04x13 - Addis Family

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Tonight on "supernanny"...

Jo goes to indianapolis to visit the addises...

[Crying]

A family in mourning

Over the recent passing of a loved one.

He was that special to you.

The four kids throw constant tantrums... [Crying]

And mom is completely indecisive...

I don't know what to do.you don't know what to do?

And too dependent on grandma's help...

But at what point do you stand on your own two feet?

And can she use her own experience

To keep this family from being devastated by grief...

When my mom passed away,

It was the most devastating thingever.

Or will the kids keep running mom ragged?

Aah!

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♪ Johnny ♪

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So this week I'm in indiana.

Let's take a look at the family that needs my help.

Hi. We're the addis family.

I'm leslie. I'm tony, and we have four kids.

[Crying]

We have twin boys, jonah and jonathon,

Who are almost ...[Laughs]

Eden, who's , and elijah, who's almost .

I'm a technical consultant. Uh, my hours are generally

Monday through friday : to :.

And I'm a stay-at-home mom,

And I'm here with the kids all day.[Crying]

[Laughs] ow. [Crying]

One of my biggest issues is the temper tantrums.

Come on.[Crying] I don't want to.

[Crying]

[Leslie sighs]

They're getting big enough that they're hard to manage...

[Crying] and I find myself a lot of days

Just giving up and throwing in the towel.

Jonah...you can watch me from there.

Sit... Ugh. The twins get physical with me.

Jonah. Hang it on your wall.

They will hit and kick me... You are in time-out.

And so I just try to get away from them.

Uh, eden is our little princess.

Eden has gotten incredibly defiant.

[Crying] aah!

She just does not want to cooperate.

Aah!

Look at this little girl.

She has everybody running to her beck and call--

Not good for her, not good for them.[Screaming]

Elijah can cause a lot of problems.

Hey, elijah, no, don't...okay.

Knock it over.

As well as the kids, my mom lives with us.

Good job.

About six months ago, my dad tragically d*ed.

We were boating, and he was out on a jet ski.

He had fallen off,

And he ended up bleeding under his--his skull,

And so the kids saw us trying to perform c.p.r.

It was just very, very hard for the kids.

[Crying]

[Leslie sighs]

I have noticed behavior changes,

And, um, since dad d*ed,

Everything just seems amplified,

And so any aggressive behavior they had before

Seems really heightened now.

Children digest death very differently to--to adults.

Sometimes it gets very overwhelming.

As a matter of fact,

It's hard for me not to start off feeling overwhelmed...

Please don't act like that.

So there's a lot of things that I don't do.

Um, I don't get to the grocery store,

Because I can't get there with all of them,

And, um, it's hard.

Supernanny, we really need your help.

Please come help our family now.

Okay, guys, bear with me.

I know there's a lot to sort out,

But I'm on my way.

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[Elijah] jo.

Hello.hi.

Jo.leslie.

Hi.nice to meet you.

Knowing that she was coming in to watch me was unnerving.

Should we close the door here?come on, sweetie.

This is my mom, nana.hi.

Pleased to meet you.this is my husband tony.

Hi, tony. Pleased to meet you.hi.

The addis family have four children--

Jonah and jonathon, who are twins and years old,

Eden, who is almost years old,

And little elijah, who is years old.

Just show me what you would do

On an ordinary day if I wasn't here,

So I can observe as much as possible.

Just please carry on.all right. I guess we'll see what happens here.

[Elijah crying]

[Leslie] okay. Shh. You have to be quiet.

[Jo] as soon as I started to observe the family,

I noticed that elijah was very tired,

And he started to pitch a fit.[Crying]

I see leslie as being very much a young girl still.

She hasn't really stepped up to the realm

Of being this mature woman who is a mother of four children.

You can see the dependency still

On her mother charity,

And how she takes care of the whole nest.

What?

[Cries] I want candy!

They are all going through such severe grief at the moment.

Rick's death was a sudden shock,

And he d*ed at such a relatively young age.

I mean, it's understandable

That it's made such an impact on this family.

Yeah.

A big part of us is so concerned

About the kids remembering, um, my husband,

And their--their pappy.

Mm.

Mm, who is that?

Who is that?

Pappy.

