05x22 - The Krolikowski Family

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Tonight on "supernanny," it's a face-off in florida.

It's ridiculous.no, it's not ridiculous.

Jo finds a father who doesn't even want her in the house...

Personally, I don't think I need supernanny's help.

And fights her face-to-face every step of the way.

[Crying][man] this boy was fine all afternoon.

So he's just--now all of a sudden he's screamin' and cryin'.

Mom is ready to snap...

You're going to listen to me.[Crying] no, I am not.

I'm the boss, john.and can barely find the strength to go on.

I mean, I love my family, but I'm falling out of love.

The kids go at it tooth and nail...

Ow!

[Cries]

Kicking and screaming all day long.

[Screaming]okay.

Can jo get dad to cooperate?

This isn't about me.

Will mom recover?

Or is it too late? [Crying] stop!

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I'm in sunny florida,

Ready to take a look at a family that needs my help,

So come on.

[Both] hi, we're the krolikowski family

From delray beach, florida.

I'm shannon. And I'm john, and we have four children.

[Screaming]

Get off my bed!

Kaleigh is . Johnny's .

Karly is almost .

And thomas is .

I'm the parish manager

At a catholic church. [Screaming] daddy!

And I am a cook at the same church.

What are you doin' with all the forks?

I work /. I also have a lot of council meetings

That I attend to that keep me late.

Ow!

Kaleigh's way...kaleigh's a bully, yes, for real.

She's not a bully.she is.

What's mom doing about this?

I mean, come on.

John, I'm not playin'.[John whines]

[Shannon] johnny can be very relentless.

[John] yeah. I mean, if he wants something,

He's gonna keep on it and on it.

You're not gettin' it. [Whining] yes.

[Grunting] no.

[Shannon] karly's very sneaky.

Karly, what are you doin'?

[Grunting] [laughs]

[Screaming] no!

[Shannon] thomas--he can get a little aggressive.

[Screams]

When he wants somethin', he wants it...

Now. [Screaming]

Ow! Stop it!

I don't handle any fighting with the kids.

Get off of me! [Laughs]

Kaleigh and johnny--they hurt one another pretty bad.

Get off!

It has gradually gotten worse and worse.

Get off!

They push and they punch and they rip hair out.

[Crying] let go!

Oh, boy.

Gladiators.

[Cries] stop it.

Frankly, they don't listen to me anyway,

So I can't do anything about it.

Mom.

Well, if they're not bleeding, what do they need me for?

Oh, great.

Like ignorin' it is resolvin' it.

[Crying]

I don't have any parenting skills.

Do you agree? Yeah.

Skateboards and scooters belong outside.

[John] get out of the pool.

When I ask you to do something, do it.

I don't like this modern parenting.

You know, when I grew up, there wasn't time-out.

Johnny, can you grab your skateboard

Out of the grass over there?

I'd rather just cr*ck 'em across the rear end

And let 'em know that that's an attention getter.

Hmm.

Oh, dear.

This man's gonna be a tough nut to cr*ck, isn't he?

Yeah, you're awesome all right.

Personally, I don't think I need supernanny's help.

Kaleigh, clean up your room. What? No.

Do you think that I need supernanny?

Well, mom clearly needs my help,

And dad clearly doesn'twant my help.

Stop that.

When it's at its worst, all I do is cry.

I'll take 'em over there, johnny.

When you don't want your kids around anymore, it's hard.

Kaleigh!

Supernanny, please come help our family.

Well, this is going to be challenging.

I guess I'll see them soon.

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Hello. How are you?

Welcome. I'm good. How are you? Shannon.

Hi, pleased to meet you. Jo frost.nice to meet you.

When I first met jo, I was extremely nervous.

Who do we have here?that's karly.

Hi, karly. How are you?

Thomas.hi, thomas. Was that the wink hello?

That's johnny.hi. Jo.

Bit of a rock star, huh?

Kaleigh, meet jo.

Hi, how you doin'?good.

They're all quite mellow, aren't they?

