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Will you marry me?
Yeah!
I've been waiting to have
that close moment with her,
and finally we're having it.
Beautiful.
My dad has concerns
about your race.
We're gonna elope.
There is someone in our family
it's gonna hurt their feelings,
and that's mom.
I don't think
you should have a party.
It's tradition that the guys
go out and do something.
I don't care
about the tradition.
I was working
in a dominant Asian culture.
The majority of all of them
had divorced their husband.
I need to think about
if we're going to get married
or not.
We haven't had time
to make sure that, you know,
we're making the right decision.
Are you two prepared
for this interracial marriage
in our country,
where it's not accepted?
I don't look that bad.
Cassia and I got engaged,
and I've been working
quite a bit,
making some money.
But today, we're gonna go to
the beach for a little r & r.
Welcome to the Gulf of Mexico.
Where is the bikinis?
People don't wear
bikinis here, honey.
It's America.
Make sure you're all fixed up.
Yeah.
All right,
why don't you cover up?
I don't know if I like...
it felt better in rio.
We had a great day at the beach.
Cassia is happy that we spent
some time together.
She's been concerned
that I've been working too much.
I want to let her know
I've been listening to her.
And we're gonna go out
to a nice restaurant
and celebrate our engagement.
Early-bird special,
honey.
I love the early-bird.
I think I can prove to cassia
that I can give her
more attention
during the last stretch
of the 90 days.
So, to getting engaged?
Yeah.
We're engaged.
Yeah.
Officially.
You weren't expecting it.
No!
You think?
I think.
Yeah.
The guy gave me an offer for $8.
I'm gonna turn the phone off.
Thank you.
You know the good thing
about turning the phone off?
Mm.
'Cause when I turn it back on,
it starts going
"cha-ching, cha-ching,
cha-ching, cha-ching"
of stuff that happened
when I was off.
My god.
What?
Hello, Martha!
Hi!
We're gonna elope on the beach.
You don't want your own family
to go to the ceremony?
Right.
There is someone in our family
it's gonna hurt their feelings,
and that's mom.
But I think
the mother is important,
you know,
because for your mother,
this is important day.
It's your wedding.
Thank you for inviting me.
Oh, it's okay.
I'm very excited.
Justin knows I wanted to be
a part of his wedding.
And it hurts.
So it meant a lot for me
to be with evelin today.
I'm just glad
to be a part of it.
Okay, so, tell me a little bit
about the wedding.
Do you know when the date
is gonna be?
Yes, it's next month.
Next month?
So you guys got about
a month to go.
Whew! Yes.
It'll be fine.
Whether I'm gonna be there or
whether I'm not gonna be there,
I think evelin's gonna be
a great part of the family.
And I think she's gonna be
a great influence on Justin.
Okay, come on over.
Let's see how you look
in the ones we have.
Beautiful, flowy chiffon.
Ooh!
Very pretty.
It gives you
that little bit of sexy,
but it's not too much.
That's cute,
but... I want to see others.
Very different.
Ooh!
Little bit more of a romantic
sexy kind of going on.
That's how
you're supposed to feel.
The strapless lace.
Ooh-ooh!
Oh, I love that lace.
I think evelin looked beautiful
in... in every dress.
I don't think she knows
how beautiful she is.
Evelin, how do you think
your mom would feel
about this one?
So I know you have to
think about this dress.
Martha, what about you?
Are you planning
to find something for you?
Well, um...
I'm not sure yet...
Because Justin wanted it
just between the two of them.
I don't want to get my hopes up
that Justin changes his mind
that he wants me to be there.
But of course
that's what I want him to do.
But I'm... like I said,
I've already resigned myself
to the fact
that I might not be
a part of it.
And if he
changes his mind, I'm good.
The actual wedding vows
would be
just the two of them, and so...
Yeah.
Okay.
I know you are.
We're a team.
Yes.
There you go.
We got to tag-team him.
