fernanda:
previously on "90-day fiancé"...
colt: i like your glasses.
oh. thank you!
i like yours, too!
larissa expects me to be not
friendly to the opposite sex.
calm down a little bit.
mom?
how are you, honey?
how are you?
my mama's coming over to meet
fernanda for the first time.
do you want to get married
at this point?
-yes.
-hold off. don't do it.
careful, man.
if he's doing dangerous things
with oliver still,
i'm not marrying him.
i'm just telling you
it's not safe.
you're not gonna tell me
to stop touching my son!
what are you talking about?
what day?
i just don't like being told
what to do.
-who's that?
-some friends from jamaica.
acting like i'm a prisoner
or something.
you're not in the same country
as them.
tasha: that's not happening.
i'm not going to change
my lifestyle.
maybe you guys
need to move out.
larissa: and coming up...
oh, nice!
i mean, i just want to talk
to my mother.
oh, wow!
ceci: seeing fernanda try
on wedding dresses today,
it's a lot to process.
you think it's hard for you?
i don't think you understand
how i feel inside.
i don't know what's gonna happen
in the future with this.
so, apparently someone wrote,
like, hundreds of comments.
jay: these comments make me
want to go back to jamaica.
i don't want to be
in america no more.
so, why did you like the fact
that lani is american?
are you gonna break up
with me over child support?
i don't like it.
it's really hard because
i'm not his priority.
a few days ago, i officially
proposed to larissa.
but yesterday was literally
a disaster,
and nothing went right.
i like your glasses.
oh. thank you!
i like yours, too!
i'm definitely not a wh*re.
i do.
okay.
since then, larissa seems
to be very unhappy.
this hot, warm is like,
you know, hell.
it's like we live in a desert.
is that weird?
i really felt bad, and i really
want to make it up to larissa.
she's been wanting to move
since she got here.
so we're going to go look
at a one-bedroom apartment.
it doesn't make me feel great
when larissa says that she wants
to live without my mother.
but at the same time,
i want to make her happy.
our lease is up soon,
in a few months,
so it's a good time
to look, right?
-hi. my name is karen.
-hi, karen.
welcome to lot 5.
-larissa. nice to meet you.
-larissa, nice to meet you!
-and i'm colt.
-colt.
nice to meet you.
follow me.
ooh, i love it here.
all right.
here's our beautiful loft.
this door is so huge.
okay,
this is the living room.
-oh, nice!
-holy cow!
oh, beautiful.
it is pretty fabulous.
oh, the kitchen --
it's amazing.
-yeah.
-a lot bigger than ours.
wow!
very big bed.
-very big bed!
-yes.
we have all the closet space
in the world, also.
oh, she's gonna need that.
oh, it's amazing.
oh, it's comfortable. i love it.
yeah, i mean,
this is a great place.
yes.
how much cost here?
this particular home, furnished,
is $3,250 a month.
and we do have unfurnished homes
in the same style for $1,650.
$1,650?
i mean, this is a little bit
more money
than we currently spend
on our rent.
and we all live together.
so...
i mean...
i just want
to talk to my mother
and make sure that she's okay
not living with us, though.
it's complicated, right?
it's not easy.
i wish i could say,
"okay, yeah,
it's just you and i,"
but it's not. it's my mother.
i take care of my mother.
you knew that, okay?
i'm saying you knew
these things coming in.
it's not like
you're surprised.
"oh, here, by the way,
here's my 66-year-old mother."
look, she's the only family
i have left.
my father's dead, okay?
you can't make me choose
between you or my mother.
that's not fair.
what if i have to pick?
that's not fair.
i would never ask you
to make that choice.
my mother -- she's taken care
of me all her life.
she's the only family
that i have left.
i don't have any brothers
or sisters.
so, she's retired.
she's disabled.
and i feel like
it's my responsibility.
it's my onus to look after her.
karen: you can let me know when
you guys are ready, okay?
that sounds great.
thank you so much.
all right, thank you.
come along, darling.
don't forget your purse.
uh-huh.
when i proposed
to larissa originally,
she knew about my living
situation with my mother.
so i don't know
if things have changed.
but i want her to be happy
and not regret her decision
to move here to be with me.
that's gonna be a very tough
conversation with my mother.
it's been a couple months
since jay's arrived in the u.s.
and the 90 days are almost up,
so i just want to look forward,
you know, to our wedding
and just making everything work.
but we need to work
on the issues
we've been having
with each other.
he just gets up and leaves
the house as he pleases
and takes my car,
as well as messaging
a bunch of random girls.
and i'm having a lot of issues
trusting him right now.
it's just respect.
like, if they text me,
i'm gonna be like,
"hey, what's up?"
you're about to be married.
you don't need to have
a conversation with them.
where'd you go last night?
it's not really that hard
of a thing to do.
are you gonna stop
doing it?
i definitely don't have
good luck
in finding faithful men
in my life.
and i think jay understands
why it's so hard for me
to trust him
because of my past.
so i'm hoping jay straightens up
from this point on.
