04x01 - Drake Family

[bunniefuu]

Tonight on "supernanny"...

Aah!stop!

[Screams]

Jo travels to georgia and meets the drakes... That's mine!

Stop, justin.

If somebody would have said it would be this tough,

We would not have done this.[Boy] ow!

A family so controlling,

The parents don't even let the kids brush their own teeth.

[Screams]

Mom and dad are so scared the kids will get hurt... Hey! Hey! Justin!

They have never taken a vacation,

Even though they have a brand-new camper.

Easier to keep 'em safe and indoors

More so than outdoors.

And because they're so overprotective,

Whenever they're away, the kids go bonkers

And run poor grandma ragged. What are you doing to me?

Do you see this?

Will the drakes' camper ever stop collecting dust?

What is it that you feel is troublesome in getting you

In that camper and having a holiday together?

They're going here and there, and you're constantly...right.

At a distance screaming and hollering at them.[Screams]

Can jo save this family before grandma has a heart att*ck?

Aah!

♪♪♪♪♪

♪ Be good, be good ♪

♪ Be good, be good, be good ♪

♪ Be good, be good, be good ♪

♪ Be good, be good, be good ♪♪ johnny ♪

♪ Be good, be good, be good ♪

♪ Be good, be good, be good ♪

♪ Be good, be good, be good ♪

♪ Be good, be good, be good ♪♪ johnny ♪

♪ Johnny ♪

♪♪♪♪♪

Well, I wonder who's gonna be waiting for me this week.

Hi. We're the drake family.

I'm donna.and I'm billy joe.

We have kids. Josie's almost .

What's up?

[Donna] jared and justin are twin boys. They're /.

Aah!stop!

[Screams]

[Donna] stop and go to the living room.

I find it difficult to actually control all three of 'em

When they're together.

[Babbles]

[Billy joe] josie, don't kick now.

Aah!

[Donna] you cannot turn your back against them.

You know, somebody's gonna be doing something dangerous.

Josie, get down. Now.

The kids go absolutely wild when they go outside.

[Donna] let's get in the truck.[Honks horn]

Don't play with the horn.[Horn honks]

Just corralling the kids is a very difficult chore

Because you cannot focus on your task at hand.

Josie! Justin! You gotta stay with daddy.

It's absolutely impossible to do a complete job.

These kids are not even listening to dad.

We've never took a vacation

Together as a family.

We actually just bought a new camper

To actually try to go camping.

Hey! Hey! Justin![Donna] ...far away.

[Billy joe] we want to utilize the camper

At least once a month, you know, to get away.

But then you're sort of scared about it, because there's--

You know, you can't control 'em at home,

How could you actually control 'em at a campsite?

Help me!

You being ugly?

Aah!

[Donna] mimi is actually the kids' grandmother.

She's my mother. She's actually here all the time.

Good morning.

[Donna] she's comes in the mornings at :.

She gets 'em out of bed. She brushes their teeth.no!

We could actually not, you know, go day to day...oh!

Without mimi's help.

Do you see my eyes? Do you see I am mad?

[Laughs]look it here.

Mimi, what about discipline?

Stop, justin.

[Cries]

We need some guidance. We need some structure...

[Screams]

Where we can actually,

You know, help keep our kids under control.aah!

[Cries]we fully understand that we need to modify our behavior

As well our kids modifying theirs.

[Laughs][babbles]

[Both] supernanny, we really need your help.

Looks like everybody needs a vacation.

I better get on my way.

♪♪♪♪♪

Hello.hi. Come on in.

Pleased to meet you.pleased to meet you.

The door opens, and I probably look really silly

When I opened it because I was so nervous when she came in.

Can I have a hug?

Yeah.oh, god. It is so nice to meet you.

Hey, jo. I'm billy joe. Pleased to meet you.

Pleased to meet you. Billy joe, pleased to meet you.

Who have we got here?we've got josie.

[Jo] how old are you, josie? .

[Donna] this is jared.

Jared and this is...[Donna] justin.

This is justin. There you go.hi, justin.

I'm gonna be here observing the family,

Just taking down some mental notes,

And I'll ask questions if necessary.

Okay.

The children had just finished breakfast,

And it was time for them to get their teeth brushed.

[Billy joe] come on.

Justin. Justin. We gotta brush our teeth.

Now.

I don't...

Come on. All right, do you wanna stand up?[Cries]

Do you wanna stand up?

Or do you wanna lay down? How about lying down?

