previously on
"90 day fiancé"...
about what?
juliana bought
an automobile on my credit card.
why the would you buy
an automobile
within weeks of when you're
coming to america?
look bad?
we're done.
what are you excited for
to see or do?
okay, okay.
ooh.
i don't want you to be
just on the ipad
with the baby in the chair.
you know, play with him.
okay?
emily:
i don't know what's going on
in his brain right now.
like, is he fully committed
to this?
what?!
syngin:
tania leaving for 30 days
in the middle of the 90 days
makes more stress, more crunch.
i don't think we either of us
are ready for it.
are you getting ready?
getting ready?
for the wedding.
maybe i'm making a bad decision.
i don't know.
anna: i never expected to be
in this situation.
i just don't know what to do.
i destroyed you.
what'd you do?
did you block?
i think so.
things have been hard
since mursel has gotten here.
there's a lot of stress
with the language barrier,
getting the wedding planned.
and ever since the boys
found out that mursel's
keeping the boys
a secret from his family,
joey just hasn't been
giving him a chance.
he's been just really rude.
you're going to ever have to
choose between us and mursel?
he came here because i'm not
going to leave you guys.
i don't believe you
at all.
i really hope that everyone
would make an effort
to get along,
but joey just hasn't
made an effort.
hey, what are you guys
thinking about spending
a little more time with mursel
to get to know him?
‐25, what?
‐you got $25.
each.
you have to pay us
by the minute.
each. yep.
no, by the hour.
anna: despite all the issues,
i still love mursel.
we don't have a lot of time
before the wedding,
and we still have
a lot to do to get ready.
you need to go to your room
and get ready. come on.
so today the boys and mursel
are going to try on tuxedos,
and, hopefully,
they'll get to talk
and get to know each other
a little bit better.
this one?
mom, what kind of tuxes
are we going to get?
you guys ready?
no.
leo: ding‐a‐ling.
hi.
how's it going, guys?
‐doing good.
‐good.
‐my name is ashleigh.
‐thank you. i'm anna.
anna, nice to meet you.
awesome.
nice to meet you, too,
mursel.
well, anna, i know that
you called earlier today,
so we do have some stuff for
mursel and the boys to try on.
so i guess we can get
started with that.
come with me, guys.
i'm just going to grab the stuff
so we can go ahead
and get started
in the dressing room.
‐me?
‐yes, this is for you, yep.
so we have those three items
in there for him to put on.
alright.
alright, so you can go ahead
and head in.
anna:
you want disco shoes?
come on.
white disco shoes.
white ones?
‐wow, joey. nice!
‐why are you doing that?
‐i can't ‐‐
‐you can't move?
no, it's just the pants
are kind of tight.
yes?
wait. oh, no.
we have to match mursel?
‐do you like it?
‐no.
do you want
something different?
i don't care.
why don't you guys stand next
to each other so mom
can kind of see
what it looks like?
‐what?
‐stand next to joey.
you and joey.
‐by joey?
‐yeah.
‐you guys look really handsome.
anna:
i thought joey and mursel
looked really nice
in the matching suits,
and it's making me a little
more excited for the big day.
gino,
you didn't button it right.
mursel:
no, no, no, no, no.
‐you didn't button it right.
‐how do i do it?
okay, here, go.
come on.
‐i know i did.
get in here.
joey...
i don't know.
i don't know.
my relationship with mursel
is nothing.
doesn't matter.
he's just there
and i don't care
to get along with mursel
before the wedding.
did he tell his parents
about us?
joey wants to know if you told
your parents about the boys.
he hasn't told them.
anna: it really bothers me
that mursel still hasn't told
his family about the boys.
and the fact that joey's
asking about this
makes me think that joey
will never accept mursel
unless he comes clean
about this to his family.
i'm not.
do you want this wedding?
‐do i want what?
‐do you want the wedding?
‐do you want this wedding?
‐do you want this wedding?
no.
no?
why?
‐because it's stupid.
i think that marrying mursel
would be even more
of a burden for my mom.
and i think my mom is able to
change her mind if she wants to.
do you think you can put
some of the stuff behind you
and focus on the future?
no.
‐here is...
‐what?
oh...
okay. this is not about
what makes you happy.
okay.
okay.
so it's that easy?
okay, situation solved.
the kids.
would you really go back
to turkey because of joey?
i'm sure we can work
something out.
mm.
alright. let me give you
a couple of little pokes.
oh, god, dodie.
i'm angela.
i'm from hazlehurst, georgia.
and i'm 53 years young.
okay.
now it's getting real.
you better strap me.
i've always wanted to
get botox,
because i do want to look
as fresh as i can
and maybe a little younger...
okay, a lot younger.
doctor: alright.
angela and i are here because
she was getting some botox.
oh, geez.
she's going to get a beautiful
result, very natural.
i don't like when
women overdo it.
dodie.
oh, god.
i'm done.
oh, god.
holy
i'm getting botox to impress
my fiancé, michael.
oh, my god.
oh
michael, i hate you,
a*s
oh, my god,
that's a‐stingin'!
aah! damn it!
hey, angela...
mwah.
angela: michael is 31 years old,
and he's from lagos, nigeria.
we have been together
three years.
i call michael
my sexy nigerian.
michael and i met
on social media.
i befriended him,
because he was cute to me.