I have visited a lot of families,

And I could certainly tell

That something was slightly off-key here,

Because the children were behaving perfectly.

Dang it!

That hurts.

However, nothing really escapes my eye.

Stop it!

We were behaving better than normal

When jo jo was there.

[Jo] the kids decided to play in the backyard.

There is a swimming pool there,

And I was absolutely appalled to see that the and year old

Were scootin' around the pool,

And mom was just behaving as if it was no big deal.

I mean, what about safety here?

She's not even looking.

[Shannon] I can't just stand and stare at the pool

Because my kids are going around on a scooter.

I can't do that. There's other stuff to do.

[Jo] straight away, I asked mom,

"Is there any pool safety in place?"

Do you have a pool alarm?

I do, yeah.

I don't have it out here, but this gate is always locked.

[Jo] mom told me

That she doesn't have a pool alarm system in place,

And she has four kids.

To children die a year

From fatal swimming pool accidents.

How crazy is that?

So I'm out in the backyard with shannon,

And she starts to tell me

That john insists that the whole family

Sit down and eat together when he gets home from work

And that it's ludicrous,

Because those times can be very, very late

And not appropriate for young children.

This is a problem for you I'm hearing--i'm hearing.

Yeah, we have a--we have a dinner--a dinner hour problem.

Right, okay.i want to eat at : or :...

Right.you know, depending on when we get home.

Right.i want to get my kids bathed.

Yeah.i don't want to be doin' dishes at :, :, : at night.

Right. Have you spoke to him about this? I mean, you--oh, it's ongoing.

For how long?it's been ongoing.

Probably since we've been married.which is...

Years.if you really feel strongly about it,

How come you've not resolved it?

[Thomas] hey, mommy.

Come here.

[Jo] mm-hmm.

I mean, I love my family, but I'm falling out of love

With my life and my family.

Mom is blaming the kids for taking her strength away,

And I truly don't think she's supported much from john at all.

I mean, let's face it,

She's at breaking point, so I've got here at the right time.

Coming up on "supernanny,"

Dad's on the warpath.

I said to settle down, didn't i?

And mom begs him to spend more time with the family.

What do you need from john?

That we would be together as a family,

That the kids would have their dad.

When "supernanny" returns.

Ready, set, go!

[Jo] it's :. The kids are k*lling time,

Because they're waiting for dad to come home

So they can all eat.

They're hungry.

So this gives me an opportunity to talk to the older children.

Who do you get to spend most time with, mom or dad?

Mommy.mom, okay.

Oh, so on her birthday, he wasn't there to do the candles.

Mnh-mnh.and how does that make you feel

When you don't get enough time?

Hmm.

After hearing that story from johnny,

What I want to do now is talk to kaleigh

And see what she has to say about her dad.

He's, like, sort of strict,

So we sort of behave.because if you don't behave what happens?

He'll get his belt out,

And he has this special spoon,

And he will put, like, a face on the back.

What kind of face? What do you mean?like, a sad face.

Right.

Let's face it, I've heard a lot about john,

So I'm actually looking forward to meeting him myself

And gettin' the chance to know him better.

Dad finally got home after : p.m.

Hi, john.there she is. Hey.

Hi, pleased to meet you. Jo frost.nice to meet you.

After changing clothes, dad came down into the kitchen

And started to prepare for dinner,

And johnny and kaleigh were cooking up a storm themselves.

That isn't fair!

[Jo] oh, those kids are going for it.

Are they always like that,

Arguing and fighting with each other?those two?

Well--they'll fight--yeah, they fight and argue, yeah.

I-i try to let 'em work it out.

If they can't work it out, then we gotta step in.

I don't monkey around with them, you know?

I'm not really into time-outs.

I'm gonna tell you to do it. I'm gonna ask you nicely.

And if they--but if it's not getting done

And you're totally ignoring me,

Then I'm gonna have to start raisin' my voice,

And if that doesn't work, then the hand--

You know, a little swat across the rear end

Never hurt anybody.the kids were talking about that today.

