previously on
"90 day fiancé"...
i kind of get the feeling that
you're just looking for a maid
just so you can have somebody
to take care of bryson.
‐no?
i'd like it if my mom
didn't marry mursel.
i'm sweating to death
worrying about this visa now.
you know the consequences
if you screw up.
it's either the k‐1 or k‐done.
i just want to make sure
i'm the right guy for you, baby.
you're right. you're right.
i was just wondering
if you have any prenups.
michael: a marital agreement
about what should happen
if we get a divorce.
sasha: i think america is
a really great country.
but i will miss my family.
i will miss my children.
michael: my ex‐wife and i,
we're extremely close friends,
and our children
bring us together,
but out of nowhere,
sarah asked about the idea
of a prenuptial agreement.
i don't think she was worried
about juliana.
just making sure
whatever decisions i'm making,
i'm also thinking
about max and cece.
okay.
prenup.
prenuptial agreement.
um ‐‐
it's something
that gets worked out
before people get married
that would dictate
what happens
should something happen
and we were to get a divorce.
it's mostly to make sure
that my kids would
still be protected.
mm‐hmm.
you know?
if a problem started with us.
you know?
that's all.
part of it is making sure your
interests are protected, too.
and, i mean, frankly, the ‐‐
it's usually the woman
who gets very, very
heavily protected
if there's something
that happens.
prenup. prenup.
no. but when we got together,
i mean, we had less than zero.
we had college loans, and we
were just getting out of school,
and we didn't have
anything anyway.
there's no real reason.
you know?
mm‐hmm.
michael: the divorce for
sarah and i was very expensive.
it's amazing
how much lawyers can cost,
let alone how you have to ‐‐
what you have to do
to divide things up.
it's a horrible thing
to go through.
i never want to do it again.
but having gone through it,
i've learned a lot of lessons.
i am telling you before.
before we go get one.
i know. i can't answer why
sarah would bring it up.
that is very out
of character of her,
and it's a bit ‐‐ it's a little
bit uncouth, if you ask me.
well, it's probably...
the only thing i can
think of would be things
with max and cece ‐‐
school, behavior.
you know?
well, we're gonna ‐‐
we would just sit down
with lawyers or mediator,
discuss with them what
we're trying to achieve,
and then they work with us
for what the best sort of
agreement would be, you know?
man on p. a.: this is delta,
where we ask you
to please remain seated
with your seatbelts on
until the seatbelt sign
has been turned off.
he wants to eat.
after waiting
for over six months,
i'm finally heading
back to america
with my fiancé, sasha,
and little baby, david.
sasha: i'm really excited
to go to america.
i want to see mountain.
i want to see ocean.
you know, it's another world.
emily: we are flying to chicago
because my sister, betsy,
lives just two hours away
in south bend, indiana.
we are meeting my sister
and my mom at the airport,
and i'm so excited to see them.
i hope customs
doesn't take too long.
it's gonna take
a long time.
she didn't leave the country
with the baby.
she came back
with a baby.
it's been a long time
since i've seen emily,
so i'm excited
to see her,
but sasha,
i've never met him before.
i can...
we want to see the baby.
we're here to see the baby.
i mean, i'm just not
as excited to ‐‐
we've seen emily before.
emily: let's see
if we can find grandma.
aah!
oh, my...
‐can i?
‐yeah, of course. take him.
my baby! oh, my god!
ohh!
he's so cute, right?
betsy:
he's so happy! aww!
‐sasha.
‐nice to meet you.
i am so happy
sasha's here in america
and he gets to meet
my mom and my sister.
it's great.
she's been waiting
for you so long!
hi, sweetheart!
ohh!
‐ohh!
‐do you see those teeth?
i do!
‐do you want to hold?
‐yes.
he weighs a lot.
he's really, really heavy.
‐you got a heavy head.
‐so big.
‐you're gonna carry him?
‐yes. this is my baby now.
karen: here. my turn.
hi, sweetheart!
oh, sweet, sweet boy.
mama's already outside.
i like him.
‐your eyes are so green!
‐so pretty!
he's beautiful.
you left with just you, and
you came back with two boys.
‐two boys.
‐yeah, two of them.
sorry we're not more
excited about you.
sasha: oh, it's okay.
it's fine.
betsy:
this is america.
you're gonna set foot
on american soil now.
‐hello, new world.
‐hello, america.
it feels great right now,
because i see
my sister and my mom.
they're so happy to see us.
but now everything starts.
the 90 days begins.
we got a lot to do
and real life.
karen:
so, this is the midwest.
sasha:
wow. it looks different.
it's bigger than moscow city,
right, babe?
‐the building?
‐mm‐hmm.
‐of course.
‐cool, right?
yes, baby.
i really believe that america
is a land of opportunity.
so if i work hard,
i'll make my career
as a personal trainer
and a fitness model...
so i can buy the house,
i can buy cars,
and we will live
happy life together.
sasha: i can take him
yeah, he just needed
some fresh air.
we're staying with my sister
until we figure out
where we're going to be living.
‐welcome.