...we just started talking
on the phone 24/7.
and i realized, "oh
i'm falling in love
with michael."
angie, girl, i love you.
mostly, michael and
mine's relationship
has been long‐distance,
but after i flew over to nigeria
to meet michael
for the first time,
our relationship went
to a whole new different level.
ha!
some people look
at our relationship
as, michael being a younger guy
and being from nigeria,
that he's out for a visa
and he's scamming me.
i frankly don't like that,
but we've had our fights.
you're lying.
i'm ready to go home.
you.
and you're not
sorry.
there's your cake, michael.
if you ever think
that i will let you
another b*tch,
you got the wrong one.
i still have trust issues
with michael.
but despite the arguments
michael and i have,
we always seem
to come back together.
we still love each other.
this problem here with lying,
it ends tonight,
or i'm telling you...
i finally found the one.
i just felt it
with the first kiss.
ahh!
usa, here i come.
we filed for the k‐1 visa.
and michael's interview
is coming up real soon.
he could be here in america
within a month,
living with me
and my six grandkids.
what a party
we're going to have.
anna, that was fun.
you didn't do it good enough.
...anna...
who's the best meemaw?
‐you.
‐my meemaw.
‐who's the best meemaw?
‐my meemaw.
‐my meemaw.
i got a lot of responsibilities.
i'm the one that's financially
taking care
of everybody in my house.
my 78‐year‐old mama,
my daughter, skyla,
and my grandkids.
he might not have a job,
but michael is going to be
mr. mom.
it's not going to be kick back
and laid back
and watching television
and playing playstations.
that's not happening.
oh.
stop it.
i'm going to bust my a*s.
where my phone at?
got my phone.
i'm really nervous about
michael's upcoming interview.
and i can't sit still.
welcome to pittman's
country market.
how are you?
doing well.
how are you?
to get the k‐1 visa, he has
to show the government officials
that our relationship
is 100% real.
hey, baby.
look at all the jellies.
look at the candy
for the babies.
look.
look, michael, why don't you
try these sugar babies?
oh, you're laughing
at the country.
i got you, because i did
the same thing
when i came to your country.
i got it.
i'm in heaven.
you know, i'm a fat a*s.
michael, what's going on
with the interview?
did you go get everything
we needed?
i'm sweating to death
worrying about this visa now.
you're not nervous
about the questions?
michael, let me tell you
something i'm worried about.
if you're putting
on a damn show,
they going to know it,
and you're going to be denied.
i want to know
what makes you positive.
my god, you see,
i'm having to
pull the answers
out of your a*s now.
you ain't told me nothing
that i feel good spirit about.
you just say, "i got this,
i got this."
this interview is the last step
to get the k‐1 visa approved.
it's a yes or a no
to come to the states.
he has to bring all kinds
of documents,
proof of our relationship,
got to ask a question
about me and my family.
if he doesn't take
this seriously,
the government officials
will not take it seriously.
his a*s can be denied.
what are you going to do if
you don't pass this interview?
what is the plan?
no, we're not doing
the other way.
i'm not moving over there
to nigeria.
you already know
i'm not leaving my family.
you're going to make me mad.
i'm not.
that's it now.
michael, you're not
threatening me.
i'm not putting a visa
over your head, but you do know
if you screw up, i'm older.
i'm not younger.
you know the consequences.
if you screw up, we'll be done.
it better be.
if michael fails this interview,
i told him,
"we're probably done."
what else is there to do?
i mean, i'm not
moving to nigeria.
i've done told him this.
if he don't get this visa,
what are we going to do,
have a relationship
going over there once a year?
i don't have the strength.
i'm not getting younger.
it's either the k‐1 or k‐done.
while she's gone, you can help
out with mowing, weedwhacking.
we'll be power washing.
he's not a teenager
playing games, smoking weed.
he's a grown man.
she's very particular.
that was a heavy eye roll.
we have less than 24 hours
before we get on a plane.
and we have a whole life
that we have to fit
into three suitcases.
you're bringing so little stuff.
‐because...
because you just look like you
can pack up and leave anytime.
hello, my sugar.
hi, babe.
are you cooking up a storm?
yeah.
syngin: i've been in america
for about a month.
there's a lot of tough decisions
that goes into
getting married in 90 days.
and that causes a lot of
arguments
and a lot of fights
between me and tania
because there's
so much stress on us.
now, tania is leaving
for 30 days
because she's going
to costa rica, you know?
so, now it's like 60 days
to get to marriage.
it's a lot less time
to figure out our future.
‐hi, guys.
‐hey, hello. good afternoon.
hey, mummy.
oh, is it afternoon
or evening?
what are we eating?
made you a quick lunch, dinner,
before you head to work.
okay.
thanks.
i like the shed. you know, it's,
i feel, a little bit small.
well, actually, no, because
tania has a whole lot of things.
so, it's like that small
little space just...
so there can be sometimes
a lot of clutter around.
does it feel like a shed?
because it was a she‐shed,
i had to get all my
she‐shed stuff, the tanning bed,
everything else out
so you guys could move in.
thank you for giving up
that space for us.
i appreciate it.
mm. yeah.
so, you're going to be
heading to costa rica.
yep. heading to
costa rica soon.
i don't know.
yeah.
i get it. i feel bad for
leaving. guilty.
i don't want you to feel
guilty at all.
i'm just expressing
it's going to suck.
it's going to be...
you think it's weird
that i'm leaving him for...
within our 90 days?
i kind of was kind of concerned
that you were gonna leave him.
but at the same time,
you couldn't book it
for a different time,
anyways, so...
yeah.
kind of weird that
he's coming, you're leaving.
i get it sucks.
it's in the middle
of our 90 days.
but i'm not postponing it.
i feel bad i'm leaving him
behind, but this 90 days,
he's not allowed to leave
the country, and it sucks.
