02x05 - The Way We Were

[bunniefuu]

I'm only a step away

Gotta keep on movin' ♪

I'm only a step away

Gotta keep improvin' ♪

I'm only a step away

Gotta keep on movin' ♪

Hey, I finished my workout downstairs.

-Nice. Jealous.

-Damn.

-My blood is pumping.

-Boy!

-Good morning.

-[Shlomo] What did you do?

I did some chest.

-Ohh! Uh

-You see some bouncing?

Is your name The Rock?

-I'm working on it.

-I can do that!

-Oh my gosh. You win, you win.

-[Miriam laughs]

-[Shlomo] Good.

-[Ra'ed sighs]

Should we see who's online?

[Shlomo] Under, uh, Grindr?

I mean, after a workout,

you need to see who's online.

-Share the pheromones?

-[Miriam] Is that the way it is?

-Your blood's pumping and everything.

-Yeah. I get it, I get it.

Five hundred feet away.

Probably in this building.

[Shlomo] Oh!

No, I'm joking.

Batsheva, I feel like she doesn't relate

with having an open relationship.

It really upset me, but at the same time,

I see Robert in my future.

So I just have to put my focus and energy

on our relationship

and not worry about other people.

I gotta focus and work.

Today's a workday for me.

[Shlomo] Any new news?

I'm booked for another interview

for another position at 4:00 p.m.

But that's round one. I'm a professional

interviewer at this point.

-[Shlomo] You should start a business.

-Literally, I'm amazing at interviews.

-I just don't land the position. [laughs]

-[Shlomo] Do it through Zoom.

[Ra'ed] Currently unemployed.

I am applying to about 20 jobs every day.

I feel like a robot.

[robotic voice] Résumé to résumé

to application to website.

[normal voice] It's a lot of work.

You and I need to open a business.

We'd be good business partners.

-We vibe well.

-Let's.

We should start a tequila company.

There are two bottles. We top and bottom.

[Shlomo laughs]

What if we sell the top of the bottle

as the top and advertise it as the top.

-We sell the bottom as the bottom

-They connect to each other?

What!

[Ra'ed] Oh, yeah.

Tequila's great.

[Shlomo laughs]

I'll make it till tomorrow ♪

Keep on moving ♪

You only live once, so ♪

-[Michelle] So nice to meet you.

-[Julia] Lovely to meet you.

You too. I'm so glad to meet you today.

Thank you for coming in.

Well, I was a bit nervous,

I have to tell you. [laughs]

I promise you,

this is gonna be a lot of fun.

It's not like going

to a dentist or anything.

Well, in my head the word "matchmaker,"

in the world I came from,

that was how you got married.

You didn't have many options.

When I think matchmaker,

I think religious, back in that old world.

shadchan, right?

shadchan.

-I am a modern-day matchmaker.

-Please, think of another word.

-[laughs]

-How about this? Headhunter.

-Yes.

-Recruiter.

-I love it.

I have used a matchmaker before.

I used a matchmaker in my old world.

Then I met Silvio through friends.

Now I'm 50.

I have no clue about,

like, the dating world.

I don't know apps.

I'm really counting on your help.

I don't think the apps I'm on are what

like, you're not going on Hinge.

Why not?

Because you're not gonna find your calib

These are people who I'm casually seeing.

You're not a casual-seer person.

You're like Shlomo. No offense.

[Julia sighs and groans]

Basically, I'm gonna do the next chapter

of my life like I've done everything.

Jump in feet first,

hope for the best, learn as I go.

So I wanna learn about your background.

Um, I grew up in a very

Orthodox extremist community.

-Monsey?

-Monsey.

-[Michelle] Okay.

-[Julia] And I did not escape

until I was 42 years old.

And I've been in this world

for all of nine years now.

-Not that long.

-No.

So I'm basically nine years old

and fifty at the same time.

I'm so confident at work.

I'm so confident about business.

I'm so confident about what I do.

People don't realize that

when it comes to the personal stuff,

I'm f*cking clueless

and really scared and nervous. [laughs]

I'm too new at it,

and I don't know what I'm doing.

-Let's talk about past relationships.

-Yeah. I don't really have any.

Well, how old were you

when you got married?

-Nineteen.

-Nineteen.

Like, but that's not a relationship.

Sex was, you know

-Mechanical.

-Mechanical.

tehillim

in your head while you had sex.

It was not a very sexy experience.

That didn't work for me very well.

-Not very sensual or sexual.

-No.

In the beginning, when I left,

it was just, like, I wanted to try sex.

I was just basically sleeping around.

And then I had one boyfriend,

and then I met Silvio, and that's it.

I've been single for one week of my life.

Yosef and I,

because of all the religious stuff,

we didn't officially get divorced

until a week before I married Silvio.

I'm at a massive disadvantage because

things people went through in their 20s,

learning about guys,

learning about relationships.

I didn't learn any of that.

I don't have those experiences.

Let's talk about who is your future.

Okay.

What lifts you?

What's gonna make your heart smile?

I would love someone strong

and so confident

that they don't feel threatened by me.

Brilliance isn't sufficient.

I need kindness.

-Absolutely.

-I need love. I would

For once in my life,

I would like to be nurtured.

-I would like to be taken care of.

-Julia, you deserve that.

And it has to be someone whose heart

is big enough to love my whole family.

