04x10 - Prescott Family

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Tonight on "supernanny"...hello!

Jo takes on her biggest family ever--the prescotts.

Stop talking about flipping people off!

Mom went from being a cheerleader

To having seven kids in eight years.

What happened? Wait, wait, wait. Along with her husband,

She struggles to deal with her son who has a.d.h.d.

She feels so overwhelmed that she can't control her temper.

Get down! You are not putting a timer on.

Can jo help her get her life in order?

Get out!

A bombshell tore mom's family apart when she was young.

Does it change how you feel for your daughter

And the love that you have for her? [Man] absolutely.

And now dad can't accept his father-in-law for who he is.

Your relationship with daniel

Has had its shares of ups and downs, right,

We could honestly say?

Can jo help heal this wounded family?

How much have you moved on from that?

Not much.

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Well, I'm in the high desert of hesperia, california.

Let's take a look and see which family I'm gonna help now.

Hi. We're the prescotts. I'm kadi.

And I'm daniel, and we have seven kids.

Marli is . Daniel is .

Trenton is . Phillip is .

Aiden is . Ella is .

Hi! [Kadi] and reed is .

Well, it's a lovely big family. Look.

Basically, we knew each other in high school.

He was the cute, older, unattainable athlete,

And I was the younger cheerleader,

And I was very vain, very into myself

And didn't really want kids at that time.

I didn't really ever think I would ever have kids.

Wow. This mom went from a cheerleader of no kids

To a mother of seven. Hmm. Something happened there.

I'm an asphalt paving estimator.

I work five days a week, and I leave kadi home

With all the children to fend for yourself.

Right. I stay home with all the kids.

Daniel is our hard case.

He's very aggressive. You know what? I'm not. I'm not. I'm not.

I'm not doing this. No!

Uh, daniel was diagnosed with a.d.h.d.

Daniel, honey, I need you to come and take your pill.

These parents need to learn more about their son's condition.

Marli is our--our big girl. She's our--our helper.

I have depended on her so much, just being my everything.

Marli, can you go check and see if reed is still in his bed?

Marli, do me a favor. Marli, can you get ella's sheets for me?

And, mars, after that, could you grab reed? Can you run out to the van?

Can you run and put that in there?

[Daniel] mars, can you help me like I asked you?

Marli. Marli. Marli, please.

Look at this little girl, like a mini mom,

And she's years old.

Handling the seven kids alone during the day at home,

Can be a great source of stress.

Oh! Oh!trenton, if you don't get off that counter right now,

You're getting a butt whupping.

When all of the kids decide

To have a little "moment" all at once,

Uh, it is extremely overwhelming.

[Kadi] what happened? [Boy] she...

[Boy crying]

Ow! [Boy screams]

Stop! Stop! [Crying]

I just get so frustrated and angry.

Get out! Get out of here.

Get down! You are not putting a timer on.

[Bell tolls] stop touching people!

Look at me right now. No!

Get up now.

You're pissing me off. Do it now.

She's not enjoying motherhood right now. No way.

I'm having a moment. I just need you to go away

For a minute, okay? Just leave me alone up here.

Supernanny, please come. Please help us. We need you. Hurry, supernanny.

Hang on, mom and dad.

I'm on my way. I'll see you soon.

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Hello.hello!

Hi. Pleased to meet you. I'm jo.

I'm kadi. It's nice to meet you. Come on in.

Hi. Thank you. This is the biggest family that I've ever worked with,

But I'm certainly up for the challenge of helping them.

It's so good to have you here. Come on in and--

Thank you. Who have we got here? Who's this little one? This is reed. This is reed.

Hi, reed. And how old is reed? [Kadi] reed is .

It was definitely a big thing, for me, personally,

To have jo see, you know, what it is to be the mother

Of seven children and try to do it effectively. What's your name?

Marli. Hi, marli. Pleased to meet you. How old are you, darling?

I'm . ?

This is daniel. This is jo. Hi, daniel. Pleased to meet you. Jo jo. How you doing?

[Daniel jr.] Good. [Jo] good.