[Jo] and I noticed that mom started to prop up pillows,

And I wondered what the pillows had to do with teeth brushing.

[Billy joe] come on.

[Wailing]

And I soon found out that actually,

What she does is force the kids down onto the pillow

So she can really ram this toothbrush

Down their throats to get their teeth brushed.

I mean, it really is a frightening experience

For these children, having their teeth brushed.

[Knock on door][billy joe] oh, somebody's coming.

[Jo] and your grandma.wow.

[Donna] get your clothes on.hey, my babies.

And in walks grandma, and I can tell

That she was a character right out of the south.here we go!

No, we yanked on the teeth. What are you doing to me?

[Billy joe] okay.do you see this?

Can we stop playing and get ready?

[Billy joe] okay.

So after they've had breakfast,

They then go from this house over to yours?

And is that a daily occurrence?they're out of school.

[Jo] so we went across to mimi's house...[Donna and billy joe] thank you.

See you later.[Donna] okay.

Whilst mom and dad went off to work,

And grandma looked after the kids. Mimi isn't alone.

In america, million toddlers

Are looked after by their grandparents

Whilst their parents go off to work.

So, mimi, this is your home?mm-hmm. Brand-new.

This is, uh, this is really their playroom, isn't it?

This area here?mm-hmm. They are my heart.

I live for these young'uns.

Mimi likes to help the family,

And, of course, it's very convenient for mom and dad.

You spend a lot of time, obviously, you know, co-caring,

You know, being a part of their life.

Yep, I have to, because they're my heart.

[Cries]

Hey, hey. You want to go to the chair, little man?

And after a few minutes, the kids started to act up.

Well, they may be mimi's heart,

But I was afraid the were gonna give mimi a heart att*ck.aah!

[Cries]come here.

Come on, baby. You done pushed it to the limit.

The family are trying to implement the naughty chair...

[Screams indistinctly]

And yet every time, they were holding the kids down.

You can't get up then, if you're not gonna talk to me.

[Jo] talking to the children,

Not keeping them on the chair for the correct amount of time.

So they're not doing the steps properly,

And they're not getting the results because of that.[Wails]

Quit, bubba.

And then jared hit his sister,

And mimi was left having to wrangle both the kids.

Come on. Come on. Come on.

You're hurting me. You're hurting me.well, I'm sorry.

I didn't really know whether to feel sorry for mimi

Or really laugh at the situation.is it funny?

There was this older woman stretched out on the floor,

Looking like she was doing some yoga position,

Holding a foot and a hand at the same time.

This is the discipline, is it?

I can't put 'em in a chair because they'll run from me.right.

It was madness to watch, but this is serious.

I mean, let's face it. Grandma's no spring chicken.

She could seriously hurt herself.

Normally, they listen to me better than this.

[Boy] oh.

Coming up on...

[Billy joe] hey, hey, hey!justin, will you not leave us?

Be safe, josie.jo is shocked at how controlling

These parents can be. How crazy is that?

And later, justin's behavior pushes grandma

To the breaking point. You make my eyes water. You make me cry.

♪♪♪♪♪

♪ Be good, be good ♪

♪♪♪♪♪

Later in the afternoon,

The family decided to go out for a walk,

And it was a lovely opportunity for me to be able to see

Exactly how they are with the kids

When they are out of their own home.

Come here, buddy. Josie, stay safe.

They've got these kids on a serious tight, tight rope.

[Billy joe] hey, hey, hey! Be safe!

I wouldn't be comfortable coming this way with 'em

And--and being able to control 'em.mommy!

Why is that?

[Donna] because of that right there.

The drakes are on their own property,

And yet they are freaking out

That they're having to go outside their doorstep

And take their kids on their own land.

I mean, how crazy is that?

Mommy, I wanna get down.

All right, I'll let you down in just a second.[Cries]

[Jo] why is he crying, donna?he's crying because I'm toting him.

[Billy joe] justin.[Donna] why-- why can't I hold your hand?

Be safe, josie.

Justin, will you not leave us?

[Billy joe] justin. Justin.how are you feeling right now?

[Laughs] just sorta kinda wondering what, um,

What they're gonna do.

I mean, 'cause they've already gone so far away from us now.

Can y'all stop?

[Jo] I don't see what'sso unsafe

About them running around on their own property.

Kids need to be supervised,

But these children are way too overprotected.

Such beautiful land,

And yet troublesome to actually enjoy it.

