01x01 - Episode 1

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We are completely in love,
but it doesn't mean
you can't screw around.

British couples are increasingly
questioning monogamy.

The biggest contraceptive
known to man is wedding cake.

But is it possible to open
up your relationship

without harming it?

It's a complete mystery,
the whole thing, this is it.

We don't know what to expect.

These curious couples
are about to find out.

Ah, that is good.

They're travelling to
a unique retreat.

Hello. You all right?

Where, with the help of a specialist
relationship therapist...

Life is short.

Why limit sex to just one person?

..and a group of single, available
and sexually liberated residents...

It's just natural to have sex
with multiple people.

..they're about to discover
if their sexual fantasies...

Oh!Geez!
WOMAN GROANS

..can become a reality.

We like the idea of group sex.

Ah.

We're wondering if you'd
like to spend the night with us?

..and whether or not
they'll be able to break

one of society's greatest taboos...

Argh!

I should have been thinking
about the man that I love

and how he was feeling.

..and have sex with other people.

Oh, my God. Ah! Wow.

I was not expecting that.
SHE EXHALES

This is the most out of
my comfort zone I've ever been.

Yeah, I got mad butterflies.

I'm not nervous, I'm more excited.

The first couple checking in
to this unique retreat

is Mady and Nathan from Swansea.

Yeah, I'd say we're Welsh
and proud, yeah.

Best thing about Wales is,
like, the people.

Yeah. No matter where you go,

you can kind of
have a laugh, a crack.

Nathan, he's my
first proper boyfriend.

I've always wanted, like, a
serious relationship since I was 16.

And then like, the minute
I stopped looking,

I met Nathan.

My stomach's literally
doing circles.

I'm getting, like, more and more
nervous, like, the closer you get.

Mady and Nathan have been
committed to each other

for a year and a half
and now live together.

Though he's got a really hard
exterior, he's a bit of a softie.

I think he's got a magic
power, to be honest.

Women do just, like,
fall in love with him.
MADY LAUGHS

Mady's very supportive
and nurturing.

When I first seen her,
she just looked good

and she looked good ever since.

Aw! That's really cute.

Cor, it is, like, quite out the way.

Both see themselves as
adventurous in the bedroom.

If we do have any sexual fantasies
we want to try out

or new things that we want to try,

we're very much open to trying it,
which is really cool.

We'll try almost anything. Yeah.

We've got a nice
sex toy collection.
MADY GIGGLES

Like all monogamous couples,

they've only ever slept
with each other.

Oh, wow.

But now they want help to try
and open their relationship,

starting with their
very first threesome.

I think monogamy is just a
social concept, like, completely.

There's 7 billion people
in the world.

It is kind of weird to think
that you'd be restricted

to just one person
for the rest of your life.

You know what I mean?

Right. Let's get in there.
Let's do it.

Here to welcome them
are hosts Jess and Tom...

Hi! ..who are in a long-term
open relationship themselves.

Follow on through. It's a lush find.

We've been in an open relationship
for a couple of years now.

We're completely in love.

I think you could be happy with one
partner for the rest of your life,

but there's definitely no harm
in trying them all at the same time.

Just multiplies the fun.

The retreat is packed with
experienced, sexually open residents

eager to get to know
the freshman couple.

Hey. Hi.

It's really surreal at the minute

because we talked about it
for so long

and, like, we're finally here
and it's finally happening.

It's just really exciting that
we're actually going to be

opening up our relationship -
or trying to, anyway.

So welcome.

Ready to help the couple
brave their first few steps

into this extraordinary
sexual experiment

is intimacy therapist Dr Lori Beth.

I've got more than 30 years'
experience helping couples

who want to open up
their relationships.

And in order to do that
and have it really work,

the couple needs to be trusting,

have fantastic communication

and be emotionally resilient.

It can be incredibly successful

and I've seen couples come out

actually with
stronger relationships.

