01x01 - A show about sex.

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If you're watching this,

you probably have a pretty good idea

what this series is about.

We're having sex, it's a show about sex

we're gonna talk about sex.

Hello.

I founded goop 13 years ago

to unearth cutting-edge ideas that

could really help us optimize our lives.

We thought it was about time that

we take this approach to sex and intimacy.

Don't resist. Allow it to come through.

You have total permission

to have an erection.

Oh.

We found some

extraordinarily brave volunteers

My mom was a Jehovah's Witness.

They love lesbians.

Yeah, they're huge fans.

willing to reveal

what we normally keep hidden.

Each couple was matched

with a phenomenal practitioner.

So, people come to me sometimes

because they want to learn how to squirt.

- That's the whole clitoris.

- Hmm.

What is sexological bodywork?

- Would you like me to go further?

- Yeah.

I bet you didn't know you could have

energetic orgasms, did you?

Would you do that?

- Yeah. I think I might.

- Yeah.

I enlisted my friend and intimacy expert,

Michaela Boehm.

We've been in tantra positions

pretty close together.

Oh, yes.

Ah! I feel so much better.

We're gonna have

to work on the sexy factor a bit.

Right there's the sweet spot.

- Man, that's kinky.

- This is great.

Oh, my God. What just happened to me?

It's probably gonna be

a little embarrassing and weird.

Oh, man. No pressure.

Okay.

Do you want me to put on

the Iron Man suit? Would that relax you?

So, how are you all feeling about this?

- Excited.

- Yeah?

- Curious.

- Nervous.

A little nervous?

What's the What's the nervous part?

I think that we don't know

what's coming, necessarily.

- We don't either.

- Yeah.

Yeah, I feel, like, down,

like, ready to do this.

I feel a little bit old.

Just

Like the grandmother I am.

I feel vulnerable too.

You guys are showing an incredible amount

of bravery and courageousness because,

you know,

this is a particularly vulnerable subject.

It's not only, uh,

just an incredible bravery

for you to show up with each other,

we'll discuss things that

you might have never said to your partner,

and that's really, really wild

when that happens in a relationship.

It's really great that you guys did this,

and we're excited to be a part of this.

Hi, I'm Damon.

And I'm Erika.

And we've been together

for about six years.

Six years.

The first time I saw her,

I think I fell in love with her.

I'm an artist by trade.

When I met her, I was drawing

caricatures out by the beach,

and when I saw her, I literally said,

"Yeah, she looks like

she could be my wife."

You know I love you.

Will you marry me?

Yeah. I do.

You do?

Are you crazy?

If I'm completely honest, I think

the number-one thing we have is love,

because communication

is not there a lot of times.

Like, we get frustrated with each other

and, like, argue and fight.

We have the

We have the dumbest fights.

Do you fight about sex?

We have.

- Yeah. Definitely.

- Yeah.

I'm more experienced than she is.

Sexually, I feel she's very conservative.

Sexually, we're very different people.

That's been a frustrating thing.

So is it fundamentally

a communication issue?

Or it's like a mismatch in sexuality?

How would you characterize it?

I think it's more of

a communication thing than sexuality.

I feel, uh,

once we start having sex, you know

It's okay. We're having sex!

It's a show about sex.

We're gonna talk about sex.

When I was a kid,

the worst part about going to school

was getting up to go to school.

Once I was at school, everything's good.

Great.

See, I like to go to school, so

Which is like how we are, basically.

We are very different when it comes to,

like, the way we want the other one to be.

I like music and I like sensual,

and he's kind of like

I like R&B.

- I like soul.

- No, I'm not talking about music.

What? Look

He'll very much just be like,

"I'm horny. Like, aren't you?"

And for me I'm like,

"Wait. I was just washing dishes." Like

And for me,

I think as a guy, it's way easier.

She turns me on.

I mean,

it's as simple as that, she turns me on.

