02x07 - The Open Road

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previously on
"welcome to plathville"...

I know you like tattoos,
tattoos are not my thing,

I don't like them at all.

You didn't
really care what I thought

I don't know if I'm gonna want
more tattoos in my life,

And I don't know
where I'm gonna want them.

And like, I can't tell you
that right now.

Sometimes I wish that

Maybe she would consider
my feelings more.

This is supposed to be
a fun thing.

♪♪♪♪

Do you have
any, like, friends

Or more than friends
or --

There's someone

That I would like you
to tell me how they're doing,

Because I'm not really
in their lives right now.

My mystery man, I've known him
for several years.

I don't really want
to get into anything

Without mom
and daddy knowing.

Hey, what's up, bro?

I'm planning a trip
out to california

To sh**t a bunch of photo
and video work for my rebrand.

Can I come
with you to california?

I've never been.

He's asking to go
on an adventure

And he wants to see
something new

And I never
want to shut that down.

I could meet you in l.a. Maybe.
Uh-huh.

We're gonna have so much fun.

Oh, yeah.

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♪♪♪♪

Be kind of fun to catch up.
Yeah.

I'm kind of hungry.
I can't wait.

Micah: today, moriah
and I are having a picnic

With ethan and olivia,
and right in between our houses,

There's, like,
this little park area.

-Hey, guys.
-Hey.

-Hey.
-Hey.

We haven't seen ethan and olivia
a whole lot,

Mainly because
life gets busy.

It's so stupid
to say that,

And they live two blocks away,
three blocks away.

We have crackers,

Your redneck
charcuterie board.

[ Laughs ]
what's a charcuterie board?

What?
What's a charcuterie board?

It's obviously this.

This is a redneck
charcuterie board.

A normal charcuterie board,

It's where you put, like,
crackers, olives, cheese, dates,

All those kind of like
snack things that go together,

Maybe a couple dips.
Educating us again.

Ethan: micah and moriah
are the only two siblings

That we can hang out with,

So we try and meet with them
when we can.

Life is really busy,
but --

Yeah, we've kind of all
gone our separate ways

Trying to find our paths
to healing and growth.

Hey, have you guys seen
our matching tattoo?

Those are so cute.

Wow, I never thought
that in my entire life

I'd ever see a tattoo
on ethan's body.

Me, either.

It looks good, though.

Well, olivia wanted
to get a tattoo.

I was not on-board.
I didn't like the idea of it.

And then we started looking
at, like, couple's tattoos,

And I found one that I liked,

Which was this this exact, like,
font and style and everything.

And it was the "k" and the "q,"
for king and queen with a heart.

And I like that.

I'm super shocked to see ethan
with a tattoo.

He's always been against it.

But I really do think
ethan's changing a little bit.

We're not the little kids
we used to be.

We're growing up
and making decisions on our own

And figuring out
what we want to do.

So, I'm honestly proud of him
for getting a tattoo.

Do you guys have any videos
of, like, when moriah little?

I remember, like, us
making videos,

Like, funny videos growing up.

I know. I got them all off
your memory cards.

I want to see them.
I have them on my phone.

I haven't watched them
in so long.

Hold on.
I have a really good one.

No.

-What's that?
-No.

This party's over.
I'm going home.

Hold on.

Ethan:
i think I had a bad dream.

i'm in my dream.

♪♪♪♪

i'm back.

[ grunts shrilly ]

Oh, my god.
[ Laughter ]

Isn't that, like,
cassia's underwear?

So this is what you guys did
instead of school all day.

Yeah...

Watching these little videos
that we made growing up

Kind of makes me think
about the fact

That I can't see my siblings.

I am missing, you know,
a large chunk

Of some of their lives.

yeah.
Yeah, ready?

alright, let's see.

[ Laughter ]

[ Laughter ]

When you're growing up together,

You don't ever think
that there'll be a point

Where you're not going to see
them at least once a week.

[ indistinct conversations
on tv ]

Aww, lydia's
so cute there.

She's like cassia.

Aww.

Man:
who here knows what this means?

Ethan:
it really does anger me

That my parents do use
my siblings as collateral

Or as a means to get someone
to do something that they want.