You do need somebody
to help you get ready, so...
Yeah, and he can't do that.
Exactly, yes.
You know, seeing you
in the wedding dress,
you know,
it gets me more excited
to want to be a part of it.
Now that me and mohamed
had our heart-to-heart
about my financial problems,
we've come up with a cheaper way
to have the wedding.
We don't have money
to have a big wedding
and big reception.
So we don't...
we can't do that.
We can't.
We want to go to the courthouse
to get married
and then to apply
for the working visa for me.
We'll be able
to get your work authorization
a little faster.
Okay.
I wanted to do
a wedding ceremony
so my family can be there
and some close friends.
Okay.
And then...
I understand that.
Okay.
I like when you talk to me
in this way
because you make me feel...
seem like you are trying
to be serious about everything.
Mm-hmm.
Danielle, she's trying hard.
The budget is tight,
but changing the wedding plan
is gonna help.
I feel like things starting
to be better.
It's okay.
Since we've cut costs,
I've found a cheaper dress
that I want to show the kids.
Mohamed can't see my dress,
so he's out of the house.
Yeah,
we still have to get the...
Yeah, I like it.
I like that better
than the other ones.
I think you should wear it
for the ceremony
and the reception.
So what one
did you guys like better,
this one or the one...
this one.
Are you a little disappointed
you're not getting
the other one?
A little, but not a lot.
Mohamed has sacrificed a lot
to come here,
so the least I can do
is get a cheaper dress.
We're gonna do it uptown
at the gazebo.
The mayor's gonna officiate.
Are you sure you're ready?
Yeah.
I mean, we still got some things
to figure out,
but that's all part
of living together.
This past week's been...
A lot better.
My opinion,
mohamed doesn't love my mom.
Just my opinion.
Just from everything I've seen.
It won't last.
Mm.
Okay, so, this is gonna be
the dress then.
Hey.
Can you come and help me?
I'm finally meeting
Danny's parents.
I'm definitely nervous for it.
My dad will give you, like,
kind of like a fake smile.
Amy will be very overwhelmed
and kind of, like, offended.
No matter what happens,
you will always be a part
of each other's lives every day.
Aww, I like that.
Why are you're crying?!
'Cause it's sinking in.
Amy and I both decided
that we would stay abstinent
before marriage.
And because of that,
we aren't living together.
And it's taking a toll
on our relationship.
So we're just gonna get married
way sooner than 90 days.
It's two days
before the wedding,
and I'm finally meeting
Danny's parents.
I'm definitely nervous for it.
My dad, he lives in Texas.
So he...
he hasn't really experienced
interracial couples before.
I know he has concerns.
Hmm.
My parents are staying
at my sister, Katie's, house.
And we're getting ready
to go see them now.
What are you feeling
about meeting my parents?
Mm... Um...
I'm actually a bit nervous.
Yeah?
My brain is, like...
Yeah, I know.
So, my mom and my dad,
when I told them about Amy
and about her coming
and about us getting engaged,
my mom was like,
"yeah, that's awesome!"
And my dad was like, "what?"
My dad was like, "oh, man."
Like, "really, Danny?"
Like, "really,
you're gonna do that?"
There could be some comments
where Amy will be
very overwhelmed
and kind of, like, offended.
It would be horrible
if she hated them
and wanted to go home.
My mom, she'll hug you.
And my dad, he's gonna put up
a front at first,
a kind of hard, like...
yeah.
So he'll be like,
"hello, Amy."
And he'll give you, like,
kind of a like a fake smile.
Okay.
Meeting Danny's parents,
I want them to accept me
and I want them to love me.
So that's all I'm hoping for
at this point.
Cassidy's been
staying with us for a month now.
The relationship between Cassidy
and daya was shaky at times.
Hey!
Where you going?
Cassidy!
Open up!
But now the bond I'm seeing
between those two is...
it's almost like a friendship.
In the first 30 days,
Cassidy made me realize that
I can be a better mom someday.