When she walks around the house,

that's enough to turn me on. But

I need stimulation more than just, like,

penetration, basically is the point, like

I've had a penetration orgasm

twice in my entire life.

It's hard because

I want her to really enjoy it.

I mean, who else would you want

to please more than anybody else?

So one of the things

that's amazing in this here is

the people you have access to

and how they've been vetted

and what they're about

and how cutting-edge they are.

You're paired up

with a really, really good practitioner.

I think it's gonna be

a really interesting journey.

My name is Jaiya, and I help

couples to have hot, juicy sex lives

by learning more about their sexuality,

and I'm the founder

of the Erotic Blueprints

and the Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough.

People are wired differently

when it comes to their eroticism.

So Erotic Blueprints are

a language to help people understand

more about who they are as erotic beings.

I love that we are here

doing this on camera,

and the reason why I love it is because

I know that if one person viewing this,

it changes their erotic lives,

it's worth it.

I love this water.

Oh, check out that statue.

Wow, that's beautiful.

Wow.

So, here we are.

Here we are.

Here we are.

We're here now to help the two of you,

and so there's

orgasmic pleasure on the plate.

One of the things I wanted to set up

as we talk about your pleasure and orgasm

is that there's no pressure here.

So there's no pressure for you to perform

or have an orgasm or any of that.

The journey is

what I would like to focus on.

So there's five

different Erotic Blueprints,

and the first one is energetic.

And an energetic is someone

who's turned on by anticipation.

They like to have yearning, longing.

So then there's the sensual,

and a sensual is someone who's turned on

by all of their senses being ignited.

That's the senses of smell, taste,

sight, touch, all of that being ignited.

The sexual is someone who's turned on

by what we think of as sex in our culture.

So, intercourse, orgasms, penetration,

genitals, nudity. Those kinds of things.

The kinky is turned on

by whatever's taboo.

So whatever is taboo

for you becomes the turn-on,

and that could be psychological

or it can be more sensation-based.

And then the shapeshifter.

The shapeshifter is someone

who's turned on by all of it.

So it's the whole smorgasbord.

Nothing is ever too much.

So the both of you have taken

the Erotic Blueprints quiz.

The online quiz tells you what's happening

pretty much from

a mental standpoint of each blueprint.

- Yeah.

- And I have your quiz results.

So, what's really interesting

when I'm looking at couples' blueprints

is oftentimes they're opposites.

So they'll have, like, their highest one

is their partner's lowest one.

So, what I thought was most interesting

was your lowest, so I'm gonna start there.

So, in terms of sexual

was your lowest blueprint,

and you were 12.9% sexual.

Damon, your lowest was kinky, 5% kinky.

- But your highest, Damon, is sexual.

- All right.

So when I talk about you speaking

different languages, this is what I mean.

You speak sexual.

With my own partner,

I'm highest in sexual,

so my highest percentage

was sexual on my test as well.

When I would initiate sex with my partner,

I would touch his genitals and be like

Like, in the car or randomly,

those kinds of things,

and he'd look at me like,

"What are you doing?"

- "I'm trying to drive."

- Right.

"I'm trying to do the dishes,

or I'm trying to do other things."

"What is this?" And it feels like

it's coming out of left field.

So, what's interesting, Erika, is

I thought for sure, just talking to you,

that you would be highest in sensual.

- Okay.

- That'd be your highest blueprint.

But you're actually highest in energetic.

Huh.

What's fascinating is

that right under your energetic,

almost the same percentage,

is kinky.

Okay.

So you have, like,

energetic and kinky at the top,

and your kinky is the lowest.

Oh, wow.

Energetic kinky.

And the picture

that puts in my mind is crazy.

What's the picture?

I mean, somebody jumping

and running around, you know

"Ah!"

You know, with the whips and leather, and,

like, "You're not done!

You're not done!"

I think one of the really important things

here is that we'll redefine kink for you,

for you both, like, what that means,

'cause it doesn't have to mean gags.