he can't leave the house
without telling me.
it's not okay, and i think
it's disrespectful.
so hopefully i got my point
across.
i mean, yeah.
a little bit.
i just don't like when you leave
and i have no idea
where you're going.
yeah.
so...
i appreciate you, like, talking
to me about it and apologizing
'cause our communication
hasn't been very good.
yeah.
i know, like, you're going
through a lot
of changes and stuff.
but obviously, i have
some trust issues, so...
we just got to keep
communicating.
that's what's important.
i know.
i didn't say it last night,
but the dinner was really good.
thanks for that.
sounds good.
we just have to talk through it.
yeah.
work it out, and not go to bed
mad at each other.
yeah.
go to bed happy.
that's good.
really happy.
jackie: so, are you excited?
finally trying on a dress.
jonathan and i arrived
yesterday in chicago
to meet his family
and plan the wedding.
i'm excited
i can be here for you.
thank you so much.
i don't want to do this alone.
i hope mom comes.
i told her what time to be here.
so hopefully
she'll be here.
so, i think she wanted to do
some dress shopping.
and jon's paying for it?
absolutely.
if you can come with me.
i'll think about it.
is that okay?
-hi!
-hey, there! how may i help you?
well, we're looking
for my dress --
my wedding dress.
super!
we're still waiting
for one person,
who should hopefully
be here shortly.
well, why don't you make
yourself comfortable, okay?
so please have a seat.
okay, perfect.
i told mom 10:30.
okay.
hopefully she'll be here.
she's probably
running late.
my mom can't come to share
with me this moment.
and i wish that jonathan's mom
could understand
how that means to me.
and i wish that she could be
nice enough
to enjoy me
in this moment.
mm-hmm.
her questions makes me feel
a little bit embarrassed, say.
i just think she need time
for process all this.
yeah, i think it was
a shock for her.
yeah.
i don't think she knew how
quickly you had to get married.
yeah, i really understand.
it's a lot for her.
i want to show her i am
a good decision for jonathan.
jackie: fernanda doesn't have
her mom here.
she doesn't have her friends.
if i was in her shoes and i
was in a different country,
marrying somebody,
and i didn't have my mom there,
i mean,
i can't even imagine it.
you're here!
i don't think she knew how
quickly you had to get married.
yeah, i really understand.
it's a lot for her,
but i want to show her
i am a good decision
for jonathan.
you're here!
well, i decided that if you are
going to be part of our family,
i should be here
to support you
and be part of you
finding a dress.
thank you.
i appreciate that.
really, really.
-you're welcome.
-thank you for coming.
thank you.
ceci: i was hesitant about
coming today.
this is all happening
very quick.
it's a lot to process.
but it's going to happen
regardless of what i think.
so, yep, here we go.
woman: okay, girls,
our bridal is up here.
so, ladies, if you two want
to have a seat on the bench...
fernanda, you're with me.
so come on back.
okay.
this was not what i was
expecting to do today.
he's getting married!
dun-dun-dun!
oh, wow!
here's our first dress.
-wow!
-yeah.
that's beautiful!
the back --
i love the back.
it looks very,
very mature.
very mature?
is that not a word?
no, yeah, it -- yeah.
i love this one,
but i want to try with others.
okay, back to your room.
thank you.
jackie:
it's very sophisticated.
it's not something i would have
pictured for a 19-year-old.
i think something
a little more...
age-appropriate would probably
be something more for her.
you're freaking out.
no, i'm not!
you're freaking out.
well...
wow!
yeah!
sorry, am i not supposed
to say that?
-it's very poofy.
-it's very flouncy.
woman: that handkerchief
edge to it.
this is more playful.
-this is more playful.
no. no.
next dress.
jackie: wow!
oh, my god.
oh, wow!
that's exactly
what it looks like.
wow!
it's beautiful!
it's so pretty.
yeah, i love it.
this is the one?
it's the one?
so, how much is that one?
it's a little over $1,900.
okay.
i wish that my mom
could be here with me,
enjoying me in this moment.
it is really...
i just can't.
because my mom is, like,
my best friend.
aw,
she's gonna make me cry!
are you okay?
i'm sorry.
aw.
i'm sorry.
you look beautiful!
thank you!
there's no denying
she's gorgeous.
-thank you.
-you're gonna make me cry!
ceci:
there's all kinds of emotions
going on inside of me right now.
regardless of what i think,
being a mom,
it really tugged at my heart
because i can feel for her.
-this is hard.