Since dad was at work, I really wanted to see mom

Go through her everyday, normal routine. What I'm gonna do

Is I'm gonna just watch how you run your own day, really. Okay.

Okay?

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[Screeches]

A couple of hours in,

I saw exactly how mom deals with daniel's a.d.h.d.

I do listen to you. You asked me-- no, you don't!

I can't read your mind.

[Kadi] I don't know if you need help. You need to ask.

A.d.h.d. Affects % to % of school-age children,

So this is an issue that many families are dealing with.

Start doing it now. I need help!

Children with a.d.h.d. Have a chemical imbalance,

Which makes it really difficult for them to focus on tasks.

Also, they can be really hyper

And have a tendency to be very combative.

I don't know... [Whines] where is "a"? Where is "a"?

There. Okay, you know what? Your attitude really sucks right now.

You are ruining fun time.

No! It's gonna take an hour, so what am I gonna do?!

Raising one kid with a.d.h.d. Is tough enough,

But then having to raise six others is a real handful.

Daniel's anger escalates to the point

Where he then becomes physical and throws things.

No!

Then not at all.

I hate you.

[Kadi] go to your room.

[Daniel jr.] Shut up! Go to your room.

When I'm in the middle of disciplining a child,

I feel like even though jo is watching... [Kadi] good-bye.

I have to do what I'm doing.

[Cries]

If the parents are frustrated during the day

And have lost their patience,

Daniel's that green light that goes off,

And they see him as an excuse to vent out.

I need you at that table now,

And I will not tell you again, and I will not ask you again.

You get your fanny to that table, and you get started-- don't say that!

I'd like to see mom more relaxed and patient

When dealing with daniel's temperament,

Because when she gets really worked up,

It only makes daniel's temperament worse.

Coming up on "supernanny,"

Chaos erupts among the kids...

Stop it! It's rude.

And kadi reveals the bombshell that tore her family apart.

How much have you moved on from that?

Not much.

When "supernanny" returns.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

Do me a favor, would you, please?

Would you find reed's shoe? Can you find reed's shoe for me?

Please, just look around. It's somewhere around here.

The first thing I wanted to look for

Was how mom handles such a large brood of kids.

Marli, can you go give daniel his spelling test?

It's turned upside-down, under his homework packet.

[Boy] mommy! [Kadi] thank you.

Marli, can you handle that while I go find phillip?

It's really tough for mom to deal with all these kids,

So she needs marli to be mini mom to help her.

Marli, can you let aiden outside, please?

It's a very common practice

For firstborns to have the responsibility

Of looking after all the younger siblings.

Run and grab reed's sipper cup from the bedroom,

Out of his crib. [Boy] marli!

Marli's the oldest child,

Which leads to mom putting pressure on her.

Can you go--no, just give that to him for me, please.

Thank you.

Stop talking about flipping people off!

Stop it! It's rude.

[Jo] kadi's so tightly wound up

That she's losing her temper and overreacts with the kids.

Then something's got to change.

[Cries]

[Kadi] stop it.

What's going on?

Whilst kadi was getting the kids under control,

I was looking in her closet.

[Kadi laughs]

I noticed all of the rah-rah stuff.

I keep them.

It's one thing to keep your costume

Because you love your costume, you know?

But that's not the reason why mom holds on to that.

What do you remember when look at this?

Um, fun. Having fun. It was so much fun for me.

It was such a positive experience...

They do represent a time that is--

Is long gone now that i-i had my own identity.

This is what helped me really, I think,

Get through when my parents got divorced,

Because I was in high school when it happened,

And this was my outlet. There was a lot to be said symbolically,

What these costumes represent for mom.

So are these symbolic?

Um, maybe in some way they are, yeah.

Yeah.

Talking to kadi about her cheerleading days

Made me realize

How young she was when she started her family.

I was interested to find out about kadi's childhood

And whather relationship was like with her parents.

Do you have a relationship with your mom and your dad now?

[Child crying] um, yes. I have a great relationship with my mom.

She's one of my best friends. What about your dad?

I don't see him a lot.