‐ohh!
so, i'm gonna give up
my room for you guys.
we can go check it out.
okay.
i know betsy is skeptical
of sasha because of his past,
but i hope that she accepts
sasha and gives him a chance.
even though
i grew up in america,
i'm basically starting
my whole life over.
we got to figure
where we are going to live,
i have to find a job
all over again,
so there's a lot of things
that we need to do,
but i have faith that
we can accomplish it all.
all right. i think
he's gonna fall asleep.
he's gonna suck his thumb.
let's go.
night, baby boy.
we love you.
angela: my fiancé, michael,
is coming to the united states,
and we need to lay down
some ground rules.
when michael gets here,
there's rules we're gonna have.
and you can't sleep with meemaw
no more, either,
because papa's gonna be
sleeping in the bed.
why?
mike:
sometimes i feel like natalie
feels like i'm a bad person
because i don't go to church.
makes me kind of
feel like she judges me.
come here, grandma,
take a picture with me.
oh my gosh.
you a sexy beast.
i don't know how
i'm gonna do this.
right now,
i got my six grandkids,
my 78‐year‐old mother, and
myself living under one roof.
there ain't no directions
to this?
i don't know ‐‐
i don't know how to do this.
and my daughter skyla
she don't live with me,
but she might as well.
y'all go in there. i'm trying
to put this lock on the door.
my fiancé, michael, is coming to
the united states from nigeria
to live with me and my family
in a couple of months.
and once michael gets approved
to come to america
on the k‐1 visa, we'll have
come here. let's go in here.
we're gonna go have
a family meeting.
when michael
gets his visa approved,
he's gonna be
the man of the house,
and we're gonna need
our privacy,
so i bought a new lock
for our bedroom door
and we need to lay down
some ground rules.
this is serious, now!
hey! tighten up. come on.
listen.
papa's getting ready to come.
we're putting a lock
on the door back there.
do you know what the lock means?
‐don't go in.
‐don't come in.
back room's gonna be off limits
when papa gets here.
i know y'all are
used to running freely.
because he's a man, right?
yeah.
we've never had a man
be over the house, right?
so he might be getting dressed,
so he's gonna
have to lock the door.
you can't sleep with
meemaw no more, either,
because papa's gonna
be sleeping in the bed.
where?!
no. he's gonna sleep
with meemaw.
that's where husbands sleep,
is with their wives.
so, listen to me for a minute.
when michael gets here,
there's rules we're gonna have.
and when i'm gone,
michael's in charge.
when he tells y'all to do
something, you got to do it.
just like skyla's gonna
have to listen to him, too...
‐no, ma'am.
‐oh, yes.
no, ma'am.
the kids are excited
for michael to arrive,
but my daughter skyla
is not excited at all,
especially since i asked her
for her help to have a baby.
michael wants a baby.
and you know i probably
can't give him a baby.
you're not what?
don't ask me
to have y'all baby.
you are not taking
one of my eggs...
skyla thinks that i'm too old
to have a baby.
she also thinks that
he don't even want a baby,
he's after american citizenship.
but i know different.
if she would give him a chance,
he could change her mind.
michael will be in charge.
this is what it's about.
i ‐‐ yeah.
no, that's not right.
he's gonna be taking care
of these kids,
helping me and you.
skyla: mom, i know
he got you convinced
that he's gonna be mr. mom
and help around the house,
but he ain't got me
convinced.
she don't like to say
nothing good about michael.
skyla: honestly, i don't think
michael can be responsible
for a house full of people,
young'uns, you know, grandma.
he's just trying to scam mama.
that's gonna be
your stepdaddy, girl.
step up to the plate.
‐he's not my stepdaddy.
‐yes, he is.
no, he's not.
you're delusional.
angela:
but at the end of the day,
he is gonna be
the man of this house,
and everybody
better get used to it.
'cause he's gonna be my husband,
and if nobody can deal
with that, i can't help you.
michael's here for me.
he doesn't have to win
nobody else over but me.
no matter what skyla
thinks about him,
i know michael loves me,
and he's gonna come here,
and he's gonna help out.
it's my house, my rules,
and i'll have 90 days
to figure this out.
all right. let's get ready
for bed, y'all. come on.
all right.
y'all get out of here.
natalie: love?
‐love?
‐hmm?
how do you feel?
morning!
morning.
boo! boo‐boo‐boo!
you know what he came
to tell you today?
that today is wonderful day.
you know why?
mnh‐mnh.
because you're
going to church.
i'm going to church?
yep!
today me and mike
are going to church...
mike:
the struggle is real right now.
me and natalie have opposite
views when it comes to religion.
she believes in god,
and i don't believe in god.
but i am a big belief
in, like, ancient aliens,
and to say that we're
the only ones in the universe
is, i think, absurd.
‐you look beautiful, baby.