It really feels like
we're becoming a family.
And as a family,
we can start moving forward
with the wedding plans.
Right here.
Right now, we're going to
a wedding venue to check it out.
I want an outdoor
kind of wedding, so I want it...
I want it to be in a garden.
But we also have to do it quick.
Okay.
We don't have much time.
I know.
Pressure's on.
Okay.
What do you think?
Nice.
Hi!
Hi.
Yes, I'm Gina.
Hi.
I'm Brett.
Hi, Brett.
Very nice to meet you.
Daya.
Daya, very nice to meet you,
as well.
This is beautiful.
I like it.
Thank you.
Very good, yeah.
We do everything for you...
the minister,
the photographer, the florist.
This is the area
where we do the weddings.
I could see ourselves
getting married there.
Have you thought about including
Cassidy in your ceremony?
Yeah.
Having Cassidy participate
in the ceremony
means the world to me.
Having, you know,
my little girl, you know,
step with me into
this next chapter in our lives,
it's a beautiful thing.
We can include Cassidy in there.
I would recommend
that you would do perhaps
something like a sand ceremony.
Are you familiar
with the sand ceremony?
What it is is all three of you
will have a container of sand...
different-colored sand.
The grains represent
all the components
that make each of you
an individual.
Okay.
So when you pour them
into the unity vase,
you're basically pouring
everything that you all are
into one.
You can never separate them.
So no matter what happens,
you will always be a part
of each other's lives every day.
Aww, I like that.
Why are you're crying?!
'Cause it's sinking in.
Aww!
Don't cry,
'cause I don't want to cry.
Boom.
Yeah.
It's a lot.
It's a lot to take in at once.
For the first time
since daya arrived,
I really feel like we're
getting everything in place.
And I'm so happy.
I just love my family.
Yeah.
You think you want to go ahead
and plan for it?
Oh, yeah.
I like it.
Okay.
Yeah, if you're happy.
What do you think?
You want to get married here?
Mohamed and I are looking
at rings.
This is $1,200.
Is that in the budget?
Wow, that's too much.
All my friends from los Angeles
could drive up.
Hello.
Hello.
Hello.
How are you?
Okay.
Mohamed and I
are looking at rings
because we're getting married
in a few weeks.
We're hoping that we'll find
something that we both like
and that's within our budget.
Come on. Let me show you
some rings over here.
Yes.
The job that I do,
it's not a lot of pay,
so we're on a tight budget.
So, give me an idea
of what you're looking for.
What is the plan?
Something simple.
Something simple?
Yeah.
Yeah.
Do you like something like this?
That's too fancy.
That's too fancy? Okay.
Yeah.
Okay, let's tone it down
a little bit.
This is a lot more conservative.
Is that good?
Yeah, that's good.
How much is that one?
This is $1,200.
Is that in the budget?
Wow.
That's too much.
Okay.
Okay.
Let's... let's go
a little bit lower.
How about in the order
of something like that?
How much is this one?
That's around $700.
It's still too much.
What is
a comfortable price range?
Not more than $100 or $200.
For two?
Yeah.
I'm gonna make you
two silver rings, wedding bands,
without diamonds.
It will be in the right budget.
How does that sound?
Okay, okay.
Is that good?
Yeah, okay.
So please feel free
to try them on.
Mm, something like this.
For you?
Yeah.
In flat?
Yeah, in flat.
Okay.
No problem at all.
Wow. That looks like
the right size.
Do you want me to perform
the ceremony right now?
Yeah.
He would like that.
Okay.
I'm ready.
Okay.
It's hard for me to don't buy
the ring that she want,
but it's only
we don't have money right now.
Maybe when I start working
and I have money, I can do that.
Thank you.
Bye-bye.
Take care. Bye-bye.
Bye.
It's difficult picking out
a ring when you're on a budget
because you know you can't get
what you really want
so you got to settle
for what you can afford.
You want to do it outdoors?
