previously on
"90 day fiancé"...
we need to
tell you something.
-uh-oh.
-uh-oh.
ashley: i don't think any of
my friends will be expecting
for us just to
run off and elope.
we're so frustrated with it all,
we're canceling our wedding.
my relationship with my mom
is different.
you need fix that.
i love my mother,
and i don't want to miss out
on that opportunity
to build back that relationship.
you should feel like a damn
queen with a rock like that!
i don't care to come
to your wedding!
i don't know what would happen
if we didn't have a baby.
i really don't.
at this point,
i don't want to marry him.
you came here,
and you destroyed everything.
if he's gonna choose
this psychotic b*tch
over his family...
and coming up...
she's irrational, emotional.
i do give you
true compliments.
have you ever thought
maybe it's you?
tasha's situation,
i am done accepting things.
when the kids get upset,
i get upset.
as a mom, i don't tolerate
a new person in my life
acting like that
towards my kids, period.
kalani:
this is kind of making me
question marrying him even more.
i just feel like this was, like,
the stupidest time to do this.
you know what tomorrow is?
you get to be a u.s. citizen.
you don't have to beat
on my door!
this is crazy!
she's running away
from all of her problems.
wake up! he's destroying
everything that you have.
mind your own
business!
she makes it seem
like i'm the bad guy,
when i'm trying so hard.
well, there's one bag packed.
hopefully, it's not overweight.
what are you gonna
put your stuff in?
well, i'll carry
the dress on the plane.
and what about your
other clothes upstairs?
yeah, it's gonna have to go
in the next one.
i'm gonna get a couple more --
a couple more of these.
is that?
- hello?! ashley!
- what the?
oh, my
you're seriously gonna
beat on my door like that?
how else do you want me
to get ahold of you?
you don't have to beat
on my door!
i have neighbors with their
windows open right there.
i don't care about them!
like, this is crazy.
i haven't been able to talk
to you or get ahold of you.
well, normally,
a person ignores someone --
that person gets the hint
that they don't want
to speak to them.
after all these years
of friendship?!
ashley: since i've cut natalie
out of the wedding,
she has been calling me
and texting me nonstop.
she's just persistent
that he's cheated on me
and that i should basically
just leave the relationship.
it's not that i don't care
if he cheated on me,
but i'm seriously over her being
so dramatic about everything.
and i don't believe her.
i trust jay.
and there's no proof at all
supporting what
she's saying he did.
listen.
that's my husband.
you're about to marry
someone that is a cheater,
can't support you
and take care of you?
i'm afraid what's
gonna happen to her.
ashley is oblivious to the fact
that he is a cheater and a liar
who will definitely cheat again.
you're really choosing
a 20-year-old man-child
instead of mending or
figuring out our friendship?
like, we've been friends
for far too long.
like, you're like my sister.
okay.
well, you have to understand
you don't support my marriage,
you don't support
my relationship,
so this is what
i've chose to do.
what are you gonna do
when you have no one
at the end of the day?
i've heard that they're going
to vegas to get married.
doesn't that say something, when
you have to get on an airplane,
fly the whole way across
the country to get married,
with zero people there
to support you?
seriously?
do you think that's fair?
we can't have a conversation
about everything
we need to talk about
without him?
-he is my husband.
-he -- i don't care!
you're not married yet!
like, this is crazy.
she deserves better than jay.
he just wants to be in america
for his opportunity.
that's what they're told
from the time that
they can walk and talk --
"get out of jamaica.
get out of jamaica."
i just can't live with myself
knowing this is happening.
like, i can't.
jay: i don't -- listen.
you're literally ruining
my relationship with her.
and if you cared about her,
you wouldn't be doing it!
hold on, hold on, hold on,
hold on, hold on, hold on.
you're ruining your
relationship with her.
i ain't got to do
with you guys' relationship.
why do you come in,
banging on the door?
you did this.
what am i supposed to do?!
i'm blocked, because you're
chirping in her ear,
telling her, like,
she can't be my friend!
that.
jay: it wasn't my idea
to cut natalie out for good.
you know, ashley's situation --
it is hard to, like,
choose between me and nat,
but natalie is giving her
so much, like, reason
for her not to be friends
with her anymore.
ashley just, like,
got to do what she got to do.
i'm done. i'm just done.
the relationship is done!
nothing -- nothing
is going to help this.
nothing is going to solve this.
it's just done.
can't we just have
a conversation
about everything else?
no, conversation
is over.
natalie: can you please come
out here, ashley? seriously?
ashley: we've been friends
for a really long time.
she's been there for me
through a lot,
so it's extremely upsetting.
but at this point,
she has caused so much chaos
in my relationship,
it's just done, i'm done.
jay: she's arguing 'cause you're
not talking to her right now.
she came here
on bad terms.
