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02x09 - Put a Ring on It

Episode transcripts for the TV show, "My Unorthodox Life". Aired: July 14, 2021 – December 2, 2022.*
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The nine-episode first season of the web series documents Haart and her children's decision to leave the Haredi Jewish community in Monsey, New York, and pursue their passions for fashion and design.

02x09 - Put a Ring on It

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[upbeat music playing]

[Julia] Oh oh oh, man.

Oh my God, I'm so hungover.

[Nathalie] Oh my God!

-[Julia] Desperately hungover.

-What did you do yesterday?

[Julia groaning]

-Hello!

-No.

-Sorry.

-So loud.

-So loud.

-[chuckling]

Gentle, soft voices. Indoor voices today.

It's funny. My kids always tell me,

"Ima, just go out."

"Stop thinking about it. Just have fun."

So, I did.

[Nathalie] I love it.

-[moans]

-[Nathalie and Miriam chuckle]

-[Miriam] You want a Pedialyte?

-I was naughty.

Extremely naughty.

We decided I should go

to a bar and like, meet a guy

with Ra'ed and Robert because,

you know, Ra'ed is the maestro of love.

That's what I was thinking.

This guy comes over. He's, like, so cute.

Basically, I mean,

he's, like, a young Tom Cruise.

-Ooh.

-[Julia] Yeah.

And we drank together,

and then I brought him home.

What?!

There was a man in our house,

and we didn't know?

[Nathalie] Joy is such a bad dog.

She should let us know.

That there's an unknown man.

There's a man in our house?

-Yes!

-What?

You didn't hear the best part.

Guess how old he was.

-Thirty-two.

-Thirty-nine.

Twenty-three.

-No!

-Oh my God!

-What?

-[Nathalie] He's my he's born in '99?

-He's my age.

-I didn't ask him what year he was born,

-He was 23.

-[Nathalie] I'm turning 23 this year.

I did a tour of the house, and I'm, like,

"That's my 22-year-old daughter's room."

[Julia laughing]

I mean, congratulations to my mom.

She's got game.

Seems everyone in my family does.

You do you. Whatever makes you happy.

Isn't he the greatest?

He's the f*cking greatest.

[Robert] Hello!

Roberto!

Don't yell.

-[Miriam] Sorry.

-[Robert] What y'all been up to?

Well, there was more

to last night after you left.

-No!

-[Julia] I brought him home.

[Robert] You brought him home?

-I brought him home.

-Let me get a plate.

Y'all last night

-[Nathalie] Why were we not invited?

-We hooked it up.

I'm sure that's not supposed

to go in a soup bowl.

-[Miriam laughs]

-[Robert] I'm too distracted.

-I'm really impressed with you, first off.

-Thank you.

-I'm proud of myself.

-I'm attributing some of that

-to my forcing a lot of alcohol on you.

-Yes, I was extremely, extremely tipsy.

-Oh my gosh.

-Wow.

[Robert] Was it fun?

So much fun.

Did his hog find a home here?

-No.

-[Robert] Why not?

Because I'm allergic to latex.

So I need him to go test himself.

This is a huge barrier to entry.

No pun intended.

[laughing]

Oh my God, everyone's so loud.

[pop music playing]

-Hello.

-Hi! How are you?

-I'm excited.

-[Amanda] I know, same.

-[Robert] I've never done

-[Amanda] Your first actor headshots.

Oh my God.

Per the recommendations

of my new Broadway agents,

they had me record myself singing,

and I need headshots.

So I'm at a photo studio

to see if I can't get a cute pic.

It's my first time, like, having my photo

taken by someone other than, like, my mom.

[all laughing]

I think, in this moment,

it does make it feel a little more real.

I'm happy that finally

I just made the decision

to pursue this dream.

Now, we do have to have

this conversation with Julia

about what that means for, you know,

how we will work together in the future.

Make me look skinny and young.

[girl laughing]

-The lighting is very forgiving.

-We love lighting.

-We love retouching. We love it all.

-Yes.

-Knock, knock.

-[Robert] No!

Oh my God!

-Someone's getting naked.

-[Robert] Look at you. Holy sh*t.

I was trying to think of something

to wear that would give

Robert joy and make him laugh.

-Nice to meet you.

-You need a photo sh**t.

[Julia] Let's do it.

You look amazing!

So I'm going full Broadway, full pink.

Wanna help me decide what glasses to wear?

Yes, I do.

This is so fun, Robert.

I think any Broadway show would be lucky,

very lucky, to have Robert.

[Robert] Thank you for coming.

-Yeah.

-There is, like, a little bit of an issue.

These agents, they basically told me

that it could be a year-long commitment,

-which is a problem.

-Why?

-Well, if I'm gonna work on Haart Sphere

-How much time is it gonna take?

I think, six months or a year

I don't think I don't see a problem.

I have 20 businesses

that I do simultaneously.