Absolutely. We never get out to explore

Because, just as demonstrated today,

They get away from you.

It's no big secret that I'm here

To help the family go on vacation,

And so I wanted to see where their camper was.

So we've never took this one out.

We just recently got this one.

This was the first time that they were considering

Going away in their brand-new camper,

And they were dead nervous about doing so.

What is it as parents

That you feel is troublesome

In getting you in that camper

And having a holiday together?

They're going here and there...right.

And you're constantly at a distance screaming

And hollering at 'em, telling 'em to come back.

Right. So the fear is them wandering off again then?

There's a lot of danger.anything that actually could danger.

Right, okay.something that could happen.

So I'd seen the family outside the house

And how close they had the kids on a tight rein,

And I realized the same stuff was going on

Inside the house as well.

Where did josie go?

Josie? Justin, where are you going?

[Donna] justin, let me put-- let me follow you.

[Billy joe] I've got it.[Donna] oh, you got him?

I was surprised at how much the children are kept in line.

Don't turn it off and on.

You gon' get electrocuted one day, son.

[Donna] suzy. Out of your bedroom.

You have made a big enough mess.

Josie, don't carry that baby to the living room.

Does that dolly stay in here?yes, ma'am.

They've already pulled some flowers and stuff off of it.

So we don't usually let her play in there in the living room

With any of her stuff.this stuff that's all here, for example--

These are things she can play with, or...

She holds it, but you know, in here.

But she usually don't get to the living room

Because somebody will end up messing it up.

Mom has them on a very tight invisible rein,

And these kids are suffocated for it.

What's the point in having that dolly if you can't play with it?

It's making them want to rebel in every way that they can.

[Crash]

[Babbles]

[All laughing]

Get down.[Donna] do you know you could've broke your neck?

I could see how badly the drakes need their vacation,

So it's my goal to give these parents

The confidence in their own discipline

So they can take their camper away on holiday.

You're not going back in there.aah!

These are good parents. They're good people,

But they need to loosen up a little.

Ow!

But first things first--

I need to sit down with this family and have a meeting

So we can get on holiday.

♪♪♪♪♪

So, donna,

Billy joe,

Your efforts as parents have been noticed.

They really have.

But I'd like to talk about the control issue

With the pair of you, and that shows itself

In the secondary behavior that we see from the kids

Because then they start to answer back.

You see them become defiant,

Because they can't change that

Because two big parents are controlling everything.

It's like big brother--bam.

To the kids, it just seems like you're upset with them

All the time, by the way that you're talking to 'em.

Yesterday, we were on your property.

They got a few feet ahead of you, and you guys panicked.

It's just that wondering what they might do, you know?

Take another step forward.[Chuckles]

They'd rather take seconds of running wild like a horse

And being pulled in than not knowing

When it's gonna come next.

In order for you to let go of some of that control,

It means that you have to loosen up a little bit,

Have a little bit of fun.

You're so busy trying to control everything

That you're not seeing the opportunities

Of where you could have fun with the kids

And have fun on vacation.

That would be nice.

It would, very much so.

So let's talk about teeth.

It was, um, just a little bit strange, to say the least.

The head being swung back to the pillow,

Then being chained down to the sofa--

Which is absolutely crazy.

What made you not even think

To put a toothbrush in their hand?

I just didn't want 'em to have rotten teeth.

I mean, so many kids do, and...

But the way that you do it takes all the fun out of it,

And it becomes a control issue.

Of course we want to make sure it's done properly,

But we've got to allow our children

To be able to do it themselves.

Mimi.

Let's talk about mimi.

Well, she certainly helps us keep our head above water.

She's a big part.we--we depend on her a lot.

And those kids have got a wonderful grandma.

There's no doubt about that.

But, you know, they run circles around her,

And she's on the floor doing, like, a yoga position,

Bent over, stretching one kid while she's stretching another.

So I think, really,

We need to get mimi up to speed on discipline,

And if you're all on the same page,

Nobody can run circles around anyone.right.

And until we address the issues that we have here in the house,

That lovely brand-new camper you've got outside,

Waiting to be christened,

Is just gonna sit out there and collect moss.

[Both chuckle]

If at home there's rules and boundaries,

It's gonna be the same in a camper.

All we do is keep things flexible

And downsize everything

So that you can both feel really confident

In being able to go away with your kids

And have a family vacation

And say, "that was great. When can we do it again?"

So are we ready for a vacation or not?[Both] we're ready.

We're ready?we're ready.