Flowers?
Yeah.
What do you think about Vegas?
Yeah, I think I like it.
I think we'll only have
about 15 people.
Is he invited?
Yeah, for sure.
Right.
Do you think
your ex-wife's gonna make it?
I don't know, but I'll hit one
of the strip clubs
and ask one
of the go-go dancers.
That's probably a good idea.
Yeah.
Oh, really?
If we did it in Vegas,
all my friends from los Angeles
could drive up.
Mm.
What do you think?
I don't think
you should have a party.
We should have a party together.
It's tradition that the guys
go out and do something.
I don't care.
I don't care about
the tradition, okay?
Honey...
we haven't made
those decisions yet.
Honey...
"honey"?
I don't care about
the tradition, okay?
I heard so much about you.
Oh, I have heard
a lot about you, too.
I just really hope
it's good stuff.
Yes.
I mean,
don't take offense to this,
but this is one place
her and I have decided
we'd never in life want to go.
Well, you got to make sure
they're more done, Brett,
especially the hamburgers.
The hot dogs,
you might want to turn.
We're teaching you how to cook.
I'm not sure
what you're doing here.
See?
It's our last week with Cassidy,
and we are really clicking
as a family.
What we decided to do
was throw a barbecue.
Tonight, we're gonna have sue.
I wanted you to meet sue.
There's still one person
I really want daya to meet,
and that's my friend, sue.
Sue definitely had some doubts
in the beginning
of our relationship.
A lot of women hope to get
a husband to come to America,
and a lot of them are divorced
from the men that brought them.
I wouldn't want to see that
happen to you.
Sue was definitely
like a second mom to me.
I wanted her to see the girl
that I fell in love with.
At first, I was, like,
you know... I was hurt.
But Brett wanted me
to make friends with her.
Wow!
That is beautiful, sweetie.
- Hi, sue!
- Hi, Lou.
Oh, look!
I didn't even hear you come in.
Good seeing you.
Took you a while to get out.
Yes, the dog likes me.
Hi.
Sue.
So this is daya.
This is daya.
Nice meeting you.
Finally.
Yes.
I heard so much about you.
Oh, I have heard
a lot about you, too.
Aww.
Just really hope
it's good stuff.
Yes.
Brett is gonna be marrying daya
real soon,
and I'd just like to be a part
of knowing who she is.
And I just want to kind of see
where she's at on the long haul.
I brought you some gifts
for little Cassidy.
Aww.
There you go, sweetheart.
Thank you.
That's a coloring book,
so you can color.
So why don't we just go
for a walk around the yard here
and just...
you know, 'cause my concerns
are for Brett,
I just feel like
I need to speak my piece,
but with love and kindness.
When sue and daya
went out to speak alone,
I was a little bit worried.
I was working
in a dominant Asian culture,
and it was sad to see one thing,
because they all married
white men
through the service
and different things...
Mm-hmm.
And they ended up...
well, majority
of all of them were...
had divorced their husband.
I'm here because I love him.
Mm-hmm.
And I'm not here
just to use him.
I've been telling Brett, like,
a lot of times
I don't want to get a divorce.
'Cause, like,
when I marry someone,
I want see to it that the guy
is really in love with me.
You're in for the long haul
with this
because it is truly
a huge commitment
in your life
and in his and Cassidy's.
Dinner's ready.
Okay.
Oh, so,
we'll have to just eat now.
Do it.
Brett's fantastic hot dogs
and hamburgers.
Yes.
I'm happy to finally meet sue.
They've been friends
for a long time,
so she's just concerned
about Brett.
But sue has nothing
to be concerned about.
It's so nice meeting you.
I'm very glad that I met daya,
and I will hope and pray
that everything works.
Um... There's still
some caution for me.
We're waiting for my parents
at Katie and John's house.
I know Amy is very nervous
as we get closer
to meeting my parents.
Definitely worried
about our interaction tonight.
