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today amy is meeting
with bryson's grandparents.
has robert told you anything
about me?
i'm a porn star.
oh, my god.
are you okay with that?
mike:
she just jumped into my arms.
that was
an amazing feeling.
this will be the first time
that mursel will be meeting
with my friends.
marcel, are you ready
for the wedding?
ready?
me and jas' sex life is great,
you know?
i can't complain.
what do you want to do?
we have some alone time.
tania: i know syngin and i
will work as a marriage
because we communicate.
don't break it.
i tell syngin what to do
and syngin does it.
that's
i cannot do this.
yeah.
what i want from you
is to not parent.
i am their mom, and nobody
will ever know better than i do.
what should we drink?
tea or coffee?
i'll take some coffee,
baby.
natalie: last night, mike,
he came to see me.
so...
yeah.
they look good, yeah.
the sex was
incredible for me.
she's fire.
she's on fire.
baby, i think what we should
work on this week is the visa.
mm‐hmm.
we need to see if we go down
to the embassy.
mm‐hmm.
i feel like we've pretty much
got all our paperwork lined up.
i mean, i guess in this day
and age, we just never know.
yeah, i agree.
yes, please, baby.
and some wonderful breakfast
from my love.
only you, baby.
okay.
okay. you want to
call mama down or...?
what?
what?
what's going on?
of what, baby?
mm‐hmm.
mm‐hmm.
right now?
can we have breakfast
first?
i've always wanted kids, baby.
you know that.
and i know you've always
wanted kids.
and you're right.
we're both at the age
that we need to start thinking
about really having kids,
you know?
i really want to have a kid
as soon as possible.
but, i mean, i think that,
you know,
our main thing right now is to
probably wait a little bit
and get you
to america first, you know,
so we can get our feet
on the ground.
and then i think we need
to start really working
and focusing
on our family.
what do you think?
wrong answer?
mm‐hmm.
you want to start
making a baby right now?
because i think it's important
that we wait.
you are right.
you don't want to wait
a little bit at least?
just because we need to get you
to america first, baby.
i think it's
really important.
it matters a little bit,
don't you think?
because i want to get us
more settled in.
i want to take care
of some things.
i want to get you there.
i want to get you
all settled in.
i think there's just
some key things
that we need
to get worked out.
mike:
natalie is very persistent about
starting a family right now.
i, on the other hand,
am not ready to have one
right this moment.
i do feel like i need to talk
to natalie about my debt
and where we stand right now
before we consider
having a child.
i don't feel comfortable
starting a family
until i can take care of it.
well, that's ‐‐
i don't want you here
by yourself
if it takes that long
by yourself and you're pregnant.
i want to wait.
i want to be here
for that experience.
i want to be a good husband
to you.
i want to be able to take you
to the doctors and stuff.
i want to be here
for that ultrasound.
i want to be here
for every step.
i don't find out on skype
"oh, we're having a boy."
yes.
where's mama at?
mama?
natalie is really pressing me,
and we don't even have a final
word on her visa as of now.
i want to be with natalie,
but i don't want to be
rushed in any situations.
we have a lot
to figure out.
anna: mursel has been in america
for about a month,
and we have a lot
to get ready for the wedding.
so today, i'm making
honey jar favors
and i've asked mursel
to make a honeycomb altar.
i am super overwhelmed
with everything that's going on.
you know, our language barrier,
cultural differences.
mursel getting along
with the boys.
i've got to plan this wedding.
it's almost too much for me
to handle right now.
yes?
what?
you finished
the altar?
okay,
just a minute.
ohh.
okay,
just a minute.
wow, mursel.
how are you feeling
about the wedding, mursel?
little.
what are your concerns?
what?
do you want to talk
to them about it?
why?
it's bothering you.
so talk.
i want mursel to
open up more.
i want him to, like, tell me
how he's feeling,
and i want him to do that
before we get married.
i'm really worried
that mursel and i
are using the language barrier
as an excuse
not to talk about some things
that we should be talking about.
we really need to work on
this communication.
i try talking to you
and i feel like you
never want to give me
any response
except yes, no, okay.
i don't like that.
then come on.
i'm always talking.
spoiled children, yes.
so we're having
two conversations.
no.
mursel, no, i'm not talking
about the boys right now.
i'm not talking about
the boys right now.
i'm talking about
you and me.
no, you're talking
boys talk.
i'm very annoyed
right now, mursel.
no.
talk about what? boys?
i'm not talking about the boys
right now.
i'm only talking about
your and my communication.
okay.
i don't even know
if i want to get married
because
you never listen to me.
you're just laughing at me.
i'm done
with this conversation.
okay, bye.
i am worried that i'm getting
into a relationship
with someone that's not
going to put the effort
into communicating with me
or getting to know me.
i'm just having a really
hard time with it all.
i didn't think it was
going to be this hard.
i don't think i should be
deleting no photos.
as is,
it's about $13,000, $14,000.
not the best use
of $14,000.
i'm mean?
about what?
give me a hug, hug.
you complain too much.
oh, boy.
things have been tense
between me and anny
ever since that fight about
my social media.
and after me and anny
get into a fight,
things is awkward.
she want me to delete
photos of my exes,
and i feel
a certain way about it.
today me and anny is going to go
to a gym to blow off some steam.
maybe some punches might
take the anger out of anny
because she's still
not getting it.
i don't want to let go
of the photos
with my children
involved in it.