‐thank you.
there's things out there
that got to be
way more advanced
and smarter than us.
and everything
throughout the world, religious,
has never met,
but they built pyramids
on every single continent.
so where did that come from?
how did everyone know
to build pyramids?
aliens are real. certifiable.
oh. open the driver's door
for you?
yeah.
in ukraine,
men open door for woman.
come on in.
okay.
oy vey.
god bless me, please.
god bless me.
um...
natalie: aah!
babe, what ‐‐
what are you doing?
do you know how to drive?
i forgot.
baby. don't push ‐‐ just let it
go back and turn the wheel.
oh, my god.
ooh! i'm sorry!
don't k*ll me. please.
if there is a god out there,
please save me.
can i get
a hallelujah here?
yes, now you're gonna pray.
oh, my goodness.
you see?
i'm smart woman.
ohh.
baby, no. just please
concentrate on the road and ‐‐
red light, baby. red light,
red light, red light.
red light.
baby, don't hit the car!
aah!
my god! i'm sorry!
why are you
on the train tracks?
get off the trai‐‐
oh, my car.
can i ‐‐
can i drive with you?
my neck still hurts.
you're not driving no more.
you're not driving no more.
i thought
i was gonna meet ‐‐
i'm sorry. just ‐‐
do you forgive me?
i will pray for
forgiveness, okay?
mm‐hmm.
natalie: mm‐hmm.
so, what are these?
so, what do these ‐‐
what do these represent?
guess this is jesus.
what, the virgin mary?
‐yes. yes.
‐okay.
i don't ‐‐
i don't want to over‐promise
anything, baby, okay?
but i am here
to support you. okay?
i can't, like, it's just
not in my heart right now.
i don't judge people or anything
for their beliefs and stuff.
you know, i don't like people
to judge me or anything.
you know?
mm‐hmm.
why?
but life has rules of its own
if you follow it.
just 'cause i don't
believe in god
doesn't make me
any of those things.
see, now i feel like
you're judging me.
i don't want to be judged.
mike: it's not easy for me and
natalie to talk about religion.
sometimes i feel like natalie
feels like i'm a bad person
because i don't go to church.
but i don't believe in god.
you know? that's just who i am.
but it doesn't mean
we can't have a...
a loving family
at the same time.
you know, sometimes i just
get worried, you know,
that natalie can't really
accept me for who i am.
i just look at different things
in a different aspect,
in a different way
than you do, okay?
when things happen,
you know, and you say
that you need
to come here and talk...
huh?
viviana:
cheers! yes!
the ladies just kept
buying shots and shots ‐‐
and me, double shots ‐‐
and it was just
quite a bit of alcohol.
he said i can drink once a week,
but he doesn't want to kiss me
or have sex with me if i drink.
‐come on in.
‐wow.
anna: mursel and i are
getting married soon,
and i've got some concerns
with the language barrier
and the boys and mursel
not getting along.
how do you feel about mursel
and i getting married?
i'm planning on marrying mursel.
i don't plan on leaving him.
you can find a guy
that we like, though.
‐no.
‐why?
because it's stupid.
anna: wedding invites
have been sent out.
all my family know
about the wedding
and are planning on coming.
i feel like
there's a lot of pressure
to go through with it.
but tonight my friend vivi
has offered to throw me
a bachelorette party.
hey, vivi.
hey, anna!
you look beautiful!
‐you do, too.
‐i love your necklace.
i haven't had any girls' nights
since mursel's arrived.
so this is like
finally i get to get a break,
have some fun,
not worry about someone
telling me not to drink.
who's got
your kids tonight?
‐oh, yeah.
‐uh, mursel.
so you haven't told him
any stories, then,
about who
you're going out with?
woman: like he doesn't know
about any of this?
he doesn't need to know
my drinking stories.
anna: i haven't told
most of my friends
about the struggles
that we've been going through.
so i might get crazy. we'll see.
shots!
shots, shots,
shots, shots, shots!
all: to anna!
the ladies just kept
buying shots and shots ‐‐
and me, double shots ‐‐
and it was just
quite a bit of alcohol.
it's kind of a blur.
so, from here forward, you're
not supposed to drink, right?
no. i can ‐‐ he said i can
drink once a week.
so, i mean,
that is the beginning ‐‐
but he doesn't want to kiss me
or have sex with me if i drink.
that is a ‐‐
wait a minute.
because he says my breath ‐‐
my mouth smells bad.
do you drink often, though,
enough for him to not want
to do that with you?
no, i don't drink that much.
once a week i like to drink.
but my question is,
is he willing to waiver
on whether or not
he's going to you
if you've had a few drinks.
that's a lifestyle‐change
problem.
we've done it after
a couple drinks.
okay.
but he doesn't want to kiss me,
i think, is the thing.
‐here's another question.
‐is it ‐‐
we're digging
into this.
‐we're on this path.
‐oh, gosh.
does he go
on you?
‐no.
‐no!
it's not like ‐‐ no.
i don't like that, so it's fine.
‐you don't like it?
‐i hate it. it's gross.
what?!
me!
he has ‐‐ he's got big hands
for his size.
of course, my friends started
asking about my sex life.
all i'm gonna say is...
i have no complaints.
i know that, like, you have
like 90 days to kind of decide
if this is, like, in fact,
what you want to do
for basically, like,
the rest of your life.
do you feel that, like,
you're ready for this?
like, i'm ‐‐ before he got here,
i was 100%,
but, like, we didn't get
to spend that much time.
you know? like...
we've spent
like a month together
in this past
almost two years.
‐yeah.