she came here unknowingly
by my house.
i know. honestly, i know if she
came here, rang the doorbell,
you address the situation
different, right?
but she just came here
and banged the door --
banged the door down.
natalie: she's running away
from all of her problems.
she does this.
she's been doing this forever.
she just runs away.
so by jumping on an airplane,
thinking you're just gonna go
have this great wedding
and get married?
news flash --
that's not what's happening.
you can't just run away
from everything.
that's not real life.
i feel like i'm like the bull
waving the flag right now,
like, "hello!
see these signs, girl!
wake up! wake up!"
i can't believe she showed up
at my house.
colt: yesterday, i invited
my family over for a barbecue
in the hopes that everyone would
get along before the wedding,
which is just weeks away.
unfortunately,
all hell broke loose.
larissa got into a huge fight
with both my cousin john
and my mother.
i can't pretend anymore.
it's just -- this is fake.
it's bull.
that's not true love.
i'm sorry. that's just a lie.
your fictitious mind-set
of love is delusional!
you don't know what love is
or what respect is!
i'm done! i'm done!
-i'm done with you.
-larissa, calm down.
-i am so done with you.
-yes.
and then larissa and i
started to argue.
colt:
it's not about my mother.
when she threw the ring
on the floor
and said that she didn't
want to marry me,
it really broke my heart.
we haven't talked since larissa
told me that she does not
want to marry me,
so i'm looking for
one-way tickets to brazil.
even though i love her,
i can't live with somebody
that is completely unreasonable
like that.
if she's not happy with me,
then she has to go.
hello.
i'm fine. how are you?
i feel like larissa and i
are two different people.
we're basically polar opposites.
she goes from sweet to scary
and then back to sweet
all in an instant.
so when she acts this way,
i don't know what to do.
that's nice.
i'm looking up
flights to brazil.
look for yourself.
well, if you're not happy,
why do you want to be here?
you threw the ring at me.
you told me you didn't want
to marry me. you told me --
or you could hurt my feelings
and break my heart.
for example?
you're definitely crazy.
i don't care about john.
i care about you and i, okay?
the way you acted
is ridiculous.
you had an attitude
before they came over.
look.
they're my family, okay?
and you're alienating me
from my own family.
you're causing fights.
if you have a problem
with me or anyone,
sit down,
let's talk about it.
but you told me
you didn't want to marry me.
and afterwards, you wouldn't
talk to me, hid yourself away.
i'm an adult.
i need to talk to someone
like an adult.
and you acted like a child.
look.
i need a partner, okay?
you know i love you.
i cannot fight with you
again like that.
you realize that.
you do it again, it's over.
she apologized,
and i love you her.
but is she just gonna
lose her mind again?
is it gonna get worse?
if she continues to do this,
then i don't want to marry her,
and she'll have to
go back to brazil.
i hope she understands that.
yeah, i know.
you're not a u.s. citizen
or have a green card.
you wouldn't really
have a say in it.
lisa:
what? what's wrong?
kalani:
i just feel
even more overwhelmed
than i already did.
it's just one more thing
that i'm stressed out about.
eric: where is she?
i have to choose between you
and her, and it hurts a lot.
steven: we only have two weeks
now until i leave russia.
and tomorrow's my appointment
at the u.s. embassy
to get my son
his u.s. citizenship.
so the only thing
left to do today
is go get him
his passport photos.
ohh!
oh, yes, yes, yes. da.
i like it.
okay.
i think he's gonna
have blond hair.
okay.
what do you mean?
i don't know what would happen
if we didn't have a baby.
i really don't.
all right. this is his
application. that's done.
um...
"ssn. statement that your child
does not have an s.s. number."
hmm. i don't know
what that is.
probably 'cause
they want to see
i'm not trying to fake
a passport or something.
i have no idea.
but he is getting
his u.s. citizenship.
that's number one.
yeah, i know.
since you're not a u.s. citizen
or have a green card,
you wouldn't really
have a say in it.
what do you mean, "what"?
yeah,
but it doesn't matter.
he's not gonna live in russia
throughout his life.
i just want to make sure
i have everything together.
i don't want to forget anything,
'cause it's gonna piss me off
more than anything in the world
if i don't get this done.
being an american citizen
just gives you more
opportunities in life.
all right.
let's get ready for sleep.
i'll watch the baby,
and you get a shower.
you know
what tomorrow is?
get to be a u.s. citizen,
for you.
american!
you're american boy.
woman: this way.
just follow me.
a few days ago, we kind of
stumbled upon a surprise.
i found out that i am pregnant.
because i'm breastfeeding,
asuelu and i don't really have
very many options
for birth control.
and asuelu
doesn't like using condoms
because they're for
"sl*t people."
-hi, guys.