-I know you're perfectly capable

-Yeah. But I'm not you.

-I need eight hours of sleep.

-That's a problem.

I guess my worry is just that, like,

if I choose this Broadway opportunity,

is it gonna impact our friendship?

Never.

-You promise?

-Oh my God, I swear on my life.

'Cause I get worried if we're not working

together, we're gonna lose touch.

-We won't spend as much time together.

-That would be very sad to me.

It would be sad to me too, but nothing

about our relationship changes. Zero.

-It's my worry.

-Zero. That? Don't worry.

Like, genuinely don't worry.

You know me, I'm all in.

If this is what you wanna do,

I want you to have it.

Okay. Pinky swear?

Pinky swear.

I will come to your opening night.

I will practice your lines with you.

-Yay!

-I will be the cheering squad.

I will make sure you have hundreds

of flowers in your dressing room

before the performance.

I can sit there?

Yes, here we go.

Wiggle back just a tiny bit for me.

Robert, wiggle! Wiggle, wiggle!

Woah!

Beautiful, soft smile in there.

Already working the angles,

camera instincts, a natural.

These look great. That's star right there.

-I'm getting a lot of star energy, Robert.

-Robert, we're getting star energy.

[Robert] Whoo!

Hold that right there. Love that.

Grounded. Yeah, that looks gorgeous.

-[Robert] We feel like we got it?

-Yeah. I think that's

-We need a duo picture, though.

-Yes!

Okay!

[Amanda] Ooh!

Cute. We love it.

[upbeat music playing]

Are these all black diamonds? Can I see?

Yeah, look how it sparkles.

This is all black diamonds with rose gold.

But I know what you're looking for.

You want something

Oh my gosh!

-something delicate that says

-Hey, handsome!

[Ra'ed] Hello!

-Mwah!

-How are you?

-Thank you so much for coming!

-I'm so excited.

Oh my God,

I can't believe you're doing this.

-I love you for doing this.

-Are you kidding me?

The day has arrived. It is the time

to go and pick out a ring

for the love of my life.

Who said that you guys

were gonna be together?

Everything that's good and bad in

my relationship, I'm gonna blame on you.

Julia's gonna know the type of ring

and help me make this decision.

I cannot make this by myself.

Now, I don't have a big, big budget.

You know, I just started working.

So I want something special.

-Because he deserves it.

-[Julia] What's our budget?

I don't know.

Listen, I'm thinking, like, 20k.

That's very significant.

I think that's great.

So here are some stones.

You want something that's round?

-Look at that.

-[Julia] How cool is that?

[Ra'ed] Can we do something like this?

All these black diamonds but with a

-[Ara] That's amazing.

-[Julia] What, why?

-I just designed a ring. It's brand new.

-Yeah.

-Oh my God!

-Aah! Stop.

-[Ara] Baguettes of black diamonds.

-[Julia] Amazing.

-Oh my God.

-That is

That's the one.

-[Ra'ed] Oh my God!

-[Julia] That's insane.

Rob is going to faint.

And how much does this run?

-This is amazing.

-It's not far from what you want.

It's 25,000.

Oh.

Hello!

That's, like 20 is already, like,

really high for me. 25,000?

-[Julia] Where are you from?

-My parents are from Lebanon.

[gasps]

-[Ara] What?

-[Julia] He's Lebanese.

That's why I loved you.

Give him, like, a small 10% discount.

Look at that face.

-Aww.

-Look at that sweet–

-I can work out something for you.

-[Julia] Alright!

That's why I brought you here,

that's why I brought you here!

-You made it happen.

-Good job.

How are you proposing?

How are you giving him this beauty?

-[Ra'ed] I didn't tell you?

-No.

-I've set up my entire choir at school.

-Like Syracuse?

That's where we met. We met on that stage.

And I want you all to surprise Robert.

-I'm in!

-You're in! Oh my God.

-Thank you.

-[chuckles]

After this,

I'm gonna go home and call Mitizi.

Call her here.

-Do it. I'll hold your hand.

-It's too scary.

I'm gonna call Mitizi, and I'm petrified.

She loves me.

I know she loves me. I love her so much.

But I know she doesn't have confidence

in the relationship for some reason.

[FaceTime call ringing]

[Mitizi] Hello?

Hello, hello, beautiful southern belle.

Where are you?

I'm sorry I couldn't be there in Austin.

You know why I couldn't be there, right?

-You had to work!

-Right. How proud are you of me?

Well, let's see

how many weeks has it been? Two?

Three weeks of me working hard like a dog.

I'm calling you

because I have to ask you a question.

Okay.

You must know

how much I love Robert Brotherton.

Okay.

Currently, picking out a ring

for your son because I'm gonna propose.

Oh. Do you think Say that again?

You're really gonna propose to Rob?

Yes, I'm going to propose to Robert.

I've picked out a beautiful ring, Mitizi.