And then the energetic piece

isn't about, like,

"I have all this energy

and I'm running around."

It's about

It's about creating

So, do this right now.

So, if you took your arm and

you just put your hand over your arm,

and then just feel.

Like, can you feel heat?

Can you feel, like,

the hairs on your arm like that?

- That That's energetic.

- Yeah.

It's touching somebody

before you're touching them,

Yeah.

It's playing in the energy

of a person's body, not just the physical.

Okay, so I'm gonna bring out some items

Okay.

that we will be using for sensation play,

or to play in the kinky realm.

- We gotta get one of these for the house.

- Okay. All right. Handcuffs.

Have you been handcuffed before?

No.

That looks like a Pokémon tail, so

- Pokémon tails can stay?

- Yeah.

"Okay," is what I'm hearing.

This is a wok cleaner,

but the way that it's used is kind of

like this for a little bit of sensation.

Okay, I wanna check in

'cause you mentioned chains.

The way this is used is not as impact.

Is that a metal flog?

It's It's to feel, like,

the way this drips and the temperature.

- There's no impact with this item.

- Okay, cool.

All right, and then, like, nipple, um

- Oh!

- clamps?

Is this something

His n*pples are sensitive.

- My n*pples are sensitive.

- Not your n*pples, your n*pples.

Although that could be interesting.

- I love hearing your blueprints talk.

- You first then.

These are, like, my Wolverine claws.

Whoo-hoo!

- Oh, that's kinda hot.

- It's hot.

- I don't know why, but that is.

- What is it with women and knives, man?

I won't break the skin

or anything with them.

It's mostly just for,

like, the interest of the sensation.

This is crazy, man. This is so crazy.

You're nervous?

Now I am.

She can get excited

with that Wolverine claw.

Yeah.

All right. Well,

if you don't need anything else,

I think we're ready to get on the table.

Okay.

It's so interesting that the "problems"

that arise in a relationship

are such amazing opportunities.

It's like the universe saying to you,

"Hey, like, knock-knock, you know, you're

not perfect, you have some growing to do."

"You have some learning

to do about yourself."

I once had a therapist that said,

"Your intimate relationship

is a meditation

in everything that's wrong with you."

- I thought it was really

- That's a very good one.

I can really relate to what you said,

because in our relationship

we've been working

with issues like boundaries

and also different, just, personalities.

I'm more avoidant. Rama's more anxious.

- Should I start?

- Yes, you go ahead.

Okay. My name is Felicitas.

My name is Rama.

I was born in Germany.

So I was born in the Caribbean,

born, um, on the island of Antigua.

My parents, they sent us

to the United States to go to school.

In 2006, I had just arrived

in upstate New York at Vassar College.

And one of the first girls I met

invited me to her house party,

and in walked Rama.

And I remember saying, "Oh, who's that?"

We met in September,

we were married in May.

So, we stayed. We have two children.

We have a daughter,

she's turning 11 this year,

and our son is turning six this summer.

We never really had help from any,

you know, external family members.

So, it was always just us,

and we were buckling down a lot,

and really, our relationship suffered.

And a couple years ago,

it came to a screeching halt

where I decided I can no longer do this.

Aw.

We were really close to getting a divorce.

I was the one who initiated.

I felt burnt out by family life,

my responsibilities.

I felt like I'm having

to make most of the decisions.

I didn't feel excited about sex anymore.

It caught me by surprise

because I had blinders on.

From the moment we wake up,

we are at the service to the kids.

Making breakfast, preparing lunch boxes,

getting them dressed for school,

getting them to school,

and then, from there,

we pivot to work mode.

First things first.

Coffee comes first.

So there's just, uh,

not enough of an environment

that can cultivate intimacy.

From the woman's perspective,

it feels like the guy just wants sex.

And I think from a lot of men,

it is communicated in

a very needy way of, like, expectations.

Like, "This is what I deserve

and this is what you need to give me."