‐hello, guys.
‐hi.
welcome to title.
how are you doing?
‐thank you.
‐fine. how you doing?
good, good.
what brings you guys in?
well, we're here today
to take a class.
all right, we got some
hand wraps for you guys
if you want to follow me.
cool.
all righty, got some
hand wraps here.
all right, guys,
so this is going
to be your trainer.
his name is miguel.
‐what's up, guys?
‐what's up? how you doing?
what are your names?
anny
and i'm robert.
anny and robert.
nice to meet you,
anny and robert.
my name's miguel.
nice to meet you, bro.
very nice to meet you.
let's put some gloves on.
other hand.
miguel: so, you guys have
never boxed before?
no.
slap box.
slap box? that was back in
the day. i remember that.
come on up.
yes, come on up.
mi casa, su casa.
robert,
where you from?
brooklyn.
i like brooklyn, man.
anny, where are you from?
dominican republic,
what part?
santiago.
robert: anny's talking in
spanish to the instructor.
i don't speak spanish,
but i hope that she don't talk
about our issues
and our problems.
all right, so left foot
in front, both of you.
left foot in front.
yeah, left foot in front,
knees bent, hands up.
so i'm going to ask for a jab,
which is this hand.
right, you're going to
punch a jab at my mitt.
jab, then a cross,
and then i want you
to hit the body with four hooks.
jab, cross,
there you go.
that's nice.
jab, cross,
oh, nice.
oh, well, you're in
the right place.
how long have you been here
in the states?
that's how the visa goes.
it's through the government.
you have to get married
in a timeframe.
what's that
amount of time?
you got 90 days?
yeah. and if you
don't get married, bye.
yeah, that sounds like you're
on the road to a fast track.
are you ready?
well, i feel like if you really
love somebody, you go for it.
you got to live for you
and do what make you happy.
wow. yeah, they make you
jump through hoops?
yeah, they do, and they ask
a lot of questions.
did they ask you questions?
what was the craziest question
they asked you?
miguel:
it's not your typical couple.
seems like it's just a lot.
i mean, i'll be surprised if
they last two months, honestly.
oh, he hides stuff.
what do i hide?
no, no, no.
does it really mean that
after that is not done
then the feelings
are not there anymore?
see, the thing is
this ‐‐
i don't know.
i don't know you guys.
come on. really?
really?
those photos is just me
and my kids.
yeah. if she's in it,
she's in it.
this is the thing ‐‐ that's
just me, my ex, and my kids.
what if my kids grow up
and they want to say
"hey, dad, do you have a photo?"
she acts like ‐‐
robert:
it's my photos.
it's my past.
and if anny
has a problem with it,
she shouldn't
look at the photo.
and if you can put photos
of you and your exes,
you can call that
and have him take you
to the airport and deuces.
i don't even pay attention
to those photos anymore.
miguel: i understand.
she's the only one who goes
digging in the crates,
blowing off dust.
i don't look at it, man, because
i don't pay attention to it.
like, who cares?
it's social media.
who gives a
i don't think i should be
deleting no photos.
miguel: she seems like a lot.
he's going to
have his hands full
for however long that lasts.
there's going to be a lot
of compromises on both sides.
but i'm not
a marriage counselor.
i could compromise the photos
with me and my ex.
i'm cool with that.
but the photos
with me and my kids,
i don't feel
that's necessary.
we plan on getting married
and it should be compromising,
but me and my children,
i don't want to let go because
they are all part of my life
until i leave this earth.
i just want to be happy.
i want to make anny happy,
my baby boys happy.
she just got to let this go.
hold up, time out.
me being a good man
got nothing to do with photos.
that's my past.
my past is my past.
my past is behind me.
it's not what's behind me,
it's what's in front of me.
who's in front of me right now?
who's in front of me?
no, you're funny.
you jump quick.
hey, sweetie.
are you ready?
yes.
you look great.
i'm going to take juliana out
for a little spin.
‐all right.
‐okay? we won't be long.
can i watch tv?
‐you can watch tv.
‐can i play video games?
you can play
video games.
‐can we breathe?
‐of course you can.
‐can we go to the bathroom?
‐yes, max.
finally, juliana is here
and meeting the kids.
and to bring together
all of the loves of my life
into one place at once
is awesome.
watch your head.
she's a car girl for sure.
she knows how to drive,
and she knows how
to drive stick shift,
which is an amazing quality
in a woman.
after sarah and i
got a divorce,
i've found a really nice
two‐bedroom close to town,
but we have outgrown it.
so i've decided to buy a house,
and it's time to look
for some furniture.
michael: here we are.
thank you.
a lot of stuff, huh?
mm‐hmm.
i think we can go this way.
place is enormous.
‐hi.
‐oh, hi.
welcome to the store.
thank you very much.
what are you guys
looking for?
we should we be closing
on a house any day now...
awesome.
...and moving.
she just came
to america.
welcome. wow!
that's a big deal.
yeah, a big step.
so, now you're going to be
living together...
yeah.