So let's get cracking and get some work done, right?good deal.

Coming up on...

Aah!

[Babbles]

If somebody would have said it would be this tough,

We would not have done this.

♪♪♪♪♪

♪ Be good, be good ♪

♪♪♪♪♪

I just wouldn't dream of sending this family out on a vacation

Until they've got a few techniques

Underneath their belt.

What we are going to do is to do our first technique,

Because we're going on vacation, right?we're going on vacation!

Family vacation! Yay![Children] yay!

Brushing teeth is a nightmare in the morning.

The kids don't want to do it. They don't enjoy the experience.

It's not fun, and between the kids not wanting to do it

And half being choked with a toothbrush,

It needed to change.

So this is what we're going to do, okay?

Something very simple for brushing teeth.

We're going to give them their own portable mirrors

Because not only are they gonna do it here,

They're going to do it

When they're on the road as well, on their vacation.

We are going to sing a song-- "twinkle, twinkle, little star"?

Jared--jared loves to sing that.

Yeah, so mom is gonna sing it this time.i don't.

Okay? Twice--and that's the amount of time

That we want them to brush their teeth.

We want them to do it by themselves,

Because they can do it really well,

And they can see themselves do it as well.

Mommy's gonna sing a nursery rhyme, and when mommy sings it,

We actually gonna start brushing our teeth

And looking in our mirror. Can everybody see themselves?

[Justin and jared] yes,can you see yourself?

♪ Twinkle, twinkle, little star ♪

[Billy joe] justin, brush your teeth.

Brush your teeth when mama sings.

[Jo] allowing these kids for the first time

To hold their own toothbrush and brush their own teeth

Was like a big breakthrough for a start.

And so being able to encourage the children to learn

A life skill in a fun way makes it all the much better.

[Donna gasps] are you all finished?yep.

[Billy joe] wow. Good. Yay!well done, well done.

I think it's actually wonderful

To see the whole family get together and brush their teeth.

Let's all head off down to mimi's

Because we are going to learn discipline correctly.

Come on, jared.[Jo] the family has a recliner for a naughty chair at home.

But what they need is something they can take on the road,

And so I've brought in the naughty beanbag.

Being able to give them a consistent discipline

They can take on the road as well is going to allow them

To implement it in the correct way

And get maximum results from it.

The reason why I've brought this beanbag

Is 'cause guess what? We're taking this away with us.

It's portable, okay? And it will serve us

Because we're going to be in the camp van.

So let's go through the principles of the time-out--

Height, eye contact and our tone of voice.

And we explain.

"I have put you onto this beanbag

Because you are not listening to mommy."

If they get off the bag,

You take the child and place them back on without talking.

As long as we've got the principles here

And the steps up here,

It doesn't matter where we take it.

It can be anywhere.

[Jo] and it wasn't long before the kids started to act up.

[Mimi] do not throw.

All right, let's go, bud. Come on.

Just come around, mimi,

And explain why you've placed him onto the chair.

You were throwing things, and mimi told you not to.

Now you sit here for three minutes.[Jo] just come away.

[Cries]

[Jo] now hold him.

[Jo speaks indistinctly]

[Cries]

[Billy joe] the first time I started using the naughty chair,

It was tough. Justin--all of a sudden,

Started to turn it into a game of running.

Aah!

[Cries]

[Donna] you know, I had no idea

This would be all so overwhelming.

If somebody would have said it would be this tough,

We would not have done this.

He knows that soon, somebody's gonna break.

Well, that's what you've run into today.

But we're about to change that today.

[Crying]

[Mimi] justin finally broke down.

I could not believe it,

And I just had to go in there, and I had to cry.

Why are you crying?

It's what has happened-- him sitting in the chair.

That's the longest he's sit in the chair.

Grandma, you gonna make my eyes water.

You gonna make me cry.

All he needs to know is that you guys are gonna be consistent.

Look how he's sitting there. Look. Look, look.

We put you here because you were being naughty

When mimi asked you not to, and that was not acceptable.

So I need for you to tell me, "I'm sorry."

And I thank you. I love you.

Give me a hug.

[Billy joe] that's good stuff.

Bubba's back.

[Justin] bubba!

Oh, I see a hug, man. I want to see a serious hug.

You three did that. We give each other a hug.

Justin, come give us a hug, buddy.

Hey, I want this.he's into something.

Get you a hug. You did that together.[Laughs]

All right.

Next on...

[Billy joe] josie, we can't see you.