[Jo] to watch charity with elijah upstairs...

Mm. Mine.

It was definitely a place where you just kind of felt...

She's feeling. She's really feeling it.

Is this pappy outside?yeah.

Yeah. Wanna see that one?

Mm. Mm. Mm.

Aw. You love pappy?

I want more.

She doesn't want elijah to kind of forget who he is,

But the reality is, he's so young,

And I just don't want elijah to--to grow up

Feeling like he's conditioned to kiss photos

If he wants candy.

Pappy loves you, too.

It was a tricky situation to be in for me,

To, you know, to see that,

So it's got to be dealt with very sensitively and--

And very directly, too.

We're gonna take a bath, okay?are we?

Okay?

[Leslie] eden, go brush your teeth.

Go brush your teeth.no.

The children were asked to brush their teeth,

And eden made a really big fuss about it...

[Tony] oh, elijah. Get down.

[Whining] no.go brush your teeth.

And she didn't want to go into the bathroom at all.

Aah!

She just absolutely refused.

Turn around.no.

I have a tendency to try to reason with them,

And that is not always the best, uh, solution.

Hey, look at me. Look at me.

Right here. Eyes, eden. What color are my eyes?

What color are my eyes? Look at me.

Green. Blue.green? Blue? Okay, look at me.

Tony continuously asked them to look into his eyes

All the time.

I'm up here. Look at me. My eyes are right up here.

Hold those up here by my eyes if you have to.

Look at my eyes.

It just doesn't work.are you seeing me?

So tony finally gets eden to the sink...[Crying]

And it's a standoff.

[Whines]

You ready to brush your teeth?

She crossed her hands.

She certainly didn't want to brush her teeth,

And she made a big riot about it.

[Eden crying]

[Leslie] when eden gets to that point,

I feel just completely out of control.

I just know it's gonna not end well.

[Eden] I want mommy to do it.

You want mommy to do what?

And then I got a very clear opportunity

To see exactly how the three,

Meaning tony, leslie and charity,

Discipline eden when she's disrespectful

And doesn't want to do as she's been told.

They do nothing.

Mommy! You press this.

Sorry.

[Crying] I don't--

You don't do it like that!

It started out that we had disciplined children.

It's just-- it's just unraveled over time.

[Crying]

[Jo] so from the time they asked eden

To go upstairs and brush her teeth

To the time she actually did brush her teeth,

It was way over an hour, and I realized

That eden may possibly be stubborn whilst I was there.

Coming up on...

Jo is shocked when she sees -year-olds with sippy cups...

[Jo] what's going on in this house?

And jo gets personal with the family...

Because grief will throw you upside down

And every which way it can, and I can tell you that

From personal experience losing my mother.

When "supernanny" returns.

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Do you need a fork or anything

Or is that good enough for you?humph.

So lunchtime calls in...

Put your banana right here, and it will be like a face.no.

And they sit there eating their peanut butter sandwiches,

And then I look at the table, and I see sippy cups.

How many sippy cups do you need in a house

Where there's only one -year-old?

I mean, to me, that's just absolutely crazy.

These kids are more than capable of drinking out of a cup,

So why sippy cups?

[Leslie] you did. Are you a baby still?unh-unh.

Why are you taking that small a bite?

There are children who are almost years old

Eating like babies.

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So I hear grandma tell mom that jonah is calling for her...

Hey, are you done? Do you need me to wipe you?

Jonah?[Jonah] yeah?

Do you need me to wipe you?

I can't do it.okay. All right.

And then I realize that jonah is calling for mom

Because he wants her to wipe his bottom.

This boy is years old.

[Toilet flushes]

Wash your hands, okay?

I mean, what's going on in this house?

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Later on in the afternoon,

Mom and the kids spent some time doing crafts.

Come on.[Whines]

Here you go.

Mom gave eden a sticker that was on jonathon's monkey

To her by accident, and he wasn't happy with that.

[Tony] I have no idea.oh, you know what?

I didn't know it was your heart ear,

And I gave it to eden to put on her monkey.[Sighs]

I didn't know it was yours.

[Leslie] I accidentally gave eden jonathon's sticker,

'Cause it had fallen off of the monkey.