-hi. hello.
hey. i'm dr. lynn.
nice to meet you.
this is dad.
sorry. woke up
in the middle of a nap.
sorry.
he doesn't
feel well today.
i feel like...
...i should be excited?
now, let me just see
what we can see here.
but i feel like
it's not good timing right now
with his papers and the next
round of papers we have to do
and planning a wedding...
...and taking care of my son.
i feel like i'm not even as good
of a mom as i should be now,
and now i'm gonna have
another baby
to take, like, myself away
from my son even more.
i feel like i'm already
spreading myself so thin.
to then have another part
that i'm going to
have to be responsible for
and take care of,
it just scares me.
the pregnancy
is right in there.
it's exactly the right size
for five weeks.
there.
and it's about yay big.
i wanted to wait
until my son was old enough
so that i could be
excited about it,
and now i just feel even more
overwhelmed than i already did.
and i'm so sick
of disappointing my family.
i'm gonna tell my mom first
that i'm pregnant
just because she's my mom
and she's who i'm close to.
and i feel like just because
my mom's so supportive
that she'll be
the easiest to talk to
and the best person
to give me advice.
hi, my love!
ohh! mwah!
you guys want to go
sit down over there?
-over here in the corner?
-yeah. okay.
it was nice.
how are you guys doing?
what? what's wrong?
oh, my goodness.
lisa:
what? what's wrong?
oh, my goodness.
don't cry.
i just feel like
everyone's gonna be mad.
"everyone" like...?
lini.
i don't really know
what to say. i mean...
would you mind --
can you take him home, baby?
he wants to go to sleep,
and i need to talk to my mom.
okay. let daddy get
your stuff ready, okay?
i'm shocked.
'cause i didn't expect this
to happen so fast.
i just feel like this is, like,
the stupidest time to do this,
that it's just one more thing
that i stress out about.
does he understand
that you did not want
to have a baby right now?
i think he understood.
the day after i found out,
i just, like, cried all day.
what did he say?
he said he cried
and that now he feels sad
about everything
because he didn't know
how sad i was, but...
i'm a little bit confused
at why he would --
asuelu would want this.
i know, him being from samoa,
there's big families,
and that's a good thing
if you can handle that.
it's different in america
because things
are more expensive.
so there's a part of me
that is mad at him
because i feel like he just
doesn't understand things.
i think just because
he's from samoa,
where you can have 20 kids
and afford to feed them
and take care of them --
you can't do that here.
if you don't have money
or stability or jobs,
like, you're not supposed to
just have another baby.
do you think that he wanted
to have another baby
to just stay in america?
i would hope
that's not why.
kalani: part of me
does wonder if maybe asuelu
wants to, like, 100% make sure
that i would marry him.
but if anything,
this is kind of
making me question
marrying him even more.
come on.
kisses, kisses.
mwah!
i had a problem with tasha.
that is between
me and my dad.
- he doesn't want you.
- bull.
tasha: she's a
psychotic-a*s b*tch.
he can do better than that.
i don't want to just not see
my dad anymore, but...
...i guess it's just
how it's gonna be.
eric: this is not
the stuff that i need
when i come out of
a meeting at work
and i find my phone
blowing up on my desk.
i was on the phone with leida.
i could barely understand her.
-hey.
-hey.
she was upset.
she was ready to leave.
tasha put me into a position
where i had to choose
between her or leida,
and it's just --
it's a terrible situation
all around.
well, i was so upset.
this is really unacceptable.
i'm done.
so, what happened?
what started it?
so, where is she?
well, this puts me
in a tough situation.
i have to choose between you
and her, and it hurts a lot.
she is the problem, not me.
-you know that, right?
-i do know that, yes.
so...
having to choose between my
current family and my new family
is a horrendous thing to do.
but, you know, tasha
might be angry with me now,
but tasha's not gonna run away
and leave the country.
she's my daughter.
this can be resolved
given enough time.
if i don't make leida
number one, she's gonna leave.
she will up and leave.
this is a woman
that i have fallen in love with
and have made plans
to spend my, you know --
the rest of my life with.
and if leida
went back to indonesia,
i'll never see her again.
so there is no choice
in this matter.
it hurts, but if i had
lost you because of this,
i wouldn't be able
to forgive tasha.
tasha's an adult. she's
supposed to be out on her own.
you are the priority now.
i can resolve this
later down the road.
we can put this
behind us and get it worked out.
you're the most important thing
in my life, period.
you're my teammate.
we're a team.
i'm torn here. i love my kids.
but tasha's got to get her
own place. she's an adult now.
the one certainty that i know --
absolute, positively --
leida's priority,
and i'm gonna marry her, period.
nothing is gonna get in
between us and stop that.
i love you.
i love you.
all right.
ahh.
come here.
how you doing, man?
you know, she's very limited.
she can't work.
and so, yeah, she feels
like she's in a jail.