Jo sends the family on vacation without mimi,

But will they be able to cope?

♪♪♪♪♪

♪ Be good, be good ♪

Are we ready to go on our vacation?[Children] yeah!

Are we ready?[All] yeah!

The drake family have never been on vacation alone,

So mom and dad are really gonna have to step up

When it comes to managing these kids without mimi.

I love you, darling.

It's sorta kinda scary to actually go on your own

Because you don't want for them to get out of control

In an unfamiliar environment.

[Engine starts]

[Mimi] I love you!

♪♪♪♪♪

Everyone's excited.

I mean, they're ready for their vacation.

I'm extremely hopeful that jo can teach us some techniques.

To where we can have some quality family time

And just relax.

[Donna] if she can come in and change our lives,

It will be all worth it.

[Jo] so we arrived at the campsite.

The kids were just so excited.

They were just running into the woods

And going all over the place.we've got to get out of this road, okay?

Billy joe and donna were really worried about this.

How are they gonna keep an eye on the kids?

It's a new place.

So I set up these very clear visual aids for them.

Jared, please come and sit down,

Because you see these red ribbons?

From the time that these children were young,

They've never been given boundaries and discipline.

So what we're gonna do with these ribbons--

We're gonna tie 'em around the tree trunks,

And we're gonna create a visual boundary.

What we're going to do is teach the children

That where you see the red ribbon,

You're not allowed to go past it.

If you go past the red ribbon, it means time-out.

So we don't want to be sitting on the naughty beanbag, do we?

Hey, hey, no! No way!

I explained to the children that it was important

That we were able to see them

And that they were able to be safe.

Hurry. Just-- justin, you going with us?[Billy joe] josie.

It's just a really good visual aid

For young children especially,

Because they're able to see the bright red ribbon

And know that they're not to go beyond that,

And the kids got really engaged in it.

Gotta take this right here.

Pull! Good job, jared.

How about this tree right over here?

Give y'all a little bit more room.did you do that?

Good job, jared.

Mom and dad are laying down

Some boundaries here, some rules

So that the kids can be safe,

But at the same time, they can allow them their freedom.

We're seeing both parents with the kids,

Setting up these little boundaries with the red ribbons

And creating a place to play.

Now that boundaries are established,

We need to go over safety for the kids.

Okay, guys, we need your attention, okay?

'Cause we gon' talk about safety.

Today I gave dad a pouch that had picture cards in them

To be able to convey to the children

The safety of being in the woodlands.

Okay.they're just the immediate things

That we know are around on the campsite.

Okay, what we got here?[Jo] oh.

[Boy] a snake.a snake. Stay away from snakes, okay?

It's important for billy joe

To be able to convey this to his children

So that they're safe, so that they have knowledge.[Billy joe] poison ivy, okay?

[Donna] we need to show you some today, okay?

The poison ivy has three leaves.

I thought it was a wonderful, you know,

Idea that she came up with.

An alligator.[Donna] ooh!

Alligators are very dangerous.

They don't like little boys and girls

And mommies and daddies, okay?

We do need to feed the alligators, okay?

[Donna] listen to daddy. This is very important, josie.

When I was explaining the safety talk, I was very impressed.

They responded to it.

All righty, we did it all.

What a successful safety lesson. Brilliant.great. Very good.

He did it very successfully. The kids were on board.

They listened. They were talking about the photos that they saw,

And they really participated in the conversation.

It was a very big success.

♪♪♪♪♪

So I think a hike. Let's get everyone out. Let's, um...okay, let's go walking.

I wanted to get mom and dad out in the woods,

Exploring with their kids,

So I gave the kids a fun involvement technique

Called "hike bingo," and I waited to see if mom and dad

Just loosened up a bit and let go.

Look. Jo jo's got these cards for you

With things that we're going to see on our walk.

So if you see a squirrel, you can get your pencil

And just cross it off.[Josie] let's go.

You ready?she's like, "okay, let's go."

[Both] let's go.i think this hike bingo really allows the kids to be engaged,

And so they're not misbehaving

And running rings around them all.i've got a pinecone.

A pinecone? Where's that? Hey. Hey, see a stick.

Check your stick off. Good job.

All right, check it off. Where's your stick?

Who found that stick? Justin?

Y'all better step up to the plate,

'Cause justin gon' be done found everything

Before he get in the woods. Josie, we can't see you.

Thank you.[Donna] okay, you're fine there.