We have different views on his lifestyle,

And so I don't--

What's-- what's his lifestyle? He is h*m*.

Right. And so, um, you know,

Daniel and i, even though we frown upon that lifestyle,

We accept and love him,

But it puts a strain on our relationship.

Kadi's father walked out when she was .

She had felt betrayed and lied to

Because his truth of being a h*m* had come out,

And that had shattered her family.

The man in your life-- your--your father--

Then chooses to leave

And the commitment with your mother

Is no longer there,

But he didn't show commitment with you either.

Right.

I feel the need to have my dad be an active part of my life

And--and pursue a relationship with him.

It was something that daniel and I had discussed before,

But there was always that, you know,

Restriction put on what I could allow

Because daniel wasn't comfortable with that

And that went against his inner, you know, beliefs,

As to what is right,

And he's very much a black and white thinker.

[Voice breaks] so when he was gone,

It was just, you know...

The stress of trying to survive with my mom.

And so we were just kinda left to,

You know, pretty much fend for ourselves.

The fun and the joy was gone.

How much have you moved on from that?

Not much.

Okay.

Talking about my dad and--and getting that issue

Out in the open was extremely excruciating for me to do,

Because that is not something that I normally talk about.

Today was hands down the hardest thing that I've had to do

In coming to terms with the whole situation.

Kadi's feeling really lonely and isolated as a parent,

And emotionally, she's going through a lot of turmoil

Because her father left when she was very young,

Which is making her feel abandoned.

[Jo] you're not doing bad, are you?

Family--seven kids.

You are committed to one another

In your strength of providing for your children,

And that goes beyond,

But even when the tough gets going,

You must go through

And deal with it the best that you can,

And that's what we're here to talk about.

The best that you can right now

Is in a place that's not ideal to you.

So the first thing that I do want to talk to you about, kadi,

Is the tall order that you give yourself every day.

You are so hard on yourself that you create drama

Where it's not necessary.

[Laughs]

You're nodding there.

You feel the same? Sometimes.

I-i try to tell her that I think she's doing a great job,

But she tells me she's--she thinks she's failing on them.

I think she's doing a good job.

You didn't even think about having kids

And then made that decision to keep your husband happy,

Because that's what he wanted,

And the demands that you put on yourself

Are stopping--are stopping your kids from just being--

Just being kids.

You know, i-i think your expectations for the kids

Are unrealistic.

You know, let's talk about marli.

This little girl's carrying the weight of your problems

And your problems on her shoulders.

Too many.

It wasn't her choice

To be in a family of seven.

It was your choice,

And your choice of having a big family

Is your responsibility.

It's not working.

It's not working, and it needs to change.

Let's change it.

A.d.h.d.--Daniel diagnosed with this condition.

Understanding daniel's medical condition

Is so important for the pair of you,

But you choose time and time again

To forget that he has a.d.h.d.,

That he's going to get hyperactive.

That's not to say that it won't get better,

But you forget,

So you scream at him and you shout at him.

All that does is create this defiancy in daniel.

It doesn't bring resolution.

We have the desire to change it...right.

But we just don't have the knowledge of how.

Life just happens, and I just deal with it

And on the very top level.

Because you're too busy upholding

The importance of everybody else's expectations

Instead of standing up and saying,

"And I can only do what I can do,"

And that comes from a deep-down insecurity

Of feeling that you will lose love that you had.

I have to bring this up.

Your father is-- is so relevant in this.

You're not willing to accept the way he... Is.

His sexuality has nothing to do

With his ability to love his daughter.

But his abandonment does.

But if he's being pushed because he's being told

That his sexuality does not belong in this home,

Then how can he make that bridge as well?

You're...

Torn...

Withdrawn because you--you lack a father

And you want to build a relationship with him

But you seek permission

From your husband to do that.

What is it? Say it.

I need you to get over the--

Having a problem with h*m*.

I need you to let it go,

And you know I'm not happy about my dad's choice... Oh, I know.

And I never will be, but... But what?

But he's my dad. And what?

I need him. What?

