03x15 - Why Is Love Like An Elevator

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Previously on the real world...

Hi.hi.

I'm judd.i'm jo.

I'm from lake tahoe.

Originally I'm from london, england.

[ Steve ] keep pulling up, there you go.

[ Rachel ] steve is this dude that she lives with back in tahoe.

[ Judd ] I like romance.

And I get to do it so rarely.

You ladies in the house seem to think I'm too particular.

This is the true story...

True story...

Of eight strangers...

Picked to live in a house...

To have their lives taped...

Oh lucy, I'm home.

To find out what happens...

When people stop being polite...

And start getting real.

Mtv's the real world, san francisco.

[ Cory ] I like jo.

[ Pam ] she's spunky.

She's confident.

She has opinions about things.

[ Rachel ] she really is exciting. She really is fun.

She's just-- she's putting out new ideas.

And it's cool.

It's cool to have a new dimension in the house.

But I think it would be fun to do something that you did.

You know, go to europe.

But it's like I would never be able to do it until I finished school.

'Cause I'd feel like I was letting my parents down.

Can't you take a year off ?

How long have you--

What are you working on right now ?

Umm...

Nothing.

I don't think that there should be any pressure on you to do anything.

There's ways to get by in life

And do the things that make you happy.

Right now, I'm really happy with my life.

But you expect yourself to be, doing what you like to do.

Exactly.

You expect to live life to the fullest.

Basically my life is pleasing myself.

And through pleasing myself

I'm happy, so therefore I project a good image to everyone else.

Yeah basically, that's what it is too.

I'm not always happy.

I mean obviously everyone has down moments and--

[ Jo ] it's so healthy here.

We can have open discussion.

And we can have opposing opinions.

And yet, there's never any conflict.

I like that.

Because I don't like conflict in my life.

And I won't allow it to be in my life anymore.

But I meant to be home earlier and I just got home.

Well then I'll talk to you tomorrow night.

[ Judd ] jessica's a very, very good friend from college.

I'm closer to jessica right now

Than anybody in the world.

And we've even discussed moving this relationship

To a romantic level.

Jessica's gonna be coming up here this weekend

And-- it's getting tense.

I don't want to screw it up.

She's my support system.

I tell her everything.

There's a lot of risk.

It's a valuable friendship.

I know part of me could probably be convinced to

You know, start a relationship now.

'Cause I'm an idiot.

My friend jessica wanted to go roller blading.

So I went roller blading.

Hi. Hello.

How you doin' ? What's up-- good.

You saw the sign ?

Try these on.

You get real snotty when you're--when they know a little bit more about me.

I thought we weren't putting these on right here.

You don't listen much, do you ?

You're accusing me of being sexist.

I'm not, you are being overly defensive.

The last time I ice skated, I was about nine.

And I got a concussion,

That will tell you how good I am.

Are you supposed to be able to do this uphill ?

You can walk it.

Now you're just showing off.

I'm not, I'm trying to get up the hill.

I have personally screwed up tons of relationships

With women who have been close friends

And then we decided to start dating.

If you want to find it we'll take these off for ten minutes.

I don't want to take them off.

[ Sigh ]

Well.

No one ever gets a guarantee, that o.k. We'll start dating,

It's gonna work out.

But, I think we want to be a little

A little closer to sure than this.

So far so good.

Okay.

Here we go.

How do you go uphill ?

Just skate !

I rely on jessica for far too much,

To blow it, to screw this up.

And I think she feels the same way.

Ugghhh !

Hey, you !

What a stupid way to die.

Okay.

I'm not with you.okay.

[ Judd ] jo ?

Steve's on the phone.

Hi.

Okay.

What's up ?

You have a court date, may th, in six days.

Why ?

He apparently appealed, umm...

The restraining order.

And has appealed for another hearing.

And you have to be there by : in the morning

To go through another hearing for the retraining order.

Oh god ! What am I gonna do ?

It's no big deal. You just got to sh--

I'm all tensed and stressed out now.

It's gonna be okay.

You just have to show up for that hearing.

I know, but he's gonna be there, right ?

Yeah. No big deal.

You just have to explain why-- why you don't trust him.

Uh-huh.

Why he scares you.

That he's not able to come around you.

Well I just didn't want to have to deal with that anymore.

You know ? I know.

I can't believe he's doing this.

Why doesn't he just leave me alone ?

You know, why is he appealing ?

Everything is really gonna be okay.

Nothing's gonna change.

He's just trying to mess around.

Nothing's gonna change.

[ Weeping ] okay.

Oh, I hope my mascaras not running.

[ Jo ] I never expected something like this to happen to me.

And yet, here I am.

And, although I don't mind talking about it.

And I wanted to share it with my roommates.

I did not want to go into the whole thing before

Because I didn't feel it was necessary.

But now, I think it is.

[ Pam ] do you want to go to farmer's market on sunday ?

I don't know.

Jo has to go back for a court.

What court thing ?

Umm...

You weren't climbing on a bridge, were are you ?

