommy

So that she can give you cuddles?

When "supernanny" returns.

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[Bob] how's it goin'? [Elizabeth] I don't know.

Hey, jo. Bob tsironis. Very nice to meet you. Nice to meet you, bob.

How are you? Pleased to meet you, too. Very well, thank you.

Thank you for comin' to our home. You're welcome.

Just havin' a good day observing, yeah, we had kind of a...

And, uh, watching.

Hi, nicholas. How you doin', buddy? Is that nicholas?

[Jo] just after dad got home, he ran out to do some errands.

Be back in just a little bit.

Okay.

[Jo] kate was on the sofa downstairs,

And she was banging the bowls,

Hoping that it would get mom's attention

Because she was busy dealing with the boys.

[Whining] no. [Kate banging bowls]

[Elizabeth] sweetie, here, here's the heart.

You can take a turn, and nicholas takes a turn.

[Whines] no.

No hitting. [Teddy crying]

That is not nice, nicholas.

Okay? That hurt teddy.

What do you say to teddy? [Screaming]

What do you say to teddy, nicho?

That's not nice.

Do the boys bicker like this between themselves?

Instead of sharing or taking turns or whatnot,

They just hit instead of it. [Jo] this was meant to be playtime,

But the children were so bored.

There's not much fun happening here.

[Whining] oh, teddy, can you give it a rest, hon, please?

Come on, let's play cards.

Kate has foot cramps so I have to rub her feet.

It didn't look like she was in that much pain.

She look broed

I think these foot cramps might be more about getting moms attention.

[Kate] mama. Mommy's not gonna drop what she's doing

Every time your feet hurt. [Kate crying]

Kate, rub your own feet.

Why do you think she's crying now?

Because of her foot cramps.

She has 'em all the time.

[Jo] I'm gonna go upstairs and just see kate.

It was really sad. Kate ran upstairs absolutely sobbing,

And I needed to find out what the heart of this issue was.

Come here. Come here.

Look at jo jo. Look at jo jo.

You wanna have a cuddle with mommy? Mm-hmm.

And play with mommy? Mm-hmm.

And do you get much of mommy's time?no.

Why is that? Why do you think mommy doesn't give you cuddles?

Because she's always playin' with the boys.

[Jo] she told me that she just wants some love.

She wants some affection from her mom

And explained how she doesn't get that,

Because mom spends so much time with the boys.

[Whining] kate, your foot--

Is your foot hurting you? Mm-hmm.

Is it, or--or is that something that you tell mommy

So that she'll give you cuddles?

What one is it? It's...

And I want to be there with mommy.

[Jo] kate admitted that she gets foot cramps

So that she can get her mom's attention,

And that's just heartbreaking.

[Crying]

[Doorbell rings]

Let's see who's at the door.

Let's see if we can do this with the pizza and you.

[Jo] it was dinnertime, and I know that

This time of the day is a real big issue for mom and dad.

Nick, you're not in a barn. You chew.

Nick, you don't like your cheese?

Just leave the cheese on there.

That's for you. Put it there.

Just leave it on your plate, okay?

Just leave it on your plate.

Nick, you can't throw your food. Why do you do that?

You're just makin' a mess.

[Kate] yeah, like a troublemaker. [Laughs]

Mealtimes for the boys is playtime. It's havoc.

[Elizabeth] come on, guys. [Bob] nicholas.

No, nicholas. I'm done.

They throw drinks on the floor, throw their food.

Hyah! [Bob] hey!

Come on, bud.

There's no discipline or consequences.

Sit down, okay?

This family certainly have a few problems

That need to be ironed out,

And so I'm going to sit down and discuss this with them.

Elizabeth and bob, I've seen more than enough,

And I would love to sit down with the pair of you

And discuss the issues that I feel need to be addressed.

So let's go through them.

[Elizabeth] I'm a little bit nervous

To go in and meet with jo,

Because I got a few of the looks from jo,

And I thought, "oh, no,

"She's gonna have us for lunch."

[Jo] let me start by saying that--

How inspirational it is to hear the story

With the struggle, the love,

Having two premature babies,

Teddy and nicholas,

That are really, let's face it, a miracle.

Mm-hmm.

You have an amazing daughter, kate.

Thank you.

But... [Elizabeth] mm.

You're living in the past.