[Crying]

I'm sorry.

Honey, I didn't mean to do that.

Jonathon, I'm sorry.

Mommy, mommy...eden, we accidentally put jonathon's heart sticker

On your monkey.

Can I take it off and put something else on your...no.

Monkey's belly?huh! It's ruined!

[Leslie] I kind of was hoping

That she would just say, "okay"...

No.but she did not want any part of that.

[Eden] no.can we do that for jonathon, just please?

No.

So I just felt kinda trapped, like no matter what I did,

Whether I corrected my mistake or whether I didn't,

Somebody was gonna be very unhappy.

So now what?i don't know what to do.

You don't know what to do...'Cause either way, I'm gonna make someone--

With the stars and the monkey noses?

'Cause either way, I feel like I lose.

She tells me that she feels guilty

Because one of the kids are gonna be upset

Over the decision she's made. That's life.

Eden, can we please give him the heart nose,

And I'll put this heart that mommy drew on yours?

[Crying] no.no.

Then I find myself sometimes trying

To please all of the kids.

What if we found a foam sticker?no.

Not foam! I don't wanna draw!

You're not gonna keep all your kids happy /...

[Both screaming]

But you get on, and you deal with it.

[Both crying]

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There's no doubt when I walked into this house,

That it was obvious that all of you as a family

Are undergoing a grieving process.

You father-in-law, your husband, passed away

All but six months ago,

And you are all going through that grieving process.

It's having its ups and downs,

Because grief will throw you upside down

And every which way it can,

And I can tell you that

From personal experience losing my mother.

Yesterday, charity, i-i saw little elijah,

And he--and he said-- he said, "candy."

As we were upstairs, he said, "candy,"

And he--he kissed the photos of grandpa,

And then you gave him candy.

If grandma gives elijah candy

Because grandma's got the right to give him candy,

And it's okay,

Let it be for that.

[Voice breaking] I never put the two together,

That--that candy was just, um--

Rick had the candy jar

And gave the kids candy out of it,

So I was trying...

'Cause he's not gonna be able to do it.

[Sniffles]

You know that that's all part of the process

Of you personally grieving.

He's not gonna be there for the first christmas,

The first birthday, the first anniver--you know?

I hear you.

It's true.

What I wanted to talk about

Was that as much as there is a grieving process going on,

At the same time, I'm here

Because there are issues that do need to be addressed

With regards to the kids. Let's start off with eden.

Eden really shows me

That she has been allowed by the adults in her life

To be able to have

What she wants when she wants however she wants.

So it's important for eden to understand

She must give a level of respect,

But at the same time,

Respect the rules that are in the house

And the authority of her parents.

Otherwise, you're gonna have a nightmare on your hands.

You really are.

But what I want to talk about also,

Is allowing the kids to use the cups

That they should be for their own age.

I was quite shocked to see the twins with the sippy cups.

The sippy cup-- they're years old.

What are they doing with sippy cups?

I think there is a lot of things

They should be doing that they're not doing.

I agree, just like I think a -year-old should be able

To wipe their own butt, you know?

They're more than capable. You know, how do they learn

If you're not gonna give 'em the chance?

The lack of management I'm seeing here, leslie,

When it comes to the kids,

This sense of not being confident

To make the right move,

Because you don't know what the outcome's going to be,

Leads you in a place of constantly feeling

Like you're failing all the time.

Up until now, you've had your mother call those sh*ts,

But at what point do you stand on your own two feet

And raise the bar as an adult

And say, "I've gotta learn myself"?

It is hard for me to make a decision,

Um, because i-i am afraid I'm gonna make a mistake,

And I feel like mom has been there and done that

And made some mistakes and learned from those,

So i-i do try to ask her opinion a lot.

To not make a decision is to not take any responsibility

Or to be opinionated with what you feel

Or how you feel your kids should be raised.

A lot has been said today at the table

With regards to the issues that we need to get through,

And I am very, very enthusiastic to get working with all of you,

So do I have a family onboard?

Yes.mm-hmm.

All right, so let's get to work,

'Cause there's much to be done,

Much to be done. Thank you.

Thank you.thank you.

Coming up on...

Do you know how many american houses I've been into

Where the kids don't wipe their own butt?

