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Cassidy's with us.
That puts daya
into this insta-mom mode.
Are you gonna read a story
for me?
Do you plan to continue
a career in music
here in the United States?
I think I'm marrying Danny
and his family.
Mmm.
She is my fiancée.
You don't have a dress yet?
Are you crazy?
Well, I waited for you to come.
I haven't officially
proposed to her yet.
I'm not sure
if cassia will say yes.
Good afternoon.
Yamir has a meeting in Chicago.
Hopefully it could open
some doors for him.
Got to go, sweetie.
Trying my best, but it's so hard
being an insta-mom.
Open up!
We're gonna elope.
So you don't want your own
family to go to the ceremony?
Right.
I've got to leave
in about 10 minutes, okay?
I got to go to work.
You got 20 minutes.
See? It's 20.
Today is gonna be daya's first
day alone with Cassidy
while I'm at work, and my mom
won't be there to help.
I'm a little nervous,
because Cassidy hasn't
quite warmed up to daya yet.
She is feeling
a little apprehensive
about being left with daya.
You're gonna have fun with daya.
Just play with her a little bit.
I got to go, sweetie.
Love you.
I'm really nervous.
I love Brett so much,
and Cassidy is part
of Brett's life.
She's very shy.
And what is she won't open up
to me?
Being an insta-mom is, like,
the hardest thing ever.
Hopefully me and Cassidy
spending time alone
will help us
have this bond together.
What do you want to play?
Nothing.
Do you want to play frisbee?
Okay.
Hey.
Where you going?
Are you gonna pick up your toys?
Hey.
What are you doing?
Cassidy.
Open up!
You don't lock someone...
All of a sudden,
she just locked me out.
Come on.
Why did you...?
It was just, like, you know,
"that was just a game."
And, like, ugh.
Do you think that's funny?
I will call your dad
and tell him what you did.
Hey, I'm still talking to you.
You're being a little bratty
right now.
All I ever wanted
is to be close to her.
I know she needs time for that.
Cassidy, it's not funny.
But I need to talk to Brett
'cause, you know,
this is really affecting
our relationship right now.
Hello.
Hi.
Hi, mom.
Hi, lorna.
Hello.
It's a few weeks
before the wedding.
Things are really crazy
at the moment.
How are the wedding plans going?
What else
do you still have to do?
Me? Man, everything.
We have to do catering,
we have to do...
We have to finalize
the guest list.
Finalize the guest list.
Okay.
I'm an only child,
so I grew up really close
to my mom.
I'm not too sure if my family
will be able to come,
because it all depends on visas.
Will you still be able to come?
What's happening with that?
I am coming.
That's good.
Oh, thank you.
My only daughter's wedding.
Love you, mom.
Love you.
Bye!
Bye. Bye.
There's so much going on
right now.
There's the bachelorette
weekend.
Straight after that, I get back,
my mom gets here.
It's overwhelming.
You know, it kind of feels like
we have too much left to do.
I know.
I'm freaking scared.
I just wish we could have
another 90 days.
Yeah.
I'm really excited
for the bachelorette weekend.
I think it's gonna be
a good time
to bond with Danny's family.
I'm a bit nervous.
Yeah.
But it's kind of cool
that they made an effort
to do this for me.
Yeah.
A big effort.
They put this whole weekend
together for her.
My sisters have tricks
up their sleeve
for Amy during this weekend.
We'll see.
Yeah, I guess we'll see.
I'll see you
in a couple days, huh?
Love you.
Bye.
Bye.
Don't go too crazy.
Got to make the good salsa.
Sí.
Sí.
Make it real spicy for Jennifer.
Then she won't be able to talk.
I'm inviting my big brother...
Jake... and Jen
over to the house
to give us a chance
to kind of talk,
and answer the questions
that they were asking
at the pool party.
Obviously you knew that
you were all gonna marry.
No offense, but why is this now?
I could see
how it was a surprise.
We show up and say,
"hey, this is my fiancée."