They were saying that you, uh, got this belt,

And you got this spoon or something

That's got, like, a face on it.

[Laughing] I do not.

Oh, you ain't made a spoon then with a face on it?

No.so this spoon doesn't exist, you're telling me.

It does. It's right here.oh, it does.

It doesn't have a face, but it works.oh, okay.

[Sighs]

[Jo] at :, dinner finally went into the oven.

Oh, that's gonna be awhile.

But mom had decided

She wasn't gonna let the little ones wait any longer.

We have those chicken tenders...

If they want them,

You know?

Hmm?

Hey, there's nothing wrong with a father

Wanting to come home from work and eat with his family,

But this is clearly about something entirely different.

It'd be nice to sit down and eat together.

I went through all the effort to make that.

I know.

We could sit down and have it,

Get them fed.

Hmm? We can sit with them.didn't they have something to eat earlier?

They've been eatin', yeah, a little bit.so they're all right.

It's all about what dad wants.

Dad wants to rule and control

What gets done in the house full stop.

It's his way or the highway, buddy.

If they're going to school tomorrow...[Thomas] daddy...

Yeah, it is a school night. That's right.

So if we can get them something to eat,

Then maybe we can sit down...right, daddy?

And have that and our salad.

Dad finally agreed

That it would be okay for the younger ones to eat earlier

And that he would eat half an hour later with shannon

When that meal would come out of the oven.

[Crying]

Thomas came out crying,

And I got to see why these kids tread very carefully around dad.

I said to settle down, didn't i?

I am. I am.

You are not.

What happened to thomas? What happened?

Settle down.

I won't ask you again.

The kids settled pretty quickly, but I know why.

They're fearful of their dad,

And let's face it, I've seen enough now,

So what I want to do is come back tomorrow

And sit down and have a conversation with these guys.

I have had a good day observing.

There's lots of things that we need to address tomorrow...okay.

So that we can really move on with making big changes here.

Sounds good.all right.

Well, I'm sure that jo's gonna tell me

That I need some help and things, but, uh...

[Laughs] I don't know.

I think shannon needs more help with certain issues than I do.

Nice to meet you.jo, pleasure to meet you.

Have a good day. See you tomorrow.all right.

I know what I need to address with these parents,

So I'm gonna leave and get back tomorrow hastily.

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Why don't we get straight down to business

And discuss discipline?

You have no authority.

None, no.

They don't take you seriously.

No.you are a pushover.

Yes.

But when dad comes home, it's a different story.

They do as they're told...

Because to get a belt,

To get a spoon

Hurts.

Now I ask you this--

Is it necessary?

Is it necessary that you have to inflict...

[Snaps fingers]

That pain on your kid in order for them to listen to you?

Sometimes it is necessary.

Tell me why.

If you don't understand verbal instructions...mm-hmm.

Maybe you n-need a little, uh, attention getter.

If I could teach you guys

A discipline technique...

That meant that we could throw away mr. Spoon,

Would that not be an option for you?

Yeah.oh, yeah.

Let's talk about the time you're spending at work.

There's no doubt in my mind

That you have a very strong work ethic,

But at what cost?

Shannon, what do you need from john?

Time.

What would time make you feel?

Happy that he was here and not there...

That we would be together as a family,

That the kids would have their dad.

John.the way I see it...

Mm-hmm.

I don't know how long the gravy train's gonna last.

Mm-hmm.

I could be gone tomorrow from my job

And then havin' to foreclose on the house

Because I don't have a job.

I totally understand what you're saying

With regards to the economy.

You can still be fully committed

With what you do at the church.

It's about finding the balance.

Can we work with that?

Sure.

Let's talk about safety

And your pool.

We're very, very vigilant with the pool.

That's not the case,

And as quick as it takes you to come inside the house

And use the powder room

Is as quick as it takes for thomas to drown in that pool.

Florida has the highest rates,

The highest rate

Of children between the age of and of drowning,

And those deaths happen

When the parents just shut their eyes for a minute.