Jo gives a crash course on going potty...

Remember, front to back.

And disaster strikes at dinnertime...

[Crying]

When "supernanny" returns.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

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[Jo] on my first day,

I wanted to focus on parental skills,

Because the children's behavior is getting confused

With the family's grieving process.

The first step was to ask grandma to leave

So that leslie wouldn't be dependent on her help

So that she could just stand up on her own.

I am gonna run out and get a pedicure.[Leslie] okay.

Okay?you have fun.

Leslie definitely needs to feel the sense of responsibility

And independence, but she has that crutch,

And that's her mother, and to a degree,

It's been a godsend and--and--and not,

Because it's made her slightly lazy

And dependent on her mother.

Tell nana bye. I'll be back in a little bit, okay?[Boy] bye.

Bye. I love you.

[Jo] with grandma gone,

It was time to get these kids to act their age...

And wipe their own bottoms.

And right away, eden gave me the chance

To show mom exactly how.[Eden] mommy!

[Jo] oh, this is great.[Leslie] yes, eden.

Oh, this is good.is she old enough?

What was that?is she--is she old enough to wipe herself after she poops?

Oh, yeah.

We've got a -year-old

Who's struggling to wipe her own bottom.

I just thought that was crazy.okay, this is what you want to do.

Don't wipe her bottom.okay.

She's got to learn to do it herself, okay?okay.

Go in there, okay?uh-huh.

And then tell her what to do, all right?okay. All right.

What I would do as well...[Eden grunting]

Is that I would keep some, like, wet wipes as well.there are some in there.

Great. All right. Let's go and do it.okay. All right.

Come out and tell me that you haven't done it, okay?[Laughs] okay.

She needs to learn to do it herself.okay.

[Eden] mommy.yes, eden...

[Jo] we had mom in the bathroom teaching eden

How to take care of herself on her own accord,

Which was quite funny, actually,

Listening to her through that door.

[Leslie] I'm gonna teach you how to wipe.

Now pull out one wipe.

Remember, front to back.

[Leslie] okay. [Laughs]

I'm often asked,

"When should a child wipe their own bottom?"

Typically between and years old,

And eden's almost years old, so she's way overdue.

Do you know how many american houses I've been into

Where the kids don't wipe their own butt?

It's quite interesting.

You know, you want to make sure they're clean,

And you want to make sure that, you know,

They've got good hygiene

And they're taking care of themselves,

But sometimes you don't think they're ready to do that,

So you're just doing it for 'em.

Good job. Good job, eden. Good job.

She said, "I can't believe I wiped myself."

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You want some milk?

[Jo] after the tutorial on wiping bottoms,

It was now time to address

These -year-old boys drinking out ofsippy cups,

And I knew the solution would be simple--

Get rid of those cups, put in regular cups

And let 'em feel like big boys.

[Leslie] okay.

[Leslie] I just honestly misjudged

What they're actually capable of doing.

They work well.do they work well?

There's gonna be a few spills here and there,

But they'll soon learn.whoo!

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[Bell dings][tony] whoa.

All right.

All right, go sit down.

[Groans]

[Tony] that means you, too.

In the evening, dad and grandma came home,

And dinner turned out to be a complete disaster.

[Tony] eden, you need to eat two of your carrots...

[Crying]

And then you can eat your bread. But if you don't...

[Jo] eden decided that she didn't want to eat

Any of her vegetables, and so there was this complete protest.

[Jo speaks indistinctly]okay.

Okay, you know what? Look at my eyes.[Tony] here, take a bite.

Stop the complaining right now.

But I don't like this.this is your--hey!

This is your warning.

Stop the complaining, or you're going to time-out.[Whimpers]

Eden's got an enormous amount

Of power and control over her parents.

[Crying] I don't like carrots!

[Jonah] you just gotta eat it, all right?

Mine are already gone.

Eden and jonathon were absolutely gonna have

No part of eating anything.

[Crying][jo] so I want you to make it clear to the pair of them,

"I'm not having this nonsense anymore," okay?

As simple as that. 'Cause right now

We've got them acting like they're years old.

Jonah put his thinking cap on and finished first.give me five.

So he was the first one to leave the table.