You know, "we got 90 days
to get married,
and she's from Colombia."
Inviting Jake and Jen over
to the house will, I think,
kind of make them see
a little more
the way we, you know,
care about each other.
Yeah. They'll like it.
They'll like it.
You think?
You and Jennifer want
to sit next to each other?
No? Okay.
You know?
A little tough.
The first time we met her
didn't go over so well.
Clearly we were
a little shocked.
Hey. Come on in.
Sultana.
Hi.
Hi. How are you?
But I would like to hear
from her specific questions.
Were you living
with your family?
Your parents?
Yes.
My mom, my pop.
Yeah.
Are you pretty religious?
Have you ever been married?
No.
We're just asking.
How many kids?
Do you want... does he...
do you want to talk about it?
You have some now?
These questions, just a little
awkward, you know?
Feel like, "what?
"I am here
because I love your brother."
So, no kids.
Is there a date for the wedding?
Tell us.
I don't have, like,
a set date or anything, but...
Yeah, I think we're gonna elope
on the beach.
You know, just me and her.
I'm a very romantic guy.
A wedding should be
about the two people.
So you don't want your own
family to go to the ceremony?
Right.
Is there a date for the wedding?
We're gonna elope on the beach.
You can come out, like,
after the ceremony.
But the actual "I dos" is us.
So you don't want us
at the ceremony?
Right.
Not the ceremony.
You don't want your own family
to go to the ceremony?
You don't want a best man?
Why? Why is that?
Or...
yeah.
No.
Everything that we've kind of
been through together,
I think the best way to do it
is just between us.
I just always thought
that we would be going
to a wedding for Justin someday.
When I told Jake and Jen
that we were eloping,
you know, it's definitely,
you know, hard to understand.
But we have 90 days to do it.
I just kind of wanted it to be
between me and evelin.
You know, something small,
intimate, romantic.
You know what I mean?
Oh, I don't think that.
I don't understand
why he doesn't want us there
at the wedding.
It sounds like we're not part
of any of it.
There is someone in our family
it's gonna hurt their feelings,
and that's mom.
Yeah, possibly.
Possibly?
It's a slam dunk.
That's gonna be crushing.
I don't know how
you can say that.
If you're gonna have anybody,
you should have her there.
I can speak for my mom.
She wants to be there.
And that's probably
the biggest shock.
He's wavering, and that just
doesn't seem right.
All right.
Keep it down, okay?
What?
Since cassia has arrived,
things haven't been so smooth.
What if I don't like America?
You just respect my property,
we'll have a better
relationship.
I'm doing the best I can.
Uh-huh.
I think I have the perfect idea
about smoothing over
some of our rocky moments.
Hey, you got a minute?
I was gonna talk to you outside
about something.
I suppose.
You know I haven't officially
proposed to her yet.
Okay.
What I'm planning to do is
propose to her officially.
We kind of did it
on the Internet,
but that didn't really count.
The time I was down in rio
with her,
I didn't find the proper place.
Now that we're here in Florida,
the time is right.
So, anyway, I'm going
to tampa tomorrow,
taking her to the aquarium.
And then I'm gonna
propose to her.
Okay.
There's a big giant
shark exhibit there.
All the sharks are around us.
Is there some reason why
it's sharks and marriage?
Not everyone else does it,
so it kind of fits my m.O.,
you know?
They haven't been together
very long.
She hasn't been
in the states very long.
And I think they still need
to find out everything they can
to find out about each other.
Know that she's been
pretty stressed out
with leaving Brazil,
leaving her family.
I think it's the right time
right now.
Okay.
I know my dad has his overall
reservations about the proposal.
And I'm not sure
cassia will say yes,
because she and I have been
working a few things out.
But getting down on one knee
will show cassia
that I mean business.
I love you.
I love you, too.
Yamir's been in
the states for a few weeks now,
and he's had his ups and downs,
especially with the news
he received
about his band
back in Nicaragua.
Myla vox is, uh, finished.
I'm really proud of yamir.