As a woman,

once you have a child to take care of,

your capacity and willingness to take care

of someone else who's an adult diminishes.

The husband does become

like the second or third or fourth child.

For me, that's something I don't want.

I'm giving so much of myself, of my body,

I did not need

any more neediness from anybody.

But we're gonna stick together.

We're gonna figure out what it would take

to make our relationship the center

of this next chapter in our lives.

Pretty much everything we want

to do now is get the body ready, right?

To the best of your ability,

get into your worst kind of

"Bad day at work,

kids are super annoying" mood.

- Okay, mood. Okay.

- Mood.

I'm gonna do the totally

overwhelmed Supermom.

- Okay, good.

- Yeah.

That's probably one that he knows. Right?

- Get into that place.

- You got it.

Okay, just look at his face.

He's like, "Oh sh*t!"

How I often start out

is what I call diagnostics.

Right? And it's a bit like

you bring your car to the mechanic.

Right? To find out what's working

and what's not working.

So, what happened was,

you went into your thing,

and his whole body had a reaction.

He got that little boy,

"Oh, sh*t, but I'm gonna do it

because that's what I do, but, oh, no!"

Right? You got all of that.

A lot of my work

goes via the lens of embodiment

because the body is

what we need for sex and relationship.

Before we even

talk about sexual engagement,

if his body isn't ready,

we can't even go to the sexual stuff.

We have to get the body

available and online.

It's very, very useful

to actually see the couple in action

and see their bodies in action,

because what they say is wrong

is hardly ever what is wrong.

So, without talking,

you are going to touch in ways

'til you're actually relaxed, right?

Be, uh, inventive.

Oh, you feel good.

Good.

There were a few

main strands of discovery, right,

within what Felicitas

and Rama were bringing to me.

Rama, he had very nervous,

anxious body patterns

of kind of pulling away

from the ground, so to speak.

So, meaning, not wanting to feel

certain things is the translation to that.

You don't need to follow.

But don't say anything.

This is part of

what we're trying to figure out.

Hmm.

Felicitas had, um,

an observant aspect to her body

where she was like,

"Huh, I don't know," right,

and so that kind of critical aspect

directly hooked into

Rama's criticized little boy dynamic.

But when he then displayed

the criticized little boy,

Felicitas would get quite disgusted

and, of course, more critical,

but also withdrew attention and love.

Good.

So, we'll stop there for a second.

Yeah.

When trauma patterns of

rejection, pain, when they enter the body,

the body can freeze.

And at that point, there is no

real connection possible anymore.

And so I realized that I couldn't

actually go into the sexual domain

until their bodies and

their nervous systems were open.

So, what you're gonna do

is take your hands

and move them down the front of his body,

down his thighs, and go down with it

Okay.

and then push down

onto his feet and look up.

Now you've gotta look up.

You love that.

Yeah, I think you got the basic idea.

- Yes.

- How was that?

That was great.

- It was fun.

- Okay, good.

All right.

So, I'm gonna have you undress

as much as you're comfortable

and lay on the table

face down on top of the sheet.

Face down.

Now, a way to go

a little deeper from the body perspective

is body mapping.

And so this is

There's a scale of one to five,

five being highly pleasurable or orgasmic,

and one being like,

"Don't like that at all."

How pleasurable is this kind of touch?

Then we can do it within the blueprint.

So, here's an energetic touch,

or here's a sensual touch,

or here's a kinky touch,

and I kind of combine

those things together into a flow

to create, then, a pleasure map.

- We're actually gonna start energetic.

- All right.

So, we're gonna start up here.

And, Erika, just take

a nice, big, deep breath.

Okay, and we're just

gonna kind of pulse a little.

Like, it got warmer.

- Oh, I did feel that.

- You felt that?

A little pocket where it got warmer.

So now you're feeling some energy.

- Yeah.

- Yay.

Then what I'm gonna have you do, Damon,

is put your hands where mine are,

and then just come in really slowly.

