We are completely in love
but it doesn't mean you can't
screw around.
British couples are increasingly
questioning monogamy.
The biggest contraceptive known to
man is wedding cake.
But is it possible to open up your
relationship without harming it?
It's a complete mystery the
whole thing.
This is it. We don't know what
to expect.
These curious couples are about to
find out.
Oh, that is gorgeous.
They're travelling to a
unique retreat.
Hello. You all right?
Where, with the help of a specialist
relationship therapist.
Life is short. Why limit sex to just
one person?
And a group of single, available and
sexually liberated residents.
It's just natural to have sex with
multiple people.
They're about to discover if their
sexual fantasies...
Oh, jeez.
..can become a reality?
We like the idea of group sex.
We just wondered if you would like
to spend the night with us?
And whether or not they'll be able
to break one of societies
greatest taboos...
Urgh.
I should have been thinking about
the man that I love
and how he was feeling.
..and have sex with other people.
Oh, my God! Ah!
Wow, I was not expecting that.
This is the most outside my comfort
zone I have ever been.
Already staying at the retreat are
Alex and his girlfriend Lydie...
Hello, you all right?
Hiya. You all right?
..who came hoping to spice up their
love life.
OK talk to me. Aw, that's cute.
By exploring sex with other people.
But I am quite dominant though,
that's the thing.
The couple agreed to strict rules
where any form of emotional
connection was banned.
To be fair, I didn't think we'd get
on this well though, did you?
No. It's crazy.
And kissing outside group
games forbidden.
We've had our rules.
If he breaks them, then it's a
massive no.
But while Alex dated Holly...
I think I've crossed the
line already.
..Lydie spent the night alone.
It's the morning after.
I'm worried that he's got a bit
carried away
cos he's getting all the attention
and he's broke one of the rules.
I will be able to tell by his face
as soon as he walks in.
Hello.
Hello.
Stranger.
Stranger. What's the matter?
Nothing. Why?
You look like you've been crying.
No.
Break any rules?
No. Stayed there by myself.
Kiss anyone?
Yeah. We played, so, we played spin
the bottle.
Did you kiss more than one?
Yeah.
Did you chat about feelings or how
you felt about each other or
anything like that? Was there
anything deep?
No. It was deep but it wasn't
that deep. That sort of deep.
Honestly, she's great, like...
Yeah, but do you think you are
going to get feelings for her?
No.
That's such a lie.
No. I'm not lying.
- You just went hmmm.
- No.
You know if you would or not.
I am collecting my thoughts in
my head
and you are thinking I am hesitating
and I'm not.
I don't know how I feel in the
regards of jealous.
I feel something inside me
but I can't pinpoint what it is.
It's a feeling of anxiousness.
She seems to have got a bit of the
ick with me.
Even if I stick by the rules, she's
still seeming to get upset.
I am a bit annoyed that she's acted
like that.
Jealousy is a common theme in
open relationships.
And coming back together after the
first night apart
with another person can be a crucial
moment for the couple to understand
and learn how to deal with any
emotions raised.
KNOCK AT THE DOOR
Come in.
- Hello.
- Hello.
So, did you have a good time
last night?
Yeah, I had a great time.
I didn't think I'd click with
someone like that.
I've never laughed so much in
my life.
How is that for you?
My main rule was no
emotional connections.
It's pretty clear he's picked
one girl, got to know her,
potential romantic connection.
For me, that's the biggest thing
that I didn't want.
So, I do feel like the rule's
been broke.
An open relationship, for me, it
would be more sexual than emotional.
So, we're completely opposite on it.
But I know for a fact
I would never be in an open
relationship with emotion.
You say it like these things are cut
and dried.
Yeah.
You know and they're not.
In consensual non-monogamy,
you can have different kinds of
emotional relationships.
Most people who open
their relationships
don't have no feelings at all.
And having a small feeling
doesn't diminish your feelings for
your partner.
OK.
Within the rules, I'm open for
anything at this point.
Brilliant.
