previously
on "90 day fiancé"...
want to get married?
she could've
pressed charges.
they'd never give you
your citizenship.
then you have to go back
to mexico, and then what?
you giving up your whole life
for this woman.
you can't take a baby
out of the car seat!
this definitely makes me doubt
wanting to marry asuelu.
but you don't have to
pay for it, we got it.
is it hard
to be nice?
i'm going to
tell you one thing.
you're not going to be
an a*s to me.
and coming up...
where'd you go
last night?
i'm not going to be blind
to the things that he does.
colt:
i like your glasses.
thank you.
i like yours, too.
larissa expects me to be not
friendly to the opposite sex.
calm down
a little bit.
i don't trust him
with the baby.
it's like leaving
two kids at home alone.
nick: you don't need to be
with someone
out of responsibility
to the child.
i am not really sure if i want
to marry him at this point.
as of last month,
she has not.
you're not going to tell me
to stop touching my son.
what are you talking about?
what day?
i just don't like being told
what to do.
jonathan:
if my mom doesn't accept her,
it's just going to be game
over for us.
do you want to get married
at this point?
you are younger
than my youngest child.
hold off.
don't do it.
here you go,
my dear.
thank you,
and for your mother.
what side
should i get in on?
you can get in
on this side.
larissa's been here
for a few weeks now.
and i want to marry larissa,
that's why i proposed
to her with a ring.
but i'm realistic,
and i know nothing is 100% sure
until the wedding happens,
especially since my family has
some doubts about the situation.
you're not just coming over here
to marry my man
for a green card
are you?
you could always
break this off.
you guys
excited to eat?
yes, it sounds
wonderful.
tell us about
a brazilian steakhouse.
fat pieces.
beef and pork and...
chicken.
...lamb, chicken.
i've never had lamb.
well, maybe tonight's
the lucky night.
brazil!
oh, thank you.
thank you, sir.
wow.
this is beautiful.
-yeah!
-very nice.
-thank you.
-one for you. you're welcome.
thank you
so much.
sir, i have one
over here for you.
now have you dined with us
before, or first time here?
this is
our first time.
first time?
okay, i'm going to explain.
the carver's going to come
around with the meats,
they're going to cut
in front of you.
you just grab your tongs
and help yourself
and put it on the plate.
oh, thank you so much.
okay?
larissa: thank you.
that's cool.
-thank you.
-thank you.
very nice place,
i love the waterfall.
here comes
some stuff.
so, folks, over here we have
the top sirloin picanha.
this is very famous in brazil.
this is the best part
of the top sirloin.
it smells...
delicious.
well, you're
eating it now.
mm-hmm.
mmm.
it's a lot.
really?
i'm not sure exactly
how many guests we have coming.
that's nine people.
think any of your family will be
able to come to the wedding?
no.
that's unfortunate.
yeah, it's a beautiful place
with great food,
but it's
a little expensive.
i'm sure we can have
brazilian something
or another
for our meal.
really expensive good.
have you guys sat down
and made any plans?
you haven't
discussed it?
we can sit down
and talk about it.
debbie: i think colt's
not quite ready to get married.
we're still in a getting-
to-know-each other period,
and i think anything can happen
between the two of them.
people come to las vegas to
get married at the last minute.
they also have plans
to get married here,
and they plan a big wedding,
and they decide
not to get married.
so, anything can happen.
it's vegas.
you need to sit down
and figure it out.
time is running out.
it's fine.
everything's fine.
i can't believe that someone
bring another person
from another country
to think about the plans.
because we made plans,
so when you made plans
you are sure that
you would want to marry me.
are you not 100% sure?
hm, okay.
i was 100%,
now i am 30%.
geez.
it's complicated.
it's complicated.
okay.
i love larissa
more than anything,
but i have to be sure
that we're right together.
just loving someone
is not enough.
we have to be able
to live together, as well.
and i hope with the remainder
of our 90 days,
we can go back to 100%.
olga just gave birth to our son,
and i'm so excited and so happy,
but at the same time,
it makes me so scared
because we're getting ready
to leave the hospital today,
and we're already fighting.
i've already
done it all again.
is it hard to
be nice?
literally.
you could say "please," olga.
i'm going to tell you
one thing.
you're not going to be
an a*s to me.
i'm just frustrated
'cause growing up,
having a family who always
constantly, like, fights,
it was just
very difficult.
and now
that my son's here,
i want him to live
in a healthy home.
i don't want him to see
the childhood i grew up in.
all right, see, look --
it looks funny,
but this is exactly
how it's supposed to be.
it's how it's
supposed to look.
you're going to sit
in the back with the baby.
what?
okay, and then...
oh, let's put this.
-uh-huh.
