04x13 - Speak Now or Forever Hold Your Peace

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Previously on
"90 day fiance"...

The wedding is off limits.
It's just off limits.

When the preacher
asks,
"are there any objections?"

I'm not sure that I'm not
going to voice my opinion.

Mom, I still love him
and he loves me, that's it.

You need to stop
and think for a minute.

-Think about what?!
-Listen to me!

You guys
just want me to stop!

Listen to me!

Right now, I don't know
where me and anfisa stand.

We're, you know, really
thinking
about calling it quits.

Do you want to marry me?

While you're talking to me,
you're talking to her, too?

Is that why you told me
she was dead?

Yeah.

Ah, yeah.

That's some.

And coming up...

Today is the big day.

Like now it's not
going to be a matter

of if you're leaving
or you're staying.

Like you're staying.

I hope that our love
is strong enough to last.

Well, then you know
what you can do now?

Go fulfill
your obligation.

It's nerve-wracking
not knowing

if Patrick's gonna act
like a jackass.

I've been told
not to do it.

I don't listen to other
people.
I do what I want to do.

Is there anyone
that objects to this union?

today's the big day.

I can't believe
we're finally doing this.

You ready to spend
the rest of your life with me?

I've been ready
since day one.

I'm happy,
excited, nervous.

I think it's a little bit
of everything mixed in there.

Over the course
of the 90 days,

me and anfisa have had
some really big arguments.

She's even threatened to go
back to Russia.

I'm going to buy
the ticket

and she's gonna go home.

It's really.

In the end,
I decided to get married,

because I love anfisa.

Ultimately, the heart wants
what the heart wants.

I think today's ceremony's
gonna be pretty quick.

Basically, it's going to be
an in and out court wedding.

I'm worried about
how they're going to react

when I tell them
that I got married.

They did have some doubts
about our relationship.

But this is a decision
that I need to make on my own.

I don't feel like
our wedding is a big deal,

because it's
just for papers,

it's not really a celebration,
and we didn't invite nobody.

It's just
for legal reason.

I know it's not
what you envisioned,

but I hope
you're happy

that we're going through
with getting married.

I love you.

That deadline, is bringing a
lot
of tension to our
relationship.

So I just want
to get it over with.

My love,
are you almost ready?

Being married is not gonna

instantly make us argue less

or more or make us
more or less happier.

But I feel like
I'm ready to do it.

Wow, my love,
you look amazing.

Thank you.

You ready for this?

Yes, let's do this.

Let's do it.

Let's do it.
Let's go.

I think it's gonna
give her the peace of mind

that she doesn't have
to worry about

if I'm gonna
marry her or not

and her being stuck
in a foreign country.

-That's wrong?
-Yeah.

Okay.

Whoa,
we have the what?

-Money.
-What about money?

We'll need
to have money.

Oh, okay.

That's annoying.

All right.

Because I went
to work and...

Like, I'm sorry that we have
to deal with this,

because...

I just didn't
have any time.

Yeah, I just
didn't have time.

I've been working


no, we didn't decide
last evening.

But just everything
that's been happening,

like, kind of
been busy with work.

Today, we are
getting married.

Finally.

It's just gonna be a big
relief
that we don't have to deal

with the 90-day
pressure anymore.

Like now, it's not
going to be a matter

if you're leaving
or you're staying,

like, you're staying.

If you want to.

This 90 days has gone by
really fast and today,

here I go again,

getting married
for the fourth time.

It's time to get married,
buddy.
You ready for this?

Making that commitment
in front of others,

I'm asking them to support
alla and I's marriage.

It's a nice
Saturday afternoon,

nothing better
to do, right?

I wish I could say that
my friend Patrick was on
board,

but he is still
totally on the fence.

Tomorrow night
is important to me.

Just let me know that
you'll be on good behavior.

No, you don't
have my word.

This is a dumb idea.

So we will see,
but at the end of the day,

I'm getting married
and it's a whole --

whole handbasket of emotion's
that's going on right now.

I can't believe
it's already been 90 days,

but today, Matt
and I are getting married,

and I'm really happy
this day is finally here.

-To us.
-To us.

My sister iryna
and my friend Julie,

they are here today

to help with preparations.

Okay, so,
we should probably

start doing
your makeup here soon.

I agree.

Just breathe, alla.
Everything will be okay.

This is your special day,
and you'll be beautiful.

Hey, there.

We're going to have
to fix your hair.

Does it look good?

-Yeah.
-Mm-hmm

just walk down together
and hold hands.

Oh.

Hi, mom.
-I'm so happy for you

and I'm so proud
to be your mother.

I decided to show up
for Matt and alla's wedding,

but I might have to object.

I've been told by Matt
not to do it.

I don't listen to other
people.
I do what I want to do so...

The only thing I ever asked
you
for is to be honest with me.