i'm concerned
about how young she is.
do you feel like that you
control so much of her life
that she'll
resent you for that?
she's irrational, emotional.
i do give you
true compliments.
have you ever thought
maybe it's you?
i can't marry her.
jonathan: fernanda and i have
just gotten back from chicago,
and overall,
this was a great trip.
family is really important
to fernanda,
and she's really opening up my
eyes in seeing the opportunity
that i have here with my family
and taking it for granted.
my relationship
with my mom
is different from the
relationship with your mom.
i wished i talked
to my family more.
i wish i called them
and said, "hey, ma."
i plan on fixing things
with my mom
by communicating with her more
and visiting her more.
at the end of the day, my mother
loves me very, very much.
there's just a bit
of tension there,
and it's gonna take some time.
but now i'm back home working,
and tonight, i'm gonna go have
drinks with my friend stephen.
-what's up, buddy?
-what's up, man?
-how are you?
-doing well. good to see you.
-good to see you again.
-been a minute.
-how's life, man?
-it's going well.
it's going really well.
yeah, man.
hear, hear.
yeah, no kidding.
stephen: i hadn't seen jonathan
in a while.
we used to hang out
all the time,
and, really, ever since he's
been in this 90-day process,
i really hadn't gotten
to spend much time with him.
it's really great to get
a chance to just sit down
and talk to him
about this whole process
'cause i've had concerns.
so, we just got back
from chicago.
yeah.
she met my mom
for the first time.
does your mom like her?
does she not like her?
has she decided yet?
i mean, yeah, my mom
definitely likes her.
i think it's just --
it's a combination of things.
my mom found out
on social media
that i had gotten engaged
to fernanda.
so you didn't tell
your mom beforehand?
-no.
-why not?
i knew my mom
would think i was crazy.
she still treats me
like i'm her young boy.
at 32 years old, i'm old enough
to make that decision.
fernanda. you think she's old
enough to make that decision?
absolutely.
absolutely.
sure.
is that fernanda?
yeah.
surely you got to have
some kind of doubt
about fernanda's maturity
versus yours.
there was an instance.
we were in myrtle beach,
and we went out to a club.
and we had a fight.
what happened?
i was sitting there
waiting for her to come
back out of the bathroom.
yeah.
-this girl starts dancing...
-yeah.
-...like, literally on me.
-right.
and...
you're like,
"this is my old life."
it's my old life, yeah.
and she comes back,
and she turns bright-red,
like she's on fire.
and she got into an altercation
with this girl...
right.
...and was upset with me
'cause she thought
i was dancing with her,
but the whole time,
i was like, "listen,
this is not what happened."
this is a 19-year-old.
right. right.
while you're working,
selling houses, meeting clients,
doing all that,
what's she doing?
you know, she's very limited.
she can't work.
and so, yeah, she feels
like she's in a jail.
do you feel like that she's
gonna feel like that you control
so much of her life
and her ability to have money
and her ability
to go anywhere...
yeah.
...that she'll
resent you for that?
i think it's inevitable
that she'll feel that way.
'cause you wouldn't have wanted
that when you were that age.
yeah.
it's a work in progress.
a 90-day work
in progress, right?
no.
- i mean...
- yeah.
all right, so,
i'm gonna have to run, dude.
jonathan: you know,
it's kind of embarrassing.
i'm enjoying my conversation
with stephen,
and fernanda keeps asking me
when i'm coming home.
i appreciate the chat.
thank you.
yeah, dude.
absolutely, man.
i'm a little upset
that i couldn't have a drink
with a friend for 45 minutes
without my phone blowing up.
i think that's important
in any relationship,
and especially now.
like, this is a lot
of pressure on me,
and so i need someone
to talk to
and i need to be able to know
that i have that privilege.
colt: larissa?
all right, guys.
ready to have dinner?
-yeah.
-yeah.
we have known colt
for a few years,
and they've been
good buddies.
we've seen him in
different relationships.
this one seems different.
all right, kids,
let's go.
we haven't been able to learn
too much about larissa.
like, with what colt has
invested in this relationship,
i'm hoping everything works out.
so, what's the plan
for dinner?
-surprise!
-ooh.
colt: larissa and i talked about
what happened at the barbecue
because i can't handle
larissa's ups and downs.
i want her to be reasonable.
and she says she understands
that if she ever does
something like that again,
we will not get married.
hope you guys are hungry.
-yeah.
-yeah.
angela: can't wait
to see this place.
andrew: yeah.
it's gonna be awesome.
-uh-huh.