Hello! Hiya! Grab yourself a seat.

So why don't you tell me
what has brought you here?

We just kind of just
started talking about,

like, inviting another woman
into the relationship.

We were just in bed one night

and I think the idea just
kind of came to us.

Yeah. But, like, we definitely
want to try threesomes

and see if it's something
that would suit us.

Definitely.

OK. And sexuality?

I'm bisexual.

He's straight.

Yeah. OK.

What we're looking for is kind of,
like, a throuple-type situation

where we can bring somebody
into our relationship,

sexually and emotionally.

But we want to try threesomes first
to see what would happen

and if I can handle it.

As long as I'm in the bedroom with
two girls, I'd be enjoying myself.

I'm mostly excited just to find out
about myself, find out about us.

I'm mostly excited for t*ts.
MADY LAUGHS

I believe that these guys are the
ones are going to... They're ready.

..you know, add a bit of
spice to the retreat.

You reckon? Yeah. They seem like
they're down for anything.

So free. Free spirit.
Yeah, definitely. Yeah.

If they're free spirited,
would you both be interested?

GRACE BLOWS A RASPBERRY
Mate...Yeah.Everyone should be...

Would you both be interested
in going together?

Cos she's open to that. BOTH: Yeah.

Mate, right up our street.
Yeah, definitely.

You can see he's quiet,
he'd make his move when he needs to.

Know what I mean? Yeah.
You'll have me in a chokehold

cos she'll be eating your p*ssy
and you'll be like, "Ah!"
THEY LAUGH

Mady, why are you looking
for an emotional connection?

I would find a different
connection with a woman

than I have with Nathan.

It's me kind of pushing this
a little bit more than Nathan.

OK. So what are you most afraid of?

I do have a little bit
of a jealousy side to me.

Mm-hmm. Jealousy is a really
common emotion in general, anyway,

and certainly in open relationship,
it is an emotion

that comes up a lot.

It often comes from
insecurity in the self,

so you're worried
you're not good enough

or you're worried
you're going to be replaced

and then somebody getting
more time and attention

than you're getting.

And hopefully,
we work towards the time

when you're really just getting
joy out of your partner's joy.

My jealousy is something
I've been battling with

for a year and a half, basically.

So to be able to overcome that

would be really, really good for me.

Tonight, Mady and Nathan
will have the chance

to try to arrange a threesome.

OK. This evening
you're going to have a social

and then you're going
to have the opportunity

to choose yourself a girl
to spend time with.

This is the place where people
do have sex with other people

and it's facilitated,
so you're in a safe space.

Yeah. So have a blast tonight.

We will. Yeah, thank you so much.

Threesomes is a really popular way
of opening up a relationship,

but actually it's one of
the hardest combinations

because you don't know
how you're going to feel

seeing your partner pleasuring
someone else until you do it,

and jealousy and insecurity
can be the result of that.

I'm trying to think, like...

My biggest concerns and worries.

Hm.

Like, you gotta
see me with a girl...

Ah, yeah.
..without you involved first.

I feel like me and Mady, we're
about to take a big step now.

I mean, if it ever is going
to happen, it would be now.

Mady and jealousy issues, it...

It has caused one or two
problems in the past, but...

..I feel like if anyone's gonna be
able to help with it, it's Dr Lori.

Yeah, I think I do want you
to kiss one of them as well,

like, in front of me or without me
and kind of flirt and stuff.

I'm so excited for the socials.

Thinking about going to this party
with Nathan just to find a girl,

it makes me really scared.

So I think this will be
really interesting to see

if I can handle it.

If you kissed a girl, like,
would you feel like you're cheating?

Maybe. Hm.

I suppose that's what
we're here to find out.

Should be good. It's gonna be fun.

Next to arrive at the retreat

are married couple John and
Danielle from Bolton.

The North is absolutely the best.

Down here, just prices, I don't know
how people can afford to live.

It's not just prices at all. It is.