And jonathon sat there and cried, and so did eden.jonathon and eden?

[Both crying]you need to stop it right now.

And they refused to listen to mom.

And she really had to stick to her g*ns

And just lay down the rules,

Tell these kids what she expected

And then leave them.

[Both crying]

I want you to just go back at the table

And then say to them, "I've asked you

And already told you what I want you to eat."

Okay? "And I want you to do as you're told

"And finish that off,

Because you won't be leaving this table until that is done."

Jonathon and eden, I have told you what I want you to do.

Would you like mommy to heat it up for you?

I don't like them.

Would you like me to heat it up for you?

Jo just gave me the willpower to persevere.

You know, "I've done this. It works. Keep going.

"You're not hurting your kids.

"You're asking something very simple.

You just want 'em to try. Let's, you know, just keep going."[Crying]

All right.okay.

She said no.okay. All right, well, let's go and play with the rest.

It was a painstaking kind of time.

She was definitely torn between, you know, just saying,

"Okay, up from the table,"

And sticking to her word and following through.

[Jonathon] mommy?

[Leslie] yes?

I ate the things that were right here.[Chuckles]

And, mommy?give me a hug. Good job now.

Yes, you do get a cuddle and a hug with me.

Oh!

[Crying]

Mm.

[Jo] you did great.i am so proud of you.

How does that feel to know you did that?

Eden, this is your last chance to have it heated up.

Do you want it heated up, yes or no?unh-unh.

No? Okay.

[Cries]

Eden never gave up. [Laughs]

She sat at that table,

So then before long she was kind of... Dozing off,

And her head was kind of going...

[Leslie] she just held on till it was time to go to bed.

I mean, she sat there forever. [Chuckles]

Tell everybody good night, and then you're going to bed.bed already?

The boys stay up playing.okay.

She doesn't have that privilege tonight.okay.

[Eden crying] I don't know. She doesn't understand.

She's got to see that it's not about falling asleep

And getting away with not doing it.

I definitely think that eden was trying to control,

And she lost. She knows she's not gonna win.

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Coming up on...

Can jo get dad to have an emotional breakthrough?

It is okay for you to mourn for yourself.

And later, can mom handle a tantrum of epic proportions?

When "supernanny" returns.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

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[Jo] if these kids start to behave better,

It's going to lessen the stress

That the addis family are already feeling

Because of the loss of losing rick.

Also these kids are grieving, too, and they've been affected

By the other members of the family grieving.

So that was my next step--

To give these kids a way to grieve

And remember their granddad at their own pace.

Pirates used to keep things that were very valuable to them

In these treasure chests.

And it's exactly what we are going to do.

We're going to keep objects and things

That create fond and happy memories of grandpa.

It allows the children to process grief

In their own time

And allows the adults to recognize that these kids

Haven't forgot who pappy is, but they need to be able

To heal in their own time, in their own space.this is great!

Look at all these lovely little things you've collected

That you've remembered for your chest.

[Leslie] they did have a lot of fun with them.

They enjoyed going on a little treasure hunt

To find things that reminded them of--of their pappy.

These chests will grow as the kids do

And become older as well, and there'll be little things

That they'll add to that, and little things

That you guys will add to that as well.

And when they're ready, which is most important,

They will go and have a look at their chest.okay.

What is it with the cars?because I remember him doing a lot of stuff at daytona.

I spent a lot of time with my dad out at the racetrack.

It just became a true part of who--

Our family--what we did.

Did pappy go up in that as well?um...

Um, yeah.he did?

Yes.he loved that game.

Did he?and...

I don't remember the last time that we were able

To get through... Some stories

Or whatever without crying, um, about my dad.

So that felt good to-- to laugh and remember

And it to be a happy time.

Charity, I'm gonna leave you down here with the kids,

And what I would love to do is to have

Some quality time with tony and leslie upstairs.[Charity] okay.

Mom and dad are also hurting, and so it's really important

To see that they're supporting each other

Through such sensitive times.

Can I ask you a question?

How--how do you personally feel, emotionally,

About rick passing away?

'Cause I've gotta tell you that when--

When my mom passed away, tony,

It was the most devastating thing

That could have-- thathas ever happened to me...

Ever.