...and purchasing a house
so you're going to
need some things?
a lot of stuff, actually.
so, i'll bring you over
to this area of the store.
kind of take a look around
and see what style you like.
okay.
you'll have to see if you guys
have similar tastes, right?
in furniture.
well, in a lot of things,
right?
yeah.
this?
yeah.
i bet it's probably
a sea sponge.
michael:
you know what sea sponge is?
i think so.
yeah. like spongebob.
yeah.
oh, my god.
of course she does.
this is all modular,
so these are all pieces.
oh, wow, i like that.
if you wanted to just purchase
the whole thing as is,
it's about $13,000,
$14,000.
juliana,
do you like that one?
mm‐hmm.
michael:
what do you like about it?
you just have to think
about down the road.
are you going to still love this
in five years?
i don't know.
that's what i wonder how she'll
feel about me in five years.
ooh.
okay.
i think right now,
not probably the best use
of $14,000.
i've been very fortunate that
i've had some success in life,
but it doesn't mean
i'm not flippant about my money,
not flippant about
what i spend my money on.
and we have to decide
if it's really
the right use of our money.
it is quite expensive.
i guess
we can think about it.
yeah, we'll keep looking.
no hurry.
yeah? okay.
yeah.
there's a coffee shop.
not the best thing
to buy right now, is it?
we haven't yet really talked
a lot about finances,
shared finances and...
no.
no.
what do you think
we should spend $14,000 on?
i'm mean?
about what?
well, yeah.
you know i was a little upset
about the spending on the car.
roughly a month ago,
juliana bought an automobile
on my credit card.
i'm happy to help her,
of course, but why the
would you buy an automobile
within weeks of
when you're coming
to america?
you know i promised i was going
to help no matter what.
when we started dating
and...
but it just looked bad.
what's the car doing now?
just probably sitting there
at your house, right?
for a cab?
who is using it?
she's driving it as a cab?
to make money?
mm‐hmm.
we're done.
we're moving on.
maybe i'm not seeing what the
reality was, but it was hurtful.
i felt that she was making
a choice where she was deciding
she didn't have enough
faith and confidence
in our relationship
at the time,
and she wasn't so sure this
was ever going to happen.
i don't want you to be
just on the ipad
with the baby
in the chair.
emily's mad because i have not
paid attention to baby so well.
you know,
play with him.
okay?
he should be happy
to spend time with our baby.
sasha: first time outside.
oh, my god.
fresh air.
so finally baby david is here.
he's so beautiful.
sasha:
yeah, i think he looks like me.
the shape of face
and his eyes,
definitely,
it looks like mine.
emily, you go first.
emily: i'm just so excited.
when sasha's paperwork
goes through,
we as a family
get to fly to america.
let's go.
finally.
ta‐da!
we are back in our apartment.
he is so fun to be around.
so, i checked the temperature,
and it's ‐1 degrees.
so sasha is dressing him
right now.
oh, honey.
we'll be in the car so soon.
oh, bless you.
and sasha's parents are around.
i have a lot of help
with the baby,
but we're waiting for
sasha's visa to get approved
so we can go home.
are you saying
"hi, dada"?
we finally got our k‐1 visa
approved, and i'm so happy.
the process
is finally over.
but we have hit a road block
with my son's russian passport.
if you ever have a child
in a former soviet country,
please, please,
please do your research.
can you smile for mama?
yes.
you look
just like your dad.
so, right now, we are waiting
for the passports.
david is over it.
you love bath time.
you love it.
doesn't seem like
it will ever, ever end,
but there is
a finish line in sight.
i think i hear someone.
yeah.
interesting finger.
do you want to lay down?
all right, there you go.
so, i have been in russia
with david for six months now.
yeah, it's been tough.
we were supposed to
go home months ago,
but sasha didn't apply
for the passport,
for his russian passport,
when i said to.
so we were stuck here.
i would feel really resentful,
because if he had applied
for david's russian passport
as soon as he was born,
we would be home.
i yelled at sasha, and we fought
about that for a long time.
because i wouldn't let it go.
but what can you do?
now we're here,
and it's been really hard
because it's been 100% me
taking care of the baby.
sasha's been at work
all the time.
so he's gone from 5:30 a. m.
until 11:00 at night.
we barely have time
as a couple anymore.
it's been really isolating,
being here.
yeah, you don't see daddy a lot.
and one of the reasons why
i wanted to have him in russia
instead of going home
and waiting for the k‐1 visa
is because i wanted sasha
to bond with him,
you know,
when he was a little baby.
i wanted david
to know his father.
but, you know...
yeah.
sasha maybe spends five hours
a week max with the baby,
so i don't know if it was
really even worth it.
i will love russia from the
experiences that i've had here,
and it's made me
a stronger person,
but i'm just ready
to go home.
but finally, sasha has
the k‐1 visa and his passport.
the baby has his american
and russian passport,
so in three days,
we finally go home.
sash, why is he in this chair?
he's too big for it.
but you could
talk with him,
play with him,
teach him some russian.
babies are never too little
to learn languages.
i'm so sorry.
come on, let's go
for a walk, please?
no,
turn off the ipad.
when we get to america,
sasha's going to have to watch
the baby
while i look for a job.
let's just go,
okay?
he has had other children,
but he doesn't really know a lot
about the child‐rearing.
he has always been
the one working
while his ex stayed home
with the baby.
you know
when we get to america,
i'm going to need you to see
that the diaper is full
and get him a fresh one,
take him out for walks.