£8.30 for a glass of wine
in that hotel.
DANIELLE LAUGHS

It's going to go 1 million miles
an hour, you know... Yeah.

..be gone and dusted
in the blink of an eye.

A bit like the wedding day.

The pair have
four children together.

Scared to death.
Really nervous, yeah. Yeah?

And were youngsters themselves

when they first locked eyes
on each other.

The first time I met Danielle,
I thought she was absolutely fit,

wearing a little white blouse
and a little red tartan skirt.

Was that the first time we met,
at the school disco?

That was the very first
time we met, yeah.

JON ON VIDEO:Come on.Oh, my God!
DANIELLE SHRIEKS

From the second I did
start fancying him,

I've never stopped.
You're gorgeous now.

Like, it's weird that I've
realised that...No!
JON LAUGHS

So we've come out
for a nice family meal.

Bring all the rabble.

Cheers, Danielle.

Bloody hell. Look, it's dry.

Well done, trees, it's like
a scene out of Gladiator.

After 16 years and counting...

Ah, that is gorgeous.

..the relationship
hasn't lost its spark.

I think our sex life
is pretty damn good.

Yeah, we have a really good
sex life. Don't get me wrong.

Sometimes five times in one day...
As much as we can, really.

On a batting average, I'd definitely
say more than 20 a month.

Let's hope it goes well.

I mean, it's a bit like pulling
a Band-Aid off.

After the best part of two decades
committed to each other...

..the couple have come to seek help

to try and open their relationship,

starting by taking part in an orgy.

I don't think you could ever be
well prepared for this situation.

I think it's one of those things
that you've just got to kind of

take it as it comes.

You've got me the wrong trousers.
What d'you mean?

These ain't my trousers.

How d'you bring the wrong ones?
I don't know.

Amateur hour here.

I should tidy up a little bit,

in case we bring somebody back.

Mady and Nathan
are hoping that tonight

they'll have their first
ever threesome.

Sorry, I'm really, really excited.

Sorry, I don't want
to rush you, sorry.

I feel like me and Mady,
we're about to take a big step now,

Threesome with two girls,
it's gonna be so good.

More women, more pleasure.

Can you see my underwear?

Let's go.

The pair are attending a social...

CHEERING
WHOOPING
Welcome!

..hosted by open couple
Tom and Jess,

where they can try to find someone
to invite back to their bedroom.

Hey! There you go, evening.

This is for you. Thanks so much.

You wanna get to know everyone?

Yeah. Yeah. Just give us a shout
if you need anything.

You look lovely, girls!

In attendance are the retreat's
unique residents,

all here because they believe
that monogamous relationships

belong in the history books.

Cheers to a good night,
girls. Cheers.

Yay. Woohoo.

I think that we were raised
to be monogamous,

But I feel that we should actually

break out of that box and make
those decisions for ourselves.

I love how you're wearing the red.

Yeah! it's just in case I start
blushing again, you know?

THEY LAUGH

Cheers, my love. Thank you. Cheers!

I feel like exploring is what
a modern relationship is.

Like, being able to explore

with each other or multiple people,
and doing all these crazy things.

It's just natural to have
sex with multiple people.

I want to experience everything,

I want to be a part of everything,
I want to see different things.

And non-monogamous relationships
is another one of those things

that's, like, it's interesting,
let's be part of it.

So, do you have a
physical type yourself?

I like a nice pair of boobs. Yeah.
That's good to know.

That's, like, my thing, really,
isn't it?

Cheers to that!
THEY LAUGH

So, has she ever seen you kiss
another girl?

No. How do you think, if she did?

I don't know. It could be bad.

You guys are just throwing
yourself in here, aren't you?

OK.

To help ease Nathan and Mady
into being intimate

with people outside
of their relationship,

Dr Lori has included erotic
group games in the social.

Smear whipped cream across your lips
and then kiss your lover.

Ooh.

I'm going to pick Nathan.