I-i really honestly don't feel like I'm in mourning for rick

For me personally.mm.

I mourn for my kids.

I mourn that they're not gonna get the opportunities

To know him that I did.

I grieve for my kids, not--not for myself.

I was kind of surprised to see him

Actually get that emotional.

It was good to see him just feel.

Youare. Youare grieving...

And mourning, not having rick around.

You are, because he was that special to you,

Because you loved him that much.

And it's all right, tony.

It is okay for you to mourn for yourself.

I really encourage you to-- to give yourself permission

To be able to be in touch with those feelings

And to be able to say it-- it's all right

That I feel that way, because I loved the man.

But I really want you

To be able to reach out to leslie,

Because it allows her to be able to reach out to you as well,

But at the same time, for you to connect

On a much stronger level than ever

With regards to how you support each other as parents.

I know you want to give her a hug, really.[Leslie laughing]

I know that wink meant, "give me a squeeze."

Give her a squeeze. I know what you meant now.

Love you.i love you, too.

Tony really opened up emotionally,

Which I was really pleased to see.

But it was important to remind leslie and tony

That even though they're grieving,

It doesn't stop them from having fun.

I think what we'll do...

[Children speaking indistinctly]

In about five minutes

Is kindly ask mom and dad to leave the table,

Because I do believe that I have

A dance class waiting for the pair of you.

[Laughs][laughs]

[Jo] it's date night tonight for mommy and daddy.

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[Jo] I heard that leslie loved to dance.

However, since rick's passed away,

There has been a tremendous amount of grief,

And it's put stress on leslie and tony's marriage.

So I felt it was very important that leslie and tony

Spend time together as a couple to--to connect with one another.

One, a-two. One, a-two. Rock.[Laughs]

Back. Back step.okay.

Especially since my dad d*ed, we have not spent much time out,

Just the two of us.two, one, a-two, rock.

One, a-two. Now that's...[Laughs]

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Mom and dad really had fun dancing,

So for homework, I asked them to take their kids out

So they could all have fun.

Feeling good? Are we feeling confident?

Yeah.yeah? Good. Because you've already shown already

That you're doing really well.

I definitely feel like we're headed in the right direction,

And I feel like I've made a lot of commitments

To my family to persevere and to...you're doing really well.

And to follow through with this.

I hope and pray I don't fall back on my own ways.

Don't forget our discipline.okay.

Follow through.you know, I think we're gonna be forced to put ourselves

On the same page and get in line.

Thank you.thank you.

You're welcome. Good night.[Leslie and charity] good night.

This family have made some gradual progress.

I just hope they hold up while I'm gone,

But only time will tell.

Coming up on...

[Screaming]a tantrum so bad it takes

Both mom and nana to get it under control.

[Screams]

And later, leslie and charity have a brush with fame...

Hi. I'm marco andretti. Very nice to meet you.nice to meet you.

When "supernanny" returns.

♪ Be good, be good ♪and now a tip from supernanny.

Are you fed up with these worn-down sippy cups?

Because if you are, buy your kids

Some new plastic drinking cups

And sit down and help them decorate them.

They'll be so excited to use them

That they'll forget that these old sippy cups ever existed.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

♪♪♪♪♪

[Jo] after three days,

I'm curious to see if mom and dad have held it together.

I just hope they've had the opportunity

To take their kids out and have some fun.how are you all?

Good. How are you?very well.

Yeah, very well, thank you. Let's take a look then.

Wow.[Leslie] yes, we can go out.

Promise? Yep. Let's go.

Let's see if we can hop. Are you ready?

Hop, hop, hop, hop, hop, hop. [Laughing]

[Laughs]

[Boy] here!

[Leslie] run down to the other driveway and come back.

[Eden laughs]

Go! Whoa--ooh!

[Crying]

Oh.ooh.

[Crying] okay, everybody. What hurts, eden?

[Speaks indistinctly]

[Crying]

[Screaming] come on. Come on. Okay.

All righty. How ab--

[Eden crying]

Hold on, guys, okay?

[Crying]ouchy?

Yeah, she's got an ouchy.yeah?

On her face. Okay. So the good thing is--

Is that you braved up and took 'em out.

Mm-hmm.