-sure.
what are you trying
to tell me, honey bunny?
i've told you many --
i've given you compliments.
i say you look beautiful,
i love your hair,
i say you look great in that
outfit, i say you look --
darling, i love you.
i think you look beautiful.
colt:
let's go eat.
i think larissa's
a fiery, uh, spark.
it's really awkward,
and it's like, "oh, goodness.
what do we do?"
i think both of us
just kind of want
to let things
work themselves out.
can we have a good dinner
without fighting?
well, i'll refer to my list
of compliments
that are approved by you.
i do give you
true compliments.
it is true.
walk in my shoes.
i work all day.
i know. that's the problem.
you don't care.
okay, this is
what colt's doing.
works all day, has to deal with
other problems with his family,
has to worry about a wedding
and all this crap,
and make sure
that you're happy.
when does colt get upset?
when does colt get angry?
what does colt want?
it's always about you.
colt: i can't believe that
larissa is so angry at me.
i don't understand.
i'm tired of your
"blah, blah, blah, blah," too.
why don't you be
a little more patient?
you're mad, you're upset.
this is the type of
i was talking about earlier.
you've thought
too much about this.
you have to realize that.
have you ever thought maybe it's
you? you're bat- crazy?
why don't you be
a little more patient?
you're mad, you're upset.
this is the type of
i was talking about earlier.
you've thought
too much about this.
you have to realize that.
have you ever thought
maybe it's you?
you're bat- crazy?
i can feel the death
in the air, the darkness.
that's the problem.
i cannot win.
even if i did everything
that you wanted,
i would lose.
colt: i feel really embarrassed
right now.
larissa has no right
to start a fight with me
in front of my friends
in public.
why can't we just
save this for later?
okay. can i start over?
no, wait, wait,
wait, wait, wait.
no. let me talk. okay?
i'm sorry
i've not communicated
in such a way
that you find acceptable.
i think you're
very beautiful --
in fact, the most beautiful
woman in the entire world.
and i'm sorry the way
i communicate to you,
like, the compliments
i give you,
you don't understand
or enjoy.
i love everything about you.
i love your lipstick color.
it looks great with your
dark hair and your blue outfit.
i love the jump suit.
i would love to be by your side,
if you'll have me.
will you join me?
i think you look
beautiful, though.
no. i think you look
beautiful, honey.
i love your hair.
you want to stop?
i'm sure my friends love this.
how about we go
have a lovely dinner?
let's do it.
andrea: colt was a little
caught off-guard
about why his future wife
was upset,
and i think
it's ice and fire.
yeah.
all right, and we're gonna head
all the way down to the end.
-ohh.
-this is beautiful.
colt: mm.
larissa and i decided
not to have a reception
at the restaurant,
but i thought it would be a nice
place to take my friends.
but when i see
that it's the same waitress,
i feel nervous because
larissa is very jealous.
i like your glasses.
ah. thank you.
i like yours, too.
my name is sarah.
i'll be taking care of you.
colt: i'm doing my best
to ignore the waitress.
i'm looking down,
looking around,
i'm not making eye contact.
oh, thank you.
did someone escort us out here?
i wasn't even aware.
one thing i do not want
to worry about is you.
i don't want to fear you.
i don't want to be like,
"oh, my god, oh, my god,
what is larissa gonna do?
oh, my god, oh, my god."
uh...
i think you're just fiery.
and, um...
maybe you're at least
a little bit crazy.
i feel you might be
just a little insecure...
-yes.
-...like, about things,
and you need
colt's reassurance,
like, that all the work
that you put in...
-marriage is hard work.
-it is.
i think you just have
different personalities.
eventually you learn
more about each other.
so, you need to be patient,
have some give-and-take,
and not expect immediate
gratification on everything.
marriage is tough,
but you can make it work.
these things usually take time,
and they don't have time.
and...they will
have to be more open,
and they have to work as a team
instead of against each other.
honestly, i agree with you.
i don't give you
enough compliments,
'cause you do
so much work.
and i love you
more than anything.
just trust me more.
a little, tiny bit.
she's crazy,
but i love her so much.
aww.
aww.
at the end of the day,
you do have a good heart.
i love you
more than anything,
and i can't wait to marry you
and call you my wife.
i would love that.
i would love for you
to be my best friend.
highly.
extremely.
huge!
eric:
my daughter tasha moved out
because i kicked her
out of the apartment.
i wish this had gone smoother.
but if i didn't kick her out,
i knew leida would leave.
i love leida,
and she's definitely the one
that i'm gonna spend
the rest of my life with.
so, the wedding's
in a couple of weeks.
we've got the cake ordered.
the flowers are ordered.
we have a photographer reserved.
i'm going to get
my pre-wedding hair cut,
and my dad's gonna come along so
we can spend some time together.
what can i do
for you, man?
well, i need to
clean up the top.
-okay.
-wedding-appropriate.
-sure.
-military, medium-reg.
okay.
eric:
my dad's been in full support
of my relationship with leida
from the beginning,
and i think he just wants
to see me happy.
so, how are the preparations
coming along?
pretty hectic,
pretty crazy.