OK. Are you OK with that?
Yeah, yeah. Yeah?

I don't know, like, how I'd react

to seeing Nathan kiss another
girl in front of me,

whether I can put my jealousy aside.

Quick, quick, quick, quick, quick.

ALL: Oooh!

He even closed his eyes
and everything.

It's all right. I'm all right.
Yeah! It's OK.

I'm so proud of myself for not even
feeling, like, the slightest bit

jealous when I watched Nathan
kiss another girl.

It just makes me
more confident and...

I'm just more sure that this
is the right path for us now.

That's the first thing I've ever
kissed anyone apart from Mady

in the last year and a half,
so it was quite nerve-racking.

The chemistry between me
and Nathan in that kiss,

we would just go with the flow
and see where it goes.

And I feel like it will go
pretty far.

SHE LAUGHS

Gently tug on your lover's n*pples
while offering a sensational kiss.

Go on. OK!

CHEERING

Just around the n*pples.

Ey, yes, girl.

ALL: Wooo!

Nathan, thank you very much.
That was nice!

No holding back with this pair!

GIGGLING

I think, seeing my girlfriend making
out with hot girls,

I was living most people's dreams.

I mean, it's quite surreal,
I can only believe it happened

because I was there.

Games over, the couple have decided

to invite someone back
to their bedroom.

Can we borrow you for a little chat?
Yeah.

We were wondering if you'd like to
spend the night with us.

Yeah! That would be amazing.

I'm so excited.

It's just going to be a natural
chemistry between us,

and it's going to go off.

It is our first time doing anything
like this.

Are you excited? Yeah.

Dr Lori suggested to us,
if we did feel any, like,

jealousy feelings, just kind of be
really open and communicative.

Let's go.

The thought of having sex with
someone in front of Mady,

I might be nervous in the bedroom.

You'll hear about that tomorrow.

We'll find out.

Ta-da!

Amazing. Look at this!

Deep in the English countryside,

an extraordinary experiment
is taking place.

So, guys, what do you think about
a**l? Have you ever done it?

Oh. Yeah. What are your
thoughts on it?

Yeah, I think it's like
turkey and ham.

Like, they're both a source of meat,

but they just kind of feel
different. You know what I mean?

For sure! Yeah, they're the same,

they're just kind of different
textures, you know what I mean?

In a luxury retreat,

people are rebelling against
thousands of years of tradition

by opening up their monogamous
relationships in a safe space.

Most people often think that
non-monogamy is a threat

to relationships but, actually

affairs are a far bigger threat,

and nearly half of marriages
end in divorce.

In many cases, opening up
is more likely to save

and improve your relationship.

You've got to change your mind-set,
and you have to learn some skills

in order for it to work well.

Married parents Jon and Danielle are
at the retreat wanting to try out

group sex within the confines
of their committed relationship.

Out of our comfort zones,
aren't we? Properly.

We always say we want to try new
things, but then being brave

and actually trying the completely
new things like this is scary.

So, tell me about what brought
you here.

Well, we started looking into
sex parties and clubs like that.

Group sex. Because that's
something we want to try.

And then, that somehow led to this.

And I just like sex, you know?

As a couple, we really want to
explore that opportunity together,

in terms of an ability to
have sex with other people,

but in an open and honest way.

So, have either of you had affairs?

Well, I cheated,
like, ten years ago.

But I wouldn't call it an affair.
It was like a one-time thing.

Jon was living away at the time.

I was living at home with two young
kids, I was quite lonely.

It was very public, it was very
hurtful. Yeah. I was very angry.

How long did it take before you
began to trust her again?

Erm...

I didn't fully recover until
I had an affair more recently.

I had had, I suppose, a bit of
resentment for a number of years

with Danielle, and I had
been unable to kind of relate.

Suddenly, I could relate.

So, how does it feel talking
about it now?

It's weird, yeah. It still feels
difficult. It's still difficult.