I really, really wish
that I could tell them

Exactly how I feel
and, you know,

At least ask them to maybe think
about the decisions

That they've been making
over the past 20 years,

How that may impact other
people, not just themselves.

-Everyone, come and sit down.
-Be serious.

Aww.

Ethan has a growing frustration
over the fact that his siblings

Were the only friends he was
allowed to have growing up,

And now he's not allowed to see
or talk to them anymore.

So it's a good thing
we're going to california

In a couple of days.

Who wants to play?
Me.

Ethan and I haven't taken
a trip together in a long time.

And I think a chance
to get away from cairo

And make some new memories
would be really good for him

Start running.

♪♪♪♪

[ Laughter ]

♪♪♪♪

♪♪♪♪

Lydia:
mommy, are you busy?

Kim:
no, I'll be right there.

I have something to talk
to my mom about today.

I'm a little nervous,

But I think it's time
I let my mom know where I stand.

Just sit down wherever.
I like sitting on the floor,

But whatever
you find comfortable.

So...

Well, several years ago,

I, um --

I started to get a crush
on a boy.

Okay.

Lydia starts talking
about a boy,

And I'm just thinking,

[Sighs]

She's only 16.

But for a while,
I was like --

I don't know
how to describe it.

I was just, like,
really...

Anxious, and I was like,

You know,
I just can't go on like this.

♪♪♪♪

There was someone
who, last I heard,

Was interested in me.

He kept coming to me
asking how you were.

So, like,
everyone once in a while,

He would just text me and say,
like, "how's lydia doing?"

Like, he is very sweet,
and he really cares about you.

I've prayed about him
for a week or so by now,

And I've found
no peace whatsoever.

There were specific things
that I asked god

To either show me or do.

And if -- you know,
if that came true,

Then it meant
he wasn't the one for me.

And I don't believe
it's his will, and --

Okay.
Yeah, so --

I mean, you think
there's somebody else?

Well, down the road.

[ Both laugh ]

I know it's fun to think about
and all of that, you know,

But, you know,
you're still young.

Oh, yeah.
Yeah, definitely.

I think it's best
for me to just step back

And wait for the right guy
to come along.

Well, you're definitely
a very special young lady,

And god has a very special
young man out there for you.

Well, thank you.

Me and my mom have
a really good relationship.

So that right there makes it
easier for me to talk to her

About whatever is on my heart.

I couldn't imagine life with
a mom that I couldn't talk to.

You don't have to follow
what daddy and I did,

'Cause we both had a past.
Mm-hmm.

I mean, a big past --
lots of stuff,

You know, that we did
before we got married.

And I had like four --

[ Laughing ] I don't know
if barry knows this,

So you might not
want to tell him,

But I had like four ex
boyfriends at our wedding.

[ Laughs ]
I didn't know that.

Yeah. And my dad,
he recognized them,

And he was so scared
a fight was gonna break out.

I said, "no, it's okay.
Trust me, it's okay."

[ Both laugh, sigh ]

Kim:
I was really close with my mom,

And I'm really close with lydia.

And I would love to have
that close of relationship

With all of my older children,
with moriah and micah and ethan.

I would love for them
to just to be able to call me up

And say, "hey, guess what
I did today," or confide in me

What's going on with
their boyfriend or whatever.

But with some of them,
I'm not really sure

How to make that happen.

Anything else
I didn't know?

There's more you don't know.
[ Laughs ]

But we'll save that
for another day.

♪♪♪♪

Ethan:
what is that smell?

Oh, wait, is that drugs?

You know weed is legal
out here, right?

Yeah.

Olivia:
as we're driving around l.a.,

There's a little bit of tension
in the air between me and ethan,

Because l.a. Is kind of
underscoring our differences.

What if I smoke it?
What if you smoke it with me?

I have never smoked it,
and I will never smoke it.

What about this one, lydia?

[ Laughs ]

Some of the pictures
he's showing me,

I wouldn't ever imagine
that I'd see that.

[ Laughing ]
oh, dear.

[ Laughs ]

She's shocked.

♪♪♪♪

Micah:
good morning, guys.

I'm taking ethan
to the airport this morning.

He's flying out to california.