i don't want you to be
just on the ipad
with the baby
in the chair.
you know, speak to him,
play with him.
you know, he can't just be
in the chair all day.
okay?
it makes me sad,
because he should be happy
to spend time with our baby,
and he should really
take advantage of the time
with our son
while he has it.
are you going to be able to see
when he's hungry?
sasha: with my ex‐wife,
first year was perfect,
and then they're changing.
they don't like something,
always find the reason
for an argument.
i don't know.
maybe emily's kind of person,
so maybe she's mad of me
because i'm not paying attention
to baby so well,
like she wants,
and i don't think
i deserve this.
jasmin,
do you drink?
no.
okay.
ooh.
what?
jasmin just arrived
in america
after a really
long fight from finland.
the first night was cool.
you know, we got to rest.
she fell asleep much earlier
than i did.
but yeah, other than that,
it was a good night.
you know?
blake: so, how was sleep
last night?
yeah?
right. so, i guess...
you're going out?
yeah, i'm going to meet up
with everybody.
yeah.
then go to the pool,
hang out there for a little bit.
so jasmin, you know,
kind of made it clear
that she wanted to have,
like, a low‐key day,
but the hotel has,
like, a nice pool area,
so i invited
some friends over
so jasmin can meet, you know,
some of my closest friends.
in the corner.
i'm not that excited
about the pool party,
because i just got here
and i want to relax.
i'm tired, i'm jet‐lagged,
so i'm not excited
about meeting everyone at once,
and for the first day.
i think he should know that
my personality is more,
maybe, calm and i don't want
to meet everyone at once,
asking questions on everybody,
like, who is this jasmin?
you want to get some food?
you're always hungry.
oh, look who it is.
hi!
you're real.
the friends that are coming over
were shocked to find out
that i was going to be
getting engaged to jasmin
after i've only spent
like only four weeks with her.
first impressions
are everything,
so i really need them
to accept it
and have her come in
with an open mind.
what's happening, man?
chilling, my boy.
grab some seats,
grab some seats.
get comfortable.
get comfortable.
rita: i don't want to
question her and bombard her
and feel like
i'm wearing her out,
but i want to see if she's
the right match with blake
at the end of the day
and what her intentions are
and if she's here
for the right reasons.
what are you excited for,
to see, or do?
what city do you live in?
helsinki.
helsinki?
yeah, the only one i know.
so, you think you could get
used to this heat out here?
yeah, i think so.
i think so.
darrell:
she's a little quiet at first,
but i could already tell,
like, this guy's serious.
he really,
really likes this girl
and there must be
a good reason.
but seeing somebody for a week
as opposed to seeing them
for the rest of your life ‐‐
yeah.
we'll really find out
within the next 90 days,
for sure.
man: modelo for me please.
‐modelo?
‐yes.
i'll get
a strawberry margarita.
‐do you want a double?
‐yeah.
jasmin doesn't drink at all.
and that's kind of like
the opposite of, you know,
what we got going on today.
she wants a water.
and then can i have
the pineapple mojito?
all right, guys,
i'll be right back.
i respect the fact that
she doesn't want to drink,
and i just want her to respect
the fact that if i do want one
when there is an occasion,
then she respect that too.
jasmin, do you drink?
okay. okay.
yeah,
she's a tea drinker.
she lives in
freezing weather.
that's why she likes
to drink tea.
she wouldn't be out here
at 112 degrees like
yeah.
‐throw 'em up.
‐cheers.
‐cheers.
‐congratulations, blake.
thank you.
‐yes, cheers, my friend.
‐congrats, you guys.
thank you.
huh?
like what?
yeah.
how do you think jasmin's going
to adjust to being out here?
i think it'll be
an easy transition.
it shouldn't be too bad.
i'm getting anxiety
for you.
it kind of does bum me out that
jasmin isn't here right now
to hang out with my friends.
i know that she was jet‐lagged,
but i just wish, you know,
she pushed through
and spent a little bit more time
with my friends and stuff.
but that's how she is.
so i got to take it as it is.
tania: syngin arrived in america
about a week ago,
and i think things
are going great.
of course, we have our ups
and our downs,
but it's great
having him here.
oh,
it's my sister calling.
hey, sissy.
today we're driving
to have lunch
that my sister
is putting on.
tiana: wait, what time are you
actually going to be here?
like an hour?
we might be a little late.
i don't know.
tania: syngin already met my mom
and my sister
when they came to
south africa to visit us.
so it's now time for him
to meet the rest of the family.
my sister's husband,
their newborn, my uncle,
my grandma,
my aunt, my little cousins.
my mom may or may not
be there.
tiana: all right.
love you. bye.
love you too. bye.
yeah, i'm quite nervous
to meet the whole family now.
yeah.
syngin: i'm lucky to have met
tania's mom and sister
when they came visit me
in south africa.
very cool people,
but i could see
the hardheadedness in everybody.
it's a very strong
female group there.
so it's time
to meet the family.
holy
i've got, like, a knot
in my stomach.
now that i'm back here,
i'm kind of nervous meeting
the friends and everybody else
and also being the only
white guy in this situation.
you know, going into
a latin family,
i don't know
what to expect.
so it's totally
different culture
and vibes and everything,
and i just kind of hope
i fit into all of that.
‐hello, baby!
