I found it very hard
to find women to talk to
who buy into this
boyfriend experience.
Why do you think women
are maybe a little bit ashamed?
I think it's because
there's that stigma from,
going back 20, 30 years ago,
where it's the men that pay
for the service from the woman.
They're a bit embarrassed
to admit they pay for this stuff.
But believe me,
it goes on a lot.
SHE SQUEALS
'I'm Olivia Attwood.'
SHE COUGHS 'Back for more'
Is the wedding ring a problem?
Because, like, I can take it off.
'..in search of
who's striking it rich
'in today's all-inclusive
sex industry'
Mm, that is a big,
big load for Granny.
Wanna see me bounce these pecs?
'..meeting the most
fantastical content creators'
Go. OLIVIA SQUEALS
'..offering their
extensive services'
Sucking, f*cking,
facials, creampies, a**l.
POV, bondage, bush worship.
'..for the most
unexpected kinks.
'I'll be probing
further' SHE MOANS
'..into a business
full of surprises'
Look at that beauty, darling.
'..uncovering what it takes'
Someone wanted me
to drink 5,000 calories.
'..to bank a fortune.'
My biggest day, I had
one guy send me 30,000.
What?!
I don't just cater to horny men.
Hit a million? Oh, I've
hit over four million.
The boyfriend experience.
"What's bigger than my
fat d*ck? My fat wallet."
HE LAUGHS
If you thought it was
just women cashing in
on the world's oldest
hustle think again.
People have offered me, like, 20
grand to go and shag them before.
'The last survey, taken in 2017,
'showed the UK had
the highest number
'of male escorts in Europe'
The hand is on the leg.
'..with both women and
men seeking services.'
I've got another guy that
wants a custom made.
Got all the gear.
'I'll find out what a professional
boyfriend can take home'
I'm 300 an hour. 300 an hour.
Then 2,000 for overnight.
'..discover what
women really want'
Orgasm. Is that, like,
guaranteed in the price?
Generally, yeah.
'..and how much they're
willing to pay for it.'
How much do you
reckon you've spent so far?
WOMAN ON PHONE: '£10,000?'
I just like what I want.
And if I have to pay
for it, I will pay for it.
I think someone's
getting lucky tonight!
Look at my fringe.
Ugh.
You know every boy in the '90s
that you'd have an irrational crush on
would have a fringe like this.
Like, do you know what I mean?
Right, I'm gonna see if
I can find any websites.
I think the easiest
way, possibly,
to track down someone that
offers the boyfriend experience
is first maybe go
looking for male escorts
because I think it's
an evolution of that.
I think you're a male escort,
and then you offer this other layer
which makes it the
boyfriend experience.
Ooh, loads comes up.
There are so many
sites for g*y male escorts,
but it has to be women
that are looking for that
experience from men.
OK, there's one here
called Gentlemen4Hire.
"The UK's premier straight
male escort company.
"We've been helping people
become male escorts for over ten years
"and have thousands
of happy female clients."
This is very interesting.
"Our male escorts cater for
all tastes and all occasions,
"from dinner dates
to work functions,
"weddings to weekend
breaks, or a trip to the cinema.
"Please note, they do not offer
any sexual services or 'extras'
"and they provide
gentlemanly companionship
"for your required occasion."
So, it This really is
the boyfriend experience.
There is clearly
a market for this,
and I just need one lovely
lad to agree to meet me.
And then the dream
would be speak to a woman
that's actually using
this site, or a site like it.
# I want a boyfriend
So put it on me
# I'm looking for a man
Who can take that heat
# Want a boyfriend #
# I'm on the road again #
HUMS # Road again. #
'Though there's a large supply
of male escorts in the UK,
'the majority are targeted
towards g*y men.'
# I been looking like #
'I'm off to Liverpool to meet a
lad who's cashing in on the market
'for men looking for a
boyfriend experience.'
# Where you at? #
Before I go in, I'm just gonna do
a little refresh of our guy, Craig.
OK, so, I'm on the OnlyFans.
Looking very handsome,
like a Hollywood actor,
and the bio literally says, "Wanna
see me f*ck", question mark.
Well, Craig, yes, I do.
That's why I'm here.
DOORBELL RINGS
Hi, Craig! How are
you? Hiya, you all right?
I'm good, thanks. How
are you? Nice to meet you.
Thanks for having me. Come in.
Oh, you can meet my mum.
We're just having a cup of tea.
This is Claire. Oh, what a
lovely surprise! Hello, Claire.
How do you do? Shall we
do a little hug? Shall we?
Yeah, didn't expect Mum to be
here. Ah, well. You know, we just
We get along, we spend
loads of time together.
On top of having a
successful career in porn,
24-year-old Craig has
over 20 regular male clients
that he refers to
as his boyfriends.
On the adult side of things, I'm
guessing Mum knows all about it?
What? Wait LAUGHS
Oh, my God, imagine! No,
I'm messing. I'm messing.
LAUGHS
I would actually just leave
and never come back.
Yeah, the whole family knows.
They were um-ing and
ah-ing for a bit at first.
I think as soon as Dad saw
how much money I was making,
he was like, "Just
go and do your thing."
His Granddad, before
he passed away,
used to follow him
on Instagram and stuff.
I've got two g*y uncles as well,
so I've always had that growing up.