The worst-case scenario
is my dad will be crazy rude,
'cause he can be that.
Hey!
- Hey, Dan!
- Hey, Danny!
Hey, mom.
Hi, Amy!
I feel like I already know you!
How are you?
How are you?
Hey, Dan.
How you doing?
Good.
This is Amy.
Amy, it's so good
to finally meet you.
Nice to meet you.
This is Amy.
Hi, yeah.
And bumpkin.
And bumpkin.
Do you want anything to eat?
No, we're good.
No thanks, Dan.
I think that the...
the issues they're gonna have
being an interracial couple,
it's gonna be harder for them.
Although, I think jan here
doesn't agree with that.
So, 48 hours
and it's all over, right?
Yeah, 48 hours.
So you're cutting it close, huh?
Yeah.
My dad was
one of the family members
that always questioned
Amy's intentions.
He was always like, "she's just
marrying you for a green card."
Well, I can't wait to meet
your mom and grandmom.
Yeah.
They're so excited.
Aunts...
all the aunts coming?
Yes.
All my aunts, yeah.
Oh, yeah.
So quite a big family, but...
So do you guys know anything
about South Africa or Africa?
Nothing.
Nothing?
I mean,
don't take offense to this,
but this is one place
her and I have decided
we'd never in our life
want to go.
We just don't think
there's anything there for us.
People have this idea
of what it's like,
'cause a lot of people ask me,
"oh, so you live in a hut?"
I'm like,
"no, I'm actually from a city
and, you know, like,
I'm used to a fast-paced life."
Can you tell me about the...
I don't know, the interracial...
Mm-hmm.
Situation down there
in South Africa,
how that compares
to the United States?
I would say South Africa's
extremely diverse.
I'm part British, part zulu,
part swazi,
part, like, everything,
you know.
So I can't really, you know...
you're south African.
Yeah.
I didn't even realize
how diverse we were
until I came her.
Well, what I was getting at is,
are you two really prepared
for this interracial marriage
in our country,
where it's not accepted?
Are you two really prepared
for this interracial marriage
in our country,
where it's not accepted?
Well, I mean...
I'm sure you've been through
all of those thoughts.
- I mean, we... yeah.
- Yeah.
And we're ready for it, so...
Yeah.
I think we...
Can know how to handle it.
We look past it, you know.
I think that the...
the issues they're gonna have
being an interracial couple,
it's for the kids,
their children.
It's gonna be tougher in school.
It's gonna be harder for them.
So after you get married,
you're gonna live here?
Yes.
Yes.
You gonna continue to work
for Chuck?
At the moment.
My dad asked some
tough questions about race,
about just financial situations.
Sometimes it is hard to hear.
It's gonna be a tough...
it's gonna be a tough deal
for you two.
You'll have some challenges,
but you'll be fine.
Thank you.
That's encouraging.
That is encouraging.
Danny's mom just tried her best
to show me as much support
as she could.
Mm-hmm.
And his dad was a bit hard.
My dad will just have to
see that we do love each other.
So it's getting late.
I have to take Amy home, so...
Okay.
Okay.
What do I think about them
being a... Good match?
She's...
she's wonderful.
She'll make a good fit
in the family.
Only time will tell.
I don't know.
Nice to meet you, Amy.
So nice to meet you.
Bye.
Have a good night.
See you tomorrow.
See you guys tomorrow.
I want to be able
to make them my parents, too.
So having their blessing,
as well, just for our marriage,
that's all I'm hoping for
at this point.
I miss my family.
John?
No.
Okay.
I'm worried
evelin's not herself.
I think the hardest part
for evelin right now
is just the balance of her life.
You know, she needs that...
that relationship
with her friends and family.
Great.
Snacks.
I know you like cookies.
Nice.
What you doing?
I haven't seen you all day.
Thinking's good.
Sometimes, I miss...
What do you miss?
I miss my family.
I feel like...
I don't know.
I feel...
What can I do to help?