[Jo] ah! Okay, that's brilliant.[Billy joe] ah!

As long as you can see her and she can see you,

You can give her a little bit of slack.

[Jo] mom and dad were very relaxed.

Even when josie went a little bit head,

Mom didn't have a panic att*ck, you know?

So, um, we've all seen signs of breakthrough with mom.

I would never go to these woods with the kids like this,

But I feel that I've actually learned to let 'em go some

And feel a little bit more at ease.

[Jo] I know!

Whoo! Touchdown!i'm going away for a few days.

Let's remember what we dealt with here--boundaries.

Let's keep on with our boundaries.

Let's keep going with our discipline, okay?

And keep working as a team

And supporting one another, okay?okay.

No doubt mom and dad are gonna find it challenging

Whilst I'm away, but they're on board, they're committed,

And we've not seen any signs of them giving up,

So that's a good thing.last but not least, let's have fun.

We greatly appreciate it.thank you very much.

You're more than welcome.donna and I is a little nervous about not having jo around

To give her leadership and hands-on techniques.see you when I get back!

[Donna] you hated to see jo jo leave,

But hopefully we're on the right track.

You know, we're not going backwards.

♪♪♪♪♪

Coming up on...

[Cries]you're past your boundary, justin.

With jo gone, chaos erupts in the campground.

[Josie] no!

And mimi returns to lend a hand.[Cries]

Justin, do not hit me.

But first at tip from supernanny

Before going on vacation,

Write a list of toys and games your child decides to take

And place it into the luggage tag

So that when you leave your vacation spot,

You can gather up all their stuff,

Leaving no room for anything to be left behind.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

♪ Be good, be good ♪

[Jo] the drake family is still on vacation at the campsite,

And I'm very curious

To see exactly how they got on without me.

Good morning.how are you?

Good. How are you?good.

Okay, not bad.

Are we ready to take a look at what's on this dvd?

[Both laugh nervously]

Suspense.oh, it's k*lling us.

[Donna] hey, justin, where we at?

Justin, think about where we at.

Are we past our boundary? [Justin] no.

Yes, we are. [Justin shrieks]

You're past your boundary, justin.

[Crying] I'm not gonna do it again.

If you're not gonna do it again,

Then you leave, and I'll bring 'em around there. Go.

I'm telling you right now. Make a decision, justin.

I'm giving you a warning. Make a decision.

Are you going back where you need to go? [Crying] i...

I'm gonna walk away and see.

Justin, thank you for coming back.

Okay, I like that because you gave justin here a choice,

And that is the correct way to deal with justin.

You're actually working alongside him

And allowing him to make the choice.

I'm really pleased you got that.

So the next clip is all about sharing.

How many clubs we got, josie?

How many balls we got?

Come here, justin. Come back here. Thank you.

Hand him the ball.

[Billy joe] come here, buddies. Hey, guys.

Come here. Justin.

[Cries] [billy joe] josie?

I'm gonna show him how to play golf.

So she chose not to stop.

We still got a lot of work to do in sharing.

It is an important skill to learn and to recognize

That, uh, you're not always gonna be in the front row.

[Billy joe] thank you. Jared, justin, come here, buddy.

No, ma'am.

Stop. I don't think so.

[Billy joe] josie. Stop, josie!

Thank you. Come here, guys. Let me show you.

Come here. See that behavior right there?

[Billy joe] mm-hmm.it would have been, "you come back here right now,

And you're sitting here."Mm-hmm.

Okay, so we do need to nip that straight in the bud.all right.

Okay?

[Crying]

[Billy joe] okay, well, it-- all right, that's--

[Donna] now you got a time-out.

You will sit here for three and a half minutes, justin. No!

[Grunts]

[Crying]

Do not disrespect me and hit me, justin.

[Speaks indistinctly]

Don't hit at me again, justin.

You will stay here for three and a half minutes, justin...

I don't want to.because you were disrespectful, and you were going

Past your boundary, which is the red rope, okay?

[Bleep]

Justin, do not hit me.

All right. He's hitting out 'cause he's angry,

He's frustrated a bit, and he's frustrated

That you're being persistent and you're carrying on.

Just don't put yourself in the fire line there.

Turn him away so that you don't get any of that,

Because it will only put you in a place

That will wear you down.[Presses button]

All right, y'all play. No, don't climb up it.

Go around. Go use the steps like you're supposed to.

Hey, josie, listen, use it like we're supposed to, okay?