-yeah, no doubt, eh?
-yeah.
so, how serious
is the situation, really,
between tasha and leida?
i mean, i've heard there's
been a blow-up, you know?
well, i have to
put leida first.
i mean, she'll go
back to indonesia.
mm.
so, frankly, you know,
i have to take her side.
my dad is concerned about
the tasha/leida situation.
um, he obviously wants
everybody to get along.
this is his family, as well.
and he's pretty upset that tasha
may not be at the wedding.
i wasn't so naive to think
that everybody was gonna
come together smoothly,
but i wish this had gone down
a lot smoother.
tasha's an adult, and she needs
to have the repercussions
of her actions and
decisions as an adult.
and that is true.
she is an adult now
and obviously feels that
she can make her own decisions,
but, you know,
you can't really
kick your daughter to the curb,
as it were, you know?
well, as far
as i'm concerned,
this is the tough-love
situation that she needed.
mm.
the situation
between leida and tasha
has put eric kind of between
a rock and a hard place.
i don't envy
his circumstance here.
i mean, i probably
wouldn't kick a child
out of the house
for being a slob.
oh, i think leida's
pressure on eric --
i don't know if it's fair.
you know, you satisfied leida
and her needs.
you know, but are you
putting her
ahead of your family
a little?
your girls?
i don't believe s--
well, perhaps somewhat, yes.
but, again, i think
this needs to happen.
better or worse, it's the --
you know, it's what she needs.
yeah, you have to stand
behind your children.
believe me.
i know.
it's not always easy to
watch some of the decisions
that children make
and bite your tongue.
i think this is the snap
of reality that she needs.
um, i hope...they eventually
accept each other.
uh, family is important.
family should be
number one.
eric:
being a father, to me,
is the most important thing
in the world.
so, to kick tasha out is
absolutely a horrible decision
that somebody has to make.
but we have to make 'em.
you got to make tough choices.
sometimes that tough choice...
doesn't sit well.
you know? it's --
the right choice isn't always
the one that everybody wants.
it's not always the one
that everybody comes out clean.
it's difficult for me to, you
know, watch from the sidelines,
of course, you know?
make your mind up what?
my life is gonna be
tied down forever!
well...
ahh.
jay and i are in vegas, and
we're finally getting married.
i've been engaged twice before,
and it's something i looked
forward to both times,
and it just never happened.
but i know
it's different this time.
we've already overcome a lot
just to get here.
you know how i have
that, like, website
that has all of our
wedding information on it?
someone wrote, like,
a ton of comments.
saying what?
"you're a stupid b*tch.
i hope that you get
left dead in a ditch."
"i'm coming to your wedding.
it's my second calling."
it's referring to
the right to bear firearms.
more towards you.
you know,
we were really excited
for a big wedding surrounded
by family and friends.
that fell through.
that was disappointing
for me and jay, as well.
but we kind of gathered our
thoughts, and we planned vegas,
and now we're here
and we're excited,
and we just want to do this.
ooh!
what?
twenty!
made your mind up what?
did you just say that?
i feel like i need
a drink in the pool.
let's go swim.
ahh.
i wish i could lay like this all
day, but i'm gonna get black.
blacker than
i'm black already.
i think
we have plenty of sex.
how much do you want
to have sex?
-i'm jamaican.
-okay, three times a day.
if you ask any married
or engaged couple out here,
i guarantee they're
gonna be like,
"my wife does not
give it up three times..."
listen, listen, listen.
the thing is like this.
that's them. this is me.
ashley: i've talked to my
friends, and it seems like maybe
my sex drive's a little higher
than some of theirs.
but i'm not so sure i have
the sex drive of a 20-year-old.
in a relationship.
sex is important
in any marriage,
but i also don't think
it's healthy
to go to pound town
three times a day.
we're about to get married,
and i do not want
some young, horny teenager.
i would prefer a man,
not a child.
steven: we are on our way
to the u.s. embassy
to get baby richie
his u.s. citizenship.
it looks like olga's k-1 visa's
gonna be taking longer
than we expected,
but i'm thinking about
bringing my son home with me.
this is a very huge decision,
and i'm thinking about what's
best for us to try to do.
we still need to talk about it.
it's not like he's going
with a stranger.
all right.
on the map, it says
it's literally
right across the street.
so...let's make sure
i have everything.
just triple-triple check.
our photos and his photos.
this is it.
yeah, i don't know.
i'm so nervous. i just --
i don't want to miss it
or be late or anything, okay?
-all right.