i'm excited for you two to be
together a little bit
while i'm gone, bonding some.
yeah.
excited, a little nervous.
you can borrow my car
as long as you're responsible.
it's a privilege.
yeah.
i understand that.
i expect syngin to help out.
he's not a teenager.
he's not someone wanting to be
in a basement,
playing games, smoking weed.
he's a grown man.
what else are you gonna do?
wake up, you don't have a job,
tania's not here,
so you walk around the yard
and you just say,
"hey, mom, what did
you want done today?"
if you can't show me
you can do this
without a problem
or an attitude,
i don't think you're gonna
be able to, you know,
have my daughter.
while she's gone,
you can help out
with mowing, weedwhacking.
we'll be power‐washing
the back patio.
okay.
so there'll be stuff that you
can keep occupied and whatnot.
we'll figure it out.
we'll be alright.
okay.
thank you, honey.
rice tasted really good.
i'm glad we covered
all these subjects and...
alright.
love you, mommy.
love you, too,
honey.
syng,
i'll see you later.
okay.
enjoy your day.
alright.
bye, guys.
bye, mommy.
bye.
when tania is gone,
me and her mom can have
a lot of alone time.
and it does feel weird to me.
she can be quite a little scary
at times, you know?
i know she's very hard‐headed,
and she thinks what she says.
it always kind of keeps you
on your toes, you know?
but i also have to respect
that i'm under her roof,
her car, her rules
right now, so...
yeah.
she's a little like me, though.
she's very particular, so
she probably wouldn't want to...
yeah.
that was a heavy eye‐roll.
yeah.
so, she'll probably, like,
want to talk you through
how she likes things done.
mm.
yeah.
gonna do it mom's way.
i'm under mom's roof,
so...
send me pictures of you
all sweaty, mowing the lawn.
shirt off.
i will do so.
mm.
of my dirty feet.
sounds good.
sounds great.
so, i flew out here,
and the limited time we have,
you know,
that's also very little.
that's almost nothing.
it's a blink of an eye.
so, for me, you know,
i would like to spend
all the time i have
with tania.
so that is a concern
for me, as well.
emily: shh.
we've got a ton to do today.
so can you get those suitcases?
yeah, sure.
alright.
so many things.
do you really need this all?
no, that's why i want
to go through it.
okay.
we have less than 24 hours
before we get on a plane,
and we have a whole life,
we made a whole life in russia
that we have to fit
into three suitcases.
so it's a really crazy time.
pajama pile.
skirt pile.
workout pants.
ha‐ha. do you think
i'll need my workout pants?
i hope so.
skirt...
baby, talk to him.
sports bra ‐‐
probably need that.
that will go
in workout clothes.
yeah, you need it.
these pants,
they're really tiny.
i can't even pull them up
right now.
take.
this will be your motivation.
okay.
before i was pregnant,
i was really slim
and i had
a lot of self‐confidence,
but now i have
a post‐baby body,
and i haven't really had
the time to work it off.
plus, sasha will have a lot
of opportunity in america
to try his hand
at fitness modeling,
so it puts a lot
of pressure on me
to lose the baby
weight faster.
da, da...
sasha, it doesn't feel like
you're moving right now.
it feels like you could go
back to russia anytime.
you're bringing
so little stuff.
yeah, i just...
yeah?
i don't think i need it.
you're arriving to america
with, you know,
just three shirts...
it's summer, right?
yeah.
a couple, few shirts and
couple shorts will be enough.
i don't know.
it looks kind of weird.
because...
'cause you just look like you
can pack up and leave anytime.
it doesn't really feel like
sasha is moving right now.
he's taking a couple shirts,
a couple pairs of shorts,
but he's barely
packing anything.
and it's worrying me
because i don't know
what's going on
in his brain right now.
like, is he fully committed
to this?
like, is he all‐in?
yeah, i just don't need
that many stuffs.
i can buy it in america.
are you feeling, like,
nervous at all?
you seem really relaxed.
about what?
about this trip,
about meeting my family,
about meeting my sister.
should i be nervous,
or what?
i don't know.
do you feel, like, any emotion?
sasha: emily is worrying
about meeting her family.
this can be not‐so‐comfortable,
but i'm not really nervous.
why should i?
she need to worry.
not me.
why this should make me
nervous?
they're my family!
okay.
i'll just smile.
remember, my mom doesn't know
everything about your past.
nothing?
well...
she knows
you're divorced.
uh‐huh.
but i don't know ‐‐
twice?
just don't bring it up
if she doesn't ask.
everything will be fine.
like you say,
everything will be fine.
alright.
you and jasmin can't
live here together.
‐not acceptable.
‐it sucks.
you know, my parents are
traditional, they're old‐school.
my mom and stepdad
think that way.
shackling together?
absolutely not.
blake: today, i'm bringing
jasmin with me to stay
with my mom and stepdad.
they're buying
their own house.
and so once they move there,
we'll be taking their apartment.
but we don't know
what day that'll be.
hope it's not too long.
go, blake!
go, blake!
i'm being supportive.
hi, mom.
hi!
mom, this is jasmin.
how you doing?
nice meeting you.
okay. beautiful.
how was your trip?
long?
tiring?
okay. i'm gonna make some food
and stuff like that.
my first thought of jasmin
when i saw her,
i thought she was beautiful.
she was kind of shy and real
quiet, and i'm a big talker.
and it's okay if she
doesn't talk too much,
but i think eventually
i'll get her to start talking.
so, we'll see.
show her around. let's start
from the living room.
this is
where we'll be staying.