In a few hours' time, it will be
Lydie's time to enjoy a social with
the retreat's sexually open men.
I'm feeling quite excited for the
social now.
I think it's nice it's, kind of, my
day tonight.
I think I know how much, how far
she'd go with things.
She might go past the rules.
I don't know. But we'll see.
It's a complete mystery, the
whole thing.
This is it. We don't know what
to expect.
It's OK. It'll be all right.
Making their way to this unique
retreat are married couple Jasmine
and Al from Surrey.
Al is very funny, very cheeky.
He's just hilarious to be around.
What do I like about Jasmine
the most?
Her t*ts and arse.
Oh, God. You're so grotty!
Just think of it as a few days away
where you don't have to do the
washing, the ironing and
the cleaning.
Aw.
I've got it made.
You have.
Within the dynamics of our marriage
we are very conventional,
- man and woman.
- Oh, right, yeah.
I do the cooking and the cleaning.
I occasionally clean and cook.
When it suits you, darling.
Yes.
After eight years in a committed and
faithful relationship...
Am I enough man for you?
Yes, darling.
There we are.
Al and Jasmine are keen to discover
whether opening up their marriage
could enhance their love life.
Show me any man that's stopped
window shopping
and I will show you a liar.
The biggest contraceptive known to
man is wedding cake.
But also we're very confident in
our relationship,
which is why we're happy to go and
do this.
Wow.
Get me my Hugh Hefner red robe and
a cognac.
What a lovely place. My goodness.
It is stunning, isn't it?
Here we are.
Ooh!
Here to welcome them are long term
open couple Thom and Jess.
Hi, guys.
Hi!
- Nice to meet you.
- Hello, hello.
- Welcome.
- Hi, guys!
- Meet the g*ng!
How are you doing? You all right?
We're ready for whatever comes
up next.
Put us in.
Dive in the deep end and see if you
can swim.
We're in the rabbit hole, going down
the coal mine.
Like, what is next? I'm excited to
find out.
Hi, guys. Come on in and grab
a seat.
- Hiya!
- Hi! Nice to meet you.
You too.
So, what brings you here now?
- Curiosity.
- Yes.
We've been to, like, t*rture Garden.
We went there as spectators.
It was very amusing.
When we went to Berlin,
we found ourselves in a lot of very
similar clubs.
So, fetish clubs?
Yeah, that type of thing.
Just basically watching rather than
participating in anything?
Yep.
I think it's always good to push
your boundaries
and find out about other peoples...
Broaden your horizons.
..exactly.
When we went to t*rture Garden,
there was a situation between a chap
and a woman that was going on.
And we were, kind of, watching it
from the bar.
And he's caught us watching it and
he's like...
..and we were just like, oh, no.
Ran away like scared children.
So, tell me a bit about you.
How would you characterise your
sex life?
Life got in the way a lot, recently.
So, that's not really lent itself
to it.
Oh, I completely agree.
I think very much life has
taken over.
We slither into bed at ten,
11 o'clock.
I'm looking horrendous
with no make-up on,
wearing some awful pyjamas.
He's there in the bed, exhausted,
doing something to do with work.
And we kind of look at each other
and just, kind of, grunt.
I am not someone who wants to sit
and only have sex on birthdays and
we'll do it missionary.
If you're in a traditional marriage
you're in this for the long
haul, right?
- We are for sure.
- Yeah.
And one would hope that you're
going to have
a good sex life for the long haul.
I think that's very important. Yeah.
- OK.
- Yeah.
OK.
Part of exploring consensual
non-monogamy is understanding where
your choices are so that you don't
have nonconsensual non-monogamy.
Because infidelity damage is not
from the sex.
So, part of like being able to talk
about this
is about keeping your
relationship tight,
even if you don't act on anything.
Do you think both of your equally
driving coming to this experience?
I am probably more open to it than
Jasmine by the sounds of things.
But equally I've zero interest in
letting her down.
Zero.
What about you?
I'm a prude British person and I've
lived my life.
And the thought of non-monogamy just
brings up all sorts of emotions.