-bye.
ohh-ohh-ohh!
steven: he's okay.
well...
i got him
his american passport.
so what that means, um...
well...
i got him
his american passport.
mm-hmm?
he is okay
to stay here, but...
what do you mean?
i'll take
good care of him.
um...
steven: i remember how it was
growing up without a dad,
and i promised to myself
that my son would never grow up
without a dad like i did,
and i'm gonna do everything
that i can to make sure
that i'm a part
of my son's life.
but i know that the thought
of taking richie away
from his mom seems crazy.
he's just so young. i really
don't know what to do yet.
-it'll be okay.
-uh-huh.
-it'll be alright.
-steven.
oh, oh, oh, oh.
yeah, but that's the thing.
that's the point.
i haven't spent time
with the baby.
when he grows up?
yeah.
you think i just want to miss
his childhood, growing up?
-no, steven.
-yeah, you do.
no.
i mean, i want to see my son
grow up when he's younger.
he's not gonna look back
and like,
"why the hell wasn't my dad here
for me growing up?"
kalani: asuelu and i have been
through so much already --
everything with my family
and his struggles with oliver
and now being pregnant again.
woman:
so you wanted almond joy?
-mm-hmm.
-perfect.
i didn't want to have a baby
for another couple of years,
and knowing that asuelu
was so excited
about me being pregnant,
i'm just really confused
right now,
and honestly, the last thing
on my mind right now
is getting married.
kalani: i feel like
we need to talk
about everything
that's been going on.
i feel like we had
a conversation about waiting
to have a baby
and being more careful.
but i feel like in a marriage
and in a relationship,
it's important for both people
to agree on things
and both people
to talk about things.
does that make sense?
i had all of my doubts
with marrying you,
and then
you got me pregnant.
i wasn't really sure,
and now i feel like we have
a lot of new problems now,
but every couple and family
has problems.
and i still am willing to work
through them and get married.
kalani: now that he's had time
to process my feelings
and what i told him,
he does understand
where i'm coming from.
i feel like asuelu came here
to actually take care of our son
and to be with me.
i am feeling better
about the pregnancy now,
but i'm trying
to kind of shift gears
because i am getting married
really fast
and i fee like i need to kind of
focus on that right now.
i love asuelu.
i feel like he is the person
i've wanted to be with
since i've known him,
and i do want to marry him.
i just don't want
to give my family
any other reason
to doubt asuelu,
so i'm not going to tell my
family about being pregnant.
but i told my sister
that i would be
more open with her
and tell her things
when they happen,
and now i feel like
i'm not doing that,
and i'm afraid that
she's just going to react
really badly about it all.
i mean, the kids
are upset right now.
they don't really even care
about coming to the wedding.
if they don't want to come,
then it's good.
well, i mean, like,
it is what it is.
i work 14 hours a day,
and i can't have a drink
for 45 minutes?
...but i would not tolerate
a new person in my life
acting like that
towards my kids, period.
with that being said,
i don't want to, you know,
add to more fighting,
so maybe it would help
if i was able to talk to her
one on one.
hey.
i think a lot of it is just
superficial and drama,
but i'm not sure
she feels that way.
so, i hear a little bit
from eric,
i hear a little bit from tasha
about the fighting,
and, you know, as a mom,
it upsets me.
you know, when the kids
get upset, i get upset,
but i don't want to --
i mean, like, for me,
making a mess like that,
and she doesn't pay the rent,
and she --
she trying to make me
angry with eric,
and she trying to tear us apart,
so i can't do it anymore
because i think i was right,
and everyone knows
that i was right
in this situation.
i mean, like, she said, like,
i don't deserve eric
and i'm the causing
and everything.
"you should go back
to your country."
i was like...
tania:
i understand all families fight.
not everybody
gets along perfectly.
but if she's serious
about wanting to be
a member of the family,
she has to learn to not
fly off the handle sometimes.
she's coming in as an outsider
and pushing people away
and making the family,
you know, come apart, it seems.
this is becoming more
than just two people
having a disagreement.
this is you getting upset,
her getting upset,
which then comes to me getting
upset and eric getting upset.
the sisters getting upset.
i feel a little bit right
now that a lot of the fighting
has been pushing
the family away,
and, you know,
i don't want that,
and i don't think
you want that.
yeah.
regarding the situation between
me and your kids, i'm sorry,
but i come from a long way
to come here,
and then i have to accept things
and the tasha situation.
i am done accepting things
'cause i already accept
every things.
i think it can be worked on.
no, no. not right now.
i mean, the kids are --
the kids are upset right now,
and they don't --
they don't really even care
about coming
to the wedding.
for me, i'm not going to force
them to come and beg them.
"come on.
just be at my wedding."
no.
because i have my pride. sorry.
i know they're family, but if
they want to come, then good.
if they don't want to come,
then it's good.
