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" I feel like he's like, if you don't
change, maybe I won't show up.
I feel like he's a little scared.
I mean, I get scared thinking
about if I had to marry myself.
I want to feel 100% confident
going into my wedding day
that he loves all of me the
same way that I love him.
So is he showing up on Friday?
If the lawyer comes back with a print-up
and he puts in the little notes concerning
having children, are you going to sign it?
Should I sign it?
I gave up so much to come here,
but I'm prepared to walk away.
I was worried, Mohammed, because
I thought you didn't like us anymore.
Yeah, that's right.
I have done a lot to make
compromises, but if Mohammed can
compromise for me, that makes
me question getting married.
We talked about a deadline of how
long you guys would stay with us.
They're kicking us out,
is what you're saying.
You're 28 years old.
You're an adult.
My parents are on some bullshit.
They're not supportive.
It's not what I expected.
All right, this conversation's over.
It's like a big Afghan community in Ohio.
We don't have any of that.
Kobe needs to step up and
start controlling like the man.
Kobe has the financing.
You are getting married to an African, not
an American, meaning you belong to him.
Amor.
Si.
It's about to be the time where
you don't see me until the wedding.
Que raro, no?
Are you getting comfy?
No.
Finally, today is the day
of my wedding, and wow.
I mean, after so many emotions
and so many things happening
and just yesterday, I'm
feeling ready and feeling happy.
It's going to be beautiful.
No, don't cry.
Oh my god.
No, I'm going to go start getting ready.
OK.
I love you so much.
Love you.
Love you.
Love you.
See you in a little bit.
Today is the wedding day, the big day,
the day we've been waiting
for, the momentous occasion.
I'm feeling jittery, butterflies,
octopus in my stomach.
Oh my gosh, these sit so beautifully.
We've been through so much since he's
been here for the past 90
days, and now we're here.
And it's like finally, but
also it went by so fast.
I wish I could just pause time
for a moment and just take it in.
But yeah, I'm excited to get it going.
I know that we have problems.
Like, she likes to control
me a lot, go out and drink.
And I know that 90 days is not enough
time to go through those problems.
But I'm going to be better for
Kara, and Kara will be better for me.
So I know that in the future, we're going
to make a beautiful relationship together.
Hello.
Hi, mama.
How are you?
I am getting sh*t done.
Oh.
Just be careful with my hair.
Oh, it's beautiful.
Hi, welcome.
Are you nervous?
It comes in waves, I think.
Knock, knock.
Hello.
Oh, hi.
Hello.
Welcome in.
How are you?
You look gorgeous.
You look so pretty.
Hi, welcome.
Spray my head.
I can't believe I was able to pull
this wedding off in three weeks.
The venue space that
we are getting married in
is a German beer hall with
a vent space in the back.
So it's not exactly what I had imagined,
but to get something so
large like a wedding done
in such a short amount of time, I
just never thought it could happen.
I definitely need some champagne
before I go, get the buzz on a little bit.
I can't go to my wedding completely sober.
That would be wrong.
Should we go downstairs and
then-- And then have champagne?
Yeah.
OK.
I feel really good now about the fact
that I've been able to kind of
expand on the original wedding
idea of just getting
married at the courthouse
and make it a little bit
bigger like he really wanted.
And especially just
having it all come into focus
with the passing of his brother
and how important family is to him.
And he has no one here.
And I feel like it was an
important thing to budge on
because he deserves to have
what he wants to in his wedding.
I think it's time to get dressed.
So you guys go down because
I'm going to do like a reveal.
Mom can help me stay and get in it.
OK.
Perfect.
I got it.
OK.
We'll see you around.
All right.
See you in a bit.
Getting ready by myself makes me
think I wish my family could be here.
I would love if my brothers
could be with me right now
because I always talk to
my brother, Jose Joaquin.
And I was always saying
like, man, whenever I get
married, you will have
to be right next to me.
It was like, yeah, I want
my brother to hold my hand.
Chiqui, so how do I look?
I'm ready to get married.
But life is how it is.
So I'm trying to be positive.
I know that my family support me.
And my family will watch the wedding.
And I just believe that everything
is going to be OK in the future.
Let's go.
We got to go.
Does that feel right?
Yeah.
As I was helping Kara put her dress on,
I just had flashbacks of her whole life,
from when she was born
to five to 10 teenage years.
And then here we are, 29.
She's getting married.
It's just emotional for me.
Kara, you look gorgeous.
Thank you.
Love you.
I love you too.
She's beautiful.
Everything is just
coming together perfectly.
All right, coming.
Please be careful.
I'm in front of her, just in case.
Hi.
Oh.
Oh, my god.
Baby.
Look at.
Yes.
Kara.
Honey.
Oh, I feel like a movie star.
I feel so beautiful.
My hair looks amazing.
The dress is fitting.
There's, you know, the lipsticks on.
I feel great.
Cheers.
Yeah, get married.
Woo.
OK.
We'll bring these in the car.
You guys settle up.
Love you.
Love you.
I'll see you there, OK?
Oh, god.
Here we go.
Do you want to finish that?
Mine as well.
Last sip, single.
Last sip, single?
No, I'm just kidding.
All right.
I don't have any doubts walking into this.
I just go for things full force.
I have been ready, and I'm
just ready to make it happen.
You stuck with it a year and
a half through a pandemic.
Long distance, trapped in two countries.
Got him through the border
with an expired passport.
Like, this is the easy part compared to
what we've had to go through to get here.
Guillermo and I have been
through so much during this 90 days.
We've crossed so many hurdles
and got through so many things
that I just feel like every step of
the way has been totally worth it.
And this is the first time in my life
that I feel like anyone's ever
been worth that much energy.
What's up, man?
Get this building up.
This is special, you know?
Nervous?
A little bit.
A lot.
Gonna be a beautiful day.
Thank you.
Thank you so much.
I don't want Guillermo to see me, though.
I'm really happy my family can have
the opportunity to see the whole wedding.
And I had the idea to put flowers in the
wedding for my brother, who passed away,
and have a special place because I
want-- I want to feel that he's there.
Can you fluff my veil out so it,
like, lays over my shoulders nicely?
You know what I mean?
Don't look in that way, OK?
Is she coming?