‐why are you rushing?
i'm not really rushing.
it's just like ‐‐
what choice do we have?
if we don't get married
in the 90 days,
he has to go back to turkey
and then we have to reapply,
and that could be
another year or two years.
but maybe
it takes that, though.
yeah.
like, is this the
right thing? for you?
i feel like anna
has some reservations
that i'm concerned about.
i don't want her
to make a decision
that she'll regret
for the rest of her life.
i do think that she might
be making a big mistake.
i think she might be rushing
instead of really
getting to know the depth
of who she's getting ready
to marry.
do you think he's, like,
ready to be a parent?
he's kind of like a kid.
so, for instance,
he pisses on the toilet seat.
i wipe it up.
woman: oh, no. oh, no.
‐ohh.
‐that's a no‐no.
it is a no‐no.
but i'm just saying.
i got a house full of boys,
and i'm used to cleaning it up.
yes, yes. i get it.
like, he's been here, you know,
almost this 90 days,
and i'm like ‐‐ he's like
another freaking kid.
no. no.
i've never taken them.
oh, wow.
you never ‐‐ wait. what?
she's never taken
the boys with her.
‐they didn't know about it.
‐the boys ‐‐
like, uh, he has to
keep them a secret.
oh, what?
oh, whoa, whoa, whoa.
so his family doesn't know
about your kids? wow.
he said in their culture,
it's bad that he's marrying
a woman that is taking care of
or raising her own children.
viviana:
as far as right now,
i don't think that
anna really understands
if she's doing
the right thing or not.
i think she's really
confused about everything.
and i think a lot of us
are confused
about what
she's doing right now
and if mursel is really
the right person for her.
what's, like,
the repercussions of that?
like, do they, like, stop
talking to him? do they ‐‐
well, that's what
he's worried about.
and, like, i want to be very
truthful with his family.
he's the one that's
not wanting to be.
‐yeah.
‐trust me.
if i could go call
his mom tomorrow and say,
"hey, i've got three kids,"
i would call and talk
to his parents in a minute.
but he's the one
that doesn't want it.
it feels to me,
knowing you
and have knowing you
for a long time ‐‐
this does not
feel right to me.
i'm just being honest.
i love you.
no one's here to judge you.
everyone's here to help you
in any way we can give you help.
but, like, i think
you should tell his parents
before you get married.
yeah.
i understand where my friends'
concerns come from,
and i share those concerns.
everything in my life
revolves around my children.
i love them.
like, they're my life.
so mursel needs
to tell his family.
it's not a secret
that we can keep.
or it's not a secret
i can keep anymore.
robert:
i've been sleeping with bryson
pretty much
his whole entire life,
so i'm used to it ‐‐
the kicks, the punches.
ow!
robert: we're living in
a one‐bedroom apartment.
it's three of us, with bryson
sleeping in the middle.
we cannot do it anymore.
everybody needs their own space.
anny, robert. andrea.
‐nice to meet you. robert.
‐very nice to meet you.
so today we're looking for
a two‐bedroom apartment.
i didn't get anny to come
all the way to the united states
to be sleeping on a couch.
andrea: i picked this location
just a few minutes
from park avenue,
downtown winter park.
great.
yes, and across the street
on sundays,
they have a farmers market,
which is really nice, too.
that's nice.
come on in.
it is a two‐bedroom,
two‐bathroom.
the main
selling point here
is going to be
the view of the lake.
robert:
the lake is nice.
andrea: yes. yes.
anny has never been
outside of her country,
and being in the united states,
it's nice here.
this space is beautiful.
and she loves it.
this is the master suite.
it's very spacious.
master bathroom
right this way.
andrea: and then this is
the second bedroom here.
it's got good closet space,
as well.
a lot of toys.
andrea: yes. and now
the kitchen. it's beautiful.
it got redone, as well,
when they did the renovation.
it's a great spot.
so, how much is a place
like this going for?
so, this is leasing
for $1,750 a month.
‐$1,750.
‐mm‐hmm.
oh. all right.
i had recently
renewed my lease.
okay, so you just renewed
your lease for a year?
‐yes.
‐okay. so...
a lease
is a contract to state
that you're gonna agree to live
there for basically a year.
because you
wasn't here yet.
you don't want to
wait a year to move.
let's say i opt out
my lease, and they say,
"hey, you have to
pay your rent
until someone
moves in that place."
right. sometimes that's
what they'll do.
yeah. and let's say nobody moves
in that place for three months.
so that's basically
me just pouring money
out of my eyes
for no reason.
and then you want
beaucoup bougie wedding
and whatever you want.
and how do you expect me
to just ‐‐
how do you expect me
to pay for everything?
no. let's red‐flag it.
everything.
you want everything.
you want everything.
and i'm only one person!
more ‐‐ blah, blah, blah.
no. let's red‐flag it.
listen. listen.
you want everything.
you want everything.
and i'm only one person!
more ‐‐ blah, blah, blah.
right now,
this is not the time
to be sitting here
having this conversation.
i'm so sorry, andrea.
i'm sorry. i'm sorry.
no problem at all.
i'm sorry. the apartment
is very beautiful.
sure.
i would love to move,
but right now i can't,
but i'm just throwing out
options for my future.
i understand. you just want
to see what you can get. sure.
yes. thank you very much.
yeah. sure.
and i'm sorry that i put you
in this predicament.
andrea:
it was a little bit awkward,
just having them
argue in front of me.