And, like, we've always
been in that environment.
As a mum, alls you want is for them
to be healthy and safe and happy.
Yes. Have you ever
come across any
anything online of Craig,
where you're like,
"Ooh."? Er, well
Oh, poor Uncle Paul. Yeah.
Oh, no, what happened to Paul?
Well, my Uncle Paul, he
got a VR set for Christmas,
and there's VR
porn. The headset?
Yeah, yeah. And
there's VR porn now.
Right. And I'm the
poster boy on the website.
It comes up with a
complete photo of me, naked.
I mean, I was like, "I'm so
sorry that you had to see that!"
Claire, do you understand
this boyfriend experience world?
Do you understand why men
are lining up to pay your Craig
to be their online boyfriend?
Yeah, because he's stunning.
But, like, that aside, he's
got a cracking personality,
so what's not to like? Aww.
Yeah, you're gorgeous. Why
are you saying cute things?
CRAIG AND CLAIRE LAUGH
Like, Mum, anyway, we're
probably gonna end up starting,
like, I'm going to get my
clothes off and that, basically.
That's a sign for me
to leave, then. Yeah.
I can't wait.
Oh, my God. What a legend.
It's so nice to have
a family that literally,
like, I can talk to
them about anything.
In terms of work before the adult
industry, what did that look like?
I worked in home care
paediatrics for the North West.
Oh, wow. It was stress.
So, but dealing
with sick children?
Yeah. And, like, I have
such a soft spot for kids,
that's why I wanted
to go into paediatrics.
But nothing prepares you to see
sick kids on the wards every day.
I did my best, and so much
respect to everyone in the NHS
who can emotionally handle that
job, cos you need tough skin. Yeah.
So that's when I
spoke to the family,
and they were like, "What?
"You wanna go from being a
pharmacy technician to porn?"
I was like, "Yeah."
It's such a contrast,
isn't it? Yeah.
It's wild, innit?
So you made the
jump, you left the job.
Yeah, basically, I started
everything OnlyFans-based,
and I was, like, chatting to
people, and then it went into, like
All the porn studios
started messaging me,
but, like, the biggest porn
studios in the world, all fighting,
within two months,
fighting over who got me.
How did the boyfriend
experience come about, then?
I just kind of
fell into it, I think,
because of who I am as a person.
Whereas OnlyFans, I ended up
having, like, really nice conversations
with the people on there,
and then I'd start
to get to know them.
It just progressed from
there with a good few people.
Is this something you do very
much online, right? Yeah, it is.
So you don't do meets? No.
No?
I'd be concerned about,
like, "Well, who's this person?
"Do I really know them?"
You know what I mean?
So more of a safety
point of view? Yeah.
It'd take a lot for me to
be able to trust someone.
Do you think there's more
money to be made, then, online
for the boyfriend experience than
there is doing meets in person?
No. If you meet
people in person,
you make a hell of a lot
more money than Do you?
You've got these
multimillionaires
who want to pay for you to go out
to a yacht in the South of France.
People have offered me, like, 20
grand to go and shag them before.
But you must be making
good money online?
I make, like, about 20 grand.
A month? Yeah.
f*cking hell.
Like, I never expected to
make that much money. No?
When I opened the
page, I was like
I'd make about
1,500 in the hospital,
and now I make more money
than I ever could have dreamed.
Why do you think
there's more g*y men
looking for, like, the
boyfriend experience
than there are straight women?
The older you get, the more
lonely g*y men that there are. Right.
Because it's so
hard to actually find
stable, monogamous
relationships in the g*y community.
Is that one of the keys to
monetising the boyfriend experience,
is getting that
person to like you
on a deeper level
than just fancying you?
Just be real and
honest with people.
Because as soon
as people see that,
they kind of fall for
you a bit more. Yeah.
So, what's the plan for the
rest of the day, then, honey?
Well, I've got to
make content for Phil.
So I said I'd just do a couple
of little bits for him, and, like
So, Phil, what do
we know about him?
Phil's in his 60s,
but he's just, like, lacking
a relationship in his life.
So I think that's kind
of why he just wanted,
like, a boyfriend experience.
I just texted him and said,
"Thanks for the flowers."
He sends me flowers
every week. He's dead cute.
And he's just said, "Oh, it's
always great to treat my fave boy.
"Glad they arrived OK."
Here you are,
I'll reply to this.
"Do you reckon I can
make you hard at work?"
He's typing already.
God, Phil, you little minx.
He said, "Hell yes.
Won't be able to get up."
I'll have to take a photo
for him, won't I? "Hell yes."
Right, there we go.
I'll just send him a topless photo.
Oh, my God. Your body, Jesus.
HE CHUCKLES
Ah! "What's bigger than
my fat d*ck? My fat wallet."
HE CHUCKLES
He's just sent me a grand.
f*ck off!
Oh, my God!
And then what will you
do, like, as a thank you?
I'll just make some
content for him.
I make videos on the pole
cos he really likes
watching me pole dance.
Did you say this is your family
home, that you bought? Yeah.
What used to be in that room
before you put a pole in there?
That used to be our dining room.
Everyone used to eat
tea there, and dinner.
And now it's a pole studio!
HE LAUGHS
Are you gonna do it now?
Yeah, go on. You wait there,
I'll get changed. All right, darl.
I could see this out of
the corner of my vision
while he was talking.