Not yet.
She will be.
Being in the altar, I think, is one of the
craziest adrenaline I ever had in my life.
My hands right now are so sweaty.
My heart is going so hard.
And it's something that I cannot
control it, and I cannot even let it out.
It's not that I'm, like,
going down a river.
It's not that I'm having a
huge kayak that I can't stop it.
No, this is not stopping.
I'm getting married.
Ooh.
You're tired?
Yeah.
Because you and temperature
were hanging out all night?
Who you're food for
down, you understand, huh?
No.
Hey, what are you talking about?
English in the car.
We just had lunch with
Kobi's friend, Temperature,
who came to visit from
Ohio for the wedding.
And honestly, things got a little heated.
He was talking to Kobi about,
like, oh, well, you're in control.
You're the man.
You know, we're from Cameron.
We take charge.
You follow our lead.
Now it makes me question, like,
is this how Kobi feels about me?
All right.
Welcome to Kobi's new home.
But of course, I want
to invite his friend
back home and show
him where Kobi is living.
I think it just means a lot
to Kobi to have him there.
So I don't want any, you know,
bad blood before the wedding.
English, please.
Yeah, so-- Kobi comes
down here all the time.
This is his little kingdom.
Yeah, this is-- let's go, man.
Let me show you around.
Yes, Tempe.
So it's where the magic happens.
You like it?
Do you like the house?
Mm-hmm.
It's not easy to, like, live
where you don't have people
to, like, communicate
or, like, hang around with.
So I think relocating to
Columbus would be a good idea.
We are talking about millions
of Cameroonians, Africans.
Columbus?
We're not moving to Columbus.
I am totally taking it back.
Like, he's stepping out of line.
He's not in this relationship.
He's not marrying the guy.
He doesn't have a kid on the way.
So he doesn't need to sit
here putting his two cents
in to my fiance about moving to
Ohio and being pretty intense about it.
We have a lot going on right now.
So we need to just stay close to
family until, you know, a couple years.
It's like I'm just--
you're making decisions.
Have you discussed that with Kobe already?
Oh, you're just telling Kobe
what you're going to do.
That does not sound right.
Before coming to America, I didn't really
think I was going to miss, you know,
like, my community, my circle, you know.
But temperature has said a lot of
things that made me to think a lot.
That's why I'm here.
That made me to think a lot.
That could, you know, possibly
change our future together, me and Emily.
We need to talk about that again, babe.
What do you think?
I'm just saying hypothetically, we'll
probably stay here for two years.
OK, so what?
Do you want to get
your green card and your
work permit and then
just move to Columbus?
Is that what you want?
Is that what you want?
Did I say that?
But I'm asking you.
Man.
I'm just so tired of fighting all the time.
Uh-huh.
OK, wait, stop.
You told him?
Why would you f*cking do that?
Because you weren't
supposed to tell me, buddy.
Kobe, you weren't supposed to tell me that.
That's so messed up.
That's OK.
Kobe?
Man.
I was very clear with Kobe that no
one should know about the pregnancy.
Like, him telling temperature,
it's making me really uneasy
because that's a huge
violation of our trust.
And it's hard to marry somebody
that I can't even trust them.
So we're here, man.
Thank you so much for showing up.
OK.
Let me-- let me walk you out.
OK.
Oh, my goodness.
Take care, Masa.
Yeah.
Take care.
We are, like, days away from the wedding.
And right now, we are at odds.
Preenup is still on the side in.
So it's not been easy for me.
I'm looking for some advice.
Hey, yes, oh, my god.
Oh, alaikum wassalam.
How you doing, sweetie?
I'm good.
Good, good, good, good.
Good to see you.
I'm so happy you were able to come over.
Yeah.
I have received a call
from Bilal, you know,
saying that Shida wanted
to have a sit down and talk.
I think she's probably feeling some anxieties,
some uncertainty, a lack of security,
feeling like she's walking
on maybe not solid ground.
So what's going on?
Been so busy planning this wedding.
Yeah.
How have things been with you
and Bilal as-- It's been a roller coaster.
You know, it's been a roller coaster.
We have our ups.
We have our down moments.
And I just-- I just wish we
could come to a place where we--
that we are more at peace.
You have a lot of experience
when it comes to marriage.
You was married to
Bilal, God, for a lifetime.
And I know there's no such
thing as a perfect marriage,
but you guys have spent
so much time together.
Right.
And I was like, you know what?
I want to be married for a very long time.
Well, I think you're on the right path when
you realize that marriage is not perfect.
It's two imperfect human beings holding
on to each other and not letting go.
That type of relationship, I know it's
something that doesn't come overnight,
like, you know, relationship
you and your husband had.
And that's the type of relationship,
like, it's always been my
ideal relationship as well.
You know, Bilal do have those qualities.
But at the same time, I feel
like part of that, you know,
that business persona that he has
is, you know, it's in our relationship.
Because I am from the old school, you
know, when you're married, you're married.
You don't really, like--
you don't protect yourself
because you don't look as
your partner like a suspect.
I'm assuming, and I shouldn't assume.
But are we talking about this prenup?
Yes, we're talking about the prenup.
OK.
You're feeling that a prenup
is saying, you don't trust me?
Yeah, absolutely.
OK.
When you come into an agreement,
Allah teaches us to put it in writing.
True, true.
So it's not necessarily like a trust.
Yeah.
But when it comes to trust,
what does trust really mean?
It means different
things to different people.
Some people will say, I will trust you
until you show me that I can't trust you.
Some people will say, you have
to show me before I can trust you.
Neither way is right or wrong.
It's just how that person feels.
With Balau, it took him a very long time
to open up his heart
because he had been hurt.
So he has opened up
his heart to let you in.
And by that, some of the fears of leaving.
So these are triggers.
Allah has put the male
as the head of the family.
And he leads, and we follow.
But there is ways that
we can lead from behind.
But you always leave him with his manhood.
The male is sometimes maybe not as tactful.
But when you are in that
leadership position, it's not a dictator.
So I have tried to teach all of my
sons to be strong, but yet tender.
But the back and forth, going back and forth,
if it gets to that, there's no winners.
We have to learn that being right
is not the most important thing.
And will it matter five years from now?