Olivia is flying in from a job
in minnesota or something,

And ethan's going
to meet her in l.a.

♪♪♪♪

Hard to flex
this early in the morning.

♪♪♪♪

Ready to go.

♪♪♪♪

Still trying to wake up.
Me, too.

This past year has been
a little bit tough

In several different ways,

But it's been especially
tough for me and olivia.

A big part of our trip
to california is having a break

For both of us to kind of relax
and focus on each other.

And I think we both know
it will do us good.

I'm excited
about going to california.

But part of me is kind of --
I don't know

If anxious is the right word,
but I really don't do well

With, like, you know,

Things are way, way different
than what I'm accustomed to.

Oh, yeah,
we all know that.

Ethan's always been one
who doesn't really like change.

Even when he was little,
he hated switching bedrooms.

He hated changing furniture.
He still is like that,

Like, "why would I change
something that I like already?"

So this trip to california,

I think it's going
to be good for him.

I hope he benefits from it
and get some good experiences.

Really?
Yeah.

When I'm going to
give it to her

Or how I'm going
to give it to her

Or what I'm going to say when
I'm giving it to her, but...

Because I won't know
what to say.

Oh, come on, you'll have
a whole flight out there

To figure out what to say.

I have something that I've been
planning for olivia

As a surprise
for several months.

We made it in decent time.

But I do know that olivia
does not particularly care

For surprises.

So it's going to be a little bit
nerve-racking for me.

Have a good flight.
Alrighty.

Love you.

He didn't say "love you" back.

He's not used to it.

♪♪♪♪

♪♪♪♪

Tonight, I just want to have,
like, a fun girls night

Of dress-up and, like,
I don't know.

Do whatever we want to do
that makes us happy. Okay?

Moriah:
lydia came over before,

And everything
went pretty peacefully

With me and my parents.

So they're letting her
come over again.

I have a lot of dresses
that I've never worn,

And some of them
I've never even tried on.

Do you want to do
a fashion show with me?

Maybe? I don't think any of
your dresses I'd want to wear.

Oh, come on!
What about this one?

[ Laughs ]

Moriah wants me
to actually try on her clothes,

And for me, I would never wear
any of her clothes.

[ Laughs ]

Well, this pair of shorts
used to be a pair of jeans

That it was one the first pairs
of jeans that I bought.

And you had
a nice, long pair of jeans,

And you cut it
into underwear.

[ Laugh ]

Like, her style
is totally different than mine.

Don't worry, I won't --
I won't make you wear these.

I would describe my style as my
grandfather would describe it.

Somebody ran out of fabric.

[ Laughs ]

Try this one on
first, okay?

'Cause I feel like this
is definitely the most you.

So you would be
the most comfortable.

Okay, well, just know
I'm only doing this for you.

Okay, you're --
because I love you.

Oh, I said you're welcome.
Thank you.

The bible says that
the body is the temple,

You know, where the holy spirit
abides in us,

And for me,

I want to present my body
in a way that's honoring to god,

And I think covering it
is an important part of that.

Lydia:
oh, dear, moriah.

I guess you can almost say,
like, god's my fashion designer

Or something like --
[ laughs ]

What?
Is it that bad?

Well, i-i did keep
my tank top on underneath.

That's not bad!

Lydia, that is so cute.

Aww!

It's just kind of
a little short.

Wait. That's only
up to here.

You know, honestly,
it looks really cute,

But you're gonna have to try on
a few other things.

Okay, as long as
it's just for you.

Growing up, all of us
basically wore bed sheets.

[ Laughs ]
okay, it wasn't bed sheets.

But it was, like, amish style.

I don't really know
what you'd call it.

Just very, very conservative.

Lydia: oh, dear. Moriah,
I don't know if I can.

It's so short.

How short was it?

Way too short.

That's not too short, lydia.

That's so cute!

Come here.
It's very short.

Let me see.

And my hair just
covers up the heart, so...

There's definitely a lot
of conflict going on here,

Because I have my standards,

And she has her
whatever you call it.

I wouldn't call it a standard
because she wears anything,

So...
[ Laughs ]

There.
Nice blanket.

[ Laughs ]

Hey, moriah,
how about this for a dress?