-okay, there you go.
oof! sorry!
steven!
all right.
now we finally
go home.
about?
you tell me, "stop touching him!
stop doing that!"
you're not going to tell me
to stop touching my son.
i know.
he's not only your kid.
i know, but steven,
i wash hands before touch him.
yeah, and i washed
mine, too,
and then after you told me
to wash them in the room
when i picked up
all the trash, you told me,
"stop touching him!
stop touching him!"
you're not going to tell me
not to touch my son.
i don't care what you think
this is going to be.
now can you relax?
you don't understand, like, i
don't care what you said to me.
"go wash your hands,"
that was fine.
it was just the way you say
it to me, olga.
"go wash your hands!"
my family speaks to me that way,
and you know it,
and do you see how
i'm done putting up with them?
he needs to grow up
with manners and stuff.
then do it
whenever --
when we were at the hospital,
you didn't do it.
yeah, go ahead.
of course.
of course i'll listen.
go ahead.
what are you
talking about?
yeah, he is hungry.
and he was crying,
but he can cry.
but he can wait
until we get home.
you've been
at the hospital --
he can wait.
he's waiting right now,
isn't he?
and he's fine?
he is waiting right now.
because he's waiting,
and he can't eat food.
i'll relax when
you just start being nice.
what are you
talking about?
what way? what are you
talking about? what way?
steven: when i see olga cry,
i feel very bad.
i just don't like being told
what to do.
how do you feel
right now?
but at the same time, i need to
be more patient with her.
i need to calm down
and speak to her with respect
and not be
so intense with her.
okay.
i really do want
to be with her,
but we're still learning
about each other,
and now we have a baby.
i only have limited time
here in russia,
so i really need to figure out
how this is going to work
before olga's k-1 visa approves
and she comes to america
with me.
okay.
i got it.
you go wash your hands first,
and then i'll do it.
yes, it's good.
it's really good.
ashley: who's that?
some friends from jamaica.
boy or a girl?
if i don't trust you, then
we don't have a relationship.
you're about to be married.
you shouldn't be answering
anyone but your family members.
-i'm 20.
-you 20?!
yeah.
-and you getting married?
-don't get married.
you're giving up
your whole life,
your whole culture
for this woman.
ashley: how long have you been
down here playing this?
hey.
huh?
you notice me?
he seems annoyed 24/7, like,
the past couple days.
and i'm like,
"what's wrong with you?"
he won't talk.
he was, like, at the barber shop
the other day,
and i'm like,
"how'd it go?"
first, he
totally ignored me.
then i asked again,
and he was like, "it went fine."
can you stop the game?
you pay zero attention to me.
you know that, right?
come on now.
who is that?
some friends
from jamaica.
a boy or a girl?
so, a friend,
or a customer?
don't they all know
that you're here?
how do they expect you to do
a tattoo while you're here.
no, that's just
an opening line
to get your attention
and talk to you.
"ooh, i want a tattoo.
when are you coming back?"
yeah, but they continue
to keep texting.
they want something
from you.
'cause you're not
in the same country as them!
you can't do a tattoo.
you don't need to have
a conversation with them.
you clearly
don't get it.
i didn't expect jay to be, like,
but now that he's here
in the u.s.,
if he cheated on me,
like, no.
that would be a huge slap
in the face to me.
that would not be good.
all right.
i couldn't really imagine
if my inbox
was full
of a bunch of guys.
all right, so, then when my
inbox is blowing up with guys,
i'm just going to look at you
and say, "it's respect."
you don't search
my phone?
you don't search
my phone?
you search my phone.
you were just in my phone the
other night when i was sleeping.
you're about to be married,
you don't answer --
literally, you shouldn't
be answering anyone
but your
family members.
you're acting like
i'm a prisoner or something.
where'd you go
at midnight?
what did you get?
huh?
what'd you get?
uh...
ashley:
i've been engaged twice,
and my relationships ended
in cheating, so...
the biggest challenge for me
is trust.
i need jay to be open with me,
'cause if i feel like
he's hiding anything,
then i'm not going
to trust him.
and without trust -- at least
when i'm in a relationship,
if i don't trust you then
we don't have a relationship.
i know leida's parents
aren't 100% on board with this.
i don't think
they were impressed
with what i'm going
to be providing her,
but i made them a promise,
and i fully intend to keep it.
-let's go home, finally.