Where you were a few years ago mentally

Isn't the same place that you're at now.

It's hard to not remember that every day.

I thought I'd moved past the fear,

But there's still that-- where I want to protect them.

But what that has ultimately done

Is stopped you from allowing the children

To be able to progress.

I mean, mealtime is ridiculous.

They're running around doing what they want,

And you guys won't discipline the boys

For the fear of what?

Seeing that they've, you know, gone through

What they've gone through, and here they are

Finally up and walking and running around,

And playing like other kids do,

And we have cut them some slack.

And that's created bad habits for the boys.

Let's talk about kate.

Now she has these... Cramps...

In her feet, right,

And not only does her foot cramp

Just appear, but it also just goes. Mm-hmm.

Now have we taken her to the doctors?

I mean, what have we done about that? Yes, we have.

[Elizabeth] there's nothing wrong.

There's nothing wrong with her feet.

I don't know what it is... I don't know for sure, either.

But when the doctors are saying

There's nothing wrong...

So you feel then that she lies.

I don't know if she's lying about the foot cramps.

Yeah, I'm not-- I'm not sure yet. I don't know.

How hard do you think it is for a little girl

To have to sit and think,

"In order for me to get my hugs and kisses,

"I'll make up there's something wrong with me."

We shortchange her with our time.

The point I'm trying to make is how do you make a child

Recognize that they're loved equally?

When they're with their siblings... Right.

The attention and focus

And love and affection is always... Yep.

Diverted to the boys.

I never would have thought about that

Until you just brought that up right now.

It's never crossed my mind.

Now they're healthy, and now they're running around,

And now they need you on a different level.

It did kind of hit home, because there is a part of me

Where it's just, I look at those boys and I see

A pound baby in an incubator,

And as a family,

We need to move on past that,

And I'm very grateful that she brought that up.

Are you ready to take that first step?

Absolutely.i am.

Good, because so am I with you,

And together, we can make

A really drastic change in a positive way.

All right. Enough of this talk. Let's get down to business.

Coming up on...

When it comes to discipline, jo makes a point.

You are going to sit two minutes

On the naughty point. We don't hit and we don't push.

[Crying]

Sweetie, are you tired?

And kate tests mom one last time.

[Kate] foot cramp.

When "supernanny" returns, but first,

A tip from "supernanny."

Parents, if you don't have a whole hour to prepare dinner,

Make sure you do what you can beforehand.

Chop and peel the vegetables,

And make sure that you season your meat

And make your patties before.

Every little bit of time you can save counts.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

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[Jo] I designed a routine to eliminate some of the stress

For elizabeth and bob. It's going to give them structure

And a whole lot of fun for this family.

Now this routine has got

"Sitting down at lunch" is a first for you, mom,

And I want you to do it as well, dad,

Because mealtimes are an issue.

So we're gonna set examples. The children'll watch,

They're gonna learn, we're gonna instill manners.

"Magic play" is all about being creative

And jumping into your children's world.

When jo told us about magic play,

I thought it was just a wonderful idea,

And I think that was the means

To change and let go of the reins some

And let them be playing a lot more.

And that's what we need to do here.

We need to loosen up a little bit and move on

From our traumatic experiences

And get silly.

Love it.

Deal. [Jo] all right.

Elizabeth and bob never discipline their children.

So today I brought in the naughty point.

This is called "the naughty point."

And at that point, so where the arrow is facing,

The child has to sit and take the consequence.

Sounds good in theory...

But one kid here, this kid does something naughty over there...

Mm-hmm. So now this one's gonna run away,

And I've gotta go get that one. That's right,

Because this naughty point is a second one.

One for nicholas and one for teddy.

Voilaá.she has the answer. There's two naughty points.

And if it means you place one here,

And around the corner, you stick this up,

Then they have to sit at the naughty points.

She's got me covered.

[Jo] it was a nice surprise to see teddy

Break in the naughty point so soon.

Kate, you want your crust off. [Kate] yeah.

Hold on, teddy. Almost ready.

[Whining]

Guys, guys, guys. We're almost ready, okay?

What happened?

[Kate] teddy pushed me into the...

Teddy, teddy.

That's your warning. No pushing kate,

Or you're going to the naughty point. Do you understand?

Okay? Say you're sorry to kate, please.

No.