i don't think that she knew that
he just had renewed his lease.
you know, she's spanish,
and spanish women are feisty,
so if you promise us something,
you have to come through.
thank you.
what's your problem?
whoa. man, you could
at least hold the door.
first of all, i brought you
here because i love you,
but you just sound
ungrateful.
you are so selfish
and inconsiderate.
you're gonna sit there
and argue with me
in front of somebody
that you don't even know.
no, if you ‐‐ listen.
blah, blah, blah.
oh, gosh.
so do you love me or do you
just love the apartment?
which one do you love more?
she's making it seem like
everybody in the u. s. is rich,
that i'm supposed to have
everything played out
before she gets here.
if she don't get what she wants,
she pouts like a little baby.
it's like i got
two brysons on my hand.
well, you gonna help me
with the $3,600?
are you gonna
help me with that?
there's a lot of
pressure on me.
well, i don't know
what to tell you.
are you ‐‐ bye.
karen: do you want
to see grandma, honey?
‐wanna see grandma?
‐come see me.
‐where's your grandma?
‐come see me.
that's a big boy. ohh!
emily: so, it's our
first morning in america.
i'm still super tired, but
i'm really excited to be home.
we're finally all together.
it's so nice to see my mom
play with the baby,
and sasha seems happy.
it's nice to talk
with my sister.
i'm just feeling really happy.
your first bowl
of american cereal.
ooh. wow.
what is this?
emily: it's sugar on top.
i know how much you love sugar.
so is it a kind of regular
breakfast in america?
are you guys eating something?
i don't know.
eggs with, uh,
vegetables and ‐‐
vegetables in omelets.
yeah, we would put
vegetables in the eggs.
maybe next time
i could make oatmeal.
do you know oatmeal?
yes, i'm ‐‐
actually it's my breakfast.
oatmeal with peanut butter
and bananas and apple.
everything mixed in it.
that's my breakfast.
‐okay.
‐okay. let's try.
mmm! i can feel
a lot of sugar actually.
‐yeah.
‐there's a lot of...
usually i'm not eating
so much sugar.
we love sugar.
i heard about that.
so, uh, what do you want to do?
it's your first day here.
i want to visit gym.
i want to train.
you want to go today?
hmm. isn't gym somewhere
this district?
‐yeah. we have lots of gyms.
‐oh, cool.
that's the first thing
you want to do?
you want to go
to the gym?
yeah, i didn't train around ‐‐
around week, i didn't train.
you don't want to go see
the city or anything like that?
can we do the both?
i actually kind of want
to go to the gym, too.
why do you want
to go to the gym?
why don't you just
want to stay home?
i'm just ‐‐ i'm just ready
to get my body back.
yeah, it's time. okay.
i want you to train.
it's time, baby.
i don't think i've ever seen
emily go to the gym.
in high school,
she took marching band
to get out of
having to take p.e. class.
this probably has to do with her
feeling like she needs to get
back in shape for sasha.
‐so i can babysit?
‐yes, mom, you can babysit.
‐excellent!
‐he'll go down for a nap.
yeah. is this what
you giving him?
yeah, usually i would eat
something more healthy,
but because you guys
are visiting
i didn't want to have to
do too much cooking.
just have
quick food to grab.
oh, okay.
this will be a cheat meal.
my cheat meal?
yeah. you told me you're
just eating healthy food.
but it is not
exactly healthy.
‐well, yeah. it's not healthy.
‐it has the sugar.
okay, but you're gonna
cook for me, right?
‐are you, mom, eating this, too?
‐no, no, no. i don't eat that.
okay, good. i can see.
‐uh ‐‐
‐i can cook breakfast.
tomorrow.
you can make breakfast.
yeah. okay. and we'll go to
american grocery store.
okay. we need oatmeal, peanut
butter, and some kind of fruits.
i'll make you like it.
so, if i am ‐‐
so stop eating this.
okay?
i get that nutrition planning
is part of sasha's job,
but i'm not his client.
this is my house.
‐yes, you like oatmeal?
‐...babysitter.
sasha's gonna be
a guest in my house,
and part of being my guest
is being polite.
and we need to have a talk
about how things are gonna be.
‐let's go.
‐okay. got the bag?
i'm ready. let's go.
mom, please take
care of baby. okay?
i'll take good care of him.
don't you worry.
okay. love you.
carolyn: prenuptial agreements
have to be fair.
you can't just write juliana
out of everything.
you've got to make sure
that she will be taken care of.
well, she'll hopefully
better explain
what it means,
what the process is.
juliana i don't think
understands the idea
of what a prenuptial agreement
may be here in america.
i doubt in brazil, especially
where juliana's from,
i don't think prenups are
anything that they think about
when they're getting married.
hi, there. i'm carolyn.
you must be juliana.
nice to see you.
and you must me mike.
‐i'm michael. hi.
‐good to see you.
come on into our
little conference room.
michael: we have a few weeks
before the wedding,
so i thought it would be best
to go to a mediator
to sit down with the two of us
and help educate juliana
on what this
really means for her.
you're here to consult me
as a mediator.
yeah, i have two children.
i have business interests.
and we just would
rather go into this
to be as prepared for
the worst‐case scenario.
carolyn:
mediation is a great way
to try and bring out what is
most important to each party,
and it balances out
any imbalance of power
and decision‐making.
so, why don't we start
with you?
since you...
sure.