-yeah.
nick:
slow down, dude!
do you have any dates
for weddings?
i am not really sure if i want
to marry him at this point.
if my sister does not want
to get married,
i don't think
that she should.
well, have you had
this conversation with him?
hi!
john's getting married.
honestly i think it's insane.
i don't want to start a family
where we can't all,
like, get along,
communicate.
like, you have literally
met her how many times.
like, twice?
can you grab all that, champ?
let's see.
asuelu and i just moved
to utah last week,
and we're still
getting settled.
but i do feel this awkwardness
between asuelu and i
since the whole
car-seat thing.
you can't take a baby
out of car seat!
oh, my gosh!
there's so much
to get used to in the 90 days.
but my mom is watching
oliver right now,
and i kind of want
to just take a break
and go do something fun
with asuelu and my brother nick.
nick: pop the trunk.
nick and i just found out
that asuelu
doesn't know
how to ride a bike,
so i just thought
it would be fun
if we just went out today
to teach him,
and it's also a nice way
for nick and asuelu
to get to know each other
a little better.
you ready?
nick: are you excited,
or are you nervous?
'cause i'm nervous.
i've never taught a grown man
how to ride a bike.
why?
training wheels?
you want training wheels?
training wheels
are for children.
nick: so, you got the front,
i got the back.
all right.
you have both your feet on?
nick: okay.
try to balance.
that's what
you're doing, baby.
don't lean
towards one side.
we're holding your weight,
but you try to balance the bike.
well, you're not even pedaling,
we're pushing you.
so, we're going to --
yeah,
that's the point.
go. go.
aah!
turn, yeah.
there you go.
go straight.
don't stop pedaling.
-come on. you have it.
-there you go. you got it.
good, baby.
there you go.
baby,
you're doing it.
just like that.
aah.
i think
you're good, man.
your what?!
-your boo-hole?
-yeah.
all right.
that's a little bit different.
i've never heard
that before.
are you good to go
by yourself now?
go!
nick: slow down, dude!
you just learned!
oh, my gosh.
he's like
a five year old.
nick: i've been living
with kalani and asuelu.
i think their relationship
is okay.
there are some things they
definitely need to work on --
communication's a big one,
his maturity a little bit --
before they actually
do get married.
do you have any dates
for weddings
'cause i have to be able
to put in a time-off request
or else big bro
won't be able to go.
well, i kind of have been
pushing it off a lot
just because getting married
is a big commitment.
i feel like i wished
that i didn't just have, like,
a small time frame.
so, i have
nothing planned.
i have planned
literally nothing.
why is it taking
so long to plan?
i don't know.
i know i love him,
but i just --
i feel like
i'm not really sure
if i want to marry him
at this point.
wow.
i feel like he's done
some weird things
with the baby
that i wouldn't approve of.
i expected him to be, like, a
good father and a good partner,
and now i feel like asuelu
isn't even mature enough
to be responsible
with oliver.
i don't know.
i don't trust him with the baby.
i feel like
i can't just leave him
completely alone
with him.
he feels like
a child to me.
it's like leaving two kids
at home alone,
and i don't like it.
when i was in samoa,
he tried to, like,
help me out more,
or if we got into a fight,
he tried to fix the fight
or resolve things,
and now he's here,
it's like --
i don't know.
he just shuts down,
and he won't talk
about things.
well, have you had
this conversation with him?
no.
well,
that would probably help.
i can talk to him
about that kind of stuff
and maybe put
a man's perspective on it.
well, one of the things
i do need to figure out
before i marry him is to see
if he's good with the baby
or if he will
be good with him.
but i know when i'm around,
i kind of take over,
so i would like you
to go out with him somewhere
and just
kind of watch him
because i do trust you
with the baby,
and just let him
do his own thing,
but just be there
for safety reasons
because i don't
trust him with him.
yeah, i can
go anywhere with him
and watch him
watch oliver.
one of my biggest things
i want to see
before i marry asuelu
is that he can be responsible
when it comes to oliver.
i want to make sure
that my son is safe.
i want to make sure
that he doesn't
do anything dangerous
with him.
and then, basically,
if he could do that,
i feel, like, maybe i'll feel
more comfortable marrying him.
all right, well,
thank you for talking to me.
i guess we should
find asuelu,
he's probably dead
in a bush somewhere.
kalani's always been a person
to have a hard time
making big decisions
in a short amount of time,
so if my sister
does not want to get married,
i don't think that she should
get married to asuelu.
sometimes relationships
don't work out,
but that doesn't mean
you need to be
with someone out of obligation
or responsibility to the child
'cause all that does
is hurt the child.
baby!
all right, are you ready
to get out of here?
well, you lead the way,
i'm not getting run over by you.
let's go,
master bike rider.
baby, you excited?
i'm so excited.
it is show time.
fernanda and i decided
to go to chicago
where my family lives
to meet my mom
and my sister jackie.
this trip is so important.
it really could decide
the future of our relationship.
fernanda's excited, but i think
there's also a lot of nerves.
this is the first time
she meets my mom
and the rest
of my family.
all right.
my family found out that i was
engaged on facebook newsfeed.
that's probably the worst way
to let your family know
that you're getting married.
my sister was pissed,
mom called me, frantic,
and i didn't mention that
to fernanda.
i knew if i told her,
she would've said no.