-yeah.
you sure you still
want to do it?
mother!
seeing fernanda try on wedding
dresses today
made this very real.
she's a lovely person,
but jon seems to be
in la-la land
a little bit in regards
to this relationship.
so god knows what the future
holds, but this is happening.
and it's happening
in the next few weeks.
jackie: i love it.
i think it's beautiful.
you look like a princess.
olga, he's hungry.
steven: olga and i spent
nine months apart.
i just got to russia
and our son's born
and we're already fighting?
i feel like that is a very,
very unhealthy start.
you told me, "stop touching him.
stop touching him."
you're not gonna tell me
not to touch my son.
i'll relax when you
just start being nice.
what are you talking about?
what day?
we don't know how to be parents,
and we have to learn
how to balance out being parents
as well as our relationship.
so i know that i need to not
let that stress
get in between us anymore.
perfect. okay.
he's gonna live
in a healthy home.
he's not gonna hear this
fighting all the time.
he's gonna see a healthy family.
we're gonna go on a family
walk for the first time.
honey, are you ready yet?
i really don't think you're
gonna need that jacket,
but if you think so.
but i'll be right --
i know. you'll see once we get
into the sunlight.
okay. uh, before we do this,
we must buckle him in this.
olga, it works.
it won't break his back.
i don't know.
watch out. back up.
get out real quick.
i don't understand
this thing.
why do these damn car seats
have to be so stupid?
whoops!
i don't understand these car
seats here.
in america, it's never
this damn complicated. like...
you'll take the baby where?
i don't know.
you decide what you want to do.
watch out.
i don't know.
you decide.
olga.
what are you doing?
okay.
olga, i literally put
the stroller together
when we got it, broke it down,
put it in the car,
went through hell and back
for that damn car seat,
and then you don't even want
to go out to go to the park
that we decided
to go to.
okay.
no.
i don't want to walk here.
who wants to walk around here
with the baby?
you picked up the car seat,
so...
steven:
this is the hardest situation
i have ever been in.
olga and i are, like,
still learning about each other.
we're first-time parents.
that's a big step right there
for only being with somebody
for a month and a half.
i'm trying my best,
and i do not think
that olga truly understands,
like, all that
i am doing for her, let alone
appreciate what i'm doing.
it's all paid for. so we're
pretty much locked into it.
so...
so, apparently, someone wrote,
like, hundreds of comments,
basically threatening us
at our wedding.
we're an interracial couple,
and people don't like it.
steven: like, what do you do
for me, i guess?
like, all you do is stay home,
feed the baby, watch him.
i can't keep listening
to this stuff.
all right, here we go.
we're on our way
to see the venue. you ready?
as of last month, she paid it.
this month, she has not.
so, the venue,
it's all paid for,
so we're pretty much
locked into it.
no.
here we are.
all right.
a little nervous
'cause i've pretty much been
doing all the footwork here
since she was,
you know, in jakarta.
for the wedding budget,
i set aside a few grand,
but she has some
high expectations.
so my daughter tanille
is watching allessandro
so that leida and i
can check out the venue.
so, i guess this is it here.
no wedding fences?
-i'm judy.
-hi.
nice to meet you.
-finally, yep.
-nice to see you.
so, we've got the ballroom
all set here for you as far
as this far side over here
where the ceremony will be.
now, in this section, this will
be where the dance floor is.
we've got your cake table
going over on this side.
then the appetizers
will be right in between.
okay, that works.
and then we've got
the cash bar
and then we've got seating
for a few extra just in case.
mm-hmm.
well, there's 25 people
coming to our wedding.
they're all my family
and friends.
her family
is not gonna be able
to make it back here
for the wedding.
i think she's okay with it,
i believe she is,
but we're just
gonna move forward
and make the best
out of the situation.
after the ceremony, you'll come
back in through this door.
-mm-hmm.
-appetizers will be right here.
so...
we can also bring stuff
of our own,
buy at party central.
nah.
you are welcome.
i don't know what she was
expecting more of from it,
but it does seem like
she was expecting much more.
now it's off to the florist.
i hope that's enough for leida
to feel comfortable
with the wedding plan.
kolini: oh, my god.
if it weren't for the 90 days,
i wouldn't be anywhere
near wedding-dress shopping.
is this the dress you could
see yourself getting married in?
i feel...
ashley: oh, my god.
huh? huh?
i don't know.
good lord.
what the hell is wrong
with people?
really hurtful.
baby, can you bring
those two boxes, please?
kalani: asuelu and i have been
in utah for a few weeks now.
it's hard.
i miss my life in california.
i miss everything
about california.
i just gave up all my friends,
my job, and my sister,
and i'm hoping that i made
the right decision,
because i do feel like asuelu,
he's so immature
in some of the ways
that he thinks that i can't
leave my son with him.
my son is not safe with him.
shh, shh, shh.
you can't take a baby
out of the car seat.
oh, my gosh.
careful, man.
got to watch that stuff,
'cause --
i'm just telling you
it's not safe.
and he doesn't have the same
kind of
parenting skills as i do.
you have to be watching him
at all times,
and asuelu will just be, like,
on his phone or on his laptop
where my baby has something
in his mouth he can choke on.
da-da-da.
monkey.
luckily, my sister kolini
is coming to utah
to go wedding-dress shopping
with me and my mom.
i'm looking forward
to much-needed girls' time
because i still have serious
doubts about getting married.
monkey doodle.
are you nervous
about my sister coming?
she still said
she was watching you.
everything is sorted out?
hello?
the priority for this trip is,
basically,
to spend time
with my sister and my nephew.
and i guess if me and asuelu
have time together,
to see how he is.
i'm keeping my eye out
for red flags,
like if he puts the baby
in danger at all
or how he talks
to my sister.
i'll be definitely looking.
hello? hey, come down.
we're down here.
you're clothed?