Well, then, you know
what you can do now?

Go fulfill
your obligation.

I hope that our love
is strong enough to last.

I came to Vietnam,
because I was suspicious

when my fiance, lowo, told me

that his visa
was delayed again.

Turns out that he wasn't
lying about that,

but he was lying
about something.

What?

When?

You're a

ah, yeah.

You're just gonna
do that and go?

Really?

I slept in the hotel
by myself last night,

which it is what I wanted,

but like, right now,

I'm just -- I'm still upset.

I thought that he had
came clean about all that.

I don't know what's real
and what isn't.

I regret lying to
narkyia,

because that's the cause
for all this trust issues.

And if I would have
done things better,

I would've said the truth
from the beginning.

I still love lowo,

but he's been lying to me
for a very long time.

And I just don't know
if I can stay

in this relationship anymore.

-Hey, babe.
-Lowo.

Hey.

About yesterday,
I really am sorry.

Hey?

I honestly --

I'm sorry from
the bottom of my heart.

My parents made me feel
obligated to be with kiki's
mom,

but I didn't want
to be with her.

It was like an obligation
for my baby mama and I

to get back together.
-Well, then, you know

what you can do now?
-'Cause she has a child from
me.

Guess what you can do?

Go fulfill
your obligation.

You lied to me --
don't touch me.

I'm tired of it.

I'm tired of the lies,
I'm tired of the deceit.

-What do you want me to do?
-I'm tired of it all.

What -- what do you
want me to do?

I just feel like
I can't trust you.

Babe, you can.

-I've never asked you for
much.
-Babe, don't do this.

The only thing I ever asked
you
for is to be honest with me.

That's like
the most important thing

and it's the smallest thing,
and you can't do it.

Yes, I know
I messed up.

There's no way we can
fix anything here,

but we do have


We have 90 days
to get things together

and fix things
together.

I'm not gonna
come over to the states

and mess it
all up again.

I thought my trip to Vietnam
would strengthen my trust

in lowo and our relationship,

but actually,
it's just gotten worse.

You can only give
a person so much.

And, you know,

if they don't appreciate
what you're giving them,

they don't respect you,
they don't deserve it anymore.

I feel I am losing
the best person in my life.

I am losing my best friend,

the woman I love,
the woman I respect,

and the only woman
I want to spend

the rest of my life with.

It's been so hard
since
I've been back from Morocco.

I don't think
my parents believe

in me and azan
as a relationship,

because of everything
they've heard from the trip...

But...That's okay.

I wanted to come home
from my Morocco trip

and prove everyone wrong and
say

that everything was great
like I knew it would be,

but that's not exactly
how it happened.

I'm about to meet
the love of my life.

Oh, my god!

Oh, my god!

You should know by now,

I'm not a "sit and listen"
kind of girl.

Get away from me!

I still really want to go
through the k-1 visa,

but communications with azan
hasn't been great lately

and I really need
to talk to him,

especially about what I talked
about with the lawyer.

I don't know that working
as a barista,

you are going to be able
to establish

that you're
financially able.

So they wouldn't think
I'd be able to support him.

Correct. You might need
to get a co-sponsor.

I haven't told azan
what the lawyer told me,

and I really want to know

if he's like actually
in this with me.

Because if he's not feeling
it,

then, you know,
we could just quit now,

but I really hope
I can get ahold of him.

Oh.

I look terrible.

Hi.

How are you?

It was good.

How was your day?

It's like...

It's really nice
being able to see you

and hear you
and smile and stuff.

Aww.

Okay.

Um...

So...

I'm really nervous about
talking

to azan about
the financial situation,

because this is a big
decision,
and I'm really worried

because I don't know how he's
going to react to this news.

I went to go see a lawyer
to find out, you know,

what more I need
to know about the visa.

And technically,
I don't make enough money

to support both of us

for your visa to get accepted.

So, like, I have to try
and find a co-sponsor.

So, you know,
I tried to ask my mom,

'cause she makes,
you know, decent money.

She wasn't too happy
about the idea.

So, I don't know who really
to ask right now,

but if I don't have
that co-sponsor

because I don't make enough,

the only other thing is
I'd have to find a job

and make enough and show it.

And that would take a long
time.

So if it takes us like

two years to get
your visa together

and finally be together
and stuff,

like, what do you feel,
like, is going to happen,

like, what's our plan
for the future?

But, I mean, like,

that's a long time
to be away from each other,

you know, in our
relationship and stuff.

Like, you want to....

Stay with me
and work this out together

and try to be together?

But, I mean, like,
that's a long time

to be away from each other,

you know, in our
relationship and stuff.

Like, you want to...

Stay with me
and work this out together

and try to be together?

I can't wait.

Hearing azan tell me
that he wants to go through

the k-1 visa with me
makes me feel really relieved.