Balau wants peace and comfort.
If you know you have
a good man, figure out
how to make it work
and bring in the peace.
OK.
I felt like everything
you were saying is like,
I am doing the opposite
of what I should do.
When it comes to trying to be
right, some things I need to let go.
And that's what-- It's OK.
It's OK.
It just shows how much you really care.
And it's OK.
I know he thinks the world of you.
I know that.
He's told me that many times.
But to a certain extent,
he's still guarded.
But I don't feel that he is as
guarded as he was two years ago.
And each day, your love will grow.
His love will grow.
Balau's mom is explaining to
me that her son was hurt badly.
And it took him a while to
open back up his heart to others.
I'm getting super emotional
because I know that him
and I, we have not been
having the right conversations.
We have been bickering and fighting.
I feel as if the possibility of his
heart closing in is huge right now.
And it would absolutely pain me to know
that I am the demise of my relationship.
And I don't want to be the
demise of my relationship.
It hit me like--
What else you got?
All is well.
All is good.
Thank you so much.
I think this conversation
was-- Welcome to Lina.
Yeah, I love you.
I love you too.
I'm almost done.
How about you?
Yeah, I'm almost done too.
Because everywhere we're
going has different temperatures.
Yeah, it's really cool.
Thais and I only have a week
till our wedding, and there's
a lot of tension since we
spoke with Thais' father.
Her and her dad are really close.
The call with Thais' dad
was my worst case scenario.
Knowing that he doesn't like me, I feel
like I'm starting off with a huge deficit,
and he just doesn't want us to get married,
and he wants her to go back to Brazil.
Now I'm just in survival mode.
She could just one night
pack her bags, and she's gone.
She's definitely a flight risk.
Be a good dog for John.
No back talk.
Aw.
All right.
Ready for this trip.
Just look at the Boston.
OK.
Wow.
So cold outside.
Oh my god.
OK, what's up?
This here already looks beautiful.
OK.
Are you excited to meet my sister?
Yes.
And your mom, too.
I wanted to bring Thaís
to Massachusetts for
the wedding because
this is where I was born,
and my mom and older
sister Tiffany still live here.
And we're on the way to
my sister's house right now.
We live really far in the middle of
Massachusetts, so it's about an hour away.
So-- Tiffany's my older sister.
We aren't too close, but as of late, the
family's kind of getting closer together.
And it is a big reason why I
decided that we should get
married in Orlando because
my little brother and my sister
are planning a vacation there, and
everyone's going to be able to be there.
So it means a lot to me.
I think so.
My mom, I mean, really
just depends on the day.
You know, she has cancer.
So some days she's
good, some days she's bad.
So-- No.
That's not good.
Yeah.
So it just depends, but she's excited.
I've been really open to Thaís
about my relationship with my mom.
And right before the pandemic, we found
out that she had some type of lung cancer.
According to the doctors,
she has less than a year to live.
It's been hard accepting
that because there's
been years where I
didn't talk to my mother,
and I'm happy that we've been
able to rebuild our relationship.
We've talked about a lot of our issues.
We've forgiven each other, and I
know she can't travel to Orlando.
So I think she's really going
to be happy to meet Thaís.
Hey.
Hi.
Hey.
Hi.
Hi.
Good to see you.
Welcome.
Welcome to the snow.
Hi.
Nice to finally-- Hi.
How are you?
Good.
Let me see you.
Hi.
Nice to meet you, too.
You're so beautiful.
So good to see you.
I'm so glad to finally meet you.
Thank you.
Hi.
Hi.
So Thaís, how do you like America?
Is it different than you were thinking?
Uh-huh.
Very different.
In what way?
Yeah.
Here.
It's cold.
It's really cold.
It's really cold.
Yeah, we had snow in Dallas.
It was very important
to me to have me and my
family meet Thaís
before the actual wedding.
Means a lot.
I'm not an M&A fighter.
I was on the ice, fell, hit my face.
But it looks a lot better now.
So you're all excited about the wedding?
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yes.
We got to-- I wish I could go.
Yeah.
No, it would be nice to have you there.
That's a hard trip for you.
This cancer's really starting
to knock me for a loop.
Yeah.
Just a lot lately.
I think we're going to try to, like,
FaceTime the wedding or send--
yeah, I guess we could FaceTime, right?
Yeah, FaceTime the wedding.
Yeah, Tiffany and John will be there.
They'll probably watch
it on, like, your phone.
Oh, yeah, that would be nice.
Is your family happy that
you're getting married?
Yes, uh-huh.
Yeah.
Uh-huh.
Not really.
So how do they feel about it?
I don't really know, to be honest.
I'm just-- Just
because of my dad.
Yeah, her dad.
Because everyone likes you.
Her dad's the tough one.
I like you.
So her dad's the tough one.
Her dad thinks she
should go back to Brazil.
Ah.
Oh, really?
Mm-hmm.
Yeah, he doesn't like the Patrick.
He's American.
He wants me to find,
like, someone in my city.
So I will live so far.
But it didn't work that way.
Yeah.
You love each other, and it doesn't
matter where on the earth you live.
Uh-huh, I know.
Your heart goes where it goes.
Uh-huh.
I don't know.
You understand, like, your mom?
Understand?
Yeah.
She wishes her dad
understood, like you understand.
Yeah.
Mm-hmm.
We'll figure it out.
Yes.
You'll be OK.
Uh-huh.
Yeah.
It's hard to introduce my mom to Thais,
knowing that we might not have the
happy ending that she wants for us.
Thais and I only have
a week till our wedding,
and Thais isn't sure
about getting married.
I just never imagined our
relationship going this way.
You want Grammy?
Yeah.
Ooh.
No.
We have been dealing with so many arguments
about the culture
differences the last few weeks.
And between her
inappropriate friends fighting
about the wedding day and
her strange fire ceremony,
that makes me nervous that
maybe it's not going to work out.
I feel like I need to talk to my family
to get me through this,
because they care about me
and my happiness to
be comfortable in my life.
I have a very strong
relationship with my mom,
but I usually pretend that everything
is OK so she doesn't worry about me.
So I haven't reached out to my mom too
much since I arrived to the United States.
About what my mom said,
she's completely in each side.
And I didn't expect that.
