This programme contains strong language,
scenes of nudity and adult content.
We are completely in love but it
doesn't mean you can't screw around.
British couples are
increasingly questioning monogamy.
The biggest contraceptive
known to man is wedding cake.
But is it possible to open up your
relationship without harming it?
It's a complete mystery,
the whole thing.
This is it.
We don't know what to expect.
These curious couples
are about to find out.
Oh, that is gorgeous.
They're travelling
to a unique retreat...
Hello. You all right?
Where, with the help of a
specialist relationship therapist...
Life is short.
Why limit sex to just one person?
And a group of single, available
and sexually liberated residents...
It's just natural to
have sex with multiple people.
They're about to discover
if their sexual fantasies...
Oh, jeez!
Can become a reality...
We like the idea of group sex.
We just wondered if you'd like
to spend the night with us?
And whether or not
they'll be able to break
one of society's greatest taboos...
Arghg
I should have been thinking about
the man that I love
and how he was feeling.
And have sex with other people.
MOANS: Oh, my God!
Wow. I was not expecting that.
This is the most out of
my comfort zone I've ever been.
Do you feel nervous? I'm just
buzzing to see the place. Yeah.
Checking in to this unique retreat
are Liam from Wales
and his girlfriend Stacey,
from Buckinghamshire.
I love animals. Stacey loves
animals. I love animals.
I think I was a dog walker when
I first met you. Yeah, you were.
All this build up,
all this tension, innit?
Hopefully there's just
some nice people there.
The couple met on a dating app,
where it was love at first swipe.
The thing that
I find best about Stacey
is her ability
to bring so much joy to life.
He's like my own personal hype man.
He bigs me up for everything. Like,
that's one of the big things...
Put her on a pedestal, innit?
They've been together
a year and a half and have shared
some important milestones.
We went and got
my first-ever curry in a car park.
Stacey's the most fussiest eater
you could ever meet...
I'd never tried a curry.
Stacey lost her virginity
to a chicken korma.
Look at the size of it.
f*cking hell.
I wonder how many rooms
it's actually got?
Right, you ready?
I'm not ready.
The couple are more than content
with their sex life.
We are 100% ten out of ten
in the bedroom, aren't we?
We're pretty good. Yeah. Solid.
There's a naughty element to
outdoor sex, isn't there? Yeah.
Especially when you're filming it
as well. It's risky. Yeah.
Now they want help
to open their relationship
so they can start having sex with
other people as well as each other.
Hey!
Hi! Hello.
Here to welcome them
are hosts Jess and Thom,
who are in a long-term
open relationship themselves.
We've opened up our relationship.
It can be difficult in
the first few months.
I would have loved to have had
someone who was experienced in it
to give us a bit of guidance
and their experiences.
Come with us.
Everyone's excited to see you.
Oh, this looks so cute out here.
The retreat is packed
with adventurous
and sexually open residents.
Hi. Oh, my goodness!
sh*t!
Hello, guys. Hi, guys.
Good morning. Hello.
When you're in a relationship,
it's a commitment.
How you doing? Hi.
Does that really mean you
have to sleep with that one person
for the rest of your life?
For us, it's just about
living life to the full.
You OK?
But curiosity k*lled the cat, so...
Poised to help the couple
brave their first few steps
in this extraordinary
sexual experiment...
Come on in. Hello. Good morning.
Is intimacy therapist
Dr Lori Beth.
Lots of couples have
this sort of fantastical idea
about how easy it's going to be
to open up their relationship.
But the cold, hard reality is
something they don't expect.
I need to make sure that every
couple that comes to the retreat
understands exactly
what's involved in opening up.
So what brings you here?
It was your idea initially,
isn't it?
Yeah, I guess
it was my own fantasy
that me and Stacey experience...
having a threesome with a guy.
OK.
I'm not really sure
how we'll go about it,
where it may lead,
but we know it's something
that we want to experience.
OK.
The idea of Stacey
getting with another guy
for me is a massive turn-on.
Obviously I'm very attracted
to Stacey,
so then for me to
be able to sort of see it,
it's almost like
watching porn live.
He just really wants
to watch me suck click.
I don't think there's
anything wrong with that!
You've said he's the driving force.
How do you feel about that?
Initially, I was like,
this isn't for me.
But then as time goes on,
you start thinking more into it
and you're like, hmmm, it does sound
quite exciting to be able to
do that in a relationship as well.
I'm just a very free spirit.