It's not going to be easy,
but he's my fianc

and I love him and I really
do want to be with him.

But like, if I don't
make enough here,

then I won't be able to
legally
bring you over with that visa.

You understand?

I mean, I don't think
it'll be easy, either.

I mean, I've --
I've been thinking a lot

and maybe someone I know
might be able to co-sponsor.

Someone will have faith in me
and in us, I'm sure.

I just --
I hope that, you know,

our love is strong enough
to last,

you know, two years, or more
if it takes that long.

Do you love me?
Like, do you really love me?

How much?

Like, how much?

Okay.

Yeah. I'm sure
I'll figure something out,

no matter what.

Me, too.

I don't even want to hang up,

'cause, yeah,
I like looking at you.

And talking.

Okay. I love you.

Bye.

I don't care what people say.
I love him

and I will do anything
to be with him.

I will get a new job
if I have to,

I will convince someone
if I need to.

You know, I'll do everything
in a good way,

in an honest way, obviously.

But I will, you know,
make this happen,

because I want him here with
me.

You ready?
Yeah, I am.

After the highs and lows
of the last 90 days,

it is exciting to finally
be getting married.

But today of all days,
I hope Patrick can

finally put aside
his mistrust of alla.

Matt has ignored
common sense up until now,

so if objecting to this
marriage
during the ceremony

is the way that I can
get his attention

and make him realize
this is a sham,

then that's what I have to do.

I feel like it was just
last week that --

that I met her at the airport

and now seeing alla
walking down the aisle,

I -- I feel like
I'm the luckiest man on earth.

Like to thank everybody
for joining us today,

to be witnesses to the
marriage
of Matthew and alla.

Before we get to
the exchange of vows,

at this time I would like to
ask

if there's anyone
in the audience

that objects to this union?

It's nerve-wracking
not knowing

if Patrick's gonna act
like a jackass.

All I need is for him
to just keep his mouth shut.

If anyone does so,
please state so now

or forever hold your peace.

By marrying alla,
I'm asking my friends and
family

to support our relationship.

I know that Patrick
only wants the best for me,

but if he truly cares,

he'll keep his negative
thoughts to himself today.

At this time,
I would like to ask

if there's anyone
in the audience

that objects to this union?

Patrick is one
of my best friends

and so it hurts
that he's being so negative

about my relationship with
alla,

but -- but I know
I'm doing the right thing.

If anyone does so,
please state so now

or forever hold your peace.

Okay.

I don't know why Patrick
had change of heart,

but means a lot to me.

It shows that he respect

my relationship
with Matt after all.

I've never seen
alla this emotional

before or show
any emotions at all.

But seeing this side
of her makes me wonder

Matthew, do you take
alla as your wife,

in good times and in bad,

to honor, to adore, to
cherish?

I will.

Do you take Matthew
as your husband to honor,

adore, and cherish?

Will you do this?

I will.

With this ring,
I wed thee.

Matthew.

Alla, with this ring,
I wed thee.

I pronounce you...

Married.

The 90 days is over.

I'm truly blessed to --

to have alla as my wife,
my fourth and final wife.

This better be Matt's
last marriage.

I'd better not have to go
through this again,

because next time,
I will stand up.

I think this will be
Matt's last wedding

and alla's last wedding,
and I couldn't be --

I can't imagine being happier
than I am tonight.

Growing up in Ukraine,

I dreamed of coming
to United States

and finding a -- a good man.

It was just a dream.

But I believe
that dreams come true.

Mmm. Mmm.
You're the best.

Ah, thanks.

Hi, how are you?

I've been back home
for a few days,

and since I've been home,

I haven't been talking to
lowo.

Wow. Well,
there goes my diet.

And I haven't really
had a chance to, like,

sit down and talk to Malcolm,

so he doesn't really know
much.

He just knows that I was there

and that we were waiting
for some paperwork

and that we had a good time.

You had a good time
while I was gone?

-Yep.
-Well, that's cool.

How was Vietnam?

It was okay.

What do you mean
by okay?

It was very hot.

I went to this place
called chicken street.

-Chicken street?
-Yes, Malcolm.

I knew you would love that.
It was called chicken street

and every place on the street
just sold chicken.

Like they cook it outside
on a stick.

Did you eat
any gross chicken parts?

They did have chicken
feet on a stick.

Lowo said
they're good, though.

But he didn't eat it.
-When is he coming?

Um...

I don't know.

Why?

Because I found something out
that I didn't know before.

I found out that he was
lying to me about something.

About what?

I don't really want to get
into what with you,

because that's more
like adult business,

but it was pretty major.

Okay.

But because of that...

I'm not sure
if he's going to come.

Why not?

Because it was
a pretty big deal.

Like, we got into
a really big argument.