I don't agree with my mom.
But what she says to me, it matters.
She has experience, and
I believe in her experience.
I am a Muslim man.
I'm not going to change.
But I'm afraid if I don't
accept Eve for who
she is, she's not going
to be happy with me.
But what about my happiness
to be comfortable in my life?
And so right now, I don't know what to do.
OK.
Ma'a salam.
Bye bye.
Bye bye.
Come on, girl.
OK.
Make sure the dogs don't get out.
Make sure the dogs don't get out.
Yes.
Good girl.
God damn it.
It took us about a week after talking
to my parents to figure everything out.
It's been really difficult
with my mother and I.
We've kind of just been avoiding each other
since we had that awkward conversation.
So today is moving day.
We're heading to Joshua
Tree, where we are staying at a
rental home, which will also
serve as our wedding venue.
We don't have much time left.
We're at the tail end of the days left.
So we need to drive to Joshua Tree,
and that's going to take us at least a day.
Did you got your roller blades?
Yeah, I think they're in the box.
We're going to need those
in California, I'm telling you.
Jibri and I are finally moving out.
I'm really happy.
We are going to be on our own.
Let me get that bag, and then I
need-- you got your laptop, too?
Yeah.
We are finally starting to live
like a normal couple should.
I definitely think distance between
Jibri's family and us, it's a good thing.
We are finally feeling free for
the first time since I came here.
I'm definitely counting
down days until the wedding.
It's exciting.
Just say goodbye to my
parents real quick before we go.
OK.
Is that cool?
Yeah.
OK.
Let me get-- let's get
the rest of the stuff.
Let's just-- Let's just
put them back there.
Yeah, I'll put the suitcases.
I'll put the last two
suitcases right there.
And then make sure you got your passport.
OK.
OK?
All right.
It's always hard for me to say goodbye to
my mom, because tomorrow's not promised.
I'm a mama's boy, man.
I love my mom, you know?
It's hard.
And I think that
sometimes there is love lost
when you're marrying a significant
other that your parent doesn't approve of.
Big old lips.
But at the end of the day,
I'm not marrying my parents.
I'm marrying Miona.
But I'm still hoping that
my parents are going
to pop up and surprise
me at the wedding.
All right.
All right, drive safe.
All right, I love you, Dad.
Love you.
Thank you for having us, guys.
Thank you, guys, for everything.
Yeah.
Yeah.
See you again soon.
Be good.
Love you, Miona.
Drive safe.
Don't be-- don't be worried about me.
Love you.
There are certain milestones in a person's
life that are-- that are important.
And I think sort of rushing to the ceremony
or rushing to this thing
in Joshua Tree really--
I think you lose some of that connection
and some of that relationship and
some of that-- I mean, even trust.
Mom, I'm going to make it.
Next year, you're going
to be so proud of me.
I promise you.
Send me some money.
Send me some money.
I love you guys.
Love you.
Thank you guys for everything.
All right.
Bye.
OK.
Bye.
Jebre can be impulsive
in some of his decisions.
And when we act impulsively,
there's consequences.
All right, here.
Us not being able to go to his wedding
is a really painful
consequence of impulsiveness.
Bye.
Bye.
I love you.
Bye, mama.
We want our son to be happy.
We want Miona to be happy.
We want to be a part of this
really important day for them.
And we can't.
I mean, I think he wanted us there.
I'm feeling a certain
sadness, certainly some
anxiety and nervousness
around them driving off,
not feeling comfortable
that the relationship is strong
and where it needs to be
for such a big commitment.
I feel nervous about them starting out.
Yeah, nervous for them.
Yeah.
Vicky.
Love you guys.
Hi.
Hey, what are you doing?
Oh my gosh, picking up all of Coban's toys.
He has so many toys.
Oh my gosh, so many.
Well, do you want to take a break?
Yeah, let's take a break.
So what's up?
Not much.
How are you?
Fine.
Stressed with wedding stuff.
I was like woke up this morning.
I'm like, we have a lot to do.
And yeah, the weekend we
were going to use, planning the
rest of the wedding stuff,
he hung out with temperature.
Oh my gosh, temperature.
Temperature.
Like, he came in hot.
Talk about bringing the heat.
Oh, I know.
He did.
That guy was going off.
I'm like, what are you talking about?
Because Goby does
not-- Straight misogyny.
Yeah, he does not act like he wears
the pants in this relationship at all.
No.
No.
Temperature is like, you
better wear the pants, buddy.
That's what I got out of it.
I'm like, you better chill out.
The pants don't fit him.
I mean, he's nice, but like, shut up.
You don't even know how American women are.
You've never dated one, apparently.
You think he's like really influencing
Goby, though, since he saw him?
Yes.
It's definitely bothering
me that temperature
might influence Goby,
because it's really important
that Goby and I are
on the same page about
our life and where we
want our future to go.
Well, now all of a sudden, we're
moving to Ohio, which we're not.
Has he ever brought that up before?
Mm.
He brought up that he
would like to visit Ohio,
but then temperature is
like, oh, I moved from Africa
and went straight to
Ohio, and I'm doing so
well, and there's a
big African community,
so you should just come
here now with your family.
He's crazy.
Oh my god.
I feel like Goby was probably venting
about me a little bit, like I am about him.
But temperature is like, whoa,
dude, this American chick has no idea.
So then it's like, what,
Goby's going to get married,
and then all of a sudden,
like, wear the pants?
You know?
He's not like that.
As far as we know.
I mean-- Lord, who knows what
happens after we sign those papers.
After the lunch with temperature,
it just kind of bubbled up
some concerns with, like,
who is Goby and what are
his feelings about marriage
and what role does
Emily play in his future.
And with that, I think it's
kind of-- it was eye-opening to
talk to temperature and hear even
Goby speak up and defend him.
To some extent, on some
of these misogynistic claims.
So yeah, I'm definitely,
like, nervous for her.
Temperature came and put
all these ideas in his head.
Oh, yeah.
He was stirring the pot.
Things could change.
And what if he gets his green card and
he's like, oh, now I'm really in charge?
Yeah.
Oh my god.
It's annoying.
I'm going to go.
I'll hang out.
OK.
All right, just call me when you're done.
Mm-hmm.
Ciao.