I like to do anything
that I see as exciting.
I don't mind that
he has this fantasy.
And if I'm doing it, it's because
I want to be doing it as well. Yeah.
So why another guy?
Sexuality-wise, are you bi-sexual?
No. I guess it's like
sort of visual stimulation.
Why that is, I have no idea,
but it just intrigues me.
But do you know what, you know how
many voyeurs there are in the world?
There are lots of men who want
to watch their wives with other men.
Loads.
Loads of people
love watching sex.
That's why porn works
so well, right?
Are there any sexual activities
that are off limits?
I'm not going anywhere near a**l,
I'll tell you that.
OK, that's an important one.
There we go.
So what are your biggest fears
about this?
I guess it's like, if, say,
me and Stacey started having this
open relationship with another guy,
people might sort of judge us.
OK. So I want to acknowledge
the fact that inviting a man in
is probably a bigger hurdle for
most men than inviting a woman in.
Yeah.
Don't feel like
that's unusual or strange.
It's actually not.
What I want to do
is send you on a social
so that you can get to know somebody
and fulfil that fantasy.
If all goes well and
you find another man,
you can invite them back with you
and you can do all the things,
or some of the things —
That's entirely up to you.
It definitely fills me
with a lot of nerves.
Lots of men fantasise about
seeing their partner have sex
with someone else
and seeing them do it in front
of you is voyeurism at its best.
But men are taught from a very young
age that that's not acceptable
and that's not OK.
You seem a little bit on edge.
I'm a little bit on edge, I know I
am, and you can tell I am as well.
I've gone to Stacey with these
sort of fantasies in my head
and we've never really
acted on them.
We both know that these sort
of things need to happen
for us to progress.
But it's a daunting...
It's a daunting aspect, obviously.
It's just a lot to digest
at the minute.
Sit down, man. I know, I know.
All right, chill out!
I think it's just really exciting
to be able to have sex
with a different guy.
But I think Liam is
a bit more nervous than I am.
He might just take a little bit
longer than me to settle in.
Lay down for a minute,
just chill out.
Yeah.
You excited to flirt
with some girls?
Yeah, no, I'm buzzing.
The next couple on their way
to this remarkable retreat are Alex
and Lydie from Kidderminster.
I would literally
flirt with a lamppost.
Who wears the trousers?
BOTH: Me.
No. I'd say I wear the trousers.
No, it's definitely me, I'm sorry.
I'd say me. I think you...
I'd say I'm the lad, he's the girl.
That doesn't mean
the girl's not in control.
This girl is.
Yeah, there's definitely nerves
but I am buzzing.
The couple met online,
after Lydie caught Alex's eye.
Alex fancied me for three years.
When I met him,
I thought he was good-looking.
He's quite fashionable
and very, like, prim and proper.
MY tang.
If I could describe my type
it would be Lyd...
Small, brunette, tanned, funny.
Yeah, I'm not going to know
where to look, I'll be like
a rabbit in the headlights.
Yeah, literally.
Is it a deer in the headlights?
Yeah, it's deer in
the headlights. I think.
Alex takes a lot longer
getting ready in the morning,
whereas I'll be like,
bit of hair up here,
hairy armpits and I'm ready to go.
Bloody hell.
The couple try to
keep things fresh in the bedroom.
Feel like I'm in Mamma Mia.
I think we're quite...
explorey, shall we say? Yeah.
I think I'm more up for it.
You're more up for it, yeah.
Oh, God. Hi.
Hello, you all right? You OK?
Lydie, Alex, lovely to meet you.
They're here to explore whether
opening up their relationship..
I'm loving the outfits!
Thank you.
And having sex with
other people could work for them.
Look how big it is.
I think taking part in
this experiment could
spice sex lives up, definitely.
Come on in, guys.
I'm just open-minded to everything.
I think the reality of
opening up is scary
but I'm excited at the same time.
Wow.
I'm just scared I'm going to
break something. I don't know why.
Liam and Stacey are
getting ready for their social.
They're hoping to meet a man
that Stacey can have sex with
while Liam watches.
The red one definitely
suggests something.
Are you calling
my dress suggestive?
The idea of Stacey getting with
another guy obviously excites us,
it's new boundaries. It's just new,
which is quite nerve-racking.
It's just really sexy, Stacey.
You think my red dress
calls me desperate?
THEY LAUGH
I suppose this is
the moment we've been waiting for
and now it's sort of here, it's
like, there's more anticipation.