You make him realize. He needs to understand

The impact of his behavior.

Teddy, go over to kate and give her her kiss,

Or just say you're sorry. No.

You are going to sit two minutes on the naughty point.

We don't hit and we don't push. It hurts people very much.

Okay? Sit, please.

Supernanny knew better--

Like put--putting the naughty points up for the boys.

It's gonna be a long night.

If ted snuck in the middle of it.

Move it. Take him back.

Take him straight back to here.

Okay, let's carry on.

I could see that in teddy's face as soon as we were finished

That he knew there was a new sheriff in town.

[Jo] while mom was getting dinner ready,

Kate was falling asleep on dad's lap.

We're ready to eat. Let's get 'em on the table.

[Bob] come on. Come on.

[Kate] no. Yeah, let's eat din-din.

[Crying]

Oh, I know what's comin' next.

[Jo] so do i.

[Crying]

[Elizabeth] I knew she was tired,

And right into the foot cramps. I thought, "here we go."

[Bob] what's wrong, kate?

[Jo] after my conversation with kate,

I wanted to tell mom and dad there was more

To this foot cramp issue than they were seeing or believing.

Okay, this is about bringing out the truth, okay?

And her recognizing that's not the way to get your attention.

Okay?

Okay, I need for you to just try and tell me

What's really bothering you, okay?

[Crying and screaming]

Sweetie, are you tired?

When it's your child, you have to doubt everything.

I've taken her to the doctor.

No, there's nothing wrong with her feet.

She has enough potassium in her diet.

It's nothing physical.

We know it's not foot cramps.

Ask her what is it she'd like to do.

What is it she would like, mommy?

What do you want mommy to do?

[Elizabeth] it's hard to watch your child like that.

Literally, you can feel her pain,

And I'm looking at jo like, "jo, look at her."

You know, this is not faking.

Right now.

Okay, kate, come here.

Kate, come here. [Screaming]

Jo jo is talking to you, okay?

I know this is an issue

That's difficult for mom and dad to accept,

But kids will go to drastic measures

To get their parents' attention.

Mommy and daddy want to spend time with you after dinner,

But this temper tantrum

Has got to stop.

If you carry on having this temper tantrum,

Then I will place you on the naughty point.

Do you understand me, kate?

Right.

Then let me see a good girl behaving herself

And when dinner is finished,

Mommy and daddy will spend some time with you after.

Please sit at the table, and let's stop this behavior.

There is an element of kate

That wants to be able to tell the truth,

Hoping that she will receive the love and affection

That she wants unconditionally

Without having to lie.

You see, the temper tantrum

Has elevated itself, and it's come back down again.

Once mom sat down with dad,

And they started to eat,

All of a sudden kate's cramps were gone.

To see her ten minutes later be absolutely fine,

It was eye-opening.

This explains so much.

All right, you know, jo,

You know what you're talking about.

Coming up on "supernanny"...

She's .

While mom has a tough time facing the truth...

Okay, we're going to have fun, all right?

Jo gets the family to sail through unchartered waters.

Captain, there's trouble on the horizon!

When "supernanny" returns.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

I brought mom and kate together

To discuss kate's "storytelling,"

Because I feel it's an issue that mom needs to address now.

I want to discuss kate's foot cramps.

Now she felt she had to lie

Because it was the only way she could get your attention

And bob's attention.

And I want you to explain to her

That when she does tell lies,

It has an effect on other people around her.

Immediately it made me very uncomfortable,

Because I just have never talked to kate like that.

I just have never said, you know, "why are you lying?"

Kate, do you feel like

You have to tell me that your feet hurt

When you want mommy's attention? Mm-hmm.

Okay, you don't have to do that anymore, okay?

Who is that. What she'’s been doing?

Okay?

If you can't say it,

How are you going to teach your daughter?

She's .

[Elizabeth] it's not easy

Looking at your -year-old daughter

And saying, "you're lying, honey."

And look what she has felt like she's had to do,

Because of her intelligence.

What jo and I have just been talking about

And what jo is teaching me

Is how to spend my quality time with you

And your brothers at the same time, okay?

Mommy didn't know how to do that before really well.

You don't have to make up stories anymore.

At first, I was very uncomfortable,

But you know, it worked.

Kate came right out and said, "no, my feet didn't hurt.