...probably have the children
and things like that.
what's going on? what do you do?
what is your ‐‐
‐i'm self‐employed with ‐‐
‐okay.
i've got a few different
wine companies.
and, of course, you've got
tax returns that show
a pretty good stream of income
or solid stream of income?
yeah. mm‐hmm.
what happens
during the marriage?
you going to have,
like a joint account?
are you gonna keep things
separate or keep all your assets
just in your name,
or what are you gonna do?
yeah. yeah.
so it's gonna be totally
what we call separate property?
yeah.
um, let's talk about you.
what do you do for a living?
a model.
what kind of model?
and have you told mike
basically what your income
has been
for the past couple years?
‐i basically know.
‐no, i want her to answer.
‐oh, yeah, sorry.
‐this is her time.
‐sorry.
‐no? you never told him?
okay.
so, am i right in guessing
that you don't have
a lot of money?
‐yeah.
‐i don't.
okay.
now, if your career
takes off,
do you want to share it
with mike?
i didn't say
i wasn't gonna share.
you're gonna keep
your stuff separate.
well, it doesn't mean
i'm not gonna buy her things
or take care of her
or take care of ‐‐
‐those are gifts.
‐okay.
but sharing's
a little different.
michael is very definite
about keeping his income
and his assets very separate,
and i understand that.
juliana, i think
she's still pretty young,
and she's got a lot to learn.
now, prenuptial agreements
have to be fair.
you can't just write
juliana out of everything.
‐yeah.
‐you've got to ‐‐
you've got to make sure that
she will be taken care of.
now, is there something
that you want
in terms
of a divorce agreement?
want something? no?
do you know
what it takes to live
for one month here
in the united states?
i know. that's why we're
going through this process.
clothing, gasoline,
food, rent.
all these different things.
it really adds up.
it's nice and wonderful to say,
"oh, i don't want anything
because i love you."
but when it comes time,
you know,
things could be
very, very different.
i'm not gonna kick you out.
all right, well,
we've got some work to do.
michael: okay, cool.
unfortunately, i think you're
taking things from this ‐‐
it has nothing to do with
the prenuptial agreement?
i am not arguing with that one
bit. i'm sorry you're upset.
all right. let's go.
when do you plan
to have the wedding?
within the 90 days.
here in america
or over there?
uh, he better
get that visa.
if he doesn't, would you
marry him in nigeria?
what?
you need to go ahead
and get on this boat.
you can just sail off
on that boat.
well,
i'm excited, skyla.
we've been waiting
on this two years.
tonight, i'm taking
my daughter skyla with me
wedding‐dress hunting
so i can start planning
the big wedding.
this wedding
is a big deal to me
because this is michael's
first and last wedding.
and it's actually my second.
but i feel like it's my first.
i never, never thought
i'd be in a wedding dress.
i can't believe i'm going
to look at dresses.
i have to have
that american wedding
because we done did
the engagement party
over there in nigeria.
angela. you are wonderful.
god bless you.
thank you.
...to everybody.
so it's only fair that my mom
sees me and our customs
as natural, beautiful white
wedding dress, you know?
that way,
you don't waste money
just in case,
you know, he's denied.
skyla, he's not gonna get de‐‐
don't say that.
he's not gonna
get denied, skyla.
no.
angela:
i'm kind of frustrated
that for michael and i
to get married,
it all revolves around
this damn visa.
‐we're here, skyla!
‐mm‐hmm.
‐no.
‐me neither!
i don't know if michael's gonna
pass this k‐1 interview,
but i got to stay positive.
and, really, i can't wait
to try on a wedding dress.
here we go.
hello. welcome to renee's.
how can i help you guys?
hi. i'm angela.
nice to meet you.
hey.
‐i'm getting married.
‐okay.
i have a fiancé
over in nigeria.
we're waiting on a k‐1 visa.
so, soon he's gonna
be over here,
and we have 90 days
to get married.
oh.
it is shocking for mama
to be marrying a nigerian
and having him come over here
on a, you know, k‐1 visa.
i really didn't think that
her and michael's relationship
would last this long,
but this is making it all
so real.
just to actually be
shopping for a dress
with my mama for her wedding
is kind of unbelievable.
okay, so, why don't i bring
you to the bridal room
and we'll get you measured
and all that good stuff?
okay?
i'm excited. i like you.
‐oh, my goodness.
‐yes.
oh, this is nice.
is there anything here
that'll fit me, though?
woman: yeah. we're gonna
take your measurements,
and then we'll see
kind of, like,
what kind of style you want,
and we'll start you trying on.
okay. great. i'm ready.
come on. let's do it.
okay.
i feel like a ballerina.
oh, god.
‐hold this right here for me.
‐they're jumping.
whoo‐hoo!
being in the bridal part
of the shop
is making me feel like
i'm a kid in a candy store,
and i felt really overwhelmed
looking at all these dresses.
like, they're all white.
you know,
they're all the dream wedding,
american wedding style.
‐oh, god.