Yeah, like, kind of what

you're doing there, like, feeling her,

and then, eventually,

you're gonna rest your hands.

I'll have you do once,

since she's sensitive there, one right

Yeah, did you see that?

I love that.

And you're gonna come up her.

- Does that tickle?

- Yeah.

Oh!

So, in here is really good.

So, right behind the knee.

Yeah.

This is like genitals here.

Yeah.

Had you heard of

the Sexual Blueprint theory before?

I know Jaiya's work

and I really appreciate her work a lot.

- It's pretty interesting.

- It's really interesting.

And it makes a lot of sense

to give people something,

a lens through which you can see yourself.

Did you take the quiz?

I'm energetic and I'm kinky.

So I'm energetic as well,

but it's a really

interesting way to approach it

and to create more acceptance of self.

- Yeah.

- Right?

Particularly in an area

that's so fraught with

odd feelings and shame

and things like that.

Okay, let's bring out

a couple little pleasure items.

And then we're gonna see

what your pain scale is like

with this particular implement.

- So right now, where is it?

- Like four.

Like a four? Okay, she's pretty sensitive.

Mm-hmm.

- Okay, does four feel like the sweet spot?

- No.

No. You would like to go higher or lower?

- Higher.

- Higher. Okay, so go a little harder.

Maybe a little higher.

Yeah, that's nice. I like that.

How pleasurable is that for you?

It's a workout, like a Shake Weight.

How pleasurable is it?

Uh, I

For me, pleasure-wise,

it just felt like I work here, you know?

I mean, I'm just

giving her the pleasure. Yeah.

So, right now, that's not crossing over

to, like, a lot of pleasure for you.

Yeah. So, we'll keep playing with that.

For Damon,

his turn-on lies in her turn-on.

So, while the implement

may not be doing it for him,

her turn-on is the thing

that can do it for him.

We can play with a little bit of kink.

Our culture teaches us

it's not okay to not know about sex

or to know exactly what to do.

You can take anything furry, right?

- And you can add something that vibrates.

- Oh.

That's nice.

And so, it was so brave of Damon

to come in and be willing to learn,

and to let that wall down.

To go, "I love her

and I'm going to hear now."

"I'm gonna open up

to hear now what she's been saying."

That's pretty hot.

But part of that

is just giving him some comfort,

that this is okay to play with.

All right, we're gonna play with these,

'cause I know they were exciting.

They're You peeked. Okay, so

You okay back there, Damon?

We're just gonna test

On a scale of one to five,

how pleasurable is that?

- A four.

- Four.

Okay.

And this is going to be B.

So what you're gonna do is just drip this.

And we're gonna drip it,

kind of like butt-cracky area, okay?

So you're just gonna drip it down slowly

Man, that's kinky.

I actually kinda like that.

I bet you did.

You should see it from here.

Just gonna drip it

down slowly, slowly, slowly.

When you think about

someone with a sexual struggle,

my mind goes to chemistry

or, you know,

are you well suited for each other?

What most people don't understand is that

relationship and sex

is actually a skill set.

- Right.

- Right?

And so, if you and I would go and

learn how to, I don't know, play golf?

You know?

- Talk about sexy.

- Sexy. Yeah.

So, we would have to have tools and then

we would have to learn proper form.

Right. It's kind of such a simple solve.

Yes. But then, so,

for instance, Felicitas and Rama,

they had a very good relationship that

they had rebuilt from almost separation.

- Right.

- But the spark was totally gone.

Right.

And so, there's a difference between

what makes a relationship good

and what makes sex good.

What we're going to do

is a fact-finding mission,

because you do clearly have

great love and respect for each other,

but we're gonna have

to work on the sexy factor a bit.

I get it. That's why we're here.

That's why we're here.

Okay, what would you say

is his strongest contribution

or strongest gift in your relational,

romantic sexual relationship?

I think his commitment to me.

Aw.

Yes, that is his strongest contribution.

What is her greatest gift to you?