[ Laughs ]

I think that it is
really important

That lydia takes
a little bit of time

To just really
get to know herself

And find her identity outside of
who the family sees her as,

More just like, who is she?

Hello?
Except the white one.

What are you doing
in my house?

[ Laughs ]

Now I need my blanket.

No, I'm kidding.
Wait, why?

Why do you
have that on for?

Well, you see,
I'm trying moriah's clothes on,

And I feel better
with a blanket.

I'm dressing lydia up.
I'm dressing lydia up.

Why?

Because it feels like
I'm hardly in anything.

What are you talking about?

I think lydia looks
really good in moriah's clothes.

She's just uncomfortable in them
'cause she's never really

Had the chance
to wear something like that.

I just went ahead
and put the blanket on.

[ Laughs nervously ]

It's not that bad.

Why do all of your outfits
look the same?

Lydia!

You're keeping that.
Lydia, that is so cute.

Okay, that's the best so far.
I'm getting the shoes.

That is so cute.

So, most of her clothes were,
like, absolutely no.

There was like one dress

That I would still
never wear anywhere,

But for moriah's clothes,

It wasn't too bad.

I'm just saying you do look
really good in that dress.

Well, thank you.

I used to be the same way.
I used to be shy.

I used to be not very open.

But she'll come out of it.
She'll --

She'll find her way
and what she wants to do.

Moriah: I'm going to put
purple lipstick on you.

I don't like
purple lipstick.

[ Chuckles ]

♪♪♪♪

I'm so excited
to explore with you.

I'm so excited
to show you my favorite state.

♪♪♪♪

This is my first trip
out here to california.

It's my first time
in hollywood,

So I decided to splurge
and rent a convertible for us.

It's a far cry
from my little red m.g.

♪♪♪♪

Ethan pulls up
in this really fancy car,

And I thought,
"what a stud."

[ Laughs ]

Mm. I like that.
Snazzy. Snazzy.

Hey, what's it like driving
in a big city versus cairo?

It's, um...
[ Car horn honking ]

Not as relaxing, I guess.

The traffic here sucks.

Couldn't live out here
just 'cause of the traffic.

I mean, I think
tallahassee's bad.

Tallahassee clips right along
compared to this.

What is that smell?

What smell?

Smells like sour --
sour ocean.

Wait, is that drugs?

You know weed is legal
out here, right?

Yeah.

Growing up, I've heard
from my parents

Some of the negative things
about the culture in california,

Like with drugs and more,
like, liberal lifestyles

That are so much different

Than where I --
than, you know, here.

I don't like it.

Do you think
you'd ever smoke weed?

Nope, never smoke it.

What if I smoke it?
What if you smoke it with me?

I will never smoke it.

Olivia:
as we're driving around l.a.,

There's a little bit of tension
in the air between me and ethan,

Because l.a. Is kind of
underscoring our differences.

And, just, we react
to big cities very differently.

Obviously, I don't want to shove
anything down his throat,

But I want to open
as many doors as possible

So he can choose
what he wants to try

And what new things
he wants to experience.

And if he's interested,
he'll walk through it.

Weed is not classy.
Weed is disgusting. It stinks.

Have you ever tried it?

I don't have to try it
to know that.

There's no way.

♪♪♪♪

[ Car horn honks ]

And you never, ever, ever knew
what a woman was

Until you were like

How can someone have
such a dirty mind?

My parents never spoke to
any of us about your body or sex

Or what your body does.

The first time
that I ever masturbated --

You want to hear that story?
Yeah, I do.

I had no idea what happened,
but I know it felt good.

Micah:
wait, lydia, I want to show you

The pictures of me modeling.

Alright, so,
I want show you,

Like, my first one
I had done in a while.

Moriah: uh-oh.
Lydia: oh, wow.

Yeah, you do
got some muscles.

[ Laughs ]

What about this one, lydia?

That one actually has the most
likes out of all my pictures.

[ Laughing ]
oh, dear.

[ Laughs ]

She's shocked.

It is very shocking to see

Some of the pictures
he's showing me.

Like five years ago,

Two years ago,
couple months ago,

I wouldn't ever imagined
that I'd see that.