In't that funny?
Takes me back to my days
in the strip club, series two.
I have since retired cos it
wasn't fair on the other dancers.
Oh, my God! Look at
you! You look amazing!
Make some content for him.
Oh, you tell me when
you're starting and I'll button it.
Oh, my God. You
make that look so easy.
Thank you. Have you got, like,
a naughtier part you have to film?
Oh, yeah, definitely. I just film a
whole, like, w*nk*ng thing for him.
So Oh, lovely!
You go for it. I'll
be here, watching.
That grand really turned
me on, you know, Phil.
HE BREATHES HEAVILY
Is that you done, Craig?
Yeah, quick and easy.
I didn't wanna put
you off. HE LAUGHS
Will that go to Phil now?
Yeah, I'll just
send it over to Phil.
I mean, he's just sent me a grand.
The least I can do for him, innit?
I know.
Thank you so much.
Take care, honey. Yeah, you too.
Craig is running that operation
to probably its max potential.
£1,000 just getting
dropped into his account
while sitting on the
sofa chatting to me.
Craig tells me that there
is the potential to earn
an insane amount of money
by doing in-person meets,
but he says that the risk,
for him, is not worth it,
which I think is smart.
Cos, you know,
money is tempting,
and if someone offered me
£20,000 to go and meet them,
I would not be
sat here right now.
I'd be gone.
# If I was your boyfriend
I'd never let you go
# Keep you on my arm #
Cut my own fringe last night,
but I can't show you the fringe
because it took me 45 minutes
to get it into this headband, so
I don't regret anything I did.
'The number of male creators
on the adult site OnlyFans
'increased by 450%
during the COVID pandemic.
'And cashing in on
the action is Paul,
'who left his job as a
plumber three years ago
'and has since
quadrupled his income
'creating content as
an online boyfriend.'
# If I was your boyfriend. #
I'm onto the OnlyFans.
It says, "Paul the
plumber. Six foot one.
"Sweaty, hard-working tradie."
I don't know what you'd do, though,
if you booked him from Checkatrade,
and then you were in the kitchen,
and he was on all fours like that
when you just wanted
your faucet fixing.
Hi, Paul. Hello, how are
you doing? Nice to meet you.
I'm good. I'm Olivia,
nice to meet you.
What's going on
in here today, then?
Er, so, we're actually sending
a parcel out at the moment
for someone who asked
me for certain items. OK.
'34-year-old Paul
has found a novel way
'to monetise the
boyfriend experience,
'sending out personalised
packages to his clients.'
So, the Are
they boxer shorts?
Yeah, worn boxer shorts.
Socks. Worn? How worn?
That was push and cardio.
Oh, sh*t. In the gym, push?
Yes, aye. OK.
Will they want smell?
My My take on it, really, is I
think it's like a pheromone thing.
And what do you
charge for these?
The branded boxers are 50.
If they're wanting
anything extra in there,
it's normally about
an extra 20 quid.
What does that mean?
LAUGHS
What, so, like, they might ask
for, like, shitty boxers? Yeah.
Well, that's what them
ones are. Yeah, yeah.
Right, keep them over there.
HE LAUGHS Keep them sealed.
So, who are you actually
sending these packages to?
Er, so, this package
today is for a regular.
And is it a guy? Yes, it
is. Aye. It's a guy? Yeah.
Is it that kind of the
boyfriend experience,
that kind of simulated intimacy?
Even a lot of our conversations,
it's nothing really even sexual.
It tends to be what I'm
doing on a day-to-day basis.
How my dog is.
So a conversation that
you would essentially have
with a boyfriend or a girlfriend,
but you charge them for that? Yes.
So, Paul, who are
your customers?
You've got to accept that, like,
98%, 99% of your customers
will be g*y men.
Some of these guys, then,
you've been speaking
to like this for a long time?
I've got one customer that
we've been talking to for that long,
he knows just as much about
me as pretty much anybody.
How much do you reckon
someone like that has spent with you
over the last couple of years?
I've had a couple that have
probably spent 15 grand.
sh*t! Yeah, yeah.
Yeah, so, I'm just gonna quickly
take a picture before I send it off,
showing I've got
it all parcelled up.
PHONE CHIMES
He's just paid.
225. Yeah.
Amazing. Happy days.
'Providing aromatic underwear
'is just part of how Paul
keeps his clients happy.'
So, what's the craic, then?
You're gonna FaceTime?
Yeah, someone, in a sexual
way This guy, he just
He just likes to have a
chat and just a catch-up.
RINGING TONE
Oh, here he is.
How you doing,
buddy? 'You all right?'
Not too bad, cheers.
'How was your weekend?'
Not too bad, mate. Had a quiet
one. 'Paul had a quiet weekend?'
I know, I know. How
was your weekend?
'Yeah, it was too short, but
it was all right, you know?
'We're walking eight miles a
day with the dog.' Aye, aye.
'Trying to Really
trying to lose the weight.
'It's, er It's hard work.'
Mate, you have lost a lot of
weight. Like, you really have.
'Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
I know, I know.' Mm.
'I've lost two-and-a-half
stone, so' Yeah.
I know. Oh, two seconds, buddy.
Liv wants to butt in, she's
got a couple of questions.
How are you?
'Yeah, I'm good, thanks,
Liv. What can I do for you?'