I don't know. I'm just

I don't know what to think about it.

It's hard to keep a marriage together.

Everybody always says,

"I'll love you forever."

[whispering]

Say you're not getting married tomorrow.

You both like nice things.

[laughs]

Do you really like to work?

-[laughs]

-I just think

You play first and then work later.

You know what?

That's a very valid, valid concern.

The thing about it is I am

just asking him to get engaged.

I didn't know y'all were actually thinking

about this, so it catches me off guard.

Uh

Really, it's important that I have your

blessing, and you are important to me.

And I will prove to you

that I can support him

because I'll be working for over a year

before we get married.

That makes me feel better.

-[gasps]

-I just want you to wait a year or so.

I'm going to work hard

and earn your respect.

And then we can talk about

little Brotherton-Saade babies.

Well let's just try to stay married

for a while, and then talk babies.

-[laughs]

-Kids are very

I just wanna hear it one more time

because you did say I wanna hear it.

Do you, Mitizi, give me your blessing

to propose to Robert on Monday?

I do.

-Oh! Thank you so much.

-Okay!

-I mean, I think y'all are good together.

-Mitz, you're gonna make me cry. Stop.

-Okay.

-Much love to you, Mitizi. I love you.

-Bye-bye.

-Bye-bye. [kisses]

-Dude you, what was with the babies?

-I'm sweating.

You should have stuck to "I'm gonna work

for a year and prove myself."

Oh my God, you literally fed me a script.

Have you done this before?

I'm a mom.

I know what I'd be thinking.

She was tough.

She was tough!

I'm gonna make things a bit better?

-Oh!

-Cheers.

-Celebrations.

-Cheers!

-Cheers, baby!

-Cheers!

[upbeat music playing]

Hey! Oh my.

[laughing]

-[Amber] It's a vision!

-[Julia] It's a vision all right.

-Nice to see you.

-This is exciting.

Thank you so much for coming

all the way out here. I know it's a trip.

I mean, this is what we wanna do.

This is what it's all about.

[Julia] I wanna plan for the future

and justice being served.

I wanna start thinking about

what to do with that when I get it.

So I'm meeting with Amber,

and my idea is to buy a building,

to make most of that building

free apartments.

Where women can come with their families

when they escape a*usive men

or worlds in which they have no rights.

They have a place to go.

-[Amber] Everyone, watch your steps.

-After you, guys.

[Amber] A bit of a fixer-upper.

This is just an open industrial kitchen.

-They use a lot of storage.

-[Julia] Okay.

I mean, there's obviously

a lot to either do or demolish.

-This is a storage space.

-[Julia] That's huge.

And the vision for this space is that

it would house individuals who What?

I would love to open it

to anyone who's leaving,

you know, somewhere

where it's very fundamentalist,

and they don't have rights, or they were

married off as children and teenagers.

I think one of the things

that we've seen in our work is

a lot of the people, even if they leave,

or they want something more,

they want that community feeling.

They need, they miss, you know,

yontif, the singing,

the community.

So we need to create

a different community here

where they feel supported

and part of something

and that they're not alone.

Because I don't think people

realize that feeling of true aloneness.

When you walk into a world where nobody

knows you, no one's ever heard of you.

You have no connectivity.

It's really frightening.

It's a terrible feeling.

And to me, the idea is

-You remember the show Maid on Netflix?

-Yeah. I liked that show.

-Very good show.

-[Julia] It was a great show,

but it also was very educational

in the sense that it made me realize that

the four problems people have

women have when they're getting

out of a situation like this is,

number one, childcare,

number two, transportation,

number three, housing,

and number four, educational services.

On the bottom two floors, I want there

to be childcare in the building,

so you don't have to worry

about where your child is gonna be,

how you're gonna get your kid to daycare,

and about transportation.

And then next door, I wanna buy another

building that will house the teachers,

the psychiatrists, the psychologists,

the doctors, the professors,

whoever we need to train them

and teach them in the ways of this world,

in having a profession,

and understanding how to live

and survive in a world that's

so far removed from the world we live in.

It's a safe place

it's a safe harbor facility.

That's what I would call it.

It's a place where people can go.

They don't have to pay rent.

They don't have to pay for childcare.

They don't have to pay for education.

We'll start the foundation, and cover

as much of that ourselves as we can,

and we'll involve people to cover more.

I really wanna help women get out

of situations where they're suffering,

and I want them to be educated.

That was my most difficult thing.

You're not equipped

to handle the outside world.

There's a lot of people

who have left the community,

and then they try to join

the secular world,

and they're not prepared to do that

because they don't have the education.

It's gonna take years to make up for

the education that was robbed from them.

[Julia] Yes.

They'll start their general studies

in first grade, second grade,

and they end it by the time they're 13.

-[Julia] Yeah.

-So many of them

-Have no education, zero education.

-have no skills or ability to function.

It's really hard to make up.