‐hi!
yo!
what's up, everybody?
‐welcome.
‐hello, hi.
give me a big ol' hug.
how you doing?
good. how are you?
it's good to see you.
how was the flight?
hello!
this is grandma.
the granny.
be my granny now. how are you?
good, honey.
nice meeting you, baby.
mama, how are you doing?
great.
oh, yeah.
so finally, eh?
it's been such a...
finally.
long road.
yeah, i've never been
around babies or...
yeah,
we're going to practice.
yeah. hello.
please don't cry
and make me look bad.
so cute.
are we pregnant yet?
‐no!
‐no.
how are you doing,
babe?
baby's not crying,
so i think that's good.
yeah.
you're loving this.
i know you are.
hi.
hi, tobias.
seeing syngin with tobias was ‐‐
it melted my heart.
i felt so cute.
it was so nice
seeing you hold him.
and i think you're
such a natural at it,
and you're going to be
just great when we have kids.
you know, everybody
pushing and asking,
especially your sister
already has a baby,
so it's like this whole...
i literally have a clock
inside me
telling me "you need
to have a kid now."
i'm 29.
when i'm 30, do you know
half my eggs like disappear?
is that something
you read the book?
it's ‐‐ yeah.
okay.
that's all i'm saying.
baby, how are you feeling?
this is like...
i don't know.
i just feel ‐‐ i feel different.
i feel upside down, man.
i'm like...
i just feel
so out of place.
and then now
you off soon again.
yeah. i know. i'm heading to
costa rica in three weeks.
‐for real?
‐yeah.
i'm going to learn
herbalism.
yeah, i'm taking
a month‐long intensive.
tania: i really want to do this.
i'm really excited.
it's a great opportunity
for me to go
and learn from indigenous
and afro‐caribbean people
about natural medicine
and natural remedies,
and it's tools that can ‐‐
it's an investment
for mine
and syngin's future
because we'd love
to make our own products,
start a small business.
i want to be
the community witch doctor.
she's going to
costa rica?
yeah, i'm going to costa rica
for one month,
and he has
to stay out here.
what?!
yeah!
oh!
you leave me for so long.
welcome.
now she's leaving you.
yeah, it sucks.
i'm leaving syngin here
all by himself.
but with this k‐1 visa,
he's not allowed
to leave america.
i love syngin to death,
but i've had to put it off
because of the volunteer work
i was doing one year
and last year having to work,
save up to prepare
for syngin to come here.
i wasn't able to go.
so i just can't put it off
for another year.
i didn't want to
wait for me
to come back to costa rica
for him to come.
yeah.
and he's being supportive.
yeah. yeah.
he wants me to go.
he knows it's important.
you need to go.
i think she's pushing it
with her timelines.
yeah.
it's a whole month
to another country.
i don't think that's
a recipe for success.
yeah.
that's a recipe for disaster.
oh, so how are you going to feel
living with mom
without her around?
i don't know.
that's the question.
how's that going to be?
it's going to be strange,
i think.
or maybe not.
welcome to america,
honey.
‐especially here.
‐welcome to america.
i do not
believe in religion.
i believe more, like,
in a higher civilization,
you know, like aliens.
who are we meeting here again,
baby?
lana.
oh, waiting for you.
here's mike.
very nice to meet you.
thank you for coming
to dinner with us.
this is lana,
my best friend.
well, let's sit down.
come on, baby.
mike: last time i was there,
we went bowling
with a couple of her friends
and their family.
and, yeah, it was really
fun and exciting.
but i don't know
too much about lana.
she doesn't live in kyiv,
so she'd come down to visit,
which is a really exciting
opportunity to finally meet her.
all right, so cheers.
in ukraine
nice to meet everyone.
i have an idea of how
her heart's been broken.
i don't know
the severity of that.
but i am here to
hopefully patch that up
and make it whole again.
natalie: i met my ex‐husband
from my friends in ukraine.
and because of his job,
he used to travel a lot.
i'm going to patch you up,
baby, okay?
we ain't going to have
no more broken heart.
thank you.
no, but feel free
to ask me anything, you know?
i'm here to ‐‐
i would love your full support.
hey.
i think family is
very important.
family's everything.
and me and natalie
even had a discussion
this morning about kids
over breakfast, so...
i pushed him.
i pushed him.
so she pushes me all the time,
and i fully understand.
she wants a baby now.
she's ready to start a family.
i know she's very passionate
about it,
and she's always
wanted children.
i know. and kids
will come very shortly.
okay?
that i can promise you, love.
okay?
she tells me, she's like,
"all my friends have kids
except for me, michael.
where's my baby?"
and i'm like,
"okay, hold on."
wow.
that's really good right there.
you really like it?
that's really good.
on a personal basis,
i do not believe in religion
and a god.
well, i mean, i support natalie
i don't ever want her to
change her beliefs and stuff.
me in a personal
one‐on‐one sense,
i've just never
believed in god.
i believe more, like,
in a higher civilization,
like aliens or something.
there's something out there
as old as the universe is.
mike:
i think aliens are gods.
i think gods are just kind of,
like, misinterpretations
of what people think they seen
from back in the day.
and their version
of a spaceship,
they portray people
riding down in clouds
and then disappearing
off into the sky.
i mean, how else
can you explain that?