I never doubted him
for a second,
that he wouldn't be able
to do it.
But seeing it happen, I just...
it makes me feel really happy.
Yeah, it's really cool.
It's incredible,
incredible city.
It's a bit intimidating.
That's definitely true.
I think this is where
you're gonna be going.
I love you.
They're gonna love you.
I love you, too.
Good afternoon.
Good afternoon!
Good afternoon.
Hi.
Hi. Yamir?
I'm Fran.
How are you?
Ohh!
Very nice meeting you.
Nice meeting you.
Pleased to meet you.
Danny.
Nice to meet you.
I do a lot of production
of artists
right here in Chicago.
I've been in the business
about 44 years now.
I worked with Stevie wonder
for 22 years.
I worked with Diana Ross,
tom waits.
How long have you been singing?
Almost seven years.
Okay.
Yeah, seven years in regatón.
Four with myla vox.
Okay.
Yes.
Myla vox is a group,
very popular in Nicaragua.
But they... They....
I am...
The... The...
Understand?
Okay. All right.
I would like to hear.
Okay. Perfect.
I'm going into the booth.
I feel very nervous.
All right.
I would like to hear.
Okay. Perfect.
¶ Yeah ¶
¶ t*rture in the track ¶
¶ yamir ¶
¶ check it out, baby ¶
¶ hey! ¶
okay. Okay.
Take off the... yeah.
Come in.
All right.
We'll see.
Sit.
I think that you have...
A spark...
Thank you.
That can reach people.
Now what you need to do
is put all of this together
with the right team.
Chicago is where the action is.
You should think
about moving here.
There is a whole community of
producers, writers, musicians,
that you can network
and communicate with,
get people to
check out your songs.
There's not that many people
in galesburg
doing what you're doing.
Yes.
So, you let us know.
Danny's sisters
have rented a house
away for
my bachelorette weekend.
Hey!
We made it.
- Wow.
- Wow.
What do you think, Amy?
This is crazy.
Isn't it awesome?
Apparently,
there's a surprise for me.
I'm not sure what it is,
but I'm excited for it.
Do you like it?
So vintage.
This is so cool.
It is really old school,
isn't it?
Yeah.
This is so cool.
So, I want to make this day,
like, super special for her,
because it's kind of, like,
a vulnerable time for her.
So I just want to make sure
she feels really loved.
What are we doing?
It's a surprise.
Ohh.
No, no, no, no, no, no, no.
You'll be all set
for your wedding night.
Let's just say that.
Think I'm kind of scared.
So, guys,
we're gonna play a game now.
It's called
"do you know your groom?"
And every time she gets
a question incorrect,
she has to chew a piece
of bubble gum.
Number one.
Can you name the groom's
favorite team?
Ohhh.
Where was the groom born?
A hospital?
Okay. Does the groom wear boxers
or briefs?
I was actually nervous
when Jen was asking me
all those questions about Danny
during the game.
Briefs.
He said boxer briefs.
Ugh.
Man, the 90 days
goes by so fast.
I thought I would know
a bit more.
So, Amy, I was told
that you like sunsets.
So I thought
it'd be really cool...
To celebrate the Sunset
with you.
Whoa!
Your seat is at the end here,
where the gifts are.
Wow.
Oh, ames.
Walking up and seeing
the dinner set up
that Heather and the ladies
did for me...
We love you.
That was a big moment,
'cause I realized,
"okay, I'm not in this alone."
Thank you so much, everyone.
I'm not used to people
doing this stuff for me.
Cheers.
Cheers, guys.
Cheers.
Now it's, like,
down to business.
The real reason we're here.
So, your gifts are behind you,
and you should start
opening them.
Oooh.
Hello.
Oh, my gosh.
There we go.
"For a crazy sexy feel."
Okay. You got to know,
when I was putting in that bag,
I was like, "I can't do it.
I just can't do it.
It's for my brother!"
I was like, "oh,
but she's gonna need it."