Good luck.
Yay!
Dress shopping.
I can't wait.
How are you?
Good.
You ready?
Yes.
This place is beautiful.
I'm so excited.
Come sit over here.
Get comfy.
I'm going to grab this chair.
Bride won't be sitting for long.
So first, congratulations.
You're getting married.
When is the big day?
Next Thursday, 22, 22.
Next Thursday?
Tuesday.
Yeah, Tuesday.
Tuesday?
Yeah.
Couple days.
OK.
Usually I see brides like a
year before their wedding.
That's why I am a little off put.
Oh, we do.
My seamstress is downstairs.
So we are going to find you a dress right
now and get you tailored and out the door.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I can do that for you.
So what did you always dream
of wearing on your wedding day?
Mm-hmm.
I'm going to go and start
pulling dresses from you.
First of all, do you guys
want water or champagne?
Um, champagne.
Champagne, yeah.
We don't have that.
Oh, no?
No.
No?
No, champagne when you look dressed.
No.
Well, we're in a big house.
Yes.
Yes.
I'm so excited to be here today.
I think it will give me and
Thayi some good quality time
to get to know each other and
see what her true intentions are.
Congratulations.
Cheers.
Cheers.
Yeah.
If Patrick's last divorce
really set him back in life,
then I don't want him to
go through with that again.
My biggest fear is actually a baby
being involved in her
taking that child back to Brazil
because I still need to
make sure that she is right for
Patrick and make sure that
she does really love my brother.
How are you feeling?
Is it becoming more real?
Uh-huh, more real.
Yeah.
Exactly.
So as the big sister, I need
to ask you some questions.
OK.
What do you love about my brother?
Why do you want to be with him?
Uh-huh.
Patrick has a big heart.
Yeah, I love him.
Yeah, that's why I'm here.
You are taking a risk by
coming to the United States.
He's also taking a risk.
And I just want to make sure that
you're both aware of that, you know?
Yeah.
All relationships will have problems.
It's difficult to explain.
Oh, my gosh.
In Brazil, he was very different.
Here, he changed.
I just don't want him going through
the heartache and the divorce again.
No, I don't want to get
married and get a divorce.
It's horrible.
Are you ready?
Yes.
Let's go.
We'll be back.
All right.
Come on over here.
Second, do it on the right.
Dress number one.
Look at that.
It's beautiful.
What do you think?
How do you feel?
I think you need to try, like, more simple.
Ooh.
OK, Thais.
Thais.
This is kind of what I feel.
Wow.
Look at the fit on this.
It's like it was made for you.
Yeah.
OK.
Do you love this dress?
Yes.
Can you see yourself
getting married in this dress?
Yes.
I love it.
Sweetheart, I think you're
going to hurt yourself.
That right there needs
to be thawed, pumpkin.
I'm just going to soak it in this water.
Because-- This bowl
is a little too small.
Like, I don't know.
Yeah.
Put it in the sink.
Because that's frozen solid.
Yeah, you must have just
took that out the freezer.
I started cooking late because your
mom was here and I was entertaining her.
Oh, how did that go?
I don't know.
I got all emotional.
And Terry and your mom probably
wonder, what is happening with her?
You know, I think she
was speaking to my soul.
Like, she had where it hurts.
And it's like the things that
she said, someone had to say it.
Sounds like you got some words of wisdom.
You know, like, what you said today is like,
you have to know when to be submissive.
You have to know when to express yourself.
I want to have a relationship where I know
when to submit to you and
be submissive rather than,
like, everything you say,
I don't have to fire back.
And I think it's vice versa.
Everything I say, you
don't have to fire back.
I feel like I've been so strong-minded.
And sometimes I blame that on,
you know, being single for so long,
not really having to
compromise or share anything.
So now I'm agreeing for a prenup.
Because I feel like we
have been back and forth
and this has caused so
much friction in our relationship.
So I'm willing to submit.
I think before I was feeling, figuratively
speaking, I was feeling so naked.
Like, I needed something.
What I'm just trying
to look for is security.
Thinking about what I look
for in a potential spouse,
I really necessarily
wouldn't say, like, submit,
you know, because, you
know, we submit to God.
But I would say just,
it was just refreshing
that she came to a point that said,
you know, like, I'm willing to be open.
I think that's how you
have a beautiful marriage,
be able to listen and
communicate effectively.
I 100% see where you're coming from.
Yeah.
All I'm trying to do is just also let
you see where I'm coming from.
And by no means is not
a way to say, you know,
like, I won't take care
of you, you know?
Like, I mean, I'm proving that.
I continue to do that, you know?
It's just a way to say,
you know what, let me,
can I protect myself as well
to protect what I do have?
I'm all about whatever you want to do for,
whether it's yoga stuff,
to willing to invest in you
when it comes to financially,
time-wise and all that stuff,
to get your business
booming here in the States.
We don't even have to have that in pre-nup.
We can put it in there for sure.
It seems like I'm taking the advice
Billal Mother gave me when she was like,
you know, sometimes they'll allow the
man to lead and you lead from behind.
Just by me saying I
will sign no matter what
and not demanding
what I want to put in the
pre-nup, Billal offered
to put it in anyway.
And in my mind, I look at it as, you
know, him being the head and I'm the neck.
So allow him to lead.
There's still going to be a way
that I'm going to be in control.
I just want something that belongs to me.
And that's all I was
basically trying to say.
And I feel like, I feel like I
didn't know how to say it.
I understand. I understand.
I want to add something else.
I would like to have a child before 40.
There are some people,
they can try to have children
and they may take time
for them to have children.
We'll not hold you account
when it comes to that.
That is like beyond our control.
But I just want you to have that
same like, eagerness to have a child.
Yeah, I guess so.
I guess so.
That's a new one. I've never seen that one.
I need an answer.
I don't want to... We are days
away from getting married, Billal.
Yeah.
Guess so is not an answer.
It's either yes or no.
That you want to have a
child before you turn 40.
Yeah.
But it's just like we are on the same
page when it comes to having children.
And I would like to see it in
writing as well, if that's okay.
I can agree to that.
Yeah.
The fact that Shaira is
willing to sign this agreement,
even though she necessarily didn't want
to, I mean, she's willing to compromise.