‐you don't wear underwear.
here i feel like a queen...
that i am.
here i come, skyla!
what do you think?
ohh!
i love this dress.
i like it, too.
no, i really
do like it, mama.
i feel like a bride.
ohh.
like, i really feel
like a bride.
of course, we have to do
a little alteration.
‐just a little.
‐woo‐woo.
‐don't touch them babies.
‐off the shoulder.
yes. i do like that.
‐i love this.
‐that is pretty.
damn, i'm beautiful
in this thing, ain't i?
i'm truly in love with michael,
and i know he loves me,
and i want to look my best
for michael,
and i feel very elegant.
i don't have to be young
to feel young.
that's what this dress
is doing for me today.
what do you think
michael will think?
skyla: oh, i think
he's gonna love it.
he's gonna think he's
hot beside you.
ohh!
seeing mama come out in a white
wedding dress was very surreal,
but i was really just blown away
by how great she looked in it
and how happy she was in it.
no matter how i feel about
their relationship
and this wedding,
there's no doubt in my mind
that mama's gonna be
a beautiful bride
and that they're gonna
have a time of their life.
i can't believe
we really be here,
that you really ‐‐
i told you...
we were gonna make it.
when do you plan
to have the wedding?
i don't know exactly,
but within the 90 days.
you plan to get married?
we have to be married
within the 90 days.
‐otherwise he has to go home.
‐that's a really tight schedule.
and you plan to marry here
in america or over there?
‐90 days here.
‐here?
he ‐‐ he better
get that visa.
and if he doesn't, would
you marry him in nigeria?
what?
i mean...
let me put
this down.
you're talking.
i don't want to think
about that right now.
the drawbacks of me
marrying michael in nigeria
is my family
can't come to nigeria.
nobody wants to get married
in another country
without somebody there.
so there's just no way
i can take a "no" for an answer.
he's got to get this k‐1 visa.
because i am a taxpayer.
i have the right
to have michael here
and to get married over here.
my family and friends
don't want me to marry you.
anna: he needs to tell
his family about the boys.
so you're not gonna tell
your family about the boys?
anna:
at my bachelorette party,
i revealed to my friends
that mursel and i
are keeping a secret
from his family ‐‐
that i have three boys.
vivi and lisa really push
that we don't keep this
a secret anymore.
i felt the same way.
and it's just ‐‐
hearing it from
somebody else saying it,
it's just made me realize
that, yeah, it's ‐‐
this is enough.
yeah.
hm?
no...
um...
i met with my friends. they said
i shouldn't marry you.
because you want me
to hide the boys,
and i shouldn't do that
to the boys.
i decided that
i'm done with this lie
and that he needs to tell
his family about the boys.
my whole life has been my boys.
i'm not hiding it.
okay?
so if you don't
tell your parents,
i don't think
we will get married.
no.
i can't go into a marriage
with this lie about my children.
i'm thinking about
canceling the wedding.
no, anna.
for me, very big problem.
very big problem.
i know. but...
my family and friends
don't want me to marry you
if this is kept a secret.
you've put me in an
uncomfortable position.
no, you ‐‐ no.
you knew i had children.
that's selfish
to make me hide them.
yes. yes.
i know.
so you're not gonna tell
your family about the boys?
no.
okay.
okay.
yes.
anna:
i know mursel will leave me.
i guess i thought
over the 90 days
that he would change his mind
about telling his family
about all of the boys.
i don't think he'll choose me
over his family,
so i know there's a possibility
that everything...
could be over after this.
okay. i don't know.
yes.
anna: it's really a difficult
situation right now.
we're coming
to the end of the 90 days,
and we're about to call it off.
i didn't think that
we'd be in this situation.
no.
me too, but hiding the boys?
lying?
please.
then tell your family.
i know my boys problem.
for me, hiding my boys...
your family ‐‐
i don't care.
okay?
i'm not hiding my boys
from your family. no.
no.
you know when you're taking care
of the baby and i'm at work,
you're not gonna
have as much time
for the gym
as you probably want.
emily: i don't think
sasha realizes
how different
life is going to be here.
your family can help me.
it's not their job
to take care of him.
right now, everything
is interesting for me.
really, baby?
it feels like i came here
just for vacation, not forever.
vacation in
south bend, indiana.
betsy: it's sasha and emily's
first day in america.
and what do they want to do?
go to the gym.
my eyes hurt so much
from the lack of sleep
yesterday.
do you really think
it's a good idea to work out
when you're this tired?
i think it ‐‐
this will help us.
okay. i'll call you
if the baby needs anything.
‐yes, please.
‐okay.
take it easy, okay?
‐okay.
‐yeah.
‐sasha: so, are you ready?