Exactly.

We come as a package deal.

Either you love all of us

or you can't love any of us.

One of the questions

we'll be vetting is, how do they feel

being with someone more successful,

more well-known, more accomplished?

-Yeah.

-More driven.

-And who likes sex, please.

-And who likes sex! [laughs]

-I am f*cking horny. I gotta tell you.

-[laughs]

[pop music playing]

I won't be stopped

Ah, ah, ah, ah ♪

My life, my love

Ah, ah, ah, ah ♪

[Batsheva] Let's stop moving.

[Julia, laughing] Don't know what to do.

How about this?

[Batsheva] Ooh!

I asked Batsheva to get some more casual,

not such, you know, press photos,

but more casual, chill photos of me

for my matchmaker's dating profile.

I cannot wait to get out there

and start dating. I am very, very thirsty.

-I'll go through them and pick one you

-[Julia] We'll pick one you like.

And then I can send you, and we can edit.

Did you see the article on Page Six?

-No.

-[Julia laughs]

"Allegedly, Julia Haart Got Boob Job

Off of Illicit Company Funds."

-Oh, God.

-But I was thinking, like, let

Like, do we wanna respond?

And I was, like, no, of course not because

let the truth come out in court.

I had 17 hours' worth of documents

proving every word I'm saying is true.

My lawyer said they have not seen

such a strong case in 20 years.

Yeah.

So let him keep doing this.

When they go low, we go high.

-I wanna talk to you about something.

-Okay.

I've been wanting to talk

to Batsheva for quite a while

about her reaction to what happened to me.

Shlomo and Miriam, all hands on deck.

"How can we help?" So proactive.

Batsheva was, like, "Oh, do you need me?

I really wanna go on a date. Bye!"

I'll be back in a bit.

[Batsheva] Does anybody

need me here right now?

-Where's Batsheva?

-[Batsheva] I have a Fashion Week event.

[Batsheva] What's happening?

What did I miss?

This is going to become a police matter.

[Batsheva] Are you gonna get my knots out?

There were really dark days.

I was destroyed.

She wasn't emotionally present for me.

It really hurts.

This has been a very difficult

time period for me, you know?

-[Batsheva] Mm-hmm.

-And Miriam has been here

20 hours a day helping me.

Yeah.

I guess I just want us to be at that place

where you would feel,

"My mother needs me now. It's not time

for me to date, go out, or have fun."

"I'm gonna stay here,

hold her hand, and give her support."

Do you not feel like

I was sitting in the house enough?

I don't. I felt like you were, you know,

I don't wanna use the word "gallivanting,"

but gallivanting, you know? [laughs]

I literally moved out

the day before everything went down.

I didn't feel like coming back.

Miriam had moved into my room.

I guess I just feel like

it would be nice to have

to feel more supported by you

during this time.

Not so absent.

I'm giving my mom all of me.

We all have different strengths.

I was there for my mom

in the ways that I can be.

Helping her with her social media,

doing the sound bath,

trying to get her to relax

because that's what I can do for her.

I want our relationship

to get to the place where

we're back to being best friends.

We used to talk every day for hours.

No, I understand. You're always there

for me when I need you.

-But the way I approach our relationship

-Now I need you.

No, I understand that,

but I'm saying being a best friend.

I don't think I'm gonna be able to give

you that closeness you're looking for.

I had my therapy today, and she was, like,

"Looking back, you were so nervous

to move in with your mom,

that it was gonna be too much,

too much togetherness."

I said it was good

because my mom gave me space.

I'll always take care of you

in every way you need.

But what was happening to me was wrong.

-Yes, of course.

-And it was really, really tough.

It's about just being present.

-I think I just

-About caring so much

that everything else stops

when one of us is in trouble.

Because if you were in trouble, I would

stop everything I was doing to help you.

So I need to feel that from you too.

Support me, help me, sit here,

even if you're not doing anything,

just to be supportive.

You know, honestly,

I don't ever ask for help,

and I am a very strong person,

don't get me wrong.

But there are moments

in life where you feel that

you're fighting for your life,

and you expect that the people

that you have given your life to,

you have supported, helped,

paid for, done everything

in your power to make them happy,

that those people show up for you

when the sh*t hits the fan.

I really hoped that Batsheva

would be here for me

and say, "Ima, how can I help you?

What can I do?"

"How can I lessen your burden?"

And don't forget,

if I lose everything that I've worked for,

my children lose tremendously too.

I don't want more from you.

I wanna be more to you.

-You are everything

-Know what I mean?

I don't think I can go back

to that relationship that I had with you

when I was 18, and I don't think

it should be looked at negatively

It's sad. Wait till you're

a mother, my love. It's sad.

[Batsheva] I feel like I'm going around

in circles with my mom.

I'm really happy

with the way our relationship is.

And I feel like she thinks that

I just don't care, and it's the opposite.

I care for her a lot,

and I wanna be there for her.

But I'm giving her everything that I have.

I mean, don't get me wrong.

I'm very grateful to have a relationship.

I just miss deep talks

with my daughter, Batsheva.

Well

It's like, you don't miss what you've

never had, but I had that with you once.

I do miss it, you know?

I understand. I don't think that

that would be beneficial personally to me.

Once upon a time, we were best friends.

And I want that back.

[pop music playing]

-[Julia] Hey, you.