What, you never thought
you'd see me in a speedo?

When he started showing her
pictures of him in speedos,

And I was like, "this is it."

[ Chuckling ]

Lydia:
oh, dear. [ Laughs ]

But what's wrong
with that?

It's not what I
prefer to look at.

I got to finish
dolling her up.

Okay.
So you can go.

Sorry. Kicking you out.

It was really nice
seeing you, though.

Yeah, micah, it was so nice
to see you again.

I know, right?
It's been forever.

[ Laughter ]

I'm probably about
to go to the gym or skate park

Or do something, get my physical
activity in for the day.

Alright, sounds good.
It's great seeing you, micah.

Good night. Love you both.
Girls: love you, too.

It was nice when micah came in.
I don't see him much.

And I miss him.
He's -- he's fun.

Some of the pictures
that he's modeled,

I'm kind of just uncomfortable
talking about it.

So...
[ Chuckles nervously ]

But, you know,
god looks at the heart.

So, you know, it all comes down
to where your heart is.

And that's not for me to judge.

This is a day to remember,
putting purple lipstick on you.

Oh, my goodness.

[ Both laugh ]

Oh, I can't believe
I'm doing this.

Moriah:
last time that I saw lydia,

She hinted
that she liked a boy,

Which I kind of knew about,
but this was like years ago.

So I thought that it would have,
like, kind of gone away by now,

But I have something
to tell her.

Have you talked
to mom and dad

About, you know, the boy
and that situation?

Um, well,

Before I did that,

I took like a week or so...
Mm-hmm.

And I just really -- I fasted,
and I prayed about it

Because I did not
want to go into anything

Without -- you know,
without peace from god.

And then after, you know --
after I felt peace --

After I only felt peace

When I decided
it wasn't the right thing to do,

I talked to her
and told her that.

Mm-hmm. Well, lydia, I think
that's a good thing,

'Cause I had to tell you
that, um...

He has a girlfriend.

Really?
Yeah.

Oh, good.
Good?

Yeah. Yeah, that --

That's actually
really nice.

That sincere?

Very sincere.
Okay.

Yes.

♪♪♪♪

Lydia: I have so much peace
now that I know that it's over.

I've confirmed that
once and for all,

And it's --
there's no better feeling

Than living perfectly at peace
with god.

It's just so amazing.

♪♪♪♪

You don't need a guy
to do anything for you.

♪♪♪♪

I know you and I
are really different,

But if I had any advice for you,
it would just be

Work on yourself
and figure out who you are.

And I feel like you're pretty
firm in that. But --

Lydia's like,
"I prayed about it,

And he's not the one for me."

So that was, like,
a huge relief.

She is an amazing person

And I just want
to see lydia happy.

Perfect.
And you look cute.

Lydia:
it was really nice just being
able to spend time with moriah.

I enjoy being with her.
We're so different in every way.

But we can also still find areas
to connect and have fun.

I really like this one.

We'll just cherish
the memories we have

And hope we can get together
and make more.

And now now we can just eat
maybe ice cream and cheetos

And --
and I can, like, change?

Yeah, you can get into
comfy clothes.

You can wear some of my
comfy clothes if you want.

No, my clothes
are just comfy.

[ Both laugh ]

♪♪♪♪

Olivia: tonight's
our only night in l.a.,

So we're trying to cram in
as much as possible,

Including hollywood
and little tokyo,

Because tomorrow,
we're driving out of l.a.

And towards joshua tree.

♪♪♪♪

Looking around l.a.,
It's very clear, very clear

That I was not in the little
town of cairo anymore.

Those two ladies,

They were, like, walking through
little tokyo,

And it looked like
they thought they were on,

Like, the -- the model strip
or whatever it is

Where they walk down the aisle,
you know, and strut their stuff.

If micah was with me, I'd say,
"here, meet my brother.

I'm gone. See you later."

[ Chuckles ]

Okonomiyaki?
I guess I'm saying that right.

Olivia and I found a little
japanese restaurant

In little tokyo, and it looked
good from the pictures.

Here's a drink
and ramen menu.

Thank you.
Yes.

Tantan -- tan--

I don't know where --

I don't know
what half of this is.