It's so much harder to open
a relationship up

when there's been an affair,

because the trust is broken.

And it's actually the lying, not
the sex, that causes the problem.

So, you're really asking for
something hard

when you want to bring another
person into your relationship

when you don't trust your partner
because of the affair.

So, why now? Why are you here now?

We finally admitted each other
that we do still

both want to have sex with other
people in the future, and we need

to find a way to do this,
otherwise were not going to work.

One of us is going to have an affair
and hurt each other again

in the future. And that's the truth.

We would end up hurting each other.
We will, definitely.

OK. You're not ready for group sex
at this point, in my opinion.

You need to take things one
step at a time.

The first thing you need to do
is to deal properly with the hurt

from the affairs and really
confront it and work it through.

I don't want to open up that
hurt from the first time.

That's what's I...
That's where I don't want to go.

We're going to open up that hurt
from the first time deliberately,

because if we don't, then you're
going to have a bad experience as a

result not of what was going on then
but what was going on in your past.

Before encouraging Jon
and Danielle's plans for group sex,

Dr Lori wants to test how
the couple cope with being intimate

with other people when
they aren't together.

I'm going to send you
on separate socials,

and you'll get the opportunity
to spend time

and meet a whole group of people,

and then you'll get the opportunity
to spend some one-on-one time

with somebody that you choose
at the end of the evening.

But actual sex will be
strictly off-limits.

We want to have some agreements
about where the lines are drawn.

So, I'm actually going to give you
an agreement for this. Yeah, please.

Right? I am going to say,
no full-on intercourse.

Right.

So, I mean, normally, I'm
encouraging people to go...

Further. ..further, but this time
I want to put in stuff there

so you don't have to
worry about what she's doing.

I'll be worrying no matter what.

Thank you very much.

When a couple have had affairs and
they haven't fully dealt with this,

I don't recommend them
having group sex.

In that situation, I recommend that
actually they take their time

and work on re-establishing
their trust

before stepping out and having
sex with other people.

Because you want them to have
a great first experience,

not be triggered into the trauma
that they've already experienced.

THEY SIGH

Jon and Danielle hadn't expected to
be split up from each other.

You OK?

I'm really nervous about the
separate socials, to be honest.

I am just going to go with
the flow and just try

and jump into the experience as much
as I can do, really.

And I don't like really going
into social events without Danielle.

No... I don't know if
I can try and...

..try and control my demons,
let alone yours.

I'll be worrying about Danielle
and what she's doing,

and all the demons that'll
be in my head.

But I think I've just got
to throw myself into it

and hope it comes out OK in the end.

CORK POPS
Yay!

I love that sound.

Cheers to a fun night. Yeah.
Cheers.

Nathan and Mady are hoping to try
the first-ever threesome

with resident Precious.

Do you want to give me a kiss?
Because I felt like

you were a good kisser.
Really? Yeah.

He's a really good kisser.
He is a good kisser.

It's weird. Like, I really genuinely
thought I'd be super possessive

and, like, want him to stop, but
I don't want you to stop at all.

My vag*na just went like this...
Ding, ding!

LAUGHTER

I'm ready! I'm like, uh...

But one of them isn't ready.

I know you, girl.
MADY GIGGLES

THEY MOAN
Oh, yeah, that's good.

MADY MOANS

MADY LAUGHS

Mady and I really bonded well.

I feel like we connected on a few
levels, which is really nice.

As the night went on, I ended up
being a bit of a spare part.

LAUGHS
Was that good?Yeah!

Come here.

I don't think it was
all it cracked up to be.

Nathan tries to get more involved.

You OK?

That's OK. That's fine.

So Nathan's clocked out.

It's a shame we can't, like,
go off and, like,

leave him sleep, you know?

Oh, you can't do that.

Do you want to sleep in the bath,
Nathan?

That's not fair. You're supposed to
be in a couple.

She's like,
"No, Nathan. See you later."