But we've got each other's backs.
It's fine. If you feel
uncomfortable, you tell me.
If I feel uncomfortable,
I'll tell you.
The social is hosted by
open couple Thom and Jess.
Hi! Hello!
Good evening.
So you guys have a mingle
and we'll catch up with you a bit
later. Yeah, no worries. Yeah, yeah.
The party's full of available,
sexually adventurous men.
I think humans, as animals,
are kind of meant to have
more than one partner.
I think he wants to watch his missus
slammed by another geezer.
Are you interested in that?
It's whether they feel comfortable.
I'm game for anything.
Having sex with someone else's
partner isn't new to me.
I've done that numerous times.
Baby steps is the best way.
My sexual fantasy is to have a good
time in bed with another guy
outside of our relationship.
When's the last time
you were in a relationship?
Officially, last year.
Last year. What happened with that?
I wanted a bit more,
I suppose, sexually.
And, yeah, I thought
I'm not going to settle. So, yeah.
Resident jack
has connected with Liam.
You get two of him!
The fact that me and you have both
got along with jack, I like that.
NERVOUS LAUGHTER
I think the social's
going really well.
I don't know if I've got high
chances but I'd like to think I do.
She's been asking me what my type is
and telling me I'm attractive,
so I'm thinking
my chances might be quite good.
With the party under way,
Dr Lori is keen to prepare Liam
for the realities of
seeing his girlfriend have
sexual contact with another man.
Stacey!
And so she's organised
an erotic game
for the couple to participate in.
WHOOPING
I know what's going to happen and I
know that you're going to kiss other guys.
Yeah? And I know that you're cool
with it and I'm cool with it
and it's OK. It's fine.
The suspense is k*lling me. I know!
Oh, my God!
WQO!
Go back to your position.
I felt so out of my comfort zone.
Washing machine vibes! OK.
Seeing my girlfriend snog
other fellas for the first time,
it feels like...
Oh, there he is. There it goes.
It was quite stressful for me,
you know, it was all a bit too much.
Oh, damn!
Do I have any lipstick left
after that, or...?
Blindfold up.
How was that? Yeah, cool.
You did so good!
It was so weird but
it was good, it was fun.
It was very weird for me,
I won't lie.
It's fun. It's all right.
It's all right.
With Stacey seemingly relaxed,
hosts Thom and Jess step in to make
sure Liam is feeling the same way.
It's completely different to what
you actually fantasise about.
There's a lot going on.
Yeah. Yeah?
Take a breath.
For me it was more like a personal
thing between me and Stacey.
And now there's
a lot of people involved.
All of these people in this room,
they're not as important
as you and her.
Am I OK to go for a f*g?
Yeah. Can I come with you? Yeah.
Literally trying to process
the whole thing that just happened,
it was kind of a little bit hard.
It's quite a lot to take in.
I feel a little bit uncomfortable
now, mingling with everyone else
while he's not here,
knowing he feels uncomfortable.
So I'm kind of withdrawing.
Yeah, because you want
to be there for him,
you want to make sure everything's
OK, give him reassurance. 100%.
I'm not going ahead
with anything until...
Don't blame you. Don't blame you.
Cos at the end of the day,
this is about you two.
Was the intensity of that game,
were you feeling
the same thing throughout?
I kind of went numb, I guess.
I don't know, it's just like
all those eyes are on us and...
| didn't expect that.
One of the reasons why I know
that Jess is, like, f*cking hot
and incredibly amazing is
when I see her f*ck someone else
and they're like, "That's the best
experience I've ever had"
and I'm like, "| know,
I get that every f*cking day."
Yeah. I get that every day.
It makes you feel pretty special.
And then when
you come back in the morning
and you talk about it
as a couple and they're not there,
it cements the fact that
your relationship is much more
important than anything else.
At a luxury retreat nestled
in the English countryside,
an extraordinary experiment
is taking place.
Sexually curious men
and women are here to challenge
one of society's longest-standing
institutions — monogamy.
OK, you're interested in a guy
and you want to get his attention.
How do you do it?
OK, I'll just say like...
"Papi, que quieres hacer
esta noche?"
That was sexy. What does that mean?
"What would you like me
to do to you tonight?"
God, I don't really have
that nice sexy flair.
I'm just like,
"Are we f*cking or what?"
My mission for this experiment
is to illustrate that
we can open up our relationships
and be totally in love
with one person
and also have
multiple sexual partners
and add more joy to your life by
having these multiple relationships.