-[Robert] Hey! Look at you in green.

-You look so handsome.

-Mwah!

-It's been a few days. I missed you.

-[Julia] I have not spoken to you since

-[Robert] Connecticut, I know.

-Connecticut.

-You have fun?

-What you been up to?

-What are you doing? What's going on?

-Well

I got my letter from Elite

right before you walked in.

-Oh, the firing letter?

-Yeah.

I'm gonna send it to my attorney.

We'll go from there.

-I expected it.

-That's good.

You know what? In a way,

I'm, like, sad that I got the letter,

just because it really

puts the nail in the coffin.

"What's next?" is the feeling that I have.

-What're we gonna do next?

-Plan that together.

Yeah.

By the way, I got a video

of who took the art.

Oh my God!

The detective for major crimes

sent it to me.

It's crazy.

I can't believe this is where we're at.

Okay. Look at this.

Press play.

[Julia] Do you hear how quiet it is?

We're all sleeping.

-They filmed it? They filmed themselves?

-I think they filmed themselves.

Who is that, Robert?

You know who it is. It's Pierre.

[Robert] Bullshit!

Oh my God.

[Julia] It's for sure Pierre.

Pierre was our chef.

-Ah! Pierre!

-[Pierre] Good evening.

This man is literally the physical

embodiment of all good food.

Delicious and healthy.

[laughs]

I understand that Pierre's doing whatever

Silvio asks, but I'm disappointed.

I really cared about Pierre.

I thought he was my friend.

It feels like

It feels

It It hurts.

f*ck, I hate admitting that.

Uh

It hurts.

I can understand that he's Silvio's friend

first, and he's his best friend, but

he knows me.

It's so disappointing.

[Julia] But that's not enough.

Silvio tried to file

a police report to claim

that my car was stolen.

[Robert] An US Weekly article

just came out that says that

Julia it's bullshit, that Julia's

wanted by the police for the car.

[Julia] He's putting

all this stuff in the press,

which is so easily disproven.

There was never a police report filed,

and I was never wanted. Never.

I actually traded in my own car

that I had before I met Silvio.

I traded that in when I got my Bentley.

So I literally paid for the Bentley

that he is now blatantly

accusing me of stealing.

Can you even believe this sh*t?

I got to tell you, I had a really

deep conversation with Batsheva.

I kind of shared with her, she hasn't been

as around as the other kids have been.

There's no depth

in my relationship with her.

There's so much depth in my relationship

with Shlomo, with Miriam, even with Aron,

with him disagreeing

with everything about my life.

And she's like, "Why do you care?

We're in such a good place."

Yeah. We're in a good place,

like the Cold w*r.

Do you think it's related

to the past stuff?

-She felt abandoned a little.

-Not a little. She felt abandoned.

The reason that I worry that

Batsheva is still upset with me

is because until I left the community,

we were BFFs.

We were super close to each other,

and when I left,

she, you know I wasn't as present

for her as I had been her whole life.

You always told us that we

were your greatest joy in life and that

it was the best job you ever had.

So it was, like, confusing to me

to understand why you weren't able to be

there for me as a mom during that time.

I think she felt really betrayed.

And so, because that's

the only actual fight we've ever had,

I kind of think that our relationship now

may be based on that.

She just doesn't realize

that there's still hurt in her heart.

And I think until she acknowledges that

and we can find a way to work past that,

it's gonna stay

this surface-level relationship.

What would be a good first step

that you'd feel good about?

Um, maybe we can go

to a counselor together.

She loves therapy. She's very comfortable.

I know she has a therapist.

Maybe we can talk

through our problems with a therapist.

[Robert] Could be good.

May I just have another

vanilla latte with almond milk?

-[waiter] Sure. Ice?

-Ice, yes, thank you.

-[Julia] Iced?

-Yes. g*y people love iced drinks.

Yeah, everyone likes cold drinks,

but not in ten-degree weather.

-Oh no, it's a cultural phenomenon.

-I'm googling it.

-I can't even know how. I'll ask Ra'ed.

-Do g*y people like cold drinks

-in cold weather? [laughs]

-That's ridiculous. [laughs]

[pop music playing]

-[plucking guitar]

-[Aron] Ow!

[continues plucking]

-[Miriam] Have you been practicing tuning?

-I tuned it once, actually.

-[Miriam] Nice.

-I was gonna practice, but meh.

-[Aron laughs]

-Have you done your homework?

No ♪

-Do you know what chord you're playing?

-[Aron] Yeah.

-What?

-E.

-No.

-B?

-No.

-H?

-No. [laughs]

-[laughing] A.

No.

[Miriam laughs]

Ay, ay, ay.

My mom's definitely worried that Aron

is being a little distant from everybody.

Because the more religious you are,

inherently the more separated

the rules make you.

So my plan moving forward

with Aron is to play guitar with him,

so we can just hang out because

we haven't done that in such a long time.

[Miriam] Here.

The note on the E or first string.

So you have four beats.

-[plucking]

-One, two, three, four.

Bop your head. Bop it. Get into it.

Come on, we're playing guitar, bro.

-One, two, three, four.

-Yeah!

-One, two, three, four.

-Hey, hey, hey!

-One, two, three, four.

-Hey, hey!

-One

-Yeah!

[Aron laughs]

So, how's your yeshiva hunt going?