I mean, what can I...
what can we do to make...
Mm-hmm.
Right.
And sometimes it's hard.
I know.
Sometimes I feel alone here.
I know when you go to
a new place,
it takes time to get comfortable
till you feel like yourself.
You need time,
but I no have too much time,
you know.
We got less than 90 days,
I know.
I mean, we been busy
with meeting the family
and, you know,
everything's gone so fast,
we haven't had time to sit down
and ensure that, you know,
we're making the right decision.
Yeah.
I really want to
make her feel, you know,
how appreciative I am
and how much that I love her.
So I'm gonna try to,
you know, do something special.
Ooh!
I missed you.
This is just the one thing
that you just don't get used to.
I need to tell you something.
Can I just let you read this?
I'm sorry, but...
I don't want to be
in this situation.
This is the morning
that we're getting ready
to load up the car
and take Cassidy
back to her mom.
It's a hard day because
I feel like I'm just letting go.
I feel like I'm losing...
I'm losing
my little partner in crime.
I just love that little girl.
I just love her
with all my heart.
Cassidy primarily lives
in Montana with her mom.
And during summer breaks,
she spends her time with me,
which is never enough time.
But at least
her and daya got to meet
and build that relationship.
And that's more
than I can ask for.
Taking care of Cassidy just...
just changed me a lot.
Like, I used to be selfish
or self-centered,
but when I met her, like,
everything just changed.
I don't know
what I'm gonna do without her.
It's making me sad.
Oh, my god.
Why am I crying?
Let's get you up in here.
There's your mother.
Hello.
Hi, baby.
Ooh!
I missed you.
Can I get one last hug, sweetie?
There you go!
Oh, honey.
You know, it's...
it's always an adjustment
having someone around your child
that you don't know.
Mwah!
As far as I can see,
she seems nice.
Cassidy has good things
to say about her,
so that makes me feel better.
You know, the more people
that Cassidy has in her corner,
the better for her.
I love you.
Drive safe, okay?
You think that if you do
something more and more,
you just get used to it.
And this is just the one thing
that you just don't get used to.
You don't get used to
saying goodbye
to your little girl.
After so many days
of spending time with her,
like, I didn't know
that I would get close to her.
I just hate sending off
people that I love.
Hey.
I am waiting for mohamed
to get out of English class
because I have some bad news
I have to tell him.
And I'm pretty sure he's not
gonna be happy about it.
Hi.
Hi.
How was English class today?
It was okay.
Mohamed and I have been
figuring out
ways around our money issues.
But today I've been hit
with another big problem.
I need to tell you something.
Something about what?
But I'm scared to tell you,
and I'm afraid
you're really gonna be upset.
Tell me.
Can I just let you read this?
I lost my job.
They let me go.
Why?
What's the reason?
Explain me more.
You did something wrong?
No, I didn't do nothing wrong.
So how they fired someone
did nothing wrong?
They feel that I'm not
good enough at the job.
But you wasn't serious
about jobs.
That's why you lost it.
I can find another one.
I don't believe that.
What we gonna do?
I won't know
till I find another job.
You are the only one responsible
about the money
till I get a job.
We lost everything.
I'm sorry,
but it's so hard for me.
I don't want to be
in this situation.
I know.
I didn't expect that life would
be like this here, so hard.
I can't stay
if there is no food,
there is no electricity,
no water.
How... how someone can live
in this situation?
I have to think about this,
really.
I need to think about
if we're going to
get married or not.
Next time on "90 day fiancé"...
Oh, my god!
It's a really cool idea
to go to Chicago for your music.
Would you be able to handle
living in Chicago?
What I'm most nervous for
is my mom meeting
Danny's parents.
Nowadays, the parents have no
say in who their children marry.
The night before the big day
is not too late
to get cold feet.
You think I'm difficult?
I don't understand.
Please, please, please,
just leave.
I don't know what I do.
It's not fair what you're doing.
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