What? Tell him.

And what?

I just need you to--to realize

That he's my dad, and I need you to respect it,

And I need you to try, not just to be cordial.

I can try, right? [Mouths word]

What is much needed in this house isfun.

All right?

We need two parents to get stuck-in,

Hands-on, rolling on the floor with their kids

And enjoying themselves.

There's no reason

Why we can't really get going as soon as possible

And change all of this.

All right, so should we get working?okay.

[Kadi] yes. All right, because we've done some here,

But we've got a lot more to go. Okay.

Coming up on "supernanny,"

Can dad deal with daniel's a.d.h.d.?

Stop. Before you're reactive to something, just stop.

And will he get past his prejudice

And reach out to kadi's dad?

We spoke about her father. Right.

How about if I suggested building that bridge

By a phone call?

When "supernanny" returns.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

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The next day, I began teaching, and the first order of business

Was to convince kadi to take time out for herself,

Which isn't easy when you've got seven kids.

So I came up with a tall order chart

To give her ideas about what she can do to limit her stress.

Have a break.

There are so many times I see you

Looking for things to do instead of recognizing

That you should be giving yourself permission

Just to step down and just chill.

Okay. [Laughs] all right? Play, play and play.

All right? I want to see you do that.

Enjoy the time that you have with the kids and have fun,

Be imaginative with them. Jump into their world,

And that's enough. That's all your kids want, right?

Yeah! To have fun.

Yeah. [Laughs]

When jo brought the tall order list with her,

I looked at it and I thought,

Okay, these are things that I think I can do.

[Jo] kadi seemed perceptive to the message

That she needed to take time out for herself,

But later on that day, she had the perfect opportunity to rest

When the kids were playing with their toys,

And she chose to worry about cleaning up.

The toys were all over the place, but the kids are

Going to tidy up those toys at the end of the day, okay?

The most important thing is, you know,

The kids getting your time, and that is so important

Because that you can't-- you can't replace. Yeah. That's true.

I lost focus of those things that were on my tall order,

And I found myself once again caught up in the moment.

[Kadi] all right, let's go. [Child] yay!

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I could see that kadi

Was gonna have a hard time changing her ways,

So I came up with a symbolic way of teaching her

The principles of letting go.

So what you're gonna do is put your hand through the kadi trap. All right.

And you're gonna take one of those balls,

And you're gonna get it out. Okay.

Do you want to see what you're holding on to? Fear.

But you've been holding on to fear so tight

For so long, that you can't set yourself free.

So the only way to set yourself free is to do what?

Let it go.

Let it go. Exactly.

"Unrealistic expectations."

Yeah, that one, frankly, I'm really glad to let go of

Because it was driving me nuts. [Laughs]

I was just really tired of failing.

So my point being

Is that sometimes when we hold on to things,

We cheat ourselves.

I could see that there was a real weight

Being taken off of kadi's shoulders

As she made the first steps forward

In having realistic expectations that were achievable.

So she could start to feel good about herself

And not feel like a failure, because she's not.

[Jo] with mom committed to lighten up,

It was now time to address daniel's a.d.h.d.

And as soon as dad came home from work,

He decided to put daniel in a time-out,

And I got the chancei needed.

She hitme! So stop for a minute. What happened?

The pair of you are arguing. Come over here, daniel,

Because both of them are wailing away like foghorns here.

[High-pitched voice] "you hit me. You've been hit.

You've been hit." [Normal voice] what went on?

No shouting. Stay calm.

Nobody can understand you if you're shouting, okay?

What happened?

Um...

[Jo] mm-hmm.

That's what's important I feel here--for daniel--

To feel like he's being heard,

Because that leads to so much frustration.

He becomes really impulsive with the rest of his siblings

And then he lashes out

And he's met with discipline that's very aggressive.

Give each other a hug then and make up then, okay?

And when he's spoken to correctly and respectfully

And in a manner

That doesn't thr*aten any kind of hostility with him,

He responds really, really well.

Stop. Before you're reactive to something,

Just stop and be responsible and go,

"Right. I need to hear both sides."