This is a wake-up call now. Let's--let's do better now.

Yeah.

So a lot of things

That have been talked about today

With regards to what we could do

To certainly make it a more contented household.

But I can't do it myself.

No... A miracle worker here.i need two willing parents

Who are committed.

I'm ready.you're ready, good.

Let's let--let's let the healing begin.all right, you're ready.

So we'd better get busy, right?

Yeah.a lot of work ahead.

Okay, I'll see you soon.good-bye.

Coming up on "supernanny,"

When dad won't let jo put his son in time-out...

Hold on a minute.it's ridiculous.

No, it's not ridiculous.

Jo has a face-to-face confrontation with dad.

Now you're either a husband

That's in for supporting shannon learning this,

Or you're not.

When "supernanny" returns.

The first thing I want to deal with today is pool safety.

That's a must.

So whilst dad was at work,

I spoke to mom about the dangers of that and fixin' it.

The facts are accidents happen, and they can be fatal, okay?

So what I've done is brought baby brian here

To give us a clear example of pool safety.

[Jo] I supplied mom with a pool alarm system

That have monitors as wrist bands

To go on the children's wrists.

And then baby brian

Decides that he's gonna get curious

And have a look at the pool,

And it looks quite invitin'.

And then just because young children do

Because the water's fun and it's playful,

He steps back, and he says,

"I'm gonna run, and I'm gonna jump."

[Alarm wailing]

[Jo] I certainly believe

Seeing a baby doll float in a swimming pool

Brings home the reality

Of what could be,

But more for mom to recognize the importance

Of making sure she always supervise the children

And that an alarm is a precautionary device.

There are two--one for thomas and one for karly, okay?

Does that mean that you think

Because they're runnin' around here,

You decide, "oh, I'm gonna have a good chin-wag

With my girlfriend on the phone for half an hour"? Never.

Never, 'cause as quick as it takes you

To pick up the phone... [Imitates alarm wailing]

You want to expose the children to the pool so much,

But yet you want to feel safe, too.

Oh, it matches, thomas.yeah.

It matches your shorts.

Now I have both.

I have the best of both worlds.

[Jo] the next thing I want to be able to do

Is to create some space

For the kids to have fun away from the pool

So they can ride their scooters and enjoy.

So when dad came home from work,

We all got busy rearranging the patio area.

If this door is locked

And you know that there's an area for the younger ones...right.

For example, thomas, what can you do with this space here

That would allow him

To feel like he was riding his bike and going on his scooter?

We could do another slide or something

For thomas over here.

I mean, we had a sandbox for kaleigh when she was little.

Mm-hmm.

Yeah, whatever.

[John] jo's got a-a-a lot of great ideas,

But, uh, as far as clearin' out and makin' room,

I know in reality that it's not gonna stay that way.

This table's heavy.

I know.and I'm not movin' it in and out.

I know.i have it there, 'cause this is where the fan is.

But just move it over a little bit in the center

So he can go around it.

We can move the chairs aside, and they can bring 'em back.

All right, whatever.

[Shannon] john might be trying to sabotage the teaching,

But I'm not gonna allow it.

If he wants to make the comments he makes, he can do it.

It's only makin' him look like a fool.

What's the big deal? You're like, "whatever,"

Like you can't be bothered to see where mom's coming from.

We're trying to make something safe here. Why--why--

Try to move-- try to move the table.

Why would you not want anything to do

With creating more space

For your younger children to play in that's safe

Whilst your wife is at home

Raising your children?

If I can at least have it

To where I'm not constantly running outside

Checking on the kids...

Thomas can come out here while I'm gettin' stuff done.you know what?

Here, for this week, for this coming week, let's move it.

Come on.

No, just--'cause you know it's gon-- you know it's gonna go back.

Just move it a little bit.there.

John not participating and not getting the fact

That I need certain things done is completely frustrating.

I have someone there

That's gonna help me get myself under control

So I can get my children under control,

And if he can't see that, that's his own problem.

That's it! Attaboy!