-yes, fully clothed.
-okay, good.
i think my sister still has
reservations about asuelu and i.
oh, he smiled to auntie b.
it's kind of just
a protective-sister thing.
come here,
my monkey doo.
hi.
hi.
i missed you.
mm-hmm.
hi.
how are you?
good, thanks.
it was all right.
well, since we haven't seen
each other in a while,
i just want to go with you and
catch up and talk girl stuff.
let's go.
if it weren't for the 90 days,
i wouldn't be anywhere
near wedding-dress shopping
just because asuelu and i fight
so much that i feel like,
why am i looking for a dress
to marry someone
that i don't even know
if i want to marry?
-hi.
-hello.
hi. i'm lauren.
i'm kalani.
it's nice to meet you.
this is my sister kolini
and my mom lisa.
my mom hurt herself.
so i'm assuming
you're the bride.
yes, i am.
so when is the wedding?
that's a great question.
i basically have less than
so we don't have
an official date yet.
oh, okay, so --
i've looked at nothing.
i've planned nothing.
i have nothing planned at all.
this is our first step,
pretty much.
yeah, dress shopping
is the first step for us.
well, we are excited
to help you.
we have some dresses
that are over here,
and you guys are more
than welcome to look.
this feels so weird.
why does it seem so weird?
like, this whole time,
i just thought of him
always being there.
i never really thought
he'd end up here.
so this actually happening?
yes.
are you excited?
yes and no.
i just kind of feel rushed
and panicked,
and it just kind of is taking
the joy away from everything.
i don't really know how
to feel about it.
okay, so we've got
these dresses.
i will help you
in the fitting room,
and if you want to have a seat
over there, we will come out,
and she will stand
in the mirrors.
-perfect. thank you.
-thank you.
ooh.
are you surprised that lani
doesn't seem that excited?
are you?
i think she's really
second-guessing a couple things.
whoops.
oh, my gosh.
look at you.
what do you think?
wow.
well,
you look like a princess.
oh, i love the neckline
of this, too.
wow.
it's perfect, honey.
so is this the dress you could
see yourself getting married in,
or were you wanting
to still try on other things?
i feel weird right now.
-why?
-i don't know.
she's weird with commitment.
it's just hitting me
that this is all very real
and that decisions are going
to have to be made.
so i guess being in the dress
is, like,
a reality check for me.
i guess the real test is
if you can run in it,
just in case.
oh, my god.
i can run in anything, baby.
i don't know.
i feel like i want to try
on more,
but i'm just scared to just,
like, commit
to a dress 100%
right now.
like getting married,
it's a big deal.
commitment has always been
a hard thing
in any aspect of her life.
so i'm sure that it has
something to do with not knowing
if this is what
she really wants to do,
but i feel that
it's important for kalani
to make a decision quickly.
thank you.
i can't really commit
to a dress.
i just feel rushed and panicked,
and asuelu and i
are having so many issues.
we have to have a deeper
conversation
just to make sure that we're
still on the same page
before i purchase a dress.
we looked at some houses.
wow.
debbie: it makes me really sad.
i mean, we've lived together
for 33 years.
where would you go,
though?
come on in.
eric: we're here today
to meet the florist.
can you do,
like, these flowers?
oh, my.
this is incredibly lavish.
just one of those
is your whole budget.
well, the loft was a very --
very cute.
yeah.
larissa and i looked
at new places to live today,
but moving out together
basically means
we will not live
with my mother.
i don't want to move
without my mother,
but i don't want larissa
to move back to brazil.
so we'll go try to move out
on our own after the wedding.
but my mother has no idea,
and i think we should
share that with her.
-ah, you're back.
-hey.
how was your day?
you have fun?
-yeah.
-what'd you do?
uh...
we looked at some houses.
you see anything you like?
-one-bedroom loft?
-yeah.
apartment or house?
loft apartment.
apartment.
condo.
wow.
debbie: i did not know
what they were up to today.
they said they were leaving.
i said, "okay, goodbye.
see you."
now i found out they're out
looking at places to rent.
where would you go,
though?
if you guys
moved into a loft,
i would find
a senior place to move.
you don't have to feel like
you're tied down
to taking care of me
or living with me.
i'm fine moving on.
debbie: me moving out
makes me really sad.
i mean, we've lived together
for 33 years,
so, you know, it's difficult.
so we'll have to see
what happens.
i mean, an ideal situation
probably would be having you
live close to us or next door,
you know, in maybe, like,
and apartment or something,
or a bigger house.
we'll decide what's right
at the right time.
colt:
before the 90 days are over,
i hope larissa and my mother
could be friends
and that larissa will come
around about my mother
living with us,
but maybe i do need
to send my mother away
to live on her own.
i'm not sure.
leida: the wedding is coming up
in a few weeks.
eric: so we're here today to
meet tiffany, the florist.
the venue's the canvas.
yes.
tiffany's the artist.