it sounds like
a spaceship to me, you know?
yeah,
i believe in aliens.
we believe in
what we believe,
and that's what you need
to stay true to.
you know what i mean?
that's just my honest belief.
i've never even
gone to church.
i've never gone to church.
only time will tell
in the future, i guess.
i'm glad that we got
to meet you.
it feels great that we got
to sit down and talk.
i feel great.
you're a wonderful friend
and i appreciate everything,
you know?
thank you so much.
today we move
to the new house.
look at this.
cece:
it all happened in one week.
like, juliana came to america
and then we just moved.
all right, guys.
close your eyes.
cece: oh my gosh, dad.
and then you have like 50.
as much as juliana.
i'm not even exaggerating
when i say you have 50 pairs.
michael: today we finally pick
up and move to the new house.
having the new house
with juliana arriving,
especially,
has been a lot to digest.
and it's a little overwhelming.
okay, pal. just mark it, like,
toys, legos, things, right?
right, max?
and just be very ‐‐
go over this
very, very carefully.
you know, there's a lot
of little ones over here.
new house.
you guys ready?
cece: finally.
it basically all happened
in one week.
like, juliana came to america,
and then we just moved
in that same week.
it can be
pretty stressful.
it's a new person
with our dad.
and it's a lot of small stuff,
as well.
like i have to sit in the back
of my dad's car now
because someone else
has taken up the front seat.
michael:
yeah, look at this.
yeah. it is.
all right,
let's take a look.
all right, guys,
close your eyes.
okay.
i don't feel good.
juliana: wow.
‐welcome to the new place.
‐wow.
oh, wow. that's
a cool‐looking chandelier.
‐yeah.
‐wow.
hey max, cece, here are the
bedrooms for you guys to choose.
but here, this is
the master bedroom.
i told you
how big it is.
but check this out.
here's the walk‐in closet.
cece:
it's a worm hole. hi.
are you getting ready?
getting ready?
for the wedding?
maybe i'm making
a bad decision.
i don't know.
anna: i never expected
to be in this situation.
i just don't know what to do.
so,
how have things been?
good, kind of, i guess.
how's everything going
with you?
interesting, i guess.
don't worry.
we'll have fun today.
all right. i'm sorry.
it's all about you.
have a good time.
it's been so emotional
the last couple of weeks.
mursel and i's communication
is horrible.
it's not getting any better.
just not not how i imagined
everything to go.
today i'm going shopping
to pick out a wedding dress.
i should be
really happy right now.
this is a big,
big day for me,
so i'm going to
try to have fun.
‐hello.
‐hello. how are you?
‐good. how are you?
‐great. anna?
yes. i'm anna.
hi, anna. i'm margie.
oh, nice to meet you.
nice to meet you.
this is my friend, vivi.
hi. i'm vivi. nice to meet you.
hi, vivi.
nice to meet you.
so, have you been looking
at dresses up to this point?
just kind of glancing online
at what i might want.
okay. do you have
any kind of styles
that you're finding
that you like?
i kind of like off the shoulder
or...
i'm kind of open.
we'll just try
some stuff on and see.
we'll figure it out. we'll pick
out two or three dresses
and take it from there.
how does that sound?
okay.
go ahead and look.
see if there's anything
that jumps out at you.
okay.
i'm really happy
that anna had me come.
she seems like she's got so many
things going on in her head
that she can't even focus on
what's right in front of her.
so i was happy to come
and be there for her.
do you want coverage,
no coverage?
well, mursel is muslim,
so he feels like
you should cover
everything up.
but i'm in america, so if i want
to have a little bit of fun...
but we still want to have
some modesty, though?
yes.
okay.
anna: mursel is muslim,
and i'm feeling pressure
trying to find the right dress
that mursel's going to like.
the dress can't have
a lot of cleavage.
a lot of skin
can't be showing.
can't have a short dress,
that's for sure.
that's fine. yeah.
if mursel had it his way,
i would have a dress that
covered me from the neck down,
probably to my wrists.
it's so pretty on you.
i like it.
yeah.
i like the beading.
i like the beading on you.
i guess, yeah. it won't look ‐‐
i think that's
too much coverage.
okay.
you think it's too
much coverage?
right here.
okay, let's go try on
the next one.
okay.
anna: since mursel's
gotten here,
i've had to change things
a little bit to make him happy.
i've got to drink less.
i've got to wear
more modest clothing.
but this is my wedding day,
and i'm going to wear
what i want.
margie: come on out.
oh, my gosh.
i love it.
you like it?
it looks so good.
yeah, i do. i love it.
do you feel beautiful
in it?
i feel really beautiful in it.
wow.
good.
whoa.
i just love everything
about the dress.
it's got a lot of beading
on it, the lace.
i know this dress
is the one.
are you going to
pick this one?
i think i'm going
to pick this one.
i think so.
i hope mursel likes it.
i think he'll love it.
oh, i'm excited.
seriously, it looks so good.
are you getting ready?
getting ready?
for the wedding?
i'm getting there.
i'm a little nervous.
maybe i'm making a bad decision.
i don't know.
you think you're making
a bad decision?
no,
i know he's the one.
i'm just nervous,
i guess.
how has mursel been?
quiet.
i just want to make sure
you don't feel like
you're rushing into this.
it's fine.