So, tonight you both are gonna go
on socials.
You will have the option to have
one-on-one time with somebody
and what you do with them is
entirely up to you.
But I am encouraging you to jump in
and push your boundaries.
Cos you'll get the most out of this
experience if you really step
outside your comfort zone.
Yeah, we will just have to see how
it goes.
Thank you very much.
My pleasure. Have fun.
- See you. Bye.
- Bye.
It's clear to me that Al is more
interested in opening up
than Jasmine.
But he doesn't want to do anything
that would jeopardise
their relationship.
They're gonna need to come to a
comfortable place, individually
and as a couple, if this is to have
any chance of working.
Am I allowed to snog?
Do you want to?
I love Alan. He's my husband.
I think we'll learn things about how
to make our relationship better
and stronger.
And just be happy essentially.
What about if I do pecky cheeks,
pecky kiss?
You can do peck, peck.
I'm committed to Jasmine.
She's my wife.
And being married to Jasmine is,
and keeping her happy,
is more important to me than
fulfilling the lust.
But Dr Lori wants us to push
our boundaries.
Oh, God. What have we let ourselves
in for?
What next?
We are firmly down the rabbit hole.
Oh, yeah, we're in.
In the bedroom she's sharing with
her boyfriend Alex...
So, how are you feeling about
tonight?
Excited now.
Lydie is getting ready for a social
with the retreat's sexually
adventurous men.
I've never done anything like
this before.
I mean, if I'm single, I won't even
go out on a date.
I'll just meet someone on a
night out.
And so, for me, it is crazy.
- Night.
- Thank you. Have a goodnight.
You have a goodnight.
- I will.
- You will, you will.
Lydie will see if she can create a
sexual connection
with any of the retreat's men
and then invite one on a
romantic date.
I'm excited now that I'm aware of
the boundaries
and I feel like I feel more
comfortable doing it.
And especially now that he's girls
in games, I feel like I'm open to
kiss boys in games.
By the pool, it's party time.
Host Jess introduces the new guest
to the retreat's sexually liberated
male residents.
What's happening, Lydie?
Hello. You OK?
You all right, yeah?
Yeah, good, thank you.
- How are you doing, girl?
- Good.
- Yeah, I'm doing all right.
- Good, thank you.
My sex life in the past has been
very wild.
I've been very open
to experimenting,
trying new things, meeting
new people.
I think everyone is a little
bit kinky.
Like, I'll say I like sex, right?
And I will say I just do
normal things.
However, then someone will suggest
something, like,
- "Hey, would you be interested in
- swinging through the window
"in a Tarzan outfit with your
d*ck out?"
and I'll be like, "Let's try it."
- You like nice, mate.
- Thank you.
Do you know what?
I like that.
Brownie points to you.
You should just enjoy yourself.
Oh, I'm definitely going to
enjoy myself.
See you later!
That's what I'm saying!
Pardon?
Well, I'm not gonna lie.
He dipped his toe in, I'm gonna put
my foot in.
I like that.
- See you in a bit.
- See you later, yeah.
I think it's nice, it's kind of
my date.
It's like loads and loads of
single lads
and it is like I'm the chicken to a
roast dinner, like.
I met you before. Nice to meet you.
I'm Lewis.
Nice to meet you.
So, how old are you?
22.
How old do you reckon we are?
I don't know if your one of those
who look older than what they are.
Oh, thanks, mate.
Well, that's not a good start.
Or are you one of those that are
older but act younger?
I'm gonna say 27.
There was nothing good about what
you said then.
- How old are you?
- 43.
- Are you?
- 31.
sh*t! I was like...
But it sound better now cos I
said 31.
- There you go.
- See.
I think Lydie's fit. Like, she is.
She's a good looking girl.
I get, we're on the same sort
of wavelength as her.
Obviously, he's good looking
but I just think his personality,
like, just think he's really funny
and I feel like we get each other
quite well.
The boys introduce a game of truth
or dare to spice things up.
Truth or dare. OK. Interesting.