All right, take turns. Unh-unh, don't hit him, jared.

You can't do that.

[Justin] mommy! [Cries]

She's in there.

So what I saw there, really, was a lot of control

Because you were worried that they were gonna hurt themselves.

You do want 'em to be safe, but at the same time,

You want 'em to be kids.right.

I'm really pleased with what I have seen,

But there are a few things that could easily go amiss

And then become something very big.

So let's work today on the things that

Do need improving. Let's work a little bit more

On those boundaries, and we'll do that with the bike

And the sharing.sounds good.

So, uh, I think we should start working again, all right?let's go.

Let's go.okay.

Coming up on...

[Cries]grandma mimi's back,

And she is ready to wrangle.

You've gotta get a grip on this,

Otherwise these kids will run you ragged.

But they aren't going down without a fight.

♪♪♪♪♪

♪ Be good, be good ♪

♪♪♪♪♪

Are we ready to ride bikes?

Yeah!yeah!

Our bike ride is going to be all about setting up

Visual boundaries, okay?

It'll be good practice for here

And for when we're back at home as well.

This family's slowly learning

How to give their kids some breathing space.

So now I want to push this family to the next level

Where they would have never have imagined.

Where's your landmark gonna be?

[Donna] it's gonna be the trash cans right up here.

Jo jo said you don't have to have the red flags or anything.

Just take 'em around and show 'em how far you want em to go.

Okay, let's get this show on the road now.

Mama's gonna show you where you can ride to here.

Josie, you're riding in a good path.

Whoa! Right here, josie. This is our boundary, please.

So what we are seeing now is mom and dad very clearly

Lay down where they can go so that they're allowed

To have the freedom of being able to ride their bikes

But within a restricted area,

And that, I think, is a very healthy compromise.

[Billy joe] okay, buddy. Justin!

Come here. I need to show you where you have to stop.

You see this sign right here? You cannot go past this sign.

You will lose your privileges if you go by your sign.

You make a decision, okay?

[Speaks indistinctly]

Okay.look, look, look, look. Turn around, billy.

Billy, turn around.

Do you see where that post is? He's there.

That's why he's looking at you, 'cause he wants to play games.

Walk away from him. He knows. He knows he can't go past there.

If he does, he loses his bike, okay?

Attaboy! That's it!

[Billy joe] thank you, justin.

[Donna] go, justin, go! Yay!

[Jo] see his face now.[Donna] all right.

Where's our boundary, josie?

Good job, josie.good job!

It actually felt great, you know,

That you could feel more comfortable

Letting them play and knowing that you don't have

Such a chance of them going past their boundaries.do it, boy!

I have great confidence with the boundary technique

Due to the fact that I've seen it work.

That's one of the things we'll certainly implement

Uh, one of the first days that we get home.

Come on, boy!

♪♪♪♪♪

And later back at the camp, I had a little surprise waiting.

Peekaboo!

Who's that?[Screams]

[Laughs]

I gave them a few minutes to catch up,

And then I sent mom and dad off so I could get mimi up to speed.

All righty. Good luck, mimi.

All right, bye.[Jo] see you later then.

From what I saw from the dvd, the kids still need work

With sharing, so I set up a game with mimi

To address the problem.so shall we fill this up with water?

Yeah!

[Mimi] come on, buddy.

We've got a cone here, leaf paper.

Let's play the guessing game. Will it sink, or will it float?

[Jo] it's going to be essential that these kids do share

When playing the "sink or float?" Game

And that mimi reinforces discipline.

What we're gonna do is take turns, okay?

We're gonna go around here-- jared, josie and then justin.

Jared, will that sink, or will it float?

Will it stay at the top of the water,

Or will it drop down to the bottom?drop down to the bottom.

Bottom. Okay, let's see, then. Put it in.

Hands out of the bucket.

Hands out, please. No, I said hands out.

[Mimi] okay.no!

Justin.wait your turn.

Warning, please. Warning, please, for justin.

Justin, if you can't stop

And keep your hands out of the water,

You're going to the naughty beanbag.

There he goes again.

Okay.

Put it down.

[Cries] no!

Poor little justin got in trouble big-time

Because he couldn't keep his hands out of the water.

[Crying]

Mimi told you not to put your hands in there--

I don't--to wait till your turn.

I don't--i know.

Okay, you sit here for three minutes,

And then maybe I'll let you get up

And go try it again, okay?[Whimpers]

Sit right there.