New arrivals Alex and Lydie
are here to see if it's possible
to open up their relationship
by having sex
with other people without creating
an intimate connection.
Hey. Hiya. Hiya. You all right?
So, what brought you here?
I've got a very high sex drive.
For me it's about seeing if we can
build our relationship,
and spice it up.
I'd say with our sex life, I mean,
we're both similar with this,
we could literally have two weeks
when we're on it, and then
we could have two weeks
where neither of us can be arsed.
I think taking part in
this experiment could
make us want each other more.
I would rather a physical
connection than an emotional one.
We're kind of focusing on
the sexual experimentation here,
rather than developing
separate romantic relationships.
Yeah. What's your jealousy like?
I'm quite openly jealous
but he's more not—show—it jealous
but I can tell he is
with certain things.
I'm quite a jealous person
in most situations.
Like, I'm fair,
but I just have a streak in me.
If he was like, flirting with
a girl, I wouldn't like it.
Even people who are seasoned in
open relationships can feel jealous
sometimes and it's one of
the things we look to deal with.
Yeah. I'd say I am
a bit insecure in some ways.
I don't do it on purpose,
it's a feeling that rises in me
and that's how I feel.
Like an instinct sort of thing.
Yeah, that's how I feel.
One reason people get jealous is
they're afraid they'll lose
their place in the relationship.
And with open relationships,
it's not an either/or.
That's monogamy. It's a yes/and.
Dr Lori is keen for the couple to
enjoy some time apart later tonight,
to tackle the issue
of jealousy head on.
So in order to help you explore
the idea of opening up,
I'm going to send you
on separate socials.
OK.
OK. I'm up for anything.
OK, what I'm going to ask you
to do now is to go away
and write some rules out
for opening your relationship.
You're going to look at
things like emotional rules,
physical rules,
and boundary setting.
OK.
OK.
In cases like this
where there's underlying jealousy,
it's important to establish rules
so that you're not panicking or
worrying about the other person.
Funnily enough,
the rules can be quite freeing,
but — and this is a huge but...
You have to stick to them.
OK, talk to me.
Oh! That's cute.
I know, I know, I know.
I think the reality
of opening up is scary.
Um...
I think to most people,
you'd think it's easy
but when you get there,
it's a whole different game.
I think nerves play
a part straight away.
Oh, I hate these pens.
I love these pens. Oh, no.
I like the ballpoint.
Right...
It's such
an out-of-comfort-zone thing.
I'm just going with the flow and
seeing what happens, to be honest.
I feel like I'm writing
in a new book at school.
My handwriting's so sh*t
and I can't even spell.
Last night, committed couple Liam
and Stacey were looking to meet
a man for Stacey to have sex with
while Liam watched
but things didn't go to plan.
No, but the whole point of it was
to give us a chance to do that
and see how we'd react,
to see if we like it or not.
Seeing his girlfriend Stacey
kiss other men
proved a step too far for Liam.
Did you like it? I had fun.
I'd never seen Stacey
with another guy.
It was quite stressful for me.
You know,
it was all a bit too much.
Yesterday I think
he was very uncomfortable,
he didn't quite know
how to handle it.
Are you feeling how I'm feeling?
Everyone's all right.
Sort of an ongoing battle in my head
whether I actually definitely
want to go through with this.
Stacey was meant to be having sex
with another man last night
while Liam watched, which was like,
bringing their entire fantasy
to life.
But something went wrong
during the kissing challenge
and I need to get to the bottom
of exactly what happened
to figure out
what derailed that fantasy.
Hi. Hiya, Dr Lori. You OK?
Yeah. You? Make yourselves comfy.
Tell me about the kissing challenge.
How was that for you, Stacey?
I wouldn't have done it if he would
have said no or hesitated at all
but he was straight up, like,
"Yeah, no, fine, whatever."
I mean, was it fun kissing
other people?
Oh, absolutely, yeah. Like...
Do you think if you were enjoying
the voyeur part,
the visual stimulation, but then
you were taking part with her,
do you think that
that changes the balance?
Maybe I've got a little bit more
control there cos it did feel like
control was being taken away.
OK, so that's part of it,
you felt out of control. Yeah.
When you see your girlfriend
being touched,
in my head, I think maybe
this is something I want,
but then obviously you see
it happen right in front of you,
it's like, whoa, that's quite a lot.
Non-monogamy is about sharing.