Did you decide

if you want to go to yeshiva or not?

Um, yeah.

-What's your decision?

-Yeah. [laughs]

You're going?

Yes.

-You're set. You decided you wanna do it.

-Yeah, I think I wanna do it.

Do you enjoy your secular education

at the school you go to now?

Well, again, I don't need it.

I mean, why do I need it?

-I think it's important

-It's important, why?

-To understand the world and people.

-I'll understand the world and people.

I didn't wanna go to college.

-Did I ever tell you that?

-No.

But the reason

I went to Stanford in the first place

was because Ima guided me to go

to university, though I didn't want to.

And I'm very happy

with that decision of hers.

But it is good for you to know that

that decision of college for me

wasn't fully my own.

I really agree.

For you, I think it was a great choice.

But as we've seen,

we're all very different people.

And we also don't make choices

based off of each other.

Yeah, but I think sometimes

it's good to listen to your mom.

Ima very much convinced Shlomo to go

to college even though he didn't want to.

Ima convinced me to go to college

even though I didn't want to.

I'm happy I made the decision,

and Shlomo's happy he made that decision.

For me, it doesn't make sense because

what am I gonna gain from college?

I wanna be a Rabbi. This is what my dream

was ever since I was a little kid.

It'd make much more sense

for me to go to a yeshiva

than to go to college.

Right now I have a dream, and every day,

I'm fulfilling that dream a bit more,

so we should all be accepting.

If we want respect from others,

we have to show respect.

I'm sorry you feel that way.

That's not very nice.

-What?

-You don't feel as respected.

I don't think anyone's disrespecting.

I just think it's acceptance from Ima.

I don't feel like I need acceptance,

like you need to accept me.

I shouldn't be restricted from yeshiva.

-What's the rush?

-Why should I waste my time?

It's not wasting your time.

-It's time to explore.

-I don't need time to explore.

I've had time. I'm not looking for more.

You are very young, and I think it's okay

to pause before you make a decision

that will determine the rest of your life.

I think it's a healthy, smart move.

I had to think about it yesterday.

I am just 15.

That's definitely a thing,

definitely a factor, but I don't think I'm

on the maturity level

of the average 15-year-old.

That's a fact. We can pretend

it's not the fact, but it is.

All right.

[upbeat music playing]

-[Julia] Hey.

-[Yosef] How're you doing?

[inaudible]

[both laugh]

Oh

Thanks for coming out.

-I really appreciate it.

-Of course.

[Julia] I'm meeting Yosef for dinner

because we wanna talk about

what's been going on with Aron.

We talked a lot about him

going to a yeshiva,

but I feel like the way that Aron

has been talking to me,

it's not very kind, and I don't like that.

I don't think it's respectful.

What do you think

about the whole Aron situation?

payes?

-It's whatever.

-He wants to go to Philly yeshiva.

Do you think this is a rebellion

against Ima?

A 16-year-old rebellion?

No. Right now

he wants to discover his heritage.

He really gets a pleasure out of learning.

And he gets a great pleasure out of,

you know, teaching.

-[waiter] Sliders here.

-Ooh!

Ohh la la.

[Julia] I think that's beautiful.

I love that. I wanna support him.

What worries me is the other stuff.

He was always saying,

"I wanna go to Harvard."

Now he's, like, "No, I don't wanna

go to that kind of college."

"I'll do college but really yeshiva

where I don't actually have to walk in."

It's that whole isolationist cuckooness

that scares me.

Have you had a conversation with him?

-Yeah.

-You did?

Yeah, but I see the positive

in everything he's doing.

I see he sees the positive

in everything he's doing.

But do we think he can do that

and still go to college?

-Why should the two be exclusive?

-They're not mutually exclusive.

-I don't think they have to be exclusive.

-No.

-He wants to leave school.

-No, he doesn't wanna leave school.

Yes, he does.

I think it's rebellion. I feel like

there has been a massive shift.

The way he behaved was extremely painful.

Yosef and I are basically on the same page

in terms of the fact that, look,

I don't have any problem

with Aron being religious

as long as we are respectful

of one another.

I'm the tough one in the relationship

when it comes to parenting.

Yosef was always a sweetie.

I was the one who set the rules and said,

"You have to go to bed, do your homework."

And here I am back again saying,

"No, education comes first."

I'm asking you just maybe

to have a conversation with him.

I definitely will have

a conversation with him.

-In a loving, most loving way.

-Right.

I do think what he needs to learn,

because that's part of being

an inspirational person

that he wants to be,

is to think about

the other person's feelings.

That if what you're doing

is gonna hurt them, you know

Showing honor and value

to other people. Brios.

Not Jews, anyone.

You know, it's That's a big rule.

I love that.

-Okay. So we have

-That's true Torah.

-That's true Torah.

-That's true Torah.

I really appreciate you.

-You have no idea.

-I have your back.

I know, and I see that.

You are a true-blue friend.

[upbeat music playing]

-[Miriam] Excited to do some Pilates.

-[Britni] Ready?

Let's do it.

[Britni] Go ahead, lay all the way down

and then exhale. Push it all the way up.

-And inhale

-It's heavy.

-[Britni] Come all the way back.

-[laughs]

-And up, yep, and down.

-[Miriam] My butt.

[Britni] Three, two, and one.

Bring that right foot down.

-Ooh!