‐so...
‐yeah.
that's pretty much it.
when david comes home from work,
david and i have something
to discuss
with blake and jasmin
that is very important to us.
hopefully, it doesn't
change anything for them
and they can continue to move on
with their relationship.
but that's something we must
discuss and is very serious.
let's start taking
some of this stuff out of bags.
mm‐hmm.
you know.
hey, honey.
hey, how you doing?
how was your day?
fine.
sure does smell good in here.
blake, jasmin, can we see you
guys for a short conversation?
‐okay!
‐how's it going?
‐alright.
‐good. how was work?
oh, it was fine.
hello, how you doing?
hi, nice to meet you.
‐very nice meeting you, jasmin.
‐finally.
yeah, you as pretty
as he said you were.
nice.
yeah.
so, you know, i don't really
have a lot of time,
but, basically, i came home
on my break 'cause, um...
because i think there was
some misunderstanding
in exactly what it was gonna
take place with, um...
you know, with the situation,
with the living arrangements.
there was, um...
miscommunication
that we didn't have clear
on our part.
blake: on what?
on, um...as far as, um...
you and jasmin being here.
and maybe it's my
misunderstanding or whatever,
or it wasn't explained
to me right.
but you and jasmin, you know,
can't live here together,
you know,
under the same roof.
‐what?
‐shackling together?
absolutely not.
we're not having that.
you already know
how we feel about it
as far as religion
is concerned.
mm‐hmm.
and in a christian family,
that's not what you do,
that's not what we do.
yeah.
jasmin, it's nothing personal
against you, you know.
she can be here as long
as she wants.
we welcome her,
and with no problem.
but, together, that's not
acceptable to us in our belief,
and that's how we would like
for it to be.
you understand?
yeah, but what was
the miscommunication?
'cause, like...
i didn't understand
that you were moving in
and jasmin was moving in.
blake didn't clarify
that exactly that ‐‐
that he would like
for both of them to move in.
this is how we do things,
and you know that.
that was, like, the whole reason
for her, you know, coming out.
that's just
unacceptable.
there's certain things
that, you know, we believe in,
and that we just don't want,
you know, to have up under ‐‐
going on in our home, so...
in our home.
that was, like,
part of the plan, so...
so, that was ‐‐
that was your plan.
you and her together here ‐‐
not acceptable.
you would have to be
with your brother,
and this is just
how it's going to be.
‐i thought part of the plan ‐‐
‐no.
it is what it is.
we're not changing our mind.
that's how it's gonna be,
and that's it,
and i don't care
if you're mad or not.
that's just how
it's gonna be.
mm‐hmm.
blake: my parents are religious,
and they don't believe in
living together
before getting married.
it sucks, you know.
my parents are traditional.
they're old‐school.
you know, my mom and stepdad
think that way.
huh?
i'm gonna make it work
no matter what
if this is something
that i want, so...
i don't know.
i guess it is what it is.
i'm still gonna have to find
a spot for the time being,
because, you know,
you guys' spot isn't ready.
and hopefully within two months,
we will be out of here.
and then three months,
you guys hopefully be married
and everything, and then...
you have anything, any feedback
you want to say or...?
if we're here, you're more
than welcome to come over.
right.
and that's how we're gonna
move on forward like this.
i don't know how else
to stand up for...
i don't know how
to stand up for it.
yeah.
no, that's not the fact
of good communication.
i always wanted to give juliana
a beautiful wedding.
we found a wedding planner,
and here we are.
the sky is the limit
with these things.
like, there's weddings
in greenwich
that, you know, are
quarter of a million dollars.
i always wanted to give juliana
a beautiful wedding,
but we're roughly 50, 60 days
into the 90 days.
suddenly, we realized,
"wow, we have to get married."
so we found a wedding planner
on short notice,
and here we are.
‐hello!
‐hi.
‐hi, guys.
‐how are you?
‐fine, thanks.
‐danielle.
‐nice to meet you.
‐hi. i'm michael.
‐i'm dan.
‐nice to meet you.
‐you too. dan.
‐hi. michael.
it's very, very hard
to plan a wedding
when you're
on the fiancé visa.
you don't know when
the visa is gonna hit.
you don't know when
your fiancé's gonna be here.
what? 'cause why?
oh, yeah.
so, why are you guys
looking to hire
a, you know,
wedding planner?
we have to get married
within 90 days of her arrival.
‐okay.
‐and time is sort of ticking.
okay.
just thought professional help
would be a good idea.
danielle: yeah.
so, in connecticut,
we're dealing with
a lot of money, obviously.
a lot of times,
it's second weddings.
um...
there's age gaps in this area,
definitely.
so, tell me a little bit
about your day,
what you're looking for.