'cause i kept telling myself the
most important thing in my life
is eric and my son, our family.
that's the most important thing,
you know?
who cares about the others,
you know?
i think everybody is
just too upset right now.
well, i mean, like,
it is what it is.
to be honest, some of us don't
want to show up to the wedding.
yeah.
one of the kids
even told me last night,
"i hope one of them
breaks up with the other one
before this wedding happens
because we don't support it."
he doesn't understand
how much i need him here.
he doesn't understand
that i'm alone.
baby, i'm home!
how are you?
what are you reading?
what about it?
'cause i stayed a little
longer to finish a drink?
you're upset because i got home
i understand.
i left you here alone.
i understand that.
i told you i'm gonna
finish my drink, and
i was gonna come home.
'cause i needed --
i needed time.
the other night, you were
on the phone for six hours
with your friends.
jonathan: i just think
it's really unfair.
i've come home where fernanda
has been on the phone
with her friends for hours,
which is absolutely crazy.
how many times have i left
the house to have a drink?
once.
two times
in how many days?
you haven't had
the opportunity to --
but you're gonna have that
opportunity, fernanda.
you've only given it
a short amount of time.
you got upset over --
i haven't left the house.
fernanda, anything you want,
i give to you.
you called me five times
in ten minutes.
fernanda, i can't come --
i can't run --
i don't want
a relationship where --
i'm breaking my back
to try to provide for my --
lay the foundation
for my family,
and nothing's good enough.
and i'm pissed that she makes it
seem like i'm the bad guy
when i'm trying so hard
to make her happy.
i need a life partner,
not someone just to criticize me
all the time.
the first time i go to have
a drink, you get upset.
i'm gone no more
than 45 minutes,
and the house
is a hurricane.
a storm comes through.
it's the fernanda storm.
and everything ends,
and everything shuts down.
i work 14 hours a day,
and i can't have a drink
for 45 minutes?
i'm very sorry.
there have been moments
where i've really questioned
if fernanda is ready
to get married.
there's a level of understanding
of the sacrifices
that each side is making
in order to make this work.
fernanda, stop.
fernanda, please stop.
please, stop.
listen to me.
come here.
come here.
please, stop.
but -- what do you mean?
what do you mean? tell me.
i told you --
but you act like
i wasn't at home
at 3:00 in the morning.
you knew where i was.
i told you where i was.
it's not like i was out until
having a raging party.
you don't want what?
you're serious?
jonathan:
you don't want what?
you're serious?
the sacrifices that i make
for you don't matter?
obviously -- obviously,
for me, you know.
always, always
i say thank you.
putting you through college
doesn't matter?
putting you through
school doesn't matter?
-putting you through --
-oh, my gosh.
you know what?
thank you. thank you.
sorry.
just leave me alone.
jonathan: so if i leave you
alone, i go sit down,
you say i don't care.
i stay here,
you don't want me in your face.
i don't know
what you want me to do.
since the beginning,
i've given fernanda
everything she's ever wanted,
you know,
and i can't go out to have
a drink with my friends
for 45 minutes?
i've sacrificed
so much for this.
i've given everything
that i have.
if fernanda wants to end
the 90 days early, that's crazy.
like, where do i go
from here?
okay, okay, okay. tell me
what do you want about me.
waiting the house,
cleaning the house,
waiting for you when you go
to the bar with your friends?
let me see
what you want from me.
a laundry list
of things on amazon,
a new car that's sitting
in the driveway,
pay for your college,
pay for your apartment,
pay for your boobs.
what else
do you want me to do?
i'm sorry.
i don't have the money you have
for give you things like that.
fernanda, it's not
about the money.
but i need you
to understand --
i give you my time.
i give you mine.
i left my family.
you've waited two months.
you've waited two months.
when i was here, you went out
with your friends every weekend.
you wouldn't call me
when you got home.
you'd stay out till 4:00
or 5:00 in the morning.
did i ever get this upset
with you?
did i ever say, "come home now.
why aren't you home"?
never once.
i never treated you
that way, fernanda.
i'm sorry, jon.
there'd be times you
didn't answer the phone.
i'm so bad. i'm sorry.
but i'm so bad
because i had a drink
with a friend
for 45 minutes.
that's what you don't
understand, fernanda.
next time on "90 day fiancé"...
steven: i have a secret that
i've been keeping from olga,
and i'm worried about how she's
gonna react when i tell her.
the real elephant in the room
is larissa and you.
she said some
horrible things to me,
and i don't know
that i can forgive her.
larissa and i have had our
differences. she's a b*tch.
i'm sorry it had to happen,
all right?
well, you don't seem
too sorry about it.
it's hard for me to accept
the fact that he's sorry
when he was the one
that booted me to the street.
i really wanted
you guys to be there.
it's really important.
she doesn't deserve to be
in this country anyways.
get the out.
i'm sorry.
i have been keeping
something from you.
oh, . i don't
even know how to say it.
i just want to know why,
a week after you got married,
did you find it necessary.
everything that
i have done for him,
and this is how he treats me?
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