"I just said that because I wanted mommy's cuddles

"Or wanted mommy's attention."

I mean, I was surprised.

She understands the difference between the truth and a lie.

I'm right here.

You can come right up.

I wanted mum and dad to loosen up

And have fun with the children,

So I introduced a technique called magic play.

Nicholas, look at the pirate ship!

The pirate ship!

The first step is to make sure that you create that fantasy.

Yeah, he sees it now.

The second is to get everybody involved.

Okay, elizabeth, bob,

We're going to have fun, all right?

Yay!

There are no rules to this game, all right?

Just let it flow naturally.

When jo wanted me to be a pirate,

I was like, "okay, not my gig."

[Elizabeth] oh, my gosh. Look at all this stuff.

[Jo] aye, aye, captain!

It's important that dad gets involved with the kids,

Not so that he just loosens up,

But also so that he takes the stress off elizabeth,

Because she plays with the kids all day.

Take a look through your telescope, captain.

Captain, there's trouble on the horizon!

[Jo] I didn't have to force

Any kind of energy out of bob or elizabeth.

I love dressing up like this.

[Jo] yeah, well, go for it then, bob.

Great. That's what it's all about, you know?

They just went with it.

And they were finding the treasure.

It's a map!

It's a map? A map?

"X" marks the spot.

[Jo] it wasn't about foot cramps.

It wasn't about mom being frustrated.

It was about the treasure hunt.

Jo jo, uh, hid some treasure.

Look at that!

There's a sword!

And I found a wand.

Mom, do I already have a wand?

[Elizabeth] it was fun. It was great.

It was not a chore. It was great watching the kids,

And I definitely wasn't stressed by doing it.

This is worth a million bucks right here.

[Laughs] honey, I'd marry you all over again.

Thank you.

That was the funnest game we ever had.

And look, now they're having a duel fight here.

I still have one little breath in me.

Aah!

So I'm off home now, nicholas.

Can jo jo have a hug?

Bye, teddy.

See you soon.

Kate, give me a hug.

Thank you so much for helping us.

You're welcome.

[Elizabeth] I'm excited that jo gets to come back.

I don't want to be nervous about it.

I'm grateful for everything that she's done for us so far.

I'm going to make her proud.

Bye!

See you later. Take care.

Bye-bye!

[Jo] the family really had a lot of fun today,

And I just hope they continue that whilst I'm gone.

Coming up on "supernanny"...

When jo leaves...

Uh-oh. Why'd you do this, bud?

Dad is left picking up all the pieces.

No!

You are not in control of the boys.

And mom is about to throw in the towel.

This is your warning! I'm frustrated.

When "supernanny" returns.

But first, a tip from "supernanny."

Parents, if you find yourself refereeing a soccer match

Inside your own living room,

Make sure you establish the difference

Between indoor toys and outdoor toys,

So the contents of your home do not get broke,

And you can bring the kids outside to have some fun.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

♪ Be good, be good ♪

[Jo] I've left bob and elizabeth to implement the techniques.

I'm going to be keeping my eye on them,

So I hope they do well.

Boys, you need to come out of mommy's car right now.

Now this is your warning.

Boys, if you don't come out of the car right now,

You're going to the naughty spot.

You make the choice.

You're both going to the naughty point right now.

Let's go.

[Jo] let's see how you handle the naughty points.

I'm putting you in the naughty point

For not listening to mommy and coming out of my car.

You are not to play in mommy's car.

This is your naughty point.

[Jo] stick with it, mom.

Don't get frustrated.

[Elizabeth] so I'm putting them back and forth,

And I'm not giving them eye contact,

But I put them right back,

And I'm trying not to say a word to them,

And it is hard to not say anything,

But I'm trying to be as consistent as she showed me.

♪♪♪

[Jo] come on, mom, stay tough disciplining the boys.

You know you haven't in the past.

[Whines]

I put you on the naughty point,

Because you were playing in mommy's car,

And I don't want you to play in mommy's car.

It's not safe.

It's not safe. Do you understand?

[Cries]

Thank you for saying you're sorry.

Do you understand why? I do.

[Jo] that was great.

Way to handle both boys at the same time.

Yeah!

I had to go to a meeting.

I couldn't miss it,

So bobby had to do dinner by himself with the kids.

[Bob] you want a pb and j?