What do you get
out of these kind of
this arrangement
that you guys have?
'If I want advice or help,
or I'm having a down day
'and need a bit of a
kick, or a help-up, we
'It's honest conversations
with each other.'
Have you ever ordered anything
from Paul, package-wise?
'Yes, I have.'
What's the appeal in
ordering those kind of things?
'Paul is somebody
that I will never meet.'
Right. 'It's something
of his that I have.'
So, like, those items
makes you feel close to him
because you know that you'll
never be physically close to him?
'Yeah, it's like having
a footballer's shirt.'
Yeah, aye. 'It's the
same thing as that.
'You go to your football match,
they throw shirt in the crowd.
'It's the same as that.'
So, in the way they
frame the football shirts,
do you frame the dirty boxers?
THEY LAUGH 'No!'
Yeah, yeah, whatever!
Thanks so much for
answering my questions.
'You're welcome, nice to
speak to you.' Thank you, ditto.
'Ta-ra, cheers.' See
you later, buddy. Ta-ra.
Oh, he sounds really
nice. He is, genuinely.
How much do you charge
for a chat like that, then?
That was £100. Wow.
The payment's
already came through.
That was quick. Yeah, yeah.
Er, so, I've got another guy
that wants a custom made. OK.
I'm going to go, erm, get
I was gonna say "freshened up",
but I'm getting in my
dirty plumbing gear.
OK. So, yeah, I shan't be long.
I know they've been
speaking for a long time,
but the conversation
just flowed, like,
as if they were, you
know, boyfriends.
More than that, it just felt a
bit deeper, the connection.
He said, "I'm never
gonna meet him,
"I'm never gonna meet
anyone like him," and
then you can see how valuable
those interactions would be.
f*cking hell, got all the gear.
How's this go, then?
So, they're wanting
a point-of-view video
where I'm coming in from
work and they're in bed and
How are you feeling about me
being here, with the cameras?
You could have at least took
us for a couple drinks first,
I'll be honest with
you, like, but
Yeah.
Right.
You waiting for me?
Told you not to wait
till I got back from work.
Er, so, Liv, I'm sorry, but to
be able to do this properly,
like, I think I'm probably gonna
have to ask you to leave, like.
Is it too off-putting, us being
in here? Just a bit, yeah.
You don't have to ask me
twice, we're going. Right.
Paul has that thing where he
looks rugged, and he's manly,
and he's, you know, muscular,
but he's got that softness.
It was very wholesome
and chatty and warm,
and I think that's
why he's successful
at the boyfriend experience.
Because, like he said, a lot of
people can make adult content,
but I think you have
to have the personality
to give that personal touch.
I know there are women that
are using the boyfriend experience.
It's just gonna be, I think,
fewer and far between,
and a lot harder
for me to pin down.
# I can buy myself flowers
# Uh-huh Write my
name in the sand #
Thank you so much.
That looks very elegant,
doesn't it, and tiny?
Good God.
That'll put hairs on your chest.
'Hairy-chested or not,
'I've been wondering
what drives women
'to hire a professional
boyfriend.'
Hello. Hey, darl.
You look amazing. How
are you? You look beautiful.
'I thought my pal
Georgia could help,
'who, after two trips
to the Love Island villa,
'is still searching
for the one.'
What's the chat, then?
Are you back on the market?
Yeah, another one bites the
dust. You'll meet someone, G.
He weren't your person. I'm
just happy being on my own.
It is what it is. Maybe
that's my life path?
Yeah, but I've got a full-on
husband, and it's not always
You know, there's
good and bad parts.
Yeah, of course.
He sent me a meme
this morning, and it said,
"I don't know what is
harder for women to do,
"shut the f*ck up
or parallel park."
That's the first thing
I saw this morning.
Do you wanna know what
I've been investigating?
Yeah. So, what have
you been doing this week?
Have you ever heard of the
boyfriend experience? No, what is it?
So, if you imagine,
like, male escorts
would just provide
someone with sex.
OK. And a boyfriend experience
is, like, where someone can pay
for, basically, someone to,
like, act like their boyfriend.
So, it's like, they'd go out
for dinner, they'd hold hands.
They might message back
and forth throughout the day.
They might go to, like,
the cinema together.
They obviously might do sex.
I think, in the g*y
scene, it's huge.
Oh, I tell you what,
that's taking manifesting
to a new level, isn't it?
What do you mean? Well,
have you not seen when they say,
"What you should do
is, you should act like
"you've already received the
thing that you wanna receive."
So, sometimes, I
wake up in the morning,
and I'll go, "Good
morning, darling,"
to the gust of air
that's in my bed.
OK! I don't. But that's what
they say you should do.
But then I think on
the flip side of that,
I think a lot of the people
that are buying this service
actually don't
want, like, a full
Like, it's a really nice way
of having the connection
and not having, like, the legwork
of, like, having to go on a date.
Having to go on a
date, and the nerves.
Yeah, cos these might be females
who actually don't plan on getting
married through their life at all,
so they just want a
bit of companionship.
Especially, she
wanted, like, good sex.
Well, do you know
they're gonna be good?
Well, I guess it's a
bit Is it a bit like Uber?
Do they get, like, a star
rating at the end? I don't know.
Go on the reviews, it's, "Only
lasted two minutes, don't bother.