I can appreciate someone else
and still have
my relationship with you.
It was everything I wanted
but it wasn't exactly
how I envisioned it.
Nobody knows how they're going to
feel until you're in it.
No, and you're
just trying things out.
Fantasy in your head
is fantasy in your head.
Reality is reality.
Right? They're very different.
After thinking about it
and after letting it sink in,
perhaps we try and approach
this differently.
Like, if we got talking to
a couple on a night out,
the vibes were good and we ended up
in bed with each other...
OK. What's exciting about
the idea of having two people?
Being able to actually maybe
watch each other.
OK, now that's an interesting point.
People find this crazy
and stupid and weird.
There's a lot of stigma.
But doing what we want to do
with a couple first,
it's sort of like
dipping your toe in the water.
Watching with a partner
is even more fun. Yeah.
Cos you share the energy
and you share the experience.
So that's grand. It would just
be nice to be able to be
in a bit more of a relaxed
environment with a couple.
Yeah, and I maybe need to
let loose a little bit more.
OK, all right. Yeah.
So it's up to you guys
to find another couple.
The first step of anything
is going to be
you doing some more socialising
today. Yeah. Yeah, I can do that.
If all goes well, you can invite
them back and fulfil that fantasy.
Yeah? Happy days.
I think we're gonna do this.
At the beginning of this,
Liam's fantasy was watching Stacey
with another man.
Now he's moved to
the idea of a group experience.
I'm not sure that he's yet fully
comfortable talking about what
he really wants. But at this point,
it looks like
everyone gets involved.
You still tired?
I'm all right now.
Fresh air, it's done me good.
Yeah, same.
Last night I was feeling
a little bit out of my comfort zone.
Doing what we want to do with
a couple first...
I definitely feel like
we're going in the right direction.
How do you think
it's going to go later?
Looking forward to it.
I feel like Liam was feeling
very uncomfortable after last night
and I feel like
after talking to Dr Lori
he's a lot more relaxed than he was.
And I can only hope
it will stay the same way.
I'm happy for Lyd to be touched
in any place that's not intimate.
OK.
Alex and Lydie are writing
a set of ground rules
for opening up their relationship.
I can give them a high five.
But faced with the reality of
having to share her boyfriend,
Lydie is struggling.
I just don't think I expected to
feel the emotions I would feel.
I mean, it's just
all learning curves.
I've put...
I'm happy with my partner
kissing another person
in a challenge/game of some sort.
OK, what have you put?
Erm... You can flirt,
you can kiss in like,
games and stuff like that.
No emotional feelings,
that's one of my big ones
because if you can invest yourself
in someone emotionally then
we're not meant to be together.
OK.
Lydie's rules say that it's OK for
Alex to kiss another girl in a game
but he is not allowed
to form an emotional connection.
See, with me...
No, that's my rule,
we've had this conversation loads
and I'm not even negotiating on
that one. Yeah, but I did put...
I did put cuddling or
hugging another person
so what's the difference? Yeah, but
I wasn't happy with that either.
I don't think there'd be
an emotional connection
with somebody else.
I don't see a problem
because I trust myself in a way
but I don't think she trusts me.
Like, I don't want that
emotional connection with anyone.
We've had our rules. If he breaks
them, then it's a massive no.
This is the most out of
my comfort zone I've ever been.
Yeah. That's cute. I like it.
You look nice. Thank you.
Liam and Stacey are hoping to meet
a couple who they can have sex with
later tonight.
If we do manage to meet a couple
who happen to be on our sort of
wavelength, then happy days.
Hello, guys. Hello!
Nice to see you.
And we'll get to know them and
maybe bring them into the bedroom
and watch each other.
Might spruce things up a little bit.
You know. You never know.
Joining the party are
open couple jay and Kelsie.
The world of non-monogamy, I think,
is something everyone
should open themselves up to.
How you doing, boss?
Jay. Nice to meet you.
I am open to whatever comes my way.
Nice to meet you.
I'd say I'm very adventurous
when it comes to sexual experiences.
I'm open to pretty much anything,
to be fair.
To f*cking pussies!
Regards opening your relationship,
would you be open
to engaging with a man?
I don't think I'd be open
to engaging with a man.
There's many men that would
deny that of themselves
simply to fit in.
But when you break free
from the conditioning
and you open yourself up to the fact
that we are limitless beings,
you are able to do anything.
Being here right now, mingling with
other couples, I am pretty happy.
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