The things you like about her.

Okay.

So, what I like about you

is is your

You have a very strong sense

of right and wrong.

You are very, uh, committed to

being in the right.

Um

You

I appreciate, uh, how much energy

you put into wellness

and sustaining our family,

in terms of the decisions that

you make around diet and lifestyle.

You look after our best interests.

I appreciate that.

I very much enjoy your partnership.

And

Because it makes his life so much better.

- Because

- I'm joking.

Oh yeah, it makes my life so much better.

That's true.

Um, tell him a little bit about what it

felt like for him to say those things.

Mm-hmm.

I didn't feel very seen

in a lot of those things,

because I felt like they were,

like, my contributions to the family.

I think I was hoping

for you to say something

that wouldn't even necessarily,

like, affect you, do you understand that?

Like, that would have been more about,

"Oh, this is, like, my essence,"

or "I love how you love books."

Uh, right?

- But Okay.

- Yeah, yeah.

Well, that's why

- There's nothing wrong or right here.

- Right. Yes.

I think this is perfect for,

um, kind of, unfolding the dynamic of

how we're gonna get you really connected.

You have a very specific dynamic.

You pat him on the back

and then you criticize him, right?

And he has this little,

"I'm going to please you, Mommy" thing

and then he has some resentment.

So, that's your dynamic

that we want to break sexually.

- Yes.

- Right.

So I kind of want to upgrade

the operating system a bit.

And the simplest way to do that

is to give those patterns a different name

so you can access them easily.

So that when you want to be

in that more romantic space,

you can access

a different set of conversation.

Yes. Mm-hmm.

- So. Does that make sense?

- Yes.

- It does.

- Okay.

So we're gonna give that woman a name.

Mm-hmm.

So, what we're gonna call

the mean schedule, the general,

just because then

we all know what that means.

What's the part that you love

so much when it comes out?

What is that part called?

- Generally

- Yeah?

- I refer to her as Feli.

- Yeah.

- Feli. Felicitas is her full name.

- Yes.

Okay. So we've got I call her Feli.

That was the general name.

- She likes that?

- Yeah.

When I am feeling

very loving in that way,

I call her Felicitas.

So, if I was to give her

a non-general name,

it might be Felicitas, in fact.

- Ooh.

- Felicitas.

- I like that.

- Like that?

Yeah, I do like that.

A-ha.

Okay. See?

And what do you call him

in his regular life?

- Rama.

- Rama. Right.

So, Rama has a certain personality.

This is Rama.

So, we're gonna give him a different name,

too, for the sexual occasion.

My parents gave me the name

Ramayana as the middle name.

They always referred to me as Rama.

- Rama is a god.

- Of course. A god. Yes.

- Yes, the Ramayana is the story.

- The Is the story.

So my name is not the story of Rama,

I am Rama.

- Yes.

- The king warrior.

What you're really saying is,

"I want to be the king"

Yeah.

- Mm-hmm. Right.

- "of this particular kingdom."

- Right.

- Right?

- That's right.

- Yeah.

Okay, look at her now.

I like that.

Now we can start.

I have blindfolds here.

Uh-oh. Halle Berry in Catwoman.

Right?

I'm gonna invite you

to play with this energetic touch,

just, like, her inner thighs,

you know, anywhere there's skin exposed.

You can start to play

and dance on her body a little.

I'm just gonna give you

a little, like, free space to just play.

Uh-huh. That's good.

That tickles.

Hey, baby.

It's making me wanna touch him back.

- Uh-huh, a good sign. Did you hear that?

- Mm-hmm.

"It's making me want to touch him back."

Erika and Damon felt like

they were mismatched sexually.

Her blueprint quiz

turned out that she was kinky.

- Mm-hmm. And he was low on kinky, right?

- He was very low on kinky.

If people have fantasies or they're,

you know, they like certain kinks,

where does the resistance

come from the partner?

Are they threatened by it?