I think that Danny's
sisters were really helpful
with, you know,
they know that it's gonna be
my first time having sex.
So, are you a little
nervous about your first night?
Like, having sex?
How do you feel about that?
I'm nervous.
What's it like?
Who wants to do it?
You're becoming one
and you're just learning
about each other,
so it's, like, such a precious,
special moment.
And it's even better
that you waited.
Yeah.
They like the song.
Yeah?
They liked it.
Music is my life.
I really hope
Chelsea support me.
How would I feel in Chicago?
She's been a pain in my a*s.
It's so hard being an insta-mom.
I need Brett's help.
I mean, what do you
want me to do?
You have to be more strict,
you know?
She doesn't respect you at all.
Who's the man in this family?
Hey, baby.
Hey, babe.
How's it going?
Babe, I had a rough day today.
How come?
Cassidy.
She's been a pain in my a*s
the whole day.
What?!
When she locked me out,
I was really hurt
'cause I've been trying my best.
But it's so hard
being an insta-mom.
I need Brett's help.
Just doesn't listen at all.
Just today,
or is it ongoing or what?
It's been like that
since she came here.
Are you saying I don't
discipline her?
I never heard you
telling her "no."
Yeah, but she's only here
for a short amount of time.
I mean, what do you want
me to do?
You have to be more strict,
you know?
She doesn't listen to you.
So you want summer breaks
just to be like jail?
No, it's not like that.
All I'm saying is
you have to learn how to say no
to her sometimes.
Okay.
That's all I'm asking from you.
Daya means the world
to me, and so does Cassidy.
Being put in the middle
is very hard.
Who's the man in this family?
Me.
I feel like I'm doing
everything that I can
in the time that I have her.
I'm not saying you didn't.
Think about what
she's going through, too.
She's not used to extra company,
you know?
She's not used to me
having a girl around.
Yeah.
I just really hoped
that, you know,
Cassidy would open up
and warm up to me.
What if she won't like me?
No, babe, don't...
you can't think like that.
I care for her,
and I want her to know that.
We just have to give her
the chance to get used to you.
So we have to be patient
with her, too.
Okay.
Daya's going through a lot
right now.
She's stepping into this role
of an insta-mom,
at the same time
coming into a new country.
It frustrates me,
but I'm not gonna give up.
Oh, baby. I'm sorry.
Just give it some time.
Today yamir had his big meeting
with the record producers
in Chicago.
I'm a little nervous to see
what the producers had to say
about his music,
but I'm also really excited
because this has been
a big opportunity for him.
How'd it go?
Good.
I speak with producer.
Mm-hmm.
Said like the song.
Yeah? They liked it?
Yes.
Did they like your style?
Yes.
So, yeah, I'm very happy for...
They're very experienced.
Mm-hmm.
Like, what other advice
did they give you?
Staff?
So, like, you need a team.
So, like, if you really want
to be serious
about your music career,
they think you have
to be living here?
Music is my life.
I really hope Chelsea understand
and support me.
Cómo feel you in Chicago?
How would I feel in Chicago?
I think, like...
I don't know.
I always thought it would be
really cool to live here.
It makes me nervous,
'cause I think
sometimes my parents
are sort of like
a security blanket for me,
'cause we, like, know
that they're there to help us.
Like, if we're here,
we're sort of on our own.
And I've been moving around so
much for the past few years...
I'm really proud of
yamir getting out there
and meeting people.
But I spent almost
the past 10 years
of my life moving around,
going away to college,
doing my volunteer work
in Nicaragua.
I just wanted us to be able
to settle
and be still for a while
and start our lives together.
I need understand my future...
For me, say...
is...
It's here.
My love for Chelsea
and my love for the music,
very complicate balance.
That's what's, like, the risk
of getting married.
The balance.
I really want yamir to be able
to make it as a musician
here in the United States.
I mean, I'm his biggest fan.
I just don't think we should
rush into such a big move
when we're not even settled
here yet.
Well, you'll just have
to figure out
what it is exactly
you want to do.