tonight, we're meeting
with my sister jacqueline
and her boyfriend, patrick.
jackie's biggest concern
is fernanda's age.
jackie's 22.
her being my baby sister
and being older than my fiancé,
it's a little different.
yeah?
what's on your mind?
i think it's going to go
better than you expect.
my family does have
a lot of love,
but they worry because
they don't know how you are
or who you are.
you know, i hope
nothing crazy happens,
i don't think it will.
i hope.
i really hope.
has it hit you yet
that we're about to get married,
like, next month?
you sure you want to be
with this old man?
hi!
hey!
hi!
hi!
it's nice
to finally meet you!
what's up, buddy?
how are you?
doing good?
yeah.
are you freezing?
yeah.
she's so cold.
how are you?
good. how are you?
good. good.
she's nervous to meet you.
i can tell.
she met my friends,
she wasn't this nervous.
well, i think it's crazy
you're sitting in front of me
after seeing
all these pictures and...
we've facetime'd,
we've talked on the phone,
and everything like that,
but it is crazy to have her
sitting right in front of me.
i think them actually
being together
not in paradise
and for a longer period of time
is going to try
their relationship.
so, if after that she feels like
she's ready to get married,
that's...up to her.
it's been
an experience.
now we're living
in lumberton.
she doesn't see people
very often and...
she can drive,
she's not allowed to work.
i can't be independent.
-yeah.
-yeah.
well, that's
boring, too.
it's boring.
i can't imagine going
somewhere else for that long --
not for that long,
forever.
and i understand that in order
to literally be together
and, like, live in the same
country, you kind of have to,
but i also
couldn't imagine
getting married at 19
or even now.
well, i always
supported it.
did you?
i did.
i said, "good for him.
it's true love."
i even texted you.
i was like, "hey, man.
keep doing your thing."
yeah, you did.
so, why was patrick cool
with it?
'cause he's a guy!
you know,
i'm 22, she's 19.
i can't imagine now
getting married at 22,
so i think there's still
a lot of growing up to do.
however, you know, being here
and being without your family,
that's going to mature you
faster than anything.
i wasn't planning on ever
getting married, like --
well, that's
the other thing.
you said that just, like, a
month before you went to mexico.
you told somebody in our family
at a a party
that you didn't see yourself
getting married.
and then, new year's,
we find out on facebook...
yeah, 'cause
i didn't tell you.
i was ready to k*ll you
'cause i thought
you got hit in the head.
yeah.
i was like, you have literally
met her how many times?
like, twice?
that was mom's
biggest thing.
jonathan:
i didn't consult with my family
before i went to mexico
to ask fernanda to marry me.
i felt like my family was not
going to approve,
and so, for me,
i knew what i wanted,
and i avoided
that situation.
this has been a huge...
i don't know how to, like,
just, problem.
just 'cause, like,
i think you and mom
went from talking, like,
every day to,
you know, when all
of this started coming up.
she's got her concerns,
for sure.
but now that you're here,
hopefully,
they can mend
their relationship.
john's getting married
in less than six weeks.
i think that's crazy.
honestly,
i think that's insane.
my mom's very interested
to meet fernanda.
she'll ask
the tough questions,
so i hope she's ready
to answer them.
right.
i don't want to have a family
or start a family
where we can't all, like,
get along and communicate.
yeah.
i don't think my mom's
going to forgive me
until she has a real
opportunity to meet fernanda.
and if that doesn't go well,
i don't know what that means
for the rest
of our relationship.
so, now you just got
to meet mama.
calm down
a little bit.
she's my daughter. i'm not going
to kick her out on the street.
hey, baby,
made you a drink
just the way you like it.
thank you.
the other day,
i mentioned i was 97% sure
i wanted to marry larissa.
she was a little upset.
i want to prove to her
that i love her
and that i want to move
forward with our wedding plans.
i found a possible
wedding reception venue
that i think
she's going to love.
would you like
to look at it maybe?
mm-hmm.
i thought we could go there
tomorrow or sometime.
ooh, so nice!
maybe today.
i love it.
thank you.
-hello.