-hi.
-hello.
come on in.
welcome. welcome.
hi, eric.
nice to meet you.
nice to meet you.
come on. sit down.
we'll get going and talk
about what your big plans
are for the day.
here's the map that
you already provided for me.
so if i look at the proposal
that you went through,
and this was based
upon your budget of $400,
we are doing white roses.
that's what we talked about.
-all of them?
-all of them were white roses.
is that -- did you have
something else
that you envisioned,
or...?
um, well...
what are flowers like
in your country?
in indonesia, do they tend
to be really big?
oh, yeah.
is this gonna be really subtle
compared to what you're used to?
it's really big.
uh-huh.
yeah. yeah.
you had 2,000 guests
at your previous wedding?
yeah, it was big, huge.
you can see for yourself.
oh, my god.
this is, like, what i see on,
you know, tv shows or --
i've never had an opportunity
to do anything like that.
that's incredible.
yeah, all the decoration --
wow.
yeah.
for leida's first wedding,
what she spent on
the flowers alone are way more
than what i intend
to spend on
this wedding at all.
i mean, your budget of $400,
it's very modest.
i only accommodated for just,
you know, white flowers,
different varieties
of white roses,
but it's really just
your bouquet, boutonnière,
and your centerpieces.
the actual budget for the
wedding is extremely modest,
and that's not un-- that's not
necessarily a bad thing.
however,
it does limit things.
and so, from that regard,
i think she's gonna have
a lot of adjusting to do.
just to give you a comparison,
cost-wise, that one centerpiece
i saw from
your indonesian wedding...
is your whole budget.
just one of those is probably
what your whole budget is here.
so...
you know, like,
color and decorations.
so, what did you think?
did you want to do a couple of
floor-standing, larger pieces?
can you do, like, this?
i'm sorry.
can you do, like,
these flowers?
yeah, i can do that.
i can do
just about anything.
it would probably be about
$800 to $1,200.
so we can double your budget,
we can triple your budget.
i mean,
there's still time to do that.
i mean, those --
$1,200 is a l--
you know, for flowers,
that's a lot of money.
$1,200.
if eric was not paying
the child support,
then i think we can spend
more for the wedding.
what can you do
with an extra $400?
we could definitely do the
larger centerpieces
on either side.
i was always holding back this
from you,
but, i mean,
i'm okay doubling it.
beyond that, i'm gonna
start getting a little queasy.
okay.
yeah,
look at her light up.
she's excited when we talk
about doubling it.
i know leida hasn't been
very happy
that things have not worked out
quite the way she has imagined.
the apartment and the size
of the wedding,
if it takes more flowers
to make her happy,
she'll get more flowers.
we're a little bit
over budget now,
but i'll find the money.
-all right.
-so that's it?
we're gonna double
the flower budget?
-all right.
-yay.
i feel great because it's
showing that i am his priority.
you know, me an alless
also his priority right now.
i'm hoping that he will do
a good job in the future.
so now we can do a lot.
i can have a lot of fun
with your money, eric.
there you go.
steven: all you do is stay home,
feed the baby.
have you ever said to me thank
you for what i'm doing so far?
steven: my family didn't care
about me when i was little.
now she's not caring about me.
like, that just makes me believe
that she doesn't really love me.
what the heck was
that all about?
...and the wedding venue?
i'm finally understanding
he doesn't earn enough money
to provide me and my son.
steven: i was so excited to come
all of the way to russia
to be here with olga
and for the birth of our son,
but things have been very tense
since she came back
from the hospital.
hi.
i'm running around,
doing a lot --
getting groceries,
cleaning up the house,
and it's just so hard for me
because i can't speak
the language.
the baby has a mild case
of infant acne
so i'm gonna pick up some cream
that the doctor ordered for him.
how much money?
like a -- like --
like a number?
so $150.
mnh-mnh.
no?
what is --
$146.
okay.
this will be a lot easier.
let's just do this.
right now, i feel pretty out
of my comfort zone,
and i don't feel that olga
really appreciates
all that
i'm doing for her.
how you doing,
olga?
olga: fine.
is this what i was supposed
to get?
okay.
okay, olga, i've had
a lot of time to think.
you used to be so excited
to see me.
i would go to work.
you'd run up
and give me a hug immediately.
then...
but you still missed me
all the time.
once you saw me getting off
the train, you were so excited,
just like ocean city was,
but everything changed.
and i don't know why.
what happened?
i'm not asking you
to be super happy,
but it's like, really, like,
you're not even
excited
that i'm here anymore.
you're happy that i get
the things that you need
for the baby
and everything like that,
but are you really
actually happy that i'm here?
you should be appreciating
every single thing
that i'm doing for you.
have you ever said to me
thank you
for what i'm doing so far?
yeah.
no, no, not really.
you really don't,
'cause i would remember that.
our son cannot be
the main thing.
we have to keep focusing on us,
as well.
we have to put equal times.
the kid can't be before me.
like, you -- like,
i can't put the kid before you.
we both
have to come equally.
i know that she's 100% worried
about the baby more than me.
i -- i don't --
i'm not comparing me and baby,
but i do say that she just seems
more sensitive
when it comes
to the baby.