i'm not rushing into anything.
you're good?
i'm good. yeah.
he's the one.
it just seems like
nothing's going right
and i still have
to plan this, so...
well,
it's going to be okay.
everything's
going to be okay.
yeah, it will be.
we'll get it all
figured out.
you have 90 days
to get married,
and that's not
a very long time
to actually get
to know somebody.
i know you've been talking
to her over the phone,
but do you think she's using you
just to get a green card?
what do you think of
how rita is?
okay.
blake: for the first official
day, jasmin in l. a.
you know, there's, like,
little hiccups,
she wasn't feeling
too well at one point
and she was kind of upstairs
for a bit.
i know that
she was jet‐lagged,
but i just wish
she pushed through
and spent a little bit more time
with my friends and stuff,
but i get it.
she's tired.
you look great.
thank you.
as usual.
you too.
jasmin: i was nervous to meet
all of his friends
because they're new people.
all my friends in finland,
they're, like,
really close to me.
i know them since i was
it was a lot.
so i had to leave
because i wasn't feeling good
so i don't want to force myself
to sit there
if i'm not feeling good.
how'd you feel about
meeting everyone?
so everything was okay
when you went upstairs?
i know it was kind of
for a while, you know?
i figured, and i let them
know too, you know?
i would say that
i'm a people person,
but for her,
i don't know.
it depends on the mood
that she's in.
i think they understood.
if they came out to hang out
with us for the day
and then
next thing you know,
then you're gone the whole day.
it's just like, then what?
and then what did they
come out for, you know?
thank you.
i just didn't know if i should
come up there or what.
because ‐‐
just making sure.
blake: so, i asked jasmin
if she wants me
to go up to the room with her,
but obviously
she didn't need me.
she just needed some time
to herself.
and i guess i get it.
you know,
she knows i'm there for her,
but it's not my favorite thing
to hear,
not anybody's
favorite thing to hear.
what do you think
of how rita is?
she can be
very blunt at times.
i'm not too sure if it's
a finnish thing or what,
but she just voices her opinion
and says what she wants.
but i know that this is not
going to keep up
as the time goes on.
i know she's not going to be
like this a month from now.
you know what i mean?
i know she's not going to be
like this two months from now,
three months from now,
four months from now.
this is literally
the first and second day.
so whatever she's feeling
and going through, it's fine.
it's fine with me.
robert: today i'm going to meet
ben and stephanie,
bryson's grandparents, to talk
about the meeting with anny.
the first meeting with anny
and stephanie went horrible.
stephanie was way out of line.
she disrespected my lady.
are you guys using
birth control right now?
what form of birth control
are you using right now?
i mean, are you looking
to get pregnant?
right now,
anny can't stand stephanie.
it's important
for stephanie and anny
to get along
for the sake of bryson,
so they need to
figure something out.
how you doing?
how are you?
i'm fine.
good to see you.
good to see you.
hey, how's it going?
it's going great.
good. good.
robert: i'm a little nervous
about this conversation
we're about to have, so we're
going to see what happens.
i'm not going to let
nobody disrespect my lady.
you're doing okay?
yeah, i'm doing okay.
how y'all been?
good. good. good.
how's anny doing?
anny's doing great.
she just had
a little misunderstanding,
i guess, with stephanie
last time y'all had met,
so it was a couple of issues
that she had mentioning about
for her to take birth control,
something like that.
stephanie: yeah.
why would you mention that
to her
on the first day
of meeting someone?
that's kind of
out of line.
i don't think that
it's out of line.
i felt like
it's important for her
to be practicing safely
just because right now
the last thing you guys need
is another baby.
i don't see why she would be
so upset about it, but ‐‐
because
that's her body.
it is her body, but ‐‐
and if we choose
to have a child,
that's between us
and nobody else.
i mean, i want to say
that i feel bad for maybe asking
anny questions that i shouldn't
have been asking her,
but i kind of don't
feel bad about it
just because
i need to know this.
i have
very serious concerns,
and i'm not getting the answers
that i need from robert.
robert:
don't just go in for the k*ll.
you just harpooned her
real fast.
that's my personality.
because ‐‐
that's your personality ‐‐
and somebody's
got to make sure
that bryson is
taken care of.
but she's going to
take it that way.
i'm bryson's dad,
and i will always make sure
bryson is taken care of.
i know you will.
you and i both
are very protective over bryson.
we've got this
complete stranger
that came from a whole
different country
that just moved
into bryson's life.
i mean,
you only met her once
before she came here
and moved in.
we didn't know anything
about anny.
all of a suddenly,
this girl appeared.
she just manifested herself
out of the air
and we didn't know
anything about it,
so it scared us.
we were all of a sudden ‐‐
she didn't just
magically poofed and she's here.
it seemed like it to us, though.
it'd been a transition.
you just got to see it
from us.
all of a suddenly,
here's this girl
and now she's in bryson's life
and she doesn't like stephanie.
and it's like, well,
is she going to try
to keep bryson from us?
i mean,
what's going on?
whether she like it
or not,
you're bryson's grandparents,
and that's it.
i'm sorry that maybe i came off
a little too strong for anny.
i just want to make sure
that i'm still in bryson's life.
i was blindsided by everything
and, i mean,
i want you to be happy,
and you're right.
it's none of our business what
you do with your relationships.