‐sure.
well, not gonna be
a big guest count ‐‐
probably 40‐ish or so, and a few
little kids running around.
okay.
i don't know,
party, little dancing,
good food, good wine.
awesome.
and these are both your first
weddings, first marriages?
no.
no?
her first marriage was
what you could pretty much call
an arranged marriage.
and do you want, like,
white flowers for your bouquet?
pinks, reds?
pink and white? okay.
so, in terms of venues,
we're kind of looking
at country clubs, there's farms,
there's mansions
that we can host it at.
so, not a big ‐‐
and you live in greenwich,
don't you?
yeah.
have you ever thought about
hosting it at your home?
well, we could.
it's definitely something
to keep in mind.
obviously,
with the timeline,
we are looking
at venue availability.
so i would say that
your best bet
is to probably
keep it at your home.
yeah.
i like that.
makes it more special.
mm‐hmm.
that's right.
that's right. okay.
alright, cool.
let's do it at the house.
mm‐hmm.
awesome. okay, great.
so, obviously, the sky is
the limit with these things.
like, there's weddings
in greenwich
that, you know, are
quarter of a million dollars.
so, are we thinking
to stay within a budget?
is there a number
that kind of, like...
well, uh, good question.
we don't necessarily
have a budget, but...
you kind of want a ballpark
of what things are gonna cost?
yeah.
so, our fee is
around $10,000.
catering ‐‐ we're probably
talking around $15,000.
rentals ‐‐ i would say
you're probably gonna be
in like $12,000 range
for rentals.
so overall, probably in
the $50,000 to $100,000 range.
so, you guys had said
probably 30 to 40 people.
half from your side,
half from your side?
mostly...
mostly my side.
so, do they know that
you're having a wedding?
especially seeing a setup
for a wedding like this.
michael: when juliana and i
were serious,
i pledged that i would
support her any way i can.
financially, if she needed help,
if her family needed help.
you know, it's like,
her sister needed hearing A*DS.
like, okay, i'll help with that,
but i don't want to sound like
i'm just some distant dude
in america ‐‐
"here's money
and whatever you need."
you know, it's like,
being involved.
she comes from
a very poor family.
they just don't have much.
and so it would be weird
and maybe uncomfortable
for juliana,
for them to see
what would look like
a lot of opulence,
so then they would want ‐‐
they'd be leaning on her about,
"well, we need help, you know.
we could use some help."
and we do help
when we can, you know.
i think, some of her family,
if they were here
for this wedding,
would they enjoy this?
or would they look around,
because those flowers
over there, in their mind,
this is groceries for a week?
and where's the line at which
you're able to indulge yourself
a little bit
and not feel guilty
while you're still trying
to help others
who aren't as fortunate as you?
i don't know.
so, you say you're feeling
as sad as i am?
maybe not as sad
as you are.
i feel sad just letting her
go right now,
especially in the 90 days.
it just feels tight.
anna: maybe if you hang out
with mursel a little bit,
you'll notice
he's not such a bad guy.
i do.
alright, babe.
got the bags.
hey, baby, thanks.
it feels, like,
so weird.
it feels so real now that
i went to get your bags,
you know?
aww.
i'm definitely a lot sadder than
i thought i would have been.
so syngin's been here for about
a month and we're still
working on the shed.
it's still not
completely done,
but today, i'm leaving
for costa rica.
the timing sucks. it's in
the middle of the 90 days,
but it's really important to me,
because it's this
herbal apprenticeship program
that i've been wanting
to do for years.
as much as it sucks, because
i'm leaving in the middle
of our 90 days and i'm leaving
for a full 30 days
to a whole other country,
i'm not postponing it.
i really want to do this.
i'm really excited.
it's a great opportunity
and it's an investment
for mine and syngin's future.
so you say feeling as sad
as i am?
maybe not as sad as you are,
but i'm way sadder than
i thought i would have been.
that's a good thing.
yeah.
i love you, baby.
i don't think it's going to be
like as emo‐‐
like, the past times we left
the airports with each other,
like, people think we're dying
the way we're crying.
waaaaaah!
so you're the one
who makes funny noises.
why can't you
just be normal?
i'm such a ‐‐‐
people don't know if i'm beating
you or you're missing me.
i'm such a bad crier.
so i am not at all
looking forward
to staying in the shed
by myself.
i'm kinda sad, you know?
i feel like when i go
into the room,
it's just all her stuff around.
i have no friends to go to
at the moment, i'm just...
and i kind of feel lost.
and it sucks.
i'm literally
around everything that is
yours, you know?
you lived with friends
and family.
yeah. you know?
so it's just weird,
now i come back alone,
just chilling.
pillow smells like you.
it's fine, i know you've got
to go do what you got to do,
i'll just stay here
and miss you.
i don't know, i think it's
going to be also
a little bit harder than
i thought, you know?
yeah.
especially in these 90 days,
it's like...
aww.
no.
i am devastated that syngin
is going to be alone,
but something that i have
wanted to do for years now,
and i've put it off
and syngin's being
super supportive of me going,
and so i'm going to head off
and have a great time.
i suppose i'll be okay.
been through worse.
i have mixed emotions.
i am very happy for her,
that she's going to do something
she's been wanting to do
for a very long time.
i'm kinda sad,
because i envisioned us
to make use of every minute,
every second we have,
to kind of figure out
this big life decision,
but mostly i feel sad
just letting her go right now,
especially in the 90 days.
well...
anna: no, i just figured
we'd have some, like,
one‐on‐one time
without mursel.
i'm finding it extremely
difficult right now
being a mother, being a fiancée.
i'm really worried about mursel
and the boys' relationship.
it's not getting any better,
and, you know, maybe it won't.
with the wedding coming up,
i'm really hoping joey will try
a little bit harder with mursel.
i don't know what it would take,
but i'm hoping
something will change.
‐can we go swimming in the lake?