And be calm about it

So that you take all the anger out the situation

Because you're there purely just to listen, okay? [Child shouting indistinctly]

The way we approached dan's a.d.h.d.--

I don't think we're doing the right thing.

I think jo is correct in what she was telling us.

Coming up on "supernanny,"

Kadi gets some surprise visitors.

This lady's been living here for a year

And still hasn't met any other mothers.

And daniel decides to open his heart.

I'm gonna call your dad. I wanna talk to your dad.

Okay.

See how it goes.

When "supernanny" returns.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

[Jo] the next task for me was to get mom and dad

To see each one of their children as individuals

Rather than one large pack,

And I had two different ideas of how to accomplish that.

Okay, so look. This is what I want to show you.

Hearts--seven of them.

Each day I want you to write something very positive

About each one, and then what you're going to do

Is you're going to give them the hearts at dinnertime. Oh, cool.

And so using the hearts every dinnertime

Allows mom to put a really nice, loving positive message

On that for each and every one of them.

Okay, ella, there's yours, and there's reed's

And aiden and phillip.

Thank you, mom.

It allows me to really say what I'm thinking and--and feeling

And--and not be afraid to just put it out there.

Yours says, "phillip, you were very helpful today.

Thank you. I love you. Mom."

[Laughs]'cause you were a good helper.

[Marli] I like the hearts because

It makes us feel better about ourselves

When our mom gives us the good comments and stuff.

"Aiden, you are so fun to play on the swings with,"

And reed's says, "reed, I am so proud

That you said 'lizard' today. I love you. Mom."

Yeah, that's a big deal for him to say things like that.

To hear that on a daily basis is gonna be so good

For their hearts and their little souls.

Where's the three older ones? Can you come?

[Jo] the hearts idea is for mom to be positive

About writing a little message for each child,

So that they get individual attention.

Splitting the chores amongst the three eldest children

Takes the burden off of marli,

And it also allows

The other children to share the chores equally.

Okay, you're gonna know what your chore is for the day

Because your initial will be pinned

To one of the chores

And placed onto the corkboard.

[Marli] I thought that was a better idea,

'Cause then my mom and dad didn't have to do a lot of work,

I didn't have to do a lot of work,

And we all had a good amount of responsibilities.

Also because you are the oldest,

You will be privileged with good behavior

In staying up a little later, too,

Over the weekends and maybe having sleepovers.

All right?

Daddy, jo rocks.

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[Jo] I find it absolutely bizarre

That kadi has been here for a year

And hasn't even met any of her neighbors,

And so I thought I'd venture outside her own doorstep

And start to make some neighbor friends myself.

These are your neighbors. Hi, guys. Nice to meet you all.

Oh, my gosh. [Kadi] I hold on to my old neighborhood

And the way we had it so much so,

That I really fight against making friends here.

This lady's been living here for a year... [Laughs]

And still hasn't met any other mothers.

As you can see, these are all mothers.

It really showed me that, you know, there is a community,

And sometimes it just takes one person

Willing to step out of their comfort zone

And say, "hey, you know, let's be friends."

Yes. That's so funny.

Well, come on in and make yourself at home.

So, kadi, this is for you-- "mom to mom."

Okay, this is all yourmoms' addresses... [Laughs]

And numbers in here.

I gave kadi a "mom to mom" book, so she could place

The mothers' addresses and telephone numbers in there

To be able to identify the name to the face,

So that she'll know who she's inviting around.

I'm really glad that you've come this afternoon,

Because it just really shows you that in a neighborhood,

That are so many other moms who are out

Doing the same thing that you guys are.

Itis challenging when you're at home with your kids.

You wanna know that you can pick up the phone and say,

"Hey, this is going on today. What's your advice?"

And to be able to support one another,

And that really is crucial. Keep in touch with one another.

Ring one another. Support one another.

You're all women raising children.

And even if you don't talk, I'll talk your ear off

If you'll listen, so you can call me,

And if you have nothing to say, I got plenty to say. [Laughs]

Kadi came out of her shell, and she had a great time

Talking to the other mothers. I think it's a sigh of relief

For kadi to realize that she's not as lonely

Or isolated as she thought she was.