"baby. the baby.
the baby."
she doesn't even show
affection towards me.
like, what do you do for me,
i guess?
all you do is stay home,
feed the baby, watch him.
you never come lay with me
or anything.
you forgot our relationship
because you put all
of our focus on our kid.
i said to you to come lay
right next to me. "no."
almost everything.
then show me it.
say it to me.
see? and look at you, already
starting to get irritated again.
what? i just what?
i don't want
your word for it.
i actually want to see you
try your best.
i don't know, steven.
whatever i say, forget it.
what are you --
how it was --
you think it's hard for you?
i don't think you understand
how i feel inside.
i don't' know what's gonna
happen if we don't fix it.
i don't know what's gonna happen
in the future with this.
steven: i don't know what's
gonna happen if we don't fix it.
i can't keep listening
to this stuff.
it's like, my family didn't care
about me when i was littler.
now she's not caring about me.
like, that just makes me believe
that she doesn't
really love me.
i don't want to be in america
and all we do is fight.
i just don't want that
for my son.
you knew how i grew up.
we both didn't have, like, love
like that from our families.
and now that
we have a kid,
it's like we're doing it
to ourselves all over again.
we're giving our kid
the same thing.
i'll give you a chance
to actually, like,
change it and show me,
'cause i want our family
to be happy.
the last thing in the world
that i want to do
is make you cry, olga.
you know that.
i don't get why...
this has to be this way,
olga.
you don't need to be
overly worrying like you do.
no, the baby is not the problem
to me at all.
for me --
i love my son.
and everything.
but you give all
your attention to him.
i just want you to be happy
when you see me.
the summer i spent with olga
is one of the best summers
i had in my life.
but i did only know her
for two months.
not only do we have
the pressure of the k1 visa
and a newborn baby,
but we're just stressing
each other out
with all this arguing.
i've only got a few weeks
left here in russia,
and i'm really worried that
if things don't work out
between olga and i, how this is
going to affect our son.
what we're doing right now
is hard.
i come from a family who does
have a little anger problems.
i try to distance myself
from that,
but i still have it
deep inside of me.
i agree.
but i'm trying to see, like,
how you're gonna be
when i bring you
to america.
is this really gonna,
like --
are we gonna work out,
or am i gonna bring you there,
and then i don't know
what's gonna happen?
it's confusing me.
so, where is the venue
and stuff?
it's right up here.
just keep going straight.
oh, it's right up here?
mm-hmm, it's not far, babe.
ashley:
jay and i resolved our fight
from him leaving from the house.
we talked about it,
and worked through it.
so, i'm definitely ready
to get married
and continue on
with our relationship.
we're here.
the wedding is at, like,
a rustic barn,
and i'm bringing jay
to the venue today
so that, you know,
he can see what it looks like.
-hi, ashley.
-hello.
-how are you?
-good, how you doing?
-good.
-nice to see you again.
-this is jay.
-hello.
jay, nice to meet you,
finally.
everything was planned before
jay came over here just because
i didn't want to have that
added stress on the 90 days.
she's keeping the plans
for the wedding "confidential."
no, i'm not.
so, yeah, the only thing i know,
it's gonna be at a barn.
i know there are gonna be over
and i know i'm gonna be wearing
a red tux.
maroon.
so...
oh, it's a maroon tux.
oh.
thank you, babe.
ooh!
we can fit up to 150 people
in here, easy.
and you can decorate.
bottles here
are here all the time,
you can put your own
flowers in there.
-all right.
-it's gonna be amazing.
this is a nice spot.
you know, it is -- it is --
it is not, like, too upscale.
it's not too up-class.
yeah.
to me, i feel like americans
make a way bigger deal
out of weddings
than jamaicans do.
for them, it's about being
big, and loud, and...
you know, professional
and all of that.
to jamaicans,
as long as you have fun
and have a wonderful day,
that's it.
well, thanks for taking
your time show him.
-yeah, no problem.
-all right, thank you very much.
-yeah, thank you very much.
-yeah, thank you.
we'll see you.
we'll talk to you soon.
okay!
can you help me get the invites
together tonight?
jay:
yeah, sure, why not?
so we can get them mailed out.
no problem.
oh, my god.
huh? huh?
i don't know.
good lord.
everybody is messaging me
right now.
my phone
just keeps going off.
everybody.
oh, my god.
one of my girlfriends
contacted me and told me
i needed to check out
our wedding website immediately,
because there was some
really disturbing comments.
oh, my god.
someone wrote, like,
a ton of comments.
saying what?
all kinds of.
um...
like, hundreds of comments,
and the *-word is dropped
in almost every comment.