-how are you?
i'm good.
i'm colt.
hi, nice to meet you.
i'm sara.
larissa.
nice to meet you.
what are we
looking for today?
well, larissa and i
are getting married...
oh, wow!
congratulations!
thank you.
and we need, maybe, like,
a reception place.
you know, food,
after-party.
yeah, absolutely. well, if you
would like to follow me back,
i'll kind of
show you around.
that sounds great.
straight back is
our private dining area.
oh, that sounds nice.
let's see that.
we can actually do it
a couple different ways.
so, we're set up so we can do
just a c*ck party,
we can have it standing around,
we can do it family style.
we can even do it buffet,
as well.
that's great.
what do you think?
i think that's great.
yeah.
that's great.
i like your glasses.
thank you.
i like yours, too.
how long have you guys
been together?
you don't know?
i don't know.
all these questions.
since, uh, february.
awesome.
well, congratulations.
that's great.
thank you.
let me show you around.
okay.
if you know you were thinking
of a smaller party, as well,
we can also close off
the different sides.
yeah.
close the doors,
close the curtains.
that's very nice.
there.
very good.
what do you think?
i think that's nice.
it's very nice.
very nice.
good.
do we want to look
at a couple of the cakes?
we can check out
the menu.
yeah, let's do that.
okay, why don't you guys
have a seat,
and i'll be right back, okay?
sounds great.
thank you.
yeah.
okay.
oh, "glasses" --
that's what i said.
huh.
i'm definitely not
a wh*re, though.
what?
why don't you
do the talking then?
don't touch.
don't touch.
okay. that seems reasonable,
i guess.
i did.
i say you look great
numerous times.
you don't say it, colt.
you look great.
you look beautiful.
don't try. don't try.
don't try.
what do you
want me to do?
i love you.
you look great.
how about that?
i don't care anymore.
okay.
larissa has
her dramatic moments.
i wish she'd be more calm and
collected about these things,
but i think larissa expects me
to more reserved
and not friendly
to the opposite sex
and focus all
my attention on her.
look, you got a ring, okay?
we're engaged.
calm down
a little bit.
i apologize. i did not mean
to offend you.
okay?
-oh, my god.
-beautiful.
sara: this is more
of a mini version of it.
this is our jamaican
carrot cake.
it's got
macadamia nuts.
-it's beautiful.
-yeah.
you're very welcome to try it
if you'd like.
you want to try some?
i know you like cake.
i will try a piece.
okay.
can you put it
on my plate, please?
i would love to.
there you go.
it's our most popular
dessert item, for sure.
it's great.
awesome.
well, here, i'll grab this stuff
out of your way for you.
sure.
what'd you think?
okeydokey
can we...move on
from this?
this isn't the first,
not the second,
or the third time
i've told you not to do it.
communication is key
in a relationship,
and we are
seriously lacking.
you clearly
don't get my point.
i told my brother to watch you
with the baby.
-hey.
-hey.
what'd you cook?
did you get
the laundry done?
mm-hmm.
good.
i know i left
kind of mad earlier, but...
we need to have
better communication.
like, i know
i'm on my phone a lot.
you always have
your headphones in,
you just kind of
shut the world out.
when you do that,
no one can talk to you.
yeah.
i don't know. i just need, like,
you to talk a little bit more.
ashley:
i feel like communication is key
in a relationship,
and we are seriously
lacking in that department.
and it's a huge deal
to make a relationship work.
and right now, we're doing that.
we're not making
our relationship work.
it takes two people
to communicate.
it's what i want to do.
i just really think
that we both need to, like,
work on it,
not just me.
can i say one thing to you
without you spitting it around
right back on me?
i heard you the first time
you said that.
where'd you go
last night?
you can say
you're leaving.
you clearly
don't get my point.
lately, jay keeps leaving
the house without telling me.
i wasn't worried,
but the fact that he is texting
all these women in jamaica
is starting to make me
not trust him.
it's not the life
i want to live.
i don't want to consistently
be wondering, like,
what's in your phone
and going through it.
i just don't want --
no, i'm over that.
are you going to
stop doing it?
how many times have we had
an argument over this?
no.
two times.
no.
i don't know.
let me get my calendar out
and see what days
i marked down
that you didn't
tell me you left,
and i got pissed off
about it.
tell me
when you're leaving.
it's really not that hard
of a thing to do.
if you can't see
my point of view
that it's common respect
and courtesy
to let someone know
when you're leaving the house,
then i don't know
what to tell you.
okay, good talk.
we're halfway through
our 90 days,
and i really want to marry jay,
but at the same time,
i'm not going to be blind
to the things that he does.
natalie said that jay cheated
on me in jamaica,
and i don't believe her.
but if jay cheats on me
here in the u.s.,
it's not going to last.
like, i might tell myself
it's going to last
and try to work through it.
it's not going to last.
so, he needs to tell me where
he's going or what he's doing.
all right, well...
i'm going to go up
and get a shower.
tasha:
that's not happening.
i'm not going to change
my lifestyle.
maybe you guys
need to move out.
steven: olga and i just brought
the baby home from the hospital.
having a baby is way harder
than i thought it would be,
and we've just been
fighting all morning.
do you think these ones
were here --
all clean or dirty?
clean.
okay, so, i'm going
to keep them in this then.
since i always grew up
seeing fighting
when i was younger, it just
became a normal thing to me.
and i always told myself
my son's not going to live
this way.
...that it's just not
going to stop.
don't know.
oh, we're definitely going to
have a lot to learn.
just got home,
and it's already started.