-It's not impossible

-[Julia] But it's extremely difficult.

Especially if you've got four babies.

-Also, you learn as you develop

-Yeah. So to me, that's why

Critical development years. It's much more

difficult to teach yourself things.

[Julia] Right and that's why to me

this place could be really a safe haven.

-Very good. I'm excited.

-This was amazing.

-Next level, baby.

-I think we go this way, guys.

[pop music playing]

[Aron recites Hebrew prayer]

-Knock, knock.

-Who's there?

-Shlomo.

-[Aron speaks Hebrew]

Whatcha learning?

-Makkot.

Makkot?

[Shlomo] I wanted talk to Aron

about going to yeshiva.

When you're 15, it's black and white.

When you get older, there's a lot of gray.

When I was Aron's age,

I was in full yeshiva.

What my mom doesn't want him to go to.

I was fully living that life.

And here I am today, eleven years later.

And I mean, a little different.

Obviously, your choice is your choice but

Yes, I am 15, but I think I've had a lot

of life experiences for a 15-year-old.

Said every 15-year-old.

I feel like when Miriam was 16,

she got sent to San Francisco,

and Ima let Miriam do her own thing.

So why can't Ima show me the same respect?

I don't wanna leave school.

I wanna go to a different high school.

It's not comparable to Miriam's drastic

change. It's hypocritical to not let me.

-It's not being hypocritical that

-[Aron] It is though.

It's both going and making a drastic

change. The difference is for Ima,

with Miriam doing her choice was

that Ima was pro-that. You're right.

But why can't Ima be pro-me

and my drastic change

in a different direction?

Ima believes in right or wrong. As your

parent, she has a right to push one way.

-I want to become a teacher.

-Okay.

The school I'm put in, it's not a school

that's gonna help me become a teacher.

But if Ima lets me follow

the person I wanna be,

I should be in yeshiva.

When it's in your ways,

then, yes, I'll let you be.

I'll accept who you are.

When it's another way,

I'll put you in an environment

you don't like,

that's going against your beliefs,

an environment that's not who you are.

Your high school is against your beliefs?

-I'm the only kid wearing a black hat.

-Black hat is your belief?

You believe in the powers

of the black hat?

I don't believe in the black hat.

I believe they're two different schools.

She should let you be you

Why can't I be me at 16 and be forced

into her bubble of what's a good idea?

-Her bubble? You're in a bubble?

-Yes.

Could that also be that some

of your decisions are reactionary?

What do you mean?

derech,

I wanna be rebellious

derech.

I mean you might be right,

but you guys grew up in what I'm doing,

and now you guys "rebelled" against it.

It's easier for you guys

to paint me as a rebellious person

than to look at yourself

as a rebellious person.

I think that you saw there was

a conflict between you and Ima.

You weren't understanding

her pain from her experience.

And now you are sticking to something

that brought her this pain.

I do feel badly

Ima had a bad experience. I do.

So for her, she feels

that you aligning with that

is agreeing with it

and coming at her as well.

[Aron] My mother does not have

the same outlook about being religious.

We're definitely different people, but

hopefully we still show love and respect.

In funny terms, I'm just like Ima.

I'm surrounded by people that don't follow

the ways that I'm following.

The ways I want to be.

And just how Ima wanted to be herself

in her situation, I just wanna be myself.

I would ask these questions to Ima.

Maybe we could both speak to her together.

I'm very pro-talking.

[pop music playing]

All right, we're gonna get started

on the first shot.

-Okay.

-All set?

-You ready?

-Yeah.

You look gorgeous.

Thank you.

Let's do this.

I'm really excited because I'm doing

a photo sh**t with Clear Cut,

a brand that I love.

And this is one step closer

to my dream of having

my own line of product

and being able to make my own money

and make my own mark on this world.

And this is just the best feeling ever.

Ooh.

So cool!

First photo sh**t.

I'm ready when you are.

Yep, love that.

Yep, that's great with the rings

on your shoulder. That looks awesome.

Just a little bit of light wind.

-[camera shutter clicks]

-[photographer] That looks great.

[Batsheva] Okay. Mir?

Yeah?

I'm wearing the rings. Do you like it?

Yeah! It's so cute. I love the little

diamond, like, the diamond on it.

I decided to name the collection

after women that inspire me.

I'm naming this heart necklace

and bracelet set after my mom.

It's gonna be called the Julia.

There's a heart ring

that I feel Miriam would love.

A beautiful pair of earrings

are the Nathalie.

And a really cool necklace

is called the Mikki.

And I had to name one ring

after myself, the Batsheva,

which is my favorite piece

in the collection.

[woman] Just, we want

a dripping in diamonds shot.

-I think we're ready now.

-[Batsheva] Okay.

I'm wearing the sticky bra.

What's happening here? A topless shot?

[pop music playing]

[Miriam] Bling-bling.

Whoa, that looks so good!