-[Nathalie] Ah!

-Oh my God.

-[Miriam] Doesn't it feel so good?

-How much longer?

-Heaven. This feels like heaven to me.

[Britni] All the way back in. Good work.

That's the series,

if you guys work on that.

-[Miriam] Perfect. Thank you.

-[Batsheva] That's great.

So do you feel like Ima, you know,

like, we went to Connecticut.

Like, did she come back

feeling refreshed at all?

[Nathalie] The time I was there,

I feel like she was still working

all the time. Like, she was on a call.

I think it was good she got out

of the house, and I think that was good.

-Just a change of scenery?

-A change of scenery, yeah.

You know?

[sighs] So I had, like,

a really intense conversation with Ima.

She was like,

"I wish that we were closer."

Like, "We used to be best friends."

-I'm, like, that was when I was 18.

-[Nathalie] Yeah.

I'm turning 29.

-I'm in a different headspace.

-Why would it go bad if you get closer?

She has a different relationship with you.

You're at a different stage in life.

Like, I don't know any of my friends

who can spend

hours on end with their family.

Like, it's a lot for me.

I'm the kind of person, if somebody needs

me, I'm gonna be there. No matter what.

She is one of my best friends.

I love her. I want to help her

because she's helped me so much.

-[Miriam] Did you sleep at all last night?

-An hour.

-Oh, no!

-It was my fourth day in a row. It's bad.

I canceled all my weekend plans,

and I'm all ears.

[Julia] I love you,

you're the literal bestest.

I feel in debt to my mom

because she gave me you, you know?

That sounds weird.

But I wouldn't be able to be with a girl

without my mom

taking me out of my religious community.

Wrapping my head

around the idea that I can literally

be married to a man and have children

right now, if not for her,

is a crazy thought.

Yeah.

I feel like any adult can only handle

spending so much time with their family.

I love her. I love spending time with her.

I think we have a great relationship.

It's just not as intense

as Miriam's relationship.

Right.

[pop music playing]

[Julia] We win this battle part

of the lawsuit,

it's done and dusted

in six to eight weeks.

If we don't,

it may take me two years to win.

-[laptop chimes]

-Mm-hmm.

I'm not gonna sit on my a*s

and twiddle my thumbs until I win.

In the meanwhile,

let's f*cking build something of value.

In EWG, all we were focusing on

was the avatars themselves.

We did nothing about the metaverse.

Let's focus on the tech.

-[Miriam] Mm-hmm.

-Let's create a company together.

Let's build the first ever

interoperable metaverse

that is like a giant global mall.

It's a transactional environment.

So people come into this space,

and they can shop, they can

-They can shop, create.

-[Robert] View, they can look.

They can look. I'm gonna give you

both shares of the company,

and Robert Z will be

the founding four members.

[Miriam] Yay!

Of course, we have been counting on you

to figure out the tech,

to find out what kind of people we need.

-New business, what's the LLC called?

-We came up with a great name.

-Haart Sphere.

-[Robert] Haart Sphere?

-[Julia] Haart Sphere.

-Okay.

-Isn't that great?

-Very cool. Yeah.

It's not just me.

It's Miriam Haart and Julia Haart.

-Robert, you're an honorary Haart.

-Obviously.

-So we need haartsphere.com, .org, .net.

-Have you done that?

-[Miriam] I haven't bought anything.

-[Julia and Robert] Buy it immediately.

Okay.

[Julia] To me, I've been fighting

for freedom for so long,

I'm just gonna keep fighting.

I'm going to get what is owed to me back.

But I wanna plan for the future,

and that's where Haart Sphere comes in.

To get to do this

with people I trust and love

and to build something

on my own that no man can steal,

that's really exciting for me.

I just bought haartsphere.com.

-Buy all the dots.

-Okay.

[upbeat music playing]

-Is this the place?

-I believe so.

-[Shlomo] Haven.

-[Robert] Haven Spa.

[Shlomo] Uh, I'm here for a waxing.

-[woman] Your first name?

-Shlomo.

Brazilian, right?

-Mm-hmm.

-Good.

Ra'ed filled me in

on Miriam's birthday party,

and Miriam and Natalie's friend,

and how Ra'ed was, like, the wingman

that brought them together

and made sure they smooched.

-And then the kiss comes in.

-[Nathalie] Whoa!

Oh, okay.

Cutie Shlomo has, like, an upcoming date.

And I think we have some work to do

just to make sure

we're properly groomed for the occasion.

Have you had wax before?

Not like this.

-This is your patient.

-Oh my God. Are you my first victim?

-So you're still a virgin, are you?

-Yes. [chuckles]

In more ways than one, dear.

In more ways than one.

Perfect.

[waxer] It's a little bit unpleasant,

but you will survive.

[Shlomo] Great.

[waxer] There you go.

Oh, this is gonna hurt.

This is gonna hurt a lot, okay?

What do I think about?

Think about having sex with a girl.

There we go.

From Ra'ed and you,

this girl liked you at the party.

You haven't closed the deal.

How d'you close the deal?

[Shlomo] There's definitely

a confidence thing,

performance-related, you know?

[Robert] Whoa, what do you mean by that?

Performance-related.

Like, you were scared you

Like, most people at 26

have had multiple partners.

So, they're kinda, like,

on a different pedestal.

-[Robert] Women?