"you stupid wh*re.
i genuinely hope you get left
dead in a ditch
with a stupid,
unborn, half...
child."
who post that?
it was just --
they're making up names.
"it's kingston zoo.
can you please return
our chimpanzee
to the kingston zoo upon your
next visit to the island?
he is greatly missed
and needs to be reunited
with his family
in their pen."
they get worse.
"you monkey
degenerate.
p.s.,
the south will rise again."
"being a single mother
of 14 kids isn't so bad.
you'll get the hang of it
one day."
i mean,
that's disgusting.
like, why would anybody
say that?
you know, i figured the looks,
and, you know, stuff like that.
like,
we're an interracial couple,
and that's just what it is,
and people don't like it.
but not something
like this.
no, i didn't expect this
to happen.
"all right, i'm coming
to your wedding.
i'll make sure i'll attend.
it's my second calling."
it's referring
to the second amendment,
which is the right to,
you know, bear a firearm.
i mean, that's basically
threatening us at our wedding.
not only did they make
horrible comments,
but they also commented
on showing up at our wedding,
and threatening us
in violent ways.
i think i'm getting
a headache right now.
if someone is saying they're
gonna do something bad,
it's kind of scary
because it does say
right on the website exactly
where and when to do it.
how can someone have so much
hate within themselves
towards someone
that they don't even know
because the color
of their skin?
honestly,
i was so naive to this.
i'm not used
to racism issues.
i've never dated
a black person before you.
yeah.
i feel like, you know, like,
everything just my fault.
like, i'm the cause
of all of this, and like,
if it wasn't for me, like,
all these comments wouldn't be,
like, on your registry and
everything, you know? nothing.
it's not anything
you've done.
i have a ton
of black friends,
and everyone's not like that in
this town. they're really not.
right now, honestly, to me,
the best idea is just, like,
stay in and
keeping a low profile,
don't give any trouble.
no, you need to go out,
you need to get comfortable.
you just need
to be on alert.
i can't fathom how he feels.
um...
i mean, it's really hurtful.
i love you, and i will never
just stand back
and let someone ever
disrespect anyone in my family.
this is supposed to be
the happiest time in our life
with the wedding,
all these upcoming events,
and just
making me question
everything we're doing
from here on out.
i was so naive thinking,
"oh, this --
like, no, you'll never have to
worry about that in my town,"
and good lord.
you know,
it's just despicable.
i don't know.
these comments make me
feel really angry.
make me want
to go back to jamaica
and don't want to be
in america no more.
did you like that
she was american?
kolini: at this point,
i would like for my sister
not to feel like
she has to marry him.
you're gonna break up with me
over child support?
i don't like it!
it's heartbreaking.
it feels horrible.
how was your trip?
kalani: yesterday,
i went dress shopping,
and it just brought up all
of theses doubts about asuelu
and being married
at the end of the 90 days.
thanks.
my sister knows
that asuelu and i
aren't in the best place
right now,
and she just wants
to talk to him about it.
i always feel a little anxious
when asuelu and my sister
are together just because
anything could go wrong.
you want to see
his six-month picture?
yeah. aww.
kolini: there's a couple things
i want to talk to asuelu about.
i do still feel like i need
to find out
if asuelu's here
for my sister
instead of just being here
to be here in america.
how are you guys
liking utah?
i think it's taking a little bit
of time for me to get used to.
if you didn't
meet my sister,
where do you think
you'd be right now?
did you like
that she was american?
mm-hmm.
mm-hmm?
do you think, like,
"oh, that could possibly mean,
like, i could end up there
in america"?
um...
but you thought about it?
like, it was a possibility?
so, why did you like the fact
that lani's american?
okay,
that's what i thought --
i thought he was saying
the opposite of that.
yeah.
how is america different
than what you expected it to be?
what do you think
our situation is?
um...
yeah.
wait, how?
mm-hmm.
i got mad
because he had said
something sexual
and uncomfortable to me.
do you want to know
what he said?
"when you're done with her,
i want a turn with her."
you're not going
to make me seem like
i don't like your family
and i have no reason to.
i don't like your brother
because he said
something gross to me
and he never apologized for it.
that's why.
so now you're mad
because i said what i said.
asuelu brought up
how american people,
when they're
with samoan people,
don't care for
each other's families.
i feel like i got offended
because i've done a lot
for his family,
and i'm very open
and nice to them.
i just don't think it's fair
to make it seem
like i don't like
your family
or that i don't care
for your family when i have.
i've done lots
for your family,
and i even went against
what my dad said.
my dad didn't want me
to go to samoa with the baby
because he was
worried the baby would get sick,
and i still took him there so
that he could see your parents.
so...
don't try to make it
like i don't --
i went against my dad so that
your family could see my baby.
do you have
anything to say?
i feel embarrassed
that my sister is here
to hear all of this and see how
dysfunctional we are right now,
especially considering our past
and things that i've told her,
i feel like i'm just
giving her every reason
to not be supportive
of our relationship.
does he usually do that
when you're having
a conversation
about stuff like that?
yeah. he just won't talk to me
for a while.
that's why i was trying
to clarify
so he would
say something.