It just weren't a good vibe.

My feelings at that point didn't
really matter.

That's what pissed me off, really.

THEY MOAN

THEY KISS

He's like that sometimes.

I know he's a bit tired,

but I just feel really, really bad.

It has been a fantasy of ours
for, like, months,

but of course it's not a porno.
It is real life.

It's... People's feelings
can get hurt.

Egos can get bruised.

It just really upset him.

He feels like I've kind
of like neglected him.

That's how he's feeling right now,
and he doesn't really want

to talk about it.

Last night, devoted couple
Mady and Nathan

tried their first-ever threesome.

But things didn't go to plan.

Oh, my God.

I had such a good time
last night,

and I'm sure Precious
had a great time as well.

The hardest thing I think
is just, like, seeing how quickly

it can all change just by not
being fully aware

of everybody's emotions and needs.

Initially, I thought it was going
to be no negatives.

Threesome with two girls.

It's going to be a good craic
no matter what happens.

But then I suppose the situation
has brought out

a different side of Mads
that I didn't know was there.

Have we made the best decision?
Maybe this isn't for us.

Nathan was saying, you know,

he doesn't know if this relationship
is right for him any more,

which he's said in the past,
you know,

but I feel like this time
he means it.

I just hope not.

Dr Lori is keen to see the couple

and address the fallout from last
night.

Opening up your relationship
when you and your partner

have been together forever
can be really challenging

because it's just been the two
of you.

Actually seeing your partner
with somebody else can feel

really difficult,

but you can be helped
to actually open up.

As long as you've got a good,
trusting relationship

and a good bond
and great communication skills.

Good morning.

Grab a seat.

Hey. All right.

All righty.

Oh. You give me a summary of
last night, please.

During the experience,

it was quite apparent that they were
enjoying it, getting

more intimate than I was and they
both are more into each other

than into me.

Right.

Did feeling insignificant scare you?

Just felt like, I've known
this girl five minutes

and it's like, is this girl's
feelings really more important

than mine at this point?

I saw a different side of Mads
that I've never seen before.

She was so worried about herself,
about, like, being left out.

I thought she would have been more
intuitive of the situation.

To expect somebody to be intuitive
in that situation - big ask.

I thought I was going to be
the problem.

I feel so bad because we were
so focused on my jealousy,

like, how I was going to think,

like, we didn't really take
the time to think about what...

..how you would...

I think he was an afterthought,
and I'm really sorry for that.

sh*t, innit?

You need to build in check-ins.

Yeah. Right? Even though
that might seem awkward.

This is part of the process.

Just because you're having sex
doesn't mean you don't talk.

Yeah. You know, it's complex. Mm.

But it can be amazing.

Yeah. You just need the skills.

Do you want to continue?

Yeah. Yeah, definitely.

OK, so this evening, what I want
to do is send you on a date

with somebody else. OK.

And potentially spend the night with
them. Yeah.

Once you've selected somebody,
you actually talk about what things

you guys might do so that
you're all on the same page.

Yeah. And so there's always
negotiation.

There's always communication.

Thank you so much. I feel so much
better now. No problem.

Go enjoy yourselves and I'll see
you later. Thank you.

It's quite normal for a first
threesome to go a bit awry.

What matters is how the couple deal
with it and how they work

it through.

If it happens the same way as second
time, then I would be quite

worried about them.

I love you. I love you, too.
And I'm sorry.

A lot of men have the dream,
about a threesome with two girls,

it's going to be so good,

everyone looks forward to it,
but it's not as easy

as you think it is.

I'd like to hope after talking
with a doctor and talking to Mads

that I would be able to communicate
better.

But I do struggle with it,
so it might be a big step for me.

I always thought it was going to be
complex, but not this difficult.

I think it's going to make us
stronger now moving forward

because we've done it.

We can get through it, which means
we can get through anything.

And I like you... I more than like
you, I love you.

Married couple Jon and Danielle