I'm going to try
something new.

I've had sushi
from, like, a grocery store,

But I've never had, like,
authentic japanese.

It does make me
a little bit nervous,

You know, wondering what I just
signed myself up for.

This broccoli shrimp.

Okay. Yes.
With cheese inside, okay?

With cheese inside?
Thank you.

Enjoy.

This looks like legs.

Looks like long legs.

I'm gonna spread these legs.
You ready?

Alright, start eating
and stop talking.

Everyone on the street
can hear you.

Oh, I'll
start eating, alright.

[ Laughs ]

Did you have a dirty mind
when we were dating?

I don't remember you making
as many sexual jokes when

We were dating as you do now.
No, I didn't.

I thought that if I did,
you would have been like,

"Alright, creepo.

It is over."

[ Both laugh ]

♪♪♪♪

Who ever had the idea to
use two sticks

To bring all this
to your mouth?

I just don't know why
you mix it all together.

Mmm, yeah.

That's how you do it.

And that's how
they invented the fork,

'Cause they just decided,
let's glue these right here,

And then just put
a handle on it.

So I guess chopsticks
are the origin of forks,

'Cause that resembles a fork,
if you just cut it right here

And then put one handle on it
instead of four.

So you'd be more agile.
Agile.

Here you go.
Are you an agile eater?

Yes.

[ Laughs ]

Ethan's never used
chopsticks before,

And so this is
a new experience for him

And he's having
a lot of fun with it.

And he made them
into some kind of fork,

And then that turned into,
like, a female anatomy lesson.

With ethan's imagination,
most things do.

I have such
a dirty mind.

How can someone who was raised
with such strict parents,

And you never, ever, ever knew
what a woman was

Until you were like

How can someone have
such a dirty mind?

It's innate.

My parents never spoke to
any of us about your body or sex

Or what your body does or --

Puberty.
Nothing about puberty,

Nothing about anything,
like, for real,

Until the night before
I got married.

The first time
that I ever masturbated --

You want to hear that story?
Yeah, I do.

I was 13 years old.

Waiter: enjoy.
Thank you.

It was sunday morning
in the middle of church

At our little conservative
home church.

And I was tired of sitting,

So I crawled
underneath the chairs

And laid down on my stomach
to, like, read a little book

While they went on
with all the boring stuff.

And somehow or the other,
you know,

I started
rocking back and forth.

All of a sudden, like,
it was like --

Fireworks?
Yeah. I was like, "man!"

Like a high or something,

Although I've never had a high.
But --

I thought something
was wrong with me.

You know? I was like,

I'm nervous because
I had no idea what happened,

But I know it felt good.
[ Chuckles ]

My parents were sitting
right on top of me.

On top of your body?
No.

I was laying
underneath the chairs,

And they were sitting
on top of me.

[ Both laughing ]

I can't wait to see
how you raise your son,

Like how you describe your first
sexual experience to your son.

I'm gonna have so much fun,
because when he's like 12, 13

Or whatever,
and I talk to him about it,

If he feels bad about anything,
I'll be like, "listen to me.

Whatever is happening to you
is not near as embarrassing

As what has happened to me."

That's a great story.

Oh, there it is,

Oh, my gosh.
[ Tires squealing ]

I'm excited to see joshua tree,
but I'm almost more excited

To drive this camaro
to joshua tree.

What does this do?

The ejector seat?

What's an ejector seat?

Wait, what?

♪♪♪♪

♪♪♪♪

Micah: I'm at the gym,
and I'm feeling it today,

And I'm going to hit it
really hard.

I'm going to give it
everything I got.

I want to make sure
I'm in the best shape.

Because it's very
important to me,

And it also is going
to help my career.

Modeling, that's become
a passion of mine.

[ Weights crash ]

Been doing, like,
smaller photo shoots.

In the past month,
I've been building my portfolio.

I've just built a desire
for style, looks,

Traveling, making new friends,
experiencing new things,

And modeling basically
sums all that up.

It's like a life
experience thing for me.

Like, I so want
to get out of the small town

And go see the world.

♪♪♪♪

I'm just super excited
about my future,

Because I'm the kind of person
that when I set my mind

To something,
I'm going to do it.