"Wished I could've returned."
"Smelt like Skips."
"Would not re-book."
GEORGIA LAUGHS
G, you're the queen
of manifestation.
Manifest me a woman
that is gonna talk to me
about the boyfriend experience.
Ohhhh! No, seriously.
Everyone's looking.
# I was busy thinking 'bout boys
# Boys #
Georgia's manifestation skills
seem to have done the trick.
I've finally found a woman
that's agreed to talk to me
about her experiences with
hiring men for in-person meets.
RINGING TONE 'Hello?'
Hi, Jessica, it's Olivia.
'Hi, how are you?'
I'm good. How are you?
'I'm excited to
be talking to you.'
We're keeping
your identity secret.
Can I just ask you, why
was that important for you?
'I'm currently going
through a divorce,
'and I've got small children,
'so I want to protect
their identity.' Yeah.
'But equally, there's
still a bit of a stigma.'
I think they are
very valid reasons.
I guess the question that I know
people will be asking at home
watching this is, "Why don't you
just go and get a boyfriend, then?
"Why don't you date?"
'With a boyfriend experience,
it's a lot more on your own terms.
'And it's nice to
have a bit of chivalry,
'like having a door opened for
you, having a seat pulled out for you.'
What do you like
chat-wise, conversation?
'I like to not be me.
'Erm, it's a form of
escapism, I suppose' Mm.
'..from having to think about my,
you know, daily responsibilities.'
In terms of the date,
you find a guy, you contact
them, you arrange to go out.
How does that evening play out?
'What I would like to do is go
out for dinner with them, drinks.
'Sometimes, it ends up
with us going to a hotel room.'
Would it be your preference
that they, you know, turn sexual,
or is the beginning part of the
evening equally important to you?
'For me, it's
equally as important.
'The The sexual side of
things, it's nice if it happens.'
Jessica, if you had
to put a figure on it,
how much do you reckon you've
spent on the boyfriend experience so far?
'£10,000?'
That's quite a lot of
money, isn't it? 'It is.'
Have you ever had
a bad experience?
'I got scammed.'
Talk to me. What happened?
'He became aware that
I'd lost my mum to cancer.
'He told me that his business
wasn't doing very well
'and that his dad
was dying of cancer.'
Jesus.
'So I basically paid
for two meet-ups in full,
'in advance, to help him out.
'I was also sending him
messages of support,
'like what to expect with his dad
from what I'd seen with my mum.'
TEARFULLY: 'Oh, God, sorry.'
No, my God, take
your time. This is awful.
'He kept bringing it back to that
he basically wanted more money.'
So, how much? How much
money did you send him in total?
'£17,000.'
Oh, my God.
That's absolutely vile.
I'm just so sorry that
you went through that.
'You're paying someone
to fill a gap in your life,
'and they can prey
on that vulnerability.'
It hasn't, obviously, put you
off completely of using the sites.
Have you got any dates lined up?
'Tomorrow.' What?!
Tomorrow?! 'Yeah.'
You know what I'm
gonna ask you, don't you?
Could I come to
your date? 'Yeah.
'If my identity is hidden,
'then I guess there's
no reason to say no.'
Yes! I'm fist-pumping.
This is major.
Right, I'm gonna let you go
because I've taken
quite a lot of your time,
but I will see you tomorrow.
'Take care.' Bye.
Jessica, her reasons for wanting
to do the boyfriend experience,
her expectation, it all
runs a lot deeper than,
"Oh, I'm just gonna, you
know, pay a hot guy to shag me."
I am very, very
excited about tomorrow.
This is insane.
# It's time for me to take it
I'm the boss right now #
'In 2024, a YouGov
survey in Britain
'found that 9% of men
admitted to paying for sex,
'whereas for women, it was 0%.'
Hi. BARMAN: Hiya.
Can I get a coke
when you get a second?
'I've managed to track down
one woman who has opened up
'about paying for male company,
'and she's invited me
to crash her next date.'
# What's wrong With
being confident? #
I'm waiting to meet Johnny,
who is Jessica's
boyfriend experience.
Typically, it's obviously a
lot harder for girls to c*m.
So, it's, like, if
you don't c*m,
do you get a refund
or, like, a discount?
Hi! Hi, you all right?
Thank you for meeting with
me. Nice to meet you, yeah.
Take a seat.
So, you've got a
date today? I do, yeah.
How are you feeling about
it? Yeah, I'm excited, yeah.
'34-year-old Johnny dabbled
in adult content on OnlyFans,
'but only started to see an
increase in his earning potential
'when he started
doing in-person meets.'
So, what was it like, the first
booking that came through?
Talk me through that
experience for you.
I was really nervous. Were you?
Yeah, I was absolutely
crapping it, to be fair.
THEY LAUGH I was bricking it
cos you don't know who
you're getting involved Yeah.
The amount of men
that were emailing us,
asking us for this,
that and the other.
That's not? Strictly
says on the profile.
Does it? "No males".
But there was definitely
an appetite for it? Oh!
Honestly, if I had took
all the requests on,
I'd be a rich man
right now, to be fair.
So, talk me through what's
mostly requested by women.
I've found that a lot of the
women that contact us for it
are women that have been
with selfish lovers sort of thing.
Mm. And they're like, "I wanna have
an experience where it's about me."
Oh, that's really interesting.