‐we can't swim.
there's a sign
that says no swimming.
come here, leo.
so we're going to the park
today
so we can sit down
and talk
about what happened the other
day while trying on tuxedos.
so, you guys, i thought we'd
have a nice picnic together.
joey, seriously. stop.
i can really ‐‐ i can see that
a lot of how my mom is really ‐‐
she really wants me and joey
to like mursel a lot,
but he just gets annoying
and, like,
i think mursel
is getting in the way,
because my mom, like,
we don't hang out anymore
because of mursel now.
i brought you guys out here
to, like,
talk about mursel and see how
you're feeling about things.
how do you feel about mursel
and i getting married?
you think we're going to
break up?
i am planning
on marrying mursel.
i don't plan on leaving
or breaking up with him, okay?
he's not going to leave.
okay?
you know, no matter what,
i'm going to be there
for you guys.
the boys mean everything to me.
my life revolves around them,
but i don't think they
appreciate everything
that i've given
and sacrificed for them.
and at some point,
i want to be happy, too.
he wants you there,
and you want to be there.
i don't want to be there.
i don't want to leave you guys.
mursel is in my life
because i want someone
to spend my future with.
you guys are going to ‐‐
but in turkey.
no, but think about it.
you guys are going to grow up,
go to college,
or begin a career.
i don't know what you guys
are going to do.
you can hang out
with leo.
no, i won't.
you guys are ‐‐
you'll all grow up,
and when you guys are gone,
i'm going to be alone.
you can find a guy
that we like, though.
i do.
maybe if you hang out
with mursel a little bit,
and you'll notice
he's not such a bad guy.
it's annoying that she keeps
talking about us spending time
with mursel.
i want to see her happy
because she is never happy.
but i don't really care to spend
more time with mursel.
well, we're getting married
in a month,
so i just really want you
to go to the wedding.
why?
'cause he's going to be
a part of my life,
and which, that means he's going
to be a part of your life.
that's fine.
i mean, just do whatever
you need to do, joey.
i think that joey's so used
to having me 100% of the time
that now that
somebody sharing that...
you know, he's jealous,
but he hasn't even given mursel
a chance.
he doesn't know mursel.
sorry. i'm gonna cry.
maybe i'm not supposed
to be happy.
i don't know.
it just seems like nothing
ever can work out.
like, i'm always...
like, battling,
you know, for everything.
just in life. i'm just...
i think america is a really
great country.
sasha.
but i will miss my family.
i will miss my children.
today is the day.
today we are flying to america.
i can't believe
it's finally here.
but we have been up
all night packing.
i am exhausted.
so, sasha's mom and dad came
over to help us with the baby
and to take us
to the airport.
okay. can we close it?
can you just calm down?
alright, put it
in the suitcase, please.
if the suitcase
is too heavy,
we pay $100 or maybe even more.
we need all the money
that we can save.
we have to pack our whole lives
in three suitcases
and i'm feeling really anxious
because traveling
with a baby,
it's super stressful.
sash,
we have 25 minutes
to bring down all this stuff.
we can go.
oh, we have to sit.
it's a russian tradition.
i guess you need to sit
before a journey
because you don't want
the spirits
in the house to get upset.
sasha: it's kind of superstition.
i know it's a
my family and many
russian families
are following
this tradition.
sasha: emily is nervous.
she wants to be sure to pack all
things, to not forget anything.
and she is worrying about baby
because this will be
a long flight.
but i feel so excited.
finally.
i cannot believe this
is happening
and we are leaving russia.
we've been waiting
for this so long.
aah!
when we come to america,
our 90 days will begin.
da, da, da, da, da.
i'm sure i will miss my family,
i will miss my children,
but i'm really excited
to marry emily
and then be really successful
in america,
have my own gym,
and one day, i'm going to swim
in the pacific ocean.
i am just so overwhelmed
that i just couldn't
keep it all in anymore.
we left.
i am nervous about moving back.
i have to find a job
all over again.
i have to get us a place,
and i really hope my family
will accept sasha
and gives him a chance.
i have a lot of emotions
right now,
and sasha had to comfort me.
that's what i love about him.
he's my rock.
just a moment.
emily: alright.
i think we're right here.
it's time to say goodbye.
sasha?
emily: i'm sorry, baby,
we have to go.
bye‐bye.
we'll see them again.
♪♪ 'round and 'round
the village ♪♪
i'm just going to have to
go my brother's place.
hope that doesn't make you
want to go back and leave.
i didn't move to here
to be in a long‐distance
relationship again.
♪♪ 'round and 'round
the village ♪♪
♪♪ 'round
and 'round the village ♪♪
♪♪ 'round and 'round
the village ♪♪
♪♪ as you have gone before ♪♪
okay. let's go.
let's go, let's go,
let's go.
let's have some fun.
i think from ‐‐ yes.
okay. one, mm‐hmm.
wow, i wonder who's leading.
wow.
yes.
all: yes!
‐yes!
‐bye‐bye.
‐bye!
‐bye!
‐the luck of the draw.
‐so i've been abroad
for like 15 years,
so i've lived all over
the world, from spain to ‐‐
‐hello.
‐ah, michael.
‐hi.
‐hi.
how are you?
‐lynsey.
‐lynsey.
‐bibi.
‐bibi.
‐maka.
‐maka. okay, i'm michael.
‐nice to meet you.
‐thank you very much.
dana: moved to the states, lived
there for about a decade,
and then moved here to lagos
about five years ago now.
i met michael
a few weeks ago,
and he said that he was
moving to america
to be with his fiancée.
so it's kind of cool
to be able to advise michael
on what to expect.
where's angela?
oh, yeah?
where in the states?
‐ooh, so that's like deep south.