-[Shlomo] Women, yeah.

I'm relatively confident

she's not the Princess of Denmark.

I'm relatively confident

she's a 26-year-old girl who wouldn't mind

getting in your pants.

You'd like to get in her pants.

-But you have to make the move.

-I know.

If I could encapsulate Shlomo's,

like, issue with women,

it's that he has almost

too much respect for them.

A girl wants to be treated well.

A pedestal is great, but make it too high,

and you'll never reach.

Okay, if there is a next definable step

The next definable step

is to go on another date with Marianna.

[Robert] And that date ends how?

I guess see how the date goes but home.

Hopefully going well.

And then make the magic happen.

[Shlomo laughs]

I'm seeing some issues in this plan.

First off, we need to address your game.

You really should let

the spirit of Ra'ed take you over.

-[Shlomo] Yes.

-Are you the type that, like,

"I'd like to kiss you. May I kiss you?"

-Or something like that? Or

-I have asked permission.

[Robert] And?

-Did they acquiesce to the request?

-I've never been shut down for a kiss.

-Okay.

-But

So kissing is the start. Kissing is

the gateway drug to heavy petting. Okay?

-Heavy petting, really?

-Heavy petting.

Ra'ed has a lot of back hair. We have

to take care of that every now and then.

Should I do a strip or two?

-You have to rip it quick.

-Yes, I'm gonna go quick. Like lightning.

-[Shlomo laughs]

-Do it, baby.

[Robert] Okay.

[waxer] That was slow.

-Look at all that I got.

-[Shlomo] Slow.

-I got some.

-[waxer] You felt it, right?

-I felt that. That was like a pull.

-[Robert] Okay, maybe I need to redo it.

-[waxer] Okay.

-Good. Great. Thanks.

-You ready for me?

-[Shlomo] No.

-[waxer] Go.

-[Robert] All right.

-Oh

-Did you get it?

-You fired.

-Oh. [laughs]

-sh*t. Twice in one week?

-[Robert] Twice in one week.

-That hurts.

-[Shlomo] Sorry.

[all laugh]

[pop music playing]

[Robert] Knock, knock.

-Hey!

-Hello!

-[Robert, in singsong] Happy birthday.

-Thank you.

[Ra'ed and Robert, in singsong]

Happy birthday!

-Hello!

-Hello.

-[Robert] Oh my God, 31 years old.

-Shut the f*ck up.

[laughing]

-Happy birthday.

-[Batsheva] Thank you.

Tonight is my 29th birthday dinner.

This is a really big, nice,

intimate celebration with my family.

I was really nervous about celebrating

my birthday on my own,

so I'm thankful that I have my friends

and family around me today.

Oh, yes, David, please alcohol

-Urgently get this woman a glass of wine.

-[Julia] Urgently.

Guys, I'm so excited. I have not had

Aliza back here in such a long time.

-[Miriam] Aliza's coming?

-Aliza's coming.

-Amazing.

-[Robert] Who's Aliza?

Yosef's wife.

-Is your dad coming tonight?

-Yeah. Where have you been?

Oh, okay!

It's a family dinner.

[Julia] It's a family birthday

kosher dinner.

-[Robert] Oh my gosh.

-[Julia] Yeah!

-You having fun?

-Obviously. I'm a little tipsy, so.

I'm about to ruin this dinner. [laughs]

I love that. Please be tipsy.

-Sit next to me so we can fight a little.

-I can handle it.

[laughing]

Guys, Aron is coming, no talking now

about, like, stuff, his stuff.

-What do you mean?

-He's become

-[Batsheva] Very ultra.

-Very ultra.

It felt like he was not happy

to be with us in Connecticut.

-He wasn't happy.

-It was uncomfortable.

He came in his black hat, and he stayed

in his Shabbos jacket the whole time.

Tonight, it's just about family.

-[Yosef] Hey!

-[Miriam] They're here.

[all] Yay!

[Julia] Look at that.

-Aliza!

-How are you?

[Julia] Aww!

Batsheva wanted to sit

next to you on her birthday.

[Robert] Should we all say

nice things about Batsheva?

-My God, I love that.

-Abba, I'm sure you have something to say.

Batsheva has taught me a lot.

That shows how special she is.

I remember, we were traveling to Atlanta,

and she taught me how to be out there.

We were on an airplane,

and she turned around and screamed out,

"I'm Jewish! Is anyone here Jewish?"

-[Julia] I remember that.

-[laughing]

[Yosef] It was a really classic moment.

It was with confidence, and it was pure.

I'm very thankful

to have wonderful parents

who raised me with a lot of confidence.

So cheers to both of you.

[all] Cheers.

[Julia] That was beautiful.

Aron, it's your turn, baby.

When Ima was starting her fashion empire,

Batsheva took the role as the mother.

So I remember Batsheva

chasing me to take a shower.

[laughs]

-[Aron] Sometimes.

-I paid her to be my nanny for you.

So you could have a home-cooked meal,

and someone would be home

to do homework with you when you came home

from school because I was busy building

-towards our future.

-[Aron] Mm-hmm.

And Batsheva, I know

she did an amazing job with that.

-Thanks for that.

-Of course.

I love you.

You'll always be my little bro.

When I left my community, I did it alone.

I didn't want to burden my children.

They were too young, and I didn't want

them to know how close I had come

to committing suicide.