Do they think it's off-putting?

- Sometimes it's just unfamiliar.

- Okay.

Because a lot of people assume

that sexual compatibility means

that you both like

exactly the same things.

Right.

There's a whole level of education

which I think is always worth mentioning.

In general, kinky doesn't

necessarily mean whips and chains.

- Right.

- It just means surprise, adventure.

Maybe a little bit stronger touch,

but also being led,

you know, where you kind of

can leave your head behind a bit.

We're going to play

another little kinky game

Mm-hmm.

that I think you might like.

So, this game is called Pretty Poses.

And your job is to boss her around, okay?

But it's like you're gonna pretend

like you're a photographer,

and you're looking

for the most beautiful poses.

- Got it.

- So your artist gets to come out again.

Okay.

I'm just gonna start it off,

and then you can kind of come in and play.

Okay.

I want you to lower your left leg slowly.

Yes. Yes.

And then take your other knee

and start to raise it as far as you can.

I'm going to give you

a little slack with that.

Yes, right there.

And now arch your back. Yes.

Good. Beautiful.

Now, take one of your hands,

and then just very slowly,

you can touch anywhere on your body

that you want to touch

with one of your hands.

Just very slow. Slow. Slow.

Yes, beautiful.

It's something out of a movie.

- It is.

- Yeah.

Slow. Slow.

Feel your own body.

- Yes. Beautiful.

- Oh!

Don't stop what you're doing.

Stretch your right hand

above your head as far as you can take it.

Now start moving

your left hand down your left leg.

And feel it.

Beautiful.

I love the word "innovation."

Couples who innovate last.

The beautiful thing in the superpower

of the kinky is similar to an energetic.

They could orgasm from something like

the psychology or the game of the play,

as opposed to, like,

having to have their genitals stimulated

the whole time like the sexual.

So, there's all this spaciousness

to their creativity.

And what I find beautiful

about the kinky is

you can play in it

for the rest of your life

and never have explored

all there is to explore.

It is gorgeous. You are gorgeous.

Completely gorgeous.

Okay, you have permission to speak.

On a scale of one to five,

how pleasurable is this game?

Five.

Five.

So, was that fun for you?

- Sure.

- This is also kinky.

Yeah.

I think it's just also

really helping me get out of my head.

Like, it's really engaging and enjoyable

and feels like we're participating

in something more than just

you know, intercourse.

Mm-hmm. Beautiful.

I've been waiting for us

to try something like this,

and this made me realize that,

like, for six years, we haven't been

exploring our sexuality together.

You know, coming from our past experiences

and expecting the other one to catch on.

Her whole body is a wonderland

of pleasure and orgasmic pleasure.

Mmm.

Not just her genitals.

You can see that.

Her body, like, twitching or this or that.

Like, it feels really good.

I really learned that she's not

as sexually conservative as I thought.

And that's exciting

for me to a point, because

I'm not kinky, but this kink, I liked it.

So, now I'm like

I'm just

Forty-five years old,

learning something new.

Your blueprint is energetic,

and I think you're more

like a psychological kinky

than of the sensation or, like,

spanking or, like, those kinds of things.

They add to it,

but I think yours is more of the game

of "helping me get out of my head."

And kink actually is

helping you get out of your head.

So, those are the main things

for you to just ground in here,

is, like, you're not broken.

There's nothing broken.

What's interesting is that

Damon has had this story

about Erika not being as sexual,

but I think that the more permission

and air he gives her to be sexual,

she is gonna flower and blossom

into something that he's going to be like,

"Whoa," and holding onto

the reins of where that's gonna go.

'Cause it's going

to really blossom and fully flower

and, you know, he's gonna have

a hard time matching it, I think.

And now it's your turn.

Yeah.

My blueprint says that I am very sexual,

but it also says that I'm very not kinky.

Yeah.

Are you nervous

to get on the table next?

Yeah, I'm nervous

to get on the table next.

I don't know what's gonna happen.