‐emily: yeah, i'm ready.
emily: oh, my god. i probably
should have tried this on
before i came to the gym.
well, it looks hot.
i wanted to go to the gym today
because i want to do something
that sasha enjoys
and i also want to do it
for myself.
i had a different body
when i met sasha.
i was at least
i want to look good for him,
and i really want
to get back to that.
at first, your exercise
will be squats with a dumbbell.
please.
you can't do that?
i know.
okay.
so just ‐‐
look like me. squat.
mm‐hmm.
try. come to me.
okay. go. try.
mm‐hmm. whoa. good job.
mm‐hmm.
emily: sasha's a strict
personal trainer,
but i know i need to do this
because when he starts to work,
he's gonna be around
gorgeous people all day.
and in the back of my head,
there's always that worry ‐‐
like, who is he looking at
when he's at the gym?
so i want to be the best
version of myself, too.
uh‐huh.
feels good. i am just ‐‐
can't wait to get
a small stomach.
especially because
when you start working,
you're gonna be
around, like,
all these beautiful people,
you know?
what do you mean
it doesn't work here?
i mean, it doesn't
work like that.
it's ‐‐ it's different.
so let's do the next.
i'll show you.
okay.
you will do the curls.
it's for hamstring, yeah?
‐hamstring.
‐yeah, right.
you know, when you're taking
care of the baby
and i'm at work,
you're not gonna have
as much time for the gym
as you probably want.
some of your ‐‐ from your
family can help me, yeah?
but it's ‐‐ yeah,
they'll love to help,
but, you know,
it's our son.
it's not their job to take care
of him whenever we want.
can they just give me
a couple hours?
i don't know. we'll see.
even though sasha has two
children with two other women,
he's not used to
bringing up a child.
but with a k‐1 visa,
sasha won't be able to work
until the 90 days are up,
so i'm going to
have to find a job,
and he is going to
have to accept
that he will be the one
staying home with the baby.
but you know it's important
for me, training.
‐yeah.
‐because you know ‐‐
more important
than your son?
of course not.
just ‐‐ this will be
kind of my job.
so i can looks good enough
to be personal trainer.
and i hope someone
from your family
can kid‐sit with baby
for a couple of hours.
i think it will
not be problem.
what?
just work out.
emily:
i don't think sasha realizes
how different
life is going to be here.
sasha is going to
have to step up.
he's going to
have to be a good dad.
we've been with the mediator,
and juliana got very upset
discussing what would happen
if things didn't
work out with us.
made her feel helpless.
you're starting over here. no?
you have a lot of opportunity.
you got to look
at the future, you know?
just be careful how you're
processing this, you know?
this is not a ‐‐
look, you're here.
you're here in the u. s.
we're starting fresh.
i wish you wouldn't.
i didn't realize you were gonna
get so upset through that.
i would've never done it
if i knew it was
gonna be so upsetting.
so...
i don't know. do your best.
be positive. don't be
your own worst enemy.
you know?
imagine if you were
still in brazil.
imagine if you
never took the step
to become an international
model, you know?
imagine if, in your
marriage in brazil,
you had kids and just got
stuck there, like your sister.
you know?
you know what i mean?
things could be
a lot different.
we can go pick up
our rings tomorrow.
she's very skeptical,
and i don't want ‐‐
not trying to make you nervous
or uncomfortable,
but realize divorce,
uh, it's a horrible experience.
both juliana and i,
we've been through this.
and if we don't come
to an agreement,
this could create
some lingering issues.
mike: good morning, everyone.
how are you, baby?
hi, mama.
how are you?
doing okay today? yeah?
hm?
mike: you know, just
jumping out of bed right now
this morning
to go in the kitchen
to get some breakfast
with natalie and her mom,
i could just see
there was something off.
she's just real quiet,
and she just gave me
a strange look.
okay...
yeah, i would love
some coffee.
huh?
i don't know why
natalie's upset with me.
generally, you know, we get up,
we kiss each other.
it's just breakfast.
you know what i mean?
get up and make breakfast
together, and we eat it.
this morning was not like that.
huh?
you can't just help me out?
two kids?
oh, now we need two kids?
mike: i can't understand
what they're saying
or follow along
in their conversation.
i'm just frustrated with
the whole situation at hand.
‐is everything okay with you?
‐yes.
what did your mom say?
have we started
to plan the baby?
‐mm‐hmm.
‐are you talking about just me?
how i'm not ready to start
a baby right now and you are?
you will, when?
what are you trying
to tell me, baby?
you ‐‐ i mean, i see
your frustration. what?
what did your mom say?
like, what's going on?
we raise a child
just the same way
as any other people
raise a child.
but why do you think
we're gonna get divorced?
it's gonna be disaster,
and i don't want to put
so much on my child.
can you excuse us
real quick, mom?
can we go to
the other room, please?
can we go to
the other room, please?
hmm.
next time on "90 day fiancé"...
so, when did tania call?
when did you guys talk last?
ohh.
aah!
robert: seeing anny react
like that in the strip club
threw some major
red flags to me.
that's not something
that i want around my kid!
i can't stand here and
tell you i believe in god.
mike: i'm just frustrated
with natalie
and everything she's
throwing at me right now.
why can't i make my choice?
it's too much.
i'm waiting on a phone call
from michael
to tell me about the interview
for the k‐1 visa.
i mean, are you kidding me?
michael. baby.
are you just not
planning on working?
that's gonna be really nice
and comfortable for her,
but that's putting twice
the burden on blake.
i'm not saying your
relationship is fake.
it's just, like, i haven't
wrapped my head around it yet.
you got upset
because you feel
as if you're the victim
of something
that hasn't
even happened yet.
i'm feeling pretty devastated.
this isn't what i‐i planned for.
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