...mostly just tired.
i need to catch up on my sleep.
boom!
i know. i know. i know.
i'll work on it.
we're going to have to learn how
to have our relationship
along with the baby's
relationship, as well.
right now,
i'm still clueless
on what is going to
have to be needed.
whenever we're irritated,
we cannot take it out on us.
we cannot.
i know.
pbht!
i know. but you know
your english, though.
pbht!
take a deep breath,
steven.
there's a lot we have
to figure out
'cause we don't have to do
just the baby stuff.
listen to what?
listen to silence?
okay.
you want to listen
to some silence.
'cause the baby
can't hear me.
just shh.
just...
don't spray it
too much.
ugh.
i leave, what,
fop one week,
and this is what happens
to the place?
yeah, well,
that's tasha.
eric: so, i have
been looking at houses,
and there's a couple
that i've looked at
that i think
you'll like.
oh, yeah.
single family.
the house is big.
it's big.
well, it's only temporary,
so i mean...
alless -- he's going to
have to share our room.
he's just going to have to stay
in the bedroom with us
on this other mattress
that we have here.
so, we're all set up with that
temporarily until tasha --
until we get her
completely out.
yes. as soon
as possible.
eric: we want to buy a house,
but that takes time.
for now, we have to make
the best of this place,
which we have to share
with my daughter, tasha.
but it
wasn't intentional.
i don't believe tasha left
the place trashed on purpose,
but i'm a little nervous
about it
when tasha and leida meet
for the first time.
tasha's going to be home
from work soon.
i at least need leida
to be civil to her
when meeting her
for the first time.
tasha's going to be
a little hotheaded.
leida can be standoffish
and impatient sometimes.
we'll get it all resolved.
we'll get it taken care of.
well, we got to
get her out.
can't put her
on the street.
leida wants tasha
to move out today.
she doesn't quite understand
how it takes time
to find an apartment,
and she's my daughter.
i'm not going to kick her out
on the street, though.
for the moment,
she does live here still,
and you're going
to have to come --
you're going to have to
come in contact with her.
you're going to have to come
in contact with her,
and you're going to
have to work this out.
i mean,
she is family.
she's your family now.
we're going to be living
in the same place
under the same roof
for at leas the time being.
i can't have my fiancé
and my daughter, you know,
at w*r with each other.
i love them both,
and it's important for me
for this family to work.
mnh-mnh.
not proper.
what do you want me
to do with it?
fold it again.
ooh, it's nice in here.
hi.
hey.
hi.
leida, hi.
leida: mnh-mnh.
not proper.
fold it again.
ooh, it's nice
in here.
hi.
hey.
hi.
leida, hi.
hi.
nice to finally meet you
in person and everything.
how you like it here
so far?
well, i mean in the country.
i mean, in america.
so, yeah.
yeah, and that's all fine.
sorry about the mess.
like, i've been busy
and everything,
but at least everything
is somewhat, hopefully,
to your liking so far,
you know, get there.
i just want you to be
comfortable here.
yeah, i know.
i was told.
i did kind of find it
a little rude
that she just wouldn't
really look at me,
just kind of,
"you don't exist."
and i'm like, "all right, well,
when i meet someone,
or when i'm introduced
to someone,
i like them
to at least acknowledge
my existence, i guess."
eric:
well, have a seat, kiddo.
yeah.
that's allessandro.
hi.
no. i didn't do that
on purpose.
i apologize you felt that way,
but i didn't do it on purpose.
it wasn't trashed.
as far as the apartment goes,
my dad messaged me,
so i kind of knew it was going
to be brought up right away.
i was a little nervous.
i was preparing myself
for a fight, i guess.
i do. like, i'm not going to cry
myself to sleep over it,
but, yes,
i did feel bad
that you had such a bad
reaction, but --
"a bad reaction"?
i mean, do you feel bad
that she had to, you know,
come into that?
i feel it's difficult
to describe.
like, yes.
it's not that hard.
you either do feel bad
for what happened, or you don't.
leida: eric has invited me and
allessandro to live with him.
this is going to be my home --
me, allessandro, and eric.
like, she shouldn't be here.
okay.
i don't plan
on being here forever.
i've been sending
in applications
to different apartments,
but as far as i know,
you're not yet on the lease.
you can't kick me out.
i'm sorry, but you're going to
have to deal with that.
i understand
she's pissed.
i understand it's a small,
cramped apartment,
but it wasn't set in stone
that i would be out
before she came in.
it was a hope.
she may want me out today,
but that's not happening.
i'm not going to change my
lifestyle just to fit her needs.
you guys can want whatever
the heck you want,
but at the same time,
i'm on the lease, too.
so, maybe you guys need to move
out and find another place.