"It's about me
having the orgasm.
"It's about You're
focused on my needs."
And then normally,
when you're dating,
maybe women prioritise men,
you know, and their
pleasure? Yeah, yeah.
How does it work,
then, in terms of orgasm?
Is that, like,
guaranteed in the price?
Generally, yeah. I don't have
You've not had any issues there?
Nah, I've never
had any struggles.
In terms of dating
outside of the job
I've opted to stay single now
cos it makes life a lot easier,
and I don't think I
would get with anybody
who couldn't accept what I do.
I'm interested now, as
always, about money.
Give me some
figures. Like, what?
For example, the date
this evening. Yeah.
What would you charge for that?
So, for drinks and dinner, I
would generally charge about £200.
Mm-hm. If they want one-to-one
time afterwards, so an hour afterwards
Yeah. ..I'd charge
an extra £150 for that.
So that's, like, £350
total. So that's sex?
Yes. An erotic massage is a lot
more work than sitting, drinking
and eating with someone.
Yeah, I can imagine.
And then going
back for an hour, so
The hour's the easy
bit. THEY LAUGH
So, talk to me
about tonight. Yeah.
Jessica. Mm-hm.
What do you know about her?
What have you guys arranged?
She just wants drink and dinner
and some one-to-one time afterwards,
IF she chooses.
It's on the table, but
it's not confirmed?
No. It's pencilled in?
She could get here,
and she could dislike us.
She could find us not
attractive, or she could just, like
I don't think that's gonna
happen. HE LAUGHS
Right, I won't take up
any more of your time,
cos I think Jessica's
probably gonna be here soon,
but I'm gonna tuck
myself round there
and have a little
listen to your date.
Is that OK? Yeah, that's fine.
I hope it goes well for
you, and you two hit it off.
Thank you very much.
So do I. THEY LAUGH
Good luck. Cheers.
Oh, God, stunning.
This is the creepiest
thing I've done
..but also the best.
Oh, my God. Hi, Jessica! Hi!
Nice to meet you.
How are you feeling?
Erm, a bit nervous,
a bit excited.
He seems really nice. Does he?
Yeah, good luck. Thank you.
Johnny? Hi. Ah, Jessica.
Nice to meet you. And you.
You look gorgeous.
Oh, thank you.
How have you been?
A bit nervous. Are you?
I'm a little bit nervous
myself, but I'll be all right.
Cheers, clink. THEY LAUGH
OK, so, we're gonna pretend
that I've just met you in a bar.
Right.
What is your, like,
cheesiest chat-up line?
My cheese You
know what it is?
I don't use chat-up
lines. I did use
Oh, you just need
the face? I know.
You've just got the
face, right? THEY LAUGH
I once used a chat-up line
on a lass, and it was horrible.
Something about "I've fallen
down from the sky" or something.
Did you have a bucket
ready for her, so she could?
I should have. I should have,
you know? It was horrendous.
I feel like she's
eased right into it.
She feels I think she
sounds quite confident.
So what struck you about
my advert, so to speak?
Well, you seem genuine.
Like, nice eyes and smile,
which to me is really important.
Don't get a big head
cos you've still got to
get through that doorway!
Yeah, you're
complimenting us too much.
Yeah, you're inflating
my ego far too much.
She's, like, leading
the convo, not him.
He should be paying her.
Yes. I'm just wondering
what you were listening to
when you were taking that photo?
She's talking about
a nude picture.
Am I hiding something in those
white shorts, is that what you're saying?
Erm, oof!
Then there's some orange
shorts, just around your ankle area.
Go on, girl!
I was just trying to show us
off at, you know, every angle.
You know what I mean? Just so
that you know what you're getting into.
You can see how much
the conversation side of this
is important to her.
So, tell me about your DJ-ing.
Yeah, I've DJ-ed since
I was, like, 13 years old.
I got a Numark DJ In A Box
set. My mam bought us it.
You know, like, you do
these "butler in the buff"?
Yeah. DJ in the buff?
DJ in the buff?
Yes! DJ in the buff!
That could work,
actually. Why not?
Yeah, that could work.
It's getting a bit flirtier
now. They've paid the bill.
So I think I can dive in
and ask a few questions.
Hi, guys. Hi, Liv.
All right? How did it go?
Yeah. It's been
really good, actually.
Yeah, we'll go grab a couple
more drinks and see what happens.
Yeah, sounds good to me.
Are you gonna get off
in more ways than one?
A little bit A little
bit more rum, yeah.
Thank you. It was
lovely to meet you.
Oh, thanks so much for letting me
awkwardly hang around on your date.
Yeah, no bother. And
eavesdrop! I'm so glad it went well.
Bye, guys. Have fun. See you.
Thank you. No bother.
I think someone's
getting lucky tonight!
Look, if you were in a restaurant,
and you were sat opposite to them,
you wouldn't know that anyone
was being paid in that situation.
Just very normal.
Chatty, friendly and flirty.
I can definitely understand why
Jessica pays for these services.
Here she is, having a
lovely evening with him.
She's gonna go home with him,
and then she doesn't have to
worry about any of the after stuff.
Doesn't have to worry
if he's gonna ghost her
or he's gonna call her again.
He ticks all the boxes
of what she's looking for.
Like, you know, the
charm and flirtatious.
And it's everything that she
wants, with a little bit of extra.