I am very proud of Batsheva. It looks like

she's owning up to who she is now.

And she's loving it.

Where she was, was a conservative

and religious community,

and now she's an independent woman,

and she's come so far.

I think it's dope.

I'm super happy for her.

-[photographer] That's great.

-[Miriam] God, look at that one.

Yummy.

This is so cool.

Like, two years ago, you were deciding

whether you wanted to wear pants or not,

and now you're literally doing

topless shots in a photo sh**t.

I started wearing pants right before

my 27th birthday, so two-and-a-half years.

[Mikki] I remember you at dinner.

You were like, "Look!"

-I'm like, "Yay!" [giggles]

-I was so excited.

Whenever I'd go out with Mikki, I'm like,

"Mikki, wear pants in front of Ben."

Yeah.

-He needs to see it.

-I was like, "Or your skimpiest outfit."

I'm having serious proud sister feelings.

I'm super, super proud of you, Bat.

-Thanks, Mir.

-[Miriam] This is really incredible.

-Everything.

-I love you.

You're super independent and, like,

just doing your thing, and it's going up

and up and up, and it's really amazing.

This is for sure the biggest partnership

I've done, like, monetarily

and, like, on such a big scale

with, like, fine jewelry.

And it's all working towards

securing my financial independence,

which, like, I'm thankful

my mom instilled in me.

That was the biggest lesson

she instilled in me.

"Make your own money.

Don't rely on a man to support you."

Um, or a woman.

-[chuckles]

-Good point.

Don't rely on anybody else to support you.

Be able to support yourself.

Any update on you guys' situation?

I don't know.

It's just very hard and stressful.

When I got married at 19, Miriam was,

like, "Nineteen That's really young."

-[Miriam] Yeah.

-Like in my wedding video.

It was the unpopular opinion.

My opinion was the unpopular opinion.

They were, like,

"Say something nice about your sister."

And she was, like, "19 is really young."

I think Miriam's in a really hard place,

and I hope that it doesn't come

to her having to choose

to get married or not to get married

to keep the person she loves

in the country.

I just want her to be able to make

the decision about getting married

because she's doing it for emotional

reasons and not for legal reasons.

You're speaking to two people who got

married young and are currently divorced.

-I was 19. How old were you, 21?

-I had just turned 21. Yeah.

-That's pretty close to our age.

-Yeah.

You guys are adults, and you get

to make your own decisions,

and you have to live

with the consequences.

We're gonna do what we want.

-Yeah.

-Yes.

-Good luck.

-Thanks. Good luck.

I understand

that Nathalie is Miriam's rock,

and not only would I be sad

if Nathalie had to leave the country,

I would be heartbroken for Miriam.

So I really I don't have it in my head

right now the space to entertain a place

where Nathalie isn't gonna be here.

-[cork pops]

-[screaming]

Okay!

It's a champagne party!

Cheers!

[woman] Amazing.

[upbeat music playing]

[Aron] Wanna play some cards, Shlomo?

[Shlomo] Uh, sure.

What do you know how to play?

-Go Fish.

-[chuckles]

Let's play Go Fish. Just kidding.

-[Julia] Hey, guys.

-[both] Hey.

Playing cards, this is nice.

My two boys.

My main purpose in having

this conversation with my mom is

to hopefully bring some clarity

between my brother and my mom

and help them understand each other,

and hopefully, you know,

just make things better between them.

[Julia] What's going on?

-[Shlomo] Uh

-Spit it out.

I think Aron would like

to convey some of his thoughts.

I want a yeshiva, not a yeshivat.

What does that mean?

-A real yeshiva, where I'm learning

-You're in a real yeshiva.

At yeshiva, I'm learning four hours,

not 40 minutes somewhere.

Yes, I'm just 15, but I know what I want.

The school I have now has Torah studies,

but you can't compare 40 minutes

to four hours.

The school that you're in now,

the reason that Abba and I chose it

is because it still gives you

religious studies.

You have a lot of religious friends

who keep Shabbos,

and then you've got people

who live differently.

So you could learn how

to straddle both religious people and not

-I don't need to go to school to learn

-We had this conversation last year

when you came home

from summer camp, and I told you then

that it's my job as your parent

to make sure you get a good education.

What you do with that

when you graduate is your choice.

It doesn't seem to be like that.

Because you're 15 years old.

You talk of freedom

and not letting me do what I want?

Not only the things that

you always push for? That's freedom?

I've been in high school for two years.

And I don't think I need this education.

I don't think

That's why it's great you have a parent.

Why can't you let me be me?

That's your issue.

My love, I would love for you to be you,

but you have gone back and forth

from ultra-Orthodox to modern Orthodox

to ultra-Orthodox to modern Orthodox.

Not true.

Is that not true? Has he been

more modern, then less modern?

I wouldn't worry

I don't know how many times,

but you fluctuated a bit.

-You fluctuated significantly.

-I do agree.