I really appreciate it. I-i loved meeting all of you.

You're all welcome to come anytime.

You're very--thank you, jo, for inviting them.

This was really great.

Whether you have one kid or kids,

All moms are in the same boat. They need a support system.

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It is time for me to go for a few days only,

But in those few days,

Remember, everything that you have in this house

Works for you and is there to serve you,

So take ownership of it. [Kadi] it's very easy to do,

The things that, you know, your teacher teaches you

When they're standing over your shoulder,

But when that teacher leaves the classroom,

It's basically up to the student.bye.

Bye.[Jo] kadi and daniel are gonna have

Their hands full with the new techniques,

But I hope they do a good job in remembering

What I've taught them, because when I get back,

I plan on them both speaking to kadi's dad.

Coming up on "supernanny,"

With jo gone, daniel acts up.

You will lose privileges for tomorrow. Do you understand?

And later, kadi and daniel make the call

That's taken them years to make...

When "supernanny" returns.

But first a tip from "supernanny" ♪ be good, be good ♪

Do your kids squirm when it comes

To cutting their fingernails?

Then make the experience fun. Every time you cut a nail,

Place a finger puppet over their finger,

So that when you're finished, you'll have ten tidy nails

And ten finger puppets to play with.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

[Jo] the prescotts have spent three days without me,

So it's going to be interesting

To see if they've held their own.

How have you been? Been well. Yeah.

So as you can see, we've got some clips here,

And we're gonna take a look at the first one,

And that's all about daniel and his behavior and time-outs

And how you guys have addressed daniel's a.d.h.d.

And your approach to that,

Because that was definitely something

That needed to be improved.

[Shouting indistinctly]

[Crying]

[Child] birthday cake.

[Kadi] a birthday cake?

Yeah.

[Speaking indistinctly]

[Daniel] son, you can come out of the corner

Whenever you're ready to.

All right.

[Daniel jr. Crying]

Can I talk to you in my bedroom?

Come on.

We do not want you to get upset.

That's what we're here for. We're here to help you.

Do you want to change that?

Okay, if you did, that would make me real proud of you,

Okay? I love you.

Okay. You know I'll always forgive you, right?

Yeah. And I do.

That's nice. That's really nice to see.

Look, you're choking watching that.

I can see all your eyes welling.yeah.

Yeah, it is choking, though, to watch, isn't it?

You know, you feel a bit like... When you watch it, you know? It is. It's tough to see

Him being so angry, too.

Let's be real here,

Daniel, you're still learning how to compose yourself

And not get wound up by daniel when he kicks off.

It really is about your own temperament,

Because you'll-- you'll feed into that banter...right.

Or you won't, and learning to step outside your own box

And have more self-discipline is what brings you to the point

Of being able to execute this discipline

With daniel in a successful way.

I think that the way we're dealing with it now...

There's a light at the end of the tunnel.yeah.

I think we have-- it's way better.

We have a chance now with him,

Whereas before, I felt like we were--it was hopeless.

It was getting worse, not better.

Well done, daniel.thanks.

Well done. Well done.

Thank you.

Okay, so are we ready to see the next bit here,

Which is all about chores? Let's take a look.

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[Daniel] do make sure, yeah, put 'em in sticking up.

The sharp knives-- put them in the back

And put them down, okay?

[Grunts]

Nice.

[Kadi] you are cleaning. Here, grab a paper towel

And start rubbing them out on the mirrors.

[Kadi] the dishes had to be hard for daniel,

Because he likes the dishwasher a certain way.

Like, he has his method, so I have to just--

I just have to brag on him that that was really hard,

But he is handling it really well,

Like he knows that they're doing their best,

And he's not tearing 'em up for,

You know, not doing it his way.

I tried to explain to him how to do it,

But I didn't-- I just let him do it. Yeah.

Kept my hands off-- tried to, at least.

And the fact is, he's in. He's in. He's doing it.right.