So if he does come,

I'm not even sure
if we'll get married,

so I'm not sure
if he'll stay.

Oh.

That's not good.

I wanted him to come.
I was excited.

Having someone to go
to the gym with.

Like, throw the ball
out back.

And, like,
play sports and stuff,

and he can help me train.

Malcolm is my
number one priority,

but the one thing I can't
give him is his father.

And he's just
getting to that age

where he really needs
a man in his life.

I mean,
what would you do?

What do you mean?

If you were
going to get married

and the person you thought --
were getting married to

lied to you,
what would you do?

I would ask them for, like,
why they did it.

And if it's a good reason,
forgive them.

What do you think
is a good reason

for a person
to lie to you?

If they care about you.

You think that people lie
because they care about you?

They don't want
to hurt you.

But then,
don't you think

that when they
find out the truth,

they'll be hurt anyway?
-I don't know.

But what if I did that to you?
How would you feel?

At first, I would be mad,

but then, I would realize
why you did it.

The thing is,
is that when

someone tells you
lies like that,

it makes you question
their character

and their integrity.

Yeah.

And I just want
to make sure

that lowo is going to be
the type of role model for you

that I want him to be.

Yeah.

But I don't want you
to look up to someone

that thinks
it's okay to lie to people

and to hurt them.

And I don't want you
to feel like that's okay,

because it's not.

What worries me
is that lowo lies,

and Malcolm knows he lies,
and I don't want my son

growing up thinking that
it's okay to just tell lies,

just because they're
convenient for you.

So at the end of the day,
like,
I got to do what's best for
him.

Maybe talk to him some.

And I have to make sure
I'm making the right decision.

I was really looking forward
to having fun with him,

like doing things
that you would do with a dad.

But if my mom
doesn't want him to come,

then, it would be okay with me

because I support my mom
every decision that she makes.

I mean, in the meantime,
I mean, we'll be all right.

You know?
-Mm-hmm.

-You ready?
-Yep.

All right,
let's do it.

Like, I'm just really
taking it one day at a time.

I don't want
to get ahead of myself.

The way I feel right now,

I almost feel like
I don't want to go forward,

but my heart won't
let me turn back.

I'm stuck.

Get the door
for your mom.

Do you have any doubts?

Do you have any doubts?
Are you 100% sure?

I'm 1,000% sure.

I'm 1,000% sure,
though.

There was
a pause again.

I'm 1,000% sure that I want
to get married today...

To the most beautiful woman
in the world.

Well, yeah,
you have no choice.

Do you think our marriage
will last forever?

Of course,
I have no doubt about it.

You think you're gonna
keep me happy enough?

Of course.

You should include
in your vows

that you will finally
take me out to find my iPhone.

Mnm-mnm.

It was pretty stressful

getting everything ready
for today,

but we finally got
to the courthouse

and we're about
to get married.

Finally, we're here.

Thank you.

We've had our fights,
but we're making it work.

Now we're ready for the
new chapter in our lives.

Anfisa is
the love of my life.

Come and face
each other.

Over 90 days, yeah,
we've had a few doubts,

but we're finally here,

and I'm ready to spend
the rest of my life with
anfisa.

So we're
gathered here today

to celebrate one of life's
greatest moments,

the joining of your two
hearts.

Today is the day that you're
being joined in marriage.

It's your desire
to love each other for life

and that's what
we're celebrating today.

Hold each other's hands.

Take a deep breath.

And both of you, together,
repeat after me.

I take you...

I take you... I take you...

...as my partner...

...as my partner...
...As my partner...

...to have...

...to have... ...To have...

...and to hold...

...and to hold...
...And to hold...

...in sickness...

...in sickness...
...In sickness...

...and in health.

...and in health.
...And in health.

These rings, they represent
your unbroken circle of love.

Take her ring.

Do you take this beautiful
woman
to be your wife today?

I do.

And do you take him
to be your husband?

Yes, I do.

By the power vested in me,

I now pronounce you
husband and wife.

You may kiss your bride.

Congratulations,
Jorge and anfisa.

-Thank you.
-You're married.

Thank you.

And you may take your bouquet

and walk down
the aisle together.

My hair.

It got
a little emotional,

but I, you know,
tried to hold it in

as much as I could,
just to keep myself together.

Liar.

No. I did.

I was like,
oh, my god,

I cried like a baby
and you were...

I got emotional, too.

I just didn't cry.

Today was great.
It was important to do that.

But now we can start getting
ready for our big wedding.

My dream wedding would
probably be on some island

or on the beach at some place
where my family could come.

And in my opinion,

my dream wedding
would be anything

that would make
anfisa happy.

From here in five years,

I want to be happily
married, you know.

Live in a bigger house.

Live in a nice home.

Closer to los Angeles.

I don't really care, as long
as Jorge brings money.

Can you not
drive like that?

Wow.