And I'm definitely willing
to compromise as well.
So whatever she wants to put in there,
I'm 100% into putting
that in there as well, too.
I don't think right now
at this very moment
would be the best
decision to have a child.
I just have concerns of
having children too early
because with her coming to
the country and so much other
different things, I feel like
it can be too much on us.
But I'm willing to do whatever
it takes to not lose her.
Shake hands on that.
Okay. Is it pink?
You guys don't do pinky swear?
All five fingers.
All five fingers.
We're like business. This is business.
Okay.
I'm thinking like an American.
Oh, so pretty.
Welcome.
How are you?
Come with me, folks.
We'll take you to your table.
All right. Thank you very much.
After I speak to my mom,
I am thinking about her
advice to be more open,
to understand Eve's culture.
But that's not easy for me.
Is this dessert?
Dessert? No, this is wine.
I'm not getting wine, though.
I'm just looking.
Last few weeks have been very tense.
I just feel like everything
lately that I've been doing
is like wrong or not, you
know, to his approval, like
the fire ceremony, which
is a huge part of who I am.
And it makes me question whether
we should proceed with getting married,
when we don't have that
much time to figure it out.
So I just would like for the future things
happen that are as intense as they've been
that we can work through them in a more
easy way or... Yeah, of course. Open way.
You know, we're learning no one is
perfect, and if we learn our lessons,
we will never have that again, so...
Yeah. OK, like you always have my back.
Like, being 7,000-plus miles away
from me, you always supported me.
Like, I want to feel that way again.
And now you don't feel it anymore?
I kind of was not feeling that, like...
lately.
Do you think that... you're
OK with handling, like, me?
Do you think we're too
different, being that we're
so different, like,
religious-wise, culturally-wise?
I mean, I think that we
had some sense, obviously,
knowing what I was
doing on a daily basis,
but you're, like, living it
with me now, like, for real.
In the United States,
everyone is different,
so it doesn't matter if everyone
breathes the religion we want.
I understand that.
My mum advised, helped
me to open my eyes that
in marriage, it's
important to compromise.
I lived my entire life in Egypt,
and it's very hard for anybody
to just switch to another culture.
That takes time.
But I love Eve so much,
and if we don't find a
middle ground about
culture, there is no more days.
It will be done.
Let's forget about what happened,
and then we can start over.
I just want to know that we
can get through things together
in the best way possible,
because life is stressful enough.
I'm a little taken aback
because, for the first time,
Mohammed is being very
objective about our differences.
Maybe Mohammed is trying to
be a little more understanding,
but it's hard because I
still feel very guarded.
There is a very beautiful view here.
I want to show you.
OK.
Let's go for it.
OK.
Hello.
This is so beautiful.
Yeah.
See the house of fire? It's not scared.
Yeah.
Actually, I...
Let me have a kiss, OK?
Actually, I brought you here
because I bought these flowers for you.
Aww.
You're so sweet.
Wow.
So, will you marry me then?
What?
Will you marry me?
Oh, my God. Are you serious right now?
Oh, my God.
Are you serious?
Babe! Oh, my God.
Of course I will.
Yes, I love you.
You're the love of my life.
I love you too.
I can't believe you did this.
Oh, my God.
Thank you.
Oh, my gosh, babe.
Babe.
Seriously.
Oh, my gosh.
I am like swept away. Thank you.
I'm really like it.
I love it.
Wow.
Mohammed completely
surprised me and I felt amazing.
This is exactly how I
wanted to feel heading
into my wedding of like
just pure love and like
secure in my decisions
and like just this
upbeat feeling of being excited
and I'm ready to become a wife.
What do you think about the fire?
I brought a lot of fires for you.
Yeah, it's beautiful.
Oh, my gosh.
Are you going to make a wish?
Let's... Let's do it.
You can.
Well, I hope that we
can continue to grow
together and, you know,
figure out our differences
and be able to have an
amazing future together.
So, thank you for coming
across the world to be with me.
First, babe.
I know that you know.
I can make my wish my way.
So, I hope that we
have happiness in our life
and we will be together and
a good future for both of us.
So, you forgive me about
the two months was true.
I forgive you.
I forgive you too.
Good.
New chapter.
Big back lay.
I love you so much.
Thank you.
It's really not raining
like this in California.
Jibri, you're covering yourself.
I know.
Oh, sorry.
Was I not covering you at all?
Yeah.
Almost slipped.
I got all wet.
Hey, how you feeling?
It's a long drive.
I feel really happy
that I'm here coming to
Joshua Tree where it
seems like a nice place
to be artistic, different
kind of people than I
saw in Rapid and I'm
really excited to be here.
Howdy.
Welcome to Frontier.
Hey, how are you?
Good, how are you?
I'm hungry.
Right, what can I get you?
Maybe like an egg and
sausage egg and cheddar biscuit.
Okay.
Bagel or whatever you think is good.
That's hot.
We trust you.
I can't wait to get it for you.
Thank you.
Thank you.
It's going to like it.
Order it Serbian style.
Just bring everything.
Yeah.
Bring it all.
Arriving in California,
moving out of my parents'
house has definitely
hit me that, oh, this
is serious and I'm about to
get married and it's a big deal.
Oh.
I have an egg sandwich.
Okay, now we're just getting spoiled.
I know.
Can I get you guys anything else?
I think this is perfect.
Okay, I hope you like it.
Appreciate it.
I don't know.
I just hope weather is
good when we come there.
And what if it's raining like it is today?
I don't know.
I want to think about it.
I hope it won't.
I mean, if there's a low like sprinkles
and stuff, like I don't mind, but.
What if it's full out
raining like right now?
Which this is very uncommon
for California, but it's.
I don't want negativity.
Okay.
All right.
I'm being positive.
When I was like renting
the place in the desert
to have, I never expected to
have bad weather conditions.
So seeing that it rains
here definitely worries
me a little bit, but I'm not
going to manifest anything bad.
I'm still trying to be positive.
I just hope that there
is a little bit of sunshine
and that since we're in
the desert, that it's not wet.
I don't even know how that
looks like when the sand is wet.
I don't know.
But I hope that it's, that
it's going to dry by tomorrow.
Watch this.
I'm going to manifest it.