I'm definitely motivated
to keep going.

♪♪♪♪

♪♪♪♪

Olivia:
joshua tree, here we come.

Ethan:
I don't know where we're going.

I do. I have directions.

Olivia: hollywood was definitely
an interesting experience

For both ethan and i.
I can tell that l.a.

Is not ethan's
favorite place to be.

So you're gonna take a left
onto highland up here.

Out in joshua tree, we're going
to be mostly by ourselves

And away from
mainstream culture.

This right here.
This?

Yes, this right here.
Ethan --

Oh, my gosh.

♪♪♪♪

I will say, as we're driving out
of l.a. And towards joshua tree,

He gets happier
and happier and happier.

I love this, so much.

Whee-hoo.

I'm holding it
with my knees.

I'm excited to see joshua tree,
but I'm almost more excited

To drive this camaro
to joshua tree.

Alright. You're going to be
on this road for 99 miles.

Whoo, 99 miles.

Even though I may not like l.a.,

Being out on the open road
with olivia

Seeing new things, experiencing
new things together,

It's really precious in a way.

Doesn't this
just make you so happy?

Olivia: I just love
sharing things that I love

With other people in my life,

And when it makes them happy,
it makes me happier.

Look at that. Oh, I should get
my hand out of there.

[ Laughs ]

Like, I enjoy something more

When I know someone I love
enjoys it, as well.

Look at all the tall
palm trees out there.

I think it's so pretty

In it's own
kind of desert, rocky way.

What does this do?

The ejector seat?

What's an ejector seat?

Wait, what?

Are you pulling my leg?

No. My hands
are over here.

Something's fishy, ethan.
You're smiling too big.

[ Both laugh ]

I don't trust you.

I don't think that's right.
I'm joking.

I just made all that up.
What does that do?

I have no idea.

Ethan: this is probably
my one time that I got her.

[ Laughs ]
I think I got her real good.

Thankfully, someone got it
on film, so that's even better.

It's like a win/win...
Win/win.

[ Laughs ]

Ethan.

♪♪♪♪

Okay. It says 200 feet,

So I'm guessing
it's this right here.

This is a restaurant
or something we're going to?

No, it's a retreat.

Oh, this is the actual place
we're going to?

Yeah, this is going
to be so fun.

Olivia:
so, I've booked a quiet, little
desert retreat in joshua tree.

And honestly,
I'm just hoping

For a change of pace
from downtown l.a.

And just the chance
to kind of reconnect

And spend some
quiet time together.

This is really nice here.

-Hi!
-Hi.

-I'm brad.
-Nice to meet you.

Brad: nice to meet you.
Normally I'd shake your hand,

But, you know, masks --
olivia: no, that's okay.

Let me show you your room.
I would love that.

This is really cute in here.

We have massages
we can do here.

We have sound baths. Have you
guys ever had a sound bath?

No.
Oh, they're really fun.

The same guy that does
the massage does the sound bath,

And he brings
all these crystal bowls

And then kind of plays them
like he's playing music.

And it's meant to be,
like, a relaxing,

Just enjoyable
sound immersive experience.

Ethan: this looks like
a good place to relax,

But there's a lot
of new-agey stuff

That I'm not exactly
comfortable with.

This is not really
something

That I gravitate
towards in any way.

Olivia: I've never done
any of these things,

But I'm not above
trying something new,

And I honestly think
I would love any of them

Given the chance
to try them.

I know you mentioned massage.

Do you do couples' massages?
Oh, yeah.

That's a big thing with
the high desert massage here.

They really -- you know, it's
a good amenity that we offer.

How do you think that sounds?
Um...

You want to do
a couple's massage?

I'd like to.
Really?

It's really fun. I mean,
you get -- it's relaxing.

Yeah.
And you're well taken care of,

Especially after
riding on planes

For the last little bit, just
like work the stress out.

It's kind of the point
of the retreat here is

Just to kick back a little bit.
De-stress.

Yeah.

Alrighty.

I've never had a massage,

So I think it'd be really fun
for us to do this together.

I've never had a massage, and
I'm a little bit nervous for --

Rub me all over.
[ Laughs ]

But it's definitely
a better option

Of all the other
weird things we could do.