That's what I'm talkin' about. You see what I'm saying?

All right.

It was so clear

That dad was just gonna push, push, push all the time

And resist anything I put into place here with the family,

And I just wasn't gonna let it deter what I needed to do.

[Screams]

It was important that shannon learned the steps

For the time-out, so that's what we did.okay.

No. Oh, oh, no.yes!

[Crying]no hitting.

Come--come here. Come here.

I wanted to show mom the first step

Of my discipline technique.

[Crying]come down to his level, and with a firm voice...

[Screaming]say to him, "no hitting," because that was wrong.

No hitting, thomas. No hitting.

And now--now open the door,

Put the flag on the floor.

I've been around thomas since he was born,

And, uh, I haven't seen him scream like that,

Not once.

This boy was fine all afternoon.

Okay, so he's just--now all of a sudden he's screamin' and cryin'.

So--john took the flag from him, and then he hit--

So what happened was--let him have the flag.

No, that's--he hit--why did john take it?

That aggravated me to no end,

And I went and grabbed him, 'cause enough's enough.

Hold on a minute.it's ridiculous.

No, it's not ridiculous.it is ridiculous.

Can you give me a minute, please,

So that I can talk to you about this?

Dad says that he's doing this because it's what thomas needs,

And, actually, I think dad's doing this

Because it's what he needs.

Can you just put thomas down for a moment

So that I can have a talk with you?

He's frustrated. He's angry.

He knows that what I'm about to do is to create change,

And he's fighting the change.

This isn't about me, okay?well, then if this isn't about you...

It's not about me.can you please respect what I have to say?

I'll respect what you're saying.

Okay, well, then-- well, let me finish talking.

But, I mean, I'm-- I'm just saying, this boy--

You're not letting me finish talking.

I had no problem with this boy the whole time I was with him.this is not about you.

And all of a sudden, we're forcin', uh, forcin' issues...no, we're not.

On the kid, and he--he--no, we're not, john.

If you would just give me the respect to let me finish,

I'll tell you exactly what went on.

[Jo] he's been very against

What I'm trying to teach shannon right now.

I find it incredible that somebody would be so rude

When, you know, they've asked for my help.

To me, it doesn't add up.

Now you're either a husband

That's in for supporting shannon learning this,

Or you're not.

[John] I'm not much for the, um,

The modern parenting, per se.

When I grew up, I didn't have time-outs,

And I learned to listen to my mom and dad.

I'm here to help your family.

Okay.

Have some patience with me.

All right.

Dad says he's going to cooperate.

When?

Coming up on "supernanny,"

Can dad learn to help with discipline?

[Screaming]watch, watch. I want daddy. I want daddy.

You want daddy? Place him straight back, john.come on.

Or will mom have to handle this one all on her own?

[Screaming]

When "supernanny" returns.

[Jo] the next day,

I do want to try and teach mom and dad

A new discipline technique.

I need dad on board, and time's running out.

If the children don't listen

To what you're askin' 'em to do,

I want you to bring them over to the time-out bench.

Time-outs in my house don't exist.

I've never tried 'em.

Thomas.

[Jo] it wasn't long before mom got to try out the technique.

The kids were playing in the backyard,

And thomas bit karly...

Ow!

Which gave mom an opportunity to step up.

[Screaming]come on.

Daddy! No! No!

You're gonna sit down there.no! No!

No! No!because--because you bit karly,

You're going to sit in time-out.

She explained why he was on that bench,

And she walked away.

This is him protesting.no!

Pick him up. Put him back.no!

He got off it.[Screaming]

She placed him back time and time again.

[Screaming]

Thomas, stop it.

[Screaming]

Mom was doing really good at the discipline,

But then dad walked in, and I wanted

To nip the possibility of him sabotaging this

By getting him involved.

[Screaming]watch, watch, watch. I want daddy. I want daddy.

You want daddy? Place him straight back, john.

Come on. Come on.don't talk to him.