It's going to be warm, no rain,
no lightning, no hail, no snow.
Dry ground.
No earthquakes.
It's going to happen.
Watch.
Come here, Tiff.
I can see she loves me so much.
Oh.
Okay.
Kobe and I are about to
get married this weekend
and my head is just
like all over the place.
Oh, Kobe.
The wedding has been
a pretty big distraction.
I just want to enjoy our wedding day.
Okay.
But temperature has
gotten into his head about
being the man and trying to
like take control of everything.
And it's been pretty
confusing, you know,
knowing that he, maybe
he's not happy in Kansas.
That is something we need to talk about.
What the f*ck?
Are you kidding me?
On Kobe's iPad, I saw
on the screen that there
are apartments for Ohio
and like one-bedroom
apartments pulled up, which
is really confusing to me.
Like, I know that temperature lives there,
but whoa, does this man really think he's
moving to Ohio or he's moving
all of us to a one-bedroom in Ohio?
Hey.
Hey, what's up?
What are you doing?
Trying to feed the horses.
So, I was upstairs, like picking stuff up.
And I came across the iPad.
I was like plugging it in.
And there was like
a search history for
apartments in Ohio, like
one-bedroom apartments.
All right.
So, what's up with that?
Well, I'm not the one
who searched it, so I
was just like wondering
why you were searching
up one-bedroom apartments, like
really, like right before we got married.
In the first place, why did
you even go into my iPad?
But, I mean, it's not
really like I was searching.
It was just like, you
know, I had a conversation
with temperature and then constantly moving
to Ohio and then he sends me this link.
But, like we're not moving to Ohio.
We're not.
I mean, I'm pregnant and we have COVID.
I'm not really comfortable
moving away from my family.
We are all in America.
We're not moving to Ohio.
I don't want to use it.
All right, we can talk
about this later, hon.
No, I don't.
I want to resolve it really quick.
It's just like you haven't told me that.
You never told me about Ohio before.
I was just going through the
link that temperature sent me.
But why would temperature send
you a one-bedroom apartment?
It's a link.
Like, temperature wants you to move there.
He never said he wanted
like all of us to move there.
Come on.
Honey, I want to move
out here, but just know
I'll never want to
move without you guys.
All right?
I know, but temperature's working.
Like, you can't even work yet.
Like, we're not moving anywhere.
Honey.
You're just not.
Okay.
Like, you make a big deal out of nothing.
Like, come on.
Talking with temperature and
some of the advices it gave me was
there's a huge
Cameroonian community over
there in Ohio where they
always come together.
With the help of the
friends that I have over
there, they can easily
help me to get a job.
So I'm looking at the bigger picture
to be able to provide for my family.
But what bothers me is like
I feel like I'm sacrificing a lot
because I have to let go almost
every decision, everything that I want.
I have to make it suit Emily,
and it's really hard for me.
This relationship will
never work for me if
I'm the only one making,
you know, compromises.
We're not moving to Ohio.
Please don't bring it up again.
All right.
All right.
Cobin's with grandma, so
I'm going to go check on him.
All right, babe.
I really want to believe
that Cobie is totally
committed and devoted
to myself and our family.
But at the same time,
just with everything that
I've learned, meeting
Cobie's friend, Temperature,
how they view women and,
you know, the gender roles
in their culture, kind
of worries me a little bit.
Am I going to see more of
this, Cobie, after we get married?
I love him with everything
in me, but these are
not the conversations that we should be
having two days before we get married.
Is she coming?
Not yet.
She will be.
I mean, I'm going to cry already.
I know it.
Look this way.
There we go.
All right.
I love you.
Thank you.
You ready?
No, I'm not ready.
Do you all have napkins?
No, it's okay.
More napkins?
It's okay.
It's okay.
Mom, just can you please stand here?
Okay.
Yeah.
I'm going to need them.
Thank you.
All right.
Okay.
Let's do it.
I'm crying already.
It's fine.
I'm going to need them.
It's so nice just to see my
future husband standing there.
I'm just, my heart, I'm like
fighting back tears the whole time.
I'm like, I can't keep it in.
I just feel so much love in the room and
he looks amazing and he's so beautiful.
I can't believe he's
going to be my husband.
It sounds cliche, but
I think he makes me
better and nicer and that's
all I could ever ask for him.
She looks so beautiful.
That's my dream.
Maybe I don't have the
venue that I would love to
have or have my family
with me, but she is my dream.
You all met on this journey by chance.
Today you become one
and families are united.
At this time, I'm going to start with Kara.
Thank you.
Guillermo or in English version, Guillermo.
I used to think that we had met randomly by
chance, but now I know without a doubt that
the universe puts you
in front of me because
we're meant to spend
our lives together.
I stand here today completely humbled and
thankful for the love and life that we've
created in our relationship
and I'm incredibly
excited for the love and life I know
that will build from this day forward.
And now for Guillermo.
My queen, I love you with all my heart.
I'm proud that we finally made it.
Knowing that my brother
love you so much and
love you like a sister fills my
heart and that of all my family.
I promise to love you, adore you
always so that we can achieve our dreams.
Do you Guillermo,
knowing the love that Kara
has for you and returning it, do you take
this day to be your lawfully wedded wife?
I do.
And Kara, knowing the love that Guillermo
has for you and returning it, do you take
him this day to be your
lawfully wedded husband?
I do.
By the authority vested
in me by the Council
of Virginia, I do pronounce
you husband and
wife and Guillermo,
you may kiss your bride.
Muchísimas gracias.
Estamos casados.
We did it.
I love you.
We're going to cut a little bit of cake.
Drum roll please.
Yeah, I will hold behind you.
I love you.
Yes, Lord!
Lovely.
Next for us as a married couple is adjusting
status and just enjoying life together.
Home ownership, vacations.
So basically, next step is
going to go make some fits.
We're not procreating
today, but I just feel
like there's a lot of
areas of our life that
we need to work on before
we bring kids into this situation.
I feel ready.
Not now.
We can just practice.
Why not?
Yeah, practice is good.
Yeah.
Call me your wife.
That's my wife.
She like the thing.
She like the movie.
No, I'm just excited.
Oh, you're excited?
In every way.
Oh my God.
So see you.
Are you cold?