I didn't officially
propose to cassia
because I want it to be
something special.
We're gonna just see
how things work out.
Hi, mom!
I still have to meet
his parents.
That's gonna be interesting
'cause him and I
are a mixed-race couple.
I hope this won't be
a big obstacle
in the family, you know.
My mom flew in last night
all the way from South Africa.
She's just about to come
and visit me,
and I'm so excited to see her.
I have really missed my mom
over these past few months.
I'm the only child, so...
But we'll see.
Hi, mom!
Amy.
How are you?
I'm well. And you?
Look how good you look.
Ohh! Mwah!
It's been a long time.
You look gorgeous. Ohh!
How are you?
I missed you.
You look good, mom.
America's good for you, eh?
I really miss South Africa
a lot.
Well, it's been a long time.
It's been really hard
having my mom
halfway across the world.
She's missed so much of,
you know,
being a part
of the wedding planning
and my life here in America.
You surprised us.
I mean, you're only 21,
and you've decided
to take this big step.
I know.
And so far away from us.
I know.
I think that was the hard part.
Like, knowing that
I've moved away
and I know that it's permanent.
Yeah.
And I know that you aren't just
around the corner anymore.
Do you feel you're ready
for this big step?
I still have to meet
his parents.
Okay.
So that's gonna be interesting.
His dad, you know, has, like,
some ideas of, like,
the perfect American family.
Because him and I
are a mixed-race couple...
So I don't know what exactly
it's gonna be like, you know?
That first impression.
I hope this won't be
a big obstacle
in the family, you know.
The situation does make me
a little sad.
You know, that you may have
a little bit of a problem
with the race.
Yeah.
So, we have to just deal
with those things
and kind of overcome them.
Amy is strong.
Yeah. Amy's strong.
She can adjust, you know.
And she'll be fine.
Amy, I think when Danny's dad
sees you in that wedding dress
walking down the aisle,
anything to do with race
is just going to melt away
and fade away.
Yeah.
But I haven't got a dress yet,
actually.
So...
You don't have a dress yet?
Are you crazy?
Well, I waited for you to come
so that we can go
dress shopping together.
So we're gonna go there today,
actually.
Amy, you've made my day.
You know this is
every mother's dream,
shopping for a wedding dress
with their daughter.
So it's a little bit late,
but I'm glad you waited for me.
Yeah, I know.
Cassia's been here
for about a month,
and she still doesn't have
a ring on her finger.
But today, it's gonna change.
We are getting close?
Uh, no, it's in tampa.
We got a 45-minute drive
ahead of us, honey.
The time I was down in rio
with her,
I never got down on one knee.
I was waiting
for that special time
'cause, you know,
I'm a romantic.
I want it memorable,
and I want it to be
something special.
What they have inside?
It's the Florida aquarium.
They got a stingray
and everything.
Today we are at
the tampa bay aquarium.
I'm a little nervous,
but I think it's gonna go well.
So...
Smells like fish.
They're coconut crabs.
These things just jump out
at you and attack your face.
Stop!
These are the attacking otters.
That's it?
That's a shark.
Ohhh.
He looks mad.
He'll bite you.
He won't let go.
And he'll k*ll you.
I would say
maybe 5% reservations
whether or not she'd say yes.
We're gonna just see.
See how things work out.
You want to take a picture?
Yeah.
Mm-hmm.
Oh, my god.
Cassia, I love you very much.
I can't imagine my life
without you.
Will you marry me?
Yeah!
I cannot believe it.
Ah!
Oh, my god.
Oh, that's pretty!
God.
Show the ring!
Whooo!
Oh!
The aquarium was good.
We saw the penguins
and the lemurs and the owls.
And...?
And, uh, we saw the snakes.
And...?
We saw the sharks.
He gave me the ring, finally.
¶ And make me smile ¶
she said yes, so I'm happy.
Think it was very nice,
because I never thought
he would propose there.
Oh, god.
It was very romantic.