You know? And that's what's important here.

Okay, let's move on to the last but not least. Yes.

This is the clip about the hearts and the children,

So let's see how well we did with our...

Okay. Consistency here.

[Daniel] something else here? [Kadi] marli?

Here. I wanna talk to everybody about something that jo said.

Come here, okay. [Ella speaks indistinctly]

Listen. Listen. I really wanna do our family circle tonight... [Marli] okay.

And I wanna do our hearts.okay.

Okay. No running. No yelling. [Boy] okay.

Show me your "not calm" face. [Laughs]

Okay, now show me your calm face.

Now what do we need to do right now? Which face?

Calm face.

So show me the face you're gonna do

For the rest of the night.

"Baby minnie, don't forget your coats."

Mom, why don't you just bring that stuff to the table?

[Daniel] there you go, baby girl.

So, as you can see, you promised the kids the hearts... Yeah.

And then they-- you didn't deliver.

They've really--they'vereally latched onto that. They love it.

They love it. They love receiving this positive message

From you every night,

So please try and remember to do so.

You're confirming to them things that they've done

That have been fantastic during the day,

And you're reminding them of the things that they've done,

Which is incredibly positive.

I've seen some fantastic, fantastic footage.

I'm very, very pleased with that.

Of course, there's always room for improvement.

It's nice to see the pair of you. Well done.

Thank you.

Coming up on "supernanny,"

Emotions run high

When a father and son-in-law struggle to connect...

Your relationship with daniel has been one that's

Had its shares of ups and downs, right, we could honestly say?

When "supernanny" returns.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

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[Jo] the dvd footage was absolutely superb.

There is still one thing emotionally

This family need to overcome,

And that's to get kadi and daniel working

On their relationship with kadi's dad sherman.

How about if I suggested building that bridge

This afternoon by a phone call--

A baby step forward and having a nice phone call with him?

Kadi-- we'll go in and tell her.

Right now?

Yeah.

Okay. [Laughs] all right. I can try.

I was stunned when jo brought up

Talking to kadi's dad on the phone today.

I didn't expect it.

I think that this is a big challenge for me.

I'm gonna call your dad,

And I'm gonna to talk to your dad.

Okay.

We'll see how it goes. And you're okay with that?

I just got this knot in my stomach,

Uh, because I knew it was something I needed to do.

You know why we're doing this? Because you know what?

Itis about time, isn't it? Let's face it.

It's about just really being able to, you know,

Touch base with your dad,

You know, to speak to your father-in-law and to--

And to clean the air and to start afresh.

[Jo] it was time for kadi to let go--

Let go of all that bitterness

Because kadi's dad had made a choice to leave the family,

And if daniel loves her,

Than he needs to accept his father-in-law,

Regardless of his sexuality.

[Phone rings]

[Man] hello? Hi. Is that sherman?

Yes.

Hi, sherman. It's jo frost. How are you?

I'm well. How are you?

Yeah, I'm fine.

I'm here with kadi and with daniel.

Hey.

Hey. Hey, dad.

I would love just to hear a little bit

Of howyou felt personally

With the decision that you made.

Oh, boy. [Laughs]

I went through... Just anguish that was unbelievable

And had for years fought it and fought it,

And I got married, thought that would end it,

Got really involved in church. I thought that might help,

And actually, it--it-- nothing had helped,

And I still had those feelings,

And it came to a point in my life where I knew

I had to make that decision,

And once it was over with for me, and I'd gone through it,

It was like the weight of the world

Had been lifted off my shoulders

When i, you know, finally had come out to everybody.

The phone call made me understand

Where he was coming from with what he was going through.

You know, it's a step in the right direction.

Does your sexuality define who you are as a father?

No.

Does it change how you feel for your daughter

And the love that you have for her?

Absolutely not. I-i love them more than anything, and that--

My sexuality has nothing to do with that.

Your relationship with daniel has been one

That's had its shares of ups and downs, right,

We could honestly say?

Yes.

So, I mean, daniel, hey, here's your dad-in-law here--

Your father-in-law on the phone.