No I wasn't, actually.

Nothing quite as fun.

My husband is contesting the restraining order

That I have on him right now.

What ?!

I didn't know you had either a husband

Or a restraining order.

I keep it kind of quiet.

[ Jo ] she was shocked.

If that was me I would have been shocked too.

When did you get married ?

In june, last june.

Every day I kind of realize "god you were really stupid

"To get married just like that.

"You didn't know him,

You just did it on impulse."

But see for me,

It was all suppose to be this big fun thing.

We were just gonna get married.

We were gonna, you know, have fun together.

And if it didn't work out it, well it didn't work out.

And that was how we both said it was gonna work.

And, unfortunately it didn't work like that

Because he got angry, and...

Anyway that's, that's beside the point.

The thing is I've always been a really independent person

And I kind of let him take that away from me.

'Cause when he first met you

Your presense was very independent and strong.

That's the image that I'm trying to protect along now.

'Cause that's me.

And I'm totally that person.

And...

I never want to go back to being totally reliant on somebody.

I mean, when I left, I didn't have anything.

I mean, everything that we bought together in the house,

I left it all behind.

I didn't take anything.

I didn't even take my own cds, you know.

And I still gotta to pay "columbia house"

For cds that I don't even have.

So you know, stuff like that.

[ Cory ] I think when you get yourself into a situation like that

When you're very dependent on another person

For all of your needs.

All of you your emotional, financial needs.

Umm... You're in a very vulnerable position.

Like she should have some kind of representation.

She's going in and making a statement in court.

Why ?

She's a strong woman.

No, no, no, no, no, no, no.

It's nothing about being strong.

It's about an attorney.

He's got an attorney.

She doesn't. She's goin' in alone.

Anyway, I just get a little anxious about--

You know, because there's no reason for him

To want to drop this restraining order.

There's no chance of us getting back together.

He knows that.

And the restraining order is like my security blanket you know.

It's like something that's really really important to me

For my own survival, you know.

I know it sounds kind of drastic.

No, it's not drastic at all.

I mean, you know, it's for real.

Y'know what I'm saying.

You know.

Yeah, it is for real.

Unfortunately.

You know, I'm just kind of bumming over this whole deal

With what's going on in my life right now.

It's so upsetting for me, because I don't have any money.

And I can't afford an attorney.

And it really worries me

That something's gonna go wrong.

It's like hi.

Hello !

[ Jo ] steve and I are really very close.

He's helped me out through a very tough time in my life.

Obviously going through the separation with my husband

And filing restraining orders.

And he got me through a really depressive period

That I was going through.

A long healthy life and lots of fun.

May we never have to grow up

And to jo, for tomorrow morning.

And to cory for supporting me.

And steve, of course.

Mmm...

Hi.

All right, we got a blue light bar,

And it's on union...

And buchanan.

So the plan is pretend like we're going out.

Kind of.

Pretend like we're going out, but we have a wondering eye.

Yeah, there you go.

That's what you want.

[ Rachel ] he has this theory that if

We hang out and look like a couple.

That somehow others will perceive us as more attractive.

[ Judd ] the idea being that

People notice you more when you're a couple.

I got all this to handle now.

Oh god, poor guy.

Good shot-- for some reason I think you can handle that.

You're from new york.

I'll be all right, but you know.

I got all night.

I wish I had something to chase this with, I can't do it.

[ Judd ] we just immediately met these two women who were really nice.

And I kind of took a shine to this woman, karen.

Really nice, we were talking most of the evening

And flirting a little.

She was really nice, I was actually excited

I said "this is someone who I'd enjoy spending time with."

[ Rachel ] they were both like really cool.

Karen and judd kind of hit it off.

And then I just hung out a lot with denise,

Just talking and stuff.

I love it when a plan comes together.

Went out with rachel, met this woman

She's really nice.

Ask her out, she says "yes."

I got lucky.

So I thought--

[ Judd on phone ] hello.

Well today, I call her

And just to kinda find out what we're doing, which movie.

She says "we have to talk."

Okay. All right I won't--

Are you okay with this ?

Just a little shocked !

I didn't--

At best, I thought you'd call up

And say, "I forgot I had plans with somebody else."

I didn't expect you to call up

And say, "I'm getting married."

So she's getting married.

Well congratulations. Mazel tov.

Good luck to you. And uh--

Well judd, you can come to the wedding

Look what you've caused.

So I don't think we're gonna go to the movies tonight.

What did she say ?

She's been seeing this guy for about months

And she called him and she's talking with him

And said, "I'm going to the movies with this guy."

And he didn't like that idea.

You know, didn't like the whole thing.

So he proposed...

And she said "yes."

She's getting married.

Now we can't go out.

You're lying.

So he proposed.

And I accepted.that's about the worst--thing.

You believe this ?

He really didn't like the idea and I guess he felt pressured.

'Cause he proposed.

Oh no !

And I said "yes."

Oh no !

You would think I was making it up though.

I mean, have you ever heard of anything so ridiculous ?