unfortunately, it's easier
for you to find a place
and to move out.
we will find
a solution.
what if
i take you around
to some of these
little budget motels
that do the monthly
and the weekly rates?
we can store
your stuff if need be,
and you can come
and go as you please
to get your mail
and whatever.
but we need the space,
you know?
alless is -- we got the mattress
set up in our room for him,
but we need
the room for him.
eric: living with tasha under
the same roof...has to end.
tasha's an adult, and she knew
that leida was coming
and that she had to be out of
there by the time she got here.
so, i'm stuck in the middle
trying to resolve everything,
and that's not
a good place to be.
oh, i understand, but...
you're going to have to
give me time.
i am working on getting
my own place, and until then --
we'll just move forward
with what we got to do.
that's why i'm saying i've been
wanting her to save money
just so you could get
a new place.
in the beginning,
we were splitting the bills.
i trickled that off
over the last few months.
for the most part, i've not been
counting on you for the cable,
the electric,
or the groceries.
yes.
mm.
i didn't know
it would come up.
all right.
listen, it's not that simple.
i can't up and just move out.
it's going to take time.
sorry, but i'm done talking
about this for now.
i will be in my room.
as far as my dad
getting remarried
in such a short time --
about 90 days --
i am a little bit worried about
just seeing the way she is,
i guess --
her trying to alleviate me,
kick me out right away.
this is super-sketchy,
but i try not to think
about whether or not
she's only here
just to get on
american soil or not.
it's not my responsibility
to take care of it.
as of last month,
she paid it.
this month, she has not
because i did not ask for it.
so she has money to put down
on a new place.
nothing.
that's it.
but i keep --
i keep --
so, what's your favorite
thing about being oliver's dad?
do you want to get married
at this point?
yes.
yes?
hold off.
don't do it.
it's game over for us.
kalani: i'm letting asuelu take
oliver clothes shopping today,
but i am sending my brother nick
with to kind of watch him.
i'm hoping that asuelu
can step up
and be a good father
and do what he needs to do
without me being there
to tell him.
you gonna go have fun
with dad and uncle nick?
don't let him put
a bunch of things in his mouth.
watch him
'cause he will choke
if he puts things in his mouth,
et cetera, et cetera.
okay?
all right, bye.
i love you.
take care of my baby.
bye!
love you, guys!
so, what's your favorite thing
about being oliver's dad?
nick:
that's concerning to me,
and i have to take
those things at face value
because at the end of the day,
i've still only known him
for a very short amount of time.
that's it?
i'm not surprised
that kalani wants someone
to babysit him
because she doesn't know if
asuelu's going to be a good dad,
and i'm hoping that i'm able
to help her decide,
you know, what's best for her
and my nephew.
thank you.
all right.
so, you have an idea
what you want?
why do you want
to buy this?
but remember --
we're here for pajamas.
yeah, that's cute,
but he's not a little brother.
right?
what about something
like this?
mm.
yeah.
right in the mouth.
you don't want him putting
this stuff in his mouth
because you don't know
who's touching it.
and then is that it?
yeah.
do you want me to hold that
for you at the counter?
yeah.
cute outfits.
i'll set that one, as well,
and i'll take you this way.
okay.
ah.
careful, man.
when asuelu's carrying oliver
on his shoulders,
it's a red flag for me
because oliver's not old enough
to be able to even keep
his head straight,
so he just kind of
seems oblivious
to what's going
on around him.
you got to watch
that stuff
'cause if you drop
the baby,
not only with lani hurt you,
but the baby's got a soft head,
so you just have
to be safe.
so, i'm just telling you
it's not safe.
it's just like
i get it now.
i'm understanding what
my sister's talking about.
and your total today
is $48.87.
all right.
perfect.
i don't think she should leave
oliver with asuelu alone.
he just doesn't have it.
he just doesn't know.
it's a kid raising a kid,
and i don't think she should
get married to asuelu
if asuelu's not going to be
a good dad.
in samoa, do they put babies
on shoulders
when they're
that little?
hello?
hello.
hi. hiya!
i missed you!
hi. did you have so much fun
with dad and uncle nick?
all right, show me.
oh. i like -- my brother picked
that one out, huh?
really?
wow.
how did the baby do?
why?
you were holding him
with one hand or two hands?
well, the whole point
of you guys going
was so that my brother
could watch you with the baby,
and i told my brother
to watch you with the baby.
so, he was just probably letting
you know what i would want.
well, he was worried
about the safety of the baby.
okay, well, i told him
to watch you
and for you
to watch the baby.
it was good.
i was hoping that this situation
would make me more comfortable
in giving asuelu
more responsibility,
and if he's doing dangerous
things with oliver still,
i'm not marrying him.
welcome to
chicago, baby.
oh.
we arrived in chicago yesterday
to meet with my sister, jackie.