it's not.
i just want to make sure
that it's okay for bryson.
that's all.
bryson loves anny.
anny loves bryson.
anny gets him up
and she takes him to school,
and she's doing
a real good job.
and she's dealing with that
and i respect that 110%,
to have the patience to deal
with a child that's not hers.
that shows me
she cares about my son.
i totally agree.
but my concern is,
it seems like
every time i hear you talk,
you talk about
how this benefits you,
how you have somebody
to take care of your kid,
how you can work more.
so i kind of
get the feeling
that you're just looking
for a maid.
i just don't want it to be
a mail‐order bride type of ‐‐
just so you can have somebody
to take care of bryson.
is this really
about love?
why would you
ask me that?
i'm not like that,
and y'all know that.
if i didn't love anny,
anny wouldn't be here.
ben and steph
is making it seem like
i'm just using anny
to be a babysitter.
that's just not right.
robert, you have 90 days
to get married,
and that's not
a very long time
to actually get
to know somebody.
i know you've been talking
to her over the phone,
but do you feel like
maybe you're making
a rash decision on this?
do you think she's using you
just to get a green card?
my heart is in it,
my mind is in it,
and i'm going forward.
stephanie: my concern is that
he's jumping the g*n.
you know, i get that she has
to be married in 90 days
or she's got to
go back home,
but i got a lot of
"she's convenient right now,"
and i think that in the future
it's going to backfire
and he's going to be
financially responsible,
it's going to affect bryson,
i think the whole thing is ‐‐
i'm a little worried.
have you guys picked out a date,
a wedding date?
robert: not really.
i'd like to go.
i would rather us sit down
and talk it out,
because that needs
to happen first.
okay.
fair enough. fair enough.
i see what you're saying.
maybe we can try again.
i'd like to make amends and sit
down and actually meet with her.
that could happen.
that's possible.
well, we have to kind of
get along for bryson.
robert:
ben and stephanie asked me
was i going to invite them
to the wedding.
i'm not going to do that.
if they squash
this beef with anny,
they can come to the wedding.
i'll leave it
in anny's hands.
i just want to make sure
i'm the right guy for you, baby.
you're right, you're right.
but i'm not going to give up.
mike: so, you do this
every morning, baby?
mike:
last night, i got dinner with
natalie's best friend, lana.
dinner with lana
was eye‐opening.
and at one point,
lana even brought up
her ex‐husband and stuff
and talked a little bit
about him.
when natalie got upset
about her ex,
i'm surprised how natalie
still reacts
since we both went through
a divorce over two years ago.
at the end of the day, we're
still learning about each other.
okay.
all right, kick my a*s.
what are we doing?
do like this.
what is this?
mike:
i'm definitely not a runner.
i just cannot find
my center of balance.
and i don't know
about everyone else,
but when you fall
from 6'7",
you've got a lot of time to
think before you hit the ground.
so we're ready to run?
let's do this.
come on.
i am.
geez.
i'm breathing in.
not holding my breath here.
women in ukraine are very much
different from women in the u. s.
women are more direct,
serious here and stuff.
you know what i mean?
so eventually, i think that
me and natalie will kind of
learn each other's
characteristics
and stuff so we'll be able
to joke around some more
and play around some more.
let's stop and get a sandwich.
run!
for as much as i thought
i was out of shape,
i'm doing pretty good.
so did you
used to do this
all the time
with your ex‐husband, baby?
michael.
do you know what i mean?
it's just curiosity.
i'm sorry to bring up
a sore subject.
just kind of came up last night
over dinner and stuff,
and then i was just
thinking about it right now.
i know how important it is to,
so, you know,
i need to get in shape,
better shape than i am now.
well, yeah.
right.
right.
no, i want to do it.
i want you to be my inspiration.
okay, so he wasn't
a runner either, right?
that's all i'm asking.
you know what i mean?
you're right, but i'm not
going to give up.
i just want to make sure
i'm the right guy for you, baby.
you know i love you. i want to
have the same interests as you.
no.
the only reason i kind of
bring up the ex‐husband thing
is because her friend asked
about it over dinner last night
and i felt like it was something
that i kind of needed to ask,
trying just to be supportive.
i'm just learning quick
that it's probably
just not a good idea
to talk too much about it.
well, i feel
kind of bad now.
it seems like
i made you mad.
i feel okay.
i was enjoying this run.
yes.
i was enjoying this.
i want to do this more.
but what i'm saying is,
yes, i like this nice,
steady jog out in nature.
i like to hike and do stuff
like this. okay.
all right.
perfect, baby.
do you want to go then?
all right, cool.
next time on "90 day fiancé"...
i've kind of got a knot
in my stomach right now.
i know it's hard for him to be
in this country for me
and i'm leaving for 30 days.
i'm sweating to death
worrying about this visa now.
you know the consequences
if you screw up.
it's either the k‐1
or k done.
i was just wondering
if you have any prenups?
a premarital agreement
about what should happen
if we get a divorce.
don't worry.
i think america is
a really great country.
but i will miss my family.
i will miss my children.
you and jasmin can't
live here together.
not acceptable.
blake: it sucks.
you know, my parents
are traditional
and they're old school.
no.
no?
gino:
i think marrying mursel
would be even more
of a burden for my mom.
okay.
situation solved.
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