[ Laughs ]

Alright, I'm gonna change,
and I'm good to go.

Wait a second.
What?

Are these masseuses
going to massage my feet?

Probably.
Really?

Yeah.

♪♪♪♪

Okay, 'cause my feet stink.

[ Laughs ]

♪♪♪♪

-Hello.
-Hello.

I'm regina.
I'll be doing your massage.

Regina?
Nice to meet you.

I was picturing a guy
would give me a massage

And a lady would
give you a massage.

I don't know.
That's just what I thought.

So, I'll have you
over on this table here,

And -- yeah.

I pictured a guy
who was very hairy,

A very hairy chest
with no shirt on,

Giving me a massage,

And it just seemed
a little bit creepy.

Do you have areas of soreness
or tension on your body?

Not that I'm aware of.
Okay.

You had no shirt on
or he had no shirt on?

No, I had no shirt on
and no pants on,

And he no shirt on,
and he had black shorts,

And he was very hairy,

And was giving me
a massage.

So, how do you say it?
Do you say it "masseuse"?

A massage therapist.

Oh, massage therapist, sorry.

So, how long you been
a massage therapist?


Oh, 18 years?
That's a long time.

Olivia:
I was trying to just relax,

And, like, at points,
I would almost fall asleep

In my massage.
And then he just keeps

Making all these comments.

So, do you do massages
on, like, people --

Just people, or do you animals
or something?

[ Laughter ]

I was curious, because
I had heard of people

That massaged, like, dogs

And horses
and maybe even cats.

I don't know.
There was a lady that did that.

And I didn't know if this was
one of those ladies or not.

I just want to ask.

Woman:
do you guys get massages often?

Olivia:
no, this is our first time.

I grew up in, like, a pretty
conservative culture

Where, like, it was just
inappropriate to touch people.

And so I guess because
I never grew up being touched,

I was just really afraid
and scared of it.

Maybe part of its hang-ups
with just how we were raised

And so much shame surrounding,
like, your body

And people touching you
or looking at you.

And I know
I still have hang-ups, but --

♪♪♪♪

Do you mind
if I massage your feet?

No. He loves his feet
being massaged.

Oh, good.
Yes, he really does.

No, no, no.
My feet are ticklish.

♪♪♪♪

♪♪♪♪

[ Laughs ]

I did smell a little bit
of an odor,

But as a therapist,
we just do our --

[ Laughs ]

We just do our work.

♪♪♪♪

Ethan:
I knew they were going to smell,

And sure enough,
it was really bad.

If I ever get into
some situations

Where I've got to
get rid of some people,

I'll just take my shoes off.

[ Laughing ]

♪♪♪♪

Yeah.

Regina: thank you.
I hope you enjoyed your massage.

Yeah, it was really good.
Take your time getting up,

And we'll meet you
right out there.

Okay.
Thank you.

Olivia: I feel like
we've been through so much

In the past couple months --

The past couple years,
that it's just been really --

It was really nice
to just kind of lay down,

Have all that stress
worked out.

I thought was
kind of bonding in a way.

Did you enjoy that?
Yeah, I did.

Was it as bad as you thought
it was going to be?

No, it's actually
pretty good.

Well, we got a nice massage,
so we both smell good,

And my feet smell good.

So we can we can have
a nice, relaxing evening

And just spend time together

And we can, you know...

♪♪♪♪

So is it just
the three of us or --

One of my friends is coming.
She should be here soon.

next time on
"welcome to plathville"...

Is that a gator
right there?

Moriah:
it better not be. Where?

Right over there.

Oh, my god!

Oh!

Moriah: sharing moments
like this with max, like,

I wouldn't trade
anything for that.

Everything that max and I
have been through lately

Has definitely made us stronger.

♪♪♪♪

Ethan: I still haven't
given her her surprise.

I was absolutely confident
that this was the right place

And the right time to do it.

I have something for you.

♪♪♪♪

Moriah: it's good to come back
and remember this.

I feel like joshua watches us
when we come back here.

I think all of us,
to some extent,

Went into shutdown mode.
It wasn't just my mom.

Sometimes I wonder
what our family would be like

If he was still around.