Let's see that toothache.

Okay, there's your corn.

You guys gotta...

You guys have to at least try it, okay?

Uh-oh!

I can't believe you just did that.

[Jo] dad, those boys need a warning!

Ted, if you do that...

Nick, why'd you do this, bud?

[Jo] dad are you going to stop them

And put them on the naughty point anytime soon?

[Bob] I found it easier, if you will,

Not applying the naughty point at all.

I didn't want to push their buttons.

I felt it would just escalate,

Just the exponential screaming and crying,

And I just didn't want to send them there.

[Jo] well, they certainly didn't learn anything there,

Did they?

Honey, you've got a cast on.

You can't put mommy's shoes on.

Do you want to go downstairs with kate?

Ow! Oh, the toe!

Oh, oh!

Go downstairs and play without getting into trouble, please.

[Bleep]

[Jo] settle down, mom. Take a deep breath.

No, nicholas! No!

Nicholas!

Mom, you've gotta get a handle on this.

Things are starting to get out of control.

Hey!

You are not in control of the boys.

Is kate exempt from the naughty point?

No!

This is your warning.

Do not go and take things from kate,

And do not take things from nicholas.

[Jo] mom, get a handle on this.

[Elizabeth] nicholas is all over

Taking kate's things away from her,

So I'm trying to break up that thing,

Trying to teach kate

To not just throw every toy that we have in our entire house

All around the basement.

I'm frustrated, okay?

That's what's happening right now.

[Jo] it looks like things are getting a little too bumpy.

I'm heading back.

The dvd is a great part of this progress,

Because it allows the parents

To see exactly where they've gone wrong,

So together we can watch that and make amendments.

Okay, so let's take a look and see what we've got here.

You are on the naughty point

For not listening to mommy and coming out of my car.okay.

It was positive that you were consistent

In placing them back.

It was positive for the fact that you gave explanation

When you went back, and you also got the apology,

So that was very positive.

Oh, dad's dinner. I've been looking forward to seeing this.

I want corn... Uh-oh.

I can't believe you just did that.

Ted, if you do that...

Nick, why'd you do this, bud, huh?

Any comments on that?

I feel as though I'm putting in %.

I don't know if you even really wanna try.

I do think I should try.

I'm busting my ass, bobby.

Right. I just didn't feel that was the night to do it.

I thought it was going to be a mountain of work that evening

To try to get them to understand the naughty point

And get through it and finally have the night end, so...

Bob, what part have you ever thought

That it wasn't going to be hard the day you start?

So you're saying this was a night

I should have gone to : or ?

Yes! Because this was a time when your child

Was clearly throwing food on the floor,

And you weren't doing anything about it

But giving him excuses. Come on, bob--

Okay, let's go on to the next one.

Okay, let's talk about this, though,

Because it is creating really bad habits at the table,

And what it does is make elizabeth's job harder.

And I'm aware of that, and I totally understand that.

So can we start today?

Yes.

Good. Did you hear that? I heard it.

Ah, let's move on.

Last one. Uh-oh.

Nicholas!

You are not in control of the boys.

So she should have been given a warning there

For that behavior. Mm-hmm.

So now she feels she can carry on and behave that way. She's laughing at me.

Kate gets the naughty point,

And she would apply it very easily.

This is a big world change.

So I'm missing this whole part here.

I'm frustrated, okay?

That's what's happening right now.

That's it. That's all I can take.

That's when I cried.

So how do we change that frustration?

Well, obviously, if I would have taken care of kate,

I don't think anything else would have snowballed.

Yeah. Okay. So are we ready

To roll up our sleeves and get working?

Yes, we are.

Elizabeth, you on board? Yeah.

I've been on board, baby.

Coming up on...

Dad gets a chance to redeem himself...

I'm gonna take these away if you don't start eating your food.

While mom learns her lesson... You're a very good teacher.

You don't make us feel like we're loser parents.

When "supernanny" returns.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

Mom is still getting frustrated with the kids,

So one way to eliminate that

Is to give them an activity that they can all focus on

And have fun with.

We're going to play a fishing game, all right?

And I need a big girl to be the timekeeper.

Ah, okay.

We're going to use our fishing rods

To dip it into the fishing pond.

All right, nicholas, you can go first.

Take--we need ten minutes, please.