I do agree that the education in yeshivas

are definitely not on the level

of the high school I'm in now.

-[Julia] That's correct.

-So why don't I just have a tutor?

Because it's not just the level

of education in those yeshivas.

It's how little regard they have

for education because their philosophy is,

"Your purpose is to be a Torah scholar."

"You don't need those things

to be a Torah scholar."

Ima, getting a tutor is not

-[Julia] It is not

-Why not?

I've just explained to you why not.

In the yeshiva,

by the time you're in high school

what time did you finish school?

I got home at, like 9:30.

Okay, so let's just do the math here.

You are learning from 8:00 in the morning

for 12 straight hours.

You're gonna tell me you're gonna come

home at nine or ten o'clock at night,

and instead of doing homework

for your yeshiva,

you're going to then spend five,

six hours on school education?

It's a joke. It's not gonna happen.

You're in a school

that has secular and religious.

It is the perfect mix of both worlds.

And if you think tutoring

is a good solution,

I am happy to get you a tutor

gemara

as you would like so that you

gemara.

-But I'm not putting you in a yeshiva

-Why?

Because they don't have an education.

I can get an education!

This is where you're so wrong!

You may think that, but you've

never been in those yeshivas and we have.

Am I saying to you,

"Don't become a rabbi"?

That's not what I'm saying.

If those are the things that you are going

to become and that you're going to do,

believe me, Aron,

I will be supporting you.

I will love you no matter what.

And I will be there for you,

and I will help you in any way I can.

Until then, I as a parent,

am gonna do everything in my power

to ensure that you have

a real 21st century education.

You will never be

in the position that I was in

that you didn't have an education,

and you weren't at the same level

as people your age

in the outside community.

So you can hate me.

You can be angry at me.

You cannot come here. You can ignore me.

You can do whatever you want to me.

I'm not going to do what is wrong for you

just to be more popular with you.

[tense music playing]

[sniffles]

[Julia] I'm sorry I've made you cry, Aron,

but believe me

when you're 30, you will thank me.

I love Aron.

Of course, I always wanna

say yes to everything he wants.

It f*cking hurts

to say, no. It's not easy.

But parenthood is not

a popularity contest. Sorry, guys.

To be a good parent,

I have to do what's good for him,

what's right for him, not what's

gonna make him happy today,

but what will make him happy

for the rest of his life.

-Why can't you listen?

-[Julia] Once your future is yours,

you get to choose what to do

with it, but guess what?

You'll be equipped

to make any choice you want.

-I have made it clear

-I love you.

I'm not going to change your school.

It's not gonna happen.

You want to spend

more time learning gemara.

I've just given you an offer

to have a yeshivish person,

anyone you choose, come to your house

and come here. I will drive them here.

I will make it super easy for you.

But I will not remove you

and put you in a school where they think

secular education is a joke.

-Ima, listen-

-It's not gonna happen.

[sniffles]

-Why can't I do yeshiva?

-You're not going to do yeshiva, my love.

-Why can't I get a secular education

-I'm telling you now, because you won't.

-I've been there.

-I can get a tutor from outside.

-I'm sure

-My love, you don't have to yell.

It isn't going to change anything.

-Make it

-We can make it work. I can make it work.

Good. So you make it work with gemara.

I love you.

I have to do my job as your parent.

[upbeat music playing]

I'm very, very excited.

We're going back to Syracuse.

-Should we go to Eggers?

-Go down memory lane?

Eggers Cafeteria?

Robert thinks we're going

to Syracuse for a day trip.

But what I'm really doing

is I'm gonna propose to him.

He has no idea.

I have a full choir prepared for him.

Julia and the kids

are totally coming to surprise him.

I am so nervous, excited.

It's just a bundle of emotions.

-Look at how cute this is!

-There's Newhouse.

That is pretty.

[choral music playing]

-What's happening?

-I think they're warming up.

[choir finishes singing]

[applause]

-[Julia] You guys sound amazing.

-Yeah, it sounds really good.

I can't wait for these students to meet

Rob and Ra'ed, because they were here.

-They were here on these risers

-They met on the stage.

-Being taught by these people here.

-[Julia] That's amazing.

You guys all taught them?

-I think Robert's gonna say, "Yes."

-You do think so? I don't know.

He did tell me

that if he says no, that they're over.

[Miriam]

He said he worked so hard for this.

If Robert turns him down for this,

their relationship's never gonna work.

[Julia] No!

I don't want anyone to propose to me

until they know that I'm gonna say yes.

I don't want anyone to propose to me ever.

[Batsheva] If my mom says

that she's gonna get married again,

we're not physical in this family,

obviously, but I will smack her.

[laughs]

Please do. Throw me off a cliff.

-It'll be a faster death.

-[chuckles]

-[loudly] This building to your right

-Oh my God.

produces divas like you and I.

-My God.

-The Crouse College.

Okay, that's good. Thank you.