Truth or dare, big man?
f*ck it, I'll be the first up. Dare.
- I dare you to give Lydie a kiss.
- All right.
Lydie has only ever kissed Alex
since they started dating over a
year ago.
That's fine but you can come to me.
- Of course.
- There we go.
I can't get up, I can't get down.
It's your dare.
No tongues, yeah.
I am just easing myself into
it, thanks.
I've had such a good time, I'm not
gonna lie.
A little kiss, it was nice.
I kind of, I don't care
who's watching.
All right, let's move on.
Lydie truth or dare?
Truth.
Who do you fancy the most here?
Probably...
Big man Lewis?
Really?
And I think I'm just doing what Alex
has done
and I think that's OK.
I feel like now that it's me
doing it,
I understand more about how things
can happen in situations.
I think it's OK to let each other
do that.
Truth or dare?
I'll take a dare.
Yeah. Right dare you to kiss.
Give me a kiss.
What? You come here. Come on.
You come here cos you made all the
boys come to you.
Oh!
Do you know what, hold my glass.
I will take that one.
Yeah, you do that.
You have to stand up though cos
I ain't bending over.
- Not yet.
- Wait. Get ready.
Shake it off, babe. Shake it off.
Good effort. Go on, Big Lew.
Sorry, I laughed.
Having the boys cheer you on is
always good.
He made me feel really comfortable
and made jokes and stuff.
He was quite touchy in the way his
arm around me straight away like,
here we go, which I quite like.
Game's over.
Lydie has asked Lewis for some
one-on-one time.
- Come on.
- This way.
- After you, then.
- Thank you.
We both had the same kind of craic.
I like that he's quite confident,
he's quite smooth.
Cos he's a lot older I feel like
he's got a lived life,
this is how I am kind of vibe.
So, I am actually buzzing, to
be honest.
But by her own rules, Lydie mustn't
allowed to kiss anyone outside of
a game or form any
emotional connections.
I just didn't expect to, kind of,
connect with someone.
Even, like, just personality wise,
so well.
I can see us vibing really,
really well.
Do I think anything would happen?
I don't know.
But you know who's to say?
I am up for anything, really.
Right do you want to go?
Yeah, I'll go first.
What is that doing in there?
I almost hit you in the face.
What are the chances? I'm actually
gonna open this right now.
Yeah, go on.
- Do you want some funny story?
- Go on. Tell me.
I f*cking hate prosecco.
- Did you say you are allowed to massage?
- Go on, then.
You have to go first though.
I have to massage you first.
I'm not against it. It's in
our rules.
I'd snog you right now, but I can't
because you,
it's not part of your thing.
Thank you, very respectful.
But if you dare me to.
Yeah, anyone here.
OK maybe.
Do you know how angry I was,
how angry I was this morning that I
heard Alex connected?
I was like my rule was no
emotional connection.
You can't make that. You
can't make...
I know because it's how
someone feels.
Yeah, exactly. Do you have the
same problem?
- No.
- So, you are not emotionally connected, like?
There's nothing here, no?
There's no spark?
Would you say you was?
- No, that is not what I asked.
- Is there a spark?
- I'm asking you.
- Would you say there was?
- Obviously, there is.
So, you can't give him sh*t when you
do the same thing.
Yeah, I know, but I wasn't in
the experience.
- Nah.
- I gave him sh*t for something I didn't think would happen to me.
- And now I completely get how it has happened.
- Correct.
Just give me a few drags at the end
but that's with me pushing hard.
I'll make you a deal.
I'll give you some drags if you give
me a kiss.
I feel like I had a good connection
with someone that I didn't expect
to happen.
Did I push the boundaries?
Yes, maybe a little bit.
The next morning, Alex has woken
up alone.
I think the journey into
non-monogamy is a crazy one.
I don't really know what to expect,
to be honest.
But I think if Lyd has an emotional
connection with another boy,
it would be quite hypocritical
considering what she said before.
I feel like a massive hypocrite
and I wasn't in the right to
tell you
- you couldn't have a connection with someone.