Just place him straight back in time-out

To support mom with what she's doin'.[Crying]

Okay, shannon, if he gets off,

I'd like you to take over now.

It was just to prove a point here, okay?

Shannon, there you go.

Okay, nice work, john. Nice work.

When dad sent thomas back to the naughty bench,

It certainly has given him a strong reminder

That mom and dad are on the same page now.

[John] I'll see how shannon does with it.

If she has success with it, maybe I'll think about it.

I'm still not a time-out guy.

[Jo] thomas put up a good fight to say the least.

I mean, we knew that was kinda gonna happen,

But mom stayed focused, and after a couple of minutes,

He stayed on that bench. It was good.

The lesson that I learned from the first time-out

Is the kids aren't rulin' me, and I can outlast them.

Perfect. Perfect, mom.

[Jo] mom is certainly feeling more competent

To follow through with discipline now.

Calm down, and mommy will pick you up.

John's probably still not a time-out guy,

But that doesn't weigh heavy on me.

I need control, and I'm going to get control

Whether he wants to do time-outs or not.

I'm there to be a mother to my children,

And if mr. Krolikowski wants to come aboard, he can.

It's up to him.

You are doin' what is right,

And that's all that matters.

Thank you.higher.

You did very well.

[Jo] dad's really warming to the process,

Which is a good thing,

But I now need to make sure that he follows through,

And I also want him to spend more time with the kids.

So I thought for each kid,

You could write, like, a promise letter to them...mm-hmm.

Saying that you are going to do one particular thing with them.

It can be anything, and it may be something

That just lasts minutes or minutes.

Mm-hmm.yeah?

I tend to stay longer after work and get caught up,

And so I don't get a lot of home time with the kids.

Let's, for example, start with john john.

We can go to the golf course with john john.mm-hmm.

Dad was a little bit skeptical

About writing letters and doing this technique,

But as he started to write, he got more involved.

"Your choice"-- give her two things,

'Cause she may say something

That you feel that you can't actually fulfill.

When dad had finished writing his letters

And put his seal of approval on them,

He then went and posted the letters.

So it's gonna be quite exciting tomorrow.

They started to open up their mail,

And john was very, very pleased to say the least.

Ooh.it says "I promise"...

"To," what?

"Take you to the"...

Daddy, I can't open mine."Golf course.

Love, daddy."[Laughs]

What's yours say?"Dear kaleigh,

"I promise to spend one-on-one time with you,

"Your choice--

"One--go to the mall and two--bike ride.

Love, dad."[Johnny] daddy, come here.

It says, "dear karly, daddy's going to take you

To chuck e. Cheese, as promised."[Shannon] how exciting.

You and thomas, right?yeah, not--

That's it. No big kids.no, no big kids.

Oh, boy.ready?

[Jo] and later on that day, dad stuck to his promises.

Cool.

It should be smooth and even.

There you go.

Golfing with daddy was fun.

We're workin' it.

[Kaleigh] the bike ride--

It was just me and my dad playing

And no littler kids,

And we had fun, 'cause we were just talking to each other.

I just hope that he continues

On his journey that he needs to

With his children.

[Laughing]

So I'm off for several days.

This family certainly have work to do together,

A lot of follow-through.

So, dad, a nice friendly reminder

About that balance

Between the work and the home and spending time at home.

Dad's either gonna show his family

That he is just as willing to make change for the better,

Or I believe he'll be left behind.

Sounds good, though.okay, kids...

Bye.see you when I return.

When jo is away, maybe I will be looking over my shoulder

For that guidance that she has shown.

Say, "bye, jo jo."Have some fun. Take care. Bye-bye.

Bye, jo jo.thank you.

Thanks, jo.you're welcome. Bye-bye.

I think the changes so far-- I mean... [Sighs]

Are they gonna work? I don't know yet.

We're gonna have to wait and see.

Coming up on "supernanny,"

Is dad turning a corner?

You followed through on those promise letters!

And can mom handle it when johnny goes ballistic?

No, I won't! Ugh!

When "supernanny" returns.