# I need someone
to hold me close
# Deeper than I've ever known
# Whose love
feels like a rodeo #
OLIVIA: 'Finding women to open
up about their boyfriend experience
'has proven tricky, but good
things come to those who wait.'
I can't believe this.
After weeks, months,
of fruitless pursuit
of a woman that indulges
in the boyfriend experience,
I find not one but two that
are willing to speak to me.
This lady is not only willing
for me to join her date,
from a distance, she's actually
happy to talk to me on camera.
I'm guessing that the lady
I'm gonna meet today feels
maybe a lot less shame
about what she does?
Emily has sent me a
link to her Instagram.
Oh, hello! OK, so, super glam.
Like, glam, glam, glam.
She looks like she's
out and about a lot.
I'm sure she gets approached
and, like, propositioned by men a lot.
So, I'm very excited to know
what it is about the
boyfriend experience
that she finds appealing.
Maybe just ruining people's
dates is, like, my new thing?
# Cos training
season's over #
'Today, Emily has a date with
one of her regular boyfriends,
'who's agreed to
arrive early to meet me.'
# Training season's over #
Hi. Hi, how are
you? You all right?
I'm good. How are you? Nice
to meet you. Nice to meet you.
# Training season's over. #
So, Emily, who's
arriving soon Yes.
..you've dated her before?
Yeah, we've had a
few dates, a few dates.
I met her about three years ago.
'27-year-old Andrew
'started professionally
dating four years ago,
'offering everything
from simple dinner dates
'to fun in the bedroom.'
The good thing with
Emily is we don't just go
straight to the hotel,
back to her apartment.
We go out to a bar, we drink.
It feels like boyfriend and
girlfriend. That's what I like.
A bit of stimulus, a
bit of build-up. Yeah.
And are they sexual encounters?
Yes, but not always. OK.
This is what I try and
make clear to people,
cos I tell people and
they think it's like
Look, even the word
"escort", people get confused.
People think escort
is sex. It's not.
Escort is someone
paying for your time. Yes.
That's what I try to make clear.
Like, that's why I don't call
myself an escort. Mm-hm.
You know, they're paying
me for my time. Yeah.
Obviously, we can agree
beforehand what we're gonna do,
which is what I always do, so it's
clear between both parties. Yes.
Let's talk about
you a little bit.
How did you get
into this line of work?
You know, I started
clubbing quite young, 17, 18,
and I've just been naturally
approached by women sort of mid-30s.
OK. Generally,
successful women, as well.
The first woman I
dated, when I was 18,
she was, like, a private
dentist, super successful. OK.
Rooftop restaurants. You know,
events with pools on the rooftop.
Extravagant lifestyle that
I'd never seen before. Mm.
Me and my friend
were talking in the gym.
He said, "What you're
describing, you can get paid for it."
I said, "No." I thought he was
I thought he was BS-ing. Yeah.
I signed up, and literally,
that first two months
was my most
successful two months.
That's where I made
the most money. Yeah.
Like, women wanting to pay
me to spend time with them.
Not always sex, you know? Yeah.
And I tried Boyfriend stuff?
Yeah, exactly. What
about your personal life?
Do you date away from this
job? Do you have a girlfriend?
I wouldn't do it whilst
I had a girlfriend.
I know people I know people
that do, but I couldn't. Yeah.
That for you would
be a difficult crossover?
Not really for me, no. It's more
for my the girlfriend. Right.
Certainly my two exes,
they would not accept it.
No, I think it's a hard
thing to accept. Yeah.
So, talk to me about the money.
How do you do it?
So, I'm 300 an hour.
300 an hour. The
2,000 for overnight.
OK. And when I say "overnight",
it's, like, from 10pm
till four in the morning.
So it's about six
hours' work. OK. Yeah.
Kind of like booty-call hours?
For some reason, that's how
women always see me, though.
Who's your typical client?
Sort of mid-30s to late-40s. OK.
Married. Er, happily
married, I wanna say, as well.
Yeah, happily married,
kids. They can't be that happy.
You say that.
One of them who's my
regular, she tells me what it is.
You know, she's happily married.
And the reason why she does
it is cos she married too young.
She feels like she missed
out on her prime years. Mm-hm.
You know, she's
happy with her husband.
They're happy, but she wants
that excitement now and again. OK.
Would you say
there are bad sides
as well as good
sides to using the site?
I had a woman reach out to me,
and she was seven months' pregnant.
She goes, "Look, my boyfriend
"has not decided to touch
me since I've got pregnant.
"He doesn't wanna have sex
with me. I have real desires.
"Like, I really wanna have sex.
"You know, can I please
book you for a couple of hours?"
And then Look,
initially I agreed.
But this is the stuff
where, like, morally, I just
I feel really, really bad.
I said, "Look, a couple
of hours, we can do it."
But the next day, I'll be
honest, I got stage fright.
I just couldn't do it.
What part of it do you
would you say is morally?
Cos I think it's a
little bit icky, but
it's up to her, innit?
Yeah, no. It is, it is, but
She was asking me to come into
his home when he was at work.
Oh. He didn't know. Like,
she actually made that clear.
And you just start thinking,
"Oh, what if he ever finds out?"
You're about to have a kid.
That doesn't sit right with me.
So, that's where I just
draw the line. Yeah.