I thought that that was a burden

they should not have to bear.

It wasn't about being miserable

being your mom.

It was about being miserable

not being myself.

And at a certain point,

it was literally life or death.

If I hadn't gone the day that I did,

I would have k*lled myself.

It worries me tremendously

that Batsheva still resents it.

I'm raising my glass.

[voice breaking]

I'm so lucky to be your mother.

I love you so much.

[Batsheva] Aw.

-I don't know why I'm so emotional.

-Cry.

I'm really not a crier.

I don't know what's wrong with me.

I just want every dream

of yours to come true.

And I just want you to be happy, fulfilled

and that your life is far beyond

anything you can dream of.

-Ima!

-[Miriam chuckles]

-Oh wow. I get a hug.

-Of course you get a hug.

I love you.

I love you so.

I don't want you to cry though.

I love you so much.

[Julia] Batsheva, we are eating

in the living room for your birthday cake.

Thank you everybody for coming

and celebrating with me tonight

and for all the really nice

toasts and cheers.

-I don't remember whose idea it was

-[Robert] Mine.

-Rob.

-[Robert] Yes.

See? The person who says

they're the coldest is the kindest.

-Oh, God.

-[all] Aww.

[Batsheva] I'm thankful

for my friends and family.

[Julia] Come follow me for a second.

Like, based on our conversation

in the library

and don't feel like you have to do this,

but it's something that I'd love to do.

I know you have a therapist

that you really trust.

Do you think we could go together to your

therapist and talk about our relationship?

Sure.

[Julia] Yay.

-I love you so much.

-I love you. You're really intoxicated.

-[Julia] I know.

-So I would go to bed now.

-I'm gonna bring you to bed.

-Thanks. I love you. [laughs]

-You're so special.

-I love you. Thank you for tonight.

Do it ♪

I gotta do it my way ♪

Do it ♪

No one can tell me two ways ♪

Do it ♪

Can you keep up with the bass ♪

Do it ♪

I gotta do it my way ♪

Are you a little nervous, Shlomo?

No sweat?

-[Miriam] He's been working out.

-[Nathalie] You're good.

[Shlomo] Marianna is here.

[Miriam] Oh, here she is!

Look at that cutie.

[Shlomo] Hi, how are you?

I think a double date's a great idea

because it'd be a great way for Shlomo

to ease into the things that are starting

to build up with Marianna.

I hope he still makes it a little flirty.

-We can contribute to the flirting.

-No

If you need help in your relationship,

just go with us on a double date.

1-800-ask-the-bisexuals.

[chuckles]

-Should we start?

-Yeah.

Yeah, come on, Mir.

-[Nathalie] Here we go.

-Prepare to lose.

Okay, baby. Show me what you got.

-[Miriam grunts]

-[Nathalie] Woo!

[Shlomo] Okay!

[Nathalie] Whoa!

[Nathalie] Oh, it's good!

[cheering]

-[all] Oh!

-Let's go! [laughs]

-[Nathalie] You told me that you were bad.

-I am.

-[Nathalie] Okay.

-Beginner's luck.

I mean, how am I gonna go

right after that?

-[Nathalie] Go girl.

-I was very lucky.

[Marianna] Oh!

[laughing]

[Miriam] So bad.

-I think I said I was good at this.

-That was so bad.

-What?

-[Shlomo] Hey.

[Nathalie] What?

Shlomo's, like,

"Don't talk to my girl like that."

[Nathalie and Marianna] Oh!

-Looking sexy, babe!

-[Miriam grunts]

-Look at this couple. They're so cute.

-They are very cute.

-It's always number two.

-I gotta compliment you.

Almost a year now.

-Crazy.

-It is crazy.

[indistinct chatter]

So crazy.

I don't know if I'm seeing

this going anywhere.

I don't know either.

I feel like she is getting to his level

and giving as much as he's giving.

Need to have a talk with him

about his flirty game.

-But we have talked with him.

-That's true. It's not come through.

Yeah.

[pop music playing]

[sighs]

I've never actually met her in person.

I always do Zoom sessions.

-That's funny.

-Mm-hmm.

-Hi!

-[Batsheva] Hello.

-Come on in.

-Nice to see you in person.

[Nicole] Nice to see you too, I know.

[Julia] I'm really glad that Batsheva

said yes to go with me to therapy.

I'm not sure she's forgiven me,

and I need to find that out.

I need her to figure it out.

Maybe she's still angry with me,

and she doesn't even realize it.

Who wants to kinda give a brief overview?

When I left the community, she felt a lot

of abandonment which I totally understand.

She didn't have me

like she had me her whole life.

We would speak 800 times a day.

We had this, like,

really special connection.

I just miss the closeness.

I always feel that our interactions

are a little

-[Nicole] Surface?

-Surface. Yeah.

Like, we talk all the time.

We spend time all the time but, like

-It doesn't feel as meaningful? Connected?

-It doesn't feel as deep and connected.

I miss that.

I think that there's

still some residual trauma

left over

from when I left.

No, I dealt with all that,

like, years ago.

It's not I don't feel any, like,

abandonment from you anymore.

I really don't. Like, I definitely felt it

back then, but I went to therapy.

I'm not harboring any, like, resentment.

That's really not what I feel.

If it's not and I'm wrong,

then I remove everything I'm saying.