After three days away, I was dying to know--

Did john keep his promises to the kids,

And was he more supportive as a husband to shannon?

Hi.

Right, who's ready to take a look at what I've got here?

We're both ready.

[Laughs] you're ready. You're not ready, huh?

Okay, all right, john.

The first thing-- promise letters.

John, this is all about

The promise letters that you wrote.

All right, good boy.

All right, you guys ready? Let's go!

You got a slinky,

A nice pink slinky?

Nice! What else? Oh, my gosh, a lizard.yeah.

Aw, look how beautiful.

[Karly] that's me. That's daddy. That's thomas.

You took that there?[Shannon] look how sweet.

Loving it.

You followed through on those promise letters!

[Chuckles]

That's a priority.

It was the beginning of taking that time

And showing the kids

That you are gonna deliver on your promise

To do things with them that you acknowledged

They wanted to do.

Nice, john. Really nice to see.

In the name of the father, the son and holy ghost, amen.

[All] bless us, our lord,

For these thy gifts which we are about to receive.

Hello.

[Chuckles]nice.

You all done? You want out?

Here, let's wipe your face.

Bibby, you need to put the basketball down, please.

John john.

John. Yes?

Did mama ask you to stop that?

This is what I like about what I've just seen there.

It wasn't, "john, I'm telling you

To stop bouncing the ball."

It was pure support, %.

"Did you listen to what your mother said?"

Which just backs up everything that shannon was saying

And made it very, very clear for johnny.

That was a good job.

Okay, mom and johnny.

John...ugh!

This is--this is your warning, john.

Ugh!there--there'll be no more basketball the rest--

Yes!there will be no basketball.

[Whining] I want to watch tv.

There's nothing else to do,

And I don't want to play basketball outside,

And I don't want to ride my bike.

I want to go through this in detail with you.

Um, when you gave him a warning,

You were already fighting with him.right.

Okay, you told him no more telly,

And you actually grabbed the remote control

As you said, "no more telly,"

And that was meant to be your conversational voice

And just, you know, askin' him...

Right.to turn the television off.

And when he didn't, then give him a warning.

But the warning you gave him

Did not allow time for him to turn that television off,

'Cause you did not walk away,

And you were holding on to that remote.right.

So you backed him into a corner...right.

Over the remote control.

I mean, that in itself is gonna create confrontation.

Right.

You can sit on your bed... Unh-unh.

And you can chill. No.

I don't need to chill. And you can think about what you've done.

I don't need to chill.you don't need to chill?

Come on.no, no.

[Grunting]

You're gonna chill, john.

No, I won't! Ugh!

No!

You're not going to destroy my house, johnny.i don't need to!

I don't need to chill!

You do need to chill...no, I don't!

Because you're gonna learn respect.

No, I am not! You're going to listen to me. I'm the boss, john.

A very common thing that I see with parents

Is when, for so long, they've really felt helpless

And they've not felt like they've had the control,

And then almost within a couple of days,

They take ownership of that authority.

It's liberating, and they feel such strength,

And then they go over the other way.

I believe that you weren't quite sure

If you were doing the right thing,

Because you said one sentence--

"I'm the boss."

It was like you were trying to convince yourself--

"I'm the boss."Right.

I think you doubted, really, what was going on there.

I think I did, too.

Mm, I know you did, because of the way you--

The way you were sort of respondin'.

This is johnny testin' your authority,

But because you doubted it in the first place,

This got created.

This actual whole thing could have been unnecessary.

Right.

All right, so I've seen some good footage here.

I have seen a-a big, big change

From last week.

The support from yourself, john,

Speaks a thousand words to the kids,

And that I am very pleased to see.

I believe there's more work to do with regards to that

To keep it going as strong as ever between the pair of you.

That sounds good.

Any questions? All right, well, I'm good.

All right, and we'll get crackin' and do some more stuff.

Great.thank you.

Coming up on "supernanny,"

Dad has a breakthrough.

I'm kind of set in my ways and not so willing to change,

But where there's a will, there's a way.