Nicholas, come on, nicholas.

Lift it up, lift it up. Yay! Well done.

You got a fish.

Okay, teddy's turn.

Teddy was concentrating so much so that he could catch the fish.

And when he did, that sense of pride

Was just written all over his face,

And it's priceless.

Yay! Good boy, nicholas.

Good job, nicholas.

That's it, teddy. Keep going.

Teddy wanted that fish, and he just kept at it and at it

And he didn't get frustrated, which I thought for sure

He'd launch the fishing pole, but he didn't.

Yay! You did it, teddy.

The game was incredibly successful

For everybody involved, but I do think

It's going to be a game that the children will want to play

Time and time again, which is fantastic.

You did very well in keeping them focused

And moving on, and your enthusiasm was %.

This was a fun, creative way of getting them

To play with each other and to concentrate on one thing.

It was great.

Mealtimes are still chaotic, so I wanted to teach mom

And especially dad

How to discipline the children during dinner.

Teddy, honey, it's dinnertime right now.

Can you move your trains and your cars to the side?

Just put 'em right here.

I know, but then you won't be able to eat your food.

Teddy didn't stop playing with his trains,

And dad needed to step up.

Dad, this is what I want you to say to teddy--

"If you don't show daddy that you're eating your food,

"I have to take your cars away from the table."

If you don't eat your food,

I have to take the cars away, okay?

Okay. Can we take them away?

Even though you've said what you're gonna do,

If he doesn't start to eat his food,

So let him now make that choice.

I'm gonna take these away

If you don't start eating your food, okay?

Look at daddy, teddy. [Elizabeth] nicholas...

See? Take one bite.

I like it.i know!

When I have the kids and I give them that extra leeway

That I should not be giving them, I do see how it undermines

What elizabeth's been trying to do with them.

[Bob] good boy. Good boy.

Dad did a really good job,

So he needs to stick to this technique

So that dinnertime can run a lot smoother.

It really felt good to be able

To get through dinner the the way we did.

I don't think we've gotten through a meal like that

In a very, very long time.

You're a very good teacher. Thank you.

It's easy to take suggestions from you,

And take advice from you,

'Cause you don't, um...

Don't what?

You don't--you don't make us feel like we're loser parents

Of the century, you know what I mean?

You know, because of your courage in coming forth

And realizing that you needed help,

I was able to give it to you.

I just don't want you to go yet.

[Laughing]

There's a little bit of me

That's not ready to say good-bye to jo

Because she's so positive, she's so encouraging.

She's... She's such a strong person

To have on your side.

You need working together.

Remember, it's really important about being on the same page.

We will, I promise. All right?

Don't let frustration become anger.

She wants you to win.

She wants you to do well,

And... It's hard to say good-bye to somebody like that.

You guys, jo jo's gonna go.

Can you come over and say bye?

Come on, nick. Jo jo's going bye-bye.

I can leave this house knowing that I've given

Elizabeth and bob some good sound advice

And have educated them in understanding

What makes their children tick, and ultimately,

What that would do is only bring them closer to their children.

Wasn't that wonderful?

Bye-bye, jo jo!

Here we go.

Now that jo is gone, I feel like in a way

She kind of hugged our family

And made us all stronger.

[Laughing]

Since jo's left, our lives are tremendously better.

I think jo's helped me be a better dad.

♪♪♪

I feel like a new person.

I feel like an energized person, a stronger person.

Get this one right here. Yay!

Kate hasn't had foot cramps since jo's been gone.

She's been really helpful with the boys.

All right. Let's put our buckets right here.

I definitely feel like the new sheriff in town

With the boys.

When they look at the naughty point arrow,

They look at it and say, "oh, naughty point.

"I don't want to go to the naughty point."

Sit down. I don't know how to express to her,

But thank god she did accept

To come to our house and help us out.

Be careful.

Jo brought more happiness to our family.

We needed a little happiness.

Thank you for helping me tell the truth.

Thank you, jo jo!

♪♪♪

Parents, if you don't-- [laughing]

Parents, if you find yourself--

[Man laughing]

Parents, if you find yourself...

[Man] my bad.

[Laughter]

Teddy, I don't know if fishermen wear high heels.

Why don't we take our heels off so you don't fall?

Okay, stand up, nicholas. Stand up. All right.