Oh my gosh,

I'd love to see all my professors.

-I think we need to hide.

-[Shlomo] Time to go.

[Julia] Here we go!

[John] Stairwell to heaven.

[choral music playing]

Dr. Warren! I'm losing it over here.

[chuckles]

What an amazing thing to walk in on.

So great to see you, Ra'ed.

Welcome home.

-[Robert] Hey, Dr. Warren.

-Aww.

Great to see you.

-Can you come talk to these folks?

-Yeah! I would love to!

What a beautiful choir.

-That was gorgeous.

-[Robert] That was stunning.

[John] This is Rob Brotherton.

-[Robert] Hey guys!

-This is Ra'ed Saade.

They were you, right?

It seems like just a couple of weeks ago.

I need you to hit center stage.

-Do you know how to hit center stage?

-Obviously, I know how.

There's something to tell you,

but I can't do it without the help

of our favorite people

in the entire world.

Come on in!

[upbeat music plays]

Aah! [laughs]

Oh my God, what are y'all doing here?

-Syracuse!

-Just a four-and-a-half-hour bus ride.

Oh my God. A bus ride? First off,

we know that's not true. [laughs]

Oh my God! How are you?!

Hi!

Hey! Dr. Downey, how are you?

[Ra'ed] Oh my God!

This is such a reunion, my God.

Hello.

-How are you?

-Good.

-You look so good.

-Thank you.

-What is happening?

-All right.

[laughs nervously]

Fifteen years ago,

we met right here on the stage,

two loud and obnoxious g*y boys.

-[voice breaking] Very obnoxious.

-Very obnoxious.

And my life changed forever.

I love you

more than anything in this world,

and you are beautiful inside and out.

And you make me

the happiest man in the world.

I have no doubt that we belong together

and that I wanna live

the rest of my life with you.

You're such a drama queen.

[all laughing]

-[Ra'ed] And with that

-[Robert] Oh my God!

Will you make my teenage dream come true?

[laughing]

-Let me see it first.

-[Ra'ed] And will you marry me?

[laughing]

[Robert] Yes.

[cheering and applauding]

[choral music playing]

It's so pretty!

[Julia] Aww!

Love you.

I don't even have a single memory

of what he said to me

because I went

through a long time in my life

thinking, you know,

maybe I wasn't deserving of love,

and then to have this really awesome guy,

who I love deeply,

say it to me was overwhelming.

-Mm!

-It's so beautiful! Congratulations!

[Julia] I'm so happy for you.

-I can't believe you just got engaged!

-It's so cold!

-We're losing him.

-Did you put this all together?

[Batsheva] Welcome to the family!

[pop music playing]

-Oh my God, fresh outfit!

-First premiere.

[beatboxing]

Yeah! [continues beatboxing]

Get it. Work it. Rock it. Walk-walk-walk.

Yes, queen.

[woman] To your question

-Okay, what do you think?

-[woman 2] It's super cute.

Hello!

[cheering]

[screaming]

You look stunning!

[pop music playing]

Aah!

Hey, gorgeous! Can you show me that!

We're so blessed

with the most incredible group of friends,

and it's just so amazing

to know every person who's there

is there to celebrate us,

wants the best for us,

wants to be excited

about this new chapter.

[Ra'ed] Would you think

that a fat Middle Eastern boy

would have ever dreamt of a day like that,

where he walks in holding hands

with the most flamboyant ostrich

in the world?

-Could've been my new job.

-[laughs]

So how do you know Ra'ed?

He's my childhood friend.

When he called me

I always tell him,

"I want you as a straight man."

He said, "Julia, I found me

as a straight man. He's coming."

[laughs]

-I did good?

-You did good! It's gorgeous!

It broke my bank. It broke my life.

But hey, he's worth it.

-[Steven] Totally worth it.

-Yes!

-[Ra'ed] Pretty. Let me take another look.

-[Robert] It is.

So, you know what Senna just told me?

What?

-She didn't win in the work lottery.

-[Miriam] Oh my God!

That's terrible.

-Yeah.

-[Miriam] I'm sorry.

I better have better luck than that.

There's a backup plan.

I'm financially independent,

and I can make a decision on my own.

Ooh! Okay, I would love

to hear you say that to Ima.

Fine. If I have to have

a conversation, I will.

I can even talk to Ima tonight.

It's not even a big deal.

No big deal. Then do it. I dare you.

[chuckling] You wanna take

a drink with me somewhere else?

I wanna be there.

I'm not going somewhere else.

Will you accept the challenge?

[laughing]

Is this my mother?

Yeah, I can feel by her hands.

-[Julia] Hello.

-Hello. What's up?

Shlomo's pretty much egging me on

to go talk to my mom.

I don't think it's a big deal.

I'll talk to her.

This is my truth. This is my life.

We're at an engagement party,

and I might as well.