'cause, i mean,
you can't do that forever.
so, either he's going to have
to figure that out
and figure out
how to talk to you,
or it's not gonna work.
at this point,
i would like for my sister
to really take in everything
that she's saying
about asuelu and his family
and not to feel like
she has to marry him,
because from what
i saw at brunch,
i wouldn't want her
to marry that.
-morning, hon.
-morning.
he's --
he's been cranky.
right now, allessandro sleeps
on a mattress on the floor,
leida and i sleep
on the box spring with a --
with a thick mattress pad
added to it.
we can't -- you know, like,
stay like this forever.
we'll do it.
we'll get it done.
yeah, of course, yeah.
my lifestyle is --
it's simplistic.
just the minimum,
just the basics.
i choose to be frugal,
i choose to be spartan.
leida is polar opposite
and she doesn't like
what she sees
in my apartment.
so, we're going furniture
shopping now.
we have to find a bed
and a new couch
because i'm trying to make sure
that she's happy
before the end
of the 90 days.
all right.
ooh, this one is nice.
he's gonna be too --
uh, no not this.
this.
oh.
i like it, too.
try it. try it, try it, try it.
i like it, too.
this idea.
what's that?
oh, my god,
this is comfy.
it is comfy.
that's all i'm gonna say
about it.
what?
keep looking.
this one's way too much.
oh.
yes.
no.
yes.
i don't earn a ton of money.
i have a middle-class income.
i have expenditures.
you know, i pay rent,
i have bills to pay,
and paying child support
for my daughter.
so, i don't really have a lot
of wiggle room on the budget.
oh, my god!
saleswoman: are you guys looking
for some furniture today?
yeah.
this one is a made-to-order
in denmark.
you buy this sofa,
it's gonna last you years
and years and years.
well,
here's the big question.
what's the dollar signs?
we're looking about $2,530
for that one.
that's an awful lot.
ah, you always say no.
oh, my god,
this is comfy.
what about that?
okay.
that one's actually
kind of cool.
but i want --
i want to get a new bed.
yeah, well, anything over
a few hundred dollars
isn't happening today.
'cause i didn't know
how much this place costs.
wow.
we're talking thousands
of dollars.
there are things
that you just need to accept.
it's -- it's --
that's reality.
oh, so what i feel
doesn't matter?
reality and feelings
are two separate things.
hmm.
that hurts.
there are some things
that you do have to accept.
i'm out of here.
i'm out of here.
eric: i took leida
furniture shopping,
but i don't have the money
right now
to buy the things
that she wants.
they were expensive,
and my budget
is definitely more modest.
definitely some stress
there between us.
i'd like to get her the stuff
she wants.
it's just a matter
of practicality and reality.
the heck
was that all about?
really?
you want to ask this question?
i want to get rid
of the twin bed, the --
the teeny,
tiny bed right now.
i want to get
a bed right now.
reality is we can't do it
right now. okay?
i want to get
what i want right now.
and you can't
make that happen.
he doesn't earn enough money
to provide me and my son.
we will get you what you want,
but it takes time.
no, no, no, no.
wait, wait, wait, wait.
and the wedding venue?
it seems like i have
to accept everything.
when it's gonna
be my time?
what am i doing here?
what am i doing here?
like -- like --
what do you -- what do you mean,
"what are you doing here"?
what you're expecting
is not what i promised you.
i'm not rich.
i told you we would pick
and choose bills sometimes.
now you're blaming me
about that?
no, i'm just pointing out
the facts here.
you're bitching about
the financial situation.
what's the point of that?
like, i have to accept
everything?
i don't like the way
that i live right now.
i don't like it.
you know?
i-i don't like it.
you were fine before.
'cause i wasn't here.
i come from really
well-respected family.
they're wealthy.
i'm not happy.
i'm never gonna be happy.
i will not gonna accept
your child support.
that's how we do it
in america.
yeah, and i don't want to.
i don't want to follow it
because it's not necessary
in indonesia.
well, it is here.
yeah, okay,
then i don't like that.
my children are not a burden.
okay?
you need to get rid
of that selfish...
in america,
family is what matters,
and it's everybody -- even kids
from a different marriage.
because of child support?
yeah.
i don't want to get married.
i'll just --
what do you --
what did you --
to hear her say
that she wants to call off
the wedding,
it's heartbreaking.
it feels horrible.
jay: next time on
"90 day fiancé"...
we need to tell you
something.
-uh oh.
-uh oh.
people are definitely
gonna be upset
about this decision
that we've made.
we're just so frustrated
with it all.
we're canceling our wedding.
my relationship with my mom
is different.
you need fix that.
jonathan:
i love my mom.
and i don't want to miss out
on that opportunity
to build back
that relationship.
you should feel like a damn
queen with a rock like that!
i don't care to come
to your wedding.
i swear to god.
i don't know what would happen
if we didn't have a baby.
i really don't.
at this point,
i don't want to marry him.
you came here and you
destroyed everything.
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