The sad thing is, it only lasted for seven minutes.

[Laughs]stuff does happen, you know?

Kids do fall over. They do hurt themselves.

What you could have done in that scenario

Is actually have just brought eden in

And just attended to her, and then you were inside...mm-hmm.

Actually, charity, so eden could have stayed indoors

If she chose to, or if not, she would have come back out again.

But you brought all the troops back in,

And then nobody got to go out and enjoy.

But it's a start, which is great, you know?

Ooh. Yum.

Yucky.

Yummy. That's elijah's pizza. That's...

[Laughs]okay, try a bite.

Aah! I want pizza. This is elijah's pizza.

Not this!i'm right here. It's hot,

So wait just a second.

[Screaming]

Elijah...[Continues screaming]

Elijah, this is your pizza.

We're gonna try a bite.

[Screaming]

[Charity] dinner's ready. You want it?

[Screaming] [jo] I want to stop you there for a minute.

He knows what pizza looks like.

Right. [Laughs][charity laughs]

He's looking at you, thinking,

"Do not pull the wool over my eyes, woman.

What are you doing?" Seriously.

What I want you to do

Is take him to the table five minutes before.

So get the food down him that you need him to have

Because of its nutritional value.

Then if he has the pizza with everyone else,

He'll nibble at a few pieces like you know he does,

And then he won't want the rest.mm-hmm.

[Grunting] look at me.

You are not gonna fight me. Stand up...

And you're gonna sit in time-out.

[Shrieking]

Your time-out is right there.

[Continues shrieking]

[Jonathon screams]okay. Go play.

Play.

[Continues shrieking]

[Screaming]

[Boy] mommy, I'm quitting.

I got... [Screams]

[Beep][charity] okay. All right.

All right. [Jonathon] today nana yelled at me.

[Leslie] what to do? What to do?

[Children speaking indistinctly]

So if I put him in time-out, I need to follow it through.

Okay. [Microwave oven beeps]

Nana put you in time-out because you had a really,

Really bad attitude. [Leslie] tell nana you're sorry.

I'm sorry.

[Charity] ooh.okay.

Charity, when you first did the time-out with jonathon,

He was screaming,

And you spoke to him, and that gave him leeway

To escalate his temper even more.

Second, when you did, it was in your everyday voice.

It wasn't... [Stern voice] "jonathon, you've misbehaved."

All right? Also what's important is when you do do it,

You follow completely through.

Because if all three of you can do it separately,

And you've mastered it,

Then if it does become to a point

Where you're feeling a bit tired, one can take over.

We've made good tracks,

And it is my duty now

To make sure that we tweak all those last ends.

And we are definitely gonna sort of this mealtime situation

So that we can deal with elijah, and that he can be happy

Having his food that the rest of the kids have.okay.

I see some great work,

So I expect the same this time round.okay.

Let's get ready.[Laughs]

Coming up on...

Jo leaves a note behind for leslie and charity...

"Dearest leslie and charity..."

And leads them to a tear-filled surprise.

Thank you all so much.[Man] my pleasure.

When "supernanny" returns.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

♪♪♪♪♪

From what I saw in the dvd,

And the meltdown at dinnertime, it's very clear to me

That there still are a lot of issues with this family

That surround the dining table.

So should we go off to a restaurant?yeah!

Should we go? I think we should go, yeah.yeah!

I was excited to be going out for dinner.

I mean, that's something that we've--we'vetried...

Um, in vain, sometimes.

Okay, mommy do one, and then you do one.

[Jonah] why can't I have some...

Elijah was really

Digging his heels in and not wanting to eat the food

He had in front of him, but wanting bread.

He knows what he wants, and he's testing you on it.

You know, you've gotta break the habit, because otherwise,

All they'll want to do is live off of junk food.

You know, it really is going cold turkey,

'Cause it's not gonna stop. There's no two ways about that.

And when he misbehaves, look him in the eye and say,

"That's naughty behavior. Now stop it."Okay.

'Cause he knows. He knows.

After I gave mom a few tips, she was able to get elijah

To forget about the bread

And eat what was in front of him.

And because the other children behaved wonderfully,

The evening was a pleasant one.

Pretty tasty, isn't it? Good idea.