This is the kind
of romance I need
if we want to get through
this 90 days.
Congratulations!
Thank you!
I don't have a wedding dress
yet, which is crazy.
I'm excited 'cause I get
to do it with my mom.
After I talked
to Brett about Cassidy,
I realized that I need
to be open-minded,
understanding,
and it's not gonna be easy.
Wow.
We're gonna go for swimming.
Being an insta-mom
is really hard work.
After I talked to Brett
about Cassidy's behavior,
I realized that I need
to be open-minded
and be understanding.
And it's not gonna be easy,
but I would really try my best
to make it work.
We played in the park.
One more time and then
we'll leave, okay?
Okay.
Good job.
Whoa.
We went to the lake to swim.
Oh, wow.
Good job.
Hiya!
We've been playing house,
do our nails.
There you go.
Beautiful.
Put some makeup on.
You crack me up.
I'm a clown.
I understand her more now,
and now we're starting to bond.
Barry and ladybug.
I've been waiting to have
that close moment with her,
and finally we're having it.
You've been a good girl today.
Oh! I was trying
to eat my tooth.
Ready to find your dress today?
Yeah, let's do it.
My mom just landed.
I don't have a wedding dress
yet, which is crazy.
But I'm excited 'cause I get
to do it with my mom.
Hi. How are you doing?
Hi. Good. How are you?
Good!
It's really important
that I find one,
'cause I don't really have
any other time to do it.
Okay, do you have any idea
kind of what you're looking for?
Not exactly.
I know what I like.
I'm very simple.
Okay.
But, yeah, I've been waiting
for my mom to get here.
She's from South Africa.
Wonderful.
Okay. Well come on in,
and we'll start kind of taking
a peek and seeing what we have.
It's like a treasure hunt.
Yeah.
Not being here to help plan the
wedding has been quite tough.
Some amazing dresses here.
It makes me feel so good
that she wants me to help her
find a wedding dress.
Too flowery.
That reminds me
of, like, the fall.
It's a summer wedding,
so I'm just looking for
something that's, you know,
obviously flattering,
just very simple.
Something that I can wear
in the heat.
This one is satin, Amy.
I like this.
Let's take this one.
What about this one, ames?
Ooh, I like that.
Pretty?
Yeah.
Try that one on, too.
Are you excited to see Amy
in her wedding gown?
I'm so excited to see her.
I really am.
You know,
choosing her wedding dress...
Every mother wants to
be part of that.
Yes.
Here she comes.
That's gorgeous.
Amy!
It's beautiful.
How do you feel in it?
I feel...
I feel pretty in it.
Mm-hmm.
Only one thing.
What?
I wanted a bit more lace.
Okay. Next one.
Yeah.
Whoa!
I love it.
The problem is, all these
dresses look good on you.
Well?
Mm. Not me.
It's a little more formal.
Yes.
It's her day.
She needs to be happy.
Oh, my goodness!
What do you think?
Oh, my gosh.
I love that dress.
Do you?
This is beautiful, Amy.
Feels awesome.
Oh, it's amazing.
I love it, Amy.
Do you?
I love it.
Amy. Wow.
Seeing Amy in that dress
is... it's beautiful.
Do you love it?
It's a dream come true.
Um...
It has, like,
everything that I wanted.
It has the lace, no bling,
and it has pockets.
That's awesome.
It's perfect.
This is the one?
Yes, this is my dress.
My wedding dress.
Oh, my god!
Yay!
When his parents meet her,
it will be difficult for me
to believe
that the father can't love Amy,
or accept the fact
that his son has fallen in love
with someone
across the color line.
Next time on "90 day fiancé"...
If they think they will party
with strippers and prostit*tes,
they are wrong.
Thank you for inviting me.
No, it's okay.
I'm very excited.
The mother is important,
you know?
I have some bad news
I have to tell him.
We lost everything.
My dad,
he's not very comfortable
with interracial marriages.
Are you two really prepared
for this marriage
in our country
where it's not accepted?
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