So I just wanna make it very clear

to you that if Nathalie gets a job

and she loses the lottery,

I will marry her.

-My love.

-There's no other way.

You're not getting married

for a visa. It is ill*gal.

You're not gonna do it,

and we'll find another way.

It's not for that. I love her too.

-Doesn't matter.

-We've been together for over a year.

I thought this part's where you say

you're independent. Just reminding you.

Shlomo.

-[Julia] What?

-[Shlomo] Nothing.

I never had my 20s.

Batsheva never had her 20s.

You have an opportunity to have your 20s.

I know that you love her,

and I know that you wanna be with her.

You don't know how you'll feel at 24.

You don't know how you'll feel at 25.

And I know that when you're in it,

because I've been there, badly,

all you can think of is, "I wanna do

whatever I need to help this person."

It's

-I don't know if I'll feel that way.

-You're going to be married.

Do you understand

what that means, married?

Married is a big deal.

It means you're not free.

It means, you're somebody's Mrs.

I will accept you and love you

no matter what. You're an adult, right?

I can't stop you from marrying her.

There are other ways

to keep Nathalie in the country,

I guarantee it.

If we put our two minds together,

we will find a solution.

That's what I want.

And I'm not gonna settle with no solution.

-That's like how I feel.

-I agree.

Am I saying it's a done deal? No.

Do I think we could have a good shot? Yes.

I want you to know I love her so much.

I will go there if need be.

-We'll try to find something else

-Let's try to find something else.

Because that is not an option. To me,

we need to go to an immigration lawyer

It's very important to me.

I'm happy to help you because I know you.

I don't believe that getting married

is gonna make you happy.

-Do you understand?

-I understand.

I was listening to you.

I understand what you're saying.

I just want you to have a good life.

-Yeah.

-[guest] So you. He did such a good job.

-He did.

-[guest] Beautiful.

[Ra'ed] Wow, wow, wow!

Oh my God, let it be!

Robert is

the most extraordinary human being

that I've ever met,

and I finally, for the first time

in my life, had a best friend.

-I never had a best friend before.

-[guests] Aww.

And then along came this gorgeous,

warm, charming,

loving man,

who just made it all better.

You heard that?

[laughing]

-In his defense, he's Lebanese.

-[Julia laughs]

-Yes!

-Buddy, buddy.

And I know that you're gonna have babies

as long as I'm the godmother.

-We all know that.

-[cheering]

They're gonna be the luckiest,

genuinely fortunate children

on planet f*cking Earth.

-Oh God, you're gonna make me cry! Stop!

-[guests cheering]

[Julia] We love you so much.

Mazel tov!

[cheering]

Being friends with Julia

for the past six years,

I'm so grateful that we can still be who

we are and have this amazing relationship.

There's something really beautiful

about being surrounded by every face

in the f*cking world that you love.

[voice breaking] And on rare occasions

when really special things happen,

you get to see

people who love you and support you, and

you get a moment when

you can look at someone you love,

and you can say,

"Thank you for being with me

and loving me and

wanting something special

for me and for us."

Can someone get him more whiskey please,

or whatever he's having.

Now I know what to do

when I want some emotional Robert.

Anyway, I love you all for coming

and celebrating us.

I am the happiest man ever

and seeing those tears. Come on

[cheering]

[upbeat music playing]

[Julia] I thought this year would be

about taking the company public.

I thought it would be about the book

and the tour and Fashion Week.

It didn't occur to me that I'd be fighting

for my freedom and my life.

It feels like I'm right back

in Monsey where I started.

But this fight is not a fight

I have to do by myself.

My kids are with me.

I'm so lucky to be your mother.

I love you so much.

Nothing will ever be more important

to me than the people that I love.

Cool stuff.

Right? I'm designing a collection.

[Julia] I'll never stop

using my creativity

to help others express themselves.

I've been fighting

for freedom for so long.

This is the next step in my evolution.

It just strengthens my resolve to fight

because it's not just about me.

It's about every woman.

This is what we wanna do.

This is what it's all about.

You know, I've come a long way

in the last eight years.

Look where we are.

But here I am.

I'm still alive. I'm still standing.

I'm not taking my foot off the gas,

and I've just gotta keep fighting.

And I've gotta keep growing.

I've gotta keep changing and learning.

That will help me on my journey to become

the brazen woman that I want to be.

[closing music playing]

You don't reach my throne

With your sticks and stones ♪

And I've become

Everything I was once scared of ♪

I'm the phoenix ♪

I'm the queen of

Ashes to my resurrection ♪

I'm the phoenix ♪

I'm the queen of

Ashes to my resurrection ♪

And we should rise up

'Cause all we need is love ♪

All we need is love ♪

Raise it up, to risking it all ♪

No matter how high the fall ♪

You can call me whenever you want ♪

No one's picking up the phone

For sticks and stones ♪

All that I've overcome ♪

You don't reach my throne

With your sticks and stones ♪