- All right.
I won't lie.
He did kiss me outside the challenge
and I didn't pull away.
But I did start to think game is
just a code word
because I do feel like you've kissed
girls multiple times.
I kissed one in the game,
pushed him away cos I just didn't
fancy him
and kissed one other so.
Yours was outside the game.
Mine wasn't.
I wouldn't say I feel guilt as such
about last night
because I don't feel like it's a
massive rule break.
Like, in the respect of if we agreed
no kissing
and I kissed someone, I'd get it.
But obviously he kissed girls
multiple times.
I don't feel like he really has a
leg to stand on.
By the sounds of it, Lyd...
No. I don't, no, no, no.
- ..by the sounds of it.
- No, no, no.
You are very quick to say things to
me and have an assumption like this,
that and the other and get annoyed
about things really easily.
But then when you're in the
situation, you think it's fine.
If you didn't have the rules there,
would you do things differently?
I wouldn't do anything out
of respect.
Whenever something happens,
I've always got you in the back of
my head.
Yeah.
I just feel like sometimes, not all
the time,
it's not reciprocated.
Yeah, she said she followed
the rules
but she did get emotionally
connected with someone,
she kissed someone.
It's definitely double standards.
It makes me feel annoyed.
Keen to address the issues from last
night is Dr Lori.
You all right?
Grab a seat.
- Thank you.
- Thank you.
So, it's been a while since I've
seen you and a lot's happened.
So, what was your date like?
You know how yesterday, I was very
closed off to everything?
I feel like now I kind of understand
because I had a connection
with someone.
I think there is definitely a bit of
romance there
which was my main rule not to.
- Yeah.
- I am such a hypocrite.
Before I experienced it, I had all
these rules.
I just think I was a bit out of
order and I didn't give it a go.
You found somebody attractive
and you kissed them. Own it.
Yeah.
So how are you feeling about the
fact that she did something she said
she wasn't gonna do?
I'm surprised, to be fair.
I'm surprised.
You're surprised that she did?
Yeah.
Cos you were so on about me sticking
to the rules.
And as you said, a bit of hypocrisy
with it.
So, when she broke the rules, it
wasn't great.
OK, so, I'm encouraging you to think
about being a little bit more open
than that.
Cos it's better to talk about it
and have permission now than it is
to be asking forgiveness later.
Yeah.
OK, so I am gonna throw it out.
No rules.
And then we can just see what
people do.
Yeah, I think this scenario was
always going to go one of two
- ways, so.
- Yeah.
OK. I want you to go on
separate dates
and forget about the rules.
Just have fun.
- Thank you.
- See you soon.
Thank you. Have fun.
Couples can often get hung up on
their own rules.
The whole point of consensual
non-monogamy is to have fun.
And because everything's out in
the open
you are not worrying
about deception.
I like your eyes.
They're bright.
They're as bright as a bright thing.
I think as of today, the rules are
more open and free.
So, I just want to feel loose
and like I can have a good time.
Enjoy myself.
You can tell a lot of someone by
looking into their eyes.
I'm excited.
After being with Lewis yesterday,
I do genuinely feel like he's
someone that makes me
feel comfortable.
So, I'm feeling quite good.
Quite mesmerising, actually.
You are magnificent.
Thank you, darling.
Jasmine and Al are at the retreat
to find out whether opening up
their marriage
to other sexual partners will spice
up their love life.
When you see a lot of couples that
have stayed together
think that they probably got quite
good sex lives.
Generally, I think that's something
you've got to work on.
We're here to learn.
Yeah, we're here to learn.
I might go into this and find that
Jasmine wants to steer off
and become a full time swinger and
I'm completely against the idea.
I think this is a nicer look.
- Yeah?
- Yeah.
- Definitely?
- Yeah.
Dr Lori has arranged for the couple
to go on separate socials.
Do you want to do kiss lips on my
cheek so everyone knows I'm taken?
She wants them to meet members of
the opposite sex.
Love you.
Love you too.