Going to dinner was great. I was really impressed

With, you know, the three older kids.

You're being lovely. You're being lovely.

[Jo] she did great.how's it going? Good.

The experience was a wonderful one,

And it's definitely shown this family

That they are more than capable of being able

To go out as a family and enjoy trying new foods,

Enjoy the experience of being out together

And--and do so again and again.

[Laughs]

[Jo] before I left, I had one place

That I wanted both leslie and charity to go.

So I left a note, and in that note,

It had what I had in mind.

It's important that grief is respected,

And I wanted to give them a chance

To be by themselves alone.

"Dearest leslie and charity, I want the both of you

"To know your love for rick will create

"The fondest of memories that will be treasured

"And remain forever in your hearts.

One of those memories you both hold dear..."

[Jo] "one of those memories you both hold dear

"Was spending time at the indianapolis motor speedway.

"His passion for indy was so great

"That he worked for the company

"That made tires for the race cars.

"So in honor of rick, I want you both to go back

"To the speedway for a special tribute

To the man who loved to be called pappy."

Spent a lot of time with my dad out at the racetrack.

He was a huge indy car fan.

He brought you-- you here by himself,

So that was one of the times he tried to do one-on-one time.mm-hmm.

The indy is a huge part of our family's tradition.

We've been doing it for generations.

Hi.[Laughing]

Hi. I'm marco andretti. Very nice to meet you.nice to meet you.

I'm standing there in front of this indy race car,

And around walks marco andretti, and, you know,

If you're a race fan at all, you know who the andrettis are,

Because they've been racing forever.

My dad has taken us here for as long as I can remember,

Uh, so... [Laughs]oh, that's great.

In memory of rick, this is, uh, what we'd like

To present to you guys.

[Gasps][whispers] thank you so much.

When marco andretti handed us the plaque

That was presented from the indianapolis motor speedway,

And it had, um, "in memory of pappy" on it,

I-i was just completely blown away.

For jo to have thought of doing that for us,

It was just all so very overwhelming.

And also tickets to the, uh, indianapolis .

[Both crying][chuckles]

Thank you so much.thank you.

No problem.[Leslie] to be able to keep that tradition going...

Congratulations.you know, for our family, that just meant so much.

Congratulations.and it's, uh, it's, you know, coming from a family

Who can appreciate, you know, generations of the indy .

There just aren't words to describe what that meant.

This is just absolutely awesome. Thank you all so much.

My pleasure. My pleasure.

Walking out on the track with my mom was--was bittersweet,

You know, lots of memories of being there with dad

And just the reality that that's not how it is.

But at the same time, you know, the sun was just shining,

And I just thought, you know, dad's--dad's happy.

Dad's really happy right now.

[Laughs]

♪♪♪♪♪

[Jo] I think this family has come a tremendous way.

I really do.

Elijah, can jo jo have a big hug?

[Leslie] tell jo jo bye-bye.because--

Wait!mm.

I think, through this process, leslie has grown immensely.

I can just see, on a daily basis, the change.

Keep taking care of your family. Keep connecting.

Give me a hug.i'll give jo credit, you know?

She is very, very good at what she does.

She's got a gift for it.i'm very proud of you.

Thanks, jo jo.

Thanks, jo jo.

[Laughs]

I just feel like I've been shown the light...

[Laughs] I don't know, given my life back,

Given, you know, hope.

Bye. Two hands.

Bye-bye![Tony and leslie laughing]

[Jo] in the time that I've spent with them,

They've been able to put things into perspective

And to really do the best by their children

And by themselves.

[Sniffles]

I think it did give us hope for the future

And for our family

And just to know that we can laugh.

[All] thank you, jo!

Thank you, jo!

[All laugh]

Whoo!

[Leslie laughs]

Aah! Aah!

Aah! Aah!

Aah!

Watch out! [Imitates crashing sound]

[Shouts indistinctly]

[Giggles]

Whee!

[Laughs]

[Leslie] whoa! Ha ha!

Boo!

[Laughs] again!

[Growls]

[Charity] jammin', jammin'!

Yay!

[Leslie] gonna jump with me?

[Laughs]

[Charity] whoo![Leslie] whoo! All right!