‐when are you moving?
did you have your
visa appointment?
yeah, those are hard
to get right now.
ooh, the american embassy
is a nightmare.
are you excited?
oh!
it's hard for sure.
how do you feel
about moving to georgia?
has she told you about
what the town is like?
is it very diverse?
are there other black people,
asian people?
there's still like segregation
in some places.
especially in somewhere
like georgia.
nneamaka: i'm born and raised
in california,
and being black in america
is serious.
like it's not a small thing,
especially in a rural area.
i lived in a small town before
in the middle of nowhere,
and there's still
a lot of racism there.
we can be hopeful, but i worry
about him a little bit.
have you thought about what
you're going to do for work?
‐of course, as a nigerian man.
‐of course. yeah.
dana: sure.
how old is she?
‐53?
‐how old are you?
well, okay, so there's
a 20‐year age difference.
so she's 53.
you don't want children then?
because she can't have children.
you do.
how do you plan on...
will you adopt?
you're marrying
an older woman.
probably via i. v. f.
do you know
how expensive that is?
also, she has to be able
to actually carry the baby.
oh, wow.
so you're moving to georgia
and you also want to convince
one of her children
to carry your child.
no, to give an egg.
‐with the i. v. f.
‐with the i. v. f.
don't you think this is
a little bit too much?
it's crazy what you're
getting yourself into.
i think people have a lot
of ideas about what moving
to america is about,
but reality
will definitely come in.
i mean, i hope him
the best,
but it seems like
the most outrageous thing
that he could possibly do.
i think he's in for
a very, very rude awakening.
reality is going to hit him.
it's going to hit him quick
and fast and hard.
i'm just ‐‐ i don't know,
i'm a realist.
maybe i've lived
in lagos too long,
but it just sounds
like you're living
in a little bit
of a fantasy.
love is not enough.
there's so many things
you have to think about.
i hope we're not
scaring you.
people are going
to be curious,
they're going to be
asking you these questions.
americans are pretty ‐‐
i mean, we're full‐on.
this is just a prep session,
so you should do it
we just want to give you
the reality of the situation.
totally.
you know, just keep focus,
eye on the prize, baby.
‐and be prayerful.
‐yeah.
well, good luck.
we wish you the best.
‐wish you the best.
‐you'll be fine.
you'll be good,
you'll be good.
blake: today was
supposed to be the day
that jasmin and i move
into my parents' place.
but because they don't
believe in
living together
before marriage,
i can't stay here, and i'm going
to have to leave.
and it sucks because we have
to spend these 90 days apart.
yeah, is it far from here?
he's not too far.
it's not that far.
you know, i know that's
not what we discussed.
and i know that's not
how it's supposed to be,
but i don't know, i guess
that's what we have to go with.
those strangers are going
to be family soon,
so at least they're not
strangers forever.
i hope it doesn't make you
want to go back
and leave and go home.
hmm.
all this stuff
that we had to ‐‐
and now go ‐‐
go up against.
i am little annoyed that blake
wasn't prepared for me to come.
i moved to l. a. to be with blake
and live with blake.
i didn't move to here to be
in a long‐distance
relationship again.
well, you wanted to come early,
so that's what happens.
but i still told you, "this
is when i want you to come,"
and you still insisted
on coming early.
so that's what happens.
can you try to be here
as much as you can?
because i don't want
to be here alone.
yeah, i will.
well, at least it's not like
it's something forever,
something that, like,
we have to live with, you know?
mm‐hmm.
i just don't want
to be here alone.
okay.
and then i'll call you
first thing in the morning
and see what you're doing,
seeing if you're up.
this is not zipped.
okay.
okay.
bye, babe.
bye‐bye.
i'll text you
when i get there.
yeah.
i mean, it is what it is.
you know, i have to roll
with the punches, i guess.
and i just don't want it to be
a factor that makes her go home.
kind of got like a knot
in my stomach right now.
i know it's hard for him to,
like, be in this country for me
and i'm leaving for 30 days.
oh.
i can't kiss while
i'm driving,
but i'm going to sneak
a quick one.
me and tania are going to the
airport to go drop tania off.
she's going to costa rica.
she's gone for 30 days
in the middle of the 90 days.
i'm a little bit sad
that she's going. it sucks.
but i also have understanding
of why she's going
and why she's doing it.
and i'm a little nervous
because i have no friends
to go to while she's gone.
i have no family.
i'm just like ‐‐
i'm all alone in the backwoods
of america, you know?
i kind of got, like, a knot
in my stomach right now.
i feel happy for you but kind
of sad for myself, as well.
but it's okay.
it is what it is.
i don't know.
i just feel nervous.
kind of feel like
i'm going to get to costa rica
and feel like i forgot
important stuff behind.
i guess maybe it's because
i'm leaving you behind.
yeah, you forgot
the most important thing
you're leaving behind.
syngin, he supports me,
but, also,
i know it's hard for him
to be here with no one,
be in this country for me,
and i'm leaving for 30 days.
i know it's hard for him.
i know i seek a lot
of your attention.
and i know you're not going
to be available as much.
i don't know
when you want to talk.
when can you talk?
that kind of...
i don't know.
we have to figure it out
because i'm going to be
in this class five days a week,
maybe six days a week.
on weekends,
i'm going to want to explore.
i'm in this country
i've never been in before.
i want to take
advantage of that.
of course,
we need to talk.
i would like to talk.
yeah.
at least once a day.
i will call
and i'll message you in between
and send you a photo of
where i am, what i'm doing.
syngin definitely is
the clingiest man
i've ever been with.
there's been times
where i've had to go
to trainings for work
and i can't talk to him as much.
i can call him
and say good morning
and i can call him
and say good night.
he's like, "why can't you
call me during lunch?
why can't we talk then?"
he gets pouty.
he gets upset.