I'm just saying if there is,

I want to know how to fix it.

-[Nicole] Sure.

-That's all. I'm always gonna be thinking

about your best interest, about your

financial security, about making sure

And as your daughter, you have to

understand it's not an issue for me.

I'm happy to be open with you, but I feel

like if I'm putting something out there,

you share it with people

because you think it's not a big deal.

-What are you talking about?

-The squirting thing.

That was not for you

to share with the table.

-That made me uncomfortable.

-I'm so sorry.

When I'm talking to my mom, you should

know you can talk about your sex life.

-You shouldn't talk about my sex life.

-But you need to tell me.

I feel like

we've already had this discussion.

I don't want my personal sex life shared.

And yes, I'm in a different place

than when she was writing the book

and put in my sexual experiences with Ben.

[Ben] "After they got married,

Ben came to me with another issue."

He said, "Can you help us?

We can't figure out how to do it."

-"We tried last night, nothing happened."

-Oh my God.

-[Ben] When we got married

-Me and Ben, personally

and our own sexual experience

I don't think is anybody else's business.

But you understand why I have to

why I wrote it?

I don't wanna hear the explicit details

of my sexual experiences.

And I'm very open now,

but open doesn't mean public.

Some things are meant to be kept private,

and a line needs to be drawn.

Honestly, I think it's so beautiful

to be open about sexuality.

But that's you.

I sometimes forget that not everyone

is so open about it, and I apologize.

But I asked you, would you be okay to talk

about how impressed with the fact that

you're sleeping with one guy here.

I didn't realize that

that and the squirting thing

were in different

levels with you.

-[Batsheva] My privacy.

-You say, "I slept with people."

In my head, it's all the same thing,

so I didn't realize that that

and the squirting thing were different.

But you don't wanna say, "I squirted."

Please continue saying it.

I love hearing it. It's lovely. Thank you.

So these examples are really great,

but I wanna really focus more

on the difference in how you are

each valuing the relationship.

It sounds like, Mom, there's a closeness

that you're missing, that is lacking.

-[Julia] Exactly.

-Right, a deeper connection.

If it's something I've done

or a wall that she's built.

When she came and stayed in the house,

every time I would come in and say,

"How are you feeling? Are you okay?"

She just didn't want to engage.

I wanted to hold her, do you know

what I mean? I wanted to comfort her.

-But that's not what I needed.

-What do you need?

I just was What she gave me,

which was space and a loving place

and support and that to me was amazing,

and I was so thankful for that.

I feel like I do give you closeness.

It's just I don't have, like, a daily

-or constant, a weekly, emotional thing.

-Yeah, that's probably what it is.

That's not my personality.

-That could very well be.

-Ask my friends. I'm not like that.

You say yourself,

you're very introspective.

You work through a lot

of things yourself. I'm similar to you.

-So I don't need to talk.

-That's a good point.

You say this all the time.

I don't need to, like,

talk them through with people

and when I do, I have come to you,

and they're not often,

and they're not all the time.

But, like, if I needed someone

in those hardest times or I was, like,

"What do I do?" Like, you're

the person that I would call. So

She does come to me a lot

and asks for advice.

I kind of wanted her to come tell me

how she's feeling emotionally inside.

When I understood that she's not telling

those things to anyone, it's not me.

It's who she is.

And she's my daughter, so that makes

perfect sense that's who she is.

This huge, massive weight

lifted off my heart,

that I have been carrying with me since

the year I left the community, this guilt.

It's really helped me a lot.

I feel so much better.

Thank you for explaining it to me.

[Batsheva] I'm happy you did it.

-I am so grateful for our relationship.

-Me too!

[Julia chuckles]

-[Julia] 'Cause we're amazing together.

-Yeah.

[narrator]

.

[Robert] Let's go, y'all! Woo doggy!

Yes! I'm so happy

to be back in Texas, honey.

-What do y'all think of Ra'ed? Not sure.

-No.

I love Robert Brotherton.

I have to ask you a question.

[Christine Chiu] Cheers.

-To not needing men.

-To take them for pleasure.

[Julia] How old are you?

-Twenty-three.

-[laughs]

We're gonna build our own technology.

The Haart Sphere is the world's

greatest democratization of creativity.

I'm CEO. You're CTO.

Unbelievable, the two and a half years

you've been through.

Until I win this thing and clear my name,

there's that lump in my chest.

This ring makes me nauseous now.

My sense of value,

up to three million dollars.

You're not letting me do what I want?

You are going to get an education,

whether it f*cking kills me.

[tense music playing]

Silvio filed some emergency order

in divorce court.

He wants to move back in. He's unhinged.

-I'm doing as much as I can, Julia.

-You have just done the bare minimum.

-That's bullshit. When you asked me to do

-Bullshit?

things I could do, I did it.

When you get attacked,

I am a f*cking lion.

Oh, it's time to be

Everything I'm supposed to be ♪

I'm cutting chains

And I'm moving forward ♪

Oh, it's time to move on, move on

Yeah ♪

Oh, no

I know it's time to move forward ♪

I'm not generic

You know I'm a champion ♪

My life is copactic

You know that I'm excellent ♪

You know that I'm excellent ♪

You know that I'm excellent ♪

Oh, this is my time, my time, oh ♪

Oh, this is my time, yeah ♪

Oh, this is my time, my time, oh ♪