Yes.
Hello.
Hi.
Hello there.
Hello.
How are you?
I'm good.
How are you guys?
Good.
We only have a couple days left in
Massachusetts until we head down to Florida.
So tonight we're having dinner with Tiffany,
my mom, and my family friend Alicia.
I definitely feel like
wedding dress shopping
was a great way for
Dice and Tiffany to get
closer and, you know,
start growing a sister bond.
And it's really important
to me because I want
Dice to know that she
does have family here
and she didn't just move to this
country and only have me for support.
Oh, you guys already got some food.
Just an appetizer.
It's a pepper chini.
Pepper chini.
Do you like spicy?
Oh, no.
No?
I don't like spicy.
And you're Brazilian
and you don't like spicy?
No.
Oh, my goodness.
Brazilian food isn't spicy.
No.
Is it like sweet?
Some is.
No.
It's magical.
Oh, wrong country.
Yeah.
Are you homesick?
Like, do you miss home?
Like, miss home?
Yes, homesick, uh-huh.
Yeah, because in my country,
like, you know everyone in my city.
I'm like, "Oh, I'm home.
" I'm like, "Oh, I'm home.
" I'm like, "Oh, I'm home.
" I'm like, "Oh, I'm home.
" I'm like, "Oh, I'm home.
" I'm like, "Oh, I'm home.
" I'm like, "Oh, I'm home.
" I'm like, "Oh, I'm home.
" I'm like, "Oh, I'm home.
" I'm like, "Oh, I'm home.
" I'm like, "Oh, I'm home.
" I'm like, "Oh, I'm home.
" I'm like, "Oh, I'm home.
" I'm like, "Oh, I'm home.
" I'm like, "Oh, I'm home.
" I think she's very young.
She still has a lot of maturing to do.
And the fact that
they're getting married
next week, do I think
Patrick's ready? I do.
Um, but I don't know if
Thais might be ready to
get married, let alone
move to another country.
Do you think that you can
make Dallas your home?
Do you feel like when you are in
Dallas, do you feel at home or...?
I think so.
I would hope if you start to have a
family, 'cause a lot of it's maturity.
Are you mature enough
to be able to live here
and to be with Patrick and have a
family with Patrick and have your own life?
- Was that intentional?
- Yeah, I understand. Yeah.
My mom has, like, zero filter,
and she can be really direct.
Like, I remember when I was a
little kid, I would, like, bring home art,
and she'd be like,
"What the hell is that?
" And I was like, you
know, 10 years old.
So I'm worried about how Thais
is gonna deal with that side of her.
You know about Brazil.
Brazil does have its promises for family,
but there's not much
economical balance there.
You know?
It wouldn't make sense
to raise our kids in Brazil.
You're not running away
to Brazil with a baby.
I'll follow you all the way.
My grandchild will live in America.
If Patrick and I come to get
married, we'll talk about having kids,
but I don't think it'll be easy
to raise kids away from home.
I felt kind of... You know
when you can't do anything?
Like, the person is... It seems
like you don't have a voice,
that people keep trying
to say what you have to do.
I just couldn't imagine
being in your shoes.
You come, I'm assuming, from a very
family-oriented, where everyone is like hands-on,
like how are you gonna
be able to handle having
a child and just not
having your parents there?
I have no idea.
Exactly.
Because I don't have my family here yet.
Once she gets her paperwork and she can
travel, then we'll go to Brazil and visit.
Because I understand how hard that is,
and I know how close she is with her dad.
So it's like... Your father
doesn't like you being here?
Does that make it
harder for you to be here?
Yes, for sure. Uh-huh.
But one thing I can tell you
is when you get older in life,
your father and your mother, they're not
gonna be your main relationship anymore.
Because you need to have
a relationship with a man.
Mm-hmm.
So this will be taking over your
relationship that you had with your father.
It's like, my opinion... I want it out.
This is what I'm thinking.
You don't want to be here.
Huh?
You're only here because of him.
Because of Patrick?
Yes.
You seem like you would rather
be in Brazil than be out here.
Mm-hmm.
Is how I'm taking it.
You sure you want to live here?
Yeah. No, I'm not sure.
And Patrick's not gonna
move to Brazil permanently.
So you have a hard decision to make.
Do you find that scary that she could
go back to Brazil and you're still here?
Pat, I'm gonna have to get going
'cause my oxygen is running low.
I really apologize, but I
don't have any more batteries.
That's fine.
This is my last one.
You guys ready to get out of here?
Yeah, let's get out of here.
Thank you.
All right.
I don't think they're ready to get married.
And I think she deep down
doesn't want to marry Patrick.
I think she's just doing
it 'cause she doesn't
want to make things
bad by not doing it.
Can you pull the car up to the door, honey?
I've been married four times myself.
One time, two times,
three times, the charm, no.
Go four.
And Patrick, and I think unfortunately,
he's taken after his mother.
Next time on 90 Day Fiance.
Shida, your wedding dress is ready.
Come on up.
Now I finally get to see the wedding
dress that Bilal's sister made for me.
What do you think?
This is not the style that I sent you.
An old lady dress, a hideous dress.
This is atrocious.
Sometimes the customer don't
really like know what they want.
It's hard to be at a party and know
if I'm going to get married or not.
I don't know if it's going to happen.
I don't want to hurt Patrick, but my
dad's opinion is more important to me.
If you're going to break it off,
like you should just do it now.
Mama, can you hear me?
I'm going to get married.
The only thing that is missing is you.
If I would just get you
a quick air ticket tonight.
Um.
I wish she would say, "Hey,
you know what, Jibri, we decided
we're going to do whatever it
takes to be there at this wedding.
" I've really been wanting to
ask you if you've gotten cold feet.
There's been so many flags
that have popped up, you know?
Yes, I literally had frigid feet.
With all of the red flags,
this isn't going to work.
You know that I was a
runaway bride before, right?
That option is always available.
Choose what is in your highest and best.
All these things are just
coming out of the woodwork,
and I'm like, "Where
are they coming from?
" I've left friend, family.
I fought to be here,
and you still doubt me?
I've tried everything, but I'm not
seeing myself taking the sh*t anymore.
If you can't trust me at the
eve of our wedding... f*ck off.
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