she obviously had
some concerns,
but she really got along
with fernanda.
what do you think?
yeah?
did you have fun
in chicago?
jonathan: tonight,
my mama's coming over
to meet fernanda
for the first time.
family is just too
important to fernanda,
so i feel like if my mom
doesn't accept her,
it's just going to be
game over for us.
are you excited?
are you nervous?
i'm nervous.
don't be nervous.
i love you.
i love you, too.
come on.
come on.
hey, mom.
how are you, honey?
how are you?
good. this is fernanda.
hello.
hi.
how are you?
nice to meet you.
you're tall.
i'm good. i'm good.
how are you?
yes?
comfortable?
well, thank you.
it's nice meeting you.
finally.
yeah. mom,
let me take your coat off.
i was a little surprised
at first
when i found out
that he met fernanda
and that he was pursuing
this relationship.
he missed christmas
when he proposed to fernanda.
that was kind of tough.
my first thought was, "he's
going through something, maybe."
i don't know.
i hope that this is real.
i really do.
you like chicago?
absolutely.
why are you wearing
a wedding ring?
i've worn this for a long time.
you didn't know that?
i don't see you regularly,
but anyway...
so, when do you think
you're getting married?
do you have a date?
not yet. we needed to have this
conversation with you first.
you're so young.
do you want to get married
at this point?
so, when do you think
you're getting married?
do you have a date?
not yet. we needed to have this
conversation with you first.
do you want to get married
at this point?
yes?
yes.
you know that
for sure? 100%.
you're so young.
i guess i think when i was 19 --
you had me at 20.
no, if you do the math right,
i didn't have you at 20.
i got married
when i was 21.
i had you when i was
so, 2 years.
it was
different times, too.
but there wasn't
that age gap.
if you're 30 and you're 52,
that's different.
what is
the time change?
i wouldn't be 52.
i'd be 42.
if we did
the math right...
all right.
...i would be 12 years older.
hey, don't get
that defensive.
i'm just saying.
we got to do our math right.
all right.
you are younger
than my youngest child.
sweetie,
you're so young.
mom, you
keep saying that.
when are you going to
warm up to the fact
that we're about
to get married?
i know.
i got it.
i know that.
okay.
baby, it's all right.
ceci:
i'm concerned for her age.
i would like to see them
maybe wait a little bit.
maybe she go back to mexico
and continue their relationship,
not necessarily be
attached to this deadline.
you know, i understand
that's a lot,
but the biggest thing
is for you to see
that we're happy together,
that this is the person
i want to spend
the rest of my life with.
she's
an amazing person,
and the more time
you spend with us,
the more
you'll know that.
that's very sweet.
i feel really bad
that fernanda feels like
she's caught
in the middle.
i didn't do a great job
of preparing her
and protecting her.
since she's been here,
fernanda's feeling along
in a situation
she's never been in,
and if i don't defend her
and show her
that i'm here to protect her,
then she'll never believe
i will.
i hope you don't think
i'm being harsh,
but from day one, this has been
a little hard for me
because it's scary
for a lot of reasons.
maybe you can give us
some consultation.
you've been married
a couple of times.
maybe you can give us
some advice.
if you want to know
what the advice would be --
hold off.
don't do it.
that would be
the advice.
you know,
while we're here,
i want us to make
the best of our trip.
so, i think she wanted to do
some dress-shopping.
like a wedding dress?
yeah.
and jon's
paying for it?
who else would be
paying for it?
so, you're going to
give her your credit card?
absolutely.
i'm just trying
to be funny.
so, just you and me?
well, we would ask
jackie to go.
yeah, maybe jackie.
well, this is a lot to process
all in one day,
but i'll think about it.
is that okay?
yeah.
it's okay with me.
okay, well,
i'm going to --
i've got to leave.
mm-hmm.
sorry if i was a little --
i asked too many questions.
when you have children one day,
you will understand.
what's wrong?
what's wrong?
don't cry, baby.
don't cry.
she's just concerned.
okay?
that's all.
mm-hmm.
all right?
mm-hmm.
come here.
next time on "90 day fiancé"...
oh, nice.
i wish i could say, "okay, yeah.
it's just you and i."
but it's not.
it's my mother.
you can't make me choose
between you or my mother.
that's not fair.
oh, wow.
ceci: seeing fernanda try on
wedding dresses today --
it's a lot to process.
not what i was expecting
to do today.
steven: the car seats have to be
so stupid.
in america, it's never
this damn complicated.
so, apparently someone wrote,
like, hundreds of comments,
and the "n"-word
is dropped.
jay: these comments make me want
to go back to jamaica
and don't want to be
in america no more.
i went against my dad so that
your family could see my baby.
you going to break up with me
over child support?
i don't like it!
it's really hard because
i'm not his bride already.
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