When "supernanny" returns.

When should you baby proof your house?

A--immediately upon bringing them home from the hospital,

B--as soon as they begin to show signs of walkin',

C--when they enter into the crawling stage.

Find out when we return.

When should you baby proof your house?

A--immediately upon bringing them home from the hospital,

B--as soon as they begin to show signs of walkin',

C--when they enter into the crawling stage.

The answer is c.

When your baby becomes more mobile,

That's when you'll need to baby proof.

The best way to do this is to get down on all fours

And see what things look like from their eye level,

Like the outlets and the cupboards.

[Seagulls calling]

It's my last day with the krolikowskis,

And I can see from the dvd footage

That mom is still suffering with time-outs.

I don't need to chill! You do need to chill...

No, I don't! Because you're gonna learn respect.

No, I am not. You're going to listen to me. I'm the boss, john.

So the first thing I'm going to do

Is to give mom a very good, strong visual

To remind her of what the steps are to the time-out.

And I've got some steps,

You know, the naughty bench that we did...mm-hmm.

And I've actually gotten that written out for you.okay.

So I thought let's just go over that...

I would love to, yeah.so you can see, and then you can keep it

So that you can remember it.

As you're doing it, you can look up and actually see it.right.

[Shannon] the written out steps to the time-out is great,

And being up by the naughty bench is perfect,

Because what am I supposed to be doing next?

Am I supposed to be talkin'? Am I not supposed to be talkin'?

It's all right there.

This walk away is key for you,

Because once you walk away, you place them back.

You don't talk.

Having the time-out poster on the wall

Not only is going to be a good visual reminder for mom,

But it's gonna stop her from panicking

When the kids do kick off

And she can't remember the first steps.

♪♪

I have one last thing to do with dad.

It is very important.

It's going to remind him of his commitment to his family

And how accountable he is.

In this time capsule I will give him,

He will fill in the documents

So that he remembers the promises

That he made to his family.

This is a short-term, goal-orientated look

At where you will be with your family in three months.

We're gonna put it back in here

And actually give that to shannon,

And in three months' time, open that up.

She'll see that you've kept your word

To continue to strive forward with your family.

"Spending more family time together.

Having more time together as husband and wife."

"Better control of the kids when they misbehave."

[John] I wrote 'em down.

I put 'em in the little capsule,

Marked it three months from now

And sealed it up

For us to open together.

What will you be taking home from this experience

When I leave, john?

I'm pretty stubborn.

Okay.

Fair enough.

I'm kind of set in my ways and not so willing to change,

But where there's a will, there's a way.

Yeah.

[John] jo grew on me.

When we started out, I didn't think I really needed anything,

But, uh, I was able to, uh, dig deep

And do a little soul-searching myself

And find that there's areas that I'm lacking in.

And then it was time for john

To present the capsule to shannon.

We got a capsule...okay.

To open in three months' time,

Where we're gonna be in three months.okay.

The time capsule is a great reminder to john

Of what he needs to do for his family.

Okay?sounds good.

All right.

[John] the time capsule was a promise to myself,

Where I want to be for my family.

I plan on keepin' that promise.

[Jo] all right, guys, time for me to leave.

My mom has changed,

Because she's now finally doing time-outs,

And we're listening to her.

[Jo] john john, let me give you a hug, please.

Bye, shannon. Bye-bye.

Shannon has certainly stepped up big-time

And is feeling much more confident

And liberated as a parent.

Jo has had a positive impact on everybody in my family,

Even john...

Especially john.

John, thank you for giving me the pleasure

To work with your family.thank you.

The only thing I regret

Is i-i could have been a little more open at the beginning.

I probably could have been a lot more open.

John, a promise is only a promise

Unless it's delivered, right?

Take care.

[John] I was a little skeptical

Of the whole process here with jo coming,

But, uh, I hate to say it,

But I almost wish that I had another week.

[Jo] six weeks have passed,

And I am pleased to say

That this family are still on track,

And they are doing immensely well.