These kids do need to learn

That there's three of them, they're siblings,

And the important part of this task

Is to share, and right now justin's not willing

To be able to do so, and he's on that beanbag.

So we'll see how the rest get on.

What's this gon' do?

Float. Oh! What did it do?

It can't float.no, it cannot float.

Mimi, make him march straight back.

You gotta get a grip on this, otherwise these kids

Will run you ragged when they're at your's.ohh! Ow!

You can't allow him to think that he'll be able to muscle in

And do what he wants.

[Cries] aah!

He was gettin' up...[Crying]

Movin' around...

Kickin', flingin' dirt at me.

Aah! [Cries]

[Quietly] just take a very quick look over there.

Mm-hmm. I did.

He's actually got one leg on it.mm-hmm.

So he's basically saying the one leg on the beanbag

Is respecting the fact he knows he has to be on it,

And that's good enough, okay?okay.

So your minutes does start-- started seconds ago.

Okay?okay.

[Grunts]that's too heavy.

I cannot count the times that he got up,

But he finally made it.

Are you sorry?mm-hmm.

[Jo] bring him in.

"Ma'am"? What you say?

I love you.

You're sorry? I accept your apology.

Let me give you a hug... And a big kiss.

Go on, go and play. Go and play. Some water there for you.

You like playing in water?

When he got up, he went to playin',

And he was super,

Just super!

Oh, it's like that now, is it?

Oh!oh, watch out!

[Mimi] aah!

Whew.well, we've had a swimming party.

[Billy joe] I see, yeah.[Mimi] aah!

Mimi's had a swimming party, too.yeah.

And with that, it was time for me to go.

This family have learned about sharing,

Boundaries and being less controlling.

Our work is done.

♪♪♪♪♪

Jo jo's leaving now.

Well, because I'm going now.

Jo jo's going to the next family.

So I have to leave now in my taxi.

[Mimi] say, "stay with us."

[Laughs] can I have a big, wet cuddle?

Mwah.

Mwah.

Bye-bye, darling.

Bye. Thank you so much. I love you.you're welcome.

Jo's visit has meant the world to us.

I wish she would come live with me.

I wish she could have stayed longer.

Keep up the good work. Keep supporting your family.

I know.you're a treasure. You're a treasure.

Billy, some serious hard work, mate,

And you did really well, did really well.

Thank you. Thank you.keep up all your hard work.

[Laughs]

I think it's wonderful that jo jo came on vacation with us

And taught us the techniques that we needed,

Because our family has never took a vacation,

And it was a wonderful experience.

Just get out and have fun with your kids.

That's what they need from you.

They need you to get out and have fun

And be the mom that they know that you are now, okay?

[Mimi] honey, can you...all right then. You're welcome.

Bye, y'all!

[All] bye, y'all!bye, y'all!

Bye-bye.

I know that I've given the drake family

Tools and techniques that they can use time and time again,

And if they stick with those, they'll be able

To go on more and more vacations.

♪♪♪♪♪

[Screams]

Whoo!i'm extremely proud of my family's development.

We are enjoying our kids. We're having a good time.

We find that they engage in play,

And they want to involve us as well,

And so that's very pleasing as a parent.three!

Hold on. Let me push you.

I feel like our family's actually laughing more...

Oh!everybody's not so tense.

You know, it makes a big difference.don't let go.

Whoa! Yeah!

I definitely feel more comfortable now

Taking my kids by myself somewhere.

How's it lookin'?looking good, daddy.

[Billy joe] before jo came, we had the idea

That we needed to have one adult per child.

You helped daddy out. Good job.

But one adult can handle all three children now.

We're very pleased with that.

...amen.[All] amen.

Good job.good job.

I feel like this has definitely been a life-changing experience.

It made a big difference in our family.

Thank you, jo jo. It's been great.

Okay.

I believe any family can nail any situation.

You just gotta put the work in and the commitment.

This family had put in every single ounce of effort they can

To really make these changes.

That's what I love about this family, you know?

They're on board. They're on board.

♪♪♪♪♪

Which one out of the two I'm about to mention

Are the kids allowed to hold in the beanbag,

The toy or a book?

I would say...

A toy?

[Imitates sobbing] no, mimi.[Chuckles]

No! Donna, what's the answer?book!

Book![Chuckles]

Billy joe?nothing.

Nothing.nothing!

Oh, I thought she said--oh, women, you let me down!

Women, come on!wait a minute. Wait a minute.

[Donna] killin' me.[Laughs]