i need him to know
that i love him
and just because
i'm not around all the time
or calling you all the time,
i still love you.
i just need him
to be okay with that.
like, your needs are,
like, a lot more,
you need to talk to me
more often,
where i don't need
to talk as much.
so how can we both meet
our needs, like, in the middle?
yeah.
how can i still feel
free enough to, like ‐‐
if i don't call you,
it's not going to result
in this huge fight
or something, you know?
because that adds
stress onto me.
like, "oh, my god,
i've got to call syngin
before we get
into a fight."
i don't want that, either.
i'd already tried my best
and i don't want to stress
you out while you're there,
but i love you and support you
in whatever you do.
thanks, baby.
it means a lot.
i'm not going to cry
while i drive.
i know. i can see it.
i can always tell when you
want to.
your eyes gloss over.
yeah, but it's okay.
it's okay.
no, but it's okay to cry.
you can cry whenever
you want, babe.
hi.
checking in.
this is it, baby.
just give me
a great ol' hug.
ohh.
you must go and have fun
and just do whatever
you need to do.
and i love you
and i'm going to miss you
and i'm going to think
about you all the time.
give me a kiss.
mm.
i have something for you.
it says, "my sugar..."
"...i love you
a lot, a lot."
god, i love you
a lot, a lot.
i'm saying goodbye,
and he pulls out this gift
that he had made for me
while he was in south africa,
and it says, "my sugar,
i love you a lot, a lot."
like, he'll say, "i love you."
and i'll be like,
"i love you a lot, a lot,"
and he'll be like,
"a lot, a lot."
"a lot, a lot"
is just our thing.
and it just melted
my heart so much.
am i going to
fit it in this?
no.
bye, baby.
you can watch me
go through.
i love you.
i love you, too.
a lot, a lot.
i'll miss you, okay?
i know.
alright, i love you.
i love you, too, babe.
feeling very sad, you know?
it's not a happy day for me.
because any time i say goodbye
to her, it's always a sad time.
but it's only one month,
so i'll get to see her again.
i love you so much, eh?
i love you, too.
it just sucks.
i was just wondering
if you have any prenups.
out of nowhere,
sarah asked about the idea
of a prenuptial agreement.
it's a legal agreement
about what should happen
if something should go wrong
in our marriage.
what do you want me to do?
should i turn
the burner on here?
juliana and i finally moved
into the new house.
it's been a couple of weeks,
and we are finally settling in.
‐hi, guys.
‐oh, hey.
hey. um, here are max's
football pants.
oh, thank you.
yeah, sorry, hold on.
and then i brought some extra
dog food for percy and howard.
‐okay, thank you.
‐you're welcome.
how you been?
good. how's the wedding
planning going?
we found a great
wedding planner.
she's really on it.
we've got catering,
got a tent for the front.
one of the loose ends
is, um, the officiant.
i don't know. like,
if you get backed into
a corner or something,
i could look into
getting ordained
and do it for you guys
if you wanted to.
that's ‐‐
that's weird.
we had already reached out to
a couple potential officiants,
both of which, just on
short notice,
weren't available.
what do you think?
i'm happy that
it's something
she's willing
and wants to do.
so, you know, this is sort of
an uncomfortable conversation,
but i wouldn't be a good mom
if i didn't ask.
you know, uh...
i was just wondering
if you have any future plans
to ensure that the kids'
financial well‐being
is secure
and taken care of.
this is a huge step,
and so i do want to have
some prenuptial agreement
for no other reason
but that max and cece
would have something
out of my responsibility
to them. you know?
it was very curious to me.
out of nowhere,
sarah asked about the idea
of a prenuptial agreement.
in all honesty,
when sarah and i were married,
we had nothing,
less than nothing.
there was no reason to talk
about prenuptial agreements.
but, suddenly, fast‐forward
and got a couple of kids,
worked hard, i've got stuff.
it is something that's
been on my mind.
so, um...
prenuptial agreement.
prenup.
prenuptial agreement is
before you get married,
it's a premarital agreement
about what should happen
if something should go wrong
in our marriage.
okay.
and what does
that mean for you?
what does it mean for me?
and it's something that we
agree on
before getting married.
i believe 100%, obviously,
in our relationship,
but what happens
if there's divorce?
how does that affect assets
and things and stuff?
i get it.
yeah, i got you.
okay. i hope i didn't
stir the pot in any way,
but i got to run
and grab max, so...
i felt uncomfortable about
having that conversation
with juliana in that moment,
but it was important
for me to know
that the kids
will be taken care of,
and that's all i care about.
bye, michael.
thanks. thank you.
thanks for everything.
bye, honey.
juliana didn't really
quite understand
the idea
of a prenuptial agreement.
it's very sensitive.
nobody likes to think about it,
but what if something
should go wrong?
it's going to be
a very difficult conversation.
next time
on "90 day fiancé"...
so do you love me, or do you
just love the apartment?
michael:
i thought it would be best
to go to a mediator to discuss
what would happen if
things didn't work out with us.
you're going to keep all
your assets just in your name?
yeah.
you know when you're taking care
of the baby and i'm at work,
you're not going to have
as much time for the gym
as you probably want.
emily:
i don't think sasha realizes
how different life
is going to be here.
your family can help me.
it's not their job
to take care of him.
when do you plan
to have the wedding?
within the 90 days.
here in america
or over there?
he better get that visa.
this doesn't feel right
to me.
i'm just being honest.
i love you.
i can't go into a marriage
with this lie about my children.
i'm not leaving my boys
for your family, no.
just the same way as any
other people raise a child.
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