Let's go.
Make a connection and invite someone
on a romantic date.
Excited and nervous to find out what
it's all actually about.
Have fun.
You too.
Jasmine's going off on a social
with men,
I'm going off on a social
with women.
That's a huge leap.
We're here to make our relationship
better and stronger.
And I am willing to take part in
any activities.
And you know who doesn't like
talking to handsome young men?
- Hey.
- Well, hello.
How are we doing?
Al's social, hosted by Thom...
Cheers.
- Hot tub party.
- A hot tub party.
Yeah.
I mean, wow.
..is brimming with the retreats
sexually adventurous
female residents.
- ALL:
- Cheers.
A modern relationship is whatever
you f*cking want.
And if that's shagging, f*cking
everyone or not shagging everyone
or shagging someone in front
of everyone it's then, yeah.
That's a modern relationship.
You have lovely eyes, by the way.
- Thank you.
- Yeah, they're very mesmerising.
I like to explore in the bedroom,
for sure.
It's not necessarily just about
having one partner for the rest of
your life.
And the hat vibe, I'm feeling it.
Hat was 2.99 down Sainsburys.
Boom. Match.
Yeah, we have to.
My God, you look amazing.
Aw, thanks.
How are you doing?
While Jasmine's social, hosted
by Jess,
is in the drawing room
and jam packed with sexually
liberated men.
You look gorgeous.
Aw, bless you. Thank you. So do you.
Well, its suppose it took you a long
time to look as beautiful as you do.
Yeah, I don't wake up like this.
- No?
- You wouldn't even recognise me.
Really?
- It's a big transformation.
- I'm sure that's not true.
If you don't mind me asking how old
are you?
37.
OK. You look good.
Thank you. Yeah, I am low milage.
What's your type? And why are you,
kind of, brought here?
Yeah, what's your type on paper?
Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes.
I am like Augustus Gloop going into
the sweetie garden.
Right? And then the next thing you
know I am in the chocolate river
and we all know how that ended.
Ice broken.
Let's have a. Oh, my God.
Al begins to find his stride.
You have the South American look.
Oh, yeah.
You are owning that. Definitely.
The hot tub party is fantastic.
What do you normally like in
the bedroom?
Blindfolds?
You don't mind handcuffs?
You never know.
It feels quite normal to be
flirtatious, to be honest.
With so many women being like Al,
Al, Al.
What's the temperature like?
Hot.
Be hotter when I get in there.
What were we talking about?
On the other side of the property.
I am from South West London.
Oh, are you? Whereabouts?
Putney area.
Oh, yes, yes. We have a TW postcode.
Jasmine is trying to flirt with men
for the first time in eight years.
We live on the same road as
Hampton Court.
What's Hampton Court?
Remember I'm a Northerner.
- Henry the VIII.
- Well, I'm a northern, so.
He was once the king of England.
I know who he is but I just don't
know where he lived.
It was awkward at times cos it was
a completely unfamiliar environment.
My goodness.
What made you actually come try
something like an open relationship?
You don't get presented with these
opportunities very often
and, you know, am I gonna like it?
I don't know.
But then, if I was invited down
a coal mine, would I like it? No.
Would I still want to go? Yes.
So, I see myself as down a coal mine
at the moment.
Whether I carry on being a coal
miner when I am back up in the open
air, who knows?
At his social.
Hot tub! Hot tub! Hot tub!
Hot tub! Hot tub!
Off! Off! Off!
Al's going in deep.
Cheers, ladies.
Woo!
So, sex in the sea, or sex on
the beach?
Beach all day long.
Really?
Salty, hard work,
waves coming in and out.
No, that's stressful man.
Tied up or being the tie-er.
Tied up. What about you?
I like to tie someone up.
- Match.
- Match.
The girls in the hot tub were
all great.
I see potential with all of them.
Would you rather giving oral sex or
receiving oral sex?
Giving.
- Giving?
- Good.
That puts you in the good books.
Cheers! Cheers to that!
They're just great girls.
Up for a good time.
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