[Daniel] hey, sherman.

How you doing, buddy?

I'm all right. Um, well, you know,

Through talking with-- with jo and with kadi,

And all the issues that have been brought up,

The main thing that was brought to my attention

Was that I'm, uh, partly to blame for keeping

Your guys' relationship, um, on rocky terms

And, uh, I just want you to know

That whatever it takes for you and kadi

To have a better relationship, I'm willing to do it

To help you guys out and help us all out.

All right. That's great news.

There's nothing I want more than a relationship... [Kadi sniffling]

With you, daniel. I respect you, um,

Tremendously as a father and a husband,

'Cause I've been there and seen you, um, work with the kids...

[Voice breaking] and I've been there with kadi,

And I'm proud to have you as a son-in-law,

And I need to be able to show,

But, uh, I think you're a heck of a guy

And a great father, and nothing I like better

To have a good relationship with you, bud.

Yeah, me, too.

All right. Thank you, dad. [Sniffles]

It was just nice to be able to hear

How much he is proud of daniel and he cares for him,

And I think that probably touched daniel, too.

In order for a relationship to grow

For you guys, daniel, sherman,

To spend quality time together,

It takes time.

Absolutely. Marvelous.

All right, dad. I love you. Okay. I love you, too.

[Beep] bye-bye.

[Kadi] I think this is really the beginning of building

A great relationship. He deserves it.

You know, no matter what's happened in the past,

He still deserves to be able to be a grandfather.

Give me a hug.

[Sighs] thank you.

Mwah.

I'm really proud of you both.

Thank you.

Yes. Yes.

♪♪♪

[Jo] I'm glad we're all together,

Because it is time for jo jo to leave now.

Can I get, like, a big group hug?uh-oh.

Can I give you a big hug? She's asking for it. She's asking for it.

A big hug.

[Laughing]

Thanks, jo jo. Thanks, jo. You've helped us a lot.

Thanks a lot, jo jo. [Kadi] now that jo has come into our family,

I feel like we are in a completely different place.

I think we have more peace within our home.

I see a change in every child.

Thank you. Take care of your family, huh?

Always. [Daniel] after having jo come to the house,

I think our family's a lot better off.

It's a lot calmer. I definitely think we're a happier family.

Bye. Kisses. [Kadi] say good-bye. Say "bye." Give kisses.

Bye-bye. Take care. Bye.

The prescott family were unhappy,

Their hearts were heavy, their children were sad,

And with good communication, open minds, open hearts,

We have seven children who are much happier,

Parents who are communicating with one another

And a grandfather who's gonna get to see his kids.

That's priceless.

♪♪♪

Where's the duckies? They're over here.

We're gonna go set our stuff down,

And then we'll go see the ducks.

I just feel like so many weights have been lifted off of me,

And it's put me in such a peaceful place inside.

Mom, do you have any food?

I don't. I don't have any food right now.

The main reason I started this whole thing

Was 'cause kadi needed it, and along the way,

I found some things-- a lot of stuff for myself, too.

I wasn't expecting to, but I did.

Sting you, yeah? Yeah.

I want one with dip. With dip.

[Kadi] I'm no longer having these thoughts

Running through my mind at the end of the day

Of all the things that I haven't accomplished.

I go to bed with a sense of pride in--

In what I've accomplished with my kids that day,

And, um, it gives me a great hope for the future.

So what happens when we run out of grapes? [Laughs]

I see my family changing since jo has got here.

Yeah. Throw--throw whatever.

I don't know what they're gonna eat.

[Kadi] talking about my dad and resolving that with daniel

Was like somebody just literally lifting a weight off of me.

I feel like there's hope now.

♪♪♪

[Kadi] marli, if you don't start eating

When it hits the plate, I'm not gonna pity you.

I'm not gonna sit here and cut cheese all day.

[Laughing]

♪♪♪

Aah!

Get!

No! Oh, come on!

Well, that didn't go very well at all.

How about if you... Okay. Yeah.

Oh!

He's stuck in the chimney. [Laughing]

Ow.

[Continues laughing]

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