Why do you think women
are kind of shy around it
and maybe a little bit ashamed?
I think it's because
there's that stigma
from going back
20, 30 years ago,
where it's always the men that pay
for the service from the woman. Mm.
It's how it's always been. Yeah.
Women are just a bit a
bit embarrassed, I'd say.
They're a bit embarrassed to
admit they pay for this sort of stuff.
But believe me,
it goes on a lot.
So, Emily. Obviously,
you find her attractive?
Oh, yeah, she's really
attractive. Yeah, you'll see.
I'm excited. You should be.
Oh, speak of the devil. Oh.
Hello! Hi, guys!
It's so nice to meet you in
person. Nice to meet you, too!
I've been keeping your
seat warm. Oh, thank you!
But I will make myself
scarce now. Thank you.
How are you,
Emily? You all right?
Good to see you
again. Good to see you.
Come on, have a seat.
First things first,
what are you drinking?
A glass of champagne,
please? Yeah? Mm-hm.
Good shout. THEY LAUGH
So, how you been? I'm
good, thank you. How are you?
Yeah, not bad, not bad.
Is that a new
tattoo? Yeah, it is.
I've not seen that one before.
It's nice. I like it. Didn't you?
Nice. Champagne.
WAITER: Voila.
Thank you very much.
Cheers.
The hand is on the leg.
The inner thigh.
What you been up to? Busy.
We'll have fun
this evening. Yeah.
You can tell that
they've had sex.
Compared to Johnny and
Jessica, it's like it's more confident.
It's more free-flowing.
It's more flirty.
Do you wanna spend
the whole night with me,
or just a couple of hours?
No, I've booked a hotel.
You've booked a hotel? Mm-hm.
So, you want me for the
whole night again? Yeah.
Then you've got me for
the whole night. OK, good.
Should be a lot of fun. Yeah.
They've just confirmed
they're gonna go for dinner,
and then they're gonna go
back to the hotel and have sex.
WAITER: Thank you
so much. Thank you.
I wish you a lovely day.
Thank you very much.
Hi, guys. Oh, hello. Did
you have a lovely time?
Hello, hello. Hey. It
was amazing, amazing.
Can I jump in before you go
and have a little chat with Emily?
Of course. Enjoy.
Go and lose yourself
for five minutes.
I'll be gone for five minutes.
I'll be back, Emily. Yeah, yeah.
How was the date?
I always have such
a nice time with him.
Can I ask you a girl
question? Mm-hm.
How is the sex different
when you're the one paying?
Do you tell him what
you want? Exactly.
Yeah? Yeah.
You can say, "Oh, I like this,
this, this, and that." Yeah, mm-hm.
"And I don't like this and
that, so don't do it." Yeah.
They're gonna say,
"Oh, you're so entitled."
No, I'm not entitled,
I just like what I want.
And if I have to pay
for it, I will pay for it.
How much do you think
you've spent with Andrew so far?
Thousands of
pounds, I would say.
Worth it? Yes.
When I was looking at
your Instagram profile,
I was kind of surprised
when I saw you.
You're always
travelling, eating out.
What are the reasons that this
is the kind of dating you enjoy?
I don't really have the time
to be in a proper relationship
with someone and keep it up.
Mm. I have a beauty
salon. I'm doing real estate.
I'm simply too busy,
you know, for a man.
I'm a proper feminist,
you know? SHE LAUGHS
We can do whatever we
want. A hundred per cent.
Seriously. Yeah.
No, it's good you're
And don't let anyone make
you feel ashamed about it. No.
No, we have the same
rights as men. Yeah.
It's not all about
the sexual part.
There's other ways
You want the experience?
Exactly, exactly. A
perfect date night.
Yes. Mm-hm.
Do you ever get feelings for
them? It's a paid relationship.
Mm-hm. So it's not like
you're dating someone.
I would say, if you
start to catch feelings,
you'd better just not
book the person any more.
Definitely. May I please
steal Emily from you again,
if it's all right, please?
You absolutely may.
I'll follow you
guys out, actually.
Excited for dinner?
Yeah, and you?
Me too. Oh, very
excited. Mm. Can't wait.
What are we having?
OLIVIA CHUCKLES
The date went really well.
They've obviously got chemistry.
They were flirting. The
conversation was flowing.
And Andrew's gonna, you know,
end up about two
grand richer in his pocket,
and Emily's just gonna
be a very happy lady.
When it comes to the
boyfriend experience,
I think they are all, like,
classically good-looking,
attractive, relatively
tall, muscular,
obviously take pride
in their appearance,
but they've all had
really good personalities.
I think that is the key
with this experience.
You have to have the looks,
but the personality has to match,
cos that's ultimately
what carries these dates
and gets these women and men
to part with large amounts of money.
I feel like, in 2024, you
can literally buy anything.
So if you wanna buy the time
of an attractive, charming man,
whether you're male of
female, why shouldn't you?
I don't think there should
be any shame in that game.
You're all adults.
I think it's great.
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03x06 - The Boyfriend Experience
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Former glamour model and Love Island star Olivia Attwood explores the new and uncharted world of selling sex online. Is it as easy and as lucrative as it may at first seem?
Former glamour model and Love Island star Olivia Attwood explores the new and uncharted world of selling sex online. Is it as easy and as lucrative as it may at first seem?