It's just my luck.

I've never heard of that happening to anybody.

But if it's going to happen to anybody

It's gonna happen to judd.

I wish I would have brought something nicer to wear.

But I didn't really think about

What I was gonna wear to court.

Neither did i.

So if you go in there and he's doing all the talking

And you don't get to say anything.

And they don't want to see your papers

And they're not listening to you

They're not asking you any questions.

Then you just wanna say, "I don't feel like I'm being represented well here.

I need to get an attorney."

And that's just your back up plan

If you feel really bad about it.

[ Cory ] what do you--have to hand to the judge when you get in there ?

What are you taking up with you ?

I don't have really anything to hand to him, steve.

'Cause we didn't get that police report.

You're gonna have to give him that uh, that arrest, uh.

The arrest sheet.the arrest sheet.

[ Jo ] I'm not sure about the whole thing.

I'm pretty scared about what's gonna happen.

What's gonna go on.

Where's by book ?

[ Jo ] we both had to make a sworn testimony

Of events that happened.

And after I told my story with a lot of difficulty.

Umm...

John didn't really have anything to say,

Because it was the truth.

So he didn't really...

Contradict anything that I said.

So the judge opted to go with the restraining order, as is.

Oh god.

But, you did it.

And you're strong.

And now you don't have to worry about it. And you know--

Oh.

I've been so stressed out, I feel good now.

I could feel his eyes piercing in the back of my head

When we were sitting there, you know.

And it's like, I just couldn't even look at him

Because every time I'd see--

I'd like see him out in the corner of my eye

I was like-- I was--

I just--just before I said my testimony

He whispered over to me, "I'm really sorry jo."

And it really got to me.

It upset me a lot.

So... I've been dealing with that, and...

I don't know, I still have feelings for him.

[ Judd ] rachel has a friend brian

Who she knows through

Some of her young republican stuff.

And he lives out here in san francisco

And we went to a barbecue at his place.

I don't agree with a lot of his policies.

But I don't want to--

Just attack him just because he's a democrat.

I'm not sure if it was a young republican barbecue.

It just seemed like most of the people there were young republicans.

[ Rachel ] no, valerie is a democrat, there.

I think she was the only democrat.

I think they got elected.

[ Judd ] she's pretty liberal.

And maybe that was kind of that spark that occurred.

Get a bunch of republicans in one room,

And two liberals, and they immediately just bond together.

I think she's perfect for you.

So why don't you make the big jump ?

She's probably too good for me.

That's a horrible thing to say.

I'm scum !

She's just-she's just really sweet you know.

And you are one of the sweetest guys I've ever met.

You're funny.

You've got a career.

It's kind of off beat.

You know, it's kind of cool.

You're attractive.

You got hair.

You tan easily.

What else does she want ?

[ Cory ] I had so much fun going rock climbing with jo and steve.

It was a blast.

[ Jo ] I had a really good day too.

And that was my way of saying "thank you to"

For cory driving me up there

And being so supportive of me.

Throughout the court and everything.

She sat there and held my hand.

And it made me feel good.

Hello.how'd it go ?

Very good. I won.

What happened ?did you win ?

What happened ? What happened ?

Right on !

I feel so supported by everyone in the house.

You know, they all seem like they're behind me

And want to be there for me.

I guess that, you know,

I feel like I'm just making some really good friends.

I really do.

[ Judd ] I was kind of running around like an idiot for a while.

And basically decided just to kind of

Just ease up and stop acting like... Such a fool.

And the moment I did that, I met valerie.

No hands.

Okay. Bye.

Good night.good night.

Drive carefully. Okay.

Maybe there is a moral in there, I'm not sure.

Maybe it's just when you stop messing around

Then you'll find what you want.

Are we dancing in the street ?

No.

No, no ? Don't say "no."

As opposed-in addition to all the good kind of stuff happening

Is there a little--sex.

[ Rachel ] just kidding.

Sex ?

Rachel !

Is there a question in here somewhere ?

Is it a little more than platonic ?

Yeah !

I am just taking this really slow.

That's what I'm choosing to do.

Take it very, very slow.

We're getting to know each other.

Woman are supposed to be reckless, and you know, like passionate.

How would you know ?!

[ Pam cackling ]

What you've seen it in some movie ?

On the next real world...

[ Mohammed ] I love stephanie a lot.

There's something wrong going within me,

In terms of the relationship.

And we spent a week of trying to work it out.

And still, didn't really change anything.

[ Coughing ]you just got warmer.

[ Pedro ] I've been getting fevers.

[ Cory ] he might get sick while he's here.

And it something that I'm sure we've all feared.

I was under the impression

You were gonna rent regular roller skates,

'Cause you didn't know how to do this at all.

Did you hear the first roller skating story ?

Third grade, concussion.

I didn't do that very well either.

See the drag in the foot thing doesn't work for me

I just turn.

Wait, okay.

No go ahead, I got the hang of it now. It's okay.

